Anxiety | Spill The Tea | Evan Edinger & Luke Cutforth
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- Опубліковано 5 лип 2024
- Luke and I chat about anxiety in today's society and some ways we fight it.
Luke's Video: • It's Okay To Be NOT Ok...
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If you're new to my channel and videos, hi! I'm Evan Edinger, and I make weekly "comedy" videos every Sunday evening. As an American living in London I love noticing the funny differences between the cultures and one of my most popular video series is my British VS American one. I'm also known for making terrible puns so sorry in advance. Hope to see you around, and I'll see you next Sunday! :)
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Thank you both for talking about this, but in a semi chilled way that it is comfortable to watch without I guess feeling anxious about watching a video about it
You did more than good
LukeIsNotSexy You have. :)
Thanks for sharing guys!
my biggest fear is that I'm overreacting/ faking anxiety. i have nothing to compare it to so how will i know if its just stress or anxiety? or just sadness or depression? Im also terrified to go to the doctor because if i don't understand *my own* brain, how the fUCK am i supposed to explain it to someone else? i feel like I'm actually going crazy. fuck
A good doctor should listen to you and try to understand you, not try to catch you out or tell you you're faking. I think it's also important to note that regardless of labels, if you're struggling to cope it's okay to talk to somebody. Stress is still an overwhelming feeling that can be difficult to control sometimes. Sending my good vibes to you both, there are some wonderful charities out there that can help you understand what you're experiencing if you don't feel ready to discuss with people you know / a medical professional. You're not alone x
I feel like this as well. I also sometimes feel like I can't talk about it because there are people out there with it worse than me.
Kate's Adventures appreciated this so much
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I relate to this so much! I hate seeing people online who genuinely fake self harm/depression/anxiety to get sympathy and likes, and yet even though I can relate to descriptions and symptoms of anxiety and depression there's always this underlying fear that I am somehow 'faking it'. Because I can never experience how people with diagnosed anxiety and depression feel, I'm always unsure as to whether I actually have it and I'm terrified to go to a doctor in case they judge me for thinking I have a mental illness and paint me as another sensationalising millennial. Plus my parents have that typical British 'stiff-upper-lip' attitude where they refuse to acknowledge that I might have a mental illness and tell me to 'get over it', and they can't understand that it's not that simple and that maybe therapy would help me to 'get over it'. If I can face it I'm considering getting therapy via college next year, but I've heard horror stories about in-college therapy so idk...
i felt exactly this way and i went to go see a therapist and it was fine, i would recommend going and being as honest as you can about your'e feelings and try not to think of yourself having anxiety or depression otherwise you might list symptoms of those things you actually don't have (i hope this made sense)
Thank you the anxietea needs to be spilt
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Nobody listened to my friend until she was hospitalised and suddenly everyone cares and it got to me how bad society is that somebody has to try and kill themselves to get help and that scares me and it hurts that she had to do that to get help
I hope you're friend's doing better now, it's awful that it takes something drastic to make people think about their own actions xx
Evelyn Dagnall I felt the same way last year. I self harmed so my mom to notice how bad my mental health had gotten and would put my in therapy. I had asked her for a year to go but she never realized how badly I needed help. She always thought that it was just me being a teenager. (This sounds like I don't like my mom but I really do we are like best friends but I just needed her support and she was not giving it to me.) My self harming then went from trying to get her attention to trying to damage myself. I had two options. One being getting my self out and the other being putting my life on the line. Luckily I choose the first option. In all I just want your friend to know that life gets better even though they probably think that it won't.
That's horrible. My parents didn't listen to me for two years when I told them I was struggling until I started self harmin. The extent that some of us have to go to in order to make our voices heard and be recognised is horrible. I hate it
Ruby Brown my parents don't even care at the extent of self harm they call it attention and it really hurts :/
I know it hurts right now and thats okay, but please dont go the extent of death. there is so much more to experience during your life than just this "sadness" that your feeling right now. Surrond yourself with happy things and nice people who think the upmost of you even though you may be a bit different than them, and if they are good people they will try to help you. - My best friend.
Anytime my mom thinks I'm feeling down - which I almost always am because of the *great* depression-anxiety combo I have - she asks where I am on my menstrual cycle. No matter when it is, she says, "Oh, it's just your hormones," which baffles me because that sort of logic implies that simply because I'm female, I'm naturally supposed to be this way. My parents are always like "just come to us because we've dealt with this sort of thing" as well as "ugh today's snowflakes, amiright?" and it hurts because they don't think I'm telling the truth when it comes to my mental illnesses. When I told my mom that I thought I needed to see a psychiatrist and get diagnosed with something so I could actually get help, she laughed. And she continues to tell me that bottling up my feelings is unhealthy but I don't feel safe talking to her about it.
I actually thought this was my comment! That is the exact conversation I have, it's all just "teen angst" or "hormomes" and it doesnt help and is so annoying xx
Lilia Bingham it's exactly the same for me! It doesn't have anything to do with my hormones😭
Lilia Bingham I am in a similar situation to you at the moment and when I first went to a teacher about it, before I told my parents, she blamed it on hormones every time I went to see her, and she did the same thing for my friends, the only reason I ended up getting some support was because I went to talk to a teacher who knew what I was going through and without your parents understanding it drone a first hand point of view is hard, as me and my friend has to learn, but what u need to do is be honest with her and be defiant and tell her u really think it would benefit you a lot to just go and see if they can help u with stuff at all and if they can't they can't but if they can I'm sure your mum will agree with the psychiatrist if they do want to continue some counselling or something but I have found that even explaining to her that u need to talk to someone else about your feelings that u aren't as close too because u find it easier I hope I find this helpful but if this doesn't make any sense in sorry x
That bothers me because many people that don't even have a diagnosed mental illness see psychologists just because they like it. It can't hurt! And "having hormones" is a ridiculous excuse. That's like saying you shouldn't get chemotherapy because cancer just runs in the family. Hormones are a huge cause of depression for many teenagers. It's not about what's natural, it's about how you really feel, and you KNOW how you feel, so she should trust you
My parents do believe that I have some sort of anxiety, but they refuse to let me get any help from a doctor or anything. They think I just need to "get over it" or "learn to control it" when it's not that easy. When I cried everyday for 2 weeks because my anxiety was bad because I had just switched schools, you would think they would know I need proper help, but they just tried to make me stop
I hate it when people just say to "get over it" or "you have to just push yourself" or even the famous "yeah I feel like that all the time but I just get on with it" I have a *diagnosed medical issue* I can't get over and it hurts to know that sometimes these people just aren't willing to listen also it doesn't help when I applied for counselling and was turned down because I wasn't "bad enough"
Also that Mr Krabs mug is beautiful
ahh I can relate so much. It's actually kind of nice to see that someone else was turned down for help for not being "bad enough" because that happened to me and I was like ??? I wouldn't be trying to get help if I didn't need it wtf??? It blew me away. I had no idea that getting help was this exclusive thing. I'm sorry that happened to you, though!!
I literally wrote a blog about this a while ago! 😭💛 specialkaysite.wordpress.com/2017/01/25/just-snap-out-of-it/
what? that can't be legal?
Special Kay you summed up the mental health system and perceptions of mental illness so, so beautifully. could not have said it better. I love your blog!!!
I'm literally bawling my eyes out in bed because I relate to so much of this video and sometimes it's a little bit easier knowing that I'm not alone
Anup Sonigra 💕💜
Fully agree with you. It's taking over my life
Anup Sonigra literally my exact reaction to pretty much all of Evans videos
Never forget there's a whole community of us standing behind you *hugs*
Same I was just nodding my head bc I relate to a lot of this
PLEASE do more spill the tea's on mental health! This was so good xxx
although I can't stop staring at evan's shirt
I love it though
Gospel Sinner same lmao
In my school district we lost about 6 kids in 4 months to suicide within the past year. Im on the school board and ive been pushing for more mental health help/education and trying to catch warning signs and offering help to those that need it before its too late. And also creating more education for teachers on how they can help kids who are dealing with either anxiety or other mental health issues. You both are right and we need to talk about it and normalize it so that way we be more outspoken about it.
Sam Maciel I love you seriously you are trying to do the best thing for your students
Yessss. I'm literally doing a presentation on anxiety tomorrow and needed some more inspiration. Thanks Evan!
I feel like depression is talked about a lot more than anxiety also. Even on UA-cam there are a lot more videos on depression so thanks for making this.
Are you still in school, It's the middle of summer?
SeaUnicorn Not in the UK at least (most of us are done, but some not til Tuesday) and Australia is back from their winter break now . Not everyone gets 3 months off😂💙
Alex Hopkin-Spratt I feel so dumb😂
SeaUnicorn don't worry about it! I certainly envy you all. We only get a month and a bit off.
Another little tidbit: if someone is having a panic attack, it usually doesn't help to say "calm down" because (at least with my experience) it just makes them more manic. They don't want to worry you, and they are worried that if they don't calm down they will worry you, so they worry more. This is just from my experience and you are welcome to leave anything else in the comments. 💙💙💙
The mental health service in the UK is so fucked at the moment there is not enough funding or places to seek help and so many people are on waiting lists. My friend waited 6 months to get her first appointment and it was a charity that had to help her anyway because the government one was too strained! It's ridiculous imagine someone suicidal having to wait that long to get help. I hate how the government and society value mental health considerably less than other illnesses. There is a mental health crisis in the UK they need to take it more seriously and provide the right funding to help excel people for their futures. You can't run a country on mentally ill people ! It totally puts people off seeking help hearing people's experiences of having to wait so long, I've struggled a lot with mental health but not seeked actual help from the NHS for the very reason instead I just got school councilling which didn't help at all. It really shouldn't be so hard and that is why so many people are left in silence to suffer.
amcl1 I can't believe she had to wait for six months, I thought a three month wait list was bad
Shannon yes it's so disgraceful that anyone has to wait to get treatment, let alone wait months!
amcl1 I was diagnosed with a rare brain condition in may 2015, and I was put on a waiting list for neuropsychology therapy as my anxiety went through the roof. I had brain surgery in January 2016, and I then got a letter in July 2016 for my FIRST appointment with my neuropsychologist! I waited over a year for therapy that I needed, it's such a joke isn't it 😓
Special Kay that's so awful, glad help came eventually but it's shocking because doctors are really playing with people's lives making them wait so long. Hope that you got the help you needed and are doing better !!
Wow I am actually appealed it took 6 months for your friend and I hope they are getting better at dealing with stuff, and I thought my mam having to wait 10 weeks was bad 😞
Thank you for this video. A year ago, in March I got my first panic attack. I thought that I was dying, had a heart attack. I didn't even know what it was. Last summer my anxiety "came out", I felt depressed almost all the time and I couldn't enjoy my free time. In July I got my second panic attack but I got through it much faster and better, because I KNEW WHAT IT WAS. In September I went to my school's psychologist, she told me that I have anxiety disorder. I just felt crazy. With my anxiety I didn't know what exactly was causing it, because I got anxious walking into my school every morning. During the lessons I wanted to hide under my desk, run away, scream and hide in the corner. At the beginning of the new year I had to stay three days at home, because I got serious aches, I didn't even know what it was. We checked my blood, everything was alright, we saw a doctor, everything was ok. When I got back to school and told it to my psychologist, she said it could be neuralgia. So I'm anxious almost all the time while having neuralgia. That's funny, when I get stressed, after some time I calm myself down, but then neuralgia comes and I end up on the floor feeling like I'm being stabbed or something. After a year It got a lot better but I still struggle with it. I can fight it now though. I now how to calm myself down and how to not get manipulated by my anxiety. You just have to keep strong and brave!
Thank you for this vid Evan, love from Poland
I had depressive episodes, there was a time when depression got harder and it lasted much longer and I was really close to get myself into full on mode depression
Thank you for sharing your experience, this might be just what somebody in the comments needs to read to know that they're not alone. Sending good vibes, you can do it!
Thank you
I had a similar situation, school was triggering my anxiety like crazy and I couldn't even see the building without hyperventilatin. I felt insane and helpless, it got to the point that I dropped out of high school on my last year because of it. It broke me completely and I feel like I'll never be normal again.
I still managed to take my final exams the netx year, but at that point I was so shattered. I still am. It really sucks.
I'm glad that you're able to control it now, stay strong!
Stay strong too
I'm not diagnosed but for a long time, I've known that there's something that's not quite right with me but I don't know what to do. I don't have any people in my life I can rely on who I know will just listen to me talk about my I problems when I need them to. I'm 24 and still can't even talk to my parents about it because they'll tell me to pray to God and get over it. I do things like watching TV or listening to music but they only help me in the moment. I don't even have any friends I can go with/go to the movies for a distraction. I just want someone who will listen to me.
More recently I feel like I've been getting worse and I've been trying to get myself to look at what mental health services are available to me but I haven't had any motivation to do anything.
Anup Sonigra I'm in the exact same situation. I feel like if I told anyone that they wouldn't take me seriously as if admitting that I have a problem means that I don't have one (I know that sounds really weird but that's how my mind works) I feel like our parents are very similar because my parents would just tell me not to worry as much rather than actually helping me fix my problem. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find find someone you can talk to and who can help you. :)
Sonia Popovic both my parents have been medically diagnosed with depression and they were prescribed antidepressants. My mum's depression was even worse because she literally didn't even know who she was for a while. All that happened to them but they don't seem to think it can happen to me and that kills me inside.
I really want to get better and I'm trying to motivate myself to find out what I can do. I hope you too can get the help you need 💗
Anup Sonigra I'm in the exact same situation but I'm only 13, because you're old enough you should go to a doctor, phone nhs 24 or something lmao. They can give you advice
Have you ever thought about calling a helpline? Various charities in different countries run them for people in your situation. I can look up some information for you (and anyone else who wants to know) if you let me know which country you're in. In the UK (I don't know about anywhere else) there's even a number that you can text to talk to somebody if you don't feel comfortable talking on the phone.
If you need someone to talk to I'm here to help. We can chat about it. I don't have someone to talk to either, my friends and family don't really understand what's going on with me and I feel pretty alone.
If you want, I'm here.
ahhh, what y'all said about not talking to people because you don't want them to worry and because you don't feel like your problems are big enough or bad enough to warrant it is just... so exactly what i feel all the time.
i've not been diagnosed for a plethora of reasons. one of which was that my mother didn't believe me for a long time... nowadays she apologizes for not helping me sooner. then i went into a... remission i guess?? so there felt like no need. now it's getting pretty bad again and i'm back to just... not feeling worthy of the money my parents would be spending to get me help. which is so so dumb because of course i'm worth it.
anywhoosle, thanks for making this vid. it's so nice to see people normalizing mental health issues without romanticizing it.
Evan, I applaud you. How did you know this is exactly what I needed to watch right now?
I don't know you but I'm sending good vibes and hoping that you get through whatever's trying to bring you down
So I'm 21 years old, still living with my parents and I once subtly mentioning to my mom that I think I may have depression and she said exactly what Evan did, like "We all move on. Build a bridge and get over it."
Also I've asked her if I could go see a therapist or doctor and she said she knows no one that could help and getting help here is expensive as heck. I really wish I could get help.....but.....
Elsa, I'm so sorry you've experienced that. It's so difficult to tell somebody how you're feeling and for your mom to react like that is so upsetting. Have you considered talking to a charity? There's various different organisations in different countries, but if you don't know of any I could look some up for you if you tell me which country you're in.
Oh god my heart hurts for you D: *hugs* I'm so sorry you have to deal with this!
My anxiety focuses a lot around the fear of saying something stupid or accidentally being offensive or being annoying. And that's why I feel bad when I do want to talk about it because I feel like I'm being f**king annoying :(
(And in like 2 minutes I will regret having written this comment because I'll probably feel like it's stupid and I shouldn't even have mentioned it...)
Charlie please don't feel bad about writing this comment as I feel exactly the same and seeing this has made me feel less alone xxx
Ruby B xxx Yh me too x
Charlie same
That's exactly how I feel a lot of the time, and I don't even think I have anxiety... Or at least I haven't been told I have... (I've just spent five minutes deliberating whether to even post this comment)
I feel similar to this too
Evan NEEDS to have a sit down convo with Thomas Sanders!
Hearing you guys talk about mental illness makes me feel like I am not alone I feel like a freak cause most people in my life make me feel like I am not 'normal' because of my illness and I don't think it should be like that there is no such thing as 'normal'
"Normal" is such a strange word, I don't believe it really exists either! Sending my good vibes, you're not alone.
When I went to my doctor for the first time I was eleven. I had been bullied for years, suicidal and genuinely not mentally stable. I went to the doctors about my mental state and because of my age I wasn't taken seriously and it was blamed on "hormones" and "a phase". All I could think was, "how is it my hormones if I feel like I want to die?", but the response and the fact that the doctor didn't seem to care made me not want to talk about it.
I had a panic attack in front of my teacher around a year later and soon after got counselling. My counsellor though still seemed like they didn't care or want to understand. I was going through some dark times and some involving my friends/relationships, and they told me either: "leave the relationship" or "you're too young for it to be serious". However, when I had a second panic attack I decided to go back to the doctors. This doctor was a different one who seemed to actually take interest in how I felt and I was diagnosed with anxiety.
I feel like, as you said in the video, it's all about who you talk to and who takes you seriously. I feel like if I had gone to that same doctor I first did but at the age of 16 instead, I would have had a different answer. This video was one I really related to and I am so happy you made it, thank you both. X
Anxietea: The worrying act of drinking tea with no biscuits!
I have anxiety & other mental health issues, anxiety especially is every single day, home, town, work is the worst... customer service.. eye contact, smiling when im physically shaking sometimes, it makes me so uncomfortable. Quiet or busy. I find it really hard to talk about because I feel like no one understands. One way I cope in these times is honestly either humming, singing to myself, bouncing my leg, fidgeting, tapping my fingers, clicking them or whistling & making weird noises. It's freakin draining.
Thank you for making this video Evan. I'm glad you did. Meant a lot that you did and are willing to talk about it as most people shove it under the rug!! Glad you're feeling better btw, love you loads and loads. ❤️❤️❤️
Edit: I also play with my hair. A LOT.
I don't know you but I'm sending good vibes your way, it's so important to talk about this stuff so people don't feel isolated. Thank you for sharing your experiences, it might be just what somebody needs to read to know they're not alone.
Kate's Adventures that means a lot thank you ❤️ I appreciate it. Even Evan talking about this has made me feel a little less alone about it
love you both and am so glad you're talking about this and 100% agree with your comments on NHS services not being easily available enough, but when you said 'everyone has depression everyone has anxiety', I didn't quite agree. If you mean everyone has those feelings, I understand, but not everyone has a clinical diagnosed condition? Because not everyone has a clinical anxiety/depressive disorder, and as someone with a diagnosed anxiety disorder, I worry that people won't know what that MEANS if people think everyone has anxiety? I don't know, I have anxiety (ironically) around people misunderstanding things, so I feel like it's important to be clear when talking about these things. Love you both, as I say. xx
I agree with this, I have moments where I feel anxious and I've experienced what were probably anxiety attacks, but I wouldn't describe myself as somebody with anxiety because I feel like that describes a more intense longer impacting experience than the ones I've had. Although having said that, I don't mean that to invalidate how I felt in that moment. So I suppose I would say that everyone can experience anxiety, but everyone's experience is different and people shouldn't judge or try to compare if somebody's needs are different to their own.
yeah, I get what you mean about comparison. hope you're having a good day xx
I live for celebrities who normalise mental illness
Gospel Sinner it genuinely makes me so happy ☺️
Gospel Sinner I wouldn't really call them celebrities and I don't think it's such a negative notion to keep people from feeling alone in their endeavors
And thats dandy and all..but can we also acknowledge those that may unconsciously romanticize it?
Dez coughdodiecough
definitely not lori she doesn't romanticise it, she literally is doing everything to go help that she can, talking about it isn't romanticising it.
I have major depressive disorder and I was cutting which is not the righty way to go but my mother got MAD at me she thought it was a cry for attention...I did not tell her she just found out and then yelled at me I wish people could understand things like this
You guys did a perfect job explaining this. It's honestly one of the most misunderstood things and knowing that you understand is heartwarming. A lot of people confused anxiety with shyness, which pisses me off. I'm not a shy person. I did drama and was one of the best in my class. I just can't talk to people without feeling on the spot and fear doing something wrong. So thank you ❤️
Peter Walker I think you may have social anxiety.
Nnenne Nzewi You're right. It's a form of anxiety tho so I don't see the issue
The point about pretending you have bad mental health is kind of a thing for me, I never tell anyone if I'm feeling anxious or upset or worthless etc etc, because I feel like I'll be wasting everyone's time, and other people have much much worse problems than me so I feel like there's no point in even bothering to speak about it, people will just think I'm lying for attention because it can't be that bad, it's never that bad, I don't believe that I have any sort of anxiety but I relate to a lot of the things you said in this video and a lot of things that people with anxiety experience? Plus if I'm miserable I'm "just being an angsty teenager" or I'm "hormonal and sad" so what's the point in saying anything about it?
A Thomas sanders video and a Evan video with in the same 24 hours!!! What is this!!!
It's amazing that's what it is
Yessss
Heaven?
YES!
I love when you , so casually, talk about such serious subjects 💗 From someone who has anxiety and panic disorder, thank you so much🌟
I'm so lucky to have an amazing neuropsychologist who's helping me with my ptsd and anxiety, but I feel so guilty that so many people don't have that privilege 😓
I'm a psychology major and its so nice to see the UA-camrs I watch spread mental health awareness and help remove the stigma in cases like anxiety! :)
So refreshing and important to see young men talking about mental health, anxiety and depression in such an articulate but relatable way. This NEEDS to be talked about in order to break the stigma, especially for boys and young men who can be taught that talking about their emotions and mental health is 'weak'. You're both great role models and (not that you need my validation!) should feel super proud of yourselves 💕
I have been really struggling with both depression and anxiety for awhile now, and the past few months have been a hell storm of flipping back and forth between very extreme emotions and nothing at all (which has caused some breakdowns but that's another story). Before these physical effects came on, I never really thought much of it and the people around me never had a clue that anything was going on. My mom got very worried about me when I started to have these terrible breakdowns (not wanting to go to my senior prom, not caring about a concert, physically not being able to get out of bed in the morning) and took the initiative to schedule me an appointment with a therapist (that week I didn't feel up to sitting in class with everyone and ended up working in the counseling office for a week by myself). I went for awhile, but stopped going after a few months. I thought I was alright and was now taking medication to (hopefully) help with my anxiety and depression that was finally getting some attention. Nowadays, I'm doing almost as bad as I was when my mom first scheduled the appointment. Some days are okay, but most days I stay in bed until 2 in the afternoon and feel like a big ball of nothingness that has no motivation whatsoever to do anything. Nearly every day I want to end everything and just leave everything behind because I feel like there is no point to living anymore. This fall I'll be moving into a dorm to start my first year at college. I'm ready to go somewhere that has people who don't have a clue of what I've been through this year, but I'm also scared out of my mind that I won't have anyone that I can talk to (at least in person). My mental health issues have made it really hard to keep people close in my life, and I don't want my friends back home to realize how much easier it is to live life without having me and my problems to deal with. This video really resonated with me and the struggles that I've been dealing with. Sorry for the extremely long comment, and thank you for making me feel a little more normal about the jumbled mess inside my brain box.
Anxietea
Too much. It's a serious disorder that inhibits many people such as myself.
Hello Humanbeing Too much? I have anxiety too.
I'm sorry, I'm feeling pretty upset right now, and I took it out on you and your comment. I'm really sorry.
Hello Humanbeing No, it's okay! I can see how people can take my comment in a mocking way towards something so serious. It's okay- honest.
Callisto of the Nile Thank you for understanding. I'm just not in a good place right now.
I used to be a really upbeat person but since I've stared high school ( I've been in high school for 3 years now) I've been really depressed and anxious and I've reduced talking to family. I've tried talking to my mum about it and her words were "shrug it off you'll be fine" **sigh**
Amy-Louise Tilley thanks ❤️❤️
These sort of videos are the reason I love the internet, genuine talks about important topics
I’m also so grateful that guys are discussing this. It’s important to have men talking about the issue as well, and bring awareness to it because of a lot of different stigmas ect. And I just really appreciate this video, and you guys for doing it. So thank you and honestly just keep up the good work
Rest in peace Chester 💔 its affected me so much too and I don't even know why! I feel you Evan ❤️
Both my faves in one video!!
Also luke please release your film
^_^ 💕💕
I've really really liked your videos a lot more lately Evan. I feel like you are just becoming more yourself and its a lot more relatable and enjoyable to see you that way. I'm glad you have decided to use your platform to help others lately. I appreciate you talking about this in a way that isn't depressing or harmful. I feel that is something most people couldn't do.
Thank you for this very important video. It's so good to hear you both talk about anxiety, both generally and your personal experiences. I had anxiety and depression for years before anyone put a name to it and I started to get help. It still hurts to think that I spent years of my childhood and school years struggling with these horrible feelings that I didn't understand. Mental health needs to be talked about more openly. We need to keep these conversations open. Honestly, thank you Evan and Luke x
My only issue with this video was Luke saying, "I'm an adult, I can deal with this." Of course I understand in the context you probably meant you didn't need your parents to help you through it because you feel capable enough to tackle it without their specific assistance, but just for anyone who happens to be reading who doesn't take it that way - no matter your age, you're not weak or inferior in any way if you can't deal with it alone :) adults can seek whatever help they think they need, even if it's from their parents! My 52yo mother is currently getting a lot of support for her depression and anxiety from me and her own mother! :)
Evan (and luke!) I swear if this makes me cry.... I'll probably just respect you more as a video human and a human in general.
But also this conversation is good and fantastic and lovely.
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This was so wonderful to listen to, people having a serious and open conversation about anxiety. I've been majorly dealing with it for three or four years, and have never gotten much help. I've attempted to talk to my dad about it once or twice, but it wasn't very successful.
I wish everyone who is dealing with any mental illness luck and know that people care for you, you aren't wasting anyone's time, and your problems are valid.
Hey, fellow anxiety sufferer here. I was diagnosed at 14, and ever since I have been battling and improving day by day. I just wanted to say thank you for this video. I also wanted to say to any other anxiety sufferers, I once watched a spoken poem called Anxiety Group by Catalina Ferro which says some really helpful and poignant words:
"Because you can’t be this afraid of losing everything if you don’t love everything first, because you have to have a soul-crushing hope that things will get better to be this afraid of missing it."
I have such bad anxiety I feel as though I should be diagnosed but I just don't want to. I just have to "deal with it" as most people say which is so hard
The most frustrating thing about my anxiety is there isn't always a trigger. I could be perfectly fine and out of nowhere it shows up. One good thing is my Husband is very understanding.
This is spot on. I've just started having counselling to sort my head out because my anxiety has done nothing but gradually get worse over the last few years and i only realised that it was anxiety about two years ago. I've been accused of making it up and met with lots of times when people just haven't believed or understood it and it's the nicest feeling to know that you're not alone and you're not just being dramatic or silly. Thank you guys
Thank you guys for discussing this so candidly, while also making it a very serious video. This is something I rarely seen discussed anywhere outside of my friend group. Normally when I see people discussing things such as anxiety, they are making jokes about it (I recently graduated from high school, so that shows the average age of the people that I tend to interact with), and it makes it feel like it's all in my head. Thank you.
I feel like UA-cam is the only place where I can talk about anxiety without being told "there's always someone worse off than you"😓
Parents don't help. My dad says I'm melodramatic and won't talk about it any further.
sloth Torie same here. The only person who will actually listen to me is my cousin , and I barely see her.
MARCH 22ND 2013 first of all your name is literally triggering me so hard right now and second of all I hate that this is what it comes to, confiding in people who don't understand or aren't tolerate of what we have to say. I'm so glad you have your cousin even if you don't see them much
This video really met me where I'm At, and I am so thankful. I Have been dealing with anxiety undiagnosed for my whole life, and recently I opened up to a friend about it and she basically told me that I shouldn't complain because I don't really experience ACTUALL anxiety like her. This was super invalidating and made me feel less, but this video brought me up from that! Also the coping strategy helped alot to. Thank you for being bold enough to share your hearts on such a sensitive topic. It's people like you that help the stigma around anxiety dissipate!
this is SO important i could cry i'm so glad that people are talking about this in such healthy and helpful ways (not just now, but hopefully always!!). i remember in 2013/14 i was struggling so much with these thoughts and fears that i COULDN'T comprehend and didn't have insight into (objectively and personally). it wasn't until i moved and found the right therapist for me who diagnosed me with anxiety in addition to having depressive symptoms that i really made an effort (in individual and group therapies and otherwise) and eventually i realized, holy moly!!! these intense fears and feelings i've had...they actually came from anxiety/depression/etc.! my intense moments of fear of death that i had growing up; those were anxiety attacks! i'm not crazy! i genuinely had no idea that what i went through wasn't normal until then and it was SUCH a milestone in my recovery and personal health. now i can look back with such a greater insight into myself and how i work YAY FOR GROWTH AND HELP AND OVERCOMING i wish everyone truly the best of luck in all of their paths! i believe in all of you so much!
Ur videos have helped me so much I didn't even know what asexual was until I watched ur video😂
A trigger for me is when I can't sleep. The later I get the worse I feel because I don't want to be tired the next day Especially if something exciting is going on. But the more anxiety I get the more I can't sleep.
Thank you so much for making this video. It feels wonderful to have someone I look up to address so many problems that I face and normalize them. I'm trying to overlook the stigmas and try to get help and this video really made my day. I hope anybody who is suffering with anxiety can find someone who can help them ❤️
Anxiety : I have this 'ache' in the back of my mind everytime I'm in a situation with a large group of people and I overthink everything, It takes away the happiness I could be feeling around these group of people because I always feel like everyone is lying to me, but I try to pretend like it doesn't exist because people don't understand.
Misunderstanding : Some days, I wake up and my mom looks at me and tells me 'Oh, you're in a cranky mood', and the thing is, I wasn't cranky until she said something and it makes me feel terrible about myself. Everyone has a bad day every now and again, just help them out instead of assuming other people's feelings :) This video was very helpful and I really appreciate the openness
No , as someone with clinical anxiety and depression, not every one has it . People get SAD or WORRIED it's different damn
Molly Carolyn thank you for saying that ❤️ I hope you have a nice night tonight😊🌖
Of course not everyone has anxiety/depression, nobody is saying that, but I think it's fair to say most people experience some form of mental illness at some point in their lives. People need to realize that it's okay and no, it does not make you a crazy person.
Molly Carolyn thats true but everyone does experience anxiety sometime throught their life.
Just worry about yourself then
-has anxiety about whether or not I have anxiety-
I have really bad anxiety and I literally feel like no one understands it's horrible 🙁
You are one of the most under appreciated youtubers it's so unfair, your videos are so helpful and I love your channel. Love you, keep doing what you're doing❤️
I love the way you guys covered the subject of people making it up and faking it, I have never seen another video that covers it. I have quite bad anxiety and I have often come in contact with people who say I'm lying about it because its seen to be quite trendy ( which i think is horrible because thats like saying that its trendy to have a broken arm and be in a lot of pain which obviously isnt fun and cool ) when I have actually been medically diagnosed and am taking meds (that are helping a lot) but I just feel so isolated by that because I then start to think everyone thinks I'm lying which leads to me not wanting to open up about it to anyone for fear of making them feel like I'm just trying to be cool. So thank you for actually acknowledging that not everyone is making it up and that you need to actually understand how they feel before you jump to conclusions about people lying. Also, you really gave me confidence that the people who are important to me will know that I'm being truthfull. Btw you guys are amazing and I'm sure this video has helped so many other people a lot, just like it helped me xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
My mom kinda Just
writes off my anxiety as hormones or my age
I would like to point out that, yes, people that are not mentally ill can experience anxiety and depression but that by no means compares to having a mental illness. So I believe that saying that "normal" people can have anxiety, depression, etc can be interpreted as incorrect and it isn't really clear.
Aren't anxiety and depression classified as mental illnesses? I think the point was that it's more common than people think and having it does not make you weird or crazy, a lot of people you may consider "normal" suffer from them.
Not mentally ill people can exoerience anxiety.
Anxiety disoder is a different thing.
a Bear I know that's what I was saying😂👏
Niamh Bannister oh wait. Sorry I misunderstood that. My bad
a Bear no problem
I just wanted to say that this video is awesome. I went through nursing school and developed mild anxiety during that. You guys described it very well. For me, I could be in an anxiety attack, know that that's what's happening, but not be able to pull myself out of it. I lean on my mom and brother a lot when it happens.
The other thing I wanted to say is that as a nurse, I am very open about it. I talk about it to whoever will listen so that they know it's okay to feel that way- they aren't alone. I want people to feel okay about opening up to me so they can get the help they need. You guys are doing a great job at advocating for those who feel as though they can't do it for themselves.
I appreciate that you mentioned Chester and his struggles. He WAS open about his struggles, and he stuck it out until he couldn't handle it anymore. He was an inspiration for millions of people. He used his pain and fueled his creativity with it. Like so many people.
I don't have full on diagnosed anxiety but I feel like I have quite strong social anxiety but I feel too anxious to tell anyone about it because I know I would feel too anxious and I would overthink what I had said for the rest of my life and I feel like it would just be worse if I told someone because the act of telling anyone would trigger the anxiety. I feel like they would just think that I'm over exaggerating it and maybe I am, I just need to talk to someone professional so I can know if I have it or not but that would mean I would have to tell someone so it's all just a massive, difficult, anxious, never ending loop 🤔
I went and talked to my doctor about it. From what you're saying it sounds very similar to my anxiety. I felt comfortable talking to my doctor because I don't know them that well, so I wasn't that worried about what they would think about me? I was able to rationally tell myself that if I don't want to after this I never have to see them again, and that helps me a lot of the time. I find it more difficult to talk to friends or family. Even before seeing a psychologist (which I ended up doing) the doctor was able to give me some good tips on how to manage my anxiety!
Also some really basic things that help me in the moment, although not long term, are walking or just generally exercising and also weirdly I have found crossy road really helps me??? I just find the repetitive movements calming and also it doesn't make my anxiety worse because there's not set "endpoint" so I don't anxious or frustrated about not "finishing". Also breathing exercises are great!!! I usually just do really simple stuff like breathe in for ten and out for ten. I hope that helps and sorry if it doesn't, but I believe in you!!! And it does get better!!!
Meagan Paine that is exactly what I'm talking about! I don't talk to my mum about ANYTHING because I get really awkward and panicky and usually regret saying anything afterwards, I find it really difficult to talk to friends and relatives about my problems but online I can easily spill my feelings to people I barely know. I would find it really difficult talking to a doctor but it would still be less difficult than talking to my parents. I usually try and find somewhere isolated and alone when I'm feeling anxious as I am extremely introverted and feel calmest when I am alone, I quite often watch some UA-cam because I find it very comforting and calming and my favourite youtubers often cheer me up. Thanks for the help Meagan! It really means a lot💛💛
Evan, you replied to my tweet today and it was a kind of sarcastic tweet and I'm worried ever since then that I've offended you because I sounded kind of mean? If I did, I'm sorry, I really didn't mean to. I hope you feel better now. xx
And yes, about Chester. About a week before he passed away, I was in the car listening to Heavy by Linkin Park. And to me, it just seemed like any other song about sadness. For some reason (and I feel so, so stupid), I didn't notice the pain in the voices and I didn't realise that the people who wrote this could actually be hurting. And when I heard of his death, that upset me so much, because yes, so many of his lyrics explicitly stated what he was going through but people chose to or subconsciously ignored it.
Won't spam you any more after this, but I think this video is so important and thank you for uploading today even though you were sick.
The tweet didn't read as rude to me, obviously I'm not Evan so I don't know what he thought about it but I think it's alright.
Kate's Adventures I really hope it is. Maybe I'm just panicking but well, he's one of my biggest idols and the idea of him hating me is v scary.❤️
EVAN please respond, they're obviously very concerned and i would be too!!!
I have general anxiety, so it's literally just like a bug in my ear every day, all day. It's easy to distract myself, but as soon as I'm alone it pops up and I feel sick to my stomach and like I'm unable to breathe. It's an awful feeling that's getting better with the help of friends and pushing myself out of my comfort zone (which really REALLY helps me as it gives me the tools I need to be able to push it down and not allow it to take over), but it's always there. A lot of what was said in this video spoke to me in so many ways, so thank you for showing the world what it can be like for people living with anxiety or a propensity for random spouts of anxiety out of stress. If we show people who don't understand that "normal", every day people have things like anxiety and have the ability to function normally, maybe the stigma around it will dissipate and more people will feel able to come out and talk about mental health like you guys are :)
Thank you for talking about this Evan! I have GAD and I'm actually really happy you are adressing that Even people without a diagnosis do expirience mental health issues during sometime in their life. It's so common and human! This was really really appriciated you guys!
Love the anxiTEA pun haha 😋
Omg hi :'D
Hey have you considered doing podcasts I think you would be great at them I feel like you talking about what ever you want for one hour with cool people
Thank you for this. I was prescribed medication for anxiety in October of last year, and came off it a few weeks ago after going to weekly therapy since January. I still consider myself to have anxiety, my gp listened to my issues and said sounds like anxiety and gave me the treatments above, but I haven't had a full official diagnosis. I still see my gp to discuss my issues, and I feel like I have moved forward. My advice to anyone would be to please seek help. I had felt so low since around Christmas 2015, and it took me almost a year to seek help. They see this every single day, and they will believe you. ❤❤
Honestly I love that you made this video. I was diagnosed with anxiety last year after putting off going to the doctors for what seemed like forever. I don't know why I was scared. Asking for help was scary but it was the best thing ever because I can see in myself the difference. Thank you for raising awareness. Its ok to ask for help
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Around two minutes in and it's started getting to me. Right now, the past few months, I have been SO not okay. The discussion about nobody reacting until you do something really does hit close to home. I've been crying every day and talking about not wanting to be alive but nobody was listening or caring. So I self harmed, thinking it would make someone finally notice, and they did. Whilst I regret it, looking back, it's something that I did so shouldn't really shy away from. Anyway, I know I'm late to this video, didn't watch it at the time- but thank you, both of you. This video means a lot, it's lovely. Now let's hope nobody actually reads this meaningless ramble oh goodness
This and your last video are so relatable! So much respect for being so open!
Dear Evan and Luke, thanks for sharing this video! It really gets to me because tbh, I'm actually in a situation in which I really consider if I should get help due to what I think are mental health problems but tbh, that "wall" that is built seems too high...
There are days on which I'm really fine and think to myself "No, you can do that by yourself, don't overdramatise your issues" but then there are those horrbible days on which I feel really bad and helpless, but then those are days on which I can't even pick up the phone and call someone for help (in general I hate phone calls... that adds to the problem.)
I have tried to eliminate physical reasons (like hypothyroidism or lack or iron and stuff like that) already about two years ago and just now too, to make sure it's not something like that that makes me depressed and anxious, and as it seems my body is completely fine. I even voiced the suspicion that it MIGHT be something mental to my doctor, hoping that he might maybe give me some tips or recommendations for therapists that I could try and talk to but there was nothing like that, he just said "sorry I can't help you" and let me go.
I'm confused now because I don't know if it means he didn't take me serious or if he's simply ineducated in mental health stuff and really can't help me. There is the possibility that I could make an appointment at the therapist by myself even without recommendation of my doctor. The thing is though, in my country, there are waiting lists for about 6-12 months if people are trying to get support with mental health and since I have this good days - bad days condition I really hesitate if I should try make an appointment or not... I don't really know what to tell them and I also don't know if "my case" is bad enough to get someone else into the way who might need help more urgently... and so I keep on fighting for the time being...
I thought it was really helpful that you brought up parents and friends not understanding anxiety and depression and writing it off as "moodiness." I went through that and it made me question if my depression was real and made me so upset. I'm glad you brought it to light so hopefully people will understand better and no one will have to go through what me and so many others have ❤️ Thank you Evan and Luke
i am so glad i'm now seeing this video today which is the same day that I scheduled an appointment to see a therapist! I struggled with something for a long time. I knew there was something wrong with me but never could figure out what it was up until I served as a trial missionary for my church. That's when my companion/roommate noticed about my mood swings and how she was the only one who can tell that I wasn't happy most of the time. I then was seeing counseling during my mission and that's when I was diagnosed with PTSD. So yeah, there's times when I felt anxiety and depression but there will always always be feelings of love and joy that I felt from my Savior and from all my missionary friends. Those two things are hard to feel a lot of times, especially before I was set apart to go on the mission. Anxiety and depression are absolutely the worst. There are moments where I feel like I can't breathe and panic and then I start to cry because I felt hopeless and no one can help me. There are some mornings that I felt the dread of wanting to get out of bed. There are times when I would feel so scared and dreaded coming to work because I would always wonder "ok, which boss is gonna be there during my whole shift, the awesome one or the mean one?" With PTSD, it's that along with unwanted, bad memories when some things trigger me and make me do some things out of fear, like (for me personally because idk if anyone does this too) I do not wanting to eat because i'm scared to or being indecisive if i should eat something or not, there's a reason why I do that sometimes and I don't like to talk about it. But on a positive side, I'm so so happy that I gathered up the courage, humility, and boldness to know what it is that I need to do & to get the help that the Lord wants me to get
I also feel that even if someone says they have anxiety and they don't ... there's clearly a reason they're trying to get attention and that should also be taken seriously. Love the video Evan xxx
I am so glad to see you guys talking about this! I think that spreading awareness and information about mental health is so important and it should be taught in schools. When I first experienced anxiety it was absolutely crippling and I had no idea what it was or how to deal with it. Now that I know more about anxiety I am so much better equipped to cope with it and I just wish that I had this knowledge sooner.
THANK YOU for talking about this. I have had people tell me I seem really calm and confident, and they look shocked when I say I'm a stressy person, yet I have GAD and am on medication etc. I am definitely proof that you can't always tell what's going on with other people.
Great video, sending my love to anybody going through this.
How to be a good friend in these situations: forgive. Luke was talking about how he sometimes gets into this awful cycle of feeling bad and so he does nothing and then he feels even worse because he's not done anything etc etc.
I don't have anxiety in the form discussed in the video, but I can definitely relate to feeling anxious because I've not been able to do something a friend really wanted me to do or I've forgotten about something important. Situations like that can really eat up somebody and it especially takes a lot for somebody to reach out and say sorry so try not to dwell on it too much, especially if it's something small because it could feel much bigger to them.
I really needed this video. Although I haven't been told I have anxiety and insomnia, it's been assumed by doctors. But when it's hard to get hold of a doctor or some other sort of help, despite being in the UK, I tell a family member. Although it ends up except like you're saying, "you're worrying over nothing" and "it's just part of being a teenager" I want to help people who also suffer with anxiety but it's hard when people barely believe I have it myself. I want to tell people around me but i know what will happen, a competition of who's 'worse off' but getting back to the point of this huge ramble. Evan, Luke, thank you for this video, it's helped me realise that I don't have to constantly worry over people's approval. It's okay NOT to be okay ❤️❤️
Talking to friends really helps if they understand.
A few months ago I was feeling really anxious and I had my first panic attack but I told my best friend a few days later and it made it feel so much better because it turned out this had happened to her before and we now support each other during anything like this and it makes it ever so slightly easier
This video and the video about loneliness... You're amazing, Evan. Don't ever let anyone think you're not doing enough or good job because I (and many others here) needed to hear these words.
Everything in this video is literally everything that goes through my mind on a daily basis, its so good to know that I'm not the only experiencing these thoughts. for Years I was told that my anxiety was just a teenage thing, but then it got progressively worse, and like you said its as if my doctor didn't even care about my existence because it wasn't bad enough, or because I don't have a broken arm. but eventually help was given and I'm having cbt therapy. But even though I'm getting help, my friends isolate me without even knowing, and because of the stigma surrounding anxiety and depression, I feel telling my friends will just make things a whole lot worse.I really want to thank you for making this video it really did help in my rationalising my thought processes! Thanks xx
It meant a lot to me whan Luke said about preparing for when you're in a bad mental state because in that exact moment i realised that i have been doing it for a few years now without even thinking about it. And now someone is putting my feelings into words and saying it's a good thing. Thank you
I love this series and this video specifically. Thank you so much for making this video because I feel like not enough people know about having anxiety when you're not diagnosed with it. You can be mentally unwell and not have an illness and your points of view were very interesting. Thanks Evan and Luke!
Thank you guys so much for making this video! I have anxiety and this has honestly helped me feel quite a bit better about myself and how I've been dealing with it!
Needed this today, badly. Thank you guys :)
i really hate when i'm taking a day to just relax and i get a sudden voice in my head that keeps saying "you're wasting your life. you're not going to amount to anything if you don't stop this" and it keeps going on and on until i can't stand it anymore. i constantly worry about the fact that i haven't been able to get a job despite looking for over a year, and because of this, i fear that i won't move forward, that i will never do anything with my life, but, to put it simply, this video really did help me a lot in realising that i'm not alone in this, and, evan, luke, thank you both so much, you're both incredible people
This is the video I've needed. As an anxiety sufferer, fully diagnosed by a professional, it's nice finding people who relate to me. We all get issues with our mental health and it's to different extents. There's a stigma surrounding mental health issues which is part of the reason why some people find it weird that your brain is unwell. Another issue is when people don't believe you when you say you're mentally unwell. You don't have much physical proof to show how you feel inside. However, with a physical illness there are symptoms on the outside to prove you are unwell. When you have a physical issue you either get given medication from the GP and referred for treatment elsewhere. When you have a mental illness it's constantly being passed from one professional to the next, with some of them not believing you. The parent thing you mentioned, I know what that's like. My parents initially didn't think I had anxiety. They just said I was being overly-sensitive and I'll get over it. Now, my mum knows that it's an issue and I struggle every so often. But my dad still doesn't think I have it, even with a proper diagnosis, and gets angry towards me when I avoid something because of anxiety. I like to think of anxiety as an actual person who I'm sometimes friend with and sometimes we are enemies who despise each other. Learning to understand why it's like really helps. Lastly, getting help is the biggest step you'll take with mental health. It may take time to find a counsellor or therapist that works for you but it'll be so worth it in the end. Sorry for the length of this btw.
I started watching these older videos and came across this one. It’s what I needed to hear today. Thank you. 💜
You know sometimes anxiety gets to a point where you are anxious but you don’t know why or what the reason is. Feeling that is so scary. I personally have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and it is so hard. Evan this video means so much to me thank you even a year later for making this. It means a lot 👍🏻
This is a video that i've need!! My anxiety has been so bad to the point where I can't even leave my house much less my room. It's nice seeing videos like this cause I feel like i'm not alone!! Thank you Evan :)
Ahh thanks for this - it's so relevant for me rn :) my friend has severe depression/anxiety and is just allowing herself to get help for it. A few years ago when she didn't want help, she was being given it from every angle but now she is actually trying to make herself better she has been rejected by all three main mental health services in the area (one said she wasn't severe enough, another said she was too severe, the other just didn't want to deal). It's ridiculous bc the rejection obviously makes her brain worse and while she has v supportive friends around her, we can only help so much. It seems as if there is no one to treat it and when there is a glimmer of hope it turns into another referral or straight up rejection. The NHS is great but as you said, they only do so much and it takes so long to get anywhere. Hopefully she gets better, the best I can do is pray..