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You definitely need to cover the cases of Ramon Sosa (the boxer) and Mike Dippolito. They’re very similar with both men having to fake their deaths in order to dodge hit men that their partners sent out.
Please look into Clayton Echard & Laura Owens. She is sus and belongs in the pool!! She has ruined 2 mens life and tried to ruin Clayton’s. False allegations, fake pregnancies, it’s wild
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The P Diddy situation is overdue for the suspool, but with the recent arrest and indictment I think it's a good time for it. The video of him attacking his girlfriend and their relationship is worth a look at the very least if you're worried about Diddy filing a slapsuit
Also, if they're breaking things: Who's things? Their own things, or just yours? Do they 'lose control' at work? In front of strangers who might judge them? In front of people they respect? Or just when alone with you?
I dont think that's always true, people have very dysfunctional ways of communicating or processing emotion, and may be using gross body movements (gross as in big) as a way of expelling energy without having intention of hurting someone. Sometimes it might even be as a form of self harm/injury. I'm not saying that this sort of behaviour doesn't indicate violence or a wish to inflict violence towards a partner, but to say that anyone that punches a wall wants to punch people is a serious oversimplification of complex issues.
@@euanmitchell6879 It's threatening. Threats are a form of violence. Unless they're going to a neutral place and paying for the opportunity to smash unowned plates or destroy a junked car, where there's no one to sit there feeling terrified and hopeless while they lose their crap directly at their partner, it's absolutely not appropriate for them to react that way. They need to LEARN a new healthy way of processing emotions. Screaming and breaking crap is abusive.
@@HazooToo I agree 100%. There was one time in my life when I got mad, I threw my cheap cell phone out of anger. It smashed into a few pieces. It was over a public argument I had with my girlfriend. We were 17 or 18. It was not okay. I was not thinking about harming her. I was not attempting to threaten her. It was still 100% unhealthy and is completely fair that it is treated as threatening behavior. I don't remember doing it ever again and I sometimes think about that interaction. I'm in my mid 30s now. Still one of the worst things I've done in a relationship and never want to have something like that happen again.
I never heard Swoop say that her mom has fibromyalgia too. Ditto. Me, my mom and my mother's mother, all women with severe fibromyalgia by 30. No relief for any of us, ever, and a surgery for related issues ended up taking my grandmother. I'm so sorry, Swoop. One day, the medical community will realize how badly they're failing us. *edit-typo
I have M.E and my Dad and brother also have M.E so similar symptoms! Although I also have a tonne of other health problems including but not limited to 😹, having to have my spleen removed cos I had a wandering spleen, collapsed lungs and pleural effusion following surgery, haemorrhaging in my eye that made me blind in one eye, recurring pancreatitis, depression and ptsd, underactive thyroid, seizures and blackouts and probably a load more but I forget 😹🙈 I like hearing Swoop talk about her health problems as it makes me feel a bit more normal! I became sick when I was 17 and am now 37 and it has been a tough road!! Sending you love ❤️
I didn't realise Swoop has Fibromyalgia. It's something I live with too, and now, both my daughter and son are showing clear signs that they have it too. Sending gentle hugs to everyone who lives with this pernicious condition.
@@TheTinFoilTiara More likely, same as with M.E., that there's a series of genetic factors that require an environmental element (note: in this context trauma would be environmental) to fully unlock.
Normalize speaking up when someone gets visibly abused and/or pushed down the freaking stairs by their partner, even if the perpetrator is smaller, “daintier” or more feminine than the person being victimized.
exactly. i know swoop said that they didn’t want to blame anybody, but the friends should have spoken up after literally witnessing her hitting him. & when she pushed him down the stairs they DEFINITELY should have spoken up. they enabled her behavior. it’s partially their fault too.
@@sebner84 Her defense attorney keeps running circles around the prosecution to delay the verdict, but she's being held in jail while we wait for that to happen
Honestly Courtney sounds terrifying to be around, like hella manipulative. Plus it sounds like since she was making the most money, she felt like she was the boss in the relationship, she controlled it , she controlled Christian, and thus, figured she could do whatever she wanted to him. And this relationship broke Christian in every way. Like he was trapped in this evil cycle. Like she would abuse and try to justify it, and then try to reel him back in with gifts and stuff, and right when he gets comfortable, Bam! She starts it all over again, it eventually it got so bad that Christian ended up unfortunately losing his life. Plus I don’t think she was thinking about Christian and him dying, she was more concerned about how she was going to look, and the repercussions she was going to face
@kettyca666 this exactly...if he had left or complained about his situation you know people would of called him ungrateful and how he had it made, so lucky, etc
She asked for a restraining order and then killed him claiming self defense after having a long history of being the instigator with the power in the relationship. This was first degree murder, that is what the overwhelming amount of evidence says. Men deserve to be believed too ❤ I hope his family is able to find peace
thats exactly what i was gonna say, too! the fact that just a few days she called the police and claimed he hurt her and all that, and then claimed "self defense" just shows imo that she was planning this and wanted to make it "believable" even tho its definitely not
I agree with you on it being 1st degree. Though I think that the prosecutor likely went 2nd degree because it is much easier for them to prove beyond a reasonable doubt. I don't agree with it but we know the defense is going to push hard on him being a larger black man and her being a small white woman. And so that may have lead to prosecution decided on 2nd degree to avoid that "reasonable" doubt. But I agree with what you're saying wholeheartedly.
The thing that has always upset me about this case is the fact that she unalived him and was the ab*ser in the relationship and yet now she is pretending to be the victim?! smdh. Christian deserved better. Rest in peace. 🌹
Should be 1st because that feels like premeditation. I'm assuming it was something like her needing validation that she's the victim when she knows shes not and so afraid someone will find out she needs to triple down.
Please, keep us updated. This breaks my heart. She stabbed him twice, so in my opinion, only the first time could be "in the heat" the second time was straight up " I failed last time, so let's try this again!".
thanks for touching on the incorrect usage of words like lovebombing, gaslighting, etc. as someone who has been emotionally abused it’s so frustrating to hear people trivialize it or use it incorrectly
The question of "why didn't he just leave if it was so bad?" is just... it makes me mad.. and it's the same with what i read in a streamchat today. i watched a vod of a lawyer talking about the indictment and denied bail of the diddilydoo.. someone wrote "just say no!" about what happened to the people at those "freak off"-parties... yeah..
its something that seems "logical" to people who haven't been in it. MY question would be why didn't *she* leave if she hated him this much, right? she fed off the whole thing and had him trapped like a spiderweb. we can all speculate about the what ifs, i guess. that's all we can do now...
@@scatterbrain_jane incidentaly those "freak offs" were parties with drugs and (allegedly not consensual) sex.... sooooo... make out of that whatever you will.
Swoop, I need to admit you were part of my discovering that my dad was indeed abusive. Going absolutely crazy at times, punching walls, floor, breaking stuff. He can be so scary. Then it's just gas lighting, victim blaming and manipulating. I don't think I had the words to describe the abuse and I haven't processed all of it just yet but you and your community gave a vocabulary to understand the patterns and recognize the abuse for what it is. I thank you for that and for the work you and your team accomplish
I really needed a distraction from what’s going on in my life right now. I just wanted to thank you for your content and always being respectful when you cover topics. ❤
i love this! so, one day i was talking to my boss about one of the cases & she said “you watch Swoop too?” and we both looked at each other & said “SWOOOP” i love our lil community 🥹💜💜
Abuse is so isolating and feels so alone that the abuser can make you feel that they are the only one that loves you or can put up with you and even if you do leave you can feel so dependant on that perceived love that you will return. Never blame a victim.
She seemingly never learnt any consequences from her actions, a problem compounded by her money and looks! One thing she did seem to learn was how to be incredibly manipulative with her words (despite them being the opposite to her actions). This further compounded the issue of her never seeing consequences for her actions! And yeah there definitely seemed to be repeated examples of "Tell me your a Racist without telling me your a Racist" vibes! I think she had substance abuse issues that compounded an anger management problem that developed into more and more violence and aggression that never got 'checked'. I think this suggest that this final act was not likely premeditated but rather yet another progressive violent outburst! Its sad that things got this way because she never learnt that there are consequences to such behavior! Imagine finding that kind of Love and abusing it instead of treasuring it!
My heart breaks for this poor man and his family. Those messages from him really stike me, you can feel just how much he loved her despite her horrible abuse towards him. I hope he's somewhere better now. Rest his soul peacefully in sunsets that no one will muddy.
Let me stop my school work. I need to get to professor Perry’s class. I can’t miss it. 😭 I’ve never been this early either. Anyone in a toxic relationship know that it’s not your fault. There is light on the other side when you are ready to work on the healing. Healing takes time and work but it is possible. Keep your heads up. Everyone be safe and check in on your loved ones.
As a black man who was in a abusive relationship Seeing women defending Christian and showing support to men victims of DV made me emotional Thank all of you for giving me some comfort knowing I'm not alone ❤
you are such a comfort creator for not swoop!! i’m having another brain surgery and spinal cord surgery next week and just know your videos will help me get through this recovery. i’m glad you’re doing back and i hope you’re doing better💘
Maybe it's just me but this is giving "who are the courts going to believe? Me a pretty woman or a man who is a former foot ball player?" Vibes and it is just gross.
“It just reminds me so much of the love and the pain that so many victims and survivors have for their abusers, where their abusers don’t at all deserve their love but get it anyway because victims and survivors are so much more human than the abusers ever will be.” - This brought me so much healing and clarity. Thank you.
The Proof for 1st vs 2nd degree murder is crazy in some states. It could be that it is 1st but the DA is looking at the cute and pretty blond batting her sad scared eyes at the Jury and deciding that its better to go for the 2nd degree and get a sure fire conviction or plea than risking 1st and having her get off scot free
I very rarely comment on videos and have never made it to a video so soon after its release. I just wanted to say you are wonderful and such a compassionate and strong lady. For a future show I think a video on the Amanda Todd story would be heartbreaking but amazingly done if you were the one to do it. Cheers! keep up the amazing work swoop :)
I think she should have been charged with premeditated (1st degree) murder. If the roles were reversed, I have no doubt Christian would have been charged with 1st degree murder. Also, the way his poor mother found out…WTF.
They did not inform the mother before asking FOR ORGANS??!! What the hell is wrong with them! It’s devastating enough to find out, but like this?! Officials messed up biiiig time. Why no one called right away, from the hospital he was declared passed away, police??
Here is Miami... They don't ask. It was a nurse that saved me because the damn doctor was going to let me die instead of just intubating me. She told me to take the organ donor label off my license. And if he didn't have that on his license those doctors took advantage of the situation.
What truly breaks my heart in all this is that there is an incredibly loving and deeply rich personality who clearly had dedication and massive amounts of love to give, who is now lost to the ether. Of course this is the case with everyone on this earth, but the heartfelt texts absolutely crushed me. He did not deserve to have her happen to him. 💔 RIP Christian
Thank you so much for covering this tragic story. I grew up watching my Dad in a physically, emotionally & psychologically abusive relationship with my stepmum which is unfortunately still going on to this day. I wish DV and emotional abuse against males by female perpetrators was talked about more. I’ve tried time and time again to explain to my Dad how my stepmother’s actions are abusive but he just can’t see it that way, even when she was physically violent to him, in front of me and my siblings when we were kids. Anyway, sorry for the trauma dump. Thanks for another great video Swoop, please keep us updated. Thank you as always for talking about sensitive topics with such care and consideration.
Greetings from Sweden! Your docs literally make me squeal of joy when the notification comes, even if I know the topic will be anything but a laughing matter. I love your thoroughness, your compassion and empathy, how you're trying to present different voices and pov's while always defending those who don't have a voice of their own for various reasons. I love your way of telling difficult and shocking stories without turning them into a freak show. I especially respect the way you condemn and expose people who have committed crimes or deeply hurtful actions towards others by using their power over fans/employees/partners etc, without making it about downgrading them as human beings, but holding them accountable for their actions. Your deep sense of respect for other people's traumas is why I keep coming back, regardless of if I even know about the subject and people you're talking about. And sometimes, I really need to hear you tell me I'm valid because I just know you mean it
Idk who needs to hear this but petite women are still capable of harm, large men are still made of flesh and human beings are fragile enough that we can technically trip over our own feet and die from a head injury.
I’m so glad you chose to cover this case - this one blew me away when I looked into it and I felt so bad for that young man. Thank you for all you are and what you do Swoop, sending my love ❤
Swoop thank u sm for making us DV victims feel so seen. I’m so proud & glad that you continue to shine light on these issues you’ve also experienced. THANK YOU FOR THE LOVE BOMBING CLARIFICATION. I was love bombed in my abusive relationship so often & genuinely to manipulate me. I did not know about the cycle of abuse. I lived it & did not know there was a literal cycle 😭 even majored in psych for a bit & did not know this. so thank you for continuing to teach me new things about my past traumas. it genuinely helps me cope & move on & SWOOP ILY AND HOPE YOU’RE DOING SO WELL
Christian 100% knew she would end his life. He stayed with her knowing she would STAB him and not give a f***, it was escalating. He knew in his gut what was going to happen but he was stuck in the abuse cycle and really wanted to make it work. He deserved so much better I feel so horrible for him. I wish someone could have helped him get out of the relationship 😕💔
Thank you Swoop, this was a kind and respectful video about a horrific situation that should have been prevented. Its clear that gender and colour played a role
In my opinion: She should be charged with 1st degree murder for her blatant history for disregarding his life, this is shown not only during attacks but also abusing him knowing he’s physical in a very vulnerable state where his body is already under so much stress. Head injuries are no joke and he could’ve easily had a concussion, lose consciousness and have internal bleeding. Yet she didn’t call 911 even when he was asking blatantly for help and naming his symptoms. If the roles were reversed this wouldn’t be a question. She didn’t care if he lived or died in any of the prior situations and I believe that’s proof enough for premeditation. Not telling 911 their apartment number is also 🚩🚩
What happened to Christian just broke my heart. 💔 I swear if she gets away with what she did, I will be sooo…many different emotions and the words just wouldn’t do them justice. Love you Swoop for doing a video on this 🫶❤️🫵
You are absolutely right to bring up the racial dynamics in this case as I truly believe they are part of the reason she was able to abuse him for so long (several times in public). So many people on this earth just cannot fathom a Black man as anything other than an aggressor. Certainly not victims themselves. Racism, both conscious and unconscious, absolutely played a part in this tragedy.
The way the mother found out... its always so horrible to hear these stories about people dying in the most horrible way and then have the people who actually cared about the person, find out about the death in the most horrible, tactless way...
christian deserved so much better :((( that’s such an awful situation to be in. i really hope his soul is at peace now & i hope his family can recover one day.
This woman killed this man. I have no doubt in my mind. She stabbed him one time and he lived. But stabbed a 2nd time? Is crazy. Even when confronted by patrons after bail showed no forms of emotions. There is only so much I can say and I feel that anytime he tried to defend himself she immediately went for the knife.
Hearing that their "Friends" watched her hitting him and didn't do anything infuriates me. I had an abuser that would beat the hell out of me infront of our "Friends". No one EVER did anything or said anything. It made me think that for a long time, no one cared if I was getting hit or not. They just sat there and acted like they didn't see it. And it made me think I was crazy for thinking the situation was not okay. Christian didn't deserve to go through that. Jesus fucking christ!
I'm a guy and I was abused by my fiance....ended things ten years ago, and I had to call the cops on her. She was like 5 feet tall and tiny and skinny. She used to tell people that I was the one being abusive and I lost so many friends over her because people didn't believe it was the other way around. She terrifies me to this day. Most of my life I was bullied in school and also abused by my family and didn't really have self esteem ever in my life. I'm now happily married to a wonderful woman who makes me feel so safe.
I’m fully financially independent from my ex who did a lot of name calling/ bottle throwing, and even now he tries to gaslight me into thinking it’s all my fault and I’m broken and will ‘always be this way’. I cannot imagine the type of mental distress this man was under. My heart shatters for him.
i definitely think ( pure speculation) that Courtney pre-meditated the harm/ the injury but probably did not pre-meditate murder as to keep him in the abuse cycle.
She most likely wanted to go with him to the hospital to make sure he didn't say anything without her present, she was freaking out asking if he was dead and seemed to relax a bit when told "He's alive we are taking him to the hospital" she most likely thought since he's 'a big strong man' he'd be fine. I think she was honestly shocked when told he actually died.
The utter entitlement of her parents is infuriating. She has serious mental issues, at the least. I don't think it was premeditated, but there is no doubt in my mind dhe stabbed him yet another fit of rage. Love you, Swoop!!!
the way his poor mother found out that he was no longer alive is--like, she described it perfectly. inhumane. absolutely ghoulish. my throat closed up hearing her describe it.
Great work as always Swoop, digging into such a horrendous and heartbreaking story. Your compassion and thoroughness is always inspiring. What's sticking with me is, on top of everything else that poor man went through, what a horrible way for his family to find out he passed away. I hope they're able to get the justice Christian deserves.
so i have really bad anxiety, depression and panic attacks and sometimes having all that makes it really hard for me to reach out and comment on video's, but with you i feel safe, 100% safe all the time, so swoop you have helped me in ways you will probably never know
It's sad, really, that men are not believed when they say they are being abused. Or that they feel they have to explain it away. Especially big strong handsome men. It's like if someone said "how could he have been beaten up by that poor defenseless angel?" OMG come on!!! Anger doesn't see gender; doesn't see age; does t see color. He didn't have to lose his life. If he had been able to go to the police and make a statement that would have possibly saved him. Instead he felt he had to play the big burly guy who could take care of himself.
It’d be cool to hear the story of Arianna Hutto. Nobody talks about this weird case but you delve so deep, I’d love to hear about it from you. I, also, feel like you’d be able to spread more awareness about the case. Keep jiving because I love it
I was a toxic, abusive relationship with a white woman. It was the worse time of life. I was almost unalived by her or because of her more than once. Our son recenlty self-unalived, and know my and his mom's BS is at the top of the list for reasons as far as I am concerned.
If you’re being abused i really hope you find a way out. You do not deserve to be treated so poorly and I hope you find the people that love you for who you are. You deserve to be safe. You deserve to be happy. You deserve love.
My live in bf died while I was at work one night, n I found out when the medical examiner called me to ID him by his tattoos over the phone, so they could justify sending officers to his family's house to notify them of his passing... it was so shocking n traumatizing n honestly felt pretty cold n heartless...
half unrelated to the video, that bird watching karen makes me so angry because she probably just hurt her dog and didnt care (in the video swoop showed, the dog cried out :/)
(Tw for this comment!!) I had an ex threaten me with a knife before. I remember thinking "oh, they wouldn't, they love me" even though I knew they were abusive. I cant help thinking he mustve felt the same before she stabbed him. God, this is so upsetting :(
This is such a crazy story. As many times before, you have done such a brilliant and important job by highlighting a 'different' story of abuse (actually quite textbook but people always seem confused when women are aggressors) I've always seen it as such a horribly strange thing when women talked about throwing things at their boyfriends and laughing about it with a crowd as if men didn't need to be loved and cared for just as any other human being. You break this down so so well ❤
That was a rough one... phew. I just hope his family can get some closure and while there is a good chance she will never get what she deserves - I just hope she is locked away so she cannot hurt any more men like this.
I saw this story a while back and it scarred me. When I think a out it all I hear is that man's voice while she is on with 911 saying baby I think I'm dying. I can feel my arm. This B has the audacity to ask him what's our address? While he is bleeding out. It's traumatizing.
Drugs can only end in disaster. On a lighter note ( regarding Helix mattress) a few years ago when I bought mine in a shop, I have a funny story. The guy was very young and I asked for a mattress that would accommodate me and my rescue Great Dane who liked to sleep on the bed. Duke has passed on a while back- the best dog ever. He looked at me and went to an older salesman and related my request. Older guy came and helped whilst the younger observed. It was his 1st day on the job! So funny. I still have rescue Danes but they don't care for human beds, they have orthopedic dog mattresses on the floor. Swoop, thanks for doccie, it must have been very hard for you to relate it to us. Blessings.
You posted at the perfect timeeee! I love the way you edit these videos, I watched a brief video on this case but I love that you get as much information as possible to make this case easier to understand. Thank you swoop!!💜
Maybe it's because I've been in the room while an official told a mother that her son is gone, but oh my god I cannot stop crying. That poor mother. Nobody, NOBODY deserves to find out that their worst fear as a parent has occured in such an inhunane way. This entire case had me so sad and angry for Christian being abused, demeened, and robbed of his life at such a young age but man that clip of the mother absolutely broke me.
Men's mental health is so important. Men feeling like they can safety talk about their own abuse is important. It's so sad he stayed in this relationship. I can only imagine ppl wouldn't even take abuse claims seriously because of the size dynamic. Size, sex none of that matters to abusers. Men talk to your friends and family. It doesn't make you less of a man. You're important and your well being is just as important.
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I just watched the video on the lady that faked her kidnapping like an hour ago while I was cooking and you mentioned how much of work you had on your shoulders. And then I get recommended this gem, I’m watching. Just wanting to say to take care if it’s all too much, I already gathered from a couple of previo vids that your community is supper supportive and gorgeous❤
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You definitely need to cover the cases of Ramon Sosa (the boxer) and Mike Dippolito. They’re very similar with both men having to fake their deaths in order to dodge hit men that their partners sent out.
Please look into Clayton Echard & Laura Owens. She is sus and belongs in the pool!! She has ruined 2 mens life and tried to ruin Clayton’s. False allegations, fake pregnancies, it’s wild
Could we have an update on the bryan kohberger case??
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The P Diddy situation is overdue for the suspool, but with the recent arrest and indictment I think it's a good time for it. The video of him attacking his girlfriend and their relationship is worth a look at the very least if you're worried about Diddy filing a slapsuit
"I'm truly genuinely sorry that my actions hurt you so deeply. That was not my intention."
WHAT OTHER INTENTION IS THERE TO STABBING A PERSON?!?
That!
That!
My thought was, what, stabbing him not so deep? Flesh wounds as opposed to death wounds? Those words mean nothing.
Literally my exact thoughts hahaha I’m glad someone said it
Hurt you "so deeply"...if you "stick" around...was she punning about it?
When your partner throws things or punches walls, they're imagining doing it to you.
Get out as soon and as safe as possible.
Also, if they're breaking things: Who's things? Their own things, or just yours? Do they 'lose control' at work? In front of strangers who might judge them? In front of people they respect? Or just when alone with you?
This!! 💯 Happened to me. I was able to leave before it escalated, but wall punching and my things got broken.
I dont think that's always true, people have very dysfunctional ways of communicating or processing emotion, and may be using gross body movements (gross as in big) as a way of expelling energy without having intention of hurting someone. Sometimes it might even be as a form of self harm/injury. I'm not saying that this sort of behaviour doesn't indicate violence or a wish to inflict violence towards a partner, but to say that anyone that punches a wall wants to punch people is a serious oversimplification of complex issues.
@@euanmitchell6879 It's threatening. Threats are a form of violence. Unless they're going to a neutral place and paying for the opportunity to smash unowned plates or destroy a junked car, where there's no one to sit there feeling terrified and hopeless while they lose their crap directly at their partner, it's absolutely not appropriate for them to react that way. They need to LEARN a new healthy way of processing emotions. Screaming and breaking crap is abusive.
@@HazooToo I agree 100%. There was one time in my life when I got mad, I threw my cheap cell phone out of anger. It smashed into a few pieces. It was over a public argument I had with my girlfriend. We were 17 or 18. It was not okay.
I was not thinking about harming her. I was not attempting to threaten her. It was still 100% unhealthy and is completely fair that it is treated as threatening behavior.
I don't remember doing it ever again and I sometimes think about that interaction. I'm in my mid 30s now. Still one of the worst things I've done in a relationship and never want to have something like that happen again.
Me everytime: is this Swoop or Swoop too?
*checks hair*
ME TOO
SAME 🤣
Literally so smart of her to switch up the wig so we can track what’s going on
Same...
SAME. Also 333rd like. 😙
I never heard Swoop say that her mom has fibromyalgia too. Ditto. Me, my mom and my mother's mother, all women with severe fibromyalgia by 30. No relief for any of us, ever, and a surgery for related issues ended up taking my grandmother. I'm so sorry, Swoop. One day, the medical community will realize how badly they're failing us.
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I have M.E and my Dad and brother also have M.E so similar symptoms!
Although I also have a tonne of other health problems including but not limited to 😹, having to have my spleen removed cos I had a wandering spleen, collapsed lungs and pleural effusion following surgery, haemorrhaging in my eye that made me blind in one eye, recurring pancreatitis, depression and ptsd, underactive thyroid, seizures and blackouts and probably a load more but I forget 😹🙈
I like hearing Swoop talk about her health problems as it makes me feel a bit more normal! I became sick when I was 17 and am now 37 and it has been a tough road!!
Sending you love ❤️
Epigenetic trauma....
I didn't realise Swoop has Fibromyalgia. It's something I live with too, and now, both my daughter and son are showing clear signs that they have it too.
Sending gentle hugs to everyone who lives with this pernicious condition.
@@TheTinFoilTiara More likely, same as with M.E., that there's a series of genetic factors that require an environmental element (note: in this context trauma would be environmental) to fully unlock.
Normalize speaking up when someone gets visibly abused and/or pushed down the freaking stairs by their partner, even if the perpetrator is smaller, “daintier” or more feminine than the person being victimized.
exactly. i know swoop said that they didn’t want to blame anybody, but the friends should have spoken up after literally witnessing her hitting him. & when she pushed him down the stairs they DEFINITELY should have spoken up. they enabled her behavior. it’s partially their fault too.
I saw Divestors like Cynthia G celebrating her killing him because he "Bad mouthed" black women smh
This poor man was murdered by this pyschopath and then she victimized him in death by claiming he abused her when he didn't. She's a monster.
This case always pissed me off so bad. If Christian were the aggressor, he would’ve gotten life in prison without parole.
Locked him away and threw away the key!!!!
What did she get?! I haven’t kept up!
@@sebner84 I don’t think she’s gotten anything (yet) I’ll look into it!
@@sebner84 Her defense attorney keeps running circles around the prosecution to delay the verdict, but she's being held in jail while we wait for that to happen
"Im truly genuinely sorry that my actions hurt you so deeply" YOU STABBED HIM!!!!!
Honestly Courtney sounds terrifying to be around, like hella manipulative. Plus it sounds like since she was making the most money, she felt like she was the boss in the relationship, she controlled it , she controlled Christian, and thus, figured she could do whatever she wanted to him. And this relationship broke Christian in every way. Like he was trapped in this evil cycle. Like she would abuse and try to justify it, and then try to reel him back in with gifts and stuff, and right when he gets comfortable, Bam! She starts it all over again, it eventually it got so bad that Christian ended up unfortunately losing his life. Plus I don’t think she was thinking about Christian and him dying, she was more concerned about how she was going to look, and the repercussions she was going to face
probably he was told that he's lucky too, he had a hot blonde that paid his bills...
@@kettyca666 yeah he probably got told that or told himself that a lot
@kettyca666 this exactly...if he had left or complained about his situation you know people would of called him ungrateful and how he had it made, so lucky, etc
Stabbing someone and then saying "my intention was not to hurt you" is WILD
She asked for a restraining order and then killed him claiming self defense after having a long history of being the instigator with the power in the relationship. This was first degree murder, that is what the overwhelming amount of evidence says. Men deserve to be believed too ❤ I hope his family is able to find peace
thats exactly what i was gonna say, too! the fact that just a few days she called the police and claimed he hurt her and all that, and then claimed "self defense" just shows imo that she was planning this and wanted to make it "believable" even tho its definitely not
I agree with you on it being 1st degree. Though I think that the prosecutor likely went 2nd degree because it is much easier for them to prove beyond a reasonable doubt. I don't agree with it but we know the defense is going to push hard on him being a larger black man and her being a small white woman. And so that may have lead to prosecution decided on 2nd degree to avoid that "reasonable" doubt. But I agree with what you're saying wholeheartedly.
The thing that has always upset me about this case is the fact that she unalived him and was the ab*ser in the relationship and yet now she is pretending to be the victim?! smdh. Christian deserved better. Rest in peace. 🌹
Should be 1st because that feels like premeditation. I'm assuming it was something like her needing validation that she's the victim when she knows shes not and so afraid someone will find out she needs to triple down.
💯 agree
Please, keep us updated.
This breaks my heart. She stabbed him twice, so in my opinion, only the first time could be "in the heat" the second time was straight up " I failed last time, so let's try this again!".
thanks for touching on the incorrect usage of words like lovebombing, gaslighting, etc. as someone who has been emotionally abused it’s so frustrating to hear people trivialize it or use it incorrectly
I'm a man and I was abused by my ex girlfriend. It fucked me up so badly. All the texts take me back to then
I'm sorry you went through that. I hope you're happy and well ❤
I’m so happy that you’re out of that relationship. Nobody deserves that❤
I hope you have found peace. It wasn't your fault. You didn't deserve that.
I am truly sorry and I hope you are happy and well now❤
I’m sorry! I hope you’re healing well, you deserve a peaceful, balanced, loving relationship
I know it’s not the main channel but I still sit here when she says my name is swooop I still do the “SWOOOP” 📢
Every single time 😂✊
Same
I miss the little dance with “SWWOOOOPP! Swoop, swoop, swoop eh… swoop, swoop, swoooop eeehhhh 😝”
The question of "why didn't he just leave if it was so bad?" is just... it makes me mad..
and it's the same with what i read in a streamchat today. i watched a vod of a lawyer talking about the indictment and denied bail of the diddilydoo.. someone wrote "just say no!" about what happened to the people at those "freak off"-parties... yeah..
Did they forget that Cassie TRIED to 'say no' and 'just leave' We have it on Video on what happened when she did just that...
Just say no? Isn't that the motto for drugs, not violence lol
its something that seems "logical" to people who haven't been in it. MY question would be why didn't *she* leave if she hated him this much, right? she fed off the whole thing and had him trapped like a spiderweb. we can all speculate about the what ifs, i guess. that's all we can do now...
@@rebeccaabram2312 i have no idea..
@@scatterbrain_jane incidentaly those "freak offs" were parties with drugs and (allegedly not consensual) sex.... sooooo... make out of that whatever you will.
Swoop, I need to admit you were part of my discovering that my dad was indeed abusive. Going absolutely crazy at times, punching walls, floor, breaking stuff. He can be so scary. Then it's just gas lighting, victim blaming and manipulating. I don't think I had the words to describe the abuse and I haven't processed all of it just yet but you and your community gave a vocabulary to understand the patterns and recognize the abuse for what it is. I thank you for that and for the work you and your team accomplish
I really needed a distraction from what’s going on in my life right now. I just wanted to thank you for your content and always being respectful when you cover topics. ❤
Saaaaaaame. Wishing you strength.
Hang on there, friend ❤️ everything will be ok.
Wishing you calm and peaceful thoughts today ❤
Hugs!!! ❤❤❤
Sending love to you ❤
GURL! I'm wearing a Petty University shirt and a girl working on my house said she likes it and you are great. Literally just happened. Small world!
i love this! so, one day i was talking to my boss about one of the cases & she said “you watch Swoop too?” and we both looked at each other & said “SWOOOP” i love our lil community 🥹💜💜
Abuse is so isolating and feels so alone that the abuser can make you feel that they are the only one that loves you or can put up with you and even if you do leave you can feel so dependant on that perceived love that you will return. Never blame a victim.
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Yes!
She seemingly never learnt any consequences from her actions, a problem compounded by her money and looks! One thing she did seem to learn was how to be incredibly manipulative with her words (despite them being the opposite to her actions). This further compounded the issue of her never seeing consequences for her actions! And yeah there definitely seemed to be repeated examples of "Tell me your a Racist without telling me your a Racist" vibes!
I think she had substance abuse issues that compounded an anger management problem that developed into more and more violence and aggression that never got 'checked'. I think this suggest that this final act was not likely premeditated but rather yet another progressive violent outburst!
Its sad that things got this way because she never learnt that there are consequences to such behavior! Imagine finding that kind of Love and abusing it instead of treasuring it!
SWOOP there it is!
My heart breaks for this poor man and his family. Those messages from him really stike me, you can feel just how much he loved her despite her horrible abuse towards him. I hope he's somewhere better now. Rest his soul peacefully in sunsets that no one will muddy.
Let me stop my school work. I need to get to professor Perry’s class. I can’t miss it. 😭 I’ve never been this early either.
Anyone in a toxic relationship know that it’s not your fault. There is light on the other side when you are ready to work on the healing. Healing takes time and work but it is possible. Keep your heads up. Everyone be safe and check in on your loved ones.
I know you meant Petty but my mind immediately went to Perry the platypus 😅
Imagine you’re so crazy you feel justified stabbing someone, and then be shocked and surprised (even sad) when they die
As a black man who was in a abusive relationship
Seeing women defending Christian and showing support to men victims of DV made me emotional
Thank all of you for giving me some comfort knowing I'm not alone ❤
you are such a comfort creator for not swoop!! i’m having another brain surgery and spinal cord surgery next week and just know your videos will help me get through this recovery. i’m glad you’re doing back and i hope you’re doing better💘
Maybe it's just me but this is giving "who are the courts going to believe? Me a pretty woman or a man who is a former foot ball player?" Vibes and it is just gross.
“It just reminds me so much of the love and the pain that so many victims and survivors have for their abusers, where their abusers don’t at all deserve their love but get it anyway because victims and survivors are so much more human than the abusers ever will be.” - This brought me so much healing and clarity. Thank you.
Courtney’s sense of entitlement is next level infuriating.
The Proof for 1st vs 2nd degree murder is crazy in some states. It could be that it is 1st but the DA is looking at the cute and pretty blond batting her sad scared eyes at the Jury and deciding that its better to go for the 2nd degree and get a sure fire conviction or plea than risking 1st and having her get off scot free
It was worse than just that apparently her family was involved with everything case wise
I knew he died from the title and I still found myself fully crying and saying no when you said he did lose his life
Man this life is tough sometimes
I teared up over the texts that he was sending her after she stabbed him. He needed help so bad. She is a monster
I very rarely comment on videos and have never made it to a video so soon after its release. I just wanted to say you are wonderful and such a compassionate and strong lady. For a future show I think a video on the Amanda Todd story would be heartbreaking but amazingly done if you were the one to do it.
Cheers! keep up the amazing work swoop :)
I think she should have been charged with premeditated (1st degree) murder. If the roles were reversed, I have no doubt Christian would have been charged with 1st degree murder. Also, the way his poor mother found out…WTF.
They did not inform the mother before asking FOR ORGANS??!! What the hell is wrong with them! It’s devastating enough to find out, but like this?! Officials messed up biiiig time. Why no one called right away, from the hospital he was declared passed away, police??
Here is Miami... They don't ask. It was a nurse that saved me because the damn doctor was going to let me die instead of just intubating me. She told me to take the organ donor label off my license. And if he didn't have that on his license those doctors took advantage of the situation.
"Can I have a hug." Are you f-ing serious. NO!
What truly breaks my heart in all this is that there is an incredibly loving and deeply rich personality who clearly had dedication and massive amounts of love to give, who is now lost to the ether. Of course this is the case with everyone on this earth, but the heartfelt texts absolutely crushed me. He did not deserve to have her happen to him. 💔 RIP Christian
She treated him like property. She’s an evil woman and deserves to be locked up for life.
Thank you so much for covering this tragic story. I grew up watching my Dad in a physically, emotionally & psychologically abusive relationship with my stepmum which is unfortunately still going on to this day. I wish DV and emotional abuse against males by female perpetrators was talked about more. I’ve tried time and time again to explain to my Dad how my stepmother’s actions are abusive but he just can’t see it that way, even when she was physically violent to him, in front of me and my siblings when we were kids. Anyway, sorry for the trauma dump. Thanks for another great video Swoop, please keep us updated. Thank you as always for talking about sensitive topics with such care and consideration.
Greetings from Sweden! Your docs literally make me squeal of joy when the notification comes, even if I know the topic will be anything but a laughing matter. I love your thoroughness, your compassion and empathy, how you're trying to present different voices and pov's while always defending those who don't have a voice of their own for various reasons. I love your way of telling difficult and shocking stories without turning them into a freak show.
I especially respect the way you condemn and expose people who have committed crimes or deeply hurtful actions towards others by using their power over fans/employees/partners etc, without making it about downgrading them as human beings, but holding them accountable for their actions.
Your deep sense of respect for other people's traumas is why I keep coming back, regardless of if I even know about the subject and people you're talking about.
And sometimes, I really need to hear you tell me I'm valid because I just know you mean it
Idk who needs to hear this but petite women are still capable of harm, large men are still made of flesh and human beings are fragile enough that we can technically trip over our own feet and die from a head injury.
This poor guy. My heart breaks for him and his family. She's disgusting, spoiled, and evil.
I’m so glad you chose to cover this case - this one blew me away when I looked into it and I felt so bad for that young man. Thank you for all you are and what you do Swoop, sending my love ❤
Notification? No opened UA-cam and SWOOP uploaded 10 mins ago. I clicked so fast. 💜💜 love it
Superman was faster than a speeding bullet, but was he faster than notifications? Us:1; Superman 1.
Swoop thank u sm for making us DV victims feel so seen. I’m so proud & glad that you continue to shine light on these issues you’ve also experienced. THANK YOU FOR THE LOVE BOMBING CLARIFICATION. I was love bombed in my abusive relationship so often & genuinely to manipulate me. I did not know about the cycle of abuse. I lived it & did not know there was a literal cycle 😭 even majored in psych for a bit & did not know this. so thank you for continuing to teach me new things about my past traumas. it genuinely helps me cope & move on & SWOOP ILY AND HOPE YOU’RE DOING SO WELL
Christian 100% knew she would end his life. He stayed with her knowing she would STAB him and not give a f***, it was escalating. He knew in his gut what was going to happen but he was stuck in the abuse cycle and really wanted to make it work. He deserved so much better I feel so horrible for him. I wish someone could have helped him get out of the relationship 😕💔
Oh my the orange with the purple hair looks so good Swoop!!!
I could fill a propane tank with that much gaslighting.
Thank you Swoop, this was a kind and respectful video about a horrific situation that should have been prevented. Its clear that gender and colour played a role
I actually almost cried when you gave your mom the mattress like you truly are a genuine person.
The asking for a hug from the detective after finding out Christian passed was wild and bizzare.
In my opinion: She should be charged with 1st degree murder for her blatant history for disregarding his life, this is shown not only during attacks but also abusing him knowing he’s physical in a very vulnerable state where his body is already under so much stress. Head injuries are no joke and he could’ve easily had a concussion, lose consciousness and have internal bleeding. Yet she didn’t call 911 even when he was asking blatantly for help and naming his symptoms.
If the roles were reversed this wouldn’t be a question. She didn’t care if he lived or died in any of the prior situations and I believe that’s proof enough for premeditation. Not telling 911 their apartment number is also 🚩🚩
What happened to Christian just broke my heart. 💔 I swear if she gets away with what she did, I will be sooo…many different emotions and the words just wouldn’t do them justice.
Love you Swoop for doing a video on this 🫶❤️🫵
She mostly did
This is shockingly abusive, and incredibly sad.
She's guilty as sin.
You are absolutely right to bring up the racial dynamics in this case as I truly believe they are part of the reason she was able to abuse him for so long (several times in public). So many people on this earth just cannot fathom a Black man as anything other than an aggressor. Certainly not victims themselves. Racism, both conscious and unconscious, absolutely played a part in this tragedy.
The way the mother found out... its always so horrible to hear these stories about people dying in the most horrible way and then have the people who actually cared about the person, find out about the death in the most horrible, tactless way...
christian deserved so much better :((( that’s such an awful situation to be in. i really hope his soul is at peace now & i hope his family can recover one day.
This woman killed this man. I have no doubt in my mind. She stabbed him one time and he lived. But stabbed a 2nd time? Is crazy. Even when confronted by patrons after bail showed no forms of emotions. There is only so much I can say and I feel that anytime he tried to defend himself she immediately went for the knife.
Quite literally just got in bed, and here I am... Thanks for keeping us company SWOOP!!! xx
Hearing that their "Friends" watched her hitting him and didn't do anything infuriates me. I had an abuser that would beat the hell out of me infront of our "Friends". No one EVER did anything or said anything. It made me think that for a long time, no one cared if I was getting hit or not. They just sat there and acted like they didn't see it. And it made me think I was crazy for thinking the situation was not okay. Christian didn't deserve to go through that. Jesus fucking christ!
I'm a guy and I was abused by my fiance....ended things ten years ago, and I had to call the cops on her. She was like 5 feet tall and tiny and skinny. She used to tell people that I was the one being abusive and I lost so many friends over her because people didn't believe it was the other way around. She terrifies me to this day. Most of my life I was bullied in school and also abused by my family and didn't really have self esteem ever in my life. I'm now happily married to a wonderful woman who makes me feel so safe.
I’m so glad you were finally able to find someone who loves you the way people should. Much love from a fellow survivor 🫶
I’m fully financially independent from my ex who did a lot of name calling/ bottle throwing, and even now he tries to gaslight me into thinking it’s all my fault and I’m broken and will ‘always be this way’. I cannot imagine the type of mental distress this man was under. My heart shatters for him.
You always have a video up right when I need it😂
i definitely think ( pure speculation) that Courtney pre-meditated the harm/ the injury but probably did not pre-meditate murder as to keep him in the abuse cycle.
She most likely wanted to go with him to the hospital to make sure he didn't say anything without her present, she was freaking out asking if he was dead and seemed to relax a bit when told "He's alive we are taking him to the hospital" she most likely thought since he's 'a big strong man' he'd be fine. I think she was honestly shocked when told he actually died.
The utter entitlement of her parents is infuriating. She has serious mental issues, at the least. I don't think it was premeditated, but there is no doubt in my mind dhe stabbed him yet another fit of rage.
Love you, Swoop!!!
the way his poor mother found out that he was no longer alive is--like, she described it perfectly. inhumane. absolutely ghoulish. my throat closed up hearing her describe it.
Great work as always Swoop, digging into such a horrendous and heartbreaking story. Your compassion and thoroughness is always inspiring.
What's sticking with me is, on top of everything else that poor man went through, what a horrible way for his family to find out he passed away. I hope they're able to get the justice Christian deserves.
This made me tear up. The poor guy was so scared and just wanted to be loved the way he should have been. This woman is as monstrous as they come.
so i have really bad anxiety, depression and panic attacks and sometimes having all that makes it really hard for me to reach out and comment on video's, but with you i feel safe, 100% safe all the time, so swoop you have helped me in ways you will probably never know
It's sad, really, that men are not believed when they say they are being abused. Or that they feel they have to explain it away. Especially big strong handsome men. It's like if someone said "how could he have been beaten up by that poor defenseless angel?" OMG come on!!! Anger doesn't see gender; doesn't see age; does t see color. He didn't have to lose his life. If he had been able to go to the police and make a statement that would have possibly saved him. Instead he felt he had to play the big burly guy who could take care of himself.
It’d be cool to hear the story of Arianna Hutto. Nobody talks about this weird case but you delve so deep, I’d love to hear about it from you. I, also, feel like you’d be able to spread more awareness about the case. Keep jiving because I love it
This shouldn’t be a case of skin colour and gender, everyone can be a an abuser or a victim. I hope justice is served without prejudice
I was a toxic, abusive relationship with a white woman. It was the worse time of life. I was almost unalived by her or because of her more than once. Our son recenlty self-unalived, and know my and his mom's BS is at the top of the list for reasons as far as I am concerned.
I'm so sorry
If you’re being abused i really hope you find a way out. You do not deserve to be treated so poorly and I hope you find the people that love you for who you are. You deserve to be safe. You deserve to be happy. You deserve love.
My live in bf died while I was at work one night, n I found out when the medical examiner called me to ID him by his tattoos over the phone, so they could justify sending officers to his family's house to notify them of his passing... it was so shocking n traumatizing n honestly felt pretty cold n heartless...
I truly truly truly hope his family gets proper justice. My heart goes out to them
Never miss a video swoop! You're amazing 😊😊😊😊
You always deliver the best videos Swoop!
omg this message about his worry is so sad I know he knew U can hear it in this message and I have love for him this is so sad
Also, stab wounds to the leg can absolutely be fatal. If the femoral artery is hit, you can bleed out in seconds
half unrelated to the video, that bird watching karen makes me so angry because she probably just hurt her dog and didnt care (in the video swoop showed, the dog cried out :/)
Thanks For this swoop! You're the Best ❤❤❤❤
(Tw for this comment!!) I had an ex threaten me with a knife before. I remember thinking "oh, they wouldn't, they love me" even though I knew they were abusive. I cant help thinking he mustve felt the same before she stabbed him. God, this is so upsetting :(
I just wanted to mention that the mascot for my university is named Swoop and it makes me think of you every time I hear it.
I wait for these videos constantly
This is such a crazy story. As many times before, you have done such a brilliant and important job by highlighting a 'different' story of abuse (actually quite textbook but people always seem confused when women are aggressors)
I've always seen it as such a horribly strange thing when women talked about throwing things at their boyfriends and laughing about it with a crowd as if men didn't need to be loved and cared for just as any other human being. You break this down so so well ❤
That was a rough one... phew. I just hope his family can get some closure and while there is a good chance she will never get what she deserves - I just hope she is locked away so she cannot hurt any more men like this.
I saw this story a while back and it scarred me. When I think a out it all I hear is that man's voice while she is on with 911 saying baby I think I'm dying. I can feel my arm. This B has the audacity to ask him what's our address? While he is bleeding out. It's traumatizing.
omg new swoop while i'm doing school YAYYYY
Drugs can only end in disaster.
On a lighter note ( regarding Helix mattress) a few years ago when I bought mine in a shop, I have a funny story.
The guy was very young and I asked for a mattress that would accommodate me and my rescue Great Dane who liked to sleep on the bed. Duke has passed on a while back- the best dog ever.
He looked at me and went to an older salesman and related my request. Older guy came and helped whilst the younger observed.
It was his 1st day on the job!
So funny.
I still have rescue Danes but they don't care for human beds, they have orthopedic dog mattresses on the floor.
Swoop, thanks for doccie, it must have been very hard for you to relate it to us.
Blessings.
You posted at the perfect timeeee! I love the way you edit these videos, I watched a brief video on this case but I love that you get as much information as possible to make this case easier to understand. Thank you swoop!!💜
Maybe it's because I've been in the room while an official told a mother that her son is gone, but oh my god I cannot stop crying. That poor mother. Nobody, NOBODY deserves to find out that their worst fear as a parent has occured in such an inhunane way. This entire case had me so sad and angry for Christian being abused, demeened, and robbed of his life at such a young age but man that clip of the mother absolutely broke me.
Please keep us updated
Men's mental health is so important. Men feeling like they can safety talk about their own abuse is important. It's so sad he stayed in this relationship. I can only imagine ppl wouldn't even take abuse claims seriously because of the size dynamic. Size, sex none of that matters to abusers. Men talk to your friends and family. It doesn't make you less of a man. You're important and your well being is just as important.
I never skip the sponsored portion of your videos!! I love everything you advertise and listening to you talk about products. Wish I could buy the bed, it looks amazinggg
Please keep us updated on this story!
Definitely want updates on this!!
I just watched the video on the lady that faked her kidnapping like an hour ago while I was cooking and you mentioned how much of work you had on your shoulders. And then I get recommended this gem, I’m watching. Just wanting to say to take care if it’s all too much, I already gathered from a couple of previo vids that your community is supper supportive and gorgeous❤
Just in time for my toddlers naptime, thanks Queen!