Is MONOGAMY Just a Fantasy in Modern Relationships? | Esther Perel

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  • Опубліковано 24 лис 2024

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  • @psi23k
    @psi23k 6 днів тому +37

    We have never been more free and we've never been more alone. That hits.

  • @riccardoc1711
    @riccardoc1711 4 дні тому +5

    We live and have lived many lifetimes but we are experiencing just this one. We had many love stories but we long only for this one. There is only this one moment, all the time, everywhere. There is only this one love all the time, everywhere. If you understand, you understand. If you dont, it doesn’t matter. There is nothing to understand here.

  • @BorneoCicada
    @BorneoCicada 3 дні тому +4

    I’ve been monogamous in my 3 relationships and in celibacy for 26 years out of the 35 I’ve been on Earth.
    The key is to have worked in desire, lust and ego in previous incarnations, folks. Meaning that if you start in this one, you won’t have to do it in your next ones. You’re welcome. Liberate yourselves 🙏

  • @natillefoxy9881
    @natillefoxy9881 2 дні тому +4

    And that's why I choose to have two men in my life. I also don't want to live with a man as it gives me the freedom to be my own person.

  • @Strathom1
    @Strathom1 6 днів тому +3

    Love Esther, she puts the relationship things in perspective and tells real stories, she has experienced in her job.❤

  • @kamilaledoux9849
    @kamilaledoux9849 6 днів тому +11

    Soulmates have tight knots ❤ love is forever, if it’s love

    • @lars1480
      @lars1480 День тому

      You are so right Your comment warm me because It looks like you are young so there is hope 😊

  • @user-xs5dp4gw8e
    @user-xs5dp4gw8e 4 дні тому +3

    11:08 conflict is part of relationships. fighting for: care and closeness (do you have my back), respect and recognition (do you value me), power and control (who's priorities matter more).

    • @billseward2274
      @billseward2274 4 дні тому +1

      And as soon as conflict happens, someone bails. The partners are hurt and miserable. The family breaks up. Outcomes for children decline. I don’t think this “freedom” is a 100% good thing. It’s good that someone doesn’t have to be stuck in a bad relationship, but we need to learn that a conflict in relationship doesn’t automatically mean breakup.

  • @michaelpilos
    @michaelpilos 9 годин тому

    Transparency is Efficiency

  • @lars1480
    @lars1480 День тому +1

    I have listen to her and even Got one of her books, but I still disagree a lot on her analyze and it Seem to me she justify her own life and relationship - I have The deepest respect fore people who have Long lasting relationship.

  • @shabaka6145
    @shabaka6145 День тому

    "We hold on to our stories so tightly that we confuse them with the truth."

  • @piusnevitt9711
    @piusnevitt9711 2 дні тому

    Not to many people are taught how to nurture each other so that the emotional bonds last a life time. This is with man and wife and parents to children. The emotional bond is the key to long lasting relationships. My dad used to say, " Blood is thicker that husbands - at least the husbands that do not bond with their mates."

  • @Femme9Wisdom
    @Femme9Wisdom 6 днів тому +2

    The realest thing I’ve heard in a while

  • @eyewisheyemight
    @eyewisheyemight День тому +1

    “Not everything rides on you.” Yeah, especially since learning that everyone has apparently already ridden on YOU?!
    Buh bye!

  • @ligiasommers
    @ligiasommers 7 днів тому +2

    Amazing!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻💝

  • @Ribirs
    @Ribirs 6 днів тому +2

    I agree we should have the thought „I am not special“ although, I do want to have a traditional marriage, and I do not want my partner sleeping around neither thinking that way about someone else. Because I wouldnt do that! We have free will, you can stop a thought. So its easy!

  • @camillegallagher7828
    @camillegallagher7828 6 днів тому

    Love her! And love the Litter Robot! Lol

  • @arekl.9690
    @arekl.9690 День тому

    Dear Esther, at 1:39 - isn't it straight opposite? Isn't that devaluation of honoring respect towards love and it's meaning the sign of bigger and bigger induvidualisation, egocentrism and dividability trend by it's normalisation? I always thougt that culture is supposed to enhace our unique values as human kind, not bring us more back to the animals world...Thanks your work of making and sharing fiercing obesrvations, that may feel liberating. But is is now just let's live in a moment and later as well, so the meanings are just leveled down to the ease of managing issues of the times, instead of building it right and fully? Yes, big work before us...Ough we to be so lazy with that much of available knowlegde than ever before of how to fully make the lives better? Fully cannot anymore?

  • @mikeuptegrove
    @mikeuptegrove День тому

    It seems odd listening to an old lady talk so proudly about this topic. She must be related to Eve.

  • @RecreationalUseOnly
    @RecreationalUseOnly День тому

    It’s hilarious how these girls who go on 5 Hinge/Tinder dates a week and bone those dudes say they are “Monogamous” when they hit 30+ 😂😭

  • @ertongashi488
    @ertongashi488 День тому +1

    Dön't bring in your program people who want to degenerate humenity, please!

  • @helenrussell1434
    @helenrussell1434 7 днів тому +1

    So your saying it’s ok to have 2 lovers at the same time

    • @Strathom1
      @Strathom1 6 днів тому +1

      Yes, why not? May be not at the exact same time.😉🙋‍♂️

    • @helenrussell1434
      @helenrussell1434 6 днів тому +1

      @
      We are all different, some of us are one person at a time and others can juggle two.

    • @lak1294
      @lak1294 4 дні тому +1

      No, she said 1 partner at a time, but possibly more than 1 relationship over a lifetime. People live much longer than in the past. It's hard to keep a marriage going for 30 years or more.

    • @joesoap8125
      @joesoap8125 3 дні тому

      That’s a reinterpretation that is good for you and possibly painful for the other. Do u expect them to stay?

    • @Lovetoloveu01
      @Lovetoloveu01 14 годин тому +1

      U have to trust that each person is using protection when having multiple partners.

  • @rachelross5829
    @rachelross5829 3 дні тому

    One person at a time😂

  • @immers2410
    @immers2410 7 днів тому +1

    FAE, ie, no giving the other the benefit of the doubt

  • @xvgxjimop1234
    @xvgxjimop1234 7 днів тому +1

    another great video, if this makes you tick read 'Magnetic Aura' it will help you a lot

  • @loo9407
    @loo9407 2 дні тому

    I keep trying to tell my wife 😂😂😂 jk

  • @EdelweisSusie
    @EdelweisSusie 6 днів тому +2

    Her silly hairstyle has always bugged me: she has it long on one side (why??), then spends every interview pushing it back behind her ear!!! Very valuable information, though.

  • @SnapshotPT
    @SnapshotPT 6 днів тому

    Esther is obviously lacking in knowledge when it comes to modern dating and the structure of a date. Perhaps 20/30 years ago what she says worked, but not today.