The Real Reason Why Rebound Relationships Happen
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- Опубліковано 7 лис 2024
- What is the real reason why rebound relationships happen? Did your ex want to hurt you? Does your ex think rebound relationships are the best way to get over you? Does your ex think rebound relationships are a way to get revenge on you?
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My ex I was with for 9 years got engaged within 2 weeks of us breaking up, not waiting for her to come back & if she does I don't want her. She definitely can't be alone, what she is doing is the epidimy of a rebound relationship
I’m sorry to that. That must be truly heartbreaking for you.
I hope whatever happens you feel better.
@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks & I'm good man, definitely hurts but I've got my popcorn ready & just waiting for the shit to fall apart, in the meantime of course I'm leveling up slowly but surely. Another stellar video man, keep up the good work, we all really appreciate the time, effort & research you do for the vids.
I appreciate your support. Keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t invest in someone who does not invest in you.
Got Damn brotha, that's cold
@FlavaFabez sounds cold man but that's who she is, very anxious attachment style & she knew I was done putting up with her shit so she rebounded to someone quick who would put up with her shit. It hurts but I'm doing just fine with it, she wasn't the one for me, my only regret is that I should have dumped her sooner.
Thanks for this video, your reflexions on ex's rebounds helped me to stick to my healing journey and fixing my attachment style and other crap from the past. You brilliantly explain uncompatible dumpee dumper dynamics and dumpers state of mind.
Appreciate your kind words 😊
I hope you’re feeling better. Never quit! 💪
@TheLoveFix-Nick Also, could it be a strategy as well to elicit an emotional response from their ex as they've been in nc and they don't like it? I've also heard that these people are orbiters of the person that rebounds that have been waiting for their chance. So likely the rebounder knows the person or met them during the relationship but didn't act on it as they were in the relationship but contacts them as soon as they feel the 3 reasons for rebounding. 👍🏻
I highly doubt it , but let’s assume that were true, it’s a shitty thing to do and it tells you everything about their character.
Thanks nick. Great video as always mate
Thanks, I hope it can help.
Mine reconnected with someone she dated before me (3 months before me) that she said "he meant nothing". I'm disgusted of her.
Why are you disgusted of her my friend?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick because she lied to me during the relationship that she "blocked and deleted" her exes on everything. Which I find out later that she didn't. She said, "he didn't mean anything", but saw him following her pet's page. Now they're mutual on her main page. I'm disgusted because she not only lied and I brought it to her attention after our break up, she has the audacity to be mutual with him now. I'm disgusted because she wasn't who said she was and who I believed she was.
I hear you and it’s very painful. But key words here “I’m disgusted because she isn’t who I thought she was.”
She’s not responsible for who you thought she was, that’s on you my friend.
It’s fair enough to feel hurt that it didn’t work out, but being disgusted of her because she didn’t live up to your idea of what you had in your head won’t serve you well.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I totally agree and see your point.
She just portrayed herself as, "I don't stay connected to my exes and you're my person".
I sat in knowing the truth for 7 months and she wondered why I didn't trust her. Meanwhile I knew all along.
What do you think I should do? Lately I have been sooo much better and realized that I didn't lose her, she lost me. Now she can find someone "better who can trust her" but I see this as her finding another victim. She didn't say those words, but she bet on my future, and she is wrong. Lol
I say keep doing the things that made you feel better and let her burn my friend.
We all make our own hell, wish her well with hers and focus on your healing.
Thanks. Hopefully talk soon👍
I rebounded with my ex after I dumped him. I wanted what was comfortable and familiar, and I did not give myself time to heal. After 3 months, he said it wasn't working out, so now we are exes again. Permanently. So now I have the time to work on loving myself.
That sucks, but maybe that second time round, gave you the clarity you needed to move forward.
My ex is fearful avoidant. He expressed deep feelings which activated his fears. He did a slow fade and eventually monkey branched. He was running from his fears. The new relationship was aided by her family. Our relationship was mostly good. Avoidants cannot communicate their wants or needs. He actually wanted to keep me as a friend. Nope. I let him go. NC forever for me. Never again with an avoidant.
sounds like my story. such a heartbreaking experience. i wish you well.
Thanks for the video Nick Nick,
My pleasure buddy. I hope it’s helping.
Would you say that the things you said also apply to monkey branching?
In the beginning of your speech you mentioned anger as one of the reasons why they rebound. Do you mean they’re angry because they’re frustrated with the fact that “the relationship failed”, even though they were pretty much responsible for this as well? As you said, many dumpers don’t communicate well their needs and decide to abandon the ship right away, without even trying things out, like couples therapy.
Can these things apply to a monkey branch? I would say so, but a monkey branch is emotional cheating. People cheat because their needs are not being met. It doesn’t mean they should cheat, it’s merely how they’ve chosen to handle how they feel.
The reason for someone’s anger is not something I can speculate on. All I’m saying that is I’ve dealt with people who rebounded to make themselves feel better by hurting their ex with a rebound.
@@TheLoveFix-NickMy ex monkey branched to a guy who is almost 13 years younger than her, 20 years younger than me. She wrote on her journal that he had bad breath and was chubby, confessing that she doesn’t really find him attractive. And said to her “friend” on WhatsApp that he was not her type but he’s what’s available. (I know these things because I read it all. Wrong, of course, but I knew she was hiding something and that something was going on between them). She gaslighted me all the time.
She said to me in the beginning of our 11 years relationship that in order to be able to breakup with her first boyfriend she had to cheat on him (what a red flag I’ve ignored, uh?!). Then eleven years later she apparently repeated the same strategy. So it seems this monkey branching wasn’t just normal cheating but it’s the only way she knows to end a relationship. And of course to avoid being alone. There are many other things involved (like being influenced by friends and the people she started hanging out with), but that’s too many details to write here.
I was her third partner and I guess she just didn’t do that to the second one because he dumped her first.
Ahh man that’s painful and I’m sorry you had to experience that. But as you say the red flags were there. You must ask yourself why you ignored them?
As painful as this is man, she taught you exactly the lesson you needed to learn. Be sure to pay attention to it.
It will be okay, but there is a long painful road ahead. Each step will level you up.
Be kind to yourself.
@@TheLoveFix-NickThank you! Yes, red flags were there and even though I ignored them, my brain kept them in my memory as a form of defence, because somehow some of the things she did just didn’t seem right. We both are pretty codependent, in different ways though. I’ve been working on this with a psychologist.
As for the red flags, it is only when shit happens that we revisit the past and analyse the things we ignored and that our brain preserved because deep there we know there’s something wrong with it.
Stay on your journey man. I’m glad to hear you’re working with a therapist. Self work never stops.
are rebounds forgivable?
Can the dumpee be guilty of using a rebound to get over being dumped (during divorce after 14 years together )
Yes. It’s an emotional response to the breakup.
what about my ex's rebound, he has a long distance relationship. I mean we were together for 5 years and my ex's family found a new girl for him and they are together now but dating long distance and also my ex still sends me food he cooks and also sometimes sends signals that sometimes confuse me, please give me advice
As per my other response, remove yourself from the situation. Don’t be anyone’s back up option.
My ex got in a relationship 4 days after our 2 year relationship and are getting married within 4 months. What do I do?
That’s brutal man, I’m sorry.
My friend, you do nothing and work on your healing and growth.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick thank you! That’s what I will do.
You’ve got this 💪💪💪
My ex was with me for 3 months from February to late May. She decided to go on a break for a little over a week. She then decided to finally break up with me, and I said some stuff she called narcissistic and manipulative. But I was just hurt and I didn’t mean the things I said. She then went onto a rebound relationship on my birthday when I figured out a few days after my birthday. Went no contact and now I’m here at the same job and the same school. While her rebound is long distance.
Sorry to that. It sounds heartbreaking.
I hope you’re feeling better today.
Hey Nick, im kind of in an annoying situation and may have made mistakes
My ex got together with one of my best friends and im still pretty good friends with her
We had an on-off relation ship
But my question is how do i continue
I know shes hurt and i am to
Ouch.
Firstly. One of your best friends? Where I come from friends don’t do such things.
Can you honestly be friends with her knowing she’s with your friend?
Is being friends with her enough for you?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick it just feels like somethings missing by just being friends with her
Then it’s not enough buddy. It’s okay to not be friends with her. Put yourself first.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick alr then thx
Thanks
This is crap. If they jump into a rebound and get ran through they are nasty terrible people
That’s merely your projection, and that’s okay.
Someone rebounding doesn’t align with YOUR worldview, so you deem it terrible!
Is rebounding a healthy response to a breakup. Probably not, but that doesn’t make them a bad person just because you don’t agree with their actions.
Eyes open, my friend.
I hope you feel better.