My husband follows the principles of stoicism and has brought me along for the ride. It's changing my life for the better. Howdy from a fellow Austinite 👋
Do try to compete for stoic superiority with him. He’s your companion. Not your competitor. Many women forget this in today’s relationships with feminism in their ears. You both have different biological makeup and they should complement each other. Just passing along some advice. Have a great day.
My dream is to have a partner who lives their life with primarily stoic principles. Your husband is so lucky. You don't realize how much value you provide as a female knowing this. Stoicism destroys all weaknesses that primarily females have.
@@jaxnlavell I’m 60 and just started watching Ryan. It’s making my life soooooo much easier. I wish l got stoic, well basically as a child. I would’ve been more successful and a MUCH better romantic partner. Stoicism gets a bad rap, but l think only by people who don’t really understand it.
Wow, this hit home for me. The part about accepting what happens. My first born suffered a birth injury and he has a severe lifelong disability. I realized years ago that I needed to change my perspective to not remain resentful and angry. In an effort to do that, I tried to embrace my belief that everything happens for a reason and to find a reason for what happened. Was it to make me a better person than I would have been without him? Was it to give him a better life? But I find (19 years later) that I still sometimes struggle to not get angry or resent about what I can’t do (go on normal vacation, work a 9-5 job, have a pet, etc) or be because of my responsibility to care for him. My husband seems to have accepted “it is what it is” and moved on …. I haven’t been able to do that I guess. I never really realized it until this video where he talks about accepting 100% what happens and moving on. “You can shake your fists at the sky, but unless you accept 100% what happened, you can’t move forward.” 💥 I think that is the answer I’ve been looking for - I need to find a way to accept it and move on. Stop looking for a reason to explain happened or even better perspective for looking at what happened … acceptance IS the answer. Sorry to go on an on, but this has been a sort of epiphany for me. I really appreciate you for posting this and realize now that acceptance needs to be my focus!!
I think part of the way to acceptance is compassion. Don’t look to get rid of your bitterness or resentment like an enemy. They need acceptance as well. So much of what I have seen Ryan explain in Stoic philosophy is echoed in Buddhism. For some excellent teachings on acceptance and compassion, I highly recommend Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield. Tara actually wrote a book called “Radical Acceptance” on this very topic of accepting what life gives you and how to approach it.
The questions 01:09 1. How do you plan ahead? 02:33 2. How do you improve? 03:30 3. How do you prepare? 04:45 4. How do you develop habits? 05:59 5. How do you deal with uncertainty? 09:03 6. How do you create autonomy?
@@geoffgentry You're referring to James Clear These people are in Ryan's description of the video, but also putting them here: 1. James Clear 2. Tim Ferris 3. Robert Greene 4. James Clear 5. Jocko Willink 6. James Clear
@@johnyp03 Thanks. I had figured out that is James Clear. I thought, this guy's approach sounds just like James Clear. So I looked up an image of James Clear. Duh...
10:07... "Every action you take is a vote for the kind of person you want to become." Wow. Mic drop after that one! 👍👍👍 If you become angry you want to be an angry person. If you react positively you vote to be a positive person. I love this!!!! I know I will ponder this for a few days! Thanks for posting, Ryan! You rock!
Thinking in terms of strategy vs theory ('how' to achieve a desired outcome vs 'if' a desired outcome could be achieved) made all the difference in changing my life's trajectory for the better.
01:09 1. What is the magical ambitious outcome? and work back from that. 02:33 2. Stop complaining for 21days. 03:30 3. Prepare for any uncertainy. 04:45 4. Create habits routines to get into the flow state . 05:59 5. Embrace 100% not 99% of your situation right now. 09:03 6. Habits creates freedom. What habits can you build today?
Love that you identified Sir Alfred Hitchcock as a stoic, " the greatest of the twentieth-century." His work was, for me, deeply meditative. And he spend a lot of time reading. Only such a person could create such stunning works as Vertigo and Shadow of a Doubt. Cinematic works that seemingly look deep into the human soul. And the yes it was often noted the Hitchcock sat unengaged and bored while on the set of a movie, quoted saying "It's only a movie." Droll and keenly perceptive. A true stoic.
' Ego is the enemy' or as I have heard it "ego is not my amigo".... This is a very important step in understanding and growth. I have struggled with ego for my whole life. The culture I grew up around forced me to build an ego to protect and succeed. The reversal of this ego is a monumental task. If I can offer advice I would suggest that we look at our actions and emotions and determine if it is ego driving the situation. If it is ego; try to break it down into simple parts and change the perception. Only in catching myself in an ego-filled situation have I been able to retard my ego. I still have an ego and will continue to work on it day by day, moment by moment.. I think that is the key to growth... NOT the successful banishment of ego but the continuous effort to lessen its hold.
Your videos sparked me into getting interested in Stoicism and your book courage is calling. Im just beginning but finding nuggets of wisdom along this path
If you need some motivation right now, a vanlifer friends of ours just got both his legs amputates due to diabetis (yes he lives alone in a van). Not once did he complain or give up, he knew that was coming and is going forward so positively. Gotta say, he has a?great community around him. Check out his channel it's called Jeffie Bear 💜
It was great to get a wake up reminder from James clear that we cannot possibly follow a schedule everyday and all the time. I have tried to make it work that way, and only find myself getting frustrated when I miss one thing.
I have complained about if a better dad could change things and find a useful response in being raised again by Marcus Aurelius, I find myself more productive and realistic, and not so easy to distract away from my path. Also brings calm.
Fantastic Channel. I am an incredibly passionate person with strong values of fairness and justice based on present interactions. I get heated too easily yet have many stoic traits and goals. This channel is a great help
Habits are freedom. Being able to impose habits on myself gives me the freedom thin, the freedom to learn to play a new instrument or a new language, or a new topic in mathematics. If you cannot impose habits on yourself your’ re in the prison of your laziness.
Mr. Holiday, thank you so much. I appreciate you do this. I am limited in words at the severe appreciation. My only repayment is living my life. (other than supporting The Painted Porch of course hehe)
Awesome video Ryan. To offer some constructive criticism, the "clicking" in and out of the photos was a bit distracting from the message, but it may just be a personal thing for me. An example would be at the 6:50 mark.
I live by these mottos. I recently launched my youtube channel and will be sharing what I have learned in life. Hopefully someone finds them useful one day.
another motivating vid, hope someday my mind and body will find a balance in stoicism, Ryan, would you please give a hint on a perfect tune starting at 4:43? I’ve heard it a few times in different vids on this channel, however, Shazam is not that potent
I tend to believe that having an alternative or 2, routines or variations of.. just to not get in a rut, or bored i guess. As well as a means of adjusting for all lifes monkey wrenches tossed in the mix.. Moments of or being spontaneous can be quite beneficial as well.. I also find having a simple code or Creedo... a core believe is worth having... but the most significant point for me anyways, was when i finally realized/believed... significance, relevance, .. one and only one opinion matters, mine... and the only person to be compared to or in competition with, is my former self.. I count myself fortunate that i always believed or sensed that life unfolds as it should. If lifes events were meant to happen any other way.. then it would have.
Ryan love your stuff, but would invite you to consider a more diverse speaker panel for videos like this. 5 white dudes who are completely oblivious to their own priviledge, giving tips on how to be effective, just comes off as naive and patronizing...
I don't understand this exercise with the metal weight swinging it up and low, which is target muscle exactly? Don't you have fear that when it is coming down it crashes in your balls?
The comment "acid does more damage to the it's container than to anything you pour it on" is false. There is a safe container for every acid (e.g., nitric acid should be stored in a 304 stainless steel container which it won't react with). Basic chemistry stuff
Would love to discover vids like this without the cliched "inspirational music" playing throughout. If the information is good, there is no need for it. I find it a distraction and slightly insincere. Thanks anyway
What a fake stoic, stoicism its not a philosophy to be recording videos and earning money from it. Just grab a good book from the real stoics and change your life, just for you
6."Begin at once to live, and count each separate day as a separate life."
-Seneca.
My husband follows the principles of stoicism and has brought me along for the ride. It's changing my life for the better. Howdy from a fellow Austinite 👋
Second this 💪
Kim Possible making an appearance on the The Daily Stoic comment section. I can definitely appreciate that.🙏🏽
Do try to compete for stoic superiority with him. He’s your companion. Not your competitor. Many women forget this in today’s relationships with feminism in their ears. You both have different biological makeup and they should complement each other. Just passing along some advice. Have a great day.
My dream is to have a partner who lives their life with primarily stoic principles. Your husband is so lucky. You don't realize how much value you provide as a female knowing this. Stoicism destroys all weaknesses that primarily females have.
@@jaxnlavell I’m 60 and just started watching Ryan. It’s making my life soooooo much easier. I wish l got stoic, well basically as a child. I would’ve been more successful and a MUCH better romantic partner. Stoicism gets a bad rap, but l think only by people who don’t really understand it.
Wow, this hit home for me. The part about accepting what happens. My first born suffered a birth injury and he has a severe lifelong disability. I realized years ago that I needed to change my perspective to not remain resentful and angry. In an effort to do that, I tried to embrace my belief that everything happens for a reason and to find a reason for what happened. Was it to make me a better person than I would have been without him? Was it to give him a better life? But I find (19 years later) that I still sometimes struggle to not get angry or resent about what I can’t do (go on normal vacation, work a 9-5 job, have a pet, etc) or be because of my responsibility to care for him. My husband seems to have accepted “it is what it is” and moved on …. I haven’t been able to do that I guess. I never really realized it until this video where he talks about accepting 100% what happens and moving on. “You can shake your fists at the sky, but unless you accept 100% what happened, you can’t move forward.” 💥 I think that is the answer I’ve been looking for - I need to find a way to accept it and move on. Stop looking for a reason to explain happened or even better perspective for looking at what happened … acceptance IS the answer. Sorry to go on an on, but this has been a sort of epiphany for me. I really appreciate you for posting this and realize now that acceptance needs to be my focus!!
Good luck with that lori👍
Thanks for sharing your journey. I felt that line a lot as well.
I am following the same journey. Your comment helped me. Thank you.
@@jolynnhaymaker7831 I am so glad!!
I think part of the way to acceptance is compassion. Don’t look to get rid of your bitterness or resentment like an enemy. They need acceptance as well. So much of what I have seen Ryan explain in Stoic philosophy is echoed in Buddhism. For some excellent teachings on acceptance and compassion, I highly recommend Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield. Tara actually wrote a book called “Radical Acceptance” on this very topic of accepting what life gives you and how to approach it.
The questions
01:09 1. How do you plan ahead?
02:33 2. How do you improve?
03:30 3. How do you prepare?
04:45 4. How do you develop habits?
05:59 5. How do you deal with uncertainty?
09:03 6. How do you create autonomy?
Who is the guy in the black hoodie answering question 1?
@@geoffgentry
You're referring to James Clear
These people are in Ryan's description of the video, but also putting them here:
1. James Clear
2. Tim Ferris
3. Robert Greene
4. James Clear
5. Jocko Willink
6. James Clear
@@johnyp03 Thanks. I had figured out that is James Clear. I thought, this guy's approach sounds just like James Clear. So I looked up an image of James Clear. Duh...
10:07... "Every action you take is a vote for the kind of person you want to become." Wow. Mic drop after that one! 👍👍👍 If you become angry you want to be an angry person. If you react positively you vote to be a positive person. I love this!!!! I know I will ponder this for a few days!
Thanks for posting, Ryan! You rock!
That part from Jocko... Really what I needed today. Thank you Ryan and crew for posting! Keep it up!
Thinking in terms of strategy vs theory ('how' to achieve a desired outcome vs 'if' a desired outcome could be achieved) made all the difference in changing my life's trajectory for the better.
At the :05 mark it looks like you are on fire
Haha now I can't unsee it. 😅
He is, but he's not fazed by it at all. It's the stoicism.
That's because he is LOL 😄👍
@@chatastic2008 exactly my thought
My man's on fire 🔥🔥
01:09 1. What is the magical ambitious outcome? and work back from that.
02:33 2. Stop complaining for 21days.
03:30 3. Prepare for any uncertainy.
04:45 4. Create habits routines to get into the flow state
.
05:59 5. Embrace 100% not 99% of your situation right now.
09:03 6. Habits creates freedom. What habits can you build today?
Love that you identified Sir Alfred Hitchcock as a stoic, " the greatest of the twentieth-century." His work was, for me, deeply meditative. And he spend a lot of time reading. Only such a person could create such stunning works as Vertigo and Shadow of a Doubt. Cinematic works that seemingly look deep into the human soul. And the yes it was often noted the Hitchcock sat unengaged and bored while on the set of a movie, quoted saying "It's only a movie." Droll and keenly perceptive. A true stoic.
'
Ego is the enemy' or as I have heard it "ego is not my amigo".... This is a very important step in understanding and growth. I have struggled with ego for my whole life. The culture I grew up around forced me to build an ego to protect and succeed. The reversal of this ego is a monumental task. If I can offer advice I would suggest that we look at our actions and emotions and determine if it is ego driving the situation. If it is ego; try to break it down into simple parts and change the perception. Only in catching myself in an ego-filled situation have I been able to retard my ego. I still have an ego and will continue to work on it day by day, moment by moment.. I think that is the key to growth... NOT the successful banishment of ego but the continuous effort to lessen its hold.
I love the clicking sound in this video when Lewis Puller is introduced. subtle detail has not gone unappreciated
Your videos sparked me into getting interested in Stoicism and your book courage is calling. Im just beginning but finding nuggets of wisdom along this path
If you need some motivation right now, a vanlifer friends of ours just got both his legs amputates due to diabetis (yes he lives alone in a van). Not once did he complain or give up, he knew that was coming and is going forward so positively. Gotta say, he has a?great community around him. Check out his channel it's called Jeffie Bear 💜
It was great to get a wake up reminder from James clear that we cannot possibly follow a schedule everyday and all the time. I have tried to make it work that way, and only find myself getting frustrated when I miss one thing.
Quality insight as always. Much appreciated 🙏
This is such a great video with a lot of valuable lessons! Thanks Ryan!
I have complained about if a better dad could change things and find a useful response in being raised again by Marcus Aurelius, I find myself more productive and realistic, and not so easy to distract away from my path. Also brings calm.
Marcus Aurelius: "Our life is what our thoughts make it."
Fantastic Channel. I am an incredibly passionate person with strong values of fairness and justice based on present interactions. I get heated too easily yet have many stoic traits and goals. This channel is a great help
9:10 “I don’t want to be a robot… I don’t know anybody who is like that”
**Shows Ryan**
great video. I had to watch it twice. so good.
I love this channel. It nourishes my mind. Thank you. Peace.
This is the real reset discussion with self.
These questions.
Great video ...
The question 5 really resonated with me. Amazing and powerful. ❤️👍❤️👍
YOU'RE MY MENTOR. I DEEPLY THANKING YOU RYAN!
Keep these types of vids coming.
Good job.
Share these with the young in your family and community.
I wish you’d address the challenges that people with ADD/ADHD have with habits and consistency.
Habits are freedom. Being able to impose habits on myself gives me the freedom thin, the freedom to learn to play a new instrument or a new language, or a new topic in mathematics. If you cannot impose habits on yourself your’ re in the prison of your laziness.
Great, great stuff!
Excellent video. I'll need to re-watch this one from time to time.
Thank you so much for your content! It’s highly appreciated.
Mr. Holiday, thank you so much. I appreciate you do this. I am limited in words at the severe appreciation. My only repayment is living my life. (other than supporting The Painted Porch of course hehe)
Awesome questions. Stuck up on the meditation board.
Who is the bloke in #5 speaking about the Vietnam Vets?
We have you as mentor, Ryan.
Thank you Ryan, appreciate you.
This is FANTASTIC. Thanks.
Thank you
Thank you Mr. Holiday
Awesome video Ryan. To offer some constructive criticism, the "clicking" in and out of the photos was a bit distracting from the message, but it may just be a personal thing for me. An example would be at the 6:50 mark.
Wow, that's a good one
Thank you Ryan!
I'm a new follower from Kenya, Nandi
Thank you for the message of encouragement, I needed it so much!
Enjoyed this one.
Amazing powerfull, Ryan! Thanks a lot!
I live by these mottos. I recently launched my youtube channel and will be sharing what I have learned in life. Hopefully someone finds them useful one day.
another motivating vid, hope someday my mind and body will find a balance in stoicism, Ryan, would you please give a hint on a perfect tune starting at 4:43? I’ve heard it a few times in different vids on this channel, however, Shazam is not that potent
Really liked this one , thanks
I tend to believe that having an alternative or 2, routines or variations of.. just to not get in a rut, or bored i guess. As well as a means of adjusting for all lifes monkey wrenches tossed in the mix.. Moments of or being spontaneous can be quite beneficial as well.. I also find having a simple code or Creedo... a core believe is worth having... but the most significant point for me anyways, was when i finally realized/believed... significance, relevance, .. one and only one opinion matters, mine... and the only person to be compared to or in competition with, is my former self..
I count myself fortunate that i always believed or sensed that life unfolds as it should. If lifes events were meant to happen any other way.. then it would have.
2:44 That isn't how chemistry works at all. How do you think acid is stored and transported?
Those pesky habits, so hard to maintain! An area of improvement for my future.
Really good, Thank you
Amazing how some people can talk so mutch without actualy saying anything...
Habits do not restrict freedom, they create it. AMEN
Great meditation to start the day=]
Thank you 😊
Great advice here mate!
Love this video!
Good one!!!
Subscribed 🙏🏼
Surely a vessel with the ability to contain acid would be acid proof?
Is that last dude James Clear?
Listened 01.27.23
wow just wow!!
Commenting for the algorithm
Please explain how the 48 Laws of Power relates to stoicism or excellence. I mean, I must be wrong but when I read it I was disgusted.
Keep your English is easy for understanding your video.
Cyrus has Ryan Holiday. 😂🙏
8:35
you need to improve those kettlebell swings - you can have that for free
who is the magic dude?
3:30 I said Bruce Willis lol.
♥️♥️♥️
I hit the 'like button'... Now I'm not so sure... It just got a bit too macho ego fettling for me... Looking forward to the next vid though.
Does anyone happen to know where I can listen these videos without that distracting piano music?
you could try the podcasts
Alfred Hitchcock was also obese and was likely a diabetic, hence why he was always sleeping.
Please, please improve your kettlebell swings, they are terrib.. they are very improvable:)
Ryan love your stuff, but would invite you to consider a more diverse speaker panel for videos like this. 5 white dudes who are completely oblivious to their own priviledge, giving tips on how to be effective, just comes off as naive and patronizing...
I don't understand this exercise with the metal weight swinging it up and low, which is target muscle exactly? Don't you have fear that when it is coming down it crashes in your balls?
It's called a kettlebell. And he's doing kettlebell swings. It exercises your back/posterior chain.
He’s doing kettlebell swings with very bad form. Do not copy this!
The comment "acid does more damage to the it's container than to anything you pour it on" is false. There is a safe container for every acid (e.g., nitric acid should be stored in a 304 stainless steel container which it won't react with). Basic chemistry stuff
When people say things like that - so obviously false - it makes me question everything they say
@@johnmiller8946 Yeah, there are snake oil salesman everywhere. Even in the stoic community it seems.
Ur talking zen
I'm Ukrainian. Stoicism helps me in the war
Would love to discover vids like this without the cliched "inspirational music" playing throughout. If the information is good, there is no need for it. I find it a distraction and slightly insincere. Thanks anyway
What a fake stoic, stoicism its not a philosophy to be recording videos and earning money from it. Just grab a good book from the real stoics and change your life, just for you
If you look at it that way..maybe he just wants to help people and earning is just outcome or bonus,its his choice and people choice to watch it..
Thank you 😊
Thank you