3 Habits That Will Kill Your Dreams | Mel Robbins
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If you just can’t seem to get started no matter what you do, this video is for you.
There is nothing wrong with you. You aren’t lazy, you aren’t unmotivated, and you definitely you aren’t incapable. Repeat after me: there is nothing wrong with you.
You just have habits that are getting in the way of your dreams. And that’s great news! Why? Because you can change any habit.
Watch this to find out what the 3 most common habits that will kill your dreams are, and how you can change them.
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for the people on the go.....
1.procrastination
2.perfectionism
3.waiting to feel motivated
like it to help everyone
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I wish Mel would put this in the comments to begin with
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"you are not a procrastinator... you have the habit to procrastinate ... " this sentence was slap to my face made me leave the bed immediately to make a drawing exercice that i procrastinated all day long to make ....
yes!!! take action now, stop waiting to feel motivated, stop waiting to be "perfect", just start!!! you'll get better and better.... and.... better!!!!
Actually procrastinating stresses me out even more because I'm not doing what I need to get done.
You are diciplined. And you are comfortable with being uncomfortable. I commend you on it. Its a create thing
What's funny is that the act of procrastinating is, in fact, stress relieving, but the stacking of such procrastination inevitably lends itself to more stress, as you say, due to the fact that you are often compounding the effort needed to complete the task, whereas it could have been a much less stressful thing by just taking that first step.
She is certainly right in that it is a habit and one that you can and must break. I still struggle with it to this day, but the areas of my life which are affected by my procrastination are dwindling. I am chipping away at the habit.
Lists. To-do lists have become my very best friend on this regard. The endorphins from crossing things off the list is what keep me going.
@@b1_ferg What also helped me a lot, as to-do lists often get too cluttered in my case, .... taking a sheet of paper, writing down the time when i start working on one thing, and writing down when i stop(start a break). Then writing down again when i continue ..... even if it's just in 15min (or even less!) steps ..... looking at the growing list of starts and stops, reaffirms me that i ACTUALLY can get stuff done! Instead of beating myself up for not doing anything. Once i really get into it, it also really encourages me to "add another timeblock" to my list of todays achievements.
It's not yet perfect, but it totally helped me tackle the uncomfortableness that procrastination caused in me, and also helped me get started easier.
@@alexschwarz4749 oh hey thank you, this tip is gold
"The mistakes are where all the learning is." Such a valuable lesson and not taught in school. In fact, it's the opposite.
Although Jim Rohn said it’s better to learn from other people’s mistakes, life is too short to keep spinning your own wheels.
Why wasn't it teached in your school ? Un our poor post USSR country we were told to make mistakes while learning. In school. Any student could use this philosofy everywere in a live.
@@SmeWnulya It's not an easy answer. Mistakes are looked on as failure. Add in punishment, public humiliation, and embarrassment and you learn very quickly that it's not OK to make mistakes. It's more important to score higher on tests with the right answers. Students, teachers, and schools are judged based on their test scores. Real learning understands that mistakes are a part of learning, not "wrong." Rote memorization is valued over critical thinking or curiosity, and obedience is valued over creativity. Politicians, who have no background in education, child development, or neuroscience, make policies based on measurement and performance. They have made what's measurable important instead of what's important, measurable. It's a broken system, and even those who are graduated from high school have spent their lives doing paperwork.
@@georgehristov8874 I think the point is that schools don't allow that mistakes are a part of learning, not a failure. Now if you keep doing the same thing over and getting the same result, as Jim would say, then change your approach.
My partner is constantly trying to unteach those who are afraid to make mistakes in college. I think it stems from perfectionism more than what any teacher is teaching. There seems to be a lot of pressure on the younger generation to be perfectionist. They are afraid to fail. He encourages them to fail and just try. I taught sewing and honestly the more you do it the better you get! That’s how I became a professional! Just keep doing it.
1. Procrastination
2. Perfectionism
3. Waiting to feel motivated
"3 habits that will prove that once again Mel Robbins is killing it"
I've been a seasoned expert with all 3 habits for quite some time.
I'll trump your 'expert' level with Grandmaster Procrastinator 😁
@@PhoenixProdLLC And I'll trump your Grandmaster with a cherry on top🍒😭
How do I describe Mel Robbins to mates: There's always science in everything she talks about. Provides advice in real-time.
This is the first time I hear the waiting disease. I laughed a lot. It's so true, sad and funny at the same time. Why on earth have I allowed diseases in myself?
I heard about you Mel in September I believe, last year. I just wanted to thank and congratulate you for sharing your knowledge to the world. It's helped me so much and deeply to unlock the keys to my own success, and for that Mel, I'm forever grateful.
Peace and big-dreaming there!
I agree, getting started is the most important and difficult step. Especially if the goal is one that takes time. I have recently been watching the channel and enjoy the informative content.
"Stop waiting" the best phrasal in my Life. 👍🏼
The 3rd habit: Waiting to feel motivated - Couldn't agree more to this! So true
✨Yes! You could not be more correct. In my life, I have struggled with all three at different times. I finally was able to give up perfectionism, which changed my life completely. It’s so important that we look at our mindset and mental habits and really be aware of the things that are secretly holding us back. Thanks for being amazing, Mel! It’s incredible how much we can change our lives when we have true self-awareness. ♥️
I LOVE YOU MEL! I so appreciate that you are so REAL and completely transparent! I needed to hear this today as I am a week behind on Best Decade assignments from being sick for a week.
This is by far the most important video you've ever put out. This affects me every day. And there is so much that changes when you just jump out there and do it. Thank you Mel!
I need to watch this every day! Thank you Mel! I love the clapping and stomping at the beginning and end of the video!
Exactly what I needed to hear, those habits have been lifelong...it's time for a change! I like the idea of bringing thoughts back to the frontal cortex.
This video just stepped on every last one of my toes and feelings, and I couldn’t be happier.
I know there’s thousands of other people watching this but it was like she was sitting at my kitchen table looking me square in my eyes and talking directly to me. 🙏🙏
I think I need to watch this video everyday. Procrastination (or the habit) has been my biggest downfall.
What is the trick to feel motivated for change.... the unknown seems life threatening.. when your life is in limbo.. Mel always great to listen to .
Smashing, as always! Thank you, Mel))
Sometimes we all need to hear the truth. Preach Mel! 🙏🏻👏🏻
I think I'm going to start my mornings off with this video. Best 4 min video I think I've ever seen. I wish I had you as a personal coach for a week. I know my life and mindset would be totally refocused, with clarity and direction.
Excellent summary! Thanks Mel.
Thank you been waiting for you to say this,Much Love David
The most wonderful and inspiring one!
Thanks a million~💕
I love that woman. She puts knowledge out in exactly the way i understand it
Thank you so much for this video Mel, it's simple yet we need to take action and do the work!
Yep, I procrastinate ALL the time ...
T/Y, ❤YOU, Mel Robbins
Wow! Amazing job as always Mel! You inspire me and have helped me overcome some challenges in my life. Also love your show as well. You are genuine and real. You rock! 😁
Oh, Mel! You are such a great teacher. I could be listening to you time after time constantly :) Because of your smartness and knowledge and full of passion personality. It's just great and amazing to me...To be a person like you. I keep on learning from you 'cause that's very precious lessons...My greetings and congrats! :)
You are real time I love your life's purpose Thanks Mel!😙😚
Excellent! Thx Mel.
Alright, I'm going to include this video in my morning routine as a reminder to just start. One day at a time. 🖤
Amazing advice Mel!
#2 hit me most. I love (watching and listening to everything you post) you because of your "authenticity" and the #realtalk as what others call it. I'm so grateful I found you 😘
Me too also...! 🙏🏿 🤝🏽😚☺️
Great video Mel! And straight to the point. I struggle with procrastination and perfectionism...ahhhhh! I hate it.
Awesome! Keep up the good work ❤️🎉
Ur just amazing... Esp what you said about perfection is so perfect 👏
This was beneficial for me today. Thanks!
This say's a whole lot of important, real quick. Thanks
Thank you!
All three points are right on point.
u help me alot and thank u for that
Epic. Thank you. 💕
This is the absolute truth!
thanku ma'am☺❤
Yes 👏👏👏 thank you
I found your videos always helpful thank you
Thank you. 💫✨
Seriously you are my hero. I wish I could meet you.
I absolutely love this video. Aaaand whats that song though? Because it gets me super pumped!
1. True, 2. True, 3. True. Thanks, I can so relate
Damn this is gold! Back to work I go! 😤 No more stress relief! I must get my dreams damnit!
Beautiful Minds.... Have faith in urself before starting any work.
Great video.. 👏👏👏
Three nails and one hammer of a video. You stabbed in the feels with this one in relation to editing my next YT video. I need to write this on the wall or something.
Excellent, thank you Mel and Staff. And if you do make a minor mistake that you feel is HUGE in the moment, it is usually forgotten by all … shortly. This is what I always tell myself. I used to dwell on it for days because I was raised to be a perfectionist, and I have had to work on it, in order to grow. ❣
I just watched this video as a way of stress relieving -go me!
Where have you been all my life ??? ;)
I love you, you are amazing ! Thank you so much, this is so helpful ;) Love from Magnus in Norway
Love the bump music
Good advice although sometimes waiting is essential but its more like timing it rather than just waiting. Haha I'm no giant success but I've seen and have myself failed from being to impatient and not waiting.
Ma'am, you nailed it 👍
Love it
Yes!
Mel Robbins...is a Human version of Yoda... this video is definitely true about everything she discussed... what a beautiful video...Thank u...🤗😊👏
I love Mel
Maim u r great mentor
Easier said than done. To undo each of the 3 habits, a very long way to go.
#2 you got me dead to rights on that one😂
excellent. stress is my life.
My reasons for procrastination are strange, at least I have not heard anyone else having this problem. My procrastination is something like ''delaying a pleasure''. Instead of doing what I should (writing, drawing), I revel in the idea that it's waiting for me later. Like there is something fun on my schedule and I proceed doing anything else, enjoying that feeling.
Mel....54321... Is superb technique for me....thank you
Guess I best look at that 'Best Decade Ever Dreambook' that you emailed me 3 weeks ago then... 👀
I had to hear it again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you! My procrastination brought me to this video! :"> *Subscribed!*
🙋🏻♀️ this is me all of them!
Each of these habits are very deadly to your dreams but I believe procrastination is the most important to overcome. If we never get started we will never get to reaching our dreams. Appreciate this video Mel.
Very good video
I like this one
No 2 triggers No 1 for me - I won’t start until I know it’s going to be perfect.
We knew these when we decided to have kids..if we waited, it would never happen. So we had two kids ...then both our mothers died the same year and for 20 years we've stagnated and been battered by life...this needs to end.
Much love to you and your family. :)
Hi mel, hope ur having an awesome week :) I suffer from bipolar disorder, I am currently setting up a therapist and sighing up for yoga. but in the mean time, I was wondering if you had any tips to help me on the bad days.... Again hope ur having an awesome week
Thank you for everything your friend,
Jon G :)
I guess it depends on what a bad day looks like for you...what works for me is to put my focus on gratitude (noticing and appreciating things how good food tastes for example) Also I use Mel's 321 method and do something like have a shower or tidy my space a little, so that I am not sitting there wallowing in anxious thought patterns. Hope that helps
Hello mam!!!
Honestly I really educate & elatedly motivated on your v-clips.
#keep_it_up.
Just what i wanted to hear 🖐️
Jesus, it is very true... I knew about these already, but all together in this short video... it is strong. And I am doing all of them very often (if not all the time). As I started #bestdecadeever program I think I do procrastination less (maybe almost stopped in some parts of my life) and I am getting more conscious about my perfectionism... so step by step I'm getting better :) Sometimes I can still wait for I-don't-know-what (maybe I am just slow XD ) but I try to be more conscious about that too. Thank you, Mel!
I never thought of procastination in this light of stress release.
Channel Subscribed..😄😄👍
on the flip side, read what author and social scientist Adam Grant says about procrastination....some of it can actually be beneficial.
Good video
When you want to do something. But if u think about it and have doubt then it dont happen
anyone knows the title of the song?
As Miguel and Tulio once said: "I was simply demonstrating the first avoidance maneuver".
I had 3 things to do today.
I did all 3,
But I could have done 6
I want to put in 12 hours but I only have enough work for 8 hours
I’ve stopped waiting
Procrastination is the thief of time
can someone explain to me why the captions for this video are only available in Russian?? ❓ 👀
No.2 is my problem.
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You are the besyt! Thank you for this. I needed it