I just married in samar in december .. its not rocket science .. treat your wife with total respect .. and work hard to show your respect . Filipinas are great women . Especially province women . . Feeling blessed with my asawa
I've lived in the Philippines several years, so blessed to call this country home. All of us are wanting something different in retirement, for me it's a simple life close to God and nature. I prefer my partner not work and to take care of the home and me. I help her with the things she needs to live well and also support her family when needed, she looks after me and the home. IMHO most province girls have simple values that align with mine especially as I age, she is happy with a relaxed life and so am I. Life is good, take care always and God bless.
Yep, I completely agree. If she is working she's worrying about two priorities in her life, Work and Family _ if she is has a job there is no way around that. So if you want to be the king in the house, then make her the queen so she can focus on the family. Step up Gents, do what you need to do to increase your income and make it happen.
Very true if she works. I don’t mind sharing duties cooking cleaning are things I do now for myself. The bottom line is if two people are committed to each other they can make it work.
Traditions need to be redefined with changing times, conditions, and circumstances. What was true before isn't anymore. All relationships are based upon communication, cooperation, and compromise, and require mutual respect and support by both partners in order to succeed.
On one hand it's true that at today's prices 2 incomes would probably be more ideal...however all you have to do is spend 15 min on Instagram or Facebook and you'll see that the biggest problem (at least in the US) comes down to people's spending habits and the lifestyle that their trying to live....I'm lucky enough to make some pretty decent money and I see people that maybe make 1/3 of what I make taking trips....everyone is eating out everyday...people have wardrobes like celebrities....drinking, smoking, and none of that is free....if more people were ok with the basic fundamentals they'll see that their able make it
I'm not quite sure why your channel came up in my feed, but I've seen a few of your videos. Gotta say that I like your delivery and sharing of ideas. I probably should watch more of them. :)
I talk to many filipina women who are younger than me by a couple years early 20s and they keep telling me they want to work and get a degree even if they live in the province. They tell me they want to make decisions as well in the home and if i make a mistake they think they can supercede me i hear that a lot
Good morning. I'm visiting the Philippines right now. Today is my 8th day here spending time with my lady. We've been LDR for 10 years and we are finally getting close for the fiance visa for her to visit the US. I visit her every year so that way we can spend time together.
@@parabiology1014 I was trying to do a tourist visa first. They kept declining her. And then my mother was getting in the way but she passed away a few years ago so now I'm just waiting for the fiance visa to go through now.
@@steveh1510 she might be one of the high demand lady's but she wouldn't throw me away. She's had every chance to leave my side but she chose me. She's had a chance at more wealthier people, a chance at more attractive people and she chose me every time. She won't leave me by her own choice and if someone tries to force her...well that's when I step in and put that person in their place. People are free to try and tempt her but they are not free to try and force her into anything she doesn't want to do.
A traditional woman only sleeps with a man she thinks is going to potentially be her husband. She is modest in dress. She is kind, caring, loyal, and loving. A traditional man leads by respect. He doesn't tell her what to do, she naturally will follow his leadership because he is worthy and capable of being a leader. A good leader is someone who provides, cares, respects, and loves the people in his life who are important. He realizes his woman is part of his team, and not someone to be bossed around. Everyone has a role in a team. Just because he is the leader, that doesn't mean he is more important than his team. It actually means he has to sacrifice more if necesarry. If things get difficult, he must maintain the peace and harmony and provide stability.
7:50 You're right. Families are an institution, a support system, both financially and socially. The government (politicians) don't want to support a strong family unit because it gives them less leverage over the people. "Oh, you're a single mother and need assistance, don't go to your family. Vote for me and I'll start programs to give you things." Take that example and expand it to every situation where families used to fill the role, and you'll find yourself in the modern landscape of western politics and society.
A traditional man provides stability and security to his family always being a gentleman providing peace of mind. A women never should be placed under a man foot but under his right wing creating a better life as a couple. A traditional woman should support her family and home still having her own dreams in life. If you both work you need support family and home taking on extra responsibilities in your relationship filling in the gaps. A women's maternal instincts will lead them when having children with mother nature being their guide. Always take time to spend with your children raising them right. If you don't Society is willing to mold them that best suits them without the best interest of your children. Personally I can cook, clean, and sew helping out my wife while taking of the rest of my responsibilities when needed. A relationship takes both partners loving and supporting one another to stand the test of time growing old together. Life is never easy but having someone by your side can create a happier future.
I think both parents should try to spend as much time with their kids as possible. So at least one should work maximum part time, preferably both. It depends on the particular work and if it's remote or not. Why have kids in order for some others to raise them? Luckily a couple can save for 2-3 years in Canada to buy land and build a house in PI. The Canadian education system is online and remote now too.
Traditional man is a father and priestly figure as in spiritual and material protector in a broad sense. And a Sacrificial figure as in offering his life for the protection of family and country in a specific way that the woman shouldnt be because woman needs be alive to take care of a future generation.
I worked to provide for my family. She stayed home to rase our two daughters. Once they were out of the home she went to work but it was just so she had something to do:)
"She can't treat you like a king if she's also working"??? Hmmmm, that's gonna start some controversy. My mom didn't have a job outside of the home but she had 11 kids. So don't ever say she wasn't working. Did she treat Dad like a king. Well, she cooked and cleaned and fed him in the traditional way that wives did back then. But what I saw more than her treating him like a king was him acting like she was his queen
While we are able to find very few traditional women here in the United States it is becoming hard to find them. Here In the United States while we have a significant more amount of traditional men they are becoming fewer. We are definitely out of balance. I believe this is due to outside influences, attempting to divide the family and household.
LDR couple in love, you nailed it. I m 62 and live in California, there are so many cultural changes in the American family. There are more single-parent households than married households now. When I grew up in the 60s divorce was unheard of, and the same with almost any kind of welfare; now the government gives many things out for free. The family and America are very much divided now, more so than back in the 60s.
The thing is most guys want a traditional wife but a good 95% of men weren't raised to be traditional husband. And in this day and age two people have to work to survive. And a traditional man should treat his wife with respect and as a equal and both should work as a team.and not expect your wife to do everything.
I know 2 examples where the wife says on her buff and does nothing while their husband's do it all after work. That's just in my family. One problem is this. Both men and women do not know how to choose their mate.
Traditional relationship is an equal partnership between a man and a woman. Treating each other with dignity and respect creating a loving stable long-lasting home life.
Traditional man is one who takes care of his responsibilities such as show his wife that he loves her by providing for her and Teaching his children's to love and respect Their mom.
It’s the woman’s mindset which makes her traditional. A mindset that’s not all about her but about the family and her man. Traditional man would be someone who takes on the roles of providing & protecting & professing his love to her and family. Woman can choose to work but is not needed too.
With both working then the home and family will be neglected. I think many problems come to the home and future if at least one parent isn't in the home, most of the time.
You are correct in all your points. Even in the US a woman finds it difficult to live the traditional role if she also works. There are many that try but few succeed. I was married for 12 years until my wife passed and then I raised my son alone. The first 2 years of our marriage she worked. When she became pregnant she continued working until she gave birth. Something we did that others don’t is we lived on what i made and invested her entire salary. After our son was born she chose to stay home and to be a mother/homemaker.
I think it is funny what you were saying at the end RU. I do most of the cooking in my home, then my son does most of the rest. I clean but my son does more of the cleaning & my daughter does some too. I would drive you crazy though because I do clutter areas. It is just the way my mind works.
Hi Rubeauti, when do you do these Q&A sessions? It this for your Patreons only? Reading them a couple of those guys need to be smacked. LOL This was an interesting video. Take care.
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I believe here in the U.S. government wants both parents working for more income tax coming in. Plus government wants family to be weak. Because weak families are easier to control.
A woman with traditional values has a healthy attitude towards a partnership in which everyone has their responsibilities and rights. As God taught us and as is His idea of a healthy family. husband, wife and children
Great discussion. Relationships involve a lot of give and take. I remember here in the Great Plains, Laoian families sey down roots. They had multi-generational households, started businesses and then went out in separate houses (to my knowledge). They are very industrious.
Wisdom from Rubeauti. So true Rubeauti, Satan uses the government to destroy the family. You have good insight and common sense. Common sense and wisdom comes from God. Great share.
A traditional man is a rock and provider for his wife and family. He is God fearing and moral in actions and doesn’t show disrespect to his woman in public or to his family. (Just remember a true man doesn’t need to respect anyone unless they earn respect from him but a traditional man will not display disrespect towards his woman’s family in front of her family. He will always talk with her in private about his concerns.
To me a traditional woman is a hard working lady but at home. Kids need to be raised well, home needs to be kept presentable. She also will love her husband unconditionally and will enjoy pleasing him. A traditional man will be the rock of the family and make sure his family is living comfortably financially. Making sure his home has what it needs so his family will live in a happy home with no stress. The man will also have to make sure his family doesn't feel trapped or like slaves so he will do what it takes so his family have a good mental state of mind. He too will love his wife unconditionally and enjoy pleasing her. To me if all this is being done, it will be a happy home filled with lots of love.
Are we going to overlook that guy in the live chat @alaity999909 harassing her while she's doing a vlog. Jesus that guy is a desperate animal, I honestly couldn't even focus on her video because he was annoying as hell, I just felt bad for her like she's trying have the live audience interact and help with the subject matter of the vlog and he's annoying the shit out of her and us with cringe comments. Then he said "I tried to meet a Filipina when I went" by that statement I can assume he was unsuccessful and now I see why, he must have been running around harassing every single Filipina that walked by like a dam starving stray puppy.
I think a traditional woman comes down to mindset and values...in the west women put their personal feelings over the family and that's a major red flag....people will say that a traditional man's job is to provide and protect but that's to surface level of a perspective....a traditional man puts his personal wants and needs 2nd to what's best for the family....anyone that thinks men find it fun getting up at 4am to give a long day's work needs to see a doctor 😉
I wouldnt want my wife to give up her career, especially when I know the importance it is to her there are a lot of logistics to be planned, children? Travel? Most importantly raising a Christian family
If she's working full time? Sure,.. that makes sense. The issue is that modern tech makes a wife's traditional duties downright easy (assuming you have it all). Several years back my ex wife was in the hospital for 2 weeks, and it took me 3 days to get the house in order, even with all the kids. After that it stayed that way, because it was EASY.
A traditional wife is a woman who respects herself, her husband and her children. She is the epitome of the household with no regrets and no complaints. A traditional husband respects himself, his wife and children. He is the leader of the household, protector, and guardian of the family as a whole! You need two as a unit to make their marriage function correctly. If one of the two, fail in unity, it's over.
A good and decent woman. One that's loving caring honest faithful loyal fun sweet romantic sensual trustworthy even tempered and easy going. Is that asking too much?
A smart man might “let” his woman continue to keep working to weed out the gold diggers. If she loves you just as much while working that’s a good sign. Obviously not forever if you’re able to support her. Many men can’t though and need her income.
I would argue that being traditional today is more of a mindset than it used to be because now both men and women are forced to work at least in some capacity to live a comfortable life, what we see as a comfortable life depends on where we live and what we are used too to a large degree, I would also argue that most of us westerners live in unnecessary excess because a large portion of us have never experienced real prolonged hardships so our values are messed up regarding what's important in life, this is especially true for the younger generations in the west who don't even get taught how to provide without money being involved anymore and certainly not people born and raised in the cities. Old skills and traditions are there for a reason, they work! Modern technologies and developments are certainly making life easier for the most part but it also comes with a backside which is that more and more people become hopeless and helpless without it and for this reason my personal opinion is that a traditionally minded man also needs to know how to work with their hands, to build and repair, hunt and/or fish, how to grow food and also how to prepare and cook because if you can't even take care of yourself in an emergency there's no way you can provide for a family in one. Regarding family life in today's world for most people we need to compromise with our partners and help each other out, it's as simple as that, all of us need rest, all of us need our basic needs and wants met, we need to be flexible to keep a good balance, to achieve that you need to communicate honestly and openly with your partner to find a solution that works well for both of you, a relationship is never a one way street or a sprint and needs to be nurtured and worked on over time to remain meaningful and happy. I would say being traditional is to hold traditional family values but also being mature enough to be flexible to your partners needs and wants, a strong family bond is way more important than money or things. Well, that's my thoughts anyway. Thank you for making me think Rubeauti. 😄
A traditional woman doesn’t have a erotic background and is loyal to you, she can cook, clean and support you. She is intelligent ( doesn’t have to be educated but intelligent is good) she is a loving wife and mother type of qualities. She is sexually attracted to her man and no one else. She never talks bad about her man to her friends or family. She protects her man from people who want to exploit him.
I can definitely support a wife and kids. I'm just not focusing on that too much right now. I think it's perfectly fine for a woman to work, but it's her right not to (from my religious point of view).
Traditional man - Is a gentleman, self-disciplined, kind - yet not a pushover, helps create a home environment, not lazy, provides orgasm for his partner, a provider: financial, emotional, physical support, is a man with a vision for his family and himself. A man with no vision is like a wave tossed in the ocean. A father & mother can both create a home/family if they work... it's tough, if they are willing to put in the work it can be done. And a man can cook dinner and cut the lawn throw the trash wash clothes etc etc yes sharing duties is the key and he is not a babaero the more amazing you are the more willing she will be to treat her partner with some great sex more often
A traditional man provides for his wife and their kids they made together. If a man supports her kids from another guy that’s not traditional. But in my opinion if he supports her and her kids under 18. He’s a very good guy and she is lucky she found a non traditional man
A traditional man assumes he is absolutely responsible for the health and well-being of his wife and children. But, when I look at history, including countries outside of the west, there are very few cases where women aren't doing any work. People have historically done much more work and much harder work than people today. The main issue I see with non-traditional men & women today is that the money is desired for vanity, not for necessity. To put it simply: Poor people don't have the luxury to worry about traditional or non-traditional living, they are busy trying to survive. It's people who have wealth and options who are choosing the non-traditional living. Where things get ugly is the government and other powerful groups who are trying to manipulate people, like you brought up: A strong family can compete with the government and prevent manipulation. I agree with the commenter and go further: It's clear that governments around the world are conspiring with non-government groups to try to weaken the family. The most direct consequences are 1. Population reduction (fewer families = fewer parents choosing to have kids). 2. A larger, cheaper labor force. 3. Easier to get votes for socialistic policies (women will vote for social programs since they have lost the family).
America is different I told my daughters to finish college. get a job and a house before getting married. This was so they knew that they can support themself if the man they married treated them badly. Of course my daughter picked the right man to marry and he also helps around the house!! They have a daughter and a son and are a loving family:)
I'm a Retired Army Veteran living here in the Philippines, I provide enough income so she does not have to work, but she wants to work until she gets pregnant
I think everything depends on how much money the husband makes. Ideally he will make enough to support the whole family and the wife can concentrate on running the household. Once the kids are grown, then it may be an inappropriate time for the wife to start looking for a way to contribute to the family's retirement plan. Even if it's only a modest part-time income working from home, if you invest it correctly, it'll be worth many times that when you need it. Most of this is contingent on where you live though.
Not true at all, I have a woman who works, and she treats me better than any other woman I've ever been with in my entire life. Inflation is ridiculous, this is not the 1950's when one income was enough for a household. This is 2023, employers don't want to pay you your worth from experience and education but expect you to multi-task doing grueling work and barely covering day to day expenses. Two or more incomes are needed and necessary, unfortunately in this day and age. Those who are born rich or were lucky enough to have a lucrative career to excel are few compared to the rest of the world who is just making ends meat to survive or who are unfortunate to exist in poverty or worse.
Thanks so much for this very valuable content. It will help men to set their expectations correctly and plan their career and married life to actually have a traditional marriage and family. True, Filipinos have a very high standard on home cleanliness and order. If a guy is a slob, that is not going to work at all. That means leaving remains from whatever you were eating including utensils or crumbs in the living, office or whatever. Don’t walk around the house with dirty shoes or leave socks or any disorder or mess because you occupied that space. If you want a dedicated homemaker, wife and mom, you must either earn what it takes so she doesn’t have to work or live in a more modest and simple way or both. I don’t think one can pull off a traditional family without significant earning power and fiscal discipline. It always takes more money than what one thinks also. That probably means an advanced education, hard work and long hours. While the sacrifice can be rough, the advantage is that your Filipino wife will handle family, home and kids like a champ. She will support you 100% and not be screwing around. When the kids are grown she can refocus on career or retire early. Your kids will be raised better and go much further because of it. Then your kids can marry Filipinos and repeat the process.
She don't need to treat me like a King and hope she don't want me to treat her like a Queen. She just needs to be able to take care of herself and her family without having to rely on me.. I will stay home and watch the 1 or 2 Children Max. I can Cook if needed but She does the Shopping so I don't pay more just because I am the NonCitizen.. We Share the duties. She makes it Clear I am Not a Bank, that I Myself have a limited Income but Will Help if they put in the work to earn it First.
That's false, my filipina girlfriend works and treats me like nobody in Europe has ever treated me. It's just that she's not my personal maid, she's my partner, in the Philippines you can have a woman cleaning your house once or twice a week for 3000-4000 pesos a month and you can give your laundry to a laundry shop and they'll wash and dry it for 1000 pesos a month (250 pesos once a week). So for 4000-5000 pesos a month, a money you can make in a day, you get freed of 70% of the chores for a month. Only cooking and minimal cleaning is left. If you wife is educated and has a decent job (let's say 40k pesos a month or more) and you live in the Philippines, it's worth it to do it this way.
3:37 It is not difficult one one income. These people simply haven't figured out that they are trying to raise their families in the most expensive places around, and they're trying to constantly maintain tons of luxuries. I've done so on an average "salary", for a family that grew to include 7 kids.
Traditional Woman: A woman that knows and understand her worth and needs no validation but her own protected self worth. Traditional Man: is a man that has grown from being a boy and guy. The traditional man has purpose and need his house in order in every sense of the matter. As For his woman working, This is up to the two of them to work this out but always keep the door open in case his wife wants to work. When THESE TWO ARE WORKING TOGETHER all is well. Part of the issues in today time everyone is in each other business and have no time to mind their own affairs. Sad to see but most allow this unaware that they are living for everyone else if fallen into this trap. For an example and an example only!! If I was married to RuBeauty I would be the bread winner but support her ideas of what her dreams are 100% if we are not rich we would work to our best to gain as one. I would upgrade my skill set to elevate to a higher level so that we'd have room to navigate as a couple not to everyone else ideas of what we should be. After all with me and my spouse it's really up to us to figure out our future. If we allowed anyone to dictate it will be based on their ideas. So the traditional roles of man and woman is a personal achievement between the two that found one another out there. Everybody gets to tell each other how their life should be but the two that agreed to go forward. That sounds odd huh. Well you chose what direction each of us chose. A family can make this work if they keep everyone out of his and her affairs. This is what's missing out there. Yes parents points of views are very important. However who's relationship is it really for the traditional man and woman?.
I have a cleaning person come once a month to do a very deep cleaning and I keep it clean until her next visit. it is smarter for me because it takes me 2 days to deep clean my house🤣, but she can do it in 3-4 hours🤣🤣🤣.it is just not my skill and its funny to even watch me try. I would keep my cleaning lady even if I got married, it doesn't matter if the wife works or not. good things happen when everyone's life is less stressful. traditional woman...she tells you everything, no secrets. (Like best friends do) trust is everything.
Rubeauti, I havent watched the video yet, but what do you mean by "king?" I don't know about others, but I don't want to be a king if that means doing nothing all day while being waited on hand and foot while my wife does everything for me including cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, paying the bills all the while I'm sitting in a chair eating candy while watching TV. If I would ever marry I want a wife not a servant. Is it that I just don't understand Ph culture? Do Filipinas really want to do all the labor just in exchange for a man that treats them well? If so... that's fine, but I SOMETIMES like to cook and to clean and to shop; she is more than welcome however to stand in lines every month in the hot PH sun to pay all the bills😰
On men vs. women cleaning the house: I have seen these differences in myself 😂 BUT: It's not that I want to live in a dirty house. I simply do not care about the details that many women care about. E.g., I might use a cup and then leave it on a counter. To me, it doesn't matter that it sits out for the rest of the day until I get around to washing it at night, but if a woman just feels the need to grab it and wash it immediately, then that's fine. Where the problems can start is if she assumes that it was never going to be washed. It was going to be washed, just not exactly when she wanted it washed. So I have the policy now of directly explaining my logic to women. I don't mind if she washes things early, and I also don't mind that she waits for me to get home to fix her car even though she could go out of her way to learn how to do it, just like I could go out of my way to wash things early.
My Filipina wife worked for 10 years in the hospital, even after having a heart operation & she still treated me like a king, even 13 years after she still treats me like a king, & she is an amazing mother to our three children, we are both in our 30s, so I am not some old fart with a young wife, which I find repulsive, especially lazy messy men that treat Filipinas like dirt, I have seen it & very disrespectful. I do washing, cleaning, sometimes cooking seafood or things on BBQ, help with the kids, we have to help each other. Women here in Australia are not family orientated & have no time to do anything around the house or they just cant be bothered, many a fat & drink large cream coffees from drive through 😂 Also it is very hard here, when your family does not see your kids, or help or anything, so if my wife was to go back to work then we would need after school care which would cost thousands a month. We have been trying to move to Philippines for years, however the hopeless Embassy in Canberra Australia declined our report of marriage due to my wife’s previous divorce from an Australian man who was a nasty creep & even made her pay $15,000 in the first year to his mortgage when they met. The anti divorce situation is a disgrace & a breech of basic human rights, very disgusting.
I have grown fatigued with everyone in this world using the USA as a comparison, but nevertheless this is what I believe. A traditional woman to me is the opposite of modern feminist types, they have class and respect the womb of their future children. They are not pigs and hop from guy to guy and usually have been with one man devoted and loyal by their side. Those types of women are becoming more rare and every culture around the world is suffering because of it.
A traditional woman wouldn't sleep with you until have exchanged vows and sign a marriage contract and Filipina had a reputation to be delikadeza and still exist here in Philippines..etc A traditional Filipino is want a "pamamanhikan"
A woman is someone that's there for you until death do you part through sickness and health you are there to take care of him Erin that she's there to take care of you to give you the needs that you need in life and love each other unconditionally in a relationship it is not 5025 except 25 25 and it's equal in a relationship woman that will love you and have a very good outlook about life in a very conditional self to her to herself and be in love with the person that they are with love is where it's at the Creator for the life and he has given you❤
Regarding North America, the problem is not the high cost of living but rather the cost of high living. Compare the houses, cars, recreational vehicles, appliances, electronics, clothes, toys, furniture, etc. of today with that of 60 years ago and you will see what I mean.. If families want to live high and keep up with the Jones and show off their material possessions and vacations, of course they both have to work, and preferably both at high paying jobs. To make matters worse all the material things are paid for with credit that has interest payments attached. A high standard of living is not free so beware all you Filipinos. Be careful what you wish for. Once you get the western lifestyle and realize the price you are paying you may long for the good old days of no indoor plumbing, wood fires, no electricity, no fast food etc. etc. If you think Westerners have it made in the shade, check out all the taxes westerners pay, not to mention insurance costs.
Asian women are going to college at an increasingly high rate, I don’t think they’re going there to learn to cook, clean and take care of a home, as soon as opportunities are available there, they will become career women also and will no longer be traditional women. before western women had opportunity, they were also homemakers. You can’t be at home and work at the same time. asian women, are traditional, because at this time in their development, there is very little choice.
Traditional woman --- does everything and also has a job, so that the man doesn't have to die early by working himself to death for someone who doesn't appreciate it.
love you ❤ love your videos 💕Tradition is a good and ever-evolving topic in societies. The word in English means: tradition are patterns of behavior, practices, and beliefs that are valued by a culture. In this case, culture means: a group of people whose shared beliefs and practices identify the particular place, class, or time to which they belong. These shared beliefs are based on religious morals and practices are based on political influence. The Philippines were colonized by Muslims and Christians. Both religious dominations were known as followers of Abrahamic teachings. In the current state of the Philippines Christians, and among that 88% of Catholics are the dominant force forming the base of traditions. The majority of North Americans are also Christians, and among that, about 43% are Protestants and about 20% are Catholics. The compatibility of traditional values shared between the two races is provided by Abrahamic teachings. This compatibility of shared traditional values does not exist between North America and other Asian countries which were not colonized by Christians like Thailand or Japan and so on. Ergo, marriages are rare (Japan) or won't last long (Thailand) between people following the values of Abrahamic teaching and followers of other religious value systems. The title "TRADITIONAL WOMAN vs TRADITIONAL MAN" is misleading. ;) The proper title, in this case, should be 'TRADITIONAL CHRISTIAN WOMAN vs TRADITIONAL CHRISTIAN MAN" Factoid: Indigenous Philippine folk religions (collectively referred to as Anitism or Bathalism), the traditional religion of Filipinos which predates Philippine Christianity and Islam, is practiced by an estimated 2% of the population.
traditional--helps with the house, isnt RESPONSIBLE for the whole house, in my views, if she is working, we should be 50-50 in that. takes time for me, as I will take time for her. doesnt try to act like the Man of the House, but her opinion is just as valued. wants children ?? well, if she is working, she may not (want children), and that too, should be acceptable. doesnt dress like she is still single, but is free to dress sexy.. yes, there is a difference.. if she is NOT working, and the man is bringing in plenty of money, then yes, she should be managing the house, mostly.. i still think the man has to contribute at home, not simply work and come home and expect her to do 100% of everything.. didnt see that in my home as a kid ( Dad worked, mom raised us ). .but, dad did yard work on weekends, cooked occasionally, never saw him do laundry or vacuum though, or make the bed. it was a very 1960's traditional house, as was nearly all my friends.
I think for me as a foreigner I will be working online. So if I move to he Philippines my wife will not need to work but she can work just to have something to do but that’s a choice it will not be a need for her.
That’s why the both of them should should not have child’s until they can afford to have right after they get married it takes a lot to be married a lot of young people thank it is easy to be married
In Alabama, there are still some traditional American women (exactly how you describe). My church family houses many of them 🫰 And there’s also many families that live together 15-25 people in one home. It’s just, these aren’t families that buy in to the viral gossip or insults by popular influencers. So they don’t speak out. Our church pastor’s family is one of them. You touched on some very interesting topics. I just pray that you don’t ever feel Americans as a whole, to be “Westernized” 😇🫰as it’s expressed through capitalist influencers just feeding the gossip for more views
Exact;y. Due to the global financial state, both need to work to be able to afford a decent life. Thus both have to share the housework. And both can keep their traditional gender roles at the same time and flourish within them
it's a pipedream, women don't keep their femininity when they spend many years working. The become masculine in order to compete for promotions and raises.
@@President-Elect_Cory The problem isn't feminism. Feminism is just a tiny fraction of the problem. The main problem is the financial structure that is built in a way that doesn't allow a man to provide all the needs of his family with a single job
@@serenityssolace Any man that learns financial intelligence can be financially stable by 25 no matter where they started... Too many boys are playing video games and not seeking financial knowledge or discipline. I know many, many single income families the live just fine but the men in those families work hard and know how to be real men.
@@President-Elect_Cory It depends on the country as well. One can't be absolute about it. But you are right that it plays a huge role. Unfortunately nobody is taight financial intelligente
@@serenityssolace Unfortunately, schools don't teach financial intelligence but there are teachers and they are getting easier to find, especially since the Internet has existed. I guess it would kind of depend on the country but only in terms of freedom to work. You could probably exclude Myanmar, Venezuela, and a few others but in all your Western countries this is 100% achievable. Desire, knowledge, and effort is all it takes.
What if she deosnt have kids and you get married? Deos this not apply until she has kids? Meaning they should both work until she (the couple) decides to have kids ? Or until it happens? A stay at home wife with no kids I think isn't balanced. She can't clean the same house for 8 hours every day, if he's working he's gone for at least on meal . And he can't give her attention while he's at work . I agree with you but allot of western men are pretty organized or at least my experience.
I just married in samar in december .. its not rocket science .. treat your wife with total respect .. and work hard to show your respect . Filipinas are great women . Especially province women . . Feeling blessed with my asawa
Thank you for the comment.. I too am married to a woman from northern Samar 20 years and she is so great. But anyway I related to your comment
A relationship is 2 people growing together to better each others lives
I've lived in the Philippines several years, so blessed to call this country home. All of us are wanting something different in retirement, for me it's a simple life close to God and nature. I prefer my partner not work and to take care of the home and me. I help her with the things she needs to live well and also support her family when needed, she looks after me and the home. IMHO most province girls have simple values that align with mine especially as I age, she is happy with a relaxed life and so am I. Life is good, take care always and God bless.
Exactly this, yes!
A traditional man will give his life for his family and everything the Bible says ❤
Yep, I completely agree. If she is working she's worrying about two priorities in her life, Work and Family _ if she is has a job there is no way around that. So if you want to be the king in the house, then make her the queen so she can focus on the family. Step up Gents, do what you need to do to increase your income and make it happen.
Very true if she works. I don’t mind sharing duties cooking cleaning are things I do now for myself. The bottom line is if two people are committed to each other they can make it work.
Traditions need to be redefined with changing times, conditions, and circumstances. What was true before isn't anymore. All relationships are based upon communication, cooperation, and compromise, and require mutual respect and support by both partners in order to succeed.
On one hand it's true that at today's prices 2 incomes would probably be more ideal...however all you have to do is spend 15 min on Instagram or Facebook and you'll see that the biggest problem (at least in the US) comes down to people's spending habits and the lifestyle that their trying to live....I'm lucky enough to make some pretty decent money and I see people that maybe make 1/3 of what I make taking trips....everyone is eating out everyday...people have wardrobes like celebrities....drinking, smoking, and none of that is free....if more people were ok with the basic fundamentals they'll see that their able make it
Traditional for me is someone who lives within the culture of the place they live in. It varies from country to coutry and from region to region.
I'm not quite sure why your channel came up in my feed, but I've seen a few of your videos. Gotta say that I like your delivery and sharing of ideas. I probably should watch more of them. :)
I talk to many filipina women who are younger than me by a couple years early 20s and they keep telling me they want to work and get a degree even if they live in the province. They tell me they want to make decisions as well in the home and if i make a mistake they think they can supercede me i hear that a lot
The infection is spreading.
5:32 The compromise is LIVE WITHIN THE MEANS OF THE SINGLE INCOME PROVIDER.
Good morning. I'm visiting the Philippines right now. Today is my 8th day here spending time with my lady. We've been LDR for 10 years and we are finally getting close for the fiance visa for her to visit the US. I visit her every year so that way we can spend time together.
Congratulations! Ten years is a LONG time to wait though! Why did you wait so long?
@@parabiology1014 Important to take your time to get to know each other . 😊
Cool...but if you bring her to the states, she becomes the commodity in demand. Risky!
@@parabiology1014 I was trying to do a tourist visa first. They kept declining her. And then my mother was getting in the way but she passed away a few years ago so now I'm just waiting for the fiance visa to go through now.
@@steveh1510 she might be one of the high demand lady's but she wouldn't throw me away. She's had every chance to leave my side but she chose me. She's had a chance at more wealthier people, a chance at more attractive people and she chose me every time. She won't leave me by her own choice and if someone tries to force her...well that's when I step in and put that person in their place. People are free to try and tempt her but they are not free to try and force her into anything she doesn't want to do.
Here in America both traditional women and men have been put on the endangered species list !😎
A traditional woman only sleeps with a man she thinks is going to potentially be her husband. She is modest in dress. She is kind, caring, loyal, and loving. A traditional man leads by respect. He doesn't tell her what to do, she naturally will follow his leadership because he is worthy and capable of being a leader. A good leader is someone who provides, cares, respects, and loves the people in his life who are important. He realizes his woman is part of his team, and not someone to be bossed around. Everyone has a role in a team. Just because he is the leader, that doesn't mean he is more important than his team. It actually means he has to sacrifice more if necesarry. If things get difficult, he must maintain the peace and harmony and provide stability.
7:50 You're right. Families are an institution, a support system, both financially and socially. The government (politicians) don't want to support a strong family unit because it gives them less leverage over the people. "Oh, you're a single mother and need assistance, don't go to your family. Vote for me and I'll start programs to give you things." Take that example and expand it to every situation where families used to fill the role, and you'll find yourself in the modern landscape of western politics and society.
Your father is a very wise man. Thanks for sharing.
A traditional man provides stability and security to his family always being a gentleman providing peace of mind. A women never should be placed under a man foot but under his right wing creating a better life as a couple. A traditional woman should support her family and home still having her own dreams in life. If you both work you need support family and home taking on extra responsibilities in your relationship filling in the gaps. A women's maternal instincts will lead them when having children with mother nature being their guide. Always take time to spend with your children raising them right. If you don't Society is willing to mold them that best suits them without the best interest of your children. Personally I can cook, clean, and sew helping out my wife while taking of the rest of my responsibilities when needed. A relationship takes both partners loving and supporting one another to stand the test of time growing old together. Life is never easy but having someone by your side can create a happier future.
Traditional women don’t disrespect their husbands by calling them partners
I don't like a trashy home. Having to navigate through my home seems uncalled for.
A mature partner understands teamwork. They know how to step in to assist wherever needed! Teamwork makes the dream work!
I think both parents should try to spend as much time with their kids as possible. So at least one should work maximum part time, preferably both. It depends on the particular work and if it's remote or not. Why have kids in order for some others to raise them? Luckily a couple can save for 2-3 years in Canada to buy land and build a house in PI. The Canadian education system is online and remote now too.
Traditional man is a father and priestly figure as in spiritual and material protector in a broad sense. And a Sacrificial figure as in offering his life for the protection of family and country in a specific way that the woman shouldnt be because woman needs be alive to take care of a future generation.
I worked to provide for my family. She stayed home to rase our two daughters. Once they were out of the home she went to work but it was just so she had something to do:)
"She can't treat you like a king if she's also working"???
Hmmmm, that's gonna start some controversy.
My mom didn't have a job outside of the home but she had 11 kids. So don't ever say she wasn't working. Did she treat Dad like a king. Well, she cooked and cleaned and fed him in the traditional way that wives did back then. But what I saw more than her treating him like a king was him acting like she was his queen
While we are able to find very few traditional women here in the United States it is becoming hard to find them. Here In the United States while we have a significant more amount of traditional men they are becoming fewer. We are definitely out of balance. I believe this is due to outside influences, attempting to divide the family and household.
LDR couple in love, you nailed it. I m 62 and live in California, there are so many cultural changes in the American family. There are more single-parent households than married households now. When I grew up in the 60s divorce was unheard of, and the same with almost any kind of welfare; now the government gives many things out for free. The family and America are very much divided now, more so than back in the 60s.
The thing is most guys want a traditional wife but a good 95% of men weren't raised to be traditional husband. And in this day and age two people have to work to survive. And a traditional man should treat his wife with respect and as a equal and both should work as a team.and not expect your wife to do everything.
I know 2 examples where the wife says on her buff and does nothing while their husband's do it all after work. That's just in my family. One problem is this. Both men and women do not know how to choose their mate.
Traditional relationship is an equal partnership between a man and a woman. Treating each other with dignity and respect creating a loving stable long-lasting home life.
thank you its so good too see that & read comments
Traditional man is one who takes care of his responsibilities such as show his wife that he loves her by providing for her and Teaching his children's to love and respect Their mom.
Traditional or not, she is loving and loyal, which is the key.
Spot on.
It’s the woman’s mindset which makes her traditional. A mindset that’s not all about her but about the family and her man. Traditional man would be someone who takes on the roles of providing & protecting & professing his love to her and family. Woman can choose to work but is not needed too.
With both working then the home and family will be neglected. I think many problems come to the home and future if at least one parent isn't in the home, most of the time.
You are correct in all your points. Even in the US a woman finds it difficult to live the traditional role if she also works. There are many that try but few succeed.
I was married for 12 years until my wife passed and then I raised my son alone. The first 2 years of our marriage she worked. When she became pregnant she continued working until she gave birth. Something we did that others don’t is we lived on what i made and invested her entire salary.
After our son was born she chose to stay home and to be a mother/homemaker.
I think it is funny what you were saying at the end RU. I do most of the cooking in my home, then my son does most of the rest. I clean but my son does more of the cleaning & my daughter does some too. I would drive you crazy though because I do clutter areas. It is just the way my mind works.
Hi Rubeauti, when do you do these Q&A sessions? It this for your Patreons only? Reading them a couple of those guys need to be smacked. LOL This was an interesting video. Take care.
@@Rubeauti I'm clicking on the report button for the spammer who has What'sapp in their title, this is a well known spam/scam technique. If you see anyone having a whatapp and a phone number in their username thats someone whos had their account hacked and is now spamming.
For some reason I like your intelligence level and I find it refreshing.
I believe here in the U.S. government wants both parents working for more income tax coming in. Plus government wants family to be weak. Because weak families are easier to control.
Pres. Ronald Reagan once said, "The scariest seven words in the English language are, 'I'm from the government. I'm here to help.'"
A woman with traditional values has a healthy attitude towards a partnership in which everyone has their responsibilities and rights. As God taught us and as is His idea of a healthy family. husband, wife and children
Great discussion. Relationships involve a lot of give and take. I remember here in the Great Plains, Laoian families sey down roots. They had multi-generational households, started businesses and then went out in separate houses (to my knowledge). They are very industrious.
Wisdom from Rubeauti. So true Rubeauti, Satan uses the government to destroy the family. You have good insight and common sense. Common sense and wisdom comes from God. Great share.
A traditional man is a rock and provider for his wife and family. He is God fearing and moral in actions and doesn’t show disrespect to his woman in public or to his family. (Just remember a true man doesn’t need to respect anyone unless they earn respect from him but a traditional man will not display disrespect towards his woman’s family in front of her family. He will always talk with her in private about his concerns.
I admire you so much, I think that you are a very centered person. You seem so mature, you have a great personality.
To me a traditional woman is a hard working lady but at home. Kids need to be raised well, home needs to be kept presentable. She also will love her husband unconditionally and will enjoy pleasing him. A traditional man will be the rock of the family and make sure his family is living comfortably financially. Making sure his home has what it needs so his family will live in a happy home with no stress. The man will also have to make sure his family doesn't feel trapped or like slaves so he will do what it takes so his family have a good mental state of mind. He too will love his wife unconditionally and enjoy pleasing her. To me if all this is being done, it will be a happy home filled with lots of love.
Traditional is the kind of relationship and marriage as God intended
Are we going to overlook that guy in the live chat @alaity999909 harassing her while she's doing a vlog. Jesus that guy is a desperate animal, I honestly couldn't even focus on her video because he was annoying as hell, I just felt bad for her like she's trying have the live audience interact and help with the subject matter of the vlog and he's annoying the shit out of her and us with cringe comments. Then he said "I tried to meet a Filipina when I went" by that statement I can assume he was unsuccessful and now I see why, he must have been running around harassing every single Filipina that walked by like a dam starving stray puppy.
I think a traditional woman comes down to mindset and values...in the west women put their personal feelings over the family and that's a major red flag....people will say that a traditional man's job is to provide and protect but that's to surface level of a perspective....a traditional man puts his personal wants and needs 2nd to what's best for the family....anyone that thinks men find it fun getting up at 4am to give a long day's work needs to see a doctor 😉
When both are working both must share work at home. Dont need to be a king, just be treated as a human.
I wouldnt want my wife to give up her career, especially when I know the importance it is to her there are a lot of logistics to be planned, children? Travel? Most importantly raising a Christian family
Traditional man is the provider. He puts himself between the hardships of life and his loved ones.
If she's working full time? Sure,.. that makes sense. The issue is that modern tech makes a wife's traditional duties downright easy (assuming you have it all).
Several years back my ex wife was in the hospital for 2 weeks, and it took me 3 days to get the house in order, even with all the kids. After that it stayed that way, because it was EASY.
A traditional wife is a woman who respects herself, her husband and her children. She is the epitome of the household with no regrets and no complaints. A traditional husband respects himself, his wife and children. He is the leader of the household, protector, and guardian of the family as a whole! You need two as a unit to make their marriage function correctly. If one of the two, fail in unity, it's over.
I believe that if the woman has to work you should do everything 50/50 so things can get done around the house equally
A good and decent woman. One that's loving caring honest faithful loyal fun sweet romantic sensual trustworthy even tempered and easy going. Is that asking too much?
A traditional woman does not post endless pics of her body for the world to. Nor stay on the dating sites after she finds her love.
A smart man might “let” his woman continue to keep working to weed out the gold diggers. If she loves you just as much while working that’s a good sign. Obviously not forever if you’re able to support her. Many men can’t though and need her income.
I would argue that being traditional today is more of a mindset than it used to be because now both men and women are forced to work at least in some capacity to live a comfortable life, what we see as a comfortable life depends on where we live and what we are used too to a large degree, I would also argue that most of us westerners live in unnecessary excess because a large portion of us have never experienced real prolonged hardships so our values are messed up regarding what's important in life, this is especially true for the younger generations in the west who don't even get taught how to provide without money being involved anymore and certainly not people born and raised in the cities. Old skills and traditions are there for a reason, they work! Modern technologies and developments are certainly making life easier for the most part but it also comes with a backside which is that more and more people become hopeless and helpless without it and for this reason my personal opinion is that a traditionally minded man also needs to know how to work with their hands, to build and repair, hunt and/or fish, how to grow food and also how to prepare and cook because if you can't even take care of yourself in an emergency there's no way you can provide for a family in one.
Regarding family life in today's world for most people we need to compromise with our partners and help each other out, it's as simple as that, all of us need rest, all of us need our basic needs and wants met, we need to be flexible to keep a good balance, to achieve that you need to communicate honestly and openly with your partner to find a solution that works well for both of you, a relationship is never a one way street or a sprint and needs to be nurtured and worked on over time to remain meaningful and happy. I would say being traditional is to hold traditional family values but also being mature enough to be flexible to your partners needs and wants, a strong family bond is way more important than money or things. Well, that's my thoughts anyway. Thank you for making me think Rubeauti. 😄
A traditional woman doesn’t have a erotic background and is loyal to you, she can cook, clean and support you. She is intelligent ( doesn’t have to be educated but intelligent is good) she is a loving wife and mother type of qualities. She is sexually attracted to her man and no one else. She never talks bad about her man to her friends or family. She protects her man from people who want to exploit him.
I can definitely support a wife and kids. I'm just not focusing on that too much right now. I think it's perfectly fine for a woman to work, but it's her right not to (from my religious point of view).
Traditional man - Is a gentleman, self-disciplined, kind - yet not a pushover, helps create a home environment, not lazy, provides orgasm for his partner, a provider: financial, emotional, physical support, is a man with a vision for his family and himself. A man with no vision is like a wave tossed in the ocean. A father & mother can both create a home/family if they work... it's tough, if they are willing to put in the work it can be done. And a man can cook dinner and cut the lawn throw the trash wash clothes etc etc yes sharing duties is the key and he is not a babaero the more amazing you are the more willing she will be to treat her partner with some great sex more often
A traditional man provides for his wife and their kids they made together. If a man supports her kids from another guy that’s not traditional. But in my opinion if he supports her and her kids under 18. He’s a very good guy and she is lucky she found a non traditional man
A traditional man assumes he is absolutely responsible for the health and well-being of his wife and children. But, when I look at history, including countries outside of the west, there are very few cases where women aren't doing any work. People have historically done much more work and much harder work than people today.
The main issue I see with non-traditional men & women today is that the money is desired for vanity, not for necessity. To put it simply: Poor people don't have the luxury to worry about traditional or non-traditional living, they are busy trying to survive. It's people who have wealth and options who are choosing the non-traditional living.
Where things get ugly is the government and other powerful groups who are trying to manipulate people, like you brought up: A strong family can compete with the government and prevent manipulation. I agree with the commenter and go further: It's clear that governments around the world are conspiring with non-government groups to try to weaken the family. The most direct consequences are
1. Population reduction (fewer families = fewer parents choosing to have kids).
2. A larger, cheaper labor force.
3. Easier to get votes for socialistic policies (women will vote for social programs since they have lost the family).
America is different I told my daughters to finish college. get a job and a house before getting married. This was so they knew that they can support themself if the man they married treated them badly. Of course my daughter picked the right man to marry and he also helps around the house!! They have a daughter and a son and are a loving family:)
I'm a Retired Army Veteran living here in the Philippines, I provide enough income so she does not have to work, but she wants to work until she gets pregnant
I think everything depends on how much money the husband makes. Ideally he will make enough to support the whole family and the wife can concentrate on running the household. Once the kids are grown, then it may be an inappropriate time for the wife to start looking for a way to contribute to the family's retirement plan. Even if it's only a modest part-time income working from home, if you invest it correctly, it'll be worth many times that when you need it. Most of this is contingent on where you live though.
Not true at all, I have a woman who works, and she treats me better than any other woman I've ever been with in my entire life.
Inflation is ridiculous, this is not the 1950's when one income was enough for a household. This is 2023, employers don't want to pay you your worth from experience and education but expect you to multi-task doing grueling work and barely covering day to day expenses.
Two or more incomes are needed and necessary, unfortunately in this day and age. Those who are born rich or were lucky enough to have a lucrative career to excel are few compared to the rest of the world who is just making ends meat to survive or who are unfortunate to exist in poverty or worse.
Thanks so much for this very valuable content. It will help men to set their expectations correctly and plan their career and married life to actually have a traditional marriage and family.
True, Filipinos have a very high standard on home cleanliness and order. If a guy is a slob, that is not going to work at all. That means leaving remains from whatever you were eating including utensils or crumbs in the living, office or whatever. Don’t walk around the house with dirty shoes or leave socks or any disorder or mess because you occupied that space.
If you want a dedicated homemaker, wife and mom, you must either earn what it takes so she doesn’t have to work or live in a more modest and simple way or both.
I don’t think one can pull off a traditional family without significant earning power and fiscal discipline. It always takes more money than what one thinks also. That probably means an advanced education, hard work and long hours.
While the sacrifice can be rough, the advantage is that your Filipino wife will handle family, home and kids like a champ. She will support you 100% and not be screwing around.
When the kids are grown she can refocus on career or retire early. Your kids will be raised better and go much further because of it. Then your kids can marry Filipinos and repeat the process.
She don't need to treat me like a King and hope she don't want me to treat her like a Queen. She just needs to be able to take care of herself and her family without having to rely on me.. I will stay home and watch the 1 or 2 Children Max. I can Cook if needed but She does the Shopping so I don't pay more just because I am the NonCitizen.. We Share the duties.
She makes it Clear I am Not a Bank, that I Myself have a limited Income but Will Help if they put in the work to earn it First.
That's false, my filipina girlfriend works and treats me like nobody in Europe has ever treated me. It's just that she's not my personal maid, she's my partner, in the Philippines you can have a woman cleaning your house once or twice a week for 3000-4000 pesos a month and you can give your laundry to a laundry shop and they'll wash and dry it for 1000 pesos a month (250 pesos once a week). So for 4000-5000 pesos a month, a money you can make in a day, you get freed of 70% of the chores for a month. Only cooking and minimal cleaning is left. If you wife is educated and has a decent job (let's say 40k pesos a month or more) and you live in the Philippines, it's worth it to do it this way.
3:37
It is not difficult one one income. These people simply haven't figured out that they are trying to raise their families in the most expensive places around, and they're trying to constantly maintain tons of luxuries.
I've done so on an average "salary", for a family that grew to include 7 kids.
Traditional Woman: A woman that knows and understand her worth and needs no validation but her own protected self worth. Traditional Man: is a man that has grown from being a boy and guy. The traditional man has purpose and need his house in order in every sense of the matter. As For his woman working, This is up to the two of them to work this out but always keep the door open in case his wife wants to work. When THESE TWO ARE WORKING TOGETHER all is well. Part of the issues in today time everyone is in each other business and have no time to mind their own affairs. Sad to see but most allow this unaware that they are living for everyone else if fallen into this trap. For an example and an example only!! If I was married to RuBeauty I would be the bread winner but support her ideas of what her dreams are 100% if we are not rich we would work to our best to gain as one. I would upgrade my skill set to elevate to a higher level so that we'd have room to navigate as a couple not to everyone else ideas of what we should be. After all with me and my spouse it's really up to us to figure out our future. If we allowed anyone to dictate it will be based on their ideas. So the traditional roles of man and woman is a personal achievement between the two that found one another out there. Everybody gets to tell each other how their life should be but the two that agreed to go forward. That sounds odd huh. Well you chose what direction each of us chose. A family can make this work if they keep everyone out of his and her affairs. This is what's missing out there. Yes parents points of views are very important. However who's relationship is it really for the traditional man and woman?.
I have a cleaning person come once a month to do a very deep cleaning and I keep it clean until her next visit. it is smarter for me because it takes me 2 days to deep clean my house🤣, but she can do it in 3-4 hours🤣🤣🤣.it is just not my skill and its funny to even watch me try. I would keep my cleaning lady even if I got married, it doesn't matter if the wife works or not. good things happen when everyone's life is less stressful.
traditional woman...she tells you everything, no secrets. (Like best friends do) trust is everything.
Rubeauti, I havent watched the video yet, but what do you mean by "king?" I don't know about others, but I don't want to be a king if that means doing nothing all day while being waited on hand and foot while my wife does everything for me including cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, paying the bills all the while I'm sitting in a chair eating candy while watching TV. If I would ever marry I want a wife not a servant.
Is it that I just don't understand Ph culture? Do Filipinas really want to do all the labor just in exchange for a man that treats them well? If so... that's fine, but I SOMETIMES like to cook and to clean and to shop; she is more than welcome however to stand in lines every month in the hot PH sun to pay all the bills😰
On men vs. women cleaning the house: I have seen these differences in myself 😂
BUT: It's not that I want to live in a dirty house. I simply do not care about the details that many women care about. E.g., I might use a cup and then leave it on a counter. To me, it doesn't matter that it sits out for the rest of the day until I get around to washing it at night, but if a woman just feels the need to grab it and wash it immediately, then that's fine. Where the problems can start is if she assumes that it was never going to be washed. It was going to be washed, just not exactly when she wanted it washed.
So I have the policy now of directly explaining my logic to women. I don't mind if she washes things early, and I also don't mind that she waits for me to get home to fix her car even though she could go out of her way to learn how to do it, just like I could go out of my way to wash things early.
The world is in turmoil because of politicians.
The content you presented here used to be common sense.
Great upload.
My Filipina wife worked for 10 years in the hospital, even after having a heart operation & she still treated me like a king, even 13 years after she still treats me like a king, & she is an amazing mother to our three children, we are both in our 30s, so I am not some old fart with a young wife, which I find repulsive, especially lazy messy men that treat Filipinas like dirt, I have seen it & very disrespectful.
I do washing, cleaning, sometimes cooking seafood or things on BBQ, help with the kids, we have to help each other.
Women here in Australia are not family orientated & have no time to do anything around the house or they just cant be bothered, many a fat & drink large cream coffees from drive through 😂
Also it is very hard here, when your family does not see your kids, or help or anything, so if my wife was to go back to work then we would need after school care which would cost thousands a month.
We have been trying to move to Philippines for years, however the hopeless Embassy in Canberra Australia declined our report of marriage due to my wife’s previous divorce from an Australian man who was a nasty creep & even made her pay $15,000 in the first year to his mortgage when they met.
The anti divorce situation is a disgrace & a breech of basic human rights, very disgusting.
Oh yes, men are aware that they mess, but some don't just care and think it is a woman's job.
Guardian, protector, and provider
I have grown fatigued with everyone in this world using the USA as a comparison, but nevertheless this is what I believe. A traditional woman to me is the opposite of modern feminist types, they have class and respect the womb of their future children. They are not pigs and hop from guy to guy and usually have been with one man devoted and loyal by their side. Those types of women are becoming more rare and every culture around the world is suffering because of it.
A traditional woman wouldn't sleep with you until have exchanged vows and sign a marriage contract and Filipina had a reputation to be delikadeza and still exist here in Philippines..etc
A traditional Filipino is want a "pamamanhikan"
A woman is someone that's there for you until death do you part through sickness and health you are there to take care of him Erin that she's there to take care of you to give you the needs that you need in life and love each other unconditionally in a relationship it is not 5025 except 25 25 and it's equal in a relationship woman that will love you and have a very good outlook about life in a very conditional self to her to herself and be in love with the person that they are with love is where it's at the Creator for the life and he has given you❤
Regarding North America, the problem is not the high cost of living but rather the cost of high living. Compare the houses, cars, recreational vehicles, appliances, electronics, clothes, toys, furniture, etc. of today with that of 60 years ago and you will see what I mean.. If families want to live high and keep up with the Jones and show off their material possessions and vacations, of course they both have to work, and preferably both at high paying jobs. To make matters worse all the material things are paid for with credit that has interest payments attached. A high standard of living is not free so beware all you Filipinos. Be careful what you wish for. Once you get the western lifestyle and realize the price you are paying you may long for the good old days of no indoor plumbing, wood fires, no electricity, no fast food etc. etc. If you think Westerners have it made in the shade, check out all the taxes westerners pay, not to mention insurance costs.
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Asian women are going to college at an increasingly high rate, I don’t think they’re going there to learn to cook, clean and take care of a home, as soon as opportunities are available there, they will become career women also and will no longer be traditional women. before western women had opportunity, they were also homemakers. You can’t be at home and work at the same time. asian women, are traditional, because at this time in their development, there is very little choice.
Traditional woman --- does everything and also has a job, so that the man doesn't have to die early by working himself to death for someone who doesn't appreciate it.
love you ❤ love your videos 💕Tradition is a good and ever-evolving topic in societies.
The word in English means: tradition are patterns of behavior, practices, and beliefs that are valued by a culture. In this case, culture means: a group of people whose shared beliefs and practices identify the particular place, class, or time to which they belong. These shared beliefs are based on religious morals and practices are based on political influence.
The Philippines were colonized by Muslims and Christians. Both religious dominations were known as followers of Abrahamic teachings. In the current state of the Philippines Christians, and among that 88% of Catholics are the dominant force forming the base of traditions.
The majority of North Americans are also Christians, and among that, about 43% are Protestants and about 20% are Catholics. The compatibility of traditional values shared between the two races is provided by Abrahamic teachings.
This compatibility of shared traditional values does not exist between North America and other Asian countries which were not colonized by Christians like Thailand or Japan and so on. Ergo, marriages are rare (Japan) or won't last long (Thailand) between people following the values of Abrahamic teaching and followers of other religious value systems.
The title "TRADITIONAL WOMAN vs TRADITIONAL MAN" is misleading. ;) The proper title, in this case, should be 'TRADITIONAL CHRISTIAN WOMAN vs TRADITIONAL CHRISTIAN MAN"
Factoid: Indigenous Philippine folk religions (collectively referred to as Anitism or Bathalism), the traditional religion of Filipinos which predates Philippine Christianity and Islam, is practiced by an estimated 2% of the population.
Your percentages of Catholics and protestants in North America is backwards. There is a much higher number of Catholics than protestants.
traditional--helps with the house, isnt RESPONSIBLE for the whole house, in my views, if she is working, we should be 50-50 in that. takes time for me, as I will take time for her. doesnt try to act like the Man of the House, but her opinion is just as valued.
wants children ?? well, if she is working, she may not (want children), and that too, should be acceptable.
doesnt dress like she is still single, but is free to dress sexy.. yes, there is a difference..
if she is NOT working, and the man is bringing in plenty of money, then yes, she should be managing the house, mostly.. i still think the man has to contribute at home, not simply work and come home and expect her to do 100% of everything.. didnt see that in my home as a kid ( Dad worked, mom raised us ). .but, dad did yard work on weekends, cooked occasionally, never saw him do laundry or vacuum though, or make the bed. it was a very 1960's traditional house, as was nearly all my friends.
Yes if both work, both need to do the housework as well.
I think for me as a foreigner I will be working online. So if I move to he Philippines my wife will not need to work but she can work just to have something to do but that’s a choice it will not be a need for her.
That’s why the both of them should should not have child’s until they can afford to have right after they get married it takes a lot to be married a lot of young people thank it is easy to be married
Where I'm at in America the single men are much better at keeping their place clean than the single women. Same goes for their cars.
In Alabama, there are still some traditional American women (exactly how you describe). My church family houses many of them 🫰 And there’s also many families that live together 15-25 people in one home. It’s just, these aren’t families that buy in to the viral gossip or insults by popular influencers. So they don’t speak out. Our church pastor’s family is one of them.
You touched on some very interesting topics. I just pray that you don’t ever feel Americans as a whole, to be “Westernized” 😇🫰as it’s expressed through capitalist influencers just feeding the gossip for more views
Maybe men shouldnt leave after all. they just need to go to the rural areas.
@@Rubeauti lol or go to a church that teaches the tradition in either country 🫰🤭
I think if woman who wants to also be a mother should find a way to do stuff online and at home. That way the child doesn’t suffer.
I prefer traditional women. Ideally one with brown skin and black hair. 😂😂😂. Mahal Kita from America.
Exact;y. Due to the global financial state, both need to work to be able to afford a decent life. Thus both have to share the housework. And both can keep their traditional gender roles at the same time and flourish within them
it's a pipedream, women don't keep their femininity when they spend many years working. The become masculine in order to compete for promotions and raises.
@@President-Elect_Cory The problem isn't feminism. Feminism is just a tiny fraction of the problem. The main problem is the financial structure that is built in a way that doesn't allow a man to provide all the needs of his family with a single job
@@serenityssolace Any man that learns financial intelligence can be financially stable by 25 no matter where they started...
Too many boys are playing video games and not seeking financial knowledge or discipline. I know many, many single income families the live just fine but the men in those families work hard and know how to be real men.
@@President-Elect_Cory It depends on the country as well. One can't be absolute about it. But you are right that it plays a huge role. Unfortunately nobody is taight financial intelligente
@@serenityssolace Unfortunately, schools don't teach financial intelligence but there are teachers and they are getting easier to find, especially since the Internet has existed. I guess it would kind of depend on the country but only in terms of freedom to work. You could probably exclude Myanmar, Venezuela, and a few others but in all your Western countries this is 100% achievable. Desire, knowledge, and effort is all it takes.
I don't expect the first, and my wife doesn't do the second.
What if she deosnt have kids and you get married? Deos this not apply until she has kids? Meaning they should both work until she (the couple) decides to have kids ? Or until it happens? A stay at home wife with no kids I think isn't balanced. She can't clean the same house for 8 hours every day, if he's working he's gone for at least on meal . And he can't give her attention while he's at work . I agree with you but allot of western men are pretty organized or at least my experience.
You are very wise for your age young lady ❤
Thank you so much! 🤗 It's great to meet someone who appreciates my wisdom.
@@Rubeauti you are an amazing woman Rubeauti ❤❤❤❤
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