I'm glad you mentioned the inner adolescent. I was thinking through the better half of this video that there really is nothing in my childhood that needs healing, but there was definitely some heavy self hatred in the later years of my teens. You are a brilliant teacher and I truly appreciate all of your thoughts and musings. Many blessings to you!
Thank you so much. A lot of what you said is slowly sinking in and trickling down deep. I really relate and resonate with the struggles you mentioned and i think your perspective is very healthy. I love this video and love you! Thank you for your honesty, transparency, and generosity! ♡
You're getting a very personal, long, heartfelt letter from me chicken :) I am so grateful for your channel and you don't even know the impact of the seeds you have sewn. I hope you end this year knowing you have caused change and influenced a change in the frequency of another person.
I wish I could express how much I appreciate Self-Love September, the videos as well as the Sound and Sessions, in a way so you could understand how much it has meant to me. If I only could describe how it has lifted me up and how I will treasure and use all the tools that has been given to me. All I can say is thank you from the depths of my heart. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
I think a lot of people downplay all the painful things that happened to them. They make excuses for those that hurt them. I went through a lot of trauma in my childhood and I can still remember my emotions and thoughts from when I was really young. I find people are really resistant to acknowledging their past and their feelings because the socially accepted view is that those years don't matter because children don't matter, and that is a dangerous belief especially when abusive cycles are at play.
as children we want things to be okay and remain peaceful, so for us to make an issue out of something that happened, that affected us, is to disrupt that peace.
Wow I really love your Orange it's so fall it really looks beautiful on you wow it fits you or is that my inner self needing the color orange in some way . It definitely feels right .
I did express to my mom all the hurt I had when she treated me poorly as a teenager. I even went do far too not talk to her for 4 months. I have yet to speak about this with my dad. I was 4.5 years without seeing him. I believe it's part of the healing process to talk about it. I didn't say fuck you or else to my mom but I told her that the bad names she was calling me deeply hurt and it wasn't acceptable that she did that.
My inner child was confused. A strange lady kept phoning me, I didn't know her but she spoke to me as if she knew me. I felt completely uncomfortable with this situation. The woman? My birth mother!!
Wow, timely! I have been doing inner child work this past couple weeks, and I can't believe the amount of emotion/pain I have had inside. Now I am having an even harder time being around my parents since I have been going through the process. Does one ever address their past/current pain with their parents? Or is it best to just give yourself space from them?
I would love to see you do a video on self compassion. How do you think self compassion relates to self love? for the past few months I've been working on a self compassion program, which I talked about in one of my videos, and I'm finding that it's really the same spirit as self love. thank you so much for all your videos and your work, you are inspiring to everyone. Xoxo
I'm curious if you have any tips for healing inner child trauma when the memory of what caused the trauma is caused by that child. My specific example is I remember bugging my mom when I was about 3 or so, and I was giving her a pretty hard time, not listening at all as she was trying to tend to my baby brother, who couldn't have been more than a year old. She emptied a cup of apple juice over my head when she lost it. To this day I still can't stand the smell or taste of the stuff, but when I get chastised for being too intense at times, at it sounds even remotely like the way my mother would chastise me, I instantly turn into that little girl and I almost enter a state of shell-shock... I can't move, I feel like I'm going to cry (and sometimes have had to leave because I was beginning to) and find myself fumbling to even speak. The parent in me says that I got what I deserved, I really get it, now that I'm a parent, that sometimes you reach a limit and just... snap... how do you heal your inner child when you KNOW the child at that time was in the wrong? I've tried to comfort her, but honestly, when I try to do that, I often feel like I'm going into parent mode of the today, working with my own kids... I don't seem to be getting anywhere with her at all.
+Jessica “Jess” Johnson no it wasn't her fault of course, she was a baby and wanted attention from her mummy- that is normal and ok and perfect. You didn't deserve to have that happen or be made to feel a nuisance or bad ungrateful kid because you asked for attention. The fact that you identify your mothers stress allows you to understand that she was not being malicious and was just expressing her stress- that is how you can be able to forgive her, to understand that she was just doing the best she could and couldn't cope- it was still though, her responsibility to keep it together, to find ways to cope with the stress, find help, process her emotions if they are overwhelmed. It is beautiful and very beneficial for you that you have managed to identify that she had her own reasons (perhaps her inner child felt overwhelmed at her adult role and didn't believe that she could cope- or hadn't had enough help or sleep!!) BUT do not let yourself hold on to the idea that it was your fault or that you were to blame- you should not have had to experience the humiliation or shame or shock or sadness at having apple juice thrown on you. Make sure you watch the video mentioned in the start of this video and follow the instructions to tell your inner child things- it wasn't your fault, you were not bad for asking for attention, etc etc xoxoxxo
I'm glad you mentioned the inner adolescent. I was thinking through the better half of this video that there really is nothing in my childhood that needs healing, but there was definitely some heavy self hatred in the later years of my teens. You are a brilliant teacher and I truly appreciate all of your thoughts and musings. Many blessings to you!
I get so much from your videos and this one is no difference however the entire time I have been focusing on your amazing sweater!
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Thank you so much. A lot of what you said is slowly sinking in and trickling down deep. I really relate and resonate with the struggles you mentioned and i think your perspective is very healthy. I love this video and love you! Thank you for your honesty, transparency, and generosity! ♡
Enjoying my SLS marathon in 2023 🎉❤
I LOVE your outfit in this video, it's such a ~90's Healer Auntie~ vibe
+witchlingprincess Hehe, great description!
You're getting a very personal, long, heartfelt letter from me chicken :)
I am so grateful for your channel and you don't even know the impact of the seeds you have sewn. I hope you end this year knowing you have caused change and influenced a change in the frequency of another person.
+Chezza Outta Nowhere
I wish I could express how much I appreciate Self-Love September, the videos as well as the Sound and Sessions, in a way so you could understand how much it has meant to me. If I only could describe how it has lifted me up and how I will treasure and use all the tools that has been given to me. All I can say is thank you from the depths of my heart. ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
+Molly Sato I'm so pleased that it helped. :)
So many "yes! hello!" moments here. x
Kelly-ann you are the perfect teacher!! thank you
Lovely. You do this work so very well.
Thank you for insights, they are touching the core of so many issues that are surfacing in our day to day lives. Looking forward to your next gem.:)
I think a lot of people downplay all the painful things that happened to them. They make excuses for those that hurt them. I went through a lot of trauma in my childhood and I can still remember my emotions and thoughts from when I was really young. I find people are really resistant to acknowledging their past and their feelings because the socially accepted view is that those years don't matter because children don't matter, and that is a dangerous belief especially when abusive cycles are at play.
Soo helpful Kelly Anne. Thank you.
as children we want things to be okay and remain peaceful, so for us to make an issue out of something that happened, that affected us, is to disrupt that peace.
Wow I really love your Orange it's so fall it really looks beautiful on you wow it fits you or is that my inner self needing the color orange in some way . It definitely feels right .
I did express to my mom all the hurt I had when she treated me poorly as a teenager. I even went do far too not talk to her for 4 months. I have yet to speak about this with my dad. I was 4.5 years without seeing him. I believe it's part of the healing process to talk about it. I didn't say fuck you or else to my mom but I told her that the bad names she was calling me deeply hurt and it wasn't acceptable that she did that.
My inner child was confused. A strange lady kept phoning me, I didn't know her but she spoke to me as if she knew me. I felt completely uncomfortable with this situation. The woman? My birth mother!!
Wow, timely! I have been doing inner child work this past couple weeks, and I can't believe the amount of emotion/pain I have had inside. Now I am having an even harder time being around my parents since I have been going through the process. Does one ever address their past/current pain with their parents? Or is it best to just give yourself space from them?
Is healing the inner child also a part of shadow work? Thanks❤️
I'm trying to figure out what forgiveness looks like when you can't have the person in your life.
Deconditioning seems a life-long process to me.
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I would love to see you do a video on self compassion. How do you think self compassion relates to self love? for the past few months I've been working on a self compassion program, which I talked about in one of my videos, and I'm finding that it's really the same spirit as self love. thank you so much for all your videos and your work, you are inspiring to everyone. Xoxo
I'm curious if you have any tips for healing inner child trauma when the memory of what caused the trauma is caused by that child. My specific example is I remember bugging my mom when I was about 3 or so, and I was giving her a pretty hard time, not listening at all as she was trying to tend to my baby brother, who couldn't have been more than a year old. She emptied a cup of apple juice over my head when she lost it. To this day I still can't stand the smell or taste of the stuff, but when I get chastised for being too intense at times, at it sounds even remotely like the way my mother would chastise me, I instantly turn into that little girl and I almost enter a state of shell-shock... I can't move, I feel like I'm going to cry (and sometimes have had to leave because I was beginning to) and find myself fumbling to even speak. The parent in me says that I got what I deserved, I really get it, now that I'm a parent, that sometimes you reach a limit and just... snap... how do you heal your inner child when you KNOW the child at that time was in the wrong? I've tried to comfort her, but honestly, when I try to do that, I often feel like I'm going into parent mode of the today, working with my own kids... I don't seem to be getting anywhere with her at all.
+Jessica “Jess” Johnson no it wasn't her fault of course, she was a baby and wanted attention from her mummy- that is normal and ok and perfect. You didn't deserve to have that happen or be made to feel a nuisance or bad ungrateful kid because you asked for attention. The fact that you identify your mothers stress allows you to understand that she was not being malicious and was just expressing her stress- that is how you can be able to forgive her, to understand that she was just doing the best she could and couldn't cope- it was still though, her responsibility to keep it together, to find ways to cope with the stress, find help, process her emotions if they are overwhelmed. It is beautiful and very beneficial for you that you have managed to identify that she had her own reasons (perhaps her inner child felt overwhelmed at her adult role and didn't believe that she could cope- or hadn't had enough help or sleep!!) BUT do not let yourself hold on to the idea that it was your fault or that you were to blame- you should not have had to experience the humiliation or shame or shock or sadness at having apple juice thrown on you. Make sure you watch the video mentioned in the start of this video and follow the instructions to tell your inner child things- it wasn't your fault, you were not bad for asking for attention, etc etc xoxoxxo