Why are your videos so much on the baby man. Can't they reach out and search the women's heart too. It goes both ways the man should communicate as well as the woman. It is a two way street...your teaching us women to spoil men...when they are grown. Are you telling us about yourself...cause each individual is different with different culture...homes...bloodline...and experiences...
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Mr. Stephan DO YOU do private counseling? Because I have a situation that you may never come across. I’m 58 years old and I haven’t seen this come across anywhere at anybody before like it has me I don’t know how much to put on here to tell you and see what you could do. Maybe like a telehealth whatever they call them like FaceTime type of counseling on the phone I can do that. See if you were interested in that because I need help! ALOT of HELP!!!! This Hass to deal with an old love repairing after almost 40 years and a Calling from God, and the gifts that you mentioned that we had received before we were ready and didn’t earn them and then now reappearing and everything has gone completely haywire around us. Both of us have had failed marriages. Nothing was ever good with anyone like it was when we were together And we have obstacles we have to fix right now. I really need to talk to someone in a major way. Not just anyone someone of your caliber. I’ve watched all these relationship gurus and so forth and you’re the one that’s got it together the best actually I can relate to you more than any because of your Christian background and because, you make more sense. If there’s a way that I could email you I don’t see one and I would email you my information whatever it takes and I’ll pay for sessions I just have to do something because I don’t want to lose this man again. If I lost him again, it would completely tear me asunder. It just about killed me the first time when I was 19-21 years old. We had some on-again off-again things he was 21 to 23 at the time we were really young and we had so many things coming at us and now we have a chance but there’s still things that need to be resolved and I don’t want to get into that here but I would gladly discuss it with you and see if you might help me navigate this. I am emotionally invested, and I did not even know it. When he called me, I turned into that 19 year old girl again. I had completely shut my body down my mind completely shut off I had no intention of ever dating or being in a relationship ever again to the point that I was even able to turn my libido off which for me is doing some thing that’s a whole Nother thing, but I had no desire I barely would even notice an attractive man I was dead inside, and as soon as he had messaged me that he wanted to talk to me, everything in my body and my brain and my heart started firing up like it was the Fourth of July. Ever see the movie Independence Day, and they had that old spaceship from the aliens and it was dead and then all the sudden it started firing up that was me things that I didn’t know existed in me anymore came back to life. I had just been praying to God to show me my path and then I get this. And then I got the message from you about our gifts that we weren’t ready for and then I start getting things happening that happened in the past, like to tempt me to pull me away, and I was not biting at all. Because used to if something went bad with us, he would go one way and I would runoff the other way and I ended up seeing other people because he was seeing other people, but he said he was seeing other people because I was the other people that’s what we realized right now, and I’ve had all of these men that I dated years ago even back when I was with him before start messaging me wanting to see me and I’m getting all kind of messages from Med that I know and I don’t know going bonkers. I have never been good at taking a selfie in my life. I look horrible right now in my mind. I’ve been shut him for 2 1/2 years stuck in a hospital bed with a broken leg that wasn’t healing. I go in for surgery next week so my looks like the best right now but I’m gonna take a selfie. And guys were going crazy over it and like I said, I’ve never been good with selfies. Well that had to be charmed by God it had to be I don’t know something I’m having testing after testing and I’m I’m passing him I’m not fighting not anything I don’t have the desire to. When he called me he was smiles because he says well, let’s turn on the camera I’m like no no no I said I look awful. He said turn on the camera, and I said OK, and he was smiling at me and he was just the same person he was then and to me he was everything. I need to talk to you about the obstacles. I know they’re over comfortable but I need some biblical implications to. I need guidance and I hope you can help me brother. God bless you and I will be watching to see if you answer this I know this is a two month old video but I don’t know what else to do. In Christian love, Denise. ❤❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Most women are not complicated. Our love language is more “acts of service,” than “gifts.” Just do the “manly things.” Take out the garbage, fix things, communicate the things we do for you that you REALLY enjoy. Say which meals we prepare that you REALLY like. Be PRESENT at home. Hug us, hold us. Talk to us. Tell us te outfits we wear that you REALLY like. What things we do that turn you on. Simple stuff. Most women don’t care about gifts and fancy trips. Being a provider DAILY is much more appreciated.
You nailed it. Why some men don't understand that the little things they do are actually very big things to us that we truly love and value most. I would rather my man do all those things you mentioned then buy me some gift . I'm so not a morning person so if my guy simply makes me a cup of coffee and brings it to me with a smile and a good morning hug and kiss . I'm a happy girl . Sweet Little things matter so much . Communication is huge . We want to know how our guy feels with us and when a man can express all of his emotions. That's one if the biggest things we love the most . I would rather a man do that over him taking me on a vacation any day . The problem i think is that a lot of men think it makes them look weak if they express their emotions. Nope they don't look weak at all . I think it shows strength in a man . We also like doing all those little things he likes that add up for him too.
When I have something to tell my fiancé, I ask him if I can share what’s on my mind and he always says yes. I then speak directly but with a very kind tone of voice(use the sweetest baby voice you have). After I get things off my mind, I give him a hug, a kiss, nose rubbies and thank him for listening. He usually doesn’t mind hearing how I feel and always apologizes and fixes the problem accordingly.
As a women I believe it's important to still be appreciative of what is given for instance flowers card etc. It is still effort regardless of what we actually want and it shows a man is trying. Hard to remember in the moment but so important to reflect. Anyone giving a gift they think is nice is going to be upset if not received properly 💯
Yes I quite agree… I am in this relationship now where his actions are totally different from what he says. Sometimes I feel he genuinely love me but when acting I have this doubt about him, coupled with the fact he doesn’t assist me financially especially because I don’t ask of it but when I eventually ask, I feel disappointed with what comes of it knowing the fact he’s wealthy and can do better. I don’t know if he’s doing these things intentionally, if he’s trying my patience or what but honestly I am losing it asf. I feel like I am being financially abandoned and not taken care of.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes I quite agree… but I am in this relationship now where his actions are totally different from what he says. Sometimes I feel he genuinely love me but when acting I have this doubt about him, coupled with the fact he doesn’t assist me financially especially because I don’t ask of it but when I eventually ask, I feel disappointed with what comes of it knowing the fact he’s wealthy and can do better. I don’t know if he’s doing these things intentionally, if he’s trying my patience or what but honestly I am losing it asf. I feel like I am being financially abandoned and not taken care of. Please what do I do sir?
I love the bonus points (the letter and the prayer)...I love writing letters, and I'm trusting that God will connect me with a man who appreciates that kind of communication ❤
For me, as a woman, I want a man to be a certain way without me asking him - not because I expect him to be psychic and read my thoughts, but, rather, because I want a man who inherently has certain character traits and behaviours. For example, manners are important to me. In particular, if I do something which helps another person, I want them to say "thank you". Now, when a guy is attracted to me and wanting to connect with me, yes, he might be willing to do whatever will make me happy, but I don't want to have to remind him to say "thank you". I want that to be part of his character. In a way, I want a man who already has the attributes and behaviours that I like. I don't want a relationship with a man who is eager to please (like an infant wanting to please a parent), and where I have to tell him how to behave like a respectful and honorable human being. Edit: I think if you're in a relationship where you have to specific tell the other person what you want from them, then you're in the wrong relationship. You're not compatible with them. You've got to find someone who already has the attributes and behaviours that you like. Those attributes are part of their personality, and so they naturally want to do them. Telling a man how you want him to be and what you want him to do is disrespectful to who he actually is. It's basically asking him to dismiss what he naturally is, and to be some artificial or manufactured person.
I agree with you Heather.. I am trying to hear Stephon at the same time remind us that we HAVE to give them a try before labeling it -a wrap give him the chance. I want so badly that it is a part of his character bc if I have to mention to you that your breath smells often as much as I like you I can’t grow here if I have to raise you change you.. BUT maybe you never met a woman like me, a lesson like me, you never been with someone who cared enough to tell you brave enough to give the blue print. You said something else that resonated: A man who is so eager to please yet in my opinion lacks manly attributes or the knowledge of nature courtship . Either way I believe in the one chance, my feelings die down right after lol but one day I won’t have to deal with any of this bc The One won’t come with any of this mess.
@@TalkIsChic Good luck. I hope you find happiness with or without The One. Do what feels good to you, trust your instincts, and pray to God for assistance and guidance ❤
Out of all his advise and points on this video my favorite part was how he ended it with by saying pray 🙏🏽 that’s just awesome there is power in prayer and always bringing it to God! I need to sign up for his coaching! I always intentionally seek godly advice and guidance.
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My boyfriend and I are going through a rough patch because we both started jobs and struggling to communicate and see each other. I literally wrote him a list of how much communication and time spent to make me feel secure in our relationship. He agreed and started doing it, then said I am trying to do everything you asked for. I acknowledged that I see he is trying and I am so happy and then I asked him to let me know if there is anything he wants/ needs from me. I love him ❤❤❤ and want him to be happy as well.
😂I once told an ex that I HATE chocolate covered fruit and fruit arrangements. I LOVE fresh flowers! Please get me FLOWERS! He sent me an Edible fruit arrangement with chocolate covered fruit. 🤦♀️ I asked him why he got me that when I told him I don’t like that, and he told me that he wanted me to share it with my friends at work (ie- so he could get credit for giving me something all over my work place). Direct communication doesn’t “reach” all men. Bwahahaha 😂😅 He was the wrong man for me!
This man did not want you. On another note your story is the exact story I used to use when explaining when explaining how to have a relationship with God. He tells you what he wants and you have to do it that way.People can't do whatever and expect he's gonna accept it and be happy with it. God's feelings are even more important than ours and ours are important. ❤😊
Yes! So very happy you added pray first! I consider myself very spiritually led, but not religious. But before I enter any conversation important to me, I ask Spirit to please help me to say helpful words in the most loving and kind way. I couldn't do it any other way. Thank you for sharing time and space with us. We need you ❤
I enjoy listening to your advice. I’m a recent widow and now in a new relationship, to put it bluntly I am truly scared to be vulnerable after 35 years with one person. I need all the advice I can get.
This is ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❣️✊🏾 Soooul true indeed‼️ When face 2 face, I think it makes it much clearer for people to see and hear what we would want in a loving relationship…It is said “Stay true to self and always speak truth even if our voices may shiver.”
Love these tips! All of them were good points! So many good tips! 👏 The ones I need to work on is being specific of what I want and not making assumptions or projecting what I think he would think and feel onto him. And yes, the timing of when we communicate our desires, wants, and needs is important. Not when we're knee-deep in an argument nor when he's not fully paying attention and preoccupied with something else. Seems obvious, but believe me, sometimes we as women want to just spit it out before we lose the courage to say what we want to say and then forget he's not even paying attention. And after fully communicating on both sides of your hearts desires, needs and wants - if he runs away from the relationship because that's not what he truly wanted and realized you're not the person he wants to be with, then so be it! What a blessing to have these things revealed early on than never expressing any of these heart's desires and needs and figure that out after marriage and kids! Save your time and energy (and his as well), but communicating all these things early on in the dating relationship! There's no loss, only gain! 😊
The guys I've dated all felt, "I'm telling them what to do" and they don't like it🤷🏼♀️, but they couldn't articulate what they needed... Sooo I think that says something😊 Great topic. I believe it's extremely respectful to ask a person what they need and to offer information about yourself.
There's also how we tell them what we need. John Gray writes a lot about that... Men on the other hand are really not as simple as they'd like to think they are
Consider how you express yourself in the process. Are you accommodative? Kind in words? Empathetic in approach? Etc. Our tone and expression can limit our communication. Affective communication is key.
@@nessnahashon1004 This was years ago, but I have, it was a combination of both. I had to find a different tone and they had to understand that I'm not attacking them. I think it was some insecurity issues on both sides. Now, it's become a boundary for me to have healthy conversation. If not, we can't date. Thanks alot ❤️
I appreciate this type of video. The issue I run into my relationship is that I ask my man (politely) to take out the trash, to bring this to the garage, to help me with this. Majority of the time I ask him to do something he is playing his video game. I have no problem with that but over the years I have grown tired of it. I ask him to take out the trash, he’ll say he’ll do it after the game. Sometimes our trash is sitting by the front door for 1-2 days. I am not asking him twice. But when he asks me to do something, whatever it is, I do it right away. He does not. He expects me to run to him but yet he does not to the same for me. To me, it looks like he is putting his video game over me.
This’s so good! The Holy Spirit told me when the time is right to start dating always pray come to God about any thing because his spirit is inside of me now the Holy Spirit told me about 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 it will give a better understanding on how love is and how a person should treat you! But I’m still healing!❤ Also the Love Language is a great book to help with learning your love language! Since I gave my life to Christ I’m a new person! So how I was taught was all wrong ! So now I know I’m going to do better! Thanks for this video! I will watch again!🙏🏽❤️
This was a really good video. I think the first principle is easier when the man wants to make an effort. Some men say that they would give you what you want if you would just tell them, however, they never follow through.
Stephan, this is wisdom. Thank you, for all you do! You're greatly appreciated and loved. I pray myself as well as everyone everywhere gets better at communicating. You're GOD-SENT! Keep up the great work. GOD bless you. Thank you, JESUS CHRIST in advance!🙏🏽❤️🌟 I'd love for you to coach me being I know I need it. I cannot afford it yet. I am grateful and thankful for all your video's.❤
Stephan continue to allow God to use you as he has been doing. Communication is key as I, too, tell married couples or ppl in general that's in or are looking to be in a relationship. May God continue to Bless you. 🙏
This is definitely good.. and I am thinking they say women are complicated.. sheesh.. men are very complicated. If I could say one thing that men need to do is “ be intentional in learning your woman”.. and vice versa and it will be a whole lot easier
I do want to suggest writing down bullet points about things that you want to talk about. Ask your partner to do the same. Write pros & cons. Plan together! Just like you plan a date, plan a time to chat about a few things on your list. Be open to hearing their point of view. Then figure out a compromise.
I’ve told others the same thing - common sense is different for everyone. Do not generalize! I had a spiritual godmother who always shamed me for not using my common sense. Until the day I replied, “common sense is not common for everyone.”
Yes; communication skills are very important in a relationship. Listening is a big part of a relationship. In the past; I shared exactly what I wanted.....and he didn't put in any effort. I like flowers and just talking through things; pretty simple. It kind of takes away from it and I feel it is like pulling teeth.
He's acts of service and touch when I'm quality time and words of affirmation and he says I should just accept the love he wants to give me. But I need words of affirmation and quality time to experience those feelings.
I have the same languages and I had to give my partner an example- If a child ask for a part of Nikes and the parent keeps buying adidas will that child feel seen and understood? NOPE. They feel unheard and forced to appreciate something they did not want- Your partner runs the risk of feeling unappreciated but thats their fault since u communicated what u needed.
It sounds like maybe he’s a little defensive or insecure about actually being able to provide that for you. Use kind words and a peaceful tone to explain what those things mean to you. And maybe touch his arm or give him a kiss when he does those things you need, even in a little way, for positive reinforcement :)
@Stephan Speaks Thee love languages are 5 ; Quality Time, Act of Service, Physical Touch, Gifts buying and Words of Affirmation. But most ladies and Women love language is "Act of Service" and "Words of Affirmation" while Quality Time come next and Gifts follows while Physical Touch is d last. Thank you. You are doing great works on your page for us. More Wisdom and Long life. From Deborah.
Ladies remember men feel the same about you. I just had a relationship that i wanted her to be open with me. It is really hard because i loved her. I didnt read the love languages until now. As much as she loved me she didnt seem to do the same thing. It was turbulent because of our situation. I would have loved her the way she wanted but so many red flags and i believe those happened because we both couldnt communicate and too many people involved when i should have been into her and i lost myself in the process because i rook on too much. She also couldnt express to me her future goals.
*Your insights on understanding our own desires and communicating them in a respectful manner are so important. Thank you for empowering women to express themselves and have fulfilling relationships.*
Wow, that video gave me the courage and confidence to talk to my partner. You are my no. 1 relationship coach ❤ I am soo happy you share thats all on YT for us. ❤
My bf and I fought because I told him what i wanted and what made me happy. He got angry and ignored me for like 4 days and told me he felt i didn’t appreciate what he did for me and he already does a lot. When he finally called me I had to explain how I wanted to receive love. He was against it because he said it wasn’t natural:/ but said he’d try. Something small like sending good morning text.
My ex told me men would run a mile from me I was soo demanding… okay join them! Funny how he then promised to make me his first priority and would do anything to make me happy. No thanks. Simply… men should step up and do the right thing from the get go. Ladies they are called nice men. Give one a chance. Heal your brokenness and get rid of the players and losers.
Ok so After telling them in the heat of the moment.I bring it up again and now Im ‘nagging’ If someone makes excuses or keeps being defensive its the wrong relationship… Ill find my man❤️
Oh man! All the key points are ON POINT! I can't believe I am hearing all of these now, it's like all those lingering thoughts in my head for the past few months, you are now saying to me out loud. Especially number two, "Express your desires at an appropriate time." Whew! There are so many realizations and aha moment while watching this video. I think I have to watch it again several times so I can digest every words you are saying. It's like you are talking to me. @StephanSpeaks Thank you!
Even when I brought things to my ex-husband when things were good or neutral, it never worked. He would accuse me of trying to take a good time and create a fight or an issue. I spent 2 decades living like that before I finally left. Now, I have a man who truly cares about my feelings and well-being. I'm absolutely crazy about him and I want to be the best version of myself for him. I want him to feel appreciated and desired because he IS ❤
My brother your words are all sent by God because you are chosen to help the hurting and people who need help in there life styles God bless you I wish you can help me ❤
The flowers situation was the other way around for me. For years I would dread valentines day even though I was in a relationship because I never got flowers from my ex. I love flowers, I think they're beautiful, I just think it would be really sweet to receive them on special occasions. He never got them for me and it made me feel like he didn't care and I ended up feeling so sad about it. I feel like flowers/roses would be a weird thing to ask for on valentine's day because its kind of a given? Until finally one day he said the reason was because he thought it was a waste of money and he would rather use that money to take me out for dinner. Although I would've still liked to get them on special occasions, I wished he would've told me his reason a lot sooner.
There’s so much content on this channel, I’m just now getting to this one, lol! This one was good. I so appreciate the vids where he speaks to topics where he provides guidance to help improve and tips to work to be better versions of ourselves. Communicating is always one I’ve had to work on so this one hits home💪🏽 Thank you, Stephan!
Men give to me freely. Thats something thats true across my life span. I have learned the difference between what I want and what I need....and this is why me and certain men just dont work well together. Im into wants and needs.
Stephan you are my favorite 😍. Youre the best. You validate me. In all your videos you have only given me two things that I didn't know or need to work on. While they are major - having class and setting boundaries- everything else you talk about I already am or do. I love listening to you. You let me know that Im a good woman.❤😊
There is absolutely zero truth to the belief that a man will use your needs against you. 99.99% of the time, you can give a man an accurate map, a compass, mark out the most direct route for him to get what he wants and he won't even start the car. Then the man will blame you for the relationship failing.
I think single women need to listen to you as much as women in a relationship. If anyone pay attention now so that when you do meet a guy you will know how to proceed.
I’ve known someone for almost a year and he always chased me around church to talk to me followed me everywhere, is always so sweet and caring to my daughter and last week, I was listening to one of your videos, something about intuition or fear and I wrote it down and something inside me changed. My heart completely let it’s guard down and I feel so much for him. But I don’t know how to tell him? Inside of me something tells me to wait and family tells me to wait for him to make the first move but my throat my heart are so ready to share this Do you have a video or what do you advise me on to tell him or wait? Thank you for all of your wisdom around relationships God bless you 🤍
It’s really hard for me to explain to someone how to love me when I don’t even know how I want to be shown love. doesn’t that usually come from how you were loved as a child? and knowing what is toxic and what is not toxic?
Stephan, You are..... Amazing! I’m so, Happy I found you online. I need your advice, intellect and relationship expertise. I recently, met a new Wonderful man. I want this to work long term (God willing) I want to put in the hard work it takes! God bless, you and yours. Merry Christmas and Happy 2024! Thank you, so much for sharing your God given gift in relationships with us! I can’t be more, appreciative for you! 🎄✨🥰💕🥂🙏🏻
"Shouldn't have to tell him"? That's ridiculous as heck because communication is key. How do have a relationship if you BOTH are not relaying anything? You can't even spell relationship without RELAy. 💯💯💯
The "I shouldn't even have to tell them, they should already know what the issue is" is so incredibly toxic and quite honestly, it's dumb. THEY CAN NOT READ YOUR MIND. Nobody can read your mind! Stop punishing someone for doing things that you don't like but also refuse to address. It's immature and you aren't allowing them to play their part. This goes for men and women. And from experience, straight forwardness is very attractive, and it makes things pleasant for both while creating intimacy.
Thank you for this video. My challenge is I've been dealing with a very quiet man who will just not say a word at all, and for me that's frustrating. I tried several times to bring it up with him yet I feel he's not improving at all, I feel like he's dismissive and I'm not good at pushing.. I'm tired.
I’m trying to LISTEN past how GOOD he’s looking in this RED!!! ❤ Come on Stephan!!!! I’m trying to FOCUS here man!!! 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁🥰🤭🤭🤭… okay, let me rewind phone face DOWN! 😂
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Communication is the key
Why are your videos so much on the baby man.
Can't they reach out and search the women's heart too.
It goes both ways the man should communicate as well as the woman.
It is a two way street...your teaching us women to spoil men...when they are grown.
Are you telling us about yourself...cause each individual is different with different culture...homes...bloodline...and experiences...
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Mr. Stephan DO YOU do private counseling? Because I have a situation that you may never come across. I’m 58 years old and I haven’t seen this come across anywhere at anybody before like it has me I don’t know how much to put on here to tell you and see what you could do. Maybe like a telehealth whatever they call them like FaceTime type of counseling on the phone I can do that. See if you were interested in that because I need help! ALOT of HELP!!!! This Hass to deal with an old love repairing after almost 40 years and a Calling from God, and the gifts that you mentioned that we had received before we were ready and didn’t earn them and then now reappearing and everything has gone completely haywire around us. Both of us have had failed marriages. Nothing was ever good with anyone like it was when we were together And we have obstacles we have to fix right now. I really need to talk to someone in a major way. Not just anyone someone of your caliber. I’ve watched all these relationship gurus and so forth and you’re the one that’s got it together the best actually I can relate to you more than any because of your Christian background and because, you make more sense. If there’s a way that I could email you I don’t see one and I would email you my information whatever it takes and I’ll pay for sessions I just have to do something because I don’t want to lose this man again. If I lost him again, it would completely tear me asunder. It just about killed me the first time when I was 19-21 years old. We had some on-again off-again things he was 21 to 23 at the time we were really young and we had so many things coming at us and now we have a chance but there’s still things that need to be resolved and I don’t want to get into that here but I would gladly discuss it with you and see if you might help me navigate this. I am emotionally invested, and I did not even know it. When he called me, I turned into that 19 year old girl again. I had completely shut my body down my mind completely shut off I had no intention of ever dating or being in a relationship ever again to the point that I was even able to turn my libido off which for me is doing some thing that’s a whole Nother thing, but I had no desire I barely would even notice an attractive man I was dead inside, and as soon as he had messaged me that he wanted to talk to me, everything in my body and my brain and my heart started firing up like it was the Fourth of July. Ever see the movie Independence Day, and they had that old spaceship from the aliens and it was dead and then all the sudden it started firing up that was me things that I didn’t know existed in me anymore came back to life. I had just been praying to God to show me my path and then I get this. And then I got the message from you about our gifts that we weren’t ready for and then I start getting things happening that happened in the past, like to tempt me to pull me away, and I was not biting at all. Because used to if something went bad with us, he would go one way and I would runoff the other way and I ended up seeing other people because he was seeing other people, but he said he was seeing other people because I was the other people that’s what we realized right now, and I’ve had all of these men that I dated years ago even back when I was with him before start messaging me wanting to see me and I’m getting all kind of messages from Med that I know and I don’t know going bonkers. I have never been good at taking a selfie in my life. I look horrible right now in my mind. I’ve been shut him for 2 1/2 years stuck in a hospital bed with a broken leg that wasn’t healing. I go in for surgery next week so my looks like the best right now but I’m gonna take a selfie. And guys were going crazy over it and like I said, I’ve never been good with selfies. Well that had to be charmed by God it had to be I don’t know something I’m having testing after testing and I’m I’m passing him I’m not fighting not anything I don’t have the desire to. When he called me he was smiles because he says well, let’s turn on the camera I’m like no no no I said I look awful. He said turn on the camera, and I said OK, and he was smiling at me and he was just the same person he was then and to me he was everything. I need to talk to you about the obstacles. I know they’re over comfortable but I need some biblical implications to. I need guidance and I hope you can help me brother. God bless you and I will be watching to see if you answer this I know this is a two month old video but I don’t know what else to do. In Christian love, Denise.
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Stephan knows that already and says so. I appreciate his wisdom and frankness.
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Most women are not complicated. Our love language is more “acts of service,” than “gifts.” Just do the “manly things.” Take out the garbage, fix things, communicate the things we do for you that you REALLY enjoy. Say which meals we prepare that you REALLY like. Be PRESENT at home. Hug us, hold us. Talk to us. Tell us te outfits we wear that you REALLY like. What things we do that turn you on. Simple stuff. Most women don’t care about gifts and fancy trips. Being a provider DAILY is much more appreciated.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Is that ok to ask and talk about what his expectation and my expectations in terms of finances ?
@@elvenooi Yup. Yall can ask anything you’re not clear about.
You nailed it. Why some men don't understand that the little things they do are actually very big things to us that we truly love and value most. I would rather my man do all those things you mentioned then buy me some gift . I'm so not a morning person so if my guy simply makes me a cup of coffee and brings it to me with a smile and a good morning hug and kiss . I'm a happy girl . Sweet Little things matter so much . Communication is huge . We want to know how our guy feels with us and when a man can express all of his emotions. That's one if the biggest things we love the most . I would rather a man do that over him taking me on a vacation any day . The problem i think is that a lot of men think it makes them look weak if they express their emotions. Nope they don't look weak at all . I think it shows strength in a man . We also like doing all those little things he likes that add up for him too.
I like gifts, trips, and everything else
When I have something to tell my fiancé, I ask him if I can share what’s on my mind and he always says yes. I then speak directly but with a very kind tone of voice(use the sweetest baby voice you have). After I get things off my mind, I give him a hug, a kiss, nose rubbies and thank him for listening. He usually doesn’t mind hearing how I feel and always apologizes and fixes the problem accordingly.
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I will try this…
@@AriMayweather try it love! And try it more than once or twice
Thank you for sharing this
@@Cynberry247ee hope it helps you 💜
As a women I believe it's important to still be appreciative of what is given for instance flowers card etc. It is still effort regardless of what we actually want and it shows a man is trying. Hard to remember in the moment but so important to reflect. Anyone giving a gift they think is nice is going to be upset if not received properly 💯
You're absolutely right!
Very true.
Well said 👍
Easier to ask a man for what you want when his actions and your intuition tell you you are his priority.
You're absolutely right!
Yes I quite agree… I am in this relationship now where his actions are totally different from what he says. Sometimes I feel he genuinely love me but when acting I have this doubt about him, coupled with the fact he doesn’t assist me financially especially because I don’t ask of it but when I eventually ask, I feel disappointed with what comes of it knowing the fact he’s wealthy and can do better. I don’t know if he’s doing these things intentionally, if he’s trying my patience or what but honestly I am losing it asf. I feel like I am being financially abandoned and not taken care of.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes I quite agree… but I am in this relationship now where his actions are totally different from what he says. Sometimes I feel he genuinely love me but when acting I have this doubt about him, coupled with the fact he doesn’t assist me financially especially because I don’t ask of it but when I eventually ask, I feel disappointed with what comes of it knowing the fact he’s wealthy and can do better. I don’t know if he’s doing these things intentionally, if he’s trying my patience or what but honestly I am losing it asf. I feel like I am being financially abandoned and not taken care of. Please what do I do sir?
@@okonkwotina2172wait!!? Are you married and what?? I’m sorry this seems entitled to me.
1. Acts if Service
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Words of Affirmation
5. Physical Touch
This man is gold. He has so much knowledge and insight and explains things so clearly! My favourite relationship coach! 🙌🏽
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
You forgot the gorgeous part... 🙂
I love the bonus points (the letter and the prayer)...I love writing letters, and I'm trusting that God will connect me with a man who appreciates that kind of communication ❤
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you the man God has for you 🙏
Me too
Me too. I love the prayer part very much
For me, as a woman, I want a man to be a certain way without me asking him - not because I expect him to be psychic and read my thoughts, but, rather, because I want a man who inherently has certain character traits and behaviours.
For example, manners are important to me. In particular, if I do something which helps another person, I want them to say "thank you".
Now, when a guy is attracted to me and wanting to connect with me, yes, he might be willing to do whatever will make me happy, but I don't want to have to remind him to say "thank you". I want that to be part of his character.
In a way, I want a man who already has the attributes and behaviours that I like. I don't want a relationship with a man who is eager to please (like an infant wanting to please a parent), and where I have to tell him how to behave like a respectful and honorable human being.
Edit: I think if you're in a relationship where you have to specific tell the other person what you want from them, then you're in the wrong relationship. You're not compatible with them. You've got to find someone who already has the attributes and behaviours that you like. Those attributes are part of their personality, and so they naturally want to do them.
Telling a man how you want him to be and what you want him to do is disrespectful to who he actually is. It's basically asking him to dismiss what he naturally is, and to be some artificial or manufactured person.
I agree with you Heather.. I am trying to hear Stephon at the same time remind us that we HAVE to give them a try before labeling it -a wrap give him the chance. I want so badly that it is a part of his character bc if I have to mention to you that your breath smells often as much as I like you I can’t grow here if I have to raise you change you.. BUT maybe you never met a woman like me, a lesson like me, you never been with someone who cared enough to tell you brave enough to give the blue print. You said something else that resonated: A man who is so eager to please yet in my opinion lacks manly attributes or the knowledge of nature courtship .
Either way I believe in the one chance, my feelings die down right after lol but one day I won’t have to deal with any of this bc The One won’t come with any of this mess.
@@TalkIsChic Good luck. I hope you find happiness with or without The One. Do what feels good to you, trust your instincts, and pray to God for assistance and guidance ❤
I... don't think that's the point of the video. You're dating a man, not a child that you have to teach how to behave himself.
Out of all his advise and points on this video my favorite part was how he ended it with by saying pray 🙏🏽 that’s just awesome there is power in prayer and always bringing it to God! I need to sign up for his coaching! I always intentionally seek godly advice and guidance.
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My boyfriend and I are going through a rough patch because we both started jobs and struggling to communicate and see each other. I literally wrote him a list of how much communication and time spent to make me feel secure in our relationship. He agreed and started doing it, then said I am trying to do everything you asked for. I acknowledged that I see he is trying and I am so happy and then I asked him to let me know if there is anything he wants/ needs from me. I love him ❤❤❤ and want him to be happy as well.
Yes indeed, communication is important. How will others know our authentic self if we don’t communicate who we truly are. 🤩
Communication is definitely key!
Thank you! 🙏🏽💪🏽💯💗
😂I once told an ex that I HATE chocolate covered fruit and fruit arrangements. I LOVE fresh flowers! Please get me FLOWERS!
He sent me an Edible fruit arrangement with chocolate covered fruit. 🤦♀️
I asked him why he got me that when I told him I don’t like that, and he told me that he wanted me to share it with my friends at work (ie- so he could get credit for giving me something all over my work place). Direct communication doesn’t “reach” all men.
Bwahahaha 😂😅
He was the wrong man for me!
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This man did not want you. On another note your story is the exact story I used to use when explaining when explaining how to have a relationship with God. He tells you what he wants and you have to do it that way.People can't do whatever and expect he's gonna accept it and be happy with it. God's feelings are even more important than ours and ours are important. ❤😊
Smart! You are very smart!
Yes! So very happy you added pray first! I consider myself very spiritually led, but not religious. But before I enter any conversation important to me, I ask Spirit to please help me to say helpful words in the most loving and kind way. I couldn't do it any other way. Thank you for sharing time and space with us. We need you ❤
I enjoy listening to your advice. I’m a recent widow and now in a new relationship, to put it bluntly I am truly scared to be vulnerable after 35 years with one person. I need all the advice I can get.
This is ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥❣️✊🏾 Soooul true indeed‼️ When face 2 face, I think it makes it much clearer for people to see and hear what we would want in a loving relationship…It is said “Stay true to self and always speak truth even if our voices may shiver.”
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Love these tips! All of them were good points! So many good tips! 👏 The ones I need to work on is being specific of what I want and not making assumptions or projecting what I think he would think and feel onto him. And yes, the timing of when we communicate our desires, wants, and needs is important. Not when we're knee-deep in an argument nor when he's not fully paying attention and preoccupied with something else. Seems obvious, but believe me, sometimes we as women want to just spit it out before we lose the courage to say what we want to say and then forget he's not even paying attention. And after fully communicating on both sides of your hearts desires, needs and wants - if he runs away from the relationship because that's not what he truly wanted and realized you're not the person he wants to be with, then so be it! What a blessing to have these things revealed early on than never expressing any of these heart's desires and needs and figure that out after marriage and kids! Save your time and energy (and his as well), but communicating all these things early on in the dating relationship! There's no loss, only gain! 😊
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The guys I've dated all felt, "I'm telling them what to do" and they don't like it🤷🏼♀️, but they couldn't articulate what they needed... Sooo I think that says something😊
Great topic. I believe it's extremely respectful to ask a person what they need and to offer information about yourself.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that. Thank you for sharing ❤
There's also how we tell them what we need. John Gray writes a lot about that...
Men on the other hand are really not as simple as they'd like to think they are
Consider how you express yourself in the process. Are you accommodative? Kind in words? Empathetic in approach? Etc. Our tone and expression can limit our communication. Affective communication is key.
@@nessnahashon1004 This was years ago, but I have, it was a combination of both. I had to find a different tone and they had to understand that I'm not attacking them. I think it was some insecurity issues on both sides. Now, it's become a boundary for me to have healthy conversation. If not, we can't date. Thanks alot ❤️
@@trifree This is amazing. I wisj you the best!
I appreciate this type of video. The issue I run into my relationship is that I ask my man (politely) to take out the trash, to bring this to the garage, to help me with this. Majority of the time I ask him to do something he is playing his video game.
I have no problem with that but over the years I have grown tired of it. I ask him to take out the trash, he’ll say he’ll do it after the game. Sometimes our trash is sitting by the front door for 1-2 days. I am not asking him twice.
But when he asks me to do something, whatever it is, I do it right away. He does not. He expects me to run to him but yet he does not to the same for me. To me, it looks like he is putting his video game over me.
This’s so good! The Holy Spirit told me when the time is right to start dating always pray come to God about any thing because his spirit is inside of me now the Holy Spirit told me about 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 it will give a better understanding on how love is and how a person should treat you! But I’m still healing!❤ Also the Love Language is a great book to help with learning your love language! Since I gave my life to Christ I’m a new person! So how I was taught was all wrong ! So now I know I’m going to do better! Thanks for this video! I will watch again!🙏🏽❤️
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
I am so glad that I am single and I am still focusing on myself I am still healing
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏
This was a really good video. I think the first principle is easier when the man wants to make an effort. Some men say that they would give you what you want if you would just tell them, however, they never follow through.
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This is a good one, communication trend to get misconstrued and it is definitely frustrating. Thank you for this one Stephan!😊
My pleasure ❤️
Stephan, this is wisdom. Thank you, for all you do! You're greatly appreciated and loved. I pray myself as well as everyone everywhere gets better at communicating. You're GOD-SENT! Keep up the great work. GOD bless you. Thank you, JESUS CHRIST in advance!🙏🏽❤️🌟
I'd love for you to coach me being I know I need it. I cannot afford it yet. I am grateful and thankful for all your video's.❤
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Stephan continue to allow God to use you as he has been doing. Communication is key as I, too, tell married couples or ppl in general that's in or are looking to be in a relationship. May God continue to Bless you. 🙏
Thank you for sharing communication is definitely key and may God bless you as well 🙏
How lovely it is to get a genuine man,the one who knows you and what you want.
This is definitely good.. and I am thinking they say women are complicated.. sheesh.. men are very complicated. If I could say one thing that men need to do is “ be intentional in learning your woman”.. and vice versa and it will be a whole lot easier
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
Yes I agree women need to be specific. Women expect men to read their mind.❤
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Stephan God bless you for helping us women, to learn all these necessary skill!
Glad I could help 🙏
I do want to suggest writing down bullet points about things that you want to talk about. Ask your partner to do the same.
Write pros & cons.
Plan together! Just like you plan a date, plan a time to chat about a few things on your list. Be open to hearing their point of view. Then figure out a compromise.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I agree too. My mind works like this. This way you can narrow down what's most important and stick to the topic.
Do the least and want the most . That part
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I’ve told others the same thing - common sense is different for everyone. Do not generalize! I had a spiritual godmother who always shamed me for not using my common sense. Until the day I replied, “common sense is not common for everyone.”
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
Yes; communication skills are very important in a relationship. Listening is a big part of a relationship. In the past; I shared exactly what I wanted.....and he didn't put in any effort. I like flowers and just talking through things; pretty simple. It kind of takes away from it and I feel it is like pulling teeth.
Communication is definitely key!
You have helped me so much over the last few months with your videos. Thank you so much!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Stephan always right on time. I was just struggling with these things and questioning my relationship because of it. I appreciate this video!!!😌😁❤️
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
DEFINITELY Need To Check Myself Sometimes. Working on it✨️
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This was so helpful for me IRL today with my person. And I just love how you remind us of prayer and to ask for guidance. Thank you ❤
❤my pleasure
Appreciate a caring man an understanding man
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
He's acts of service and touch when I'm quality time and words of affirmation and he says I should just accept the love he wants to give me. But I need words of affirmation and quality time to experience those feelings.
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If he won't give you what you need then you should end it. It will only get worse and toxic.
I have the same languages and I had to give my partner an example- If a child ask for a part of Nikes and the parent keeps buying adidas will that child feel seen and understood? NOPE. They feel unheard and forced to appreciate something they did not want- Your partner runs the risk of feeling unappreciated but thats their fault since u communicated what u needed.
It sounds like maybe he’s a little defensive or insecure about actually being able to provide that for you. Use kind words and a peaceful tone to explain what those things mean to you. And maybe touch his arm or give him a kiss when he does those things you need, even in a little way, for positive reinforcement :)
I can appreciate feeling like we could trust our partner that he truly cares about our feelings to enjoy other things
@Stephan Speaks Thee love languages are 5 ; Quality Time, Act of Service, Physical Touch, Gifts buying and Words of Affirmation. But most ladies and Women love language is "Act of Service" and "Words of Affirmation" while Quality Time come next and Gifts follows while Physical Touch is d last. Thank you. You are doing great works on your page for us. More Wisdom and Long life. From Deborah.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Thank you Stephan!! MUCH respect!!
I appreciate that 🙏
Ladies remember men feel the same about you. I just had a relationship that i wanted her to be open with me. It is really hard because i loved her. I didnt read the love languages until now. As much as she loved me she didnt seem to do the same thing. It was turbulent because of our situation. I would have loved her the way she wanted but so many red flags and i believe those happened because we both couldnt communicate and too many people involved when i should have been into her and i lost myself in the process because i rook on too much. She also couldnt express to me her future goals.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I appreciate that 🙏
Yes, I want us both to be happy.
*Your insights on understanding our own desires and communicating them in a respectful manner are so important. Thank you for empowering women to express themselves and have fulfilling relationships.*
You're doing the lord's work, thank you 🙏🏼
My pleasure ❤️
It's possible for communication to improve, as long as both individuals are committed to it. Necessary to dwell in understanding and harmony.
Most definitely!
Omg ur so on point.. im always scared of "rockin the boat". Thank u for helping me to take the right approach!!!
Wow, that video gave me the courage and confidence to talk to my partner. You are my no. 1 relationship coach ❤ I am soo happy you share thats all on YT for us. ❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I talked to him and feel much better ❤️ Thank you so much
My bf and I fought because I told him what i wanted and what made me happy. He got angry and ignored me for like 4 days and told me he felt i didn’t appreciate what he did for me and he already does a lot.
When he finally called me I had to explain how I wanted to receive love. He was against it because he said it wasn’t natural:/ but said he’d try. Something small like sending good morning text.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
woman to woman, find another boyfriend sis. This is not it.
The small things for me 💞😇👈
Ignored you for 4 days because you expressed some needs related to tour relationship ? Doesn't sound good
My ex told me men would run a mile from me I was soo demanding… okay join them! Funny how he then promised to make me his first priority and would do anything to make me happy. No thanks. Simply… men should step up and do the right thing from the get go. Ladies they are called nice men. Give one a chance. Heal your brokenness and get rid of the players and losers.
Ok so After telling them in the heat of the moment.I bring it up again and now Im ‘nagging’
If someone makes excuses or keeps being defensive its the wrong relationship…
Ill find my man❤️
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
Oh man! All the key points are ON POINT! I can't believe I am hearing all of these now, it's like all those lingering thoughts in my head for the past few months, you are now saying to me out loud. Especially number two, "Express your desires at an appropriate time." Whew! There are so many realizations and aha moment while watching this video. I think I have to watch it again several times so I can digest every words you are saying. It's like you are talking to me. @StephanSpeaks Thank you!
Quality Time & Receiving Gifts are the other two.
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Even when I brought things to my ex-husband when things were good or neutral, it never worked. He would accuse me of trying to take a good time and create a fight or an issue. I spent 2 decades living like that before I finally left.
Now, I have a man who truly cares about my feelings and well-being. I'm absolutely crazy about him and I want to be the best version of myself for him. I want him to feel appreciated and desired because he IS ❤
This is the first time your video SPOKE to me! Been following you for years and this one hit. Thank you
🤯🤯🤯 This was so needed. Thank you for breaking this down in this way. I feel silly for not knowing this sooner.
Literally needed this 2 hours ago. Video launched an hour ago😢
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My brother your words are all sent by God because you are chosen to help the hurting and people who need help in there life styles God bless you
I wish you can help me ❤
Glad I could help 🙏
I asked God to please take away this feeling that I have from my x fiancé
But the hurt is still there
Hey papi , right on time as usual ❤
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He knows The business it's before pleasure in the relationship
The best coach ever
Thank you so much for doing this video I learned a lot from it
May God continues pouring his blessings on you❤❤
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
The flowers situation was the other way around for me. For years I would dread valentines day even though I was in a relationship because I never got flowers from my ex. I love flowers, I think they're beautiful, I just think it would be really sweet to receive them on special occasions. He never got them for me and it made me feel like he didn't care and I ended up feeling so sad about it. I feel like flowers/roses would be a weird thing to ask for on valentine's day because its kind of a given? Until finally one day he said the reason was because he thought it was a waste of money and he would rather use that money to take me out for dinner. Although I would've still liked to get them on special occasions, I wished he would've told me his reason a lot sooner.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
There’s so much content on this channel, I’m just now getting to this one, lol! This one was good. I so appreciate the vids where he speaks to topics where he provides guidance to help improve and tips to work to be better versions of ourselves. Communicating is always one I’ve had to work on so this one hits home💪🏽 Thank you, Stephan!
WOW!
Very Insightful, Sir.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Men give to me freely. Thats something thats true across my life span. I have learned the difference between what I want and what I need....and this is why me and certain men just dont work well together. Im into wants and needs.
This is one of THE BEST VIDEOS you've ever made....a very important one, saves alot of time!!!
WOW RIGHT ON TIME GREAT POINTS❤❤❤💪🏽👏🏼
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Stephan you are my favorite 😍. Youre the best. You validate me. In all your videos you have only given me two things that I didn't know or need to work on. While they are major - having class and setting boundaries- everything else you talk about I already am or do. I love listening to you. You let me know that Im a good woman.❤😊
thank you, I truly appreciate that, and happy to hear my work has been helpful to you
I am well guided by this. Thanks Stephan.
My pleasure ❤️
100% 🎉 celebrating this advice.
This is true some men just need guidance
Most definitely!
Stephan, you are a Gem! Your advice is gold!
You are very wise! Thank you for this video!
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Ouch!! I needed this one. Thanks for sharing ❤
There is absolutely zero truth to the belief that a man will use your needs against you. 99.99% of the time, you can give a man an accurate map, a compass, mark out the most direct route for him to get what he wants and he won't even start the car. Then the man will blame you for the relationship failing.
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Okay Ladies all I'm hearing is this is a man's world...cater to him...spoken like a true Man.
I think single women need to listen to you as much as women in a relationship. If anyone pay attention now so that when you do meet a guy you will know how to proceed.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
Hi Stephen I really enjoy your content on your videos, they are so informative and so true. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom .
Glad I could help 🙏
Hej Stephan it's so amazingly wise what you are saying here and I am going to take a full advantage of your support:) Greetings from Poland!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
I’ve known someone for almost a year and he always chased me around church to talk to me followed me everywhere, is always so sweet and caring to my daughter and last week, I was listening to one of your videos, something about intuition or fear and I wrote it down and something inside me changed. My heart completely let it’s guard down and I feel so much for him.
But I don’t know how to tell him?
Inside of me something tells me to wait and family tells me to wait for him to make the first move but my throat my heart are so ready to share this
Do you have a video or what do you advise me on to tell him or wait?
Thank you for all of your wisdom around relationships God bless you 🤍
It’s really hard for me to explain to someone how to love me when I don’t even know how I want to be shown love. doesn’t that usually come from how you were loved as a child? and knowing what is toxic and what is not toxic?
Then I would suggest it's a good idea to not be in a relationship right now.
Stephan, You are..... Amazing!
I’m so, Happy I found you online.
I need your advice, intellect and relationship expertise.
I recently, met a new Wonderful man.
I want this to work long term (God willing)
I want to put in the hard work it takes!
God bless, you and yours.
Merry Christmas and Happy 2024!
Thank you, so much for sharing your God given gift in relationships with us!
I can’t be more, appreciative for you! 🎄✨🥰💕🥂🙏🏻
Amen. Yes communication is key🙏🏿 ❤️ 😘
On time word. Thank you
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Thank you Aaron for setting this up! 🙏
This was wonderful, Stephan. Thank you
Man…seems like we always gotta do the most mental work. Men should just tell us what THEY want! That’s an idea for the next video 😂😂😂
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
"Shouldn't have to tell him"? That's ridiculous as heck because communication is key. How do have a relationship if you BOTH are not relaying anything? You can't even spell relationship without RELAy. 💯💯💯
Thankyou im following these steps with my partner. These are great pointers
Thank you for your teaching
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Thank you, Stephan. I’m learning more
The "I shouldn't even have to tell them, they should already know what the issue is" is so incredibly toxic and quite honestly, it's dumb.
THEY CAN NOT READ YOUR MIND.
Nobody can read your mind! Stop punishing someone for doing things that you don't like but also refuse to address.
It's immature and you aren't allowing them to play their part.
This goes for men and women. And from experience, straight forwardness is very attractive, and it makes things pleasant for both while creating intimacy.
I agree with the straightforwardness although my husband doesn’t appreciate it. He wants some soft squishy person and that’s not me.
AMEN Bro so true🙏🏽👏🏼 God Bless you 🙏🏽❤🙏🏽❤🙏🏽❤🙏🏽❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
❤🙏🏽👏🏼
Thank you again Stephan Speaks 🙏
Thank you for this video. My challenge is I've been dealing with a very quiet man who will just not say a word at all, and for me that's frustrating. I tried several times to bring it up with him yet I feel he's not improving at all, I feel like he's dismissive and I'm not good at pushing.. I'm tired.
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
This was a great topic!!!!
Most important point: 🙏 Pray 🙌🏾
Absolutely!
This is all very well, but we’re dealing with men’s egos. And they don’t like being told what to do!
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Love your videos and insight Stephan! Thanks for all you do😊
I’m trying to LISTEN past how GOOD he’s looking in this RED!!! ❤ Come on Stephan!!!! I’m trying to FOCUS here man!!! 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁🥰🤭🤭🤭… okay, let me rewind phone face DOWN! 😂
People communication is just talking. Its not, its about learning the language of the person you want to speak to, and communate in that way.
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🙏🏽🙌🏽♥️ thank you Stephan.
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