How To Stand Up For Yourself Without Being A Jerk
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From my experience, alot of ppl will dislike you for standing up for yourself. They might respect you, but the energy they have will change towards you. I just stood up for myself for the very first time at a female coworker. Idk how I had the courage to do it because I would just let things slide and say things like "it's not a big deal" to avoid a potential argument. After I stood up for myself, I felt great without any feelings of guilt because I spoke to her in a respectful manner while not giving into the pressure of avoiding an argument. My best advice to anyone is to stop fearing people.
What did you say to her and how? I need help T_T 😭
@@ayasaka7516 it was work related bull crap. I just told her what I wanted to do whenever she tried to be petty. She was angry but I don't give a f%$*. I just kept my cool and walked away after talking to her.
Not really fearing people. People need to stop fearing confrontation.
@@centurionpan3400 Fair point
Hi hamza, im 15 I just want to say, Thank you for everything . You have improved me in ways i would have never been able to without you. I have started hitting the gym,meditating, eating right, being nice to the people around me and being thankful for all the things i have.
I have gone from being a pessimistic, nihilistic bitch to a person with a more positive outlook on life,and am making a serious effort in bettering myself.
I want to become the best version of myself,and you have helped me a LOT on this journey.
I love you and I love this community of brothers we have built here, I believe that together, we all can make it out of this suffering and be more like Adonisssssssssssss :D
Hamza, you're changing my life, thank you !
he is the goat
but what if they don't stop after you stand up for yourself?
Allahumma barik hamza, that beard coming in nicely
Great video! I realise this is aimed at young men, but as a young woman I can also relate to this. I recently started standing up for myself and it is so freeing. I no longer have to carry these angry and bitter feelings about people walking all over me, because I no longer let them.
Damn I really have a hard time standing up for myself, I would get scared of the outcome and wow Hamza thank you for the wake up, I would usually laugh it off. Thank you
It's the people that interrupt you when you're talking... goddamn...
I had a friend who humiliated me in front of his friends. I was like 17 at the time and that was a moment where I really should’ve stood up for myself, but I just couldn’t. I took him out of my life, but I really wish I would’ve said anything. I would’ve loved to embarrass him in front of his friends
we humans want the best for us are lives
Why is this so freaking relateable
perfect timing lad ty
Thank you hamza, I feel like this is the piece of puzzle I needed to hear
Thank you so much hamza
Another good video !
Notes for the brothers:
- Jefferey: Waits for the right moment to stand up to his friend that insults him, and will explode on his friend.
- Adonis: always in flow, he isn’t thinking. But he’s always ready to stand up for himself if needed.
- We must recognize that standing up for ourselves won’t make people dislike us. It will actually make them respect us more for being honest and our authentic self.
- Don’t wait to do this. Have enough self-respect to stand up to people that do things to upset you, even if they are your friends.
well said. im writing this down
Thanks for your wisdom
This is good content.
That thing exactly happened when I was in college...2 years ago.🔥🔥
Man i want to stand up for myself from my bully but when i do the whole class will turn on me
I resonate so much with you… I wanna join this movement and be a better person and respect the person I am
I just don’t know where to begin
Don't say that my brother just try anything Read a book , meditate , go to the Gym , learn programming and turn these things into habits and stay consistent with them and quit bad habits like Junk food and porn Never give up king 💪
your first step is your physical development, work out, wether it be lift weights or a form of sport, do something challenging for your body then slowly get into meditating, Meditating and Physical Exercise are the two things that'll get you the furthest
watching hamza is a good first step hahah
Respect Big brother ☺️☺️
Very nice video we thank you for your content
b r o its idk if im living in an illusion rn or what but like life just kinda slowly became what i wanted it to become and i didnt even realise it
Another piece of wisdom absorbed, you reminded me about that friend who is toxic to all of our group just because someone said something about his crush that he is afraid to even speak to, like he's the type of guy who threatens you for doing something useless (joke about his crush) and does nothing. Literally what a joke he became
Jeffrey
this is very relatable i think you like my channel I started self-improvement and I made my first youtube video this week and I need some advice maybe if you watched it would help me a lot I did 100 pull-ups on that video
@@gui.aesthetics.santos will check it out
literally the gigachad version of dhar mann
PROFOUND
go hamza hope you to become adonis
I love u so much
The thing is i am surrounded by the people who always insult me and i cant do anything because at the end they come on the grades see i can do better than you so can you please tell me how to fight them
two days ago I just started shouting at a rdm guy in the tram like crazy cause he made a little sound with the airpod sleeve (idk the english word)
the situation got defused when we both got up and it looked like we were going to fight but damn. I need to get punched in the face to get down to earth again
Hamza, we all love you, You're changing lives out here. Keep up the good work!
Hello hamza
All Jeffrey hurt by this video
Ok without yall hating on me, I Need as much constructive criticism as possible, so I am around 13, barely 150cm, my diet sucks, school Is Fairly decent, and I way shorter than I should be for my age, I practically eat no veggies or fruits other than carrots and cucumbers, everyday for school, and I am lactose intolerant, and idk how to get a proper diet, there is one food I hate for no reason, tomatoes, I know this is really vague, but can anyone help in any way
Also I workout almost daily(exercises at home)
And go to swimming 4 or 5 times a week
0.75x speed is good 😅
Real
NGL I cried while watching BC I knew this was gonna change my life Ty bro ❤👌🥲
Ok but how?
Matthew 18:15-17 The Church could be just multiple people
@@fuzbeatboxern5714 I'm Muslim
When i was 17 i uppercut my father we got into a fight and we are a happy family dunno how tf that works
Hmmmm relatable
I'd say it all starts with respecting yourself.
Till the time you don't respect yourself, what are you ever going to stand up for yourself for? You yourself are already treating yourself much worse than anyone else can.
But once you start to respect yourself, you see yourself automatically start to turn into a no BS man. You automatically feel inclined to stand up for yourself the way you would for a loved one.
I'd say thats the goal that should be targeted.. to start to respect yourself.
Jesus loves you guys
man exactly, no self improvment youtube ever talks about this, but that's the main source of most problems, and why it's hard to grow, if you don't respect yourself, you might be able to do this a couple times, but you won't be able to make it a habit, so people should be focusing on their self esteem befoe they start improving themselves
@@RejectMediocrity-Podcast hamza talks about it all the time lol
@@5tone_10 true
How do I respect myself what do i do
The problem is that my entire "friend " group is full of just insulting ppl whom I just spent 6 years with . Funny how in those 6 years I barely care for them except a few . I just cut them out and talk to the better ones separately. But The next time these ppl say something insulting again , I'll thrash them professionally like Hamza said
At this rate just drop em
You know we insult each other in the friend group as well, but its hilarious. They have proven themselves more than once that they are there, when I need them. And when they need me, I will drop everything and drive straight to them.
Get American friends if they were all Indian. I'm brown like you, I realized a long time ago that brown friends come with restrictions like culture and religion. You can't really be yourself around people like that. They have nothing better to talk about but about other people.
@@jackson137 yea but that's different
Toxic relationships are never good
So earn their respect and they won’t talk shit to your face unless they’re really looking for problems
Once they have your respect, feel free to leave them
That’s just my advice, you don’t necessarily have to follow suit
Your not just telling stories, your changing lives
so you see...
corny
hamza is my fav bed stories
*You're
Dharr man
Upd: Guys, unfortunately, Hamza didn't reply to my suggestion so I created my own UA-cam channel
Hello, Hamza. I saw your community post about translating videos into other languages. I'm a native Russian speaker and I've been learning the art of translation for 2,5 years at the university. If you want your videos to be spread among the people of CIS, please look through your applications, I sent you one last week. I've typed the same thing under the community post but please don't misunderstand me. My parents are both doctors and they've been working for 30 years already, and I have a younger brother. So I want not only to help my family with the money but also make enough money for my parents to quit their job and live a comfortable life. I'll be extremely grateful if you read this comment. Thank you for your attention and everything you do for us.
Guys, thank you very much for your support, I can't express in words how much I appreciate it
Yes I could also translate to polish
@@TymekCichy Witaj bracie 😀 dobrze widziec rodakow na self improvemencie.
Cmon you can do it bro
I hope he hires you brother , love you and hope you succeed in life
Fun fact, Adonis is a common Greek name that is still used today. I have a cousin named Adonis and he is an amatuer MMA fighter, so ya know.
I know one wrestler who is in WWE the member of team Hit Row. His name also is Adonis (or nickname)
Another fun fact: adonis is mythologically the husband of Aphrodite
@@OfficiallyLarry lover*
@@c4g3dB34st sorry, right
"Do the Hard work ,especially when you don't feel like it."
This Line is Like My Mantra now whenever I want to do stuff that I don't feel like doing.
Thanks Hamza🤜🤛
Great advice, man. I do that everyday.
Also make breaks. 🌻🌾
Sleep enough 🛌 and stay hydrated. 💧 Take good care of yourself. 💗✨
This is why I found I NEED to workout, get bigger, stronger, and learn to fight.
Once people see you can literally fuck them up, they naturally think twice before even trying you. It stops the problem from happening in the first place.
I've found that once people find out I do MMA, I workout consistently and they see muscle on me, I've not been getting messed with or disrespected like when I was skinny and frail.
The average man is actually a pussy. Think about this, you ever notice dudes acting tough and its mostly almost always to someone smaller, weaker, or someone they know they can beat? But when they meet someone bigger or someone they can't beat, they have a completely different energy? They should keep that same energy for everyone.
You are right. But there are some people who know no limits when it comes to disrespecting you and they won't stop until you put them in their place.
@@theaqua1517 very true. I have a guy in my class that used to try picking on me because I was a boxer and wanted to fight me every time he had the chance to talk to me. Did the boxing fight and won in the end and he started to respect me.
You're a badass
bro u didnt even tell us how were supposed to do it 💀💀💀💀💀💀
Stop overeacting
@@kyrrepedersen1506stop telling others they're overreacting
This is just motivation, you already know deep down what you have to do
I got criticized by a group of inner-jeffery outter-chads in my hostel just cuz I'm into self-improvement and they see me working out while they sleep, me meditating, journaling, me having eggs and milk while they eat chocolates. I couldn't really stand up for my self and had negative thoughts all day and thanks to Hamza he drops a video on it the same day!
😅yaa bro same goes with me i think unless we dont stand up with our thoughts they are not gonna understand us
Lol get out of your head
@@Khajit-oe8ej grow up lol
This is mad. Your dad helped you with a large task to directly to benefit your career and he does one old person out of touch thing, pretty innocent thing at that which would take 2 seconds to cut from the video and you think your brave for "standing up to him" come on bro. This isn't the one.
Sir you gave me the right advice at the right time 😒 . Now I'm going to stand against them all 💗. Time for a war.... Thank you ❣️
Jesus loves you guys
In high school I was in the most mentally fucked situation with my "friends" because they would openly insult me and every time I would stand up for myself I was told I'm being a p*ssy. Honestly glad I decided to leave the group and workout with my real friends who were willing to grow with me and not constantly find a way to drag me down.
Standing up for myself is something I want, but I don't want to act like a nerd saying: "hey, please stop, your bothering me", type stuff. This also comes from people just roasting me in school and online and it bugs me, I really want to change this around and get respect out of people.
Eventually enough pain will cause you to take action.
Join wrestling, boxing or muy tai/ kickboxing. After a while u will gain the confidence u want
@@joshuamedina2019 I did boxing over the summer and I pretty much quitted, I sometimes go to the gym but I need to force myself more because I get really lazy, especially after school since I'm so mentally drained from useless knowledge.
Just say something like "Bro just shut up". But not aggressively or angry, just in a serious tone. And if they don't stop after that, they don't respect you, so you need to physically teach them to respect you, and you know what I mean by that. Otherwise it will never stop, trust me.
@@jhfle26 go back and don't quit
I had a situation just like this. My entire friend group decided to swap sides with me. I was being bullied and at that moment I realised how much stress they put on me. They were part of the problem. So I ditched them and started fresh. In a few days I had a new friend group who didn't side with bullies.
I still don't understand what should I do ( as stand up) if any one is disrespecting me like hit them make fun of them again? Please help*
Sometime into the video I realised something important. One of the ways in which we as young men are conditioned to be more passive is in our laughter. We were conditioned as children not to laugh when something unfortunate happened, eg someone slipping on a banana or a prank one of our classmates pulled on the teacher. Because of this, we have learned that laughing is an offensive act of sorts that we should be cautious when doing. This is why you see young men giggling quietly and effeminately at funny things rather than wholeheartedly laughing and guffawing.
I am in 10th class. I travel through the bus to my school . And there is a guy in 12th grade and he constantly disrespect me. I could never win in a fight and even if I fight and beat him then he will tease me more. If I took it seriously and beat the shit out of that guy then he will definitely come the other friends of his and it will only make situation worse. What should I do? Please help Bros🙏
Use some psychological trick on him, Give him a treat & he'll regret for hurting good guy & he can become nicer to u
Does he disrespect you by words?
Ask him if hes okay, thats the most insulting and humbling thing you can do to a mentally ill person like him. (Assuming he is).
Hit the gym
be better than him
Hey Hamza, on the off chance that you see this one comment, this video really changed something in me deep down. I've watched your channel all the way back from 20k, and nothing has ever struck me like this particular video. The vivid explanation that you set up things to say but never did, is exactly what I used to do. Especially the talks about the schooling system just saying "go tell the teacher" or "call the police" really didn't teach me at all how to stand up to people the correct way, especially living out in California. This video has changed my mindset in so many ways. Thank you Hamza. Keep up the great work.
Wow ! Good for you.
Faz muito sentido cara,um homem tem que saber se defender e impor respeito,cada vídeo uma lição do Hamza! ❤️🔥
Caraca um BR que assiste Hamza kk primeira vez que acho um
@@MayconMLG kkkkk br tem em tudo que é canto irmão,graças a Deus sei um inglês suficiente pra assistir os vídeos do Hamza, é muito conhecimento slk
Boa irmão. A meta é virar um Adonisss kk
@@matheusulisses5579 Com certeza! 🔱🔥
Bem vindo ao clube!
A few days ago I realized how aggressive I became during my self improvement journey.
I was going to school by bus. There was only 1 seat left buy the guy had his backpack on it. I asked him if I can sit here but he looked me in the face and said no. I felt like everyone is looking at me. I didn't want to be a pu$$y so i took his backpack, threw it somewhere and punched him hard in the face. It was the first time i hurt someone for like 3 years. He was 18, I'm 17.
I really need to learn how to stand up for myself in a respectful way, because I don't want to hurt people. Any ideas where to start?
@Aman i did it cause i had promised myself that i'll always stand up for myself. But you're right, punching wasn't a good thing to do in that situation.
@@mr.potatoman2409 I actually think you did the best. Who takes the right rather letting a backpack sit, where you could have been sitting. Like tf get your fucking backpack out the way.
Sit down without punching someone.
@Aman Just read the 48 laws of power
@@-whackd yea sit on the guy's backpack 😂
This is literally my entire grade in high school…. They cross boundaries and say disrespectful shit all the time including to me and I’ll do this pretty similarly and also just call them out for it (especially because when we have class work I’m the one doing a lot of the work with some other people while the rest of the class does nothing) but whenever I do so they either 1) want to fight over the smallest shit or 2) they just keep pushing boundaries despite how clear I’ve made it what my boundaries are. That’s part of why I’m going to the gym - respect and the ability to defend myself properly. I’m also gonna get into either Krav Maga or boxing. Like Jordan Peterson said, be powerful, be formidable, and then be peaceful, in that order, and then you can be a dangerous man. That’s the idea behind what I want to do. I want to be dangerous as fuck, and then control it when I need to, and when I need to command respect I can do so again. When it happens I don’t know what to say. If I say it they just pull some shit like “what are you gonna do about it” and from there I have no idea what to do. Anyone else experienced this?
Maybe you could try to call them out on the fact that they resort to violence first before they even try to be reasonable? I don't know for sure though, I've met those types of people and through my experience it's best to just ignore them until they're gone, they're not worth the effort.
@@qaiserkhan4465 The problem is they are his highschool mates, you either back out and do nothing or make an action. back out and do nothing (ignoring) is probably one of the most suffering choices. And if he make an action against it, it's just a high risk high reward options
Mate try joining Hamza's discord server and look for answers there
@@budi9573 link?
@@budi9573 nvm
Things get more complicated when you're dealing with something like this in the workplace. You must do it with such grace and tact as soon as a personal boundary is crossed or else risk making the situation worse, ultimately leading you to be forced to resign or expulsion.
It's not that simple as with friends or family.
The workforce taught me first-hand that age does not correlate with maturity at all. Most of the worst people I've encountered as an adult were individuals around twice my age. High school never ends with some people.
Hamza, this is your first video I've seen, it's incredible how you describe your experiences, and you give some tips
Love you ❤️
vecchio ti ho trovato nei commenti,
sono io bibino
@@Cookingmery non ci credo, ma il nome? XD
A few weeks ago, when P.E class in school ended I had the football we were using and threw it towards the P.E teacher for him to catch whilst he was walking. I threw the ball a bit further to account for his movement but it went to far and he reached for it and missed, after this the ball rolled away so I had to run after it and get it. Then when I returned, that teacher gave me a dirty look and made a nasty comment but I didn't respond because your 'not supposed to stand up to a teacher'.
This moment just stayed in my mind for a few days and now, in hindsight, I'm wondering what I should have done instead of being such a pussy.
It’s okay bro. You’re a better person then that teacher, imagine being mean to a young person. The teacher only done it because they know there will be no repercussions, they’re simply a bully. Next time it happens either say something, put him in his place.
You should have realized high school PE class means nothing and your teacher does nothing with his life except waste yours. Test out of high school courses as soon as possible to enter uni early or start a business. Go join a boxing or judo gym instead of playing some faggy ball game with your teacher.
„Sometimes giving someone another chance is like giving a shooter another bullet.“
You're really speaking about things that no one other is speaking about and it's all truth. Thank you Hamza.
Thank you so much these year 9s pick on me for no reason they tried to trip me
Thx to him I get bit*hes now and I am more confident about myself yet I am still doing what I can to improve myself where I can. My life is just better now thx to him. He’s not telling things you want to hear, he’s telling things you need to hear.
Thank you, Hamza for the advice. I always had an underlying fear of sticking up for myself because I would think of the worse thing to come or start argument with people. But I’ll keep this advice in mind.
Thank you for the Video man but could you maybe do a part two , more focusing on how to stand up for yourself WITHOUT beeing a jerk.
I personally never had a problem with standing up for myself I did and do it all the time. My problem is that sometimes im too harsh to the other person and even tho I'm "winning" ( as my rhetorical and quick-wittedness skills are pretty good ) and gain theire respect I also loose sympathy in theire eyes.
I have the image of the guy you better not fuck with , cause you will regret it.
But i want the image of a guy you dont want to fuck with cause hes so respectful and kind
In this video you didnt help my with anything… i have a guy in my friend group and he just roasts me for everything.. but he has the most respect and everyone just agrees with him… first i standed up for myself but he just roasted me for standing up for myself… and i cant like beat him up… hes two heads taller than me… i just have to accept it… but i see in my friends eyes that they look different at me after he says something..
people nowadays are really crying over being told "ur gay LOL"?
Hey, Hamza. Just thanks for, changing my life. I used to be a nerd that jacks of everyday and never goes out. Now, I started to go to a gym and worked out at home, which was amazing. I am kind of addicted now to improve myself. I loved science and created a club in school but I didn't do anything about it. Now it is one of the best in school and I finally started to gain some self respect. Thanks.
In Romania at least friends making fun of each other is absolutely normal. I noticed that foreigners are much more easily offended, I used to be offended too , but then you start not caring and you make fun of them they make fun of you you’re still friends, no one hates each other.
Yeah it's the same environment here, as it is probably all throughout the world, but I think people should learn to pick the differences between a joke and an act of provoking someone intentionally. It's a bit more complex though, because sometimes people will disguise they're insults as 'just a joke, man' and others simply don't know when they take it too far.
@@qaiserkhan4465 exactly! I don't agree with the original comment about some foreigners are easily offended or whatever, it's about you as an individual and what you consider to be disrespectful or not and that will happen in romania or whatever country you're from, you either set some boundaries or you don't then try to convince yourself it's all jokes
you might be right, maybe 90% are just jokes but some times people mask the insults as jokes and you need to be aware of that
It can be hard to tell. Some of the most toxic narcissist types will 'just joking' after doing or saying something horrendous. Then blame you for the reaction they were pestering you for. Ultimately you have to listen to your gut more than their words.
what if your family do not acknowledge your struggles and health problems that you have? They think I am faking it whenever I bring up my life struggles and ignore me? I am a grown ass adult male, but I get treated like I am their servant or something. I've always been there for them but they've never been there for me
when i was in 2nd grade, i had a very good friend of mine who i spent a lot of time with, but when covid hit, i couldnt go to school for three years and couldnt do online classes for personal reasons, but when i finally went to school, he was very different. He made two more friends who were clearly not nice to me, he started ignoring me, those three people were like a gang. He once insulted my big bro and i tried to stand up for him but those three bombed me with insults like i never existed, now i will stand up to them like a man. Thanks you Hamza
Hello Hamza and tribe! I have something super exciting to share. So today I fell off the stairs in front of a senior (I'm junior) and he didn't even give a shit. Later we both were in volleyball selections and he came from the back and said "careful you're gonna limp on your hand too just like you did with your leg" while laughing, and with no hesitation I stood tall and turned against him (I noticed my chest was bigger than his lol) and said "Don't talk too much" with a fierce look in my eye and guess what? Bro got scared for 2 seconds, I saw it in his eyes lol and he instantly blabbered something up and fled away from the scene. I felt BADASS! Thanks to this amazing tribe!
this is very relatable i think you like my channel I started self-improvement and I made my first youtube video this week and I need some advice maybe if you watched it would help me a lot I did 100 pull-ups on that video
Based bro
@@arnavpandey1424 wdym?
@@mikeyyy08_ you did the right thing and i am proud of you bro
@@arnavpandey1424 thanks a lot bro! BTW I'm Indian too
Hi Hamza and everyone who might see this.
First, thanks hamza.
Second, if you're reading this comment I hope you will succeed, you got this bro.
And now I'm going to make a promess here, I promess that i'll be the better version of myself asap and i already am going for it.
I WILL SUCEED in my quest, and I will NEVER give up.
I really needed this.
I wouldn't consider myself "fat", but apparently there are people that do, but that's not enough for them, so they insult me, and that hurts even more when you consider that I do work out and go to the gym and try to lose weight. I just spoke with one of those people and I'm waiting on a response, but I really needed the tips and pointers from this video, and it allowed me to navigate the situation with more ease.
Thank you Hamza for your videos and tips on becoming a better man, continue to do what you do.
if you are heavy then you will get a huge boost when you start gymmaxxing, as fatter people are naturally stronger from carrying weight around with them all the time. being fat can be a really good way to get newbie gains through calisthenics so dont worry, dont make it your goal to lose weight if you are struggling with it, make it your goal to gain weight and put on muscle, even if you are still fat. eventually, after you bulk more, then you can cut down by fasting and only (mostly) taking supplements like multivitamins, pre-workout / energy juice, creatine monohydrate, whey protein, etc. i'm not one to tell you what your goals should be as i'm not your gym coach, but whatever you do just dont give up and keep putting the work in. it'll pay off
Where is the "how to"? Watching this video told me to stand up for myself but I still don't know how to
Say something that's hiw
Hamza i appreciate your great work but this video... I dont know i couldnt get a helpful tip. could sb sum up the most important information please
This video would've been so fucking helpful 2 days ago. but sadly now its too fucking late and i destroyed my family.
When some dumb "friend" is makeing me look dumb etc. i just dont talk to them they get mad and get pissed on me cuz i act like i had enough again or i just dump them , im trough so many dumb "friends" who just wanna be with me,in person theyre nice and other things but when theyre with someone and im there theyre such a jerk,they insult me on everything like i say ok or yes and they fcking insult me like ooo our thinking about .... ( wont say it ,but its really anoying cuz i dont do that or watch that.) so anoying bruh.
When someone in a friend circle disrespects me I call it out once very politely then if they gaslight me i pretend like im retarded and just ghost them lol
thank you for the hard work you put in videos bro. You are the person who helped me go through depression
I feel embarassed that i kinda make fun of my friends i know they don't take it seriously and neither do i but they won't tell me to not do it so I will try to not make fun of them that much
remove the toxicity out of the group. if there is no mutual respect, do not be around them. a circle that does not grow you is not a good one. a circle that drags u down is even worse.
In my case, because I’ve gotten used to being excommunicated from groups for having my opinions, now it’s ingrained into me that no matter where I go, I will have an expiration date with a group. Either I’m excommunicated or I’m walking away; either way I walk with honor
I agree but it's almost the fear of making new friends in mid 20s
@@freshfromthebest I’m at a point now where my default is “who’d wanna be my friend?” I have no one else’s feet to stand on but my own
this is very relatable i think you like my channel I started self-improvement and I made my first youtube video this week and I need some advice maybe if you watched it would help me a lot I did 100 pull-ups on that video
I think the phrase 'be the change that you want to see' can be applied to your situation, because once people see what type of person you are, you might have like-minded friends.
what could you say in a professional manor, to stand up for yourself?
I can imagine red polo shirt and smart shoes hamza pretty good xD
You have honestly changed my entire life. after watching this I started to realise that most people in my friend group were a bad influence, mean, and just horrible towards me, so i cut them off. after that, I have been living the best life ever. not getting
yelled at and called names just because i'm from a different race is quite nice!
Thank You Hamza.
All im gonna say i wish i could watch this video 3 years ago
Hey Hamza I am a 13 yr old boy/man and I thank you for the things u just sayid it really inspired me and motivated me and the next time someone would be disrespectful to me I will stand up for myself. Thank you once more Hamza.
One guy bullies me in school with his friends. They are so large I can't do anything but tell the teacher. But the teacher doesn't care, so I decide to stand up for myself. And they start threatening me, and I know they're dangerous af, they have knives, lots of grown-up friends, who fight people with pleasure, all they do in their lives is just beat up the weaker guys. I'm really lost in this situation and I don't know what to do, I can't fight him, I have no friends, because, in my small town, you need to be able to fight, and fight well, to make friends. If I hit n run, they're gonna find me, it's 100%. Sorry for my poor English btw, it's not my native language
How’s the situation now
@@ahmadhedjasi727 same. Impressed that I'm still alive tho
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Well I don’t know what to tell you. Sounds fucked. Where are you from?
@@z1ll4jr53 S.Korea. The guy bullying me is russian. Russian people don't joke around, and I know that
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Man. I don’t know. I genuinely want to help you but I can’t figure it out. Sounds like you need a group at least. You cant really do this alone if what you said is 100% real.
The only thing that comes to my mind is for you to learn where they leave and to kill them one by one without them knowing it’s you outside of school lol but we gotta be real now. I don’t know bro. Sounds like the worst scenario possible. I’ll think of it and you will probably figure it out. If you have friends and people who hate them too that might be a step.
well buddy i guess i did a good job and cried like a bitch while he other guy beat the shit out of me cuz i was to weak . imean i knew i would lose but happy to be back in one piece
Better stand up for yourself bcs you will regret it later in life just like i do haha no matter if you look like a “jerk”
Bro no joke today I had this realisation of why people disrespect me. And its because I dont stand up for myself enough. This is the video I needed to see
The problem is that I don't even have friends.
Hamza, I really hope you see this man.
Just wanted to say, you should definitely create some type of key chain or bag chain of some symbol representing this cult. I could just imagine having one on my gym bag at the gym and seeing other brethren having one as well- on their self improvement journey following this cult. It would help our brothers to find esch-other and hopefully make new friends along the line.
Just an idea but sure would help a lot. I really appreciate your videos man, changed my life completely.
Hamza you are great brother
Love from india