The Difference Between Busy and Non Busy People
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- Опубліковано 8 лют 2025
- Some people are not busy. They appear calm, collected, and in control… but still productive. They are enviable in the life they live. What do they understand about life that others do not?
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I hate that I feel guilty when I stop & rest. I really needed to hear the last part of this video. Even Jesus rested on Sunday. Society has made us feel that slowing down a little means we're lazy.
“Rest is not laziness” writing that down to repeat to myself constantly.
A boss told me once that he DESPISED that i walked and not run whenever i was going from one place to another bc if you run it looks like you're working harded. I replied that i did get the work done and he said 'i know you do but still it makes you look bad" ... i'm glad i dont work there anymore
Oh my, how awful . I'm glad you no longer work there. You are wise. Your productivity was spot on yet still, you were judged unfairly.
My last boss made me leave the emergency room and said he needed me at the restaurant-with no regard to my health or sickness. Found out later that they could have functioned without me.
I’m a retired person and worked until I was 75. I was a successful and busy younger guy in management until I retired. Now I bask in the freedom of being able to soak in being. Time for friends and experiences that nourish my soul. I’ve said goodbye to much but have received so so much more.
Thank you
I think we should also accept that things are temporary... AND that they're not supposed to last forever. If you have a bake shop that was very successful for a few years then something came up and you had to sell it, it doesn't mean the business was a failure. It just worked for that season of your life. Same with relationships, friendships, exercise routines. Maybe things ended, but you gained rich experiences and lessons from it.
Seems especially true of MARRIAGE 😂🤣😂🤣
I definitely agree! @jackie
Hey! How are you doing today?
I learned to accept loss and move on after things and relationships had ended.
Thank you for putting that into perspective. 😊
Thank you for honoring the concept of being unbusy. I am the only one in my friend circle who isn’t busy and I’m probably the less stressed of all of us. It is completely a choice.
What wonderful insight. As a mature single woman I find everyone in my peer group busy being busy. They seem to think that if they 'admit' they have free time, it will be a sign that they don't have enough friends or that they are not wanted. They fill their days with endless activity and don't have time for real friendships. If you have a crisis, which by definition is unplanned, they don't have time to help out. I really miss the days when people would just pop round and no-one was too busy to lend a hand. It's all rather sad.
Dearest Rosalind, your words are very thoughtful and heartfelt. They resonate with me. I too, feel what you have felt from 'busy'. xxx
So so So true. I, find the very same.
Agreed
This was all so true.
I am British. But live in Germany. I love that in Germany shops are not open on Sundays. You are not allowed to do noisy work at home eg use a hammer, lawnmower or washing machine etc..because this should be a day of rest and quite to allow people to rest..
Because of these rules, it makes it easier to relax, have family time etc on a Sunday..something I have learned to appreciate since having children.
Love this approach. It's a collective value!
Sabbath replaced by 🌞 worship.
I totally agree! I lived in England and Canada years ago where shops were closed on Sundays.
Blue laws replaced by WEF
I love this!! This should be adopted world wide; Sundays off, stores closed. A REAL day of rest. ❤
I was busy all the time before I retired. I hated my job for about 3 years before I retired. I retired at 62. I'm loving not being busy. There's pressure from my family to be busy and also to work a part time job because my retirement is modest. I resist the pressure because I'm happy. I used to be tired all the time and also spent more money on gas, food and just about everything. I became extremely frugal. I can save a little every month for an emergency account. I wish my family would be happy for me.
I have learned to say something like, “Not everyone is the same. The way I live now represents, in my mind, success, and peace, and happiness … I feel lucky.” (or, “blessed,” - depending on my audience.)
Wow, I can really relate to that @juditharsenault! I have just retired and I value quiet time on my own. I am struggling to feel confident with that way of living though, I feel like others don't approve and I can't stop that bothering me, which is frustrating!!
An emergency fund gives great peace of mind and I am slowly building mine up 👍
Don't worry about them. You be happy for you. I'm very proud of you as I love the same way and it's so fulfilling. ❤❤❤
I used to say I was busy at my previous job. It wouldn't have been I good idea to say stressed, overworked, and verbally abused. Much happier without that paycheck I left 14 years ago as I have found other pursuits which give me joy.
I am looking for this day to come
It doesn’t just happen on its own. You have to make it happen.
I just left a job to start working remote and have a more flexible schedule to be with my family. This comment was very encouraging for me. ♥️
I just left a job to start working remote and have a more flexible schedule to be with my family. This comment was very encouraging for me. ♥️
@@allison_diehl glad it helped. My position was part time. It was 70% of a full time position. It was in health care. There has been about 20% increase in patient load but now there are 2 full time and one part time position (80% of full time hours). These 3 replacements still complain how heavy the workload is! Looking back, I don't know how I survived 3 years of it!
For me, the people who tell me how busy they are, are usually the ones who complain the most about how busy they are.
When I say “I’m busy”, it’s just because I don’t want to do something and I use that as an excuse.
This is exactly why i stopped inviting people out.
My husband was a non busy person I think. He lived by his calendar for as long as I knew him. If you wanted to have a piece of his time you had to "get on the square". This was a requirement for everyone from "The President of the United States" to his daughter's friend who had a birthday party and everyone in between. He always made time for his job, his community commitments and to play on the weekends. Sadly, he passed nearly 5 years ago and I still miss him, but I remember what he said to people, "How can I help you be successful today?"
This is really beautiful... it seems he understood that each of those "squares" represented the truth of the limits we as humans live in. He sounds really wonderful!❤
There is a difference between being busy and in the “flow state”. I choose to spend my time doing activities that are connected to cooking, gardening, exercising, reading and getting together with like minded people doing gardening (native plant restoration projects) and exercising running/cycling groups and yes a hockey team! When I am gardening and cooking and running I am in that flow state and super happy.
I felt I was finally in the flow state today, it was a really great, happy, and productive day in my site of values:)
6t74
Please explain more about the “flow state” ❣️
I think people answer "busy" as a way to let the person they are speaking with know that they are not open to being asked to do anything by that specific person. For example, I know a woman who asks how people are doing to test the waters, and if they reveal they have the afternoon free, then she will pounce and ask for favors and projects to be done, and once you have revealed that you aren't busy, it's a lot harder to say no without feeling awkward. I assume if someone is asking pointed questions about my life & schedule they are trying to find a way to demand more of my time, so I will always say I'm busy. Busy means I already have plans to do what I want, even if it's organizing a drawer, taking a shower, or reading a book, which are all valid.
Hello! How are you doing today?
@@benmorrison8823busy clipping my toe nails... click.
That was my thought too. If you admit you have unplanned time, a surprising number of people will start to make demands on it.
“I have my afternoon already planned,” is a complete sentence - and easier to say, for a lot of us, than just. “No.”
I appreciate how thoughtfully, precisely and calmly you speak. It makes it easy to hear and comprehend your message the first time through. The work your invested to prepare for this video shows that you do what you are teaching and value the viewer’s time. Thank you!
Hey! How are you doing today?
This is how everyone used to speak. I noticed a change between 2000 - 2005.
This was such a great video. Thank you. I am alone ALOT and I really love it; yet I feel guilty when I say no to almost everyone. I just love making things, hiking, kayaking, reading, etc....all on my own. I only want a few close friends now. I have let go of almost everyone as I think the pandemic woke me up. I had no idea who I was. Everything was "to get more money". I lost my job and my health and I think it was the best gift ever. Anyway, thanks again.
I think we are not meant to keep our friends for ever. Well maybe 1 or 2 but if you don't grow together then there is always friction. Do what is best for you and your family and remember peace is more important than anything. Introverts always feel guilty but we really shouldn't it is who we are.
Good luck with that.
My default answer is no. I don't feel guilty at all. I have to really carefully weigh in an invitation before I will give an affirmative. VERY CAREFULLY. As in .01% will be a yes. I have worked hard to pare down my life. Consider why you would feel guily when preserving your time.
@@karlabritfeld7104 Good luck with what, saying no? It's easy. If you are a yes person, therapy may help. Setting better boundaries is needed.
I am surprised how much of your minimalist outlook resonates with what my religion recommends. As a born Muslim, I never really appreciated the value of focussing outside of myself and my possessions, of talking less and pondering more, of subtracting negativity and waste from my life, family meals, eating when hungry, filling my stomach 1/3 each with food, water and air, etc. Thanks for all your simple ideas and for appreciating my faith better.
I compartmentalise. Work has set time, relaxation has its time, my relationship has time, exercise and mindfulness also fit into my day. I don’t worry what others are doing, I say no often. All of life is temporary and we are only here once, remembering this everyday helps me focus
Great words of wisdom Joshua! Thank you for the reminder! Even God rested on the 7th day!!
He commanded us to. My, we hardly hear the Ten Commandmremts anymore!
Keep His commands & succeed ... Psalms 1 : 1-3
The Sabbath is Sunset Fri til Sunset Saturday but not for Constantine*
I minimalized sugar and fast food and soon after clarity and motivation manifested.
'better is a handful of rest than two handfuls of work and chasing after the wind' Ecclesiastes 4 verse 6. Hooray permission to opt out at times!
Currently reading the book, Essentialism. I want to be less busy and a tad more spontaneous. I do not think this will be an overnight change for me...but recognizing that being busy does not equal happiness.
Didn't see this comment before I wrote mine! Yes, great book, check out his Effortless also.
@@therichbuddha3277 yes! Have it and will read it as well.
This is a great video, thank you! Our culture is being poisoned into thinking "things" define a person and will make you feel better. Only when a person aligns their will with God's will, will they ultimately be and feel complete. I know more people that "busy" themselves with nonsense and are stressed out most of the time. We ARE our own worst enemies. Many blessings to you and yours! Keep these videos coming.
Amen.
Being "busy" isn't inherently negative; it's all about how you fill your days with activities that bring you joy, purpose, and growth. Currently retired (not with a huge pension, nor welthy at all, by the way), I´m busy as a part time proffessor in a local university, connecting with yougsters and planning new projects that I can involve them at. I´m busy communicating with my framily and friends and busy acquiring new knowledge continously. I´m busy even looking for new opportunities that could improve my life even now that I´m 71 and planning to get rid of my car!, and yes, I have my resting, traveling, and personal activities (I´m commenting your video at my "morning" time). I accept having problems with procastination, mostly because I´m single at the moment, but I´m working on that. I LOVE being busy now and will be untill the end of my days. Retirement can be a vibrant and exciting chapter, filled with endless possibilities for learning, connection, and contribution. I trully recommend it, as early in life as possible. I also enjoy watching all your videos! Wishing you all the best in this new year journey, Joshua Becker!
Some people have no choice. To survive they must work 2-3 jobs. Having the power to choose is a big luxury. I am one of the lucky ones. I did work two part-time jobs at one point in my life, so I understand that level of busy.
People are too busy? Many people spend a lot of time on social media but can't keep in touch in real life. We choose how to spend our time! Make time for people who make time for you.
That last sentence 100%
Social media can be accessed while we are doing other things. We can watch these UA-cam videos while cooking or while at work. It's not necessarily an either/ or.
I totally agree with what you say about rest. So many people see it as lazy to take that time out to rest, but it is so important.
I agree with take one day a week to rest. I try very hard to make sure I do that. Great video. Thank you.
There is so much truth in this video! Great practical advice. God created us to seek Him, and until we do so, we will constantly be seeking fulfillment in that which leaves us empty.
And on that note, I'm going to bed early tonight. My need for rest is huge and I've filled my margin to nill.
Back to the drawing board to add back in rest.
Joshua everything you say in this post is true. I saw myself described and I have experienced what you talked about. I am currently working on giving myself permission to rest. It’s very hard for me. I was raised with a hard work mentality. Resting =laziness. God has been showing me with very real circumstances how important it is too rest, say no and stand firm in my priorities. Thank you for the reminder to know my goals so I can remember my end goal when an opportunity is presented to me. This post is timely! Thank you!!!
YES! Learn to say No & you have a choice👏🏼 I think some of my INFJ personality traits prevent me from being busy lol. Slow living is where it’s at.
I'm also INFJ and I feel this to be so true😊
@@juliab628 Similarly, I am an INTJ & in retirement I've toned down quite a bit happily following the beat of my own drummer.
Thank you Joshua for this video! I really like the fact that you say to take a day of rest each week. My family and I have been doing it for more than 7 years and it's been a real blessing to us. This is no surprise God told his people to honor the sixth day by ceasing all work on that day. He knew we needed a day of rest every week.
Thank you for your weekly videos. They are a welcome respite to help me refocus on the things that matter most!
I am not "busy" but rather have a very full day doing and being the person I have chosen to be. I have had to learn to say No. It was hard. Some days I feel that have no control over my days given that my days revolve around my children's schedules, but then I remember that I am truly in control because I chose my vocation. I have chosen to put my all into this season of life and anything that does not pertain to that gets rejected.
I say I’m busy as a polite way to say NO to activities that I do not enjoy doing and only spend my time with people that I like.
I am trying to be busy in a calm and relaxed way......I do lots of things without looking busy because I enjoy most of the things I do or I find the joy in them, be cleaning, digging, shopping, etc...
Thanks for this! I always wondered why everyone's always so busy and im not when i also have a career and have other stuff going in my life. I completely agree that being and saying that you are busy is kind of a mindset.. i have a lot of things to do but i dont let it define me. Im glad i found some answers through this video.
Most of the time I say “I don’t have time for x” but the truth is I have time but maybe not the energy. To do anything in life, it could be something you want to do or something you don’t want to do, you need both time and energy. If you are lacking one of those things then you can’t do whatever it is you were going to do.
Joshua..you are a gift..such great
observations about what really matters in life!!
Thank you Joshua , I make time to rest everyday, I make my favourite tea& have it in a china cup& saucer with a biscuit.
I love this simple ritual it makes me happy ❤️🙏
Yesterday, I looked at my collection of china cups & lamented that I never used them. Today, I am alloting time for a cup of tea & a cookie like you.
It's as the difference between Mary and Martha. Thanks again. Beautiful message. You have a good message.
Not me ever. Now I’m retired not busy and when I worked organized is key, boundaries definitely ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
We are our own designers. Being a minimalist, more of a loner adds so much quality to my organization. I've always been a planner, organized guy. So yes I have many busy days but they are productive and when those select opportunities come about I can easily make the time to go enjoy them. Get off the beaten path. Great video Joshua. Thank you!
This has absolutely got to be one of the most lucid explanations! Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Thank you so much for this video. It came at the perfect time when I was wrestling with whether or not to take on more projects at work while I’m a full time mom.
I agree with this Joshua. I am now in the not busy category.
Saying yes to something when you really need to say no gets your life unmanageable fast. Here’s my plan for this fall and winter : Goal: I want to read more. Plan: I will put reading 📖 time in my day. I will say “no” to other distractions for that 30-60 minute time frame.
Lots of wisdom in this message, Joshua. Thank you for sharing. I always appreciate your sincerity.
What a mighty video. Thank you. It is certainly one of your greatest if not the greatest. Your great statement (Surely lasting happiness and fulfilment can be found somewhere) was the perfect time to tell people that lasting happiness and fulfilment can only be found in Jesus.
Your voice is so peaceful.
I found this channel today, and my house already looks better, and my mind is already cleaner.
Thumbs up!
Wow, you nailed it on so many levels!!! This is something I still struggle with, but continue to work hard on keeping my "business" in check. Thank you for continuing to remind us of how to live our best lives!! Many blessings to you and your family.
So good! Thank you! This month I am having to practice saying no as so many fun invites, events and also balancing of church, health, home, work and rest.
Thank you for remember me off this. After a near death experience last year, i was so clear, i knew what decisions a had to make❤️
Thank you for your videos, I enjoy your talks and am encouraged by your ideas.
This is exceptional wisdom. Thank you for sharing your wealth of insights and understanding. I’m definitely forwarding your videos to the people I love, especially my college-aged daughter. With gratitude! ♥️
Another well-timed message. As I head into the new school year, I am hoping to be well-rested and less busy. Making this a focus and an intent is the only way that I will experience a better work-life balance. Thanks so much for this video.
recommended reading: 🍯The Tao of Pooh, and The Te of Piglet - after reading all A.A. Milne's Winnie the Pooh books, of course!
Great comment 👍🏻
I especially relate to what you said about rest. It doesn't come naturally to me. I need to be intentional about it and guard it! 🙌🥰
I wonder how many people watch this video and rather than look for personal application or reflection they kept their mind busy deciding about who else needed to hear this
I’ve never been so busy since watching your videos and minimising - it’s a good busy though 😂
My go-to answer is "tired"... which is synonymous with busy in my opinion.
i don't say "i am busy"...I say "I still have things to do" or "I'm doing things". The difference is that "busy" is not under your control. "I am doing things" mens that I have chosen to do these things and I am in control of my time and energies.
Most people won't "get that", and I don't care. For me, it's a small trick of the mind and the mouth to remind me that I am in charge, not others. Therefore, I am not "busy"....I am in charge of my thoughts and time.
I love that. It's good psychology.
I've never seen a badge of honor awarded for busyness.
Great video Joshua. I believe everything you’ve been trying to say for years you just said. You have inspired me to use my time differently which to me means focus on what you believe your purpose is. Thanks!
This really hit home with me. Thank you for a new perspective.
This was the BEST, THANK YOU!!! (It could not have come at a better time for me and it was TRULY a Confirmation for me and my life! ❤️ GOD BLESS YOU!!!)
Such Wisdom and insight, thank you for promoting permission to rest. God bless you and your family, keep looking up 🙏🙌👑
Notre société nous conditionne que trop à être occupé... il est coutume d'associer le repos que quand on est vraiment très fatigué... juste se reposer et prendre du temps pour ce soi et souvent associé de façon négative et apparenté à de la fainéantise alors que comme tu le dis nos corps et nos esprits ont besoin de ne pas être en perpétuelles actions... Merci Josué pour cette vidéo très instructive 😉
This was perhaps the most important video I could have seen today. Thank you.
I need to listen to this every day, as someone working 2 jobs full time (over most weeks..)
Beware the barrenness of a busy life ~ Socrates
OMG!!! Thank you Thank you Thank you! That's what we all need to hear and do!!!♥️♥️♥️
Yes yes yes!! This was so good. This spoke to me deeply. Thank you for this.
With the amount of workloads that people are under, it is a wonder they can do it at all. Have to set boundaries where enough work is enough otherwise they will work you to death. There is a difference too with being busy and being productive. Riding on a riding mower 2-3 times a week is not productive. It is boredom. Grass can't grow that fast.✂️
Every video, every time, wisdom. Thankyou 🇦🇺
Improved work life balance
Less stress
Deeper relationships
Overworked, overstressed, exhausted
Specific Intentionality
Rest is not Laziness
Solitude, meditation, prayer
Relentless Intentionality
Overburdened by ovefilled cluttered busy schedule
Thank you for posting this video. I needed this affirmation. ❤️
This might be my favorite video to date!
5:48 " you can achieve more by doing less " 😎
This is so wise! Life is so short. Thank you!
This was a wonderful video. Thank you for that.
Hi Joshua, I like your videos and the calm way in which you present the material - they are never too long and easy to follow. In your interview with Carey Nieuwhof, I just watched it yesterday, you mentioned a chef's advice on the essential items he uses in the kitchen and you had taken the lead on that idea to reduce the number of utensils and appliances in your kitchen. Could you please give a list of them, or direct me to the original video with you and the chef.
Thank you so much.
saw his name on the feed to the right-is that the one? see below
The article is called A No Frills Kitchen Still Cooks by Mark Bittman. You should be able to Google it and find it just fine.
It's the hustle culture which I never gave in to. So many people are constantly doing - doing - doing. They have forgotten how to be a human being; they are human doings.
Wise words, I especially relate to you having a choice regardless of what is imposed on you but, for example, a boss.
You are awesome and have TONS of wisdom
Thanks for your effort to bring this quality video.
We all…need to hear more videos like this!!
Thank you for sharing!!!😁😄😊
This is very helpful and inspiring. Thank you!
Thank you so much for helping me set up my goal
Thank you for this timely video 💜
I'm actually reading the book of Greg McKeown and I think its one of the best I've ever read😊
As always bravo 👏 and thank you 😊!!
Thanks for watching!
"you are not a victim and you are not a martyr" - Excellent words.
Yet not always true. Sometimes you are
Regardless, a victim mindset never helps.@@lindseye2750
1 Timothy 6:6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.
Great advice , so very true, something not to forget...ever.
I'm on energy saving mode. IF I say I'm busy... It will usually mean I'm busy doing nothing ❤️🔥
I’ve always been busy……with my own stuff, not yours, not societies. Busy with My own values and goals and I’m really happy. It’s easy to say no to all the bullshit.
Love to listen to you!
Thank you Joshua
Hello! How are you doing today?