Generalisation: Men are taught how to treat women but not what to expect from them. Women are taught what to expect from men but not how to treat them. This spoke to me.
INFP, I've found that most guys put on an act for about the first 3 months, then their true colors start showing.I don't do well under anyone's thumb, the controling types
@@victoriamarfina9819 i think they just genuinely live in the moment a lot more than rest of the types and so much more than Infps. Life is fast to them. Not to mention shitty Si...they cant keep a track of their own behaviour. The act? high Fe.
I find that particularly interesting, about keeping people at arms length! Always giving themselves a way out because they are afraid of fully committing. True enlightenment comes after overcoming your fear. Thank you for this video!
People crack me up. I've seen some shit talking about you on different websites, but I wonder how many of those people have looked into the research you've done. If they even read 5 of the books on a couple of your book lists they would see how knowledgeable you are on analytical psychology. You may not be 100%, but you have definitely gone farther than anyone else has yet, and I'm glad you put what you've pieced out together for us to hear. I watch a lot of other people. You are definitely my favorite.
Ni critic whispers: they are being too nice.. they are doing the dance ritual of someone who wants something from you. It’s like what you yearn for eludes you, and to self soothe you monologue in the confines of your mind “there are worse things than dieing alone”
That would be Ne critic - concerned with what others want, and if you're actually being desired by someone. Ni critic is about what you want, if this is the path for you.
GOD, I can't digest the density of your content anymore Mr Chase. My mind is just fully occupied whenever you talk about these things. I'm more than grateful for your work. Don't even know how to express it… 🖤
Nice. I like Esther Perel. I listened to some of her lengthy interviews and talks. She and Dan Savage are quite the pair when it comes to sexual/romantic relationship advice. Awesome video btw. That need for familiarity resonates with me.
I know that although I always had a real hard time falling in-love and develop strong feelings for a guy, I didn’t have any difficulties being committed and loyal. I know that as a female INTP, it takes lot to decide on a lifelong partner, but once that decision is made, I am fiercely loyal
I will remember this and read the books. I was really thinking about how I behave in terms of relationships, because my Ni makes me want some relationships, but I felt that I needed something that my Si was missing, now I know what it is: familiarity.
Well you told me to check out your ENFP content, and the more I watch the more I'm convinced I'm not an Si user. I don't care about my own comfort (unless I am in love in which case there had Better be cuddles, it's the only time I get to feel cosy), I make other people comfortable, to build loyalty. It's also why I go to their events and shows despite almost never having interest in those things, you have to Give loyalty to Get loyalty. Can't build a Wolfpack by being a lone wolf. Lion, not tiger. I spent a Lot of time in my ENFP shadow to learn what other people want because I kept losing when I'd go after what I wanted which made me worry a lot that no-one desired me, or would help me in My goals, so I became obsessed with learning what other people wanted, how to spark passion in the other person, and luring them to me (not realizing I was attracting other Ni fire types) and then once their passion was established it was safe for my ego to come out, with which they would then fall into competition. I was capable of nurturing their fire, but they were resentful of the need to tend mine. I would approach what I wanted obliquely, surreptitiously, shape changing as required. (Sounds Super creepy said aloud) I foolishly thought because my Shadow could tell me what other people wanted (Ne ally) and what they thought (Te master) that I wouldn't then be surprised by my worry of betrayal (Ne nemesis), and could allay my insecurities (Se inferior) that people wouldn't be loyal to me, because I can't always whirlwind (Se Aspirational. As a result I tend to hit people with an odd push-pull of chemistry And camaraderie, and have been told by lovers that I'm like a boyfriend (chemistry) And a girlfriend (female friend/camaraderie). I've since been developing my ESTP, side, as at least it's Honest, and an expression of who I actually am internally, (minus the gnawing feeling of worthlessness.. and never living up to my own standard) if hedonistic, and more than a little vulgar. On the plus side I at least knows how to make the NP's in my life feel welcome, and chosen, and with objects around my apartment to set off their Ne imaginations, with comfortable furniture in which they may cocoon in Si comfort. And I know how to show loyalty, and support to other Se/Ni types, though they have an irritating habit of assuming I need/want their protection. Do other Templars experience this? Or is it perhaps a result of constantly having my Ni Not get what I wanted, as a child, that I learned to focus on what everyone around me wanted instead? I'm curious of the inverse is true of any NP's? Surrounded by passionless people so you had to Be the passionate one? No-one pursuing so you had to learn to pursue? A canvas masquerading as a paint brush, only to have the frustration of a double canvas relationship? If a thing exists then its opposite logically must also exist, I suppose. Or does the Si offer too stable a sense of self? Anyway, thanks for listening, void.
Honestly, I feel like I have the same problem as an INFP. I think I might just be unconscious focused because of how I was raised. I’ve been studying this stuff for over a year and I’m still confused.
@@NotCJ95 well everything about your face screams NFP to me, theres a softness to your mouth in particular, and you seem to have Ne eyes to me (I draw a lot of faces). And the other accounts attached to this one seem very Ne/Si. The art on the one profile picture seems pure Ne, and the topic of planting seeds is very Si optimistic, and looks like child function territory to me. "Let me tell you (Te) about the books I like (Fi)", seems very NFP to me, and if I were to see your face in a group/class, I'd probably come talk to you, as you'd seem like a potential friend/romantic partner. Would it freak you out more to be thought a loser to a group of people you wanted to impress, or be called a liar when you're telling the truth? Which makes you more nervous? What I have found the most helpful to cement my position within the 4 sides of the mind is the, "what is the Cognitive Attitude of the Hero/parent/child/etc Function Play list. I remember watching several thinking, "maybe..sometimes" then the Se inferior section of the video made me unexpectedly sob, and the Ne Nemesis made me realise what a paranoid weirdo I am. Apparently everyone Doesn't always suspect potential betrayal from those close to them, unless they know everything about them.. and Si demon, sentencing someone to die by removing them from my future..and the Fi god complex of my super ego.. yep. (And Ti child god complex, if I'm honest I dont think anyone is smarter than I am, or knows better than I do. I literally told someone I thought they were almost as smart as me, and I meant it as a compliment. She is an INTP, and in my top five smartest people I've met.) I can behave entirely like an ENFP, or an ESTP for instance (even ISTJ in an emergency), but I dont typically share in the Worries of their Nemesis function, or insecurities of their Inferior function (though I Can if I have been in those modes for an extended period of time, but I mean day to day, moment to moment). The elemental affinities also helped quite a bit. I was a total pyro as a kid, Fire calms me, makes me feel at home, I am insecure about heights, but am exhilarated by wind, large bodies of water, and space Worry me, but I enjoy swimming, and I love/hate dirt (forests love, dirty hands, hate) I have to be in "camping mode" to fully engage with it. Another thing I found helpful was what type are you most like when you drink? I turn into an amoral rake of s good time Johnny (ESTP) when I drink alcohol, and a manic pixie dream girl (ENFP) when I drink coffee, and both are Way more extroverted and chaotic than my ego, where I gather and organize thoughts and concepts. Focus on the negative, embarrassing traits. They're more likely to be honest. The what are the virtue and vices/ How are the quadras abusive videos are very helpful.. I've definitely had to face up to all of the ways in which I was a total corrupt Lustful hypocrite, and can treat strangers as better than my loved ones. Not fun stuff, but we have to see how we're crap in order to self improve and change. I hope this helps, I know how frustrating getting caught in a typing loop can be. ❤ Lol oh, and I just noticed you have 95 in your named, which I'm guessing is your birth year, and that seems really Si to me. I organize pretty much nothing by the time.
Yes comfort and please have a clean environment. If it's not clean you've scared nps off and they won't say anything but they are on their way far away from you!
ENTP here, to get to the point Yes, maybe not total 100% but mostly agree with the point. Also that was\is the reason that my comitment comes only when I choose, what I wan't, And have the clear path on my decision making trough, knowing testing and bound bulding process with a parnter. Also the very hard start within ENTP's is a 100% there was a tremendeus amout of work that I had to do to build my self to the point of my life when Im now (regarding relationship with the oppsite sex). Great video :)
Hi Chase! Could you give an example of making a si-user comfortable? An example of how the Ni-user can perform to make him/her comfortable, so that I know in which direction I should be thinking :😊
Men initiate and pursue, women respond to that. Men should be the gas while women should be the breaks. Men have the bulk of the responsibility in how a relationship goes, and in the type of woman they choose. But this new generation of feminized men love to throw all of the blame onto women and not look at their part to play. A woman will treat a man how he treats her if he stops to see if she really likes him vs is just accepting his attention for whatever reason. That’s why women don’t need a feminine overlord to decree protocols as men do, because the masculine is meant to be the grounded, strict rule follower, while the feminine is the flow and flexibility and animation. The word “containment” is oldly not used in the US, but it exists in every other language and culture, and it’s desperately needed now because it’s what a masculine man naturally does for a woman, so that’s what needs to be taught to men, not how to absolve themselves of responsibility and deeper levels of misogyny.
I'm looking for the person I can be myself with. I used to get with men who I felt I could have fun with up until I was about 25. Then I realized I want a real relationship, but need to put in a lot of work on myself. I've been with 4 guys in the last 15 years. It takes me a long time to let people in, and I've only really tried 3 times in my life. Two of them were a complete disaster. No doubt contributed to the fact that I was a disaster.
Zak Roedde is an ENTP? That's the guy who experimented different methods to fix his relationship problems, right? I don't know where I would be without ENTPs, honestly. All your content is helping me grow in ways I don't believe I would have been able to otherwise, and that thing that ENTPs do about experimenting until they figure something is something I could never naturally do myself, Lol. I mean, I'm an Se inferior, I'd get performance anxiety probably. Thanks for being you, Chase. I appreciate all your contributions to humanity
I’m only attracted to people if I think they are attracted to me😭😭 it’s so frustrating, as long as I perceive that they like me I’ll like them if they are the most boring and ugly person
Im a UD/UF Infp, i related to this video and much of what you bring to the table. Ive concluded that i cant be with anyone because im the only one "Doing the work" and the fact that i have work to complete before i die, doesnt leave much room for other people.
Committment was tested as an infp in relationship with entp. Fights, accussations, miscommunications. The lot. But when the true test come we both committed even when everyone else contested too it offering their opinions on myself or him. Im like yer of course you would make that analyses of us, from your point of views. Ones saying im too emotional and a nutjob should leave her. Others saying he is too controlling and narcissistic you should leave him. We both looked at each other and when well ...its ride or die ...and i went all in. Not regretted my decision yet ❤❤ relationships are meant to be hard, messy, passionate, beautiful and in the end a true testiment to ones character and evolution as a human being. One opinion was from a supposed family member with relationship problems herself. And the other was from a think a fellow infp who has no relationships and is convinced she is asexual. I learnt myself through my own mistakes don't offer relationship advice if you are not in a position too, in fact don't make any opinion at all, thats between them, even if the said partner is this and that its up to the person to realise that no one else.
Infp, I find it funny because at first I was like "no I've rushed into all my but then remembered that those were for more transactional reasons. Like I latched on bc I saw an easily achievable, comfortable future and latched on because of that and rhen once I realized they weren't going to be able to play the part to achieve that idealized future, it fizzled out and I built resentment. Not proud of it but hey I'm 22, life is about learning and doing better. When it comes to friends I'm a lot more ridged. I often compare my relationship levels to Dante's Inferno and the 9 circles of hell, tho in this case the innercircles are just the degree of how much my mask is off, the innermost circle being the most intimate and raw version of myself thst I'll present to you 😅. Anyone else relate?
Finally some explanation normally i usually say to people that I am demisexual cuz i don't like people to bother me and i never get involved if i don't know the person from some years prior. This was a huge mystery on my life thank you very much 😊
What is falling in love? How can someone sit for years without falling in love, like that's gonna ever happen. Many people fall in love and that lasts for couple of years, then they get familiar with eachother, then they fall out of love and stay together or not, is it about commitment? People keep talking about falling in love, but no one explains it properly. Who will wait for years, there is nothing romantic or appealing for a woman to sit wait her young years for a man who rejects her. Ni gets shut down possibly for eternity.
@@photosky14 i don't, i was memeing how now more & more people are willing to give up in their romantic pursuit with so many available entertainment to distract themselves with
Why you waiting. From my experience love isn't something you chase like some quest or a present you wait to receive. I wasn't interested in relationships when i discovered upon my partner who is entp. Im infp. As an infp i have been driven all my life to self improve and upon that pursuit of my own interest's he happened upon me like some kind of devine intervention or something, two souls reunited. All i know is when you know you know. The attraction the bond will be instantaneous and impossible to break even if you were too break up, the impression would always be there. I only fell in love once and have two boys but if i wasn't open to change or overcoming fears i wouldn't have had that interaction i would have been on my couch watching the notebook or something for hundreth time going oh if only, yer if only you would get off your ass clean up and get working girl ❤😊
@@CuddleClaw. Yeah but it still can be tricky. It comes naturally when I truly wanna be with someone but it can still fail. I was once with an INTP that made me perform either too well or too bad, and it ended up not working out (obviously lol), so now that I'm into an ENTP I'm kinda afraid I might mess things up again.
Slow - bingo! and familiarity. True for friendship, too. Maybe even for things, which become better (more loved) the longer they've been around and the more familiar. (Why didn't I get 2 for when the first one wore out after 10 years??? 🙃 laughing) Hum... but not places or ideas - new horizons are delicious for this INTP. Some tense little knot relaxed, listening to this video. A-ok to just be me 'as is,' made by Nature. Thanks, again, Dude Chase with the gorgeous smile.
This is interesting to me with regard to enfps who are notoriously so open to meeting people and making new friends . I assumed they had to be comfortable with everyone
I've dated all of these types. In my experience NFPs are more likely to feel comfortable with "love" than NTPs. Both are very loyal once they commit. Because they are affiliative, NFPs feel they should marry. NTPs will drag their feet forever to do anything different. My ENFP boyfriend asked me to marry him after two months of dating.
If you are an NP and you demand too much familiarity i think your relationship is bound to fail. That waves lack of effort to me. Even for Ne to get stuck in the Ni web Ne have to do some movement.
That's a lot of hard work😴 And also approaching is not always ni ne but also fi fe I'm an infj and i don't approach anyone but enfps approach me all the time
How badly do you want it? I want that connection with that one person more than anything. Put 1,000 obstacles in my path and I will figure out how to get around them all. Nothing is going to stop me from finding my soulmate and being my best self for him so that we can enjoy a beautiful connection until death. If you want something that badly, no amount of work is too much… that’s how my mind works though.
@@CuddleClaw.I love everything you said. I'm infp and believe I would be the same exact way for my special one. I love an istp. I hope he can feel my love because we are not together right now
@@sharpiesarecool814 I bet he can feel it. My ENTP comes to me in my dreams a lot. It could all be in my own head, but I really don’t think so. I think Ne users that I’ve shared intimacy with have the ability to send me messages in my dreams. It is a super strong connection. I hope you get to be with your ISTP again. ❤️
I need more context about putting the effort to perform as a Ni user. Which type of performance? Cooking, make-up, clothing style, smelling good, keeping the environment clean? I understand the concept but how can I visualize it for everyday situations? Thank you!!
Very interesting, checked out your channel for the first time in a couple of years and you've kept improving the content. Some stuff is hard to hear but all hits home. I'm not too familiar with your specialist terminology so I'll stick to the 8-stack until I'm more informed. The commitment stuff does not need to be elaborated on as you've already spelled it out. ENFP perspective, everything you stated echoes throughout my past relationships. ENFP/INFJ is often said to be a good match but IME it's unsatisfactory for the INFJ who will give much more and the ENFP who desires some kind of equality - but ends up taking what they don't really need and not the calmness and structure that will really benefit them. On the other hand the ENFP may be able to alleviate some of the INFJ tendancy to gaslight themselves and make them feel more emotionally secure, but only to an imperfect extent - Te and poor awareness of how others perceive the ENFP's conduct (unskilled Fe) is gonna cause some upsets especially if it's a male ENFP. It's absurd how you can't talk about gender roles in public without getting cancelled. Are we going to reject basic biological imperatives for some quick political point scoring? I'm pretty damn far from stereotypically manly but I know when to take the lead. After many relationships, my current one of 8 years is with an ISFJ, who was equally slow to commit, but through the process you force each other to live up to certain standards you may have been lacking otherwise. I appreciate that my partner can be strong without giving up on being a woman. Both sides enjoy and grow from the dynamic.
Jung Did express that feminine men were the most masculine, because of their integrated anima. Love that bit about expectation vs conditioned beleifs ie how to treat people.
I am nobody to disagree with the genius of carl jung but either jung didnt said that or that quote is misunderstood, misinterpreted. Men who fit the masculine standard naturally and who later in life became more feminine? And the vice versa? Now that sounds like an intergrated anima animus
Can you please spell the Author name you mentioned or share a link so I can look them up? I heard Zack Rhody but I am not sure how to spell it and I am having a hard time finding anything online.
INFP man. I don’t trust anybody easily. Sure I’ve seen women that are knockouts and I get desirous. However, always lurking in the back of my mind is the question: is that woman morale and kind. I always ask myself in any interaction: what does that other person want or expect to get. I don’t desire to share the best of myself with someone that is looking for a place holder in their lives or doesn’t value me. The caveat, which will sound shallow is, if she is more attractive to me than I am hesitant. I’m hesitant, not stupid!
Meh you have a reason to hesitate if you think a woman is more attractive physically than you. It’s not necessarily shallow as it’s self preservation. It protects you from being rejected. Women look for looks too. It might not be as high a priority as it is for men (as they have a list of other things that take precedence) but it can still be a major factor. Most vvomen look for men to be their equal or greater in most areas. That means if you’re less physically attractive than her, she’s sizing you up for other qualities or not interested at all when you approach her unless you have social proof.
@@susanrodriquez3757 What makes you think the person who made the comment isn't a knockout themselves? They just want to be valued as much as they find the other person alluring.
Introverts are not extroverts to get familiar to people and have the energy to initiate. That kind of defeats the point of introversion if introverts would be quickly getting familiar as extroverts do.
If some Inxj does this way as well, does that mean they're shadow focused? Also, this zak roedde guy, his channel name is so so lacking in any creativity or puns or short and memorable yk? are you sure its an entp?
A glitch killed my first comment. I will try again: I can confirm, it is A LOT of work. But I don’t mind putting in all this effort, he’s been like a huge mystery, a puzzle that I have had to figure out. It’s been 3 mos and I feel like I finally had that lightbulb moment. His behavior etc has been so strange and frustrating to me, but it all makes sense now. And he’s 100% worth the wait, the time, the aching, the effort, all of it. Every part of me: my heart, soul, mind, body, it’s all for him. I’m at his mercy: he can love and cherish me, or he can toss me in the trash, it’s completely his choice. As long as he keeps choosing me and there’s progression (it’s ok if it’s very slow), I’m all in. And I will wait. He’s worth it. -ISTP hopeful in love 🙂🔥
Generalisation:
Men are taught how to treat women but not what to expect from them.
Women are taught what to expect from men but not how to treat them.
This spoke to me.
INFP, I've found that most guys put on an act for about the first 3 months, then their true colors start showing.I don't do well under anyone's thumb, the controling types
I'm an INFP and I just wanna say some ENFJ guys can't even do it for 2 weeks, LOL.
@@fificore why do you think it is so from your perspective?
@@victoriamarfina9819: I suppose they want loyalty without putting in the effort to truly desire the other person. So, a one-sided relationship.
@@victoriamarfina9819 i think they just genuinely live in the moment a lot more than rest of the types and so much more than Infps. Life is fast to them. Not to mention shitty Si...they cant keep a track of their own behaviour. The act? high Fe.
I find that particularly interesting, about keeping people at arms length! Always giving themselves a way out because they are afraid of fully committing. True enlightenment comes after overcoming your fear.
Thank you for this video!
People crack me up. I've seen some shit talking about you on different websites, but I wonder how many of those people have looked into the research you've done. If they even read 5 of the books on a couple of your book lists they would see how knowledgeable you are on analytical psychology. You may not be 100%, but you have definitely gone farther than anyone else has yet, and I'm glad you put what you've pieced out together for us to hear. I watch a lot of other people. You are definitely my favorite.
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Ni critic whispers: they are being too nice.. they are doing the dance ritual of someone who wants something from you.
It’s like what you yearn for eludes you, and to self soothe you monologue in the confines of your mind “there are worse things than dieing alone”
That would be Ne critic - concerned with what others want, and if you're actually being desired by someone.
Ni critic is about what you want, if this is the path for you.
GOD, I can't digest the density of your content anymore Mr Chase. My mind is just fully occupied whenever you talk about these things. I'm more than grateful for your work. Don't even know how to express it… 🖤
Nice. I like Esther Perel. I listened to some of her lengthy interviews and talks. She and Dan Savage are quite the pair when it comes to sexual/romantic relationship advice.
Awesome video btw. That need for familiarity resonates with me.
Your knowledge is honestly levels above anyone else 👏🏽 keep up the good work 💛
I don’t like commitments as a whole. I’m a U.S. marine and…the idea of doing years in (when I first enlisted) sounded like prison to me.
Me performing a tribal welcoming dance everytime I see a NP for the first year...
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Lol
I know that although I always had a real hard time falling in-love and develop strong feelings for a guy, I didn’t have any difficulties being committed and loyal. I know that as a female INTP, it takes lot to decide on a lifelong partner, but once that decision is made, I am fiercely loyal
I will remember this and read the books. I was really thinking about how I behave in terms of relationships, because my Ni makes me want some relationships, but I felt that I needed something that my Si was missing, now I know what it is: familiarity.
Infp and it took me a good 5 years of dating to feel like I wanted to be with them the rest of my life lol
Well you told me to check out your ENFP content, and the more I watch the more I'm convinced I'm not an Si user. I don't care about my own comfort (unless I am in love in which case there had Better be cuddles, it's the only time I get to feel cosy), I make other people comfortable, to build loyalty. It's also why I go to their events and shows despite almost never having interest in those things, you have to Give loyalty to Get loyalty. Can't build a Wolfpack by being a lone wolf.
Lion, not tiger.
I spent a Lot of time in my ENFP shadow to learn what other people want because I kept losing when I'd go after what I wanted which made me worry a lot that no-one desired me, or would help me in My goals, so I became obsessed with learning what other people wanted, how to spark passion in the other person, and luring them to me (not realizing I was attracting other Ni fire types) and then once their passion was established it was safe for my ego to come out, with which they would then fall into competition. I was capable of nurturing their fire, but they were resentful of the need to tend mine.
I would approach what I wanted obliquely, surreptitiously, shape changing as required. (Sounds Super creepy said aloud)
I foolishly thought because my Shadow could tell me what other people wanted (Ne ally) and what they thought (Te master) that I wouldn't then be surprised by my worry of betrayal (Ne nemesis), and could allay my insecurities (Se inferior) that people wouldn't be loyal to me, because I can't always whirlwind (Se Aspirational.
As a result I tend to hit people with an odd push-pull of chemistry And camaraderie, and have been told by lovers that I'm like a boyfriend (chemistry) And a girlfriend (female friend/camaraderie).
I've since been developing my ESTP, side, as at least it's Honest, and an expression of who I actually am internally, (minus the gnawing feeling of worthlessness.. and never living up to my own standard) if hedonistic, and more than a little vulgar.
On the plus side I at least knows how to make the NP's in my life feel welcome, and chosen, and with objects around my apartment to set off their Ne imaginations, with comfortable furniture in which they may cocoon in Si comfort. And I know how to show loyalty, and support to other Se/Ni types, though they have an irritating habit of assuming I need/want their protection.
Do other Templars experience this?
Or is it perhaps a result of constantly having my Ni Not get what I wanted, as a child, that I learned to focus on what everyone around me wanted instead?
I'm curious of the inverse is true of any NP's? Surrounded by passionless people so you had to Be the passionate one? No-one pursuing so you had to learn to pursue? A canvas masquerading as a paint brush, only to have the frustration of a double canvas relationship?
If a thing exists then its opposite logically must also exist, I suppose. Or does the Si offer too stable a sense of self?
Anyway, thanks for listening, void.
At least you are verifying
Honestly, I feel like I have the same problem as an INFP. I think I might just be unconscious focused because of how I was raised. I’ve been studying this stuff for over a year and I’m still confused.
@@NotCJ95 well everything about your face screams NFP to me, theres a softness to your mouth in particular, and you seem to have Ne eyes to me (I draw a lot of faces). And the other accounts attached to this one seem very Ne/Si. The art on the one profile picture seems pure Ne, and the topic of planting seeds is very Si optimistic, and looks like child function territory to me. "Let me tell you (Te) about the books I like (Fi)", seems very NFP to me, and if I were to see your face in a group/class, I'd probably come talk to you, as you'd seem like a potential friend/romantic partner.
Would it freak you out more to be thought a loser to a group of people you wanted to impress, or be called a liar when you're telling the truth? Which makes you more nervous?
What I have found the most helpful to cement my position within the 4 sides of the mind is the, "what is the Cognitive Attitude of the Hero/parent/child/etc Function Play list. I remember watching several thinking, "maybe..sometimes" then the Se inferior section of the video made me unexpectedly sob, and the Ne Nemesis made me realise what a paranoid weirdo I am. Apparently everyone Doesn't always suspect potential betrayal from those close to them, unless they know everything about them.. and Si demon, sentencing someone to die by removing them from my future..and the Fi god complex of my super ego.. yep. (And Ti child god complex, if I'm honest I dont think anyone is smarter than I am, or knows better than I do. I literally told someone I thought they were almost as smart as me, and I meant it as a compliment. She is an INTP, and in my top five smartest people I've met.)
I can behave entirely like an ENFP, or an ESTP for instance (even ISTJ in an emergency), but I dont typically share in the Worries of their Nemesis function, or insecurities of their Inferior function (though I Can if I have been in those modes for an extended period of time, but I mean day to day, moment to moment).
The elemental affinities also helped quite a bit. I was a total pyro as a kid, Fire calms me, makes me feel at home, I am insecure about heights, but am exhilarated by wind, large bodies of water, and space Worry me, but I enjoy swimming, and I love/hate dirt (forests love, dirty hands, hate) I have to be in "camping mode" to fully engage with it.
Another thing I found helpful was what type are you most like when you drink? I turn into an amoral rake of s good time Johnny (ESTP) when I drink alcohol, and a manic pixie dream girl (ENFP) when I drink coffee, and both are Way more extroverted and chaotic than my ego, where I gather and organize thoughts and concepts.
Focus on the negative, embarrassing traits. They're more likely to be honest. The what are the virtue and vices/ How are the quadras abusive videos are very helpful.. I've definitely had to face up to all of the ways in which I was a total corrupt Lustful hypocrite, and can treat strangers as better than my loved ones. Not fun stuff, but we have to see how we're crap in order to self improve and change.
I hope this helps, I know how frustrating getting caught in a typing loop can be. ❤
Lol oh, and I just noticed you have 95 in your named, which I'm guessing is your birth year, and that seems really Si to me. I organize pretty much nothing by the time.
Yes comfort and please have a clean environment. If it's not clean you've scared nps off and they won't say anything but they are on their way far away from you!
ENTP here, to get to the point Yes, maybe not total 100% but mostly agree with the point. Also that was\is the reason that my comitment comes only when I choose, what I wan't, And have the clear path on my decision making trough, knowing testing and bound bulding process with a parnter. Also the very hard start within ENTP's is a 100% there was a tremendeus amout of work that I had to do to build my self to the point of my life when Im now (regarding relationship with the oppsite sex). Great video :)
Hi Chase! Could you give an example of making a si-user comfortable? An example of how the Ni-user can perform to make him/her comfortable, so that I know in which direction I should be thinking :😊
Men initiate and pursue, women respond to that. Men should be the gas while women should be the breaks. Men have the bulk of the responsibility in how a relationship goes, and in the type of woman they choose. But this new generation of feminized men love to throw all of the blame onto women and not look at their part to play. A woman will treat a man how he treats her if he stops to see if she really likes him vs is just accepting his attention for whatever reason.
That’s why women don’t need a feminine overlord to decree protocols as men do, because the masculine is meant to be the grounded, strict rule follower, while the feminine is the flow and flexibility and animation.
The word “containment” is oldly not used in the US, but it exists in every other language and culture, and it’s desperately needed now because it’s what a masculine man naturally does for a woman, so that’s what needs to be taught to men, not how to absolve themselves of responsibility and deeper levels of misogyny.
I'm looking for the person I can be myself with. I used to get with men who I felt I could have fun with up until I was about 25. Then I realized I want a real relationship, but need to put in a lot of work on myself. I've been with 4 guys in the last 15 years. It takes me a long time to let people in, and I've only really tried 3 times in my life. Two of them were a complete disaster. No doubt contributed to the fact that I was a disaster.
Zak Roedde is an ENTP? That's the guy who experimented different methods to fix his relationship problems, right? I don't know where I would be without ENTPs, honestly. All your content is helping me grow in ways I don't believe I would have been able to otherwise, and that thing that ENTPs do about experimenting until they figure something is something I could never naturally do myself, Lol. I mean, I'm an Se inferior, I'd get performance anxiety probably. Thanks for being you, Chase. I appreciate all your contributions to humanity
I’m only attracted to people if I think they are attracted to me😭😭 it’s so frustrating, as long as I perceive that they like me I’ll like them if they are the most boring and ugly person
and what is your type?
that doesn't sound like Ni dom idk maybe a low self esteem thing
@@piotrnogas8448 i have no idea 👍💀
@@aladdout9454 i just live in my own delusions
Same 😊
Im a UD/UF Infp, i related to this video and much of what you bring to the table. Ive concluded that i cant be with anyone because im the only one "Doing the work" and the fact that i have work to complete before i die, doesnt leave much room for other people.
Committment was tested as an infp in relationship with entp. Fights, accussations, miscommunications. The lot. But when the true test come we both committed even when everyone else contested too it offering their opinions on myself or him. Im like yer of course you would make that analyses of us, from your point of views. Ones saying im too emotional and a nutjob should leave her. Others saying he is too controlling and narcissistic you should leave him. We both looked at each other and when well ...its ride or die ...and i went all in. Not regretted my decision yet ❤❤ relationships are meant to be hard, messy, passionate, beautiful and in the end a true testiment to ones character and evolution as a human being. One opinion was from a supposed family member with relationship problems herself. And the other was from a think a fellow infp who has no relationships and is convinced she is asexual. I learnt myself through my own mistakes don't offer relationship advice if you are not in a position too, in fact don't make any opinion at all, thats between them, even if the said partner is this and that its up to the person to realise that no one else.
Mh. I am NP, I am married to NP, and there was no problem for us to find each other.
So lucky! I’ve always been with TJ’s
True for me an INFP and my INTP husband we’ve known each other since elementary.
Glad to hear
Infp, I find it funny because at first I was like "no I've rushed into all my but then remembered that those were for more transactional reasons. Like I latched on bc I saw an easily achievable, comfortable future and latched on because of that and rhen once I realized they weren't going to be able to play the part to achieve that idealized future, it fizzled out and I built resentment. Not proud of it but hey I'm 22, life is about learning and doing better. When it comes to friends I'm a lot more ridged. I often compare my relationship levels to Dante's Inferno and the 9 circles of hell, tho in this case the innercircles are just the degree of how much my mask is off, the innermost circle being the most intimate and raw version of myself thst I'll present to you 😅. Anyone else relate?
Definitely. Its like u typed my thoughts
As an INTP I could never live up to the INFP friendship requirements, just too incompetent and inconsistent
Easy future
@@louisejoelsame
Finally some explanation normally i usually say to people that I am demisexual cuz i don't like people to bother me and i never get involved if i don't know the person from some years prior. This was a huge mystery on my life thank you very much 😊
Yeah I've always been like a late bloomer. I've known my fiance's family for 3 yrs now & I feel like I'm just warming up to them lol
What is falling in love? How can someone sit for years without falling in love, like that's gonna ever happen. Many people fall in love and that lasts for couple of years, then they get familiar with eachother, then they fall out of love and stay together or not, is it about commitment? People keep talking about falling in love, but no one explains it properly. Who will wait for years, there is nothing romantic or appealing for a woman to sit wait her young years for a man who rejects her. Ni gets shut down possibly for eternity.
No need for love when modern life bring endless entertainment
@@webnovelsatu1455 Do you think that is true?
@@photosky14 i don't, i was memeing how now more & more people are willing to give up in their romantic pursuit with so many available entertainment to distract themselves with
@@webnovelsatu1455 Yeah. People loose their souls.
Why you waiting. From my experience love isn't something you chase like some quest or a present you wait to receive. I wasn't interested in relationships when i discovered upon my partner who is entp. Im infp. As an infp i have been driven all my life to self improve and upon that pursuit of my own interest's he happened upon me like some kind of devine intervention or something, two souls reunited. All i know is when you know you know. The attraction the bond will be instantaneous and impossible to break even if you were too break up, the impression would always be there. I only fell in love once and have two boys but if i wasn't open to change or overcoming fears i wouldn't have had that interaction i would have been on my couch watching the notebook or something for hundreth time going oh if only, yer if only you would get off your ass clean up and get working girl ❤😊
I think I suddenly don't quite understand what "performing to make NPs comfortable" actually means haha.
If you’re an Se user, I think it will just come naturally to you
@@CuddleClaw. Yeah but it still can be tricky. It comes naturally when I truly wanna be with someone but it can still fail. I was once with an INTP that made me perform either too well or too bad, and it ended up not working out (obviously lol), so now that I'm into an ENTP I'm kinda afraid I might mess things up again.
@@AriaKlauser just ask him how he wants you to be, i guarantee he has a detailed ideal of what he wants in a woman
works for ENXP'S well i'm not sure for Si child tho.
🤔 yeah make sense . You need to know that person better. Grown in love ,not fall in love
Slow - bingo! and familiarity. True for friendship, too. Maybe even for things, which become better (more loved) the longer they've been around and the more familiar. (Why didn't I get 2 for when the first one wore out after 10 years??? 🙃 laughing)
Hum... but not places or ideas - new horizons are delicious for this INTP.
Some tense little knot relaxed, listening to this video. A-ok to just be me 'as is,' made by Nature.
Thanks, again, Dude Chase with the gorgeous smile.
I’m not even going to lie. I do not like new people AT ALL. I laughed when you said we need to get comfortable with people we’re unfamiliar with.
This is interesting to me with regard to enfps who are notoriously so open to meeting people and making new friends . I assumed they had to be comfortable with everyone
@@PM-tk3se I’m a bit of a hypocrite 😂. So while I’m open to meeting new ppl, I still don’t like it or most ppl
I've dated all of these types. In my experience NFPs are more likely to feel comfortable with "love" than NTPs. Both are very loyal once they commit. Because they are affiliative, NFPs feel they should marry. NTPs will drag their feet forever to do anything different. My ENFP boyfriend asked me to marry him after two months of dating.
If you are an NP and you demand too much familiarity i think your relationship is bound to fail. That waves lack of effort to me. Even for Ne to get stuck in the Ni web Ne have to do some movement.
getting familiar with someone is effort
So true, it's all about familiarity
That's a lot of hard work😴
And also approaching is not always ni ne but also fi fe
I'm an infj and i don't approach anyone but enfps approach me all the time
Life
enfps 🤣
How badly do you want it? I want that connection with that one person more than anything. Put 1,000 obstacles in my path and I will figure out how to get around them all. Nothing is going to stop me from finding my soulmate and being my best self for him so that we can enjoy a beautiful connection until death. If you want something that badly, no amount of work is too much… that’s how my mind works though.
@@CuddleClaw.I love everything you said. I'm infp and believe I would be the same exact way for my special one. I love an istp. I hope he can feel my love because we are not together right now
@@sharpiesarecool814 I bet he can feel it. My ENTP comes to me in my dreams a lot. It could all be in my own head, but I really don’t think so. I think Ne users that I’ve shared intimacy with have the ability to send me messages in my dreams. It is a super strong connection. I hope you get to be with your ISTP again. ❤️
I need more context about putting the effort to perform as a Ni user. Which type of performance? Cooking, make-up, clothing style, smelling good, keeping the environment clean?
I understand the concept but how can I visualize it for everyday situations?
Thank you!!
Very interesting, checked out your channel for the first time in a couple of years and you've kept improving the content.
Some stuff is hard to hear but all hits home. I'm not too familiar with your specialist terminology so I'll stick to the 8-stack until I'm more informed.
The commitment stuff does not need to be elaborated on as you've already spelled it out.
ENFP perspective, everything you stated echoes throughout my past relationships. ENFP/INFJ is often said to be a good match but IME it's unsatisfactory for the INFJ who will give much more and the ENFP who desires some kind of equality - but ends up taking what they don't really need and not the calmness and structure that will really benefit them. On the other hand the ENFP may be able to alleviate some of the INFJ tendancy to gaslight themselves and make them feel more emotionally secure, but only to an imperfect extent - Te and poor awareness of how others perceive the ENFP's conduct (unskilled Fe) is gonna cause some upsets especially if it's a male ENFP.
It's absurd how you can't talk about gender roles in public without getting cancelled. Are we going to reject basic biological imperatives for some quick political point scoring? I'm pretty damn far from stereotypically manly but I know when to take the lead. After many relationships, my current one of 8 years is with an ISFJ, who was equally slow to commit, but through the process you force each other to live up to certain standards you may have been lacking otherwise. I appreciate that my partner can be strong without giving up on being a woman. Both sides enjoy and grow from the dynamic.
Jung Did express that feminine men were the most masculine, because of their integrated anima. Love that bit about expectation vs conditioned beleifs ie how to treat people.
I am nobody to disagree with the genius of carl jung but either jung didnt said that or that quote is misunderstood, misinterpreted. Men who fit the masculine standard naturally and who later in life became more feminine? And the vice versa? Now that sounds like an intergrated anima animus
hey cs can you do a video explaining why you typed sasuke as an entp
My bff INFP is truly a Commitment Phoebe
What careers or field would an Enfp thrive in and what fields wouldn’t they?
Sales
@@malakashraf2801only? Anything else?
@@butterflyy909 just answering for the best one
You could write 50 Shades of Grey, but well. Put that thing down after reading one sentence in the shop.
Can you please spell the Author name you mentioned or share a link so I can look them up? I heard Zack Rhody but I am not sure how to spell it and I am having a hard time finding anything online.
Zak Roedde
@@HuKayers thanks 👍
He did spell it out for you lol 12:21
@@Zekistential thanks I wasn't paying enough attention.
I relate as someone who decided to date someone for about a year before officially committing to them
Can’t believe I missed this fkn episode lol
INFP man. I don’t trust anybody easily. Sure I’ve seen women that are knockouts and I get desirous. However, always lurking in the back of my mind is the question: is that woman morale and kind. I always ask myself in any interaction: what does that other person want or expect to get. I don’t desire to share the best of myself with someone that is looking for a place holder in their lives or doesn’t value me. The caveat, which will sound shallow is, if she is more attractive to me than I am hesitant. I’m hesitant, not stupid!
Meh you have a reason to hesitate if you think a woman is more attractive physically than you. It’s not necessarily shallow as it’s self preservation. It protects you from being rejected. Women look for looks too. It might not be as high a priority as it is for men (as they have a list of other things that take precedence) but it can still be a major factor. Most vvomen look for men to be their equal or greater in most areas. That means if you’re less physically attractive than her, she’s sizing you up for other qualities or not interested at all when you approach her unless you have social proof.
@@susanrodriquez3757 What makes you think the person who made the comment isn't a knockout themselves? They just want to be valued as much as they find the other person alluring.
@@louisejoel perhaps the infp stereotype, lack of extrovereted sensing
INTP is a cat
Introverts are not extroverts to get familiar to people and have the energy to initiate. That kind of defeats the point of introversion if introverts would be quickly getting familiar as extroverts do.
Yeah but introversion and extroversion are in perfect balance in your brain . So does it really make an big difference inthe grand scheme of things ?
ENPs tend to make themselves desireable and approachable so really approaching a ENP is kinda you just responding to their mind games.
If some Inxj does this way as well, does that mean they're shadow focused?
Also, this zak roedde guy, his channel name is so so lacking in any creativity or puns or short and memorable yk? are you sure its an entp?
As a UD/SF INFJ guy, I literally cannot commit in romantic relationships. It's my worst flaw
This explains a lot of things 😂😂
Lmao yeah as an ENTP female i was having guilt because of this....but now i got my answers !! 😂 relieved
Same 😂😂
I think john grey is entp too
What city is that?
A glitch killed my first comment. I will try again: I can confirm, it is A LOT of work. But I don’t mind putting in all this effort, he’s been like a huge mystery, a puzzle that I have had to figure out. It’s been 3 mos and I feel like I finally had that lightbulb moment. His behavior etc has been so strange and frustrating to me, but it all makes sense now. And he’s 100% worth the wait, the time, the aching, the effort, all of it. Every part of me: my heart, soul, mind, body, it’s all for him. I’m at his mercy: he can love and cherish me, or he can toss me in the trash, it’s completely his choice. As long as he keeps choosing me and there’s progression (it’s ok if it’s very slow), I’m all in. And I will wait. He’s worth it.
-ISTP hopeful in love 🙂🔥
i would do anything to have an istp woman type this about me
You’re wonderful lol. I have an istp bestfriend and she’s irreplaceable to me❤.
Isn't Ud-Uf ENTP means ENTJ? Y is it ESFP?
@@AsaiahBenjamin i know that. I'm talking about combination of ego and unconscious which is ENTJ
how about intjs?
More likely about trust.
trust phobes?
do xxnjs fear intimacy the most?
Algorithmic comment good video
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doesn’t this mean xxnps more loyal than xxsjs?
If correctly done.
Neverrrrrrrrrrr
honestly yeah.
XNXPs have the potential to be the most loyal.
@@duckbacon3117this is true