Let me know if you think I missed something. I tried to keep it short and its still 20 minutes. But I'd love to tackle this subject again if you think it's worthwhile.
Hey John..Many of us guys are doing ok financially nut not well off necessarily..I have modest savings investments etc but try to balance it by being extra fit working on game etc..I'm thinking be realistic in the quality of dating prospects or just go for what I want and see what happens?? I think I just answered my own question...lol
Older men are finally starting to realize that pretty words aside, women want an early retirement plan based on the man's assets. Legally in marriage, women can leave for any reason or no reason at all. Men assume way too much risk in the contract.
Gentlemen! Silicone love dolls may cure all. I spent nearly 2 years trying to convince a friend to get a silicone girlfriend. He thought it was silly and kept dismissing the idea but one day to my surprise, he actually bought one. He is totally in love with her and now he never shuts up about how great she is. I've never seen him so happy in the time I've known him which is half a century. It's time I take my own advice and I invite you guys to do the same. All the good with non of the risks.
Never get married . You never have to get divorced . We all know that is one of the most costly mistakes a man can make . You will be made to pay regardless . It's a business, really . Lawyers $$$
Marriage is the leading cause of divorce. I would also suggest never cohabitating with a woman. Depending on the State, you may wake up one day - married.
@@okfrostman Yeah a friend of mine taught me that in Young life. The reason i am 33 years Old i have an 16.000$ Rolex a 150.000$ Porsche and a view appartments for rent. I compromised my love live to hookups and high class escorts. No head ache and no heart ache. Modern women and modern society isn‘t worth it. It is like giving a rolls royce to an alcoholic bum as a present. Not worth it at all.
You don't have to be married. Just being a Defacto for 9-12 months in court counts as a relationship so you've still got a process ahead. It's insane and Trust Me, I've been there a couple of times.
I've observed that friends and acquaintences who lead with their money, will attract gold diggers. Lead with you, yourself. Not your crap. Not your car. Your house. Your bling.
It took me 41 years, two divorces, to realize that sex is so overrated, as are the incessant needs of women. You're better off to go without any of it. Or at least if you want sex just pay for it outright, because well...we are anyway.
I’m 71 single, never married and on the dating apps… I got asked by a lady last week to go out for drinks and we went out and had a great time… she’s well traveled and has some money to do so also and this could get interesting but I will never marry or cohabitate.. got too much of a good thing going on now….
By age 59, I have learned that a man should be focused on what brings him joy and peace. If youre in your 60s and still feel its important to understand "what women want" youve lost the Game of Life.
very true. i've had around 10 girlfriends and LTRs throughout my life and i can really say that by now (im 55) i am looking for friendship and companionshipt much much more than sex per se. Its still fine from time to time but it isnt what it used to be. The urge is weak and im very content with that. so much more to life. I enjoy my big house, vacations small and big and wellness/sauna trips with my current girlfriend:) No kids, pretty wealthy together (she has her own place as well). men need to really get the sex thing out of their system and focus on life itself more. To me its a sign of losing when you are still so sex-focused and superficial at older age. I was actually beginning to feel this when i was in my early 40s. I enjoy a good relationship with a woman but sex is not priority anymore since quite a while. cheers
That is a great question that I brought up a few years back. It was on a forum where 90% were men. I asked it and 75% of guys said they would not get into relationships with women if it wasn’t for sex.. I was curious about the 25% that acted like they would. Little did they seem to realize the main motivator that propelled them to approach their future wife was their sex drive. Oh and that same sex drive makes them do all the daily things to keep her happy. Most guys have never thought about this too deeply and that’s a bit concerning
Coming from someone who get tons of matches from dating apps, work on your physical attractiveness and you’ll be surprised how many women are out there who are equally willing to just look for sex.
I’m a woman and not all are like that. Yes some feel entitled. I support myself and am self sufficient and I certainly would not rely on a male to take care of me. Just to have nice company, conversation and mutual understanding. So that’s my bit.
I’m in the top 5% of wage earners for my age group where I live and I can ensure you beyond being able to provide a stable life women don’t really care about your money. Women care about feeling safe and loved with their partner which largely plays from the mans personality.
@@JB-kx9bx True, but this money thing is not binary. Money is the first bar. If you don't have at least some basic level you're not going to get a chance to show the other things. Women are not going around picking up homeless dudes. The more money you have the more other "requirements" are reduced. Bill Gates never had a problem getting women after Microsoft took off. But yeah, a guy still needs game. In the West if she doesn't feel safe and loved she's unlikely to stay. If a US guy moves to a poorer country money reduces other requirements to the point of almost disappearing.
That’s hilarious! Most people use food in much the same way that alcoholics use alcohol or drug addicts use drugs. They’re trying to kill Pain. Plain and simple. Women are not the only fat people.
@@truthboomertruthbomber5125 Nope, we hardworking independent women can afford ozempic now, which eliminates foods cravings that used to fill the void in our souls. Now there's no more void to fill, other than this damn biological drive that makes us crave love & sex.
It's well understood that women love to date for this very reason. Free meals and then give nothing to the suckers. They'll TikTok later how stupid men are or how outrageous some of us are to not play that game. It's hilarious watching them hit their head against "the wall" so keep laughing boys. We are the guardians of the relationship. All they bring to the table is shared sex and they'll think it's a prize. Nah. Unless she is crawling under the dinner table to service you then you know the game she's playing is unkind. They'll surely be confused and even have a term for it now called "flipping" where men who seemed into them suddenly ghost. That's called reality of the wall and it's not up to us to teach them. Be kind, be centered, and maybe, just maybe, one of them will get lucky and you two can share some good times.
They really are like doing drugs that instead of getting you high, get you low. Dating apps = depression. Hard to avoid, this I understand. But if you must use them, open them once to get some great pictures and state your clear goals. Then, never open the app again. Never doom scroll left and right. Hypergamy has you doomed from the start in this game.
Really glad I found this channel, so far it seems much more grounded and informative than most MGTOW / Red Pill channels if you are even labeling it as that , thank you Sir I appreciate the content !
Yes they are, and they seem to be doing quite well. If they formed the corporation and traded publicly, I think they would be the biggest corporation in the world.
And yet, as an older guy you now understand that the limerance of youth is a lie that nature throws over your intelligence. The imagination and hope that you adopted when you were young and hungry are the things older women will still try to use on you. Just don't. We know the house always wins and so keep your investment very low as you weed out those looking to take while giving as little as possible.
In the past 10 years,I’ve watched hundreds of You Tube videos on relationships, how to get girls , etc. This is by far the best synopsis I’ve ever seen. I divorced 10 years ago ( late 50’s) , & have had a blast since. Will probably never move someone else in , I enjoy being single. But I have great dates every few weeks. The biggest challenge is the most attractive girls ( to me),the best looking , most energetic, magnetic, magical girls are all younger! But they’ALL either have kids/ or want kids. I never want to go back to Florida Theme Parks lol .Raised 4 kids when I was married for 20 years. Those girls still catch my eye/ heart. Lol😂.The cost is way TOO HIGH!
the downside of being a wealthy man is to be sure that woman don’t ho after you just for your money. I know a guy who is the rich from his parents but is still single at 55 cause it is too risky for him to get married.
The Beatles sung a song.. ' Can' t buy me love'... How true is this. Guys, love is exactly like Christmas to a child when someone tells you the truth about Santa Claus. Life and the reality of love is that you as a man will end up divorced and bankrupt paying for a child, often not your own. There is one constant truth in life that will never stab you in the back. Stay single and only back yourself and you will never be disappointed. Friends, family and lovers will often fail you but you will always have your own back. Dating and Marriage today is like walking through a minefield of eggshells, is this really what you want. Live your life and be happy.
Me too. 59 yrs old. Fully single for many years. Living a peaceful stress free life. No debt. No drama. Not bothered about having no sex. I'm doing other stuff.
every guy i know who is married has the same relationship dynamic with their wife/spouse. their wives run their lives; every decision is negotiated at best and dictated to them at worst. they have also lost the ability to truly be themselves anymore. maybe im just a child, but ive seen the patterns in these lives so consistently i cannot come to any other conclusion than their wives truly are their bosses and dominate their lives in a sad way.
Quite accurate overall. Men may indeed want sex , yet many men shack up or marry women because they sub-consciously believe they need a surrogate mommy or some person always around them. Frankly, many are just lonely
I think there is some truth to what u have stated. Getting married is like asking your Power Hungry Narcist Boss to come live with you permanently, or till Death or Divorce which ever is first.
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I’ve just found your reels and find them so true to life relationships. After my first marriage no children I thought I new all the answers , 4 years later I married the hottest one and 24 years later built my empire with 3 and children and one day she wanted a divorce . Loosing 75% of my empire 10 years later I live on my own in an amazing apartment with my own bits in it Dating is easier look after yourself keep fit . Stay in there guys Andrew uk
Great video. While I’m 67, 6’02”, 220…I’m pretty fit, one thing I have found is that while many women say that it doesn’t matter, they prefer a guy with hair. I shave my head rather than have the horseshoe look. So far women that I have found attractive don’t reciprocate. And I don’t want to get involved with someone that I am not attracted to just to get laid. So I’m resigned to living my life with my dogs and enjoying the peace. Maybe someday I’ll meet someone but if not no worries.
Hair doesn’t matter, grow a good beard, keep it neat and shaped, have good overall hygiene, dress good, carry yourself in a confident matter and your good to go.
Met one woman at the grocery store and one at the mall. The one at the mall approached me asking me if I knew where Lululemon was. I said "Do I look like I know where Lululemon is?" I was going the same direction and we were chatting and joking around. Before I went on my way I gave her my number. Easy as that.
You know, I really think that meeting people in real life is so much better than using an application. They’re just something to that human connection that is so critical.
I love your channel! I'm 60 y/o, divorced for 6 years, I'm looking to find some FWB casual relationships. Your channel is giving me hope. Much appreciated!
Love your thoughts John. We pretty much share the same ethos… recently met a super kind women… direct, honest open with her… great masculine and feminine polarity, vibes etc… enjoying each other’s company… just enjoying life together… you are so correct… one must keep frame and set the pace and steer it in the direction you want to go… in other words lead the relationship, situation etc… be your authentic self… Thanks so much!
@@john-griffin me too, on the flip side these younger guys have the benefit of our wisdom and experience (not that they will listen 😆). Love your channel, it feels like you’re hanging out with an old high school buddy… What differentiates you from other channels is that you don’t come across as bitter. Your advice is pragmatic and honest without this extreme negativity that is prevalent on the internet… nuanced too, which the internet doesn’t generally understand… keep doing what you’re doing. ☮️ by the way, nice drone segues.
Hearing this is a great alternative to the red pill manosphere space which has become infected with negativity dripping off of everything and I'm pretty much tired of it. I'm pretty sure a lot of those videos raise depression and anxiety on a micro level. I'm 38 tomorrow, paid the house off this year, got three cars paid off, a job making over 28 an hour, a nice nest egg and no debt. now I am looking to getting back into working out now that I have the time and focusing on retirement investments. I can attest that everything in this video is true cuz last night I went out and met a 22 year old girl and we just vibed she had no idea about my finances, but she was into spirituality and we just had a great conversation. A few months ago I met a very attractive adult woman who was barely out of high school and she invited me to sit with her and her friends after I approached them. She told me she liked my outgoing personality and she loved that I spent my teenage years taking karate, studying self-help, traveling. Her and I were giving eachother the side eye while I were shared food and her friends were doing the talking. 😆 Hopefully I see them both again soon. Happy rest of 2024 to you men out there that read this!
Stellar video. Yes, this is very much the problem with young women. They either want kids or want you to take care of their existing kids. Better to be with one whose kids have already left.
I surfed onto your channel and I find it interesting as a women I do agree with you in regards to men needing to be fit. I work hard to stay fit at almost 60 so it’s great you mentioned it as I find most men my age to be doughy and out of shape ! It’s a turn off. Thanks again.
I’m 49 and in above average shape , yoga , calisthenics, weight lifting etc. I told myself at a very young age I wouldn’t allow myself to just fall out of shape like so many people seem to do. Everything in life is better when we are in good health and able to enjoy ourselves
Have fun yes. But most people in the world most likely get divorced because of the lack of fun. And fun is generally a temporary thing we chase in order to NOT deal with life. So yes have fun, but even better advice is to get used to being comfortable outside the "zone of pleasure", so that the little fun you have gets to be a lot higher quality.
Thanks for this video. I grew up believing that my life would unfold in a traditional way like previous generations. I never could have predicated how complicated women are. Too hard.
What's just crazy, I Googled the average weight for women in the US, BaHaHa I almost had a heart attack 170.8 lbs it also showed average weight of men in the US 199.8 my god our country has a bunch of fatties for women, I thought the average would've been like 140 lbs😅
Great video, you gained one more follower! However, about 2 points I think differently: First, women in general only get interested in a man's emotional needs until page two... (seems that she loses a beat of repect and admiration due to man's weakness) Second, when it comes to meet a woman, I think it is safer and cheaper an on line envairoment. Im in my early forties, divorced and had no children.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I agree with you on women's interests. The online thing is also true in terms of being cheaper. It just consumes so much time. Thanks!
You attract what you are, ive been alive for a long time and the only horrible women ive had to deal with are ones I'm related 2. Personal responsibility/accountability is so rare these days
Not true ! Prey attract predators. The same is in human relationshits. Anyone good attract predators. Enough with that lie that "you attract what you are"
At 2:31, a crucial aspect of commitment that may not be explicitly communicated is the prerequisite for women seeking commitment. They seek assurance of your capability to provide for them, but this assurance is contingent on you being a good provider. The key aspect to focus on is the ability to provide for her well-being, as this is the basis for her desire for your commitment.
A lot of women in the U.S. cost to much and start gaining a lot of weight after high school. I've noticed that the best relationships I've had where with women that were born outside of the U.S. even though I met them in the U.S. I would like to retire in other country. Dating and cost of living would be lower.
Becoming a regular customer coffee shop, where many women work as Barista’s is a good starting point. It’s worked for me a few times now. But the trick is, don’t show ANY interest for the first 3-4 months , unless they show it in you first. I’ve gone to coffee shops where it’s taken over 9 months for a certain Barista to show an interest in me. You only gradually increase the lengths & topics of conversation as you become a more frequent customer over time ( that doesn’t mean going there daily, perhaps just keep it to two visits per week, and then increase it to three, keep topics very general, no personal questions in the first few months, unless she opens up to you first. Throw in some dry , perhaps even sarcastic humour about what’s going on locally in you area…. Of course have interest/sport/ hobby and engage in it regularly, so that when deeper conversations follow, you have something else to talk about.
I think attractiveness is more than looks. People say I look good shirtless and all that but I don’t get much attention. I am 67 and have flat abs. Maybe I am still too skinny though. I think the most important thing is personality and this is where I fail. Mine is rather bad.
Developing personality can be a lot easier than you think. The trick is to look at situations from the perspective of the other person. Once you understand, what’s important to them it’s easy to seem very engaging and interesting. I’m sure there are tons of books written on this topic. But if it’s just your ability to have charisma or to have an interesting conversation with someone, I think you can fix that. Good luck, man.
Hey John, do you have any videos on how to get out of a relationship, particularly one that was friends with benefits that went on too long and evolved into an assumed romantic relationship? I know, it sounds bad, but it does happen to a lot of folks out there. Thanks!
I am 64 years old never married no kids no dating no fooling around and not gay either. Since I was a teenager it was never my goal or interest to get married or to have children. I dated a couple of times when I was in my early 20s and found it boring one of them their mother said I will not make enough money and I never did anyway in my life and I am on a fixed income social security today but I am free and happy with my life I could have been a monk, I guess. What John Griffin talks about in this video what women want seems like a lot of hassle annoying and money to please a woman and her needs not yours. I hate weddings and the stupid dancing and all of it after being to a few of them in my life. I like the outdoors trout fishing scenic drives in the mountains in Colorado my state and animals I had many cats and dogs in my lifetime and I have a 16year old cat now that keeps me smiling and happy and does not complain pets are great for single men. My friends are married in their late 50s that is what they wanted, I live and do what I want dress relaxed eat what I want look how I want no regrets I live in peace and happy even though I do not have money and am poor there are more important things in life than money.
Sex with a woman that is easy is a very large RED FLAG. I never fell for that "Hey handsome" routine because it doesn't work for men to say "Hey Beautiful". Easy is never GOOD.
Going to divorcie, you divorcie from yourself at the beginning. At the end you pay for everthing she wants, and you pay for everthing she could have without you. You the furniture to be replaced at some point.
Things would be so much easier if only that were true. Women only want men who other women want, so men who stay true are less attractive. Women unconsciously feel that other women don't want their men if the men are always loyal. Women don't so much want to win the man, but to win against the other women. It's the dark nature of women. The man usually ends up being just an object of status and power. Men can either love women, or they can understand women, but they cannot do both. It's rarely about love or loyalty with women. Although, some are much better than others.
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What is love? Jacque Fresco when before he died, he said : Love is bullshit. He meaned love what we think what looks. Its something, what makes people frustrating. True love had no conditions, and its carry together like a humans body. And words I love is empty words, what means nothing. So, love doesnt exists.
I just sleep with escorts now. I don’t have the emotional energy to invest in another woman.. They are all time sinks and drain after all. My ex wife was really an emotional drain and all for what? The relationship wasn’t that much of a fun.. I meet and date plenty of women post divorce and while it’s nice to chill and chat with them, the majority are looking for something (marriage) that I’m no longer wanting to offer. So we move on from each other eventually.
My wife is 2 years older than me and we have 3 children together. The best relationship that I ever had. I used to avoid dating older women in the past thinking they carry a lot of baggage and the traditional thought that man should always be older than the girl. But when I dated these toxic chilidish immature chicks, I couldn't handle their annoyance..... Younger Gen-Z women who are mature, kind and understandable is nigh impossible to find in these contemporary times. They only want money, security and offer nothing but anxiety, stress and depression.... But some men are so egotistic that they will never even look at older women thinking it will hurt their manliness and that they want fertility and someone to control, because older women are not slimes who can be molded in any form that men want them to like younger women who don't know anything about the world except their own body.... I was in the same spot a few years ago and now I have realized my mistake....
This was a cool video. I've been entangled in the red pill stuff quite a bit, but I have no hate for women. I've been burned too so I can relate to the guys who have been burned by a woman. Perhaps the best way to think about things is just have fun with the woman that you're seeing and see how it goes. I like the idea of dating someone older who just wants to have a partner and have fun. And it's true the younger women generally want commitment but you can have fun with them too. And if you find a gem of a girl then you have potential to create a really nice relationship with her and get married etc. All in all have fun, go out and meet people, and enjoy the process
I can see how easy it is to react to a bad experience by rejecting the whole idea of dating etc... But, I have to believe that there are some good ones still out there. Thanks!
I'm a woman who just found this channel and find it fascinating. John is doing a nice job. I insist on going dutch because if we don't click I can't be called a gold digger. Relationships take time at least for me but I find guys fall in love over one cup of coffee. They want more even when they don't 'pay for it'.
You guys put way more into this than it deserves. Women may be complex in their wiring, but they certainly are not complicated in their goals. First of all, its important to examine the reasons, the female psyche requires what it requires. In addressing the notion that they want money, blame this phenomenon on the disparity of income for women vs men. Often they are rendered the sole provider for their children. Despite legislation, child support is not guaranteed. She innately appreciates a fit male because her primal instincts tells her that it will protect her and her offsprings. Even without children, her love is always maternal. Her sing-song way of speaking attest to it. Maternal. It lulls young children to sleep. If she values commitment, subconsciously it best serves her babies. Maternal. Truth be told, if a guy, in her secluded presence, were to behave as though he were oblivious to sex, she'd be first to initiate it. Therefore, I suggest no man go on a quest to find a woman. Rather go about your life as one would while jogging. If along the way, I encountered a bear, I would reverse course. If I found a wrench I'd pocket it for future use. If I encountered someone whose company I enjoyed, I would attempt to nurture that relationship to our mutual satisfaction. If I saw a bag of money, I'd pick it up and put it in my wallet. But I would NOT run through the forest, head down, eyes focused on the ground in the hope of finding money. The odds are against it as the consequence of a one- track mind would be disastrous. After all I entered the forest to run. Towards what end, I cannot say. But I do know that there is a richer purpose to our lives than the pursuit of momentary pleasure.
"blame this phenomenon on the disparity of income for women vs men." Christina Hoff Summers, Economist and Feminist has long tried to get fellow Feminists and other ill-informed individuals from spewing this fallacy. "Despite legislation, child support is not guaranteed." You're right. If he loses his job and can't pay child support or alimony, he goes to jail. It's almost comical how coddled and spoiled Western women are, and we, as a society, good intentions aside, have done this to the detriment of EVERYONE. They're materialistic beyond the pale, entitled, demanding and avoid accountability like plague. Studies have repeatedly shown if you increase a man's income on his profile, his attractiveness to women goes up 30% +. Thanks to Social Media an average Western guy with an average income is an under-achieving unattractive chump to 80% of Western women, who erroneously believe they deserve a top 20% guy. This is why men in droves are saving their money and migrating to Countries where women make far superior mates, want a masculine man to take the lead and appreciate him for what he brings to the relationship. As an added bonus, these Countries still have a modicum of respect for men, instead of viewing them violent, oppresive patriarchal sh*tlords. What an insult. Caveat Emptor, Gentlemen.
Thanks John for your video iam single for a 53 years somtimes happy sometimes sad, what i don't understand is this some people are in a bad relation, and guess when they get divorse afther a time they have a new relation. Why they can keep single i don't understand this. ( sorry for my bad english).
I think that there are a couple of reasons they do that. First, people are afraid of being alone, more now than ever. This fear is existential. The second reason is that people often forget the worst parts of the past and only remember the good things. Thanks for your question.
@@derekfrost6949 It is a fantasy that is very expensive for the man who have to work very hard in order that the woman can experience that soulmate experience.
I’m willing to pay but the hour. I can’t stand the horse and pony show fakery of dating. I don’t care about “showing her a good time”, making her “happy” excited etc. At 41, i could care less. My ideal relationship is a situationship or friend with benefits at best.
@@john-griffin lol what an epic analogy. I live in Canada, in 2019 or 2020 the Ontario Superior Court here ruled in favour of a $33,000,000 “palimony” to a gf who never lived with the guy, and declined his marriage proposal because it contained a prenup. The feminist judge ruled, she will get $300,000 a month alimony because “she deserves it” and he “should pay” (he’s a wealthy man)… First of it’s ruling but, lot of gfs now have cause to extort $ after a break up. So we’re just friends full stop is the furthest I go.
Seems undeniable that sex and making love are healthy for myriad reasons. If it's possible to be intimate with a woman without too much potential downside then why not? When we are older relationships need to be more creative since we become more set in our ways and probably want more time for ourselves. John, thank you for bringing up about FWB. The way you described it seems like that could be a good way to go if possible. Major respect for you and all your wisdom. Thank you.
I think that most men get into trouble in relationships by becoming too emotionally entangled too quickly. Women want that commitment from you and the sooner they get it the sooner they lose respect for you. It’s very important to make your commitment, a very precious item. Even expressing strong emotion to them can be, extremely valuable. Also men don’t understand that women are extremely emotional and they pick up on emotions much more acutely than we do. Women are also much less likely to honor a commitment or an oath than a man. Women do not take those things very seriously, and finally women are not very rational. if you can keep all those things in mind, I think you can safely have a relationship with a woman.
Researcher Shaunti Feldhahn has done studies involving thousands of couples, asking specific questions of both spouses. One surprising finding was that a majority of women said they would trade financial security in exchange for knowing they were secure in their husband's love. That certainly pushes back against the red pill narrative of the gold-digging woman. And yet there are women who have mastered the art of serial divorce. But is that what they really want, or something they have defaulted toward?
How many times do women pull the old "bait and switch" routine? How many men have married a woman only to wake up to a perfect stranger the next morning?
Costco? Haha, only Indians and Chinese at least in my area. Might be different where you are. I enjoy your monologs as I can relate on many levels. Something to consider is also about where you live which ties back to the Costco comment. Do your research and figure out where you can maximize your chances if you have the freedom to relocate. I did and very happy it was not too late.
I enjoy being an asset to my kids. Even though they’re all adults, they all call on me from time to time to help them with any number of things. I consider it a privilege to be so important to them. It allows me to continue helping shape their lives, I have had a good fortune having many short term relationships with women over the years. Having an intimate relationship with one right now is a little interest to me. If I want to have a friend with benefits, I am pretty sure I can manage that. Recently a woman offered me such a deal and I’m considering taking her up on it, thanks
The number 1 concern all women have on a daily basis is "being/feeling safe" - security and committment tie into or underlay that biological need to put it another way.
saw an old lady once who was still wearing the make up she did in the 1940s they used to shave of their eyebrows and then draw them them back on as the years passed she looked like a clown
Please elaborate on "a woman without friends is dangerous!" I think I know what you mean, but I've only ever experienced the flip side of the coin. Women with entirely too many friends - friends popping out of the woodwork, new friends, "this cool person I just met." Women who can't endure more than a couple minutes alone with themself. They'd happily trade sex for a guy that drowns out the gnawing sense of loneliness they experience.
Let me know if you think I missed something. I tried to keep it short and its still 20 minutes. But I'd love to tackle this subject again if you think it's worthwhile.
dating apps are like casinos...full of broken people.....casinos are not full of beautiful women.
You covered it quite well!!
Can you make a video on dinners, and dating. What do they think I am a buffet or a cafeteria or a food bank.😂I'm 40
Hey John..Many of us guys are doing ok financially nut not well off necessarily..I have modest savings investments etc but try to balance it by being extra fit working on game etc..I'm thinking be realistic in the quality of dating prospects or just go for what I want and see what happens?? I think I just answered my own question...lol
Well, you're right about the money part.
Older men are finally starting to realize that pretty words aside, women want an early retirement plan based on the man's assets. Legally in marriage, women can leave for any reason or no reason at all. Men assume way too much risk in the contract.
Never enter a contract with a party who is rewarded for breaking it.
The dirty little secret is that YOU can't make them happy no matter what you do.
Women need two things from a man:
1. More.
2. Something else.
Very true!
I thought "more" too lol
No truer words have ever been spoken.
Oh yeah?!
Well... you're only saying that because it's true.
Gentlemen! Silicone love dolls may cure all. I spent nearly 2 years trying to convince a friend to get a silicone girlfriend. He thought it was silly and kept dismissing the idea but one day to my surprise, he actually bought one. He is totally in love with her and now he never shuts up about how great she is. I've never seen him so happy in the time I've known him which is half a century. It's time I take my own advice and I invite you guys to do the same. All the good with non of the risks.
Never get married . You never have to get divorced . We all know that is one of the most costly mistakes a man can make . You will be made to pay regardless . It's a business, really . Lawyers $$$
Marriage is the leading cause of divorce. I would also suggest never cohabitating with a woman. Depending on the State, you may wake up one day - married.
@@okfrostman never have sex
@@okfrostman Yeah a friend of mine taught me that in Young life. The reason i am 33 years Old i have an 16.000$ Rolex a 150.000$ Porsche and a view appartments for rent. I compromised my love live to hookups and high class escorts. No head ache and no heart ache. Modern women and modern society isn‘t worth it. It is like giving a rolls royce to an alcoholic bum as a present. Not worth it at all.
@@okfrostman you lose all leverage
You don't have to be married. Just being a Defacto for 9-12 months in court counts as a relationship so you've still got a process ahead. It's insane and Trust Me, I've been there a couple of times.
I've observed that friends and acquaintences who lead with their money, will attract gold diggers. Lead with you, yourself. Not your crap. Not your car. Your house. Your bling.
technically a woman that is an 8+ will be a golddiger and she will use you unless you are an 8+ yourself.
@@WhiteGhost21 You could be surprised that even women that aren't very attractive want to follow suit and grift.
Amen!!!! Absofreakinglutely!!!!
Keep telling yourself that
It took me 41 years, two divorces, to realize that sex is so overrated, as are the incessant needs of women. You're better off to go without any of it. Or at least if you want sex just pay for it outright, because well...we are anyway.
If it floats, flies, has an engine or 2 legs. Rent, don't buy. Why buy the cow?
That and ED on a postpartum phat beer belly
I’m 71 single, never married and on the dating apps… I got asked by a lady last week to go out for drinks and we went out and had a great time… she’s well traveled and has some money to do so also and this could get interesting but I will never marry or cohabitate.. got too much of a good thing going on now….
By age 59, I have learned that a man should be focused on what brings him joy and peace. If youre in your 60s and still feel its important to understand "what women want" youve lost the Game of Life.
very true. i've had around 10 girlfriends and LTRs throughout my life and i can really say that by now (im 55) i am looking for friendship and companionshipt much much more than sex per se. Its still fine from time to time but it isnt what it used to be. The urge is weak and im very content with that. so much more to life. I enjoy my big house, vacations small and big and wellness/sauna trips with my current girlfriend:) No kids, pretty wealthy together (she has her own place as well). men need to really get the sex thing out of their system and focus on life itself more. To me its a sign of losing when you are still so sex-focused and superficial at older age. I was actually beginning to feel this when i was in my early 40s. I enjoy a good relationship with a woman but sex is not priority anymore since quite a while. cheers
Good morning from Australia. Love your conversation.
Keep it rolling....
Thank you! Will do!
If men didn’t have a strong sex drive, would they have anything to do with women?
Probably not
@@mafp22w no
That is a great question that I brought up a few years back. It was on a forum where 90% were men. I asked it and 75% of guys said they would not get into relationships with women if it wasn’t for sex.. I was curious about the 25% that acted like they would. Little did they seem to realize the main motivator that propelled them to approach their future wife was their sex drive. Oh and that same sex drive makes them do all the daily things to keep her happy. Most guys have never thought about this too deeply and that’s a bit concerning
Coming from someone who get tons of matches from dating apps, work on your physical attractiveness and you’ll be surprised how many women are out there who are equally willing to just look for sex.
The old joke is if they didn’t have vaginas, we’d hunt them for sport….
Women only want one thing its called everything
😂👍
@@john-griffin "she got the whole god dam planet in the divorce"
two things actually - more and something else
I’m a woman and not all are like that. Yes some feel entitled. I support myself and am self sufficient and I certainly would not rely on a male to take care of me. Just to have nice company, conversation and mutual understanding. So that’s my bit.
@@milliekozary5667 the ones that are not like that typically are not universally appealing, sorry to say
What women really want: Money, Money and Money. Everything else is "extra".
Women will not like me then, I have no Money😂
Not true. That's such a fallacy. And you'll never have a healthy, meaningful love relationship with that foul attitude.
I’m in the top 5% of wage earners for my age group where I live and I can ensure you beyond being able to provide a stable life women don’t really care about your money. Women care about feeling safe and loved with their partner which largely plays from the mans personality.
@@JB-kx9bx True, but this money thing is not binary. Money is the first bar. If you don't have at least some basic level you're not going to get a chance to show the other things. Women are not going around picking up homeless dudes. The more money you have the more other "requirements" are reduced. Bill Gates never had a problem getting women after Microsoft took off.
But yeah, a guy still needs game. In the West if she doesn't feel safe and loved she's unlikely to stay. If a US guy moves to a poorer country money reduces other requirements to the point of almost disappearing.
@@JB-kx9bx That is not true when they get to divorce court. Then only the money matters.
Thanks man, great video. Nice to see someone my age sharing some wisdom.
Thanks for the feedback. I genuinely appreciate it.
Not one mention of the #1 thing women can’t get enough of !! Something to eat!! Food and lots of it.
That’s hilarious!
Most people use food in much the same way that alcoholics use alcohol or drug addicts use drugs. They’re trying to kill Pain. Plain and simple. Women are not the only fat people.
It’s like feeding a damn horse.
I’ve kept good horses that cost me less to feed than a woman.
@@truthboomertruthbomber5125 Nope, we hardworking independent women can afford ozempic now, which eliminates foods cravings that used to fill the void in our souls. Now there's no more void to fill, other than this damn biological drive that makes us crave love & sex.
It's well understood that women love to date for this very reason. Free meals and then give nothing to the suckers. They'll TikTok later how stupid men are or how outrageous some of us are to not play that game. It's hilarious watching them hit their head against "the wall" so keep laughing boys. We are the guardians of the relationship. All they bring to the table is shared sex and they'll think it's a prize. Nah. Unless she is crawling under the dinner table to service you then you know the game she's playing is unkind. They'll surely be confused and even have a term for it now called "flipping" where men who seemed into them suddenly ghost. That's called reality of the wall and it's not up to us to teach them. Be kind, be centered, and maybe, just maybe, one of them will get lucky and you two can share some good times.
Get comfortable with your own company.
Buy in services when you need them.
Enjoy your new peaceful life.
Step one..avoid dating apps.
Its best to meet in real life.
They really are like doing drugs that instead of getting you high, get you low. Dating apps = depression.
Hard to avoid, this I understand. But if you must use them, open them once to get some great pictures and state your clear goals. Then, never open the app again. Never doom scroll left and right. Hypergamy has you doomed from the start in this game.
Really glad I found this channel, so far it seems much more grounded and informative than most MGTOW / Red Pill channels if you are even labeling it as that , thank you Sir I appreciate the content !
Thanks
Men are in love. Women are in business.
Yes they are, and they seem to be doing quite well. If they formed the corporation and traded publicly, I think they would be the biggest corporation in the world.
And yet, as an older guy you now understand that the limerance of youth is a lie that nature throws over your intelligence. The imagination and hope that you adopted when you were young and hungry are the things older women will still try to use on you. Just don't. We know the house always wins and so keep your investment very low as you weed out those looking to take while giving as little as possible.
Men pay all the time
In the past 10 years,I’ve watched hundreds of You Tube videos on relationships, how to get girls , etc. This is by far the best synopsis I’ve ever seen. I divorced 10 years ago ( late 50’s) , & have had a blast since. Will probably never move someone else in , I enjoy being single. But I have great dates every few weeks. The biggest challenge is the most attractive girls ( to me),the best looking , most energetic, magnetic, magical girls are all younger! But they’ALL either have kids/ or want kids. I never want to go back to Florida Theme Parks lol .Raised 4 kids when I was married for 20 years. Those girls still catch my eye/ heart. Lol😂.The cost is way TOO HIGH!
I really enjoy John's talks, he is good at communicating his thoughts and has a lot of wisdom.
At mid-fifties and beyond, be careful of the young beauties unless you have a money printing machine.
I rent😂
@@matchhunter7012 how much you her to leave😂😂🤣
the downside of being a wealthy man is to be sure that woman don’t ho after you just for your money. I know a guy who is the rich from his parents but is still single at 55 cause it is too risky for him to get married.
The Beatles sung a song.. ' Can' t buy me love'... How true is this. Guys, love is exactly like Christmas to a child when someone tells you the truth about Santa Claus. Life and the reality of love is that you as a man will end up divorced and bankrupt paying for a child, often not your own. There is one constant truth in life that will never stab you in the back. Stay single and only back yourself and you will never be disappointed. Friends, family and lovers will often fail you but you will always have your own back. Dating and Marriage today is like walking through a minefield of eggshells, is this really what you want. Live your life and be happy.
Well said, my friend.
I´m SO GLAD I never got married. I´m 54 and single, it´s so peaceful!!
@@Tebanovich Same here.
I'm 57, retired early, almost 10 yrs now. So glad I never got married. I wondered if I'd regret it, so far no.
I'm 59 and glad I never got married. Peaceful indeed!
Me too. 59 yrs old. Fully single for many years. Living a peaceful stress free life. No debt. No drama. Not bothered about having no sex. I'm doing other stuff.
every guy i know who is married has the same relationship dynamic with their wife/spouse. their wives run their lives; every decision is negotiated at best and dictated to them at worst. they have also lost the ability to truly be themselves anymore. maybe im just a child, but ive seen the patterns in these lives so consistently i cannot come to any other conclusion than their wives truly are their bosses and dominate their lives in a sad way.
Quite accurate overall. Men may indeed want sex , yet many men shack up or marry women because they sub-consciously believe they need a surrogate mommy or some person always around them. Frankly, many are just lonely
I think there is some truth to what u have stated. Getting married is like asking your Power Hungry Narcist Boss to come live with you permanently, or till Death or Divorce which ever is first.
I’ve just found your reels and find them so true to life relationships.
After my first marriage no children I thought I new all the answers , 4 years later I married the hottest one and 24 years later built my empire with 3 and children and one day she wanted a divorce .
Loosing 75% of my empire 10 years later I live on my own in an amazing apartment with my own bits in it
Dating is easier look after yourself keep fit .
Stay in there guys
Andrew uk
Great video. While I’m 67, 6’02”, 220…I’m pretty fit, one thing I have found is that while many women say that it doesn’t matter, they prefer a guy with hair. I shave my head rather than have the horseshoe look. So far women that I have found attractive don’t reciprocate. And I don’t want to get involved with someone that I am not attracted to just to get laid. So I’m resigned to living my life with my dogs and enjoying the peace. Maybe someday I’ll meet someone but if not no worries.
You’re more likely to find someone when you’re not looking.
3-4k USD for hair transplant in Turkey.
If you have money, they will want you. If not, you're invisible.
Hair doesn’t matter, grow a good beard, keep it neat and shaped, have good overall hygiene, dress good, carry yourself in a confident matter and your good to go.
Patrick Stewart is cool 😎
never ever bust inside when the girl tells you‼️
its a trap happened to me true story 😂😂 stay single no wife no kids happy life 😂😂
Met one woman at the grocery store and one at the mall. The one at the mall approached me asking me if I knew where Lululemon was. I said "Do I look like I know where Lululemon is?" I was going the same direction and we were chatting and joking around. Before I went on my way I gave her my number. Easy as that.
You know, I really think that meeting people in real life is so much better than using an application. They’re just something to that human connection that is so critical.
I love your channel! I'm 60 y/o, divorced for 6 years, I'm looking to find some FWB casual relationships. Your channel is giving me hope. Much appreciated!
I’m sure you will find what you’re looking for. You may have to go to places where you can find it though. Good luck!
@AtheistAllen_escorts are your way forwards
I really resonated with you / your content. Straight forward and laid back at the same time. Thanks very much. Bless you.
Thanks I’m really glad you liked it
Love your thoughts John. We pretty much share the same ethos… recently met a super kind women… direct, honest open with her… great masculine and feminine polarity, vibes etc… enjoying each other’s company… just enjoying life together… you are so correct… one must keep frame and set the pace and steer it in the direction you want to go… in other words lead the relationship, situation etc… be your authentic self… Thanks so much!
@@iampicasso1811 thanks for sharing your story. I only wish I had known this 30 years ago!
@@john-griffin me too, on the flip side these younger guys have the benefit of our wisdom and experience (not that they will listen 😆). Love your channel, it feels like you’re hanging out with an old high school buddy… What differentiates you from other channels is that you don’t come across as bitter. Your advice is pragmatic and honest without this extreme negativity that is prevalent on the internet… nuanced too, which the internet doesn’t generally understand… keep doing what you’re doing. ☮️ by the way, nice drone segues.
Thx John , your videos are always insightful
Hearing this is a great alternative to the red pill manosphere space which has become infected with negativity dripping off of everything and I'm pretty much tired of it. I'm pretty sure a lot of those videos raise depression and anxiety on a micro level.
I'm 38 tomorrow, paid the house off this year, got three cars paid off, a job making over 28 an hour, a nice nest egg and no debt. now I am looking to getting back into working out now that I have the time and focusing on retirement investments.
I can attest that everything in this video is true cuz last night I went out and met a 22 year old girl and we just vibed she had no idea about my finances, but she was into spirituality and we just had a great conversation.
A few months ago I met a very attractive adult woman who was barely out of high school and she invited me to sit with her and her friends after I approached them. She told me she liked my outgoing personality and she loved that I spent my teenage years taking karate, studying self-help, traveling. Her and I were giving eachother the side eye while I were shared food and her friends were doing the talking. 😆
Hopefully I see them both again soon. Happy rest of 2024 to you men out there that read this!
Stellar video. Yes, this is very much the problem with young women. They either want kids or want you to take care of their existing kids. Better to be with one whose kids have already left.
I surfed onto your channel and I find it interesting as a women I do agree with you in regards to men needing to be fit. I work hard to stay fit at almost 60 so it’s great you mentioned it as I find most men my age to be doughy and out of shape ! It’s a turn off. Thanks again.
Thanks for sharing!
I’m 49 and in above average shape , yoga , calisthenics, weight lifting etc. I told myself at a very young age I wouldn’t allow myself to just fall out of shape like so many people seem to do. Everything in life is better when we are in good health and able to enjoy ourselves
Look at women hour age and younger.....
Makeup freaks
Smartphone addicts
Man / boy haircuts
Your in shape? Not like me !!!!
Or ever will be!
They don't really know what they want. They just know they want more of it.
Have fun yes. But most people in the world most likely get divorced because of the lack of fun. And fun is generally a temporary thing we chase in order to NOT deal with life. So yes have fun, but even better advice is to get used to being comfortable outside the "zone of pleasure", so that the little fun you have gets to be a lot higher quality.
Hey brother I really enjoy ur content. Please keep up the good work man. Thank you bro
Thanks!!
Excellent Information!
Just refreshing to feel into your conversation. Great wisdoms.
I appreciate that!
7:43 omg as you went through this list of things to do on a date I just felt the life force slip away. Why bother? 😅
I was exhausted halfway into the list. 😅😅😅.
The word "no" is an aphrodisiac
Thanks for this video. I grew up believing that my life would unfold in a traditional way like previous generations. I never could have predicated how complicated women are. Too hard.
I’m right there with you man. Everything seemed really simple when I was a teenager. What the hell happened?
Feminism, the sexual revolution, and no fault divorce.
they are complicated only if you trying to please them, never do that, they love jerks and problems
What's just crazy, I Googled the average weight for women in the US, BaHaHa I almost had a heart attack 170.8 lbs it also showed average weight of men in the US 199.8 my god our country has a bunch of fatties for women, I thought the average would've been like 140 lbs😅
That’s insane. They out weigh me!
two words - seed oils
@@WhiteGhost21 How about this: "They eat too darn much food!" 😂
@@jfnuyen: They'll eat your soul too!
You meet these women in the grocery store.😆
Great video, you gained one more follower!
However, about 2 points I think differently:
First, women in general only get interested in a man's emotional needs until page two... (seems that she loses a beat of repect and admiration due to man's weakness)
Second, when it comes to meet a woman, I think it is safer and cheaper an on line envairoment.
Im in my early forties, divorced and had no children.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I agree with you on women's interests. The online thing is also true in terms of being cheaper. It just consumes so much time. Thanks!
Excellent advice for young men! Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
You attract what you are, ive been alive for a long time and the only horrible women ive had to deal with are ones I'm related 2. Personal responsibility/accountability is so rare these days
Not true !
Prey attract predators.
The same is in human relationshits. Anyone good attract predators.
Enough with that lie that "you attract what you are"
@@Zox604: I mean, I get what DN is saying, but there are many women out there, and men too, who misrepresent who they truly are. You just never know.
🎉this guy is great ❤
Good perspective in our modern times
I like him
Thanks!!!
At 2:31, a crucial aspect of commitment that may not be explicitly communicated is the prerequisite for women seeking commitment. They seek assurance of your capability to provide for them, but this assurance is contingent on you being a good provider. The key aspect to focus on is the ability to provide for her well-being, as this is the basis for her desire for your commitment.
Excellent info and viewpoints.
Glad you liked it!
Money is big..especially with older women...sex n love fade out
Xy ain't lovable my dude
Great to see you laugh😄🫡🙌
Oh, I crack myself up all the time. Thanks.
A lot of women in the U.S. cost to much and start gaining a lot of weight after high school. I've noticed that the best relationships I've had where with women that were born outside of the U.S. even though I met them in the U.S. I would like to retire in other country. Dating and cost of living would be lower.
Becoming a regular customer coffee shop, where many women work as Barista’s is a good starting point. It’s worked for me a few times now. But the trick is, don’t show ANY interest for the first 3-4 months , unless they show it in you first. I’ve gone to coffee shops where it’s taken over 9 months for a certain Barista to show an interest in me. You only gradually increase the lengths & topics of conversation as you become a more frequent customer over time ( that doesn’t mean going there daily, perhaps just keep it to two visits per week, and then increase it to three, keep topics very general, no personal questions in the first few months, unless she opens up to you first. Throw in some dry , perhaps even sarcastic humour about what’s going on locally in you area…. Of course have interest/sport/ hobby and engage in it regularly, so that when deeper conversations follow, you have something else to talk about.
Great strategy! Thanks
I think attractiveness is more than looks. People say I look good shirtless and all that but I don’t get much attention. I am 67 and have flat abs. Maybe I am still too skinny though. I think the most important thing is personality and this is where I fail. Mine is rather bad.
Developing personality can be a lot easier than you think. The trick is to look at situations from the perspective of the other person. Once you understand, what’s important to them it’s easy to seem very engaging and interesting. I’m sure there are tons of books written on this topic. But if it’s just your ability to have charisma or to have an interesting conversation with someone, I think you can fix that. Good luck, man.
Will, put yourself out there. You ever take up dancing?
Sex, money, control, joy, selfishness, conceit, ignorance...
Focus on self and family
LOL !! 😂 A when he said, " And you think this is heading in a good direction"
Fantastic video
Thanks! 😃
man thanks for the clarification.
Hey John, do you have any videos on how to get out of a relationship, particularly one that was friends with benefits that went on too long and evolved into an assumed romantic relationship? I know, it sounds bad, but it does happen to a lot of folks out there. Thanks!
I haven’t made one, but that has happened to me, so I will make one soon.
I am 64 years old never married no kids no dating no fooling around and not gay either. Since I was a teenager it was never my goal or interest to get married or to have children. I dated a couple of times when I was in my early 20s and found it boring one of them their mother said I will not make enough money and I never did anyway in my life and I am on a fixed income social security today but I am free and happy with my life I could have been a monk, I guess. What John Griffin talks about in this video what women want seems like a lot of hassle annoying and money to please a woman and her needs not yours. I hate weddings and the stupid dancing and all of it after being to a few of them in my life. I like the outdoors trout fishing scenic drives in the mountains in Colorado my state and animals I had many cats and dogs in my lifetime and I have a 16year old cat now that keeps me smiling and happy and does not complain pets are great for single men. My friends are married in their late 50s that is what they wanted, I live and do what I want dress relaxed eat what I want look how I want no regrets I live in peace and happy even though I do not have money and am poor there are more important things in life than money.
"Pictures of you hanging out with people" Houston, we have a problem 😂
As long as you don't want sex, life is simple 😂
Very good points/info!!
👍💪👍
Thanks! 👍
Men love women, women love things
So sad I have lost everything 3 times almost homeless each time for love/sex and everything is so confused
Yup I’m sorry to hear that but I bet they did not even feel one second of remorse or empathy because they are women
Everything you said was 💯 True
Thanks! This video has been more controversial than the others.
@@john-griffin men need to hear the truth. They need more videos like this.
Sex with a woman that is easy is a very large RED FLAG. I never fell for that "Hey handsome" routine because it doesn't work for men to say "Hey Beautiful". Easy is never GOOD.
Going to divorcie, you divorcie from yourself at the beginning. At the end you pay for everthing she wants, and you pay for everthing she could have without you. You the furniture to be replaced at some point.
Honestly, the more I know women, the more I like dogs.
Women will always trade up if presented with the opportunity.
or if not, they'll just resent you and fantasize about others lol
WHAT WOMEN TRULY WANT . LOYALY , LOYALTY .
Things would be so much easier if only that were true. Women only want men who other women want, so men who stay true are less attractive. Women unconsciously feel that other women don't want their men if the men are always loyal. Women don't so much want to win the man, but to win against the other women. It's the dark nature of women. The man usually ends up being just an object of status and power. Men can either love women, or they can understand women, but they cannot do both. It's rarely about love or loyalty with women. Although, some are much better than others.
Special comment: Women want someone like David the Statue! They want perfection in their human love! They are not seeking the 3 sixes, but they are seeking that beautiful man who can get their inner world. Happy Holidays! Monday, October 14, 2024, USA
Well said thank you
Thanks I’m glad you enjoyed the video
What women really want is... MORE. It doesn't matter how much you provide for them, they will always want ...MORE.
What is love? Jacque Fresco when before he died, he said : Love is bullshit. He meaned love what we think what looks. Its something, what makes people frustrating. True love had no conditions, and its carry together like a humans body. And words I love is empty words, what means nothing. So, love doesnt exists.
I just sleep with escorts now. I don’t have the emotional energy to invest in another woman..
They are all time sinks and drain after all. My ex wife was really an emotional drain and all for what? The relationship wasn’t that much of a fun..
I meet and date plenty of women post divorce and while it’s nice to chill and chat with them, the majority are looking for something (marriage) that I’m no longer wanting to offer. So we move on from each other eventually.
💯% right.
My wife is 2 years older than me and we have 3 children together. The best relationship that I ever had. I used to avoid dating older women in the past thinking they carry a lot of baggage and the traditional thought that man should always be older than the girl. But when I dated these toxic chilidish immature chicks, I couldn't handle their annoyance.....
Younger Gen-Z women who are mature, kind and understandable is nigh impossible to find in these contemporary times. They only want money, security and offer nothing but anxiety, stress and depression....
But some men are so egotistic that they will never even look at older women thinking it will hurt their manliness and that they want fertility and someone to control, because older women are not slimes who can be molded in any form that men want them to like younger women who don't know anything about the world except their own body....
I was in the same spot a few years ago and now I have realized my mistake....
This was a cool video. I've been entangled in the red pill stuff quite a bit, but I have no hate for women. I've been burned too so I can relate to the guys who have been burned by a woman. Perhaps the best way to think about things is just have fun with the woman that you're seeing and see how it goes. I like the idea of dating someone older who just wants to have a partner and have fun. And it's true the younger women generally want commitment but you can have fun with them too. And if you find a gem of a girl then you have potential to create a really nice relationship with her and get married etc. All in all have fun, go out and meet people, and enjoy the process
I can see how easy it is to react to a bad experience by rejecting the whole idea of dating etc... But, I have to believe that there are some good ones still out there. Thanks!
You would start a family with a woman in her 40’s? No no no….. way way too old sorry… I guess this channel may be for much older men…
I really appreciate your wisdom which confirms much of what I have experienced, luckily I have never married, enjoy existence
Thanks!
Truth that every single man must know
I'm a woman who just found this channel and find it fascinating. John is doing a nice job. I insist on going dutch because if we don't click I can't be called a gold digger. Relationships take time at least for me but I find guys fall in love over one cup of coffee. They want more even when they don't 'pay for it'.
I’m glad you’re enjoying the videos. And I love that. You’re making comments and giving your side of the story. Thanks very much.
You guys put way more into this than it deserves. Women may be complex in their wiring, but they certainly are not complicated in their goals. First of all, its important to examine the reasons, the female psyche requires what it requires. In addressing the notion that they want money, blame this phenomenon on the disparity of income for women vs men. Often they are rendered the sole provider for their children. Despite legislation, child support is not guaranteed. She innately appreciates a fit male because her primal instincts tells her that it will protect her and her offsprings. Even without children, her love is always maternal. Her sing-song way of speaking attest to it. Maternal. It lulls young children to sleep. If she values commitment, subconsciously it best serves her babies. Maternal. Truth be told, if a guy, in her secluded presence, were to behave as though he were oblivious to sex, she'd be first to initiate it. Therefore, I suggest no man go on a quest to find a woman. Rather go about your life as one would while jogging. If along the way, I encountered a bear, I would reverse course. If I found a wrench I'd pocket it for future use. If I encountered someone whose company I enjoyed, I would attempt to nurture that relationship to our mutual satisfaction. If I saw a bag of money, I'd pick it up and put it in my wallet. But I would NOT run through the forest, head down, eyes focused on the ground in the hope of finding money. The odds are against it as the consequence of a one- track mind would be disastrous. After all I entered the forest to run. Towards what end, I cannot say. But I do know that there is a richer purpose to our lives than the pursuit of momentary pleasure.
Great points thanks for sharing
@@john-griffin Thank you. Grateful for the platform.
Thanks
"blame this phenomenon on the disparity of income for women vs men." Christina Hoff Summers, Economist and Feminist has long tried to get fellow Feminists and other ill-informed individuals from spewing this fallacy. "Despite legislation, child support is not guaranteed." You're right. If he loses his job and can't pay child support or alimony, he goes to jail. It's almost comical how coddled and spoiled Western women are, and we, as a society, good intentions aside, have done this to the detriment of EVERYONE. They're materialistic beyond the pale, entitled, demanding and avoid accountability like plague. Studies have repeatedly shown if you increase a man's income on his profile, his attractiveness to women goes up 30% +. Thanks to Social Media an average Western guy with an average income is an under-achieving unattractive chump to 80% of Western women, who erroneously believe they deserve a top 20% guy. This is why men in droves are saving their money and migrating to Countries where women make far superior mates, want a masculine man to take the lead and appreciate him for what he brings to the relationship. As an added bonus, these Countries still have a modicum of respect for men, instead of viewing them violent, oppresive patriarchal sh*tlords. What an insult. Caveat Emptor, Gentlemen.
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Thanks John for your video iam single for a 53 years somtimes happy sometimes sad, what i don't understand is this some people are in a bad relation, and guess when they get divorse afther a time they have a new relation. Why they can keep single i don't understand this.
( sorry for my bad english).
I think that there are a couple of reasons they do that. First, people are afraid of being alone, more now than ever. This fear is existential. The second reason is that people often forget the worst parts of the past and only remember the good things. Thanks for your question.
@@john-griffin Thanks John i also think the same not sex but loliness is the reason.
Im an older woman but im Not looking for a friendship with benefits and im looking for a soulmate
I’m working on a video for you!
That’s a fantasy that does not exist.
@@derekfrost6949 : According to Briffault's Law, women only engage with males who they find attractive, provide a service or satisfies a need.
@@derekfrost6949 It is a fantasy that is very expensive for the man who have to work very hard in order that the woman can experience that soulmate experience.
@@derekfrost6949 Yeah it does not exist in the world of pervert old man who want young immature chicks....
I’m willing to pay but the hour. I can’t stand the horse and pony show fakery of dating. I don’t care about “showing her a good time”, making her “happy” excited etc. At 41, i could care less. My ideal relationship is a situationship or friend with benefits at best.
Be careful about the friends with benefits relationship. It’s like the camel who put his nose in the tent. Before you know it, you own a camel.
@@john-griffin lol what an epic analogy. I live in Canada, in 2019 or 2020 the Ontario Superior Court here ruled in favour of a $33,000,000 “palimony” to a gf who never lived with the guy, and declined his marriage proposal because it contained a prenup. The feminist judge ruled, she will get $300,000 a month alimony because “she deserves it” and he “should pay” (he’s a wealthy man)… First of it’s ruling but, lot of gfs now have cause to extort $ after a break up. So we’re just friends full stop is the furthest I go.
Much appreciate the content and beautiful wooded area you're walking.
I agree with all your observations, suggestions and advice.
Thanks for your feedback. The forest is beautiful!
Seems undeniable that sex and making love are healthy for myriad reasons. If it's possible to be intimate with a woman without too much potential downside then why not? When we are older relationships need to be more creative since we become more set in our ways and probably want more time for ourselves.
John, thank you for bringing up about FWB. The way you described it seems like that could be a good way to go if possible. Major respect for you and all your wisdom. Thank you.
I think that most men get into trouble in relationships by becoming too emotionally entangled too quickly. Women want that commitment from you and the sooner they get it the sooner they lose respect for you. It’s very important to make your commitment, a very precious item. Even expressing strong emotion to them can be, extremely valuable. Also men don’t understand that women are extremely emotional and they pick up on emotions much more acutely than we do. Women are also much less likely to honor a commitment or an oath than a man. Women do not take those things very seriously, and finally women are not very rational. if you can keep all those things in mind, I think you can safely have a relationship with a woman.
I suppose you just have to be clear about what you want and what you don't want.
It seems so simple, but it can be so much more complicated when you're in the middle of it. Thanks for your input!
That's what being a man used to mean. Males in the West have been so feminized the concept of what we want has almost disappeared.
You can not be clear, the mating game is all about not being clear.
Researcher Shaunti Feldhahn has done studies involving thousands of couples, asking specific questions of both spouses. One surprising finding was that a majority of women said they would trade financial security in exchange for knowing they were secure in their husband's love. That certainly pushes back against the red pill narrative of the gold-digging woman. And yet there are women who have mastered the art of serial divorce. But is that what they really want, or something they have defaulted toward?
Buyer's remorse 😆
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How many times do women pull the old "bait and switch" routine? How many men have married a woman only to wake up to a perfect stranger the next morning?
“Love” is not a consideration, reference Tina Turner, “What’s Love Got To Do With It?”. It’s just your turn.
Costco? Haha, only Indians and Chinese at least in my area. Might be different where you are. I enjoy your monologs as I can relate on many levels. Something to consider is also about where you live which ties back to the Costco comment. Do your research and figure out where you can maximize your chances if you have the freedom to relocate. I did and very happy it was not too late.
I enjoy being an asset to my kids. Even though they’re all adults, they all call on me from time to time to help them with any number of things. I consider it a privilege to be so important to them. It allows me to continue helping shape their lives, I have had a good fortune having many short term relationships with women over the years. Having an intimate relationship with one right now is a little interest to me. If I want to have a friend with benefits, I am pretty sure I can manage that. Recently a woman offered me such a deal and I’m considering taking her up on it, thanks
The number 1 concern all women have on a daily basis is "being/feeling safe" - security and committment tie into or underlay that biological need to put it another way.
saw an old lady once who was still wearing the make up she did in the 1940s they used to shave of their eyebrows and then draw them them back on as the years passed she looked like a clown
Please elaborate on "a woman without friends is dangerous!"
I think I know what you mean, but I've only ever experienced the flip side of the coin. Women with entirely too many friends - friends popping out of the woodwork, new friends, "this cool person I just met." Women who can't endure more than a couple minutes alone with themself. They'd happily trade sex for a guy that drowns out the gnawing sense of loneliness they experience.