Can A Narcissist Change and Heal With Love? (This answer will liberate you)
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- Опубліковано 20 чер 2024
- In this video, I talk in details about if narcissists change and why they can't if they don't. I explain in details the narcissist's incapability to responsibility and self reflect.
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can a narcissist change?
You’re absolutely correct, I was a complete door mat for the narcissist, I literally wiped away everything about me my entire personality was gone, I was a walking zombie. I couldn’t make a simple decision on my own. And even after all of thisssss, it was not enough, I poured my entire cup to nurture them and they still wanted more, everything was always my fault and they could do no wrong. So before you destroy yourself, do yourself a favor and walk away. Pain will be temporary.
awww I feel you so bad. totally agree with you. I became not to be able to decide even what to drink at Starbucks...my friends were shocked to see me like that. I'm still struggling with recover...Narc is a pure evil.
I gave him all of me , everything, all my love, financial support , friendship, time, energy, and he still wanted more.
Right
It all sounds so painfully similar to my story. I hope the pain goes soon. Worried I might need more therapy, that I cant afford!
@@JohnSmith-wo7ns Hang in there! Stay strong you can do this! Rely on God for help. He cares for you! He is a very present help in trouble! I will pray for you. 🙏
Hello from Canada, I totally agree!
I'm one of them who wasted my 24 years thinking life will get better, but it never does!! Yes love can change but temporarily, once you do something that they don't like then all your love goes to the garbage ☹️. So don't waste your time, be happy
Me too
Yes, I agree that your answer will liberate anyone who has experienced life with a narcissist. I needed several years to realize it. He exploited me in all possible ways mistaking my love, compassion, concern and empathy as my weakness. But I took a conscious decision to wait till my son became an adult because I did not want this monster to use my child as a pawn in our fight. The day my son became an adult I walked out with him. Now we are living peacefully.
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A lifetime of love will not be enough. Narcs never change. You will need to ignore yourself completely and just concentrate on keeping them happy and obeying their orders. One slip, and you will be dashed to the ground by them.
Don’t waste your time on them.
Been through it all.
Thank you Danish for your videos, which have helped me in my journey as a survivor of narcissistic abuse.
U r rit
Nope the trauma that made them is too great; the harm too deep. You were not the one that hurt them, but they blame you for their pain and make you the focus of their unhappiness. The more love you try to give them, the more they take until you are a hollow shell. When you are finally away from them, you will start being whole and peaceful again🫶✨
That is such an insightful summary of a relationship with a narcissist. Thank you very much for those words and message
This is so very true. My spouse had a professional tell him to his face that he was a “mild to moderate narcissist, and could change if he WANTED to”. When I brought this back to remind him of the conversation years later, he claimed absolutely no memory of even meeting the specialist. Back then, narcissism was not a “thing” so it blows my mind now that the answer to my struggle in what was a very challenging marriage was right there in plain view, I just didn’t have the knowledge to describe what was wrong. If the trauma that leads to narcissism isn’t dealt with in youth, it is highly unlikely to resolve in adulthood. Even with therapy, unless they cooperate, they will not be able to resolve or change. Most will not even GO to therapy much less cooperate.
No. Narcissist, sociopaths and psychopaths do not know the meaning of love. They have no capacity for it, they do not recognise what love it. They don't know kindness, compassion or even conscience, let alone empathy. They only want to destroy you for their own sadistic pleasure. That's all they live for in life: sadistic pleasure. So it's the easiest question to answer and that answer is NO.
PERFECT 👊
In my case, the narcissist could admit to me that sometimes he thinks something is wrong with him and his attitude to the world, but I can't tell if those words were true or another manipulation. I'm here to see how I can help myself. it is my responsibility as I treat and behave with people. All the changes start with yourself 🙏🙏🙏🙏
They cant change with love!!! I loved my ex but she just took more and more advantage of me and became more and more selfish and inconsiderate. After the initial period where they appear to love us but don't they just like us a lot, they're looking for a change and that new partner buzz again. Most heartbreaking experience of my life, and I'm still trying to move on and recover. Its torture.
You will heal faster with prayer and the Catholic sacraments
It gets better with time and no contact. Best to you!
@@Fabulous7B thank you. I hope so.
@Crash it does take time, rather worryingly I've read some of these relationships, the really toxic ones can take years to get over. I hope you're doing better than I was after a couple of months. I couldn't accept it so was just prolonging the misery. I realise that's the wrong way to deal with it.
How are you healing?
Can you share some tips
This is so true!
They are far more sad than their *victims* ever were or ever will be!
Thank god we can learn, introspect, question, change course and choose the healthier path.
I'm so glad I'm me.
Fantastic comment. Yes, i feel lucky I can self-reflect and have self-awareness to change and grow, learn and discover a new way.. Imagine the black and empty void of being a narcissist. Wearing a mask every waking hour and having no self, no stable identity or values. The depth of the void is horrifying to me i think I even feel for them. Loved your comment
@@constructenglish1 aw thanks. Love yours too! Yes it finally dawned on me after watching my exes move on and yet repeat the same mistake over and over again. Thank God for the internet to show us the error of our ways in that we need to protect ourselves and have boundaries. I am finally free because I have faced myself by living alone and I am relaxed with myself. Something that they could never do! I don't need a man anymore. I'm free. 💪😎
@@sassi7966 thank you! Yes thank god we have the internet to educate ourselves and truly understand what narcissism is! Others I find are so good are Dr Ramini, Narc Con, Little Shaman, Lisa Romano, Saving hearts etc. I'm so happy you are feeling good and are so glad to be you! The most difficult thing was realising and accepting the person you cared so much about doesn't actually exist..ouf!
@@constructenglish1 yes very true but then you realise that actually there is another person to love and care for that you forgot existed....you! 🥰💪
@@sassi7966 yes, you are right! 😊
You are so so right in all of your videos especially the one 5 things the Narc will say to you. I’ve experienced all 5 over and over again I did 15 years and there is. No hope for them. One must get away from them forget them and pick up your life and move on one day at a time.
You are so right I do everything just to make the demon 😈 change and he get worse i just have to leave him alone them come in our life to kill and destroy if you are in it just leave and put everything in the Lord hands ✋ God will deal with it i am so happy since I am out of that relationship
I think love disgusts them. They can't even go there. They feel too vulnerable to ever trust again. They can't ever just let themselves go. But they sure are good at faking it in the beginning, aren't they.
We all want to escape a narcissist but we can't leave until we have "Power" over them. That's the perfect time to leave you leave with a cool head and less likely to crawl back to them, but you can't lose the "power." Don't talk to them ever again, and definitely don't think about them you'll find little loop holes to go back
My mother is a 96 year old covert narcissist she has never self reflected she has zero remorse for her devastating narc ways and she will never change. Ever. They do not change, not with love, not with patience, not with confrontation...they do not change. Once a narcissist, always a narcissistic until they are 6 feet under.
No SELF AWARENESS!!!. They are set in their ways. BREAK UP and SET YOURSELF FREE !!!!
But recovery is so hard. I want it to end.
@@JohnSmith-wo7ns I understand...it takes time...do what you need to do...I was in bed for 4 months and we reconciled then he did it all over again...I saw what he really was...understand that it's not personal...they are used to this way of life and are looking for people to give them attention and money...they'll do this forever. What's helping me is recording myself crying so hard explaining ALL of the cruel things he did to me...and I'm questioning myself on how I could let such a LOSER mess my life up for 2 years when he DOES NOT CARE about me AT ALL. It's SO HARD to admit this to ourselves, but it's the truth. I'm suing him for the money he took from me by telling me a lie. He has so much more than I do and he always wanted me to pay. He thinks he'll get away with it, but I'm standing UP for myself and everyone who's been affected by these manipulative, deeply hurt, mean spirited, destructive people. They've got to learn lessons and not make people suffer. NO MORE!
Awesome info! I thought if the Narc in my life changed (mother, ex) my life would be so much better. WRONG! I had to change and stop settling for their bullsh"t! I walked away and focused on changing myself and NOW my life is so much better. See Serenity Prayer 🙂!
When you stop asking this question you know you are on the path of healing. The narcissist's game is all about power and control. They believe whoever is in the position to reject another is the one with all the power. That is why they play the seducing/rejecting game and why they are terrified of being abandoned. They cannot heal from love. They don't know love, don't understand it and don't believe it really exists. Healing would require that they take down the defensive walls of the power and control game to let the love in and they would NEVER let that happen. You are playing this game too but you have an advantage ---you know what love is. And love will heal you!
This channel is a great blessing.. Thanks you, Danish Bashir for all you share with us. You are healing the world.
My love bunny changed, actually for the better, but instead of being overt about her sabotaging she became covert. If she would say something out of the blue mean, she would say, “I was joking!” The results and damage is done. She stopped having the psychotic temper tantrums, but then resorted to saying mean things just for, “fun," which can also be called sadistic pleasure. Ultimately, they get off on doing something mean then watching your reaction. What a waste.
I know someone with narcissistic traits who finally followed my advice to go to a therapist but it was because she was abused by a malignant narcissist. Still, after she went to a therapist, she kept on gaslighting me and trying to manipulate me.
Please make a video explaining the relationship between 2 narcissists.
They love bomb each other devalue and discards and the same abuse cycles continues
You are absolutely right
These people do not change
But yes empaths can hea themselvesl fully and help people around to heal as well
Thank you. That made me think, you asking "What would they do with the love, they don't understand, because they never got it as a kid"
I'm married to a narcissist and I had a narcissistic adopted parent she passed away and I have a narcissistic adopted father dealing with him and my husband. I live away from my husband I'm praying to Allah that he will change. And I am healing myself from all the trauma of the abuse I've gone through.
that will never happen, youre allowing yourself to live in that hellhole if u keep praying for him to change. God knows he cant change and God is probably trying to tell u through your prayers that no matter how much u pray for him he will never change bcz that is the nature of that man God is givingu a signal. take it
@@aali-in6lc I am not living with him and I have given him an islamic divorce
I pray for the one who deceived, lied, cheated while telling me the entire time how much he missed me, ect. I pray because I do not want the pain he caused to change who I am. An empath. I now know why I was targeted in the first. See the good in people, but never forget there are those who only want to use and abuse for their own selfish desires. They have no soul
Great I got the answer to my question, I thought living under the same roof maybe love sympathy could change my husband but now I know it's futile trying.
I’m so glad I found this channel
Danish is a very great coach. I've been wandering to find right person to guide me to break free. Even though sometimes its hard for me to understand english(I'm not native english speaker), what he is sharing is what I've been looking for. I reserved my seat for upcoming event in May, I'm looking forward to see you !
Very interesting question. Here is my story. After a few years of marriage, maybe 6, on New Years we had too much to drink. He sat there asking me over and over in a pitiful voice “do you love me?” This went on for an hour and a half. Each time I said yes.
30 years later he had too much to drink again. This time he said in a positive tone “And I owe you an apology“ also over and over.
I’m watching this video while I’m in the process of divorcing the narc husband and his narc parents .. Thank god I made this decision within just an year of my marriage but trust me it was such a dark place to be in 🥺 It was the greatest hell .. Even though it took me a toll in all ways to digest the whole truth of breaking my marriage , I’m eternally thankful to my family who stood as my support and my cousin who is a psychologist to have helped me understand this whole Narcissism personality ! Believe in god and he will help you 🙏🏻 Hare Raam Hare Krishna 🙏🏻❤️
I may have the wrong take on this but after I told my husband that the best way to be happy is to feel for others and delight in their happiness, he began to never show nothing but anger, almost as if to deny me any joy. I also wondered whether he truly believed that I was the winner, which meant he had to be the looser, and so decided that there was one last thing he could do to ruin me. To discard me. It has ended in divorce.
NO. They will not change. I've been 50 years and nothing has changed, nothing has improved... except my realization that he is an evil rotten person. NO, they do NOT change, they only get WAY worse.
I was married to one who was emotionally abusive; couldn't tell what was going to set him off. Eventually, I left and after a time, he started begging me to return. My mom had taken me in and it would have devastated her had I gone back. I wanted to believe he was sincere this time but I had forgiven him before thinking he had. For a time things were good and then something was said and he'd blow up again. This time, I remembered Fiddler on the Roof when Tevye was debating on Chavas elopement, could he accept it. Eventually, he said, "No...there is no other hand!" I told myself the same...there is no other hand! Fast forward to today and I'm in a much better place.
As a Christian, I had many people tell me to try to work things out with my mother and sister who are both covert narcissists and abusive to me since my childhood. They would bring up one of the Ten Commandments that refers to honoring your father and mother. This type of advice is dangerous! It unknowingly encourages victims to continue in relationships with their abusers. This is a misunderstanding of proper biblical doctrine. Please, do not put yourself in danger. Leave as quickly and safely as you can. Those who have not been through what we have shouldn't not advise us on the actions to take or what its right/wrong. They do not know what they are saying! I stayed longer than I should have, too. I'm here to tell anyone who is reading this that it's OK to leave. You are not a bad person/Christian. You are actually honoring them by preventing them from having the opportunity to continue the abuse and to do wrong. It's OK. You are not alone. God bless you. Peace and safety to all...
Very very true. God only has to help the people those who trapped in this, wicked hands and power of narcissist .
Very true. And your videos reflect the truth. Thanks
Thank You For
Sharing I Don't Think A Narcisstic Person Can Change .For Over 7 Years I Have Been Dealing With An Overt Malignant Narcissists..He Belittles Me Horribly.Make Promises Once His Needs Are Met He Discards Me He's An Habitual Liar
My Question 2 You Is Why Do Narcissist Lie So Much..??
Omg yes my ex used to lie about the smallest most unnecessary things
Also they change the words of sentence that someone spoke.. To distort it
Love your Teaching style
For me you are one of the best 24/6
Very well understand and insightful
Good answer. Its very sad all around, for everyone.
I Love ur wishes in the end of ur videos it gives me so much happiness ❤
God is the way and the thruth I will definitely start unsubscribing to every narcissist channel, God has everything we need in the book of life not these illiterate telling us to judge other beings due to trauma that’s caused by satan from seeking their souls . This comment is honestly coming from a place of light within my soul GOD BLESS ANY BODY THATS GOING THRU IT AND LOOKING FOR THRUTH
I needed this answer thank you and the Good lord who spoke through you
@@dianadi2030 Amen sister Diana
Ok good luck with that. 😂
God cast Satan out of heaven. No mercy. No forgiveness. 😉
@@Ytdeletesallmycomments humans are not satan brethren but then again don’t take anybodys words but THE ALMIGHTY YAHWEH HOLY SPIRIT
Thank you. Is it trauma bonding or guilt they are a parent that made me not go full NC for so long? This was someone who was violent to the extreme when they got me alone, as a child. I was thrown all over our house and got to know the feeling of hairbrushes, they leave little blood dots like braille, and all the utensils in the kitchen. There was never a reason, so there was no way to know how to avoid, and it got worse and worse. I lived in pure terror of her and she loved it. my only hope in life was to know someday I could leave, but she stalked me mercilessly through adulthood. Only recently have I just not had it in me anymore to talk to this witch, and you are helping with the guilt, I really have felt too much guilt all my life and have done everything to feed this beast. But all love, kindness, attentiveness, trips, always end up in some kind of deeply twisted place that she pre planned, and there I would find myself in her trap, alone. You push past the feelings of guilt, and you force us to save ourselves, even if some of us had our own self beat out of us. Saw a CIA vid the other day and the guy said in training Self Respect is number one. If you have any regular dealings with one, you know that this is something not allowed on their sick menu, you will live every day in humiliation you could not have even fathomed or thought up. I don't want to go into detail, for this one has been responsible for death. And I could not save the victim. How I wish they knew of your chan.
Very true danish..God bless u.
Heal yourself. Healthy boundaries are the abusers Kryptonite. Nice vid.
No. They can't self reflect or capable of real love.
irreparably damaged, don't waste your time
Thanks, Danish!
Thankyou Danish💞❤🙏
For those who believe for change of narcissist - look how hard is it to change for you, and you want to change. How hard it must be for them, if they don’t want?
My boyfriend is a narcissist that's why I watch this video
I hope you are in a better place now
I subscribed because of this video 👍🏼
Even before this starts after the Dracula movie and Diarrhea med commercials... Its already funny. 😂
The answer to those questions is a resounding NO!
I fount that out the hard way!
Glad to be out 🙏
No amount of love will/can change the Narc. I wasted 30 years of my life with a Narc. hoping he would change. But they will not take accountability for all harm and hurt they do. They blame you and everyone else for their problems.
Thank you so much for your help.
I have a question:
Does it exist in the world a testimony, a book, where a healed narcissist explains what he or she was, as a narcissist, and the process of healing, and how he or she feels after the process of healing?
25 years of love love love and the answer is hell no!
I'm don't really care who text who as long as I'm true to myself is what matters most to me✨️
god bless you!
Thank you..
Thank you 🙏🏻
I am experiencing that right now,I'm supporting him,giving my love to him but he can't see it.hes now working abroad just last July 2023 and now telling me that we will have to separate.lately I knew that he has someone living together a single mom and they're living together in one house..he's throwing harsh words to me and twisting words against me
We're supposed to him there,we agreed it when he was still here,we're in good term when he was here,helping him with all the supports but now he can't recognized it.
I believe I was a narcissist with my
Ex husband of 12 years I never loved him it was a Muslim arrange marriage but looking back I think I was a narcissist how I treated him anyways I ended the marriage a year later I met a man I fell head over heels and blindly in love he turned out to be a narcissist and I ended up hurt the tables changed I see that as my punishment for my marriage and I will never ever hurt a human soul ever again that’s what I learnt from my relationship with a narcissist I just broke up with him after 2 years of suffering at his narcissist hands lesson truly truly learnt
Oof thats so interesting and appreciate you admit that.
@@LatIenws thank you 🙏
That is not narcism. Thsy dont learn and hurting others is their goal and only thing they want.
Being toxic is not being a narc. 😂😂
I think your relationship being arranged was just such a difficult situation to live through. It must play with the hearts and souls of those that must live life this way, I don’t believe you can make a diagnosis of any kind I think you are just learning the ways of the world when you are free. Don’t be so hard on yourself and be aware when you choose a partner. I did not know people like this were really in the world. I grew up in a home filled with love. I learned the hard way.
Narcissism doesn’t turn on and off depending on circumstances or partners so I think you’re probably not.
Do you have any videos of co parenting/parallel parenting with a narcissist? I have a 7yr old with her. She thinks the world of her mom and I'm starting recognize some negative traits in my daughter that I can't exactly pin point but I feel her moms overall vibe is rubbing off on her. So I guess it's a two part question. How to parent and how to counter what it might be doing to my daughter.
I have much to tell you on this subject bc my ex husband had many illegitimate children by many different women. I regret to say but you are right.. your ex NARC WIFE IS A VERY POWERFUL INFLUENCE ON YOUR CHILD :(. I will continue this post before the end of today. Thank you for your question. I believe I will be able to help others to understand the detrimental effects that NARCISCIST PARENTS HAVE ON THEIR CHILDREN.
Dear friend backrack,
While I was married to my ex NARC HUSBAND, I was always very baffled as to why he was the way he was not only with me, but how he behaved with his two youngest children and their mom. He first kept me and her apart from speaking on the phone, he never allowed us to meet one another. But he made sure he totally trashed her as both a woman and the mother of his children. He would claim that she was a drug addict and that she was also physically abusive to "HIS" CHILDREN. The two girls at the time were ages 14 and 17. The oldest of these 2 was a track athletes in highschool which he too ran track and field during his hs days. Today he lives his life through her in that respect. She calls him often for money she claims is for her meets etc. And that was okay as far as I was concerned. However, my problem was I noticed that Everytime the daughter cals called him to complain about their mom he'd ALWAYS BAD MOUTH HER TO THEM AND WOULD NEVER CORRECT THEM WHEN THEY WERE VERBALLY DISRESPECTFUL TOWARDS HER. I disliked the fact that he'd do this and he'd never speak with her whenever she'd call to ask for help with them whenever usually the oldest was getting out of hand. Instead he'd yell at her and sometimes even threaten her. Instead of calmy asking her what was going on he'd simply take the word of the girls and agree with any and everything they had to say derogatory towards their mom. I know she wasn't right bc from time to time whenever he was in trouble with me he'd call her for sympathy and she'd offer to bail him out. So eventhough he's verbally abuse her over the phone shed still come to his rescue if he needed her, yes, these two were very messed up. I'm sure he was also physically abusive to her over the years as he became physically abusive to me once I stood up for myself and was leaving. When children are subject to abuse in the home they can also become abusive themselves. He calls the girls his princesses and refer to them as his babies even the 43 year old he also threatened to kill over her messing w his money ( she's a bank manager)go figure, and he's loved money his whole life. She's a narcissist as well. She tries to run his life and acts as if she's his mother instead of him being the father. You can see that he's never disciplined his children at all. The 40 ur old son is very disrespectful and irresponsible as well Has substance abuse issues and criminal behaviors just like his dad. The 17 year old consistently disrespects the mom and shows no respect when they are speaking on the phone as well. And never does he correct her, she's his superstar and uses his money to keep them happy with him. It's really sad because their mom can't do anything with them and he's causing them to act and behave just as he does. Yes, Narcissistic parents are very detrimental to their children. I believe his father was a narcissist as well. He often witnessed the physical and verbal ABUSE as a child by his dad and based on what he told me I believe his mom was cheating on his dad for whatever reason (s)..his dad tried to burn down the house twice w mom in it. He's left out a lot of his child hood but has given me bits and pieces. He ended up living w his school teacher at the age of 7 and working as a ranch hand so very young. His dad also had children w another woman prior to marrying his mother but he seemed to be the one out of all that never seemed to blend in well. He had his first 3 children at 19 by 3 different young women. I believe his father was also a narcissist to whom he developed the same mental illness through trauma. He never spoke of them voluntarily. But he often showed contempt against him but favored mom but never really spoke of her either. Narcissist have much INFLUENCE over children and adults as well. When we were teens I remember how he led and influenced guys his age and much older, had them working for him. We was very charming and charismatic. But when he was angry he often became violent. His full blood sister was a drug addict who murdered her 3 yr old son.
Narc parents will always work hard to win over their children by putting them against the other parent. They are very power hungry and manipulative.
Love can change a narc but is extremely rare... my natc changed after being with her for 5 years... I wouldnt recommend anyone trying it though.
No impossible. A real one cant heal. People with some narc traits can learn how to mimic normal human behaviour.
@@Ytdeletesallmycomments involve GOD and anything is possible
Great advice 👁
@@benbuda5857 God is the only way I made it out. A true nar/socio NEVER changes. They will spend the rest of their life smearing you. They can not self reflect or ever come clean. To protect their false self is always the priority. They can not even "detach" from you as in their view you are their "property".
Thank you
Can you please address narcissist and jail?
that's EXACTLY what i said: how can you receive love at this time ...
Before he went abroad it happened here also,repetitive issue,cycle and its a pattern but now he's getting worst and at that time I don't have idea till I heard this word narcissist and tried to study..
I strongly believe that a narcissist cannot be change, because I went 8 years of compulsive lies and his controlling behavior its a never-ending cycle.
How can love change them when they don't know what love is? They can have a 'head knowledge' but can't experience it themselves so it isn't going to change them.
You cannot give someone more of what they already do not appreciate. No they will not change ever.
True
Dr. How do you absolutely know that a narcissist CANNOT change. What do you base this information on? Just curious
He doesn’t. Speaking it into existence. Narrating life makes money
Their amygdala never grow to the fullest due to trauma. The part where empathy in the brain is.
Can not grow and empathy can never be felt.
You need to watch videos from actual narcissists if you don’t believe what he has stated in this video. Narcissists “don’t” change just because you give and show them love. I was with one for six years, left once for 3 months he swore he was done with cheating on me, and using drugs. I went back for two more years, and he got worse. Nothing changed! I just left him for good August this year, I moved to a different State. Best decision I ever made.
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Can I speak to someone ...who can have a conversation and experienced relationship woth narcissistic....I am separated but now he is asking if I will come back to him ,we have child and he say you know that I can treat you good it's everything because of your mother,your best friend and etc...if you listen to me and do everything right I will be good with you.....
Trauma doesn’t make them. Everybody keeps saying that trauma makes them yet there are some siblings, scapegoats who are able to keep their empathy. That’s because certain genes are turned on and turned off and that’s what’s making them. Then the environment makes the spectrum of mild to severe.
Soo sad, i really fell in love a Narcissistic guy😭
Do they treat their next supply the same?
Good question
God gave ALL a choice, a free will, so I believe they can choose to change. Love covers a multitude of sins. ❤
Shalom
“And the word of the Lord came to me, saying, “Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel, prophesy and say to them, ‘Thus says the Lord God to the shepherds: “Woe to the shepherds of Israel who feed themselves! Should not the shepherds feed the flocks? You eat the fat and clothe yourselves with the wool; you slaughter the fatlings, but you do not feed the flock. The weak you have not strengthened, nor have you healed those who were sick, nor bound up the broken, nor brought back what was driven away, nor sought what was lost; but with force and cruelty you have ruled them. So they were scattered because there was no shepherd; and they became food for all the beasts of the field when they were scattered. My sheep wandered through all the mountains, and on every high hill; yes, My flock was scattered over the whole face of the earth, and no one was seeking or searching for them.” ‘Therefore, you shepherds, hear the word of the Lord: “As I live,” says the Lord God, “surely because My flock became a prey, and My flock became food for every beast of the field, because there was no shepherd, nor did My shepherds search for My flock, but the shepherds fed themselves and did not feed My flock”- therefore, O shepherds, hear the word of the Lord! Thus says the Lord God: “Behold, I am against the shepherds, and I will require My flock at their hand; I will cause them to cease feeding the sheep, and the shepherds shall feed themselves no more; for I will deliver My flock from their mouths, that they may no longer be food for them.” ‘For thus says the Lord God: “Indeed I Myself will search for My sheep and seek them out. As a shepherd seeks out his flock on the day he is among his scattered sheep, so will I seek out My sheep and deliver them from all the places where they were scattered on a cloudy and dark day. And I will bring them out from the peoples and gather them from the countries, and will bring them to their own land; I will feed them on the mountains of Israel, in the valleys and in all the inhabited places of the country. I will feed them in good pasture, and their fold shall be on the high mountains of Israel. There they shall lie down in a good fold and feed in rich pasture on the mountains of Israel. I will feed My flock, and I will make them lie down,” says the Lord God. “I will seek what was lost and bring back what was driven away, bind up the broken and strengthen what was sick; but I will destroy the fat and the strong, and feed them in judgment.” ‘And as for you, O My flock, thus says the Lord God: “Behold, I shall judge between sheep and sheep, between rams and goats. Is it too little for you to have eaten up the good pasture, that you must tread down with your feet the residue of your pasture-and to have drunk of the clear waters, that you must foul the residue with your feet? And as for My flock, they eat what you have trampled with your feet, and they drink what you have fouled with your feet.” ‘Therefore thus says the Lord God to them: “Behold, I Myself will judge between the fat and the lean sheep. Because you have pushed with side and shoulder, butted all the weak ones with your horns, and scattered them abroad, therefore I will save My flock, and they shall no longer be a prey; and I will judge between sheep and sheep. I will establish one shepherd over them, and he shall feed them-My servant David. He shall feed them and be their shepherd. And I, the Lord, will be their God, and My servant David a prince among them; I, the Lord, have spoken. “I will make a covenant of peace with them, and cause wild beasts to cease from the land; and they will dwell safely in the wilderness and sleep in the woods. I will make them and the places all around My hill a blessing; and I will cause showers to come down in their season; there shall be showers of blessing. Then the trees of the field shall yield their fruit, and the earth shall yield her increase. They shall be safe in their land; and they shall know that I am the Lord, when I have broken the bands of their yoke and delivered them from the hand of those who enslaved them. And they shall no longer be a prey for the nations, nor shall beasts of the land devour them; but they shall dwell safely, and no one shall make them afraid. I will raise up for them a garden of renown, and they shall no longer be consumed with hunger in the land, nor bear the shame of the Gentiles anymore. Thus they shall know that I, the Lord their God, am with them, and they, the house of Israel, are My people,” says the Lord God.’ “You are My flock, the flock of My pasture; you are men, and I am your God,” says the Lord God.”
Ezekiel 34:1-31 NKJV
“Hatred stirs up strife, But love covers all sins. Wisdom is found on the lips of him who has understanding, But a rod is for the back of him who is devoid of understanding. Wise people store up knowledge, But the mouth of the foolish is near destruction.”
Proverbs 10:12-14 NKJV
So, as far as I know, there are some narcissists who have worked on themselves for years, and one of them said, 3 decades and they still don’t get, or understand, empathy. They still can’t put themselves in other people’s shoes. They are probably born with this brain disfunction.
What. those not knowing what love is? Those bent on destroying it? Those who see it as a weakness? I'll check my calendar cuz it must be April Fool's day come early or something!
No.
They tell you that only you can "fix" them, but, that's just a manipulation.
So my husband tells me all the time the reason he doesn't love me anymore is because I think he's a monster and that he wants to be tje good guy... my response then just be a good guy!!! When I point things out whatbibhear is I'm crwY it's not mt fault. It's my mom's fault it's my genes... amd when I'm called ugly fat (I weigh 104 pounds) lazy, dumb worthless, no one likes me he says I should get over it because he doesn't mean 90 percent of it isn't true. I'm married to him with a 1 year old. Desperately trying to save my marriage but nothing I have done works. Withholding attention and praise and love and pointing out the hypocrisy is met with silent treatment s and even harsh treatment.
I touched , I kiss …. for years and no response . I stopped 6 months ago …
No!
He experienced committing suicide already by drinking a lot of pills.Is being an overdose adds his brain damage?base on what he have shown considered a narcissist?
Anybody can change. But It is not wise for you to base your life on whether or not someone will change. It is sad, but the probability is that they will not change.
You can hope, but as I said, you should not base your life on that. And with some narcs you should go no contact.
I did see ONE narc change. But mostly they don't. First of all, they have to be willing to change. And that means humbling themselves. Only God can really change them from the inside out. But even then they must be willing. God will not force them.
Even Jesus walked away from some people or let them walk away from Him. He gives us free will.
NOPE!
A narcissist doesn't have love within them to give , they can't give any , wouldn't recognise when receive. You can't give love to someone who doesn't know what love is
I"M GONNA BET 30 YEARS PRAYIN AND LOVIN THEM FOR BEING NEIGHBORS LIKE I THOUGHT I USED TO HAVE NEIGHBORS THAT ATLEAST CARE FOR EACH OTHERS WELL BEING...BUT NO IS THE ANSWER THERE@ IMPOSSIBLE MAKES THEIR EVEN MORE JEALOUS INSANITIES DRIVE THEM INTO MORE CRIMINAL INSANITIES 😂
No
God is Love, and those who love are born of God , a narc, cannot love
A Narcissist can t understand love!!!!!!!!!!! It s impossible!!!!!!!!
Short answer,No.
There is simple answer…….NO
And no reason it is
I am not a Nrac, and will probably enjoy i the content. But, Why is it I always have to cut the first two minutes of every YT video ever made? Only an idiot would not 'like', share', or 'subscribe' ; to any content they found worthwhile. Is YT content asking me to.... OK think that you get the jest of it. I already know the answer to the Topic and that is "NO". Wow how do I Know? Because Narcissists have no capacity for Love, period. Yes we all deceive ourselves, Still NO! Narcs are self absorbed P.O.S. DUH
Love only give them a chance to abuse one more person.
They should be left to die with their own demons inside.
Why you bring those demons home
Simple answer, no. I’ve wasted 13 years on two of them and I can say from experience that nothing can change them. Sorry.
NO! The only thing that will heal a narc is accountability and that will NEVER happen.