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  • Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
  • Isiah cannot trust his girlfriend Marilyn. His trust issues stem from being date raped by the mother of his daughter. Isiah in a lot of pain but Marilyn isn’t sure she can be in a relationship with a man who was abused. Can Karamo offer Isiah resources to heal?
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  • @TheCaitypooh
    @TheCaitypooh Рік тому +2190

    He doesn't need to be in s relationship until he heals emotionally.

    • @lakeofalltrades
      @lakeofalltrades Рік тому +85

      This is soooooo true! However (and especially with a single dad who didn’t know he was for two years and raped to bring her here)he is in survival mode/Parent mode looking for help and it may be wrapped up with “liking” her and the family idea of not do it alone. If that’s the case they can still build but they have to start over dating to get to know each other for real. Moving in together probably wasn’t the best idea.

    • @ilikepickles9568
      @ilikepickles9568 Рік тому +12

      Amen

    • @alexusorear2529
      @alexusorear2529 Рік тому +23

      Agreed also he’s a great man! Just need healing

    • @1goldenshell
      @1goldenshell Рік тому +26

      Totally agree he needs to heal. My mom was raped by two people. And right after she had me. And my childhood was horrible. She did not heal before she had me. And I suffered tremendously.

    • @pinkbrown3828
      @pinkbrown3828 Рік тому +6

      I agree

  • @SG-jy7em
    @SG-jy7em Рік тому +806

    “I’m not fighting you, I’m fighting the world with you.”
    Girl that was deep! I love her saying that ❤️

    • @lindanimkhabela1793
      @lindanimkhabela1793 Рік тому +10

      I’m chopping onions🥹🥹

    • @SG-jy7em
      @SG-jy7em Рік тому

      @@lindanimkhabela1793 Haha! Aww 🤗

    • @amiciopera
      @amiciopera Рік тому +15

      What a lady, before she could finished her sentence, I was in tears... There are so many super woman out there.... He is a great man. But need help❤

    • @SG-jy7em
      @SG-jy7em Рік тому +9

      @@amiciopera ❤️❤️Aww me too! I was really touched by them both. Yesss there really are so many super women out there! He does seem like a great man too, but yes just needs some help. I’m rooting for them!

    • @Jsqared-aka-justjenn
      @Jsqared-aka-justjenn Рік тому +6

      @@lindanimkhabela1793 So am I 🙄😳🥲🥹dang onions, love from Texas ❣️

  • @Siythawr4ith
    @Siythawr4ith Рік тому +2042

    She was on 10 when she came out, but what i like about her is how she cane down when he started expressing what he has been through. She turned into the Sweetest person. You can see in his face that he's constantly worried too. i hate seeing that when i look at people. Hopefully he's able to put the wall down so he can finally relax and release.

  • @healingheart9300
    @healingheart9300 Рік тому +104

    This girl really loves him she sticks around even when no sex is involved and taking care of his child he needs to keep her and let her help him.

  • @LStayfocus
    @LStayfocus Рік тому +176

    She had me in tears. She shows her love as well as spoke it

    • @Elizabeththemagnificent
      @Elizabeththemagnificent Рік тому +1

      She or he let's be real Americans

    • @Ankel_bitter1234
      @Ankel_bitter1234 7 місяців тому +1

      @@Elizabeththemagnificent what?

    • @dr.gigglezmd9551
      @dr.gigglezmd9551 4 місяці тому

      You know that dude on there is a paid professional actor on all kinds of TV shows, he almost had me too 😆 🤣

    • @Ankel_bitter1234
      @Ankel_bitter1234 4 місяці тому

      @@dr.gigglezmd9551 ?

    • @quagmireswagga
      @quagmireswagga 3 місяці тому

      He didnt have you in tears?....he seems to have been through alot, do you not empathize with his pain....the man was, drugged, raped and forced to be a father.....you dont see the pain he is left to deal with?.....all you seen was her?

  • @soundwonder172
    @soundwonder172 Рік тому +861

    This is a great example of why a person needs to heal from trauma before they enter a relationship. They both need counseling to be honest and I hope they last

    • @tyalexandercheng
      @tyalexandercheng Рік тому +23

      I can't entirely agree, only because of my experience. My deepest wounds that were imposed in relation were healed in relation. My beloved partner has shown me ways to be with myself and provided a space for me to be vulnerable. Even though my mind knew I was safe in relation, feeling safe in my body and nervous system took some time. I'm grateful to my partner for entering and not leaving the relationship because I carried trauma. Love, connection and relation is the answer. It healed my body and mind and restored balance in my heart.

    • @soundwonder172
      @soundwonder172 Рік тому +1

      @@tyalexandercheng Praise God for that! 💐💐🙌🙌

    • @Cymplicity-yd2lo
      @Cymplicity-yd2lo Рік тому +8

      Healing is a lifelong process in regards to that type of trauma. A person doesn't get therapy for a few years then become magically healed.

    • @christina2311
      @christina2311 Рік тому +5

      Honestly that's pretty impossible. A person should start the process and know how to not project their triggers, but in my experience of sexual trauma + childhood emotional and verbal abuse, I will be working through this forever.

    • @shalanathomas7751
      @shalanathomas7751 Рік тому +7

      Yep! They both need counseling!

  • @george4u1960
    @george4u1960 Рік тому +720

    Being taken advantage of even if you male or female can be devastating.

    • @ariamarshall5161
      @ariamarshall5161 Рік тому +41

      AND he’s raising a product of his rape after 2 YEARS! He needs help. && she’s not it. She can’t heal him.

    • @hellobot67
      @hellobot67 Рік тому +5

      Then keeping the kid is worse. He isn’t breaking the cycle by dating her.

    • @EmmanuelJOHNSON-kb5fj
      @EmmanuelJOHNSON-kb5fj Рік тому

      I agree 👍

    • @nekoalbury8606
      @nekoalbury8606 Рік тому

      Totally agreed.

    • @DorvellTStewart
      @DorvellTStewart Рік тому +4

      No, it IS devastating.

  • @wadilotus
    @wadilotus Рік тому +944

    What a kind sweet man and a supportive woman. These two would probably be better off as friends until the healing has taken effect.

    • @707tich
      @707tich Рік тому +22

      Agree

    • @sumayyaporche3225
      @sumayyaporche3225 Рік тому +16

      I was thinking that as well

    • @tyne2005
      @tyne2005 Рік тому +14

      This is so true

    • @lorainecodrington5721
      @lorainecodrington5721 Рік тому +31

      They love each other but there are walls. Let the friendship grow and it might transpire into love. She must love you to take care of your daughter. He loves you but he's insecure and afraid of being hurt again. In given time you'll make a wonderful couple. No shouting, No barriers, be open with each other. In communicating you'll find out if you're meant for each other. Good luck. Talk to God. Ask for His guidance. He'll give you direction. I hope you both have a Faith/Belief.

    • @NaLovePHAT4Life
      @NaLovePHAT4Life Рік тому +6

      AGREEZ!

  • @bdr5518
    @bdr5518 Рік тому +16

    He’s dealing with a lot of Trauma; I hope he finds peace

  • @dominiquejames696
    @dominiquejames696 Рік тому +134

    That’s what I’m talking about “ I’m not fighting you I’m fighting the the world with you” ❤ that’s so amazing to hear from someone you can love

  • @sativadivact9892
    @sativadivact9892 Рік тому +675

    He deserves so much in this life . Fighting to get custody of a child you had no hand in creating is beyond selfless . Ugh I just wanna hug him 😊

    • @beriljoseph6502
      @beriljoseph6502 Рік тому +6

      And giving him sum too 😢

    • @nekoalbury8606
      @nekoalbury8606 Рік тому +11

      Now he is a real daddy regardless of circumstances.

    • @samsonmcshay8542
      @samsonmcshay8542 Рік тому

      He’s gay . I can tell he’s in the closet. He look at the host more than his own girl. And when he hug it wasn’t sincere, but like he is trying to force himself to do that. There’s more than what meets the eye

    • @waynemarshall8836
      @waynemarshall8836 Рік тому

      He’s a simp its as simple as that

    • @shakeriacrawford5457
      @shakeriacrawford5457 8 місяців тому +1

      He's the daddy of the daughter she's the one helping raise a daughter that's not biologically hers

  • @shereewhite4828
    @shereewhite4828 Рік тому +569

    I can hear the pain in his voice. He's been through a lot, and I clearly understand why he feels the way he does.
    He is still traumatized and is definitely not over the sexual assault of his ex-girlfriend. I pray that he seeks counseling so that he can have a happy, healthy relationship.
    His ex-girlfriend should be charged & jailed for date rape. If not caught, she may continue this sick, demonic behavior on other innocent men!

    • @saramcdonalds9038
      @saramcdonalds9038 Рік тому +7

      I HEAR THE GAYNESS IN HIS VOICE UNLESS HES A MOMMA'S BOY AND HOST VOICE TOO 😜 YEAH THE FATHER NEVER TOOK HIM OUT TO A FOOTBALL GAME

    • @japhya0378
      @japhya0378 Рік тому +54

      @@saramcdonalds9038 There was nothing gay about this man. He is just traumatized, and not only from the date rape and to find out that he has a child, but he is traumatized from childhood as well.

    • @Dilhun2
      @Dilhun2 Рік тому +42

      ​@@saramcdonalds9038 You are sick!

    • @denisejones6579
      @denisejones6579 Рік тому +26

      @@saramcdonalds9038
      SHAME ON YOU

    • @Miracle9981
      @Miracle9981 Рік тому

      @@japhya0378 you’re delusional asf everything about this man is clearly gay and feminine

  • @coldblooded568
    @coldblooded568 Рік тому +425

    Just when I thought I'd make it through an episode without crying, the girlfriend gives the "I love you" speech.

    • @chelybeann
      @chelybeann Рік тому +26

      😂 Karamo be having me HURT man

    • @coldblooded568
      @coldblooded568 Рік тому +10

      @@chelybeann for real 🤣

    • @ReiaNmakeup
      @ReiaNmakeup Рік тому +10

      Omgggg me 😂😂😂😂like dammit!

    • @iamterriffic7041
      @iamterriffic7041 Рік тому +6

      Yes I felt like it was me on the show. This was Deep

    • @Axiom61
      @Axiom61 Рік тому +6

      same here, I was at work when I started watching this episode. It was a shame to cry Infront of my colleagues

  • @sonideDent
    @sonideDent Рік тому +61

    Yeah truth be told he does not have the capacity to be in a relationship while trying to heal at the same time. He’s completely numb. It’s not his fault that he has so much trauma. The world sucks and people suck. I hope he uses the resources that is given to him so he can heal for himself and that child. 😢

    • @auzy2u845
      @auzy2u845 Рік тому +1

      I think that he can through it with her.

    • @mindmybusiness423
      @mindmybusiness423 Рік тому

      Lawd have mercy ma'am you hit it on the head.

  • @jdg7515
    @jdg7515 Рік тому +60

    I truly hope more support was given to this young man because this is CLEARLY not something that can be dealt with on a tv show! He needs intensive support and all the signs are there.

    • @osunlade-daphne2598
      @osunlade-daphne2598 Рік тому +1

      Karamo advised him to go back to therapy. Hopefully he took the advice. 💚

  • @abail1115
    @abail1115 Рік тому +657

    Karamo, this has to be one of your best episodes. Not only for your guests expressing themselves so vulnerably but the way you helped through this miscommunication they were having. It shows that what you're doing is so important. Please keep these type of episodes coming!

  • @tamzyl1250
    @tamzyl1250 Рік тому +578

    Sorry this man had such an evil act done on him. I can see the love between them, I just hope they both can get separate counselling, to strengthen themselves in order to gain the relationship they both can give to one another. ❤

    • @The_black_Madonna
      @The_black_Madonna Рік тому +12

      Your first sentence I did not hear out of the host house.
      Going through rape is a terrible experience.😢

    • @hearts4me567_
      @hearts4me567_ Рік тому

      nigga wha ☠️☠️

    • @iamterriffic7041
      @iamterriffic7041 Рік тому

      @Emmanuel Deloatch AWESOME !!!?

    • @msohsosolo
      @msohsosolo Рік тому +8

      His daughter’s mother deserves to be behind bars…if what he said is true.

    • @rykson161
      @rykson161 Рік тому +3

      What evil act ? He is a good actor

  • @deejai1173
    @deejai1173 Рік тому +405

    He needs to bring charges against her. What his daughters mother did is not ok! On another note, he shouldn’t even be dating before he receives the proper care for himself. But who am I?

    • @The_black_Madonna
      @The_black_Madonna Рік тому +20

      I get you.

    • @OrganicAlumination
      @OrganicAlumination Рік тому +15

      I agree like and then she ruined his birthday... Like if he hasn't had her charged yet I'd be surprised. Getting a court document and looking at the name like "who tf is this?!"😂😂😂

    • @chosentoprovokechange4780
      @chosentoprovokechange4780 Рік тому +19

      Facts my brother was violated and he drunk himself to death.

    • @HeiressEurheinessHighley
      @HeiressEurheinessHighley Рік тому +6

      You hit the nail right on the head with that one!

    • @angelathompson1733
      @angelathompson1733 Рік тому +30

      My brother Inlaw was given the date rape drugs years ago by a few women who took him to a hotel and they had sex with him discussing. Women rape too and should be charged

  • @AaronBraxton
    @AaronBraxton Рік тому +23

    In the beginning of this segment, I was angry at how the girl friend came out and spoke to the brutha on national TV. It was emasculating. However, I was delighted to see her calm down and listen. Especially when he talked about being date raped and having to fight for custody of his daughter. They both truly listed and took responsibility for their roles in the lack of intimacy in their relationship. By the end of that segment I was in tears. We never know what traumas people have faced in their lives and why they act the way they do. If you are lucky enough to find a great partner, fight for them. Karamo did a great job of mediating that segment and putting both of them on a path to healing individually and as a couple. I've never seen his show before, but I will definitely be watching.

    • @osunlade-daphne2598
      @osunlade-daphne2598 Рік тому +8

      I pray that one day men who think that someone expressing themselves to them emasculates them will go to counseling and work through their issues of male fragility, because if someone’s demeanor can change a whole grown man’s masculinity, it saddens me.

    • @amandabarrett2472
      @amandabarrett2472 10 місяців тому

      Exactly that's there go to thing. Any expression, and passion ​@@osunlade-daphne2598

  • @glamourwithjabreon3164
    @glamourwithjabreon3164 Рік тому +18

    He seems like a good soul just with alot of trauma. I hope it works out if not hopefully they both find someone.

  • @chas_meplease
    @chas_meplease Рік тому +572

    The comments are disturbing just because they haven’t been intimate does not mean he is gay this man was raped and if the roles was reversed y’all would not be calling the woman gay because she has not been intimate with her boyfriend y’all make me sick with that BS!

    • @williame.7982
      @williame.7982 Рік тому +1

      People tend to have preconceptions about what they think a man is and how he should act. Once someone doesn't fit the mold in their head, they're automatically deemed gay or something else... And, for some reason, men aren't allowed to experience trauma. Only women. If a man is raped, it's expected that he enjoyed it. Because he's a man, not a human.

    • @heidi_05
      @heidi_05 Рік тому +49

      EXACTLY

    • @chas_meplease
      @chas_meplease Рік тому +13

      @Emmanuel Deloatch I’m so sorry that happened to you don’t let these crazy comments get to you

    • @tiffyfittaz6550
      @tiffyfittaz6550 Рік тому +11

      Some women absolutely have in fact stated that after being raped by a man they have in fact turned gay and would rather be intimate with other women. And thats okay. He’s a man and of course it’s not going to be that easy for him to want to open up to her about the fears he has on being intimate, if he is in fact sexually attracted to her. Which based on how he physically interacts with her. He’s not. And that’s okay he just has to be honest with himself.

    • @emekaemmanuel5258
      @emekaemmanuel5258 Рік тому +60

      He's very much gay. No straight man goes a year without sex with the partner unless he's knocking other women outside. Yes I agree that him being raped can explain some of his trauma but his sexual identity is the underlying issue. He's not into women and if you women can't see it, then y'all can have DL men under your nose.

  • @favoredone1222
    @favoredone1222 Рік тому +198

    He light candles nightly for her to bathe and NO INTAMACY! What am I missing here? I pray for this fella. He need more Counseling and of course CHRIST for his healing.

    • @6598945
      @6598945 Рік тому

      Maybe he does it cause he loves her it's not every man who will do something nice for a woman because he wants to use her for sex

    • @cassl.8234
      @cassl.8234 Рік тому +35

      There should be no intimacy without marriage for Christ sake

    • @beingroxy
      @beingroxy Рік тому +24

      But Am I missing something? They're not even married. If they met on a Christian dating site are they actually believers? The Bible speaks on fornication. They shouldn't be intimate. He really needs healing though. May Jesus mend his heart. 😢❤

    • @itsKingSym
      @itsKingSym Рік тому +16

      Trauma i think… he probably wants to but is scared

    • @mobolajioluwole4746
      @mobolajioluwole4746 Рік тому +3

      ​@@cassl.8234yeah I have been seeing that in the comment section apparently everyone has different standards then...

  • @kayotheepotato
    @kayotheepotato Рік тому +243

    While he does seem to have controlling and invasive behavior, it obviously stems from his parents, rape and robbery. He’s so scared. I think with her being more gentle and him being more accepting I think they’ll be just fine 💛

    • @negrospiritualsz7982
      @negrospiritualsz7982 Рік тому +10

      @@theperfectescape5785 I don’t understand how sexuality is at play?

    • @Tshalamonii
      @Tshalamonii Рік тому +28

      @@theperfectescape5785 just bc he talks soft??? Y’all judge anything ☠️

    • @Tshalamonii
      @Tshalamonii Рік тому +19

      @@theperfectescape5785 yea it’s giving your judging the way he talks ☠️

    • @johndohcrime7206
      @johndohcrime7206 Рік тому

      @@theperfectescape5785 women like you 🚮 smh 🤦🏽‍♀️ just say anything

    • @AB-xy3mr
      @AB-xy3mr Рік тому +3

      @@theperfectescape5785doesn’t mean we can’t say it’s a shitty opinion

  • @lukaskanderewilders6064
    @lukaskanderewilders6064 Рік тому +25

    What a woman! Oh my goodness I love her, she is so, so supportive and it's all genuine ❤️.

  • @lorraine96smith56
    @lorraine96smith56 Рік тому +20

    I was literally in tears watching this. This man seems so fragile, innocent and a genuine nice young man who deserves a woman who will love, understand, support and care him to be build a fulfilling and loving life that they desrve. I hope this woman is the one and if not pray that he finds that woman and she finds that man.

  • @wsjlcsw
    @wsjlcsw Рік тому +151

    She’s vulnerable but he got to drop his pride that comes from being hurt. He has to learn vulnerability in this

    • @reedo9650
      @reedo9650 Рік тому +1

      She flirts with other man she clearly said it “that was only one time at game stop”

  • @TheRealUniquelyQ
    @TheRealUniquelyQ Рік тому +179

    He’s constantly on high guard with his antennas up because of his traumatic experiences. I hope that he gets all the help that he needs so that he can be free from his past and live a healthy and full filled life. Wishes them both the best.

    • @thesun-N-moon8885
      @thesun-N-moon8885 Рік тому +2

      😂 high guard of narcissism

    • @shawtybae476
      @shawtybae476 Рік тому +13

      @@thesun-N-moon8885mans was raped! Found out he had a 2 year old, not only that he was cheated on. He has a lot of trauma

    • @_BOUYE
      @_BOUYE Рік тому

      ​@@thesun-N-moon8885You're sick.

    • @EmmanuelJOHNSON-kb5fj
      @EmmanuelJOHNSON-kb5fj Рік тому +3

      💛🙏🤗

    • @auzy2u845
      @auzy2u845 Рік тому +1

      Yall are gross he was raped.

  • @simone6803
    @simone6803 Рік тому +309

    My God, I don’t think he’s ready 😢 this is such a sad situation. And I think they are both tremendous people. I hope Karamo is right that he made a major first step… but that girl deserves the peace too. Wish them both the best, whatever that looks like

    • @kiravideos.5353
      @kiravideos.5353 Рік тому +1

      @Emmanuel Deloatch that’s beautiful ❤️

    • @nikkijefferson6563
      @nikkijefferson6563 Рік тому

      ​@Emmanuel Deloatch congratulations

    • @simone6803
      @simone6803 Рік тому +8

      @Emmanuel Deloatch proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone, taking the risk and fighting to keep you two together. It was clear in this that you have a strong warrior spirit… people would be wrong to underestimate you. I knew you was that dude when you fought and won full custody of your daughter… I knew your beautiful fiancée was that queen, when she softened her heart quickly in response to seeing your pain. That’s a safe space, a true demonstration of love to a clear eye… I hope you’re able to be that safe space for yourself, daughter and wonderful woman too. your daughter deserves the best, as I know you know well… and I’m excited that she has you two to provide it to her. God bless you all man ✅

  • @TwinOnDeck25_8
    @TwinOnDeck25_8 Рік тому +12

    This is good (currently watching. Will update). Her suggestion of him being “controlling” when she walks out and talks to him the way she does, Iont see it…. No sex for a year 🧐 his controlling is manifested in manipulation. :::Update::: oh so they came to make me cry 😢. One thing she said that society needs to invest in 🗣️ Men Need Safe Havens too. We need safe spaces. Existing in the reality of being a Black Man, we’ve been taught so many wrong things about love. We’ve been conditioned to hold back In relationships because it’s weak. Resulting in broken families, relationships. Opening up the floor for safe spaces can reshape the consciousness of your person. Be that and there for each other.
    This was a good conversation.

  • @dlisa9735
    @dlisa9735 Рік тому +16

    He needs himself a good man and he will be happy..... 💯 She needs to heal and wait on her Boaz because she seems like a good person

    • @tanishastokes9875
      @tanishastokes9875 Рік тому +4

      Yeah because I think he may be gay. And ain't nothing wrong with that. Just be true to yourself.

    • @SD-bw4rn
      @SD-bw4rn 11 місяців тому +1

      I agree

    • @Deon-m6k
      @Deon-m6k 10 місяців тому +2

      Lawd I was searching for this comment because it was on my tongue but I wanna be the first to say it 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @GoldenGraham25
    @GoldenGraham25 Рік тому +243

    No lie, I was immediately irked when she stormed out there in an emotional fit with the loud talking. While it was uncalled for, I can also see she’s a flame. She’s passionate and he’s more relaxed. They just need to find a way to make their differences work for them. I wish them both the best.

    • @janicerogo6125
      @janicerogo6125 Рік тому +16

      Me too. "Jerry Springer" came to mind and this is not that type of show. She is kind and she has taken on a lot of responsibility.He is sweet but I don't think he has the right energy for her. He is morose and too closed in. He will lose her if not careful.

    • @903gurl2010
      @903gurl2010 Рік тому +7

      Yes it pissed me off but I gave her a chance and realized she’s actually a gem 💎

    • @susanedwards564
      @susanedwards564 Рік тому

      That part. She looks like an angry black women.

    • @KRUNWAY1
      @KRUNWAY1 Рік тому +7

      Because she’s tired of the accusations she was fed tf up

    • @briannaearl6618
      @briannaearl6618 Рік тому +3

      I mean, look how he's acting towards her. You not about to keep telling me I'm flirting and cheating and I know I'm not. I'm doing everything out of love that I have for you, and not getting anything in return. They don't even have sex, and he wouldn't even talk to her. But get on a show, and talks to a stranger.

  • @Passion85031
    @Passion85031 Рік тому +114

    Omg so now he’s raising the baby that was made from the rape 😮 & he has primary custody. I couldn’t imagine what that man is going through daily. He needs some counseling to continue

    • @Erica262
      @Erica262 Рік тому +2

      Women do it all of the time

    • @Passion85031
      @Passion85031 Рік тому +2

      @@Erica262 I wouldn’t couldn’t live with that

    • @thesun-N-moon8885
      @thesun-N-moon8885 Рік тому

      Hmmmm I read somewhere he has charges for kidnapping out of Texas … 😳😳

    • @hely1108
      @hely1108 Рік тому +2

      ​@@thesun-N-moon8885 that could just be his baby's mother filing charges to keep his daughter away.

  • @SheilaTrueLove
    @SheilaTrueLove Рік тому +197

    OMG...I am sitting here in tears. This is such a BEAUTIFUL Couple. May God and Christ help them to get through the rough times. I LOVE them both so much. If they work as a team, they will be unstoppable. Karamo's advice was so on point. I adore this man.

    • @beriljoseph6502
      @beriljoseph6502 Рік тому +2

      🤧😷

    • @dr.gigglezmd9551
      @dr.gigglezmd9551 4 місяці тому

      You know that dude is a paid professional actor who be on all kind of TV shows, he almost had me too 😆 🤣

  • @kezoegohard
    @kezoegohard Рік тому +3

    I love what the host said at the end about him not showing up. He has a lot of work to do he has walls up

  • @phe-phepb7471
    @phe-phepb7471 Рік тому +44

    My first time on this channel - and I found it very beautiful how the couple were supported to communicate and address the issues affecting their relationship. This was amazing and made be tearful.

  • @townsend256
    @townsend256 Рік тому +125

    The sad part is he has a great woman on his side and he is going to lose her because he is too damaged and needs real help

  • @Myztic71
    @Myztic71 Рік тому +197

    This episode broke my heart for both of them. They both have trust issues, and they both have been hurt and disappointed, it just manifests in different ways. In Marilyn, it's hyper-defensive, loud talking, and for Isiah, he builds a wall and retreats. I hope they can stay together & he gets the help and support he needs, because I think she really loves him.

    • @SemajLeeJ
      @SemajLeeJ Рік тому +5

      I think your observation on her is wrong, she only came out that way because what he was talking was completely false and I understand from her perspective because I’ve been there. She expresses herself whether it’s happiness, admiration, anger, love.. so much!! I applaud her fully because of the type of individual I witnessed and observed.

  • @lellepad
    @lellepad Рік тому +294

    I got emotional watching this video. There’s pain, and I appreciate the honesty so we can relate to one another. We need healing and this was it.

  • @kayladyson4370
    @kayladyson4370 Рік тому +7

    She is so beautiful I wish this woman nothing but the best

  • @norahassan2372
    @norahassan2372 Рік тому +3

    This man gain my respect 🙏 I hope you overcome all the hurdles and life a good life and find your own way of happiness. This woman also is precious the way she is understanding and trying to be supportive makes her even more precious. Hope your relationship last forever.

  • @sunnylamine
    @sunnylamine Рік тому +140

    Very moving story. I applaud this young man for fighting for his daughter and working towards addressing his real traumas. I wish them a happy relationship, moving forward.

  • @jacquelinemalombe6563
    @jacquelinemalombe6563 Рік тому +38

    We definitely need a follow-up for this couple's story

  • @pamelabrown5512
    @pamelabrown5512 Рік тому +161

    This episode touch my heart to the core!! They better work it out, and stay together.

    • @user-Tina8462
      @user-Tina8462 Рік тому +10

      That's what I said. They love each other and he doesn't know how to express it. Women know how to express themselves better. We even know what the man is feeling without them saying something sometimes. She is there for him and wants to be with him.

  • @Sigma2HisAlpha
    @Sigma2HisAlpha Рік тому +3

    He seems like there is so much genuineness inside of him but he needs help so he can heal and she is a keeper man ❤

  • @LuzdoSol00
    @LuzdoSol00 Рік тому +2

    He needs a proper healing this man. He is so sweet! I hope they find peace and love.

  • @yaniquehayes214
    @yaniquehayes214 Рік тому +73

    They look more like friends than lovers to me. But that just me and I hope they heal and stay together as long as they can.

    • @royaldavis640
      @royaldavis640 Рік тому +7

      Naw I got that vibe too

    • @neikasworld9513
      @neikasworld9513 Рік тому +8

      I said the same thing when he hesitated to say how he felt about her.. and when he was asked if he wanted to be with her, seem like he didn't want to hurt her feelings.. just my opinion

    • @brewalls2301
      @brewalls2301 Рік тому +9

      I felt that too but I do think they love each other

    • @dgrei320
      @dgrei320 Рік тому +3

      That is definitely the vibe.

    • @5822huron
      @5822huron Рік тому +12

      They don't even seem compatible.

  • @champagnes5898
    @champagnes5898 Рік тому +62

    Wow her expressing what he does for her touched my heart..he seems like a wonderful man and I pray that he gets help for his trauma..💯☮️

    • @thesun-N-moon8885
      @thesun-N-moon8885 Рік тому +3

      And then he sat emotionless…. 🙄… He seems like a narcissist!!!

    • @champagnes5898
      @champagnes5898 Рік тому +3

      @@thesun-N-moon8885 well that doesn’t negate the fact she had good things to say about him..clearly he needs some therapy..he seems like he has low self esteem and isn’t used to having a beautiful woman by his side so he needs to learn how to stop being clingy and jealous.

    • @gemportion5543
      @gemportion5543 Рік тому

      ​@@champagnes5898 😅

    • @ahzar4384
      @ahzar4384 Рік тому

      Me reading your comment just ss she finished 😂

  • @tonyatillman828
    @tonyatillman828 Рік тому +14

    He’s trying so hard to not be a bad man that he can’t see, he is a good man. She knows it! They will have a beautiful relationship with therapy.

  • @Andrewclovis
    @Andrewclovis Рік тому +3

    That was a truly authentic relationship. Both in their pain bodies but the love is there. I really want them to fin themselves which will then help them to see each other. Amen

  • @danielkyarie4392
    @danielkyarie4392 11 місяців тому +1

    The sweetest couple ever! They have to help each other overcome their hurts, especially she has to help him more just accept him the way he is, he is emotionally broken ❤

  • @opulence_prime
    @opulence_prime Рік тому +27

    Being controlling is a result of trauma and lack of coping skills and emotional maturity. All things that can push ppl away. Even if they love you deeply.

  • @gabriellea.3732
    @gabriellea.3732 Рік тому +30

    It’s so sad how the past can stay present sometimes. Wishing him peace and happiness.

  • @ItsUrGirlAR
    @ItsUrGirlAR Рік тому +120

    He needs to be single, he can't give her his authentic self because he don't know who he is...she's just a housekeeper and a babysitter. No sex tells me that there may be some other issues going on as well. She needs to leave this relationship, she's lost herself in him and his child. Leave this relationship sis....he's not it.

    • @feliciawilson7419
      @feliciawilson7419 Рік тому +33

      This is the most accurate comment on here! Convenience for him, and she's in love with the romantic treatment he gives her, which she probably didn't get in her past relationships. She needs to take those blinders off!

    • @bibibello2181
      @bibibello2181 Рік тому +32

      You would have made sense 100% if you didn't judge them by their lack of sex. Sex is cheap and it's the easiest thing anyone can give you and it still would mean nothing!! They met on a Christian site, did you hear that part? So his spirituality, religious beliefs or trauma might be making him wait. Nevertheless, I agree they shouldn't be in a relationship. He surely has deep rooted issues he needs to find his way through. Do I think he loves her? No! He might just like the convenience of having her around and is only threatened by her flirting- he is not ready to let her go and at the same time not wanting anything deeper. Sadly, she is carried away by those little nice things he does.

    • @brownsugar3335
      @brownsugar3335 Рік тому +7

      ​@@theperfectescape5785 Very. And no judgement at all. He just needs time to heal and find his true self. Although I do believe she should stay being his friend and being supportive to him. No matter what he chooses. A relationship just isn't for them.

    • @thesun-N-moon8885
      @thesun-N-moon8885 Рік тому +7

      Yeah, cause according to some people he has charges out of Texas for kidnapping. 😳 Ion if it’s true! But this dude reeks of narcissistic tendencies

    • @sheronapike
      @sheronapike Рік тому

      Facts

  • @natashashanee
    @natashashanee Рік тому +4

    This is so sad.. I hate to see people get in relationships & aren’t emotionally available.. he’s gonna hurt her

  • @darrylmclain2964
    @darrylmclain2964 Рік тому +3

    This started out heart wrenching, yet ended up beautiful. They're friends before lovers ❤❤.

  • @startinajackson606
    @startinajackson606 Рік тому +36

    I'm crying because this young man is so traumatized, I pray they can make it, she is so stressed out as well, you can tell by the bags under her eyes. I'm praying for both of them.

  • @sandracapuano480
    @sandracapuano480 Рік тому +13

    She left him speechless ❤

  • @markalusss
    @markalusss Рік тому +31

    There is a clear imbalance in energy between these two.

  • @PhillipORourke
    @PhillipORourke Рік тому +1

    Once the defenses come down, what they expressed to eachother was beautiful. I feel that this is the FIRST time that they were able to HEAR eachother and SEE eachother. He needs healing. He MUST do the work.

  • @ernestmciverjr.2578
    @ernestmciverjr.2578 Рік тому +2

    The WAY she came out tells me everything! If she's doing that at home, THAT is why he continually walled off. Soon as he walked out, i could tell he was hurt, broken & needs a hug, not hostility but patience. Karamo gives half- true advice & advocating a break-up. He asked why he doesn't open up more... duhhh the answer is evident. Yes, he needs to be healed- both do, but patience, love, support & kindness is needed apparently more in his direction bc of his state of being and if she cant or is unwilling to help him through & use discernment & intuition, then maybe she should move on, but he needs no more damage.

    • @jameswilson-nk2tc
      @jameswilson-nk2tc Рік тому +1

      Karamo gave advice perfectly… she has a right to express her emotions. She’s a great woman and does more than the most. They still need to work on themselves. Stop watching podcasts and giving biased opinions. He is damaged and needs therapy. His trauma is effecting their relationship… not her. Watch the video and process everything.

    • @prophetem29
      @prophetem29 Рік тому

      @jameswilson-nk2tc
      First of all, 🤫🤫🤫, bc absolutely no one was talking to your half-brain thinking a**, so don't come for me, come for your mama! Secondly, your lame thinking is a major contributor to the selfish, inconsiderate, and weak way our society treats people. Thirdly, I said what i said, so you couldhv kept your insignificant opinion to yourself. She already knew his story yet chose to be with him, sooo if you're gonna be with an emotionally delicate man, don't add to his hurt/ pain - help him through with patience, consideration and discernment and help bring peace. No one said she wasnt a "great woman", nor can we make that assumption based on this appearance bc we dont know the totality of the actuality of their home life, just mere speculation of this encounter. Moreover, no one saud she doesn't "have the right to express her emotions", but its still a way for an adult, especially a mate who say they love you, to do that! I've been a spiritual life coach for years and can clearly see when a person isn't helping a situation, like your redundantly obsolete existence, Then, if she can't be the true rock he needs, she needs to go, but not add to his fragility. No one is saying he doesn't need to be healed. That has been covered already, so go bother someone else with your pointless presence!

  • @carringtonlei6105
    @carringtonlei6105 Рік тому +106

    There’s more to his story. I feel that in my spirit.

    • @TheQueensWalk
      @TheQueensWalk Рік тому +40

      Yes. Seems like he’s want to be on the other team…

    • @kaitlyntyo4022
      @kaitlyntyo4022 Рік тому +17

      @@TheQueensWalk you’re too much. Get out of here.

    • @707tich
      @707tich Рік тому +2

      ALOTTTTTTT

    • @707tich
      @707tich Рік тому +1

      @@TheQueensWalk thank you

    • @negrospiritualsz7982
      @negrospiritualsz7982 Рік тому +10

      @@TheQueensWalk why do y’all always say that about feminine presenting men?

  • @StephysWrld18
    @StephysWrld18 Рік тому +105

    I hope the mother of his daughter did or does time for what she did that's just sad and wrong!

  • @veniagivenchy1532
    @veniagivenchy1532 Рік тому +77

    Saying that you don't believe she's flirting, is definitely your opinion . The boy friend was there to see what his girlfriend was saying & doing . Now, there's a possibility that she is just being friendly, but sometimes, it's hard to tell the difference between being very friendly & flirting when you know someone is very friendly, flirty & sneaky . People act & pretend well .

    • @lexielexie8819
      @lexielexie8819 Рік тому +6

      Agreed

    • @veniagivenchy1532
      @veniagivenchy1532 Рік тому +6

      @Emmanuel Deloatch trust me, i'm smart enough to know what i only saw or what i & others saw . You can give me your opinions, but i make the final decision on how i feel . 😃😃😃

    • @veniagivenchy1532
      @veniagivenchy1532 Рік тому +1

      @Emmanuel Deloatch yes 😃😃😃

    • @iamterriffic7041
      @iamterriffic7041 Рік тому +10

      Your rt . It's like when you know and feel your man is up to something and he looks you dead in your face and lie and try to make you look like your some jealous crazy maniac

    • @veniagivenchy1532
      @veniagivenchy1532 Рік тому +3

      @@iamterriffic7041 right !!! 😃😃😃

  • @slyfurz
    @slyfurz Рік тому +2

    This is one of the saddest and sweetest vidoes i've seen, i hope they can both heal, and hopefully together

  • @MarcelinaWilliams-o5j
    @MarcelinaWilliams-o5j Рік тому +1

    I See The Pain In Your Eyes, " GOD" Will Wipe Away All Tears. Praise Him 🙏

  • @ohokvevi3815
    @ohokvevi3815 Рік тому +76

    I love karamo soo much every episode be so genuine and he actually helps the people on his show get the help they need whether they are right or wrong in a situation I hope this couple grows stronger as one with it ❤

    • @trolltrolling9022
      @trolltrolling9022 Рік тому +3

      I don’t think he was genuine when he said that his outfit was nice😂

  • @tminus6895
    @tminus6895 Рік тому +9

    I’m confused as beautiful as it is; how is he so comfortable to tell the world and not her. Millions will see and re watch this and he couldn’t tell her😢

  • @keylacmckemp1309
    @keylacmckemp1309 Рік тому +16

    Just tuned in, but he reminds me of a dog that has been abused and is just there shaking. He really needs therapy and healing. My heart really felt his brokenness.

  • @charity9660
    @charity9660 Рік тому +8

    It happens a lot more than you think. I know someone very close to me that is a man, that got raped like that. But he was at a friends house and his friends watched the girl put something in his drink and then the whole thing happened and then watched him pass out and stay on the floor the whole night. Then tell him what happened in the morning. He was so broken for a while. I felt so bad for him. And his girlfriend at the time didn’t know how to take it. She felt bad but didn’t fully understand. But they stayed together and got married. Had a baby and everything. I’m glad it didn’t keep him down. His brother punched one of the guys that watched

  • @Hiben13
    @Hiben13 Рік тому +3

    Young man, you are much stronger than you believe or even give yourself credit for. It's ok to accept that you may or may not have made the correct choices in life. The key is squaring your shoulders back , lifting your head of high, come face to face with your pain, allow the pain to do what it does and then move forward... Assess, listen and evaluate will always be the key factors in making the choices that are right for you. It's very plain and simple!!!!!!

  • @mellow9847
    @mellow9847 Рік тому +11

    They both seem like sweet generous people.. they need to start praying together & let God heal them both.. I believe this couple is gonna make it..💯💪🏾

  • @sandrarice4197
    @sandrarice4197 Рік тому +40

    My heart breaks for this young couple. He is a very sensitive young man. They both seem like they treat each other with respect and love each other. She is so compassionate and understanding. May God be with them and they make it together. They compliment each other. Blessings.❤

  • @oneloveonelove9983
    @oneloveonelove9983 Рік тому +27

    He seems so wounded, I hope he gets help. The girl seems like she really love him, she is taking care of his kid, making sure that he doesn't have to do anything when he gets home, cooking and cleaning. I wish them both the best.

  • @ELody136
    @ELody136 Рік тому +6

    When she came out, she seems really aggressive. He seems like he’s going through a lot. My son hasn’t seen his daughter in 3 years and his son he hasn’t met. The mother stopped letting him see and talk to his daughter on the phone. She didn’t disclose to him that she was in labor with their son and we don’t even know what hospital he was born at. I haven’t seen my granddaughter in the same amount of time and I also haven’t met my grandson. 😢😢😢

    • @timoteooo94
      @timoteooo94 Рік тому +2

      I really don’t think she’s aggressive….i think she’s a really passionate woman. She seems really cool

    • @osunlade-daphne2598
      @osunlade-daphne2598 Рік тому

      @@timoteooo94, I agree. She has a beautiful spirit. Plus, she was understandably frustrated by his accusations, lack of intimacy, etc. And then, come to find out she had never been told anything about the majority of the horrible things that happened to him. Wishing them both beauty, joy, love , and success.

  • @themodel05
    @themodel05 11 місяців тому +1

    He needs to heal emotionally and physically before he starts a relationship because what he’s in now is toxic and it’s unfair to his girlfriend
    It’s so sad they’re going through this
    He is traumatized and his child’s mother needs to be jailed for what she’s done to him

  • @emmanuelmassaley8631
    @emmanuelmassaley8631 Рік тому +6

    Sometimes , good things come in unpleasant packaging, but what you do with it is what matters. According to her,he is a funny loving guy, but he is also in a bad spot . His daughter will be a reminder of that hurt .. it's a difficult situation. Wish them the best.

  • @londonk69
    @londonk69 Рік тому +45

    I know he been thru a horrific experience in his life but him not opening up to her is gonna push her away

  • @CliftonGio
    @CliftonGio Рік тому +31

    I can’t imagine the pain he’s been through nor what she’s endured a lot. Both are hurt and need healing. I believe they can heal together.

  • @amyratcliff3843
    @amyratcliff3843 Рік тому +1

    She has bags under her eyes from crying so much. Choose yourself sis & love him from a distance.

  • @charlesmcconnell7161
    @charlesmcconnell7161 Рік тому +2

    Time for him to Come out the Back Room.,........ Lady Please Leave 😮😢

  • @kimdean1079
    @kimdean1079 Рік тому +33

    That girl has love for that man because a year of no intimacy is a deal breaker on every level. She has every right and reason to cheat and she hasn't. I'll say it again, she has love for that man

  • @ChuckStarrP3026
    @ChuckStarrP3026 Рік тому +42

    He's so traumatized by what happened to him it's breaking my heart. I wish both of them well and hope he can start communicating with her instead of shutting down.

  • @cia75
    @cia75 Рік тому +27

    Put therapy in there lives so he can learn how to treat and trust her

  • @myfamilycomesfirstalways
    @myfamilycomesfirstalways Рік тому +3

    Karamo is 💯% correct in everything he said.

  • @lauj888
    @lauj888 9 місяців тому +1

    Wow, this was so deep, I actually shed a tear. Feel for this guy and his trauma, and also for his girlfriend. Hope they work it out❤️🙏🏼❤️

  • @JaneInThisThang
    @JaneInThisThang Рік тому +27

    What a twist! Prayers to them both !

  • @crazybillie2498
    @crazybillie2498 Рік тому +7

    I love them both. You can smell the love. They have on the same colors. He admits he needs healing. I hope he gets it

  • @C-lifeLover
    @C-lifeLover Рік тому +9

    Asking an adult to do something as an adult is WILD!
    I do say work on your relationship because life is not easy, but this relationship is very problematic. I see no peace of mind on both ends.
    His story is sad, and it's definitely not acknowledged commonly.
    He should talk to someone.

  • @priscillaaa_j
    @priscillaaa_j 11 місяців тому

    "you deserve someone to prove to you they love you as well" that lineeeeeee i'm taking it for myself!

  • @lillyprice-folkes1798
    @lillyprice-folkes1798 Рік тому +1

    He needs counselling for his healing.
    Hopefully, they can grow through their journey together.
    Wishing them greatness in thier relationship...❤

  • @Reneedee780
    @Reneedee780 Рік тому +23

    Praying for them . And their healing.

  • @REDDLADY2
    @REDDLADY2 Рік тому +146

    She deserves so much better. She's being a wife with out the benefits of marriage. She has taken on the role of primary parent( if it's true he works all the hours he says), in a relationship with a emotionally damaged and emotional unavailable man who is in dire need of intensive therapy. He has left over relationship baggage from his parents relationship and his mistrust of women in general. He's lucky she still around. She's young, pretty, employed, empathetic, and childless. She could easily find someone with less baggage that treats her better. He should not even be in a relationship until he is emotionally healthy.

    • @MrKylla779
      @MrKylla779 Рік тому +15

      Would you say that if shoe was on the other foot?

    • @renoirrandy7241
      @renoirrandy7241 Рік тому +19

      The man treats her well, you haven't been paying attention have you?

    • @praiseyahweh6159
      @praiseyahweh6159 Рік тому +14

      So you didn’t hear the things she said about him, how he love and treat her?

    • @antwonsavage6418
      @antwonsavage6418 Рік тому +7

      He been threw alot go threw his shoes or my shoes because I been threw hell as well

    • @jacijune
      @jacijune Рік тому +10

      ​@@renoirrandy7241 but he's messed up in the head and controlling and no matter what nice things he might do in between, if he doesn't get his issues under control he could turn abusive.

  • @clarapeters6583
    @clarapeters6583 Рік тому +38

    I pray they get counseling so they can work through and be the couple that they desire.

  • @Fordie47
    @Fordie47 Рік тому +1

    The communication is completely non-existent between these two. Where do they even start? "Hello my name is _____________."

  • @babyrice169
    @babyrice169 Рік тому +6

    He reminds me of my bf
    He was traumatized from his previous relationship that he was cheated on
    And never be healed.
    He never trusted me as same reason “flirtatious” whatever shit
    And he decided to cheat on me because he thought I was cheating on him so he said he wanted to cheat on me “first” so when he found out he won’t be hurt that much. Literally I wasted my whole year and half being loyal and loving him unconditionally. It just so selfish
    He was the one who got traumatized and now I got cheated on
    So fucked up

  • @corisimpson6017
    @corisimpson6017 Рік тому +10

    That young woman has a beautiful soul❤❤❤❤❤

  • @tythestylist
    @tythestylist Рік тому +4

    I never really really followed Karamo until today... HE WAS THE PERFECT PIECE TO THE PUZZLE. VERY INSPIRING!

  • @dwaynestephenson8867
    @dwaynestephenson8867 Рік тому +6

    Wow. I understand how this guy feels he is definitely afraid to open up. Especially when you see so much. This is all on him. He has to let it go

  • @mickeyj6921
    @mickeyj6921 Рік тому +3

    My goodness she was very aggressive initially and then I realized that she was coming from a place of love. The love that they feel for each other should continue to be explored but they need counseling. They need help. They got me in my feelings.

  • @closetculture3025
    @closetculture3025 Рік тому +3

    What horrible situation! No wonder he has trust issues. But I agree with his girl, you can't lump the abusers in with the people who actually want to raise you up. I'm glad he is in counseling, he should take her with him and work on it together as well. My love to this man and this woman and I hope they find a way to break this cycle of mistrust.