Signs that you could be autistic?

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  • Опубліковано 27 лют 2023
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    63 common autistic traits you never realised were signs of autism. Do you ever wonder if you might be autistic? What is autism anyway? It can be hard to define, but if you know enough autistic people there are some obvious patterns. How many of the common 63 autistic traits apply to you? Maybe you've had someone say to you, "How can someone so clever be so stupid?" or you feel like you're either too much or not enough in certain areas. From scripting conversations to advanced or delayed childhood development, in this video, we'll explore what it means to be autistic and what it can look like in different individuals.
    Any one of these traits by themselves is quite common, but patterns tend to emerge when autistic people come together. That’s why autistic social activities can be a great way to connect and learn from each other. Here are the links to some autistic social groups you might be interested in:
    Want to join our autistic community? Join our Social Meetup Facebook Group here:
    / 722729774905114
    (we also have Discord server: / discord )
    Or this online community for Late Diagnosed adults - www.autastic.com/community/
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 1,7 тис.

  • @Stankbot-gy5dm
    @Stankbot-gy5dm Рік тому +4587

    Bro just described every person ever

    • @ShayVidz
      @ShayVidz 11 місяців тому +62

      😂

    • @brandswortheastman
      @brandswortheastman 11 місяців тому +263

      Could just be you,
      You might want to further research if you related.
      (Coming from a diagnosed autistic adult)

    • @seyonmahendran7182
      @seyonmahendran7182 11 місяців тому +61

      I mean normally everybody has some degree of autism, even Elon Musk has it in a greater degree.

    • @rocb1319
      @rocb1319 11 місяців тому +42

      Thank God cause I’m like yeah I do all this 😂

    • @iconsumecoal
      @iconsumecoal 11 місяців тому +392

      @@seyonmahendran7182that’s one of the worst things u could say about autism. “Everybody has this disorder to some degree” nope. Also using autism as an insult is disgusting of u

  • @linden5165
    @linden5165 Рік тому +1894

    "How can someone so clever be so stupid."
    Part of my unmasking is admitting I don't know things and asking for explanation and guidance. Often people are a bit surprised but then they tell me, and then I, an adult, get to learn foundational things for the first time. I have multiple degrees and I just learned last year I was brushing my teeth with 30x the amount of necessary pressure.

    • @lauralane586
      @lauralane586 Рік тому +66

      My partner finds the way I brush my teeth hilarious, its one of hus favorite quirks about me lol... I guess I brush really intense haha... This comment makes me realize, I am not the only vigorous brusher 😆

    • @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy
      @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy Рік тому +80

      I know, right? Even though a person is actually smart, people will suddenly perceive them as not being very smart when they maybe take longer to do things, just from being more clumsy than the average person, or maybe just from OCD. And then all of a sudden, the degrees thar I obtained in college don't even matter to them anymore. Yes, I may not understand a lot of social interactions, but please don't let that entirely cancel out the credentials that I very successfully completed for myself. It's like, "Yes, you may know how to read social cues and I don't, but I ALSO know about a lot of things that you don't, so neither of us is actually better than the other." But the majority of people will probably continue to judge in this manner.

    • @jeanetteg83
      @jeanetteg83 Рік тому +25

      A good tip is to chose a kids toothbrush(6+) that is soft and has a tip that gets into harder places. According to several dentists medium and hard should be illegal.

    • @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy
      @ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy Рік тому +11

      @Laura Lane Yeah, I seem to do at least half of things in an awkward way or another. A person can start by observing my natural gait when I walk, as I cringe at the thought of my heals striking the ground before the front pads of my feet (I have people tell me that I remind them of a ballerina when I walk ☺️).

    • @mollykins8h
      @mollykins8h Рік тому +12

      Pretty much when my friends told me there is a difference between school smart and street smart... I was so offended I quit school and started my life on the streets to catch up lmao

  • @indigobunting2431
    @indigobunting2431 Рік тому +257

    Sensory problem ( clothes annoy, sounds irritate, lights overwhelm ).

    • @joycebrewer4150
      @joycebrewer4150 Рік тому +8

      Bras, possibly with sport bra exception need to be banned!

    • @nryane
      @nryane Рік тому +23

      Smells. Laundry, dishwashing soaps, aftershave/cologne/perfume/shampoos/lotions - anything near or on my person has to be unscented or I develop raging headaches. Some smells like rosemary, sage, thyme are all acceptable. Pungent, sweet odors are not.
      Food textures. Cooked tomatoes have always bugged me, but I’m okay with tomato ketchup or sauce. Mushy foods often bug me, yet I love mashed potatoes.
      These are things that I’ve had all my life (80-plus) and have recently had diagnoses (ASD and ADD). Often wondered about me!
      Edited:
      Today, at the therapist’s office, I could hear a low pulsing hum somewhere in the ceiling. Apparently, the offices have a sound-proofing device in the ceiling, so no client’s words can be heard by anyone in another room or the hallways. My therapist doesn’t hear the sound of that device.
      Most of the time, when the old-fashioned TV’s we had for video information in our classes were in my room or the open class area, I would hear a high-pitched sound that no one else appeared to hear. (I asked.) I’ve used headphones, or special earplugs to allow me to sleep in my building when neighbors are noisy. They don’t work for me. I hear EVERYTHING! Yet, our building is on a street with lots of traffic and somehow my brain doesn’t acknowledge it. Go figure!
      Regarding light - I have my window blinds down most days, except for cloudy or rainy days. Too bright for me.
      I prefer soft fibers for furniture or accessories, and clothing. I also have challenges working with yarns that are pure wool. I am allergic to regular wool, yet can wear merino wool, because it’s soft, with none of the “prickliness” of regular wool.
      With my recent diagnoses, I recognize that I have many autistic symptoms that upset or bothered me earlier in my life (and now), that others told me to “get over it!”
      Not too many people from my generation were EVER diagnosed, unless their symptoms were severe and obvious. We “high-functioning” people just had to “suck it up and get on with life”! Unfortunately, many of us felt “broken”, because we didn’t seem to fit into “normal” situations.
      ****The diagnoses (ASD and unspecified ADD) help me to understand that my brain functions differently, that I am “neurodivergent”, not broken.

    • @SiriusGrifindor-yd4to
      @SiriusGrifindor-yd4to 8 місяців тому +2

      Exactly!

    • @SiriusGrifindor-yd4to
      @SiriusGrifindor-yd4to 8 місяців тому +1

      Sensitive to certain sounds being triggered,response back in huge attack or ignore and have what you have,is all autistic behavior,being attacked easily by others and replying harsh or ignoring- is all autistic behavior. I had these all my life. Anyway depends how brain is wired./

    • @user-gf5eu4lh8o
      @user-gf5eu4lh8o 7 місяців тому

      This is my everything overwhelms me

  • @judylandry302
    @judylandry302 Рік тому +443

    I hate phone calls. I can't tell when I'm supposed to speak and I talk over and finish other people's sentences and I don't like chit-chat. I have zero phone contacts.

    • @margotstolemycargo
      @margotstolemycargo Рік тому +15

      FOR REAL but my friends are used to me having this issue so i feel more comfortable talking on the phone with them

    • @raabbibi
      @raabbibi Рік тому +18

      I hated phone calls until work forced me to get used to them. Those were the most nerve-wracking days of my life 😅
      I got better, I'm still not the best but I no longer have a mental breakdown when I have to do it

    • @cryptic2071
      @cryptic2071 Рік тому +3

      You don't message people?

    • @MsSimpleMovies
      @MsSimpleMovies Рік тому +6

      I'm like that 100%, and I don't have autism. I have pretty high anxiety. The kicker: My job is mostly on the phone. 😅

    • @c.l.9344
      @c.l.9344 Рік тому +7

      Many introvert's have this issue.

  • @NameIsAce
    @NameIsAce Рік тому +785

    "How can someone so clever be so stupid."
    People get intimidated, until they realize that I'm a ditz.

    • @joycebrewer4150
      @joycebrewer4150 Рік тому +6

      😁😁😁💯 me too.

    • @thirtywine
      @thirtywine Рік тому +6

      And they said I'm already old enough not to do stupid things

    • @looki.1life
      @looki.1life Рік тому +3

      Thats me, both irl and online somehow

    • @jm8143
      @jm8143 10 місяців тому +6

      Oh yes!! I always think that I was more stupid than normal people even when I had been considered very normal and recognized as a examplary student. Sometimes I felt smarter than them in some ways, but I always felt that at some point... So I thought my understanding was not really good. I admit that and tried to dedicate more in order to compensate my lacks.

    • @_hihi_0.0
      @_hihi_0.0 10 місяців тому +2

      my siblings just go “why are you so smart that you’re an idiot” and that stuck with me for a long time 😀

  • @heavenlywingz5497
    @heavenlywingz5497 Рік тому +242

    Add when you want to leave a comment you think too much about how what to say and think for a week decide well it's too late. I don't mind being alone. Thank you, I relate to most all.

    • @minkeekat
      @minkeekat Рік тому +18

      I’ve been accused of being rude for saying that I like my own company, but I do! ❤

    • @heavenlywingz5497
      @heavenlywingz5497 Рік тому +5

      @@minkeekat 👍

    • @hellogoodbye4402
      @hellogoodbye4402 Рік тому

      If it helps here's a conspiracy theory to boost your confidence.
      Theory: most of the comments are bots programmed for a variety of purposes, from political views to just pure hatred. After all, Twitter would loose money if it was only sunshine and rainbows. A typical "debate" gets 100s of comments, much more than wholesome stuff. The more comments, the more views, the more ads would trust Twitter.

    • @lordshadowsage
      @lordshadowsage Рік тому +8

      ​@@minkeekatdon't let anyone make you feel like enjoying being alone is bad or selfish

    • @mikey121981
      @mikey121981 6 місяців тому

      Symptoms overlap very often between different illnesses. And sometimes completely healthy people have some or many of the symptoms associated with certain conditions.

  • @garethscott418
    @garethscott418 8 місяців тому +11

    With the joint power of my ADHD and autism, I shall not only never reply to you, but will think about it constantly for the rest of my life.

    • @lyricsdomatter
      @lyricsdomatter Місяць тому +2

      the trick is to have a bunch of neurodivergent friends who don't think anything of there being months between messages

  • @glenndavies1828
    @glenndavies1828 Рік тому +134

    Certain noises, drive me nuts, can bring on anxiety, & the jitters...weird feelings in my body, so odd...I hate it.

    • @joycebrewer4150
      @joycebrewer4150 Рік тому +4

      That moment when our local violinist switches from an upstroke of his bow to a downstroke while playing a high note. Feels like sandpapering my eardrums! The coarse grit not fine grit sheets. The backup alarm on the facility bus ditto. The storm warning sirens of my town. Just 3 of the worst repeat offenders.

    • @eeaotly
      @eeaotly Рік тому +2

      ​@@joycebrewer4150And the 🎺!

    • @ACE-777.
      @ACE-777. Рік тому

      You have to starve that feeling

    • @joycebrewer4150
      @joycebrewer4150 Рік тому +2

      @@ACE-777. How does starving help auditory distress?

    • @brandswortheastman
      @brandswortheastman 11 місяців тому +1

      @@ACE-777.i didn’t knowe you could starve a thing

  • @tiegrsidesignsandstudio4794
    @tiegrsidesignsandstudio4794 Рік тому +892

    Also not realising you need to use the restroom...or puting off using it because you are doing something "important", and then forgetting you needed to go until it's almost too late. That's a thing, right? It's not -just- me?

  • @elizabethf8078
    @elizabethf8078 Рік тому +89

    Staying up way too late..resisting sleep.

    • @joycebrewer4150
      @joycebrewer4150 Рік тому +9

      Definitely, is 4:30 am as I type this, have not been to bed yet tonight. Common for me to be up until 1:30 am, tonight just worse.

    • @renegadesofanarchy289
      @renegadesofanarchy289 Рік тому +8

      It’s totally not 5:17 am as I’m typing this having literally only slept from 11:30 roughly to 2:45 (and that’s being generous)

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 Рік тому +2

      Oh absolut ely

    • @turtleanton6539
      @turtleanton6539 Рік тому +2

      ​@@renegadesofanarchy289yes yes 😊😊

    • @AnOrdinaryDude13
      @AnOrdinaryDude13 11 місяців тому +2

      It’s totally not 5:30am for me!!!!

  • @Average-honkai-player
    @Average-honkai-player 6 місяців тому +9

    Once I was so focused on painting that I locked myself in my room the entire weekend painting. Didn’t sleep didn’t eat, didn’t drink water, just awake for 40 hours working. My mom was concerned and let me stay home on Monday but I honestly don’t get how everyone in my family didn’t realize it sooner.
    They only connected the dots when my brother in law saw how I took a minute to process questions (like “want to come to the store?”, “can you feed the dogs?”, etc) and suddenly everyone recognized it.

    • @lightawake
      @lightawake 2 місяці тому +4

      Yes! I can't answer questions that require a decision straight away. I've come to learn that i need to sleep on it at least one night to really be clear. Otherwise I get way too influenced or pressured by other peoples' energies in the moment.

    • @ShipperTrash
      @ShipperTrash 22 дні тому +1

      "What do you want to eat tonight?"
      "I can't just answer that, I don't know, I haven't thought about it, how can I just know, don't force me to make a decision" *fricking runs away*
      (Legitimate dialogue from yesterday lol)

  • @kathyrehm4057
    @kathyrehm4057 Рік тому +130

    I've self described as "I'm the stupidest smart person or the smartest stupid person you've ever met." :/

    • @BloxerPlatinum
      @BloxerPlatinum 8 місяців тому

      i was diagnosed as the stupidest person you've ever met

    • @jaydennado9018
      @jaydennado9018 7 місяців тому

      imagine having autism 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @chuuyanakahara2944
      @chuuyanakahara2944 6 місяців тому +2

      Relatable 😂👌

    • @heavenishere416
      @heavenishere416 6 місяців тому +2

      I get it 💗

    • @FSauer
      @FSauer 4 місяці тому +2

      same

  • @SimonLausch
    @SimonLausch Рік тому +710

    Aren't those just traits of someone socially awkward? I have all of those.

    • @swissarmyknight4306
      @swissarmyknight4306 Рік тому +125

      You may want to talk to a qualified professional or at least consider the idea of being on the spectrum, if only to rule it out.

    • @thekillingjoke8982
      @thekillingjoke8982 Рік тому +91

      If those things don't just occur once a week, but in a such severe manner, that they effectively stop you from functioning in some fields, they are considered a symptom. There is also a huge overlap with other neurodevelopmental divergencies, that only a specialist should tell somebody else if they could be autistic or not.

    • @jak11111
      @jak11111 Рік тому

      The autism symptoms start in early childhood.

    • @s.b200
      @s.b200 Рік тому

      Have you always had sleep problems? That's a huge symotom that is basically always present if you have autism. Paul could have included it in this short-vid:)

    • @SimonLausch
      @SimonLausch Рік тому +8

      @@s.b200 Yes, but I always assumed that was because I don't exhaust myself daily.

  • @lauralane586
    @lauralane586 Рік тому +75

    They all hit home, but the not realizing hunger, thinking about text messages until I finally reply, always finishing even when I should stop, and the scripting and ruminating on conversations... Hit a little deeper lol

  • @OHG69
    @OHG69 11 місяців тому +2

    pov that one argument you lost me hours later winning it in my head

  • @Stray0
    @Stray0 Рік тому +36

    100% I have these traits. Especially scripting conversations in advance. I'm so scared of social conversations that I spend hours thinking about possible replies to any possible questions they may have.

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому +3

      You might have social anxiety. Autism isn't only just the social aspect, it has to show in many other parts of life

    • @matthewatwood8641
      @matthewatwood8641 4 місяці тому +1

      Congratulations, you're just like everybody else.

    • @srxxh_.
      @srxxh_. 2 місяці тому

      ayo fr? thats us

    • @windyywillows
      @windyywillows 2 місяці тому

      ​@@aster_11Watch out the introverted socially anxious people are gonna call you ableist! watch out when they tell you you're forcing them to mask! >_< /sarcasm

  • @mts.camilo
    @mts.camilo Рік тому +56

    Thank you for summarizing my life experience! Having received a diagnosis a month or so ago makes this video have so much more sense, and gives me a whole new depth and perspective on things and even on myself after almost three decades.

    • @stxrryxnxght5927
      @stxrryxnxght5927 Рік тому +2

      Do you get the not recognising hunger and thirst? I’m autistic and I don’t know when I need a drink or when I’m full

    • @mts.camilo
      @mts.camilo Рік тому +2

      @@stxrryxnxght5927 it does happen more often than not. Regarding the satiety feeling, my therapist advised me to eat slower. It seems to be helping a little. But unless I have a dry mouth, I can go for a while without water, too.

  • @applesidertea
    @applesidertea Рік тому +22

    At work, I keep the office lights off. Loud noises feel extremely intrusive. I don’t like changes to my routines, and I become upset when people disrupt my flow. I have a terminal degree, I’m highly intelligent, and I’m also very kind and a good conversationalist. Most people generally find me to be insightful, patient, compassionate, and a very pleasant person to be around. However, I comfortably spend most of my time alone and I don’t have many friends. I’ve been jokingly telling people I’m on the low end of the spectrum for years. After watching this video, I’m pretty sure I have very mild, high
    -functioning autism.

    • @cybercannon-di1is
      @cybercannon-di1is 7 місяців тому +1

      Same me too

    • @SiriusGrifindor-yd4to
      @SiriusGrifindor-yd4to 7 місяців тому +1

      Same

    • @thatswhatisaid8908
      @thatswhatisaid8908 5 місяців тому +1

      I was stunned when my psychologist said I was on the spectrum, but the more I learn about it, the more sure I am that she was correct.

    • @stevenkeys5826
      @stevenkeys5826 Місяць тому

      Hi there, I'm an average working man, a plasterer that works in englad and so to speak mid 40s and work with a man that sounds EXACTLY like you he's interested in marvel, can recite family guy, Rick and morty, star wars, 0 punctuation, and is also very intelligent but not so when it comes to putting up a shelf he struggles with directives is that something you sympathise with ? Ps just looking out for my friend

  • @missl740
    @missl740 Рік тому +30

    Also not knowing when you need to pee until the last minute, and if you have ADHD too, it is a real battle between the struggling to finish something because of the ADHD and the anxiety about not finishing it from the ASD. And the ASD in you needs organisation around you, but the ADHD stops you from effectively being able to organise yourself. 🤯

    • @Ashleepaige85
      @Ashleepaige85 7 місяців тому +1

      Ty. U just described me too. I guess I must look up more on asd. This is so me as well. Lol

    • @Wajiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii
      @Wajiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii 6 місяців тому +1

      Yup!

    • @thatswhatisaid8908
      @thatswhatisaid8908 5 місяців тому +2

      Ah, maybe that's my problem. In my mind, I want things micro organised, neatly, specifically and perfect. In reality, I cannot be arsed to actually put things away if they are that specifically organised. Too hard!

    • @lyricsdomatter
      @lyricsdomatter Місяць тому

      ADHD meds also make you drink more water so theres that too

  • @ABrokeSpaceFlamingo
    @ABrokeSpaceFlamingo Місяць тому +2

    “How can someone so clever be so stupid”
    My life in a nutshell 😭

  • @samgeller1967
    @samgeller1967 Рік тому +11

    I’m constantly repeating to myself something I said to someone else, only when I’m on my own though

  • @lyrablack8621
    @lyrablack8621 Рік тому +59

    _HA,_ i never finish anything!

    • @crweirdo8961
      @crweirdo8961 Рік тому +14

      Congratulations you finished watching this short, and you finished writing a comment.

    • @lyrablack8621
      @lyrablack8621 Рік тому +17

      @@crweirdo8961 FU-

    • @crweirdo8961
      @crweirdo8961 Рік тому +10

      @@lyrablack8621 I know it was only a few hours ago that I left my "congratulations" comment, but I already can't remember if I meant it encouragingly or sarcastically( I really should know better than to attempt to be sarcastic outside of face to face communication, especially without stating that it is a joke), but either way I don't understand how it can come across as being hurtful. Did it seem like I was gaslighting you? Can you help me to understand?

    • @lyrablack8621
      @lyrablack8621 Рік тому +12

      @@crweirdo8961 It didn't come across as hurtful at all!! I assumed you meant it jokingly, so i responded in kind (and looking back, i suppose just saying "FU-" without the context that i was leaving the rest of the word ["CK"] off in anticipation of the possibility that you could respond, "See, you finished another comment!"). I didn't anticipate you seeing it as F U, or "fuck you", which isn't what i meant at all, i assumed (wrongfully) that the "-" would denote the fact that i left it unfinished.
      Thank you very much for responding and asking for clarification! Communication is a two-way street after all, and neither of us were using our blinkers 'cause we were expecting the other person to be able to read our minds given our actions/words; which obviously leads to preventable misunderstandings.
      So, for the future of both of our Internet communications' needs, i'd like to introduce some lovely text-based-communication tools: tone indicators/tone tags! There are a lot of them, so i recommend looking it up on your own, but they look like this:
      _HA,_ i never finish anything! /j
      Congratulations you finished watching this short, and you finished writing a comment. /j (or maybe /s)
      FU- /j /lh
      … confused? Here's a key:
      /j = joking! (Could also be /jk for just kidding)
      /s = sarcastic/sarcasm
      /lh = lighthearted/playful (i don't know if there's a /p? But you can make up your own as long as you provide a key, ofc you can have fun, just make sure the priority of communication is met!)
      All of this would fall under /info or information! Emojis can also be used similarly but may be more inconvenient on desktop as opposed to mobile ☺️; and i prefer emoticons anyway for some things! :P
      Btw, tell me you're autistic without telling me you're autistic!! /lh /j
      Edit: wanted to add this real quick. Punctuation often also comes across as being more negatively over text, so it's something to be aware of; my current partner is autistic and he always puts periods and such, and one time when my BPD/borderline personality disorder was acting up, i interpreted it as being very aggressive and got defensive. Nothing wrong with using punctuation, but it's something of which to be aware!
      I wish more people would talk about the sort of "meta" of social skills etc, it would lead to way less miscommunications; but neurotypicals just assume everyone already understands their unwritten rules, and unfortunately i have a tendency to do the same. So i apologize also, because i also played a role in the miscommunication, and unfortunately my actions seem to have hurt you by accident
      Edit 2: grammar. I know i know, i used to be a grammar nazi and old habits die hard… 'specially when you keep reinforcing them like i do haha. Since i'm sure you're curious, i corrected a postposition to a preposition; "to be aware of" to "of which to be aware". Both are actually grammatically correct (language use should be descriptive rather than prescriptive imo), and on top of that, i'm sure you and whoever else reading understood either way; so it doesn't matter, except to me :p

    • @crweirdo8961
      @crweirdo8961 Рік тому +6

      @@lyrablack8621 Thank you so much for this clarification😍 and for making it extra long and over communicating to avoid any further miscommunication(I may not be nearly as much of a grammar nazi🧐 but the exhaustively long over communicating reply is very validating🙏 and makes me feel like maybe I really have found my tribe👽[I only just started suspecting that I'm autistic about 2 weeks ago]).
      I've seen "jk" used before(thought it was short for "joke" not "just kidding"), but never preceded by "/". I will definitely look into using those tags instead of abandoning the use of sarcasm online like I know I should. 🤦‍♂️🙊🤞🖖

  • @lbelle8850
    @lbelle8850 Рік тому +15

    I love my autistic traits! For so long I wondered why I was so different but since my diagnoses almost 2 years ago everything about me makes sense and I understand myself soo much better 😊

    • @SuperKvlogs
      @SuperKvlogs 7 місяців тому +3

      Okay but how much did it cost you to get diagnosed? I’m almost afraid to get tested because whether I have it or not I think they’ll still diagnose me with it. You know how doctors are. I didn’t have any of the symptoms as a baby but I did notice my differences pretty much all throughout school and now as an adult. But if I actually do have it; that will help me to have this explanation of many reasons that I’m rather ‘peculiar’ to others. I do hold back a lot now as a security blanket because I was bullied for being myself.

  • @BlackFreakButler
    @BlackFreakButler Рік тому +12

    I didn't drink for the entire day yesterday and was wondering why i felt dizzy 😅

  • @averykitsch
    @averykitsch Рік тому +8

    Alternatively... being so sensitive to outside stimuli that you need specific material comforts to just exist

  • @zoem9703
    @zoem9703 Рік тому +12

    I’m fine with not too many “material comforts” but… I want ALL the things branded with my “special interest” 😅🤣

  • @iWantAMcChicken3
    @iWantAMcChicken3 4 місяці тому +2

    Second last one was too accurate. Like man it’s like “mum can I watch tv” “no” *I should have said I’ll play piano if you let me*. I’ll prolly regret commenting this later too lol😂

  • @hi_its_jerry
    @hi_its_jerry Рік тому +21

    i thought scripting conversations was just a really weird thing i did cause ive never met or seen anyone else do it, so its really interesting to learn that other people experience the need to do this as well

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому +5

      You could just have social anxiety. People forget that autism isn't just in the social aspects of life, that's one small section of the diagnosis

    • @horacethecheese1009
      @horacethecheese1009 10 місяців тому +5

      For me it's like sections of my brain switch off when I'm face to face with someone. I'm not necessarily panicking or scared, I just can't recall things or think properly. So I end up just repeating conversations I've already had before with myself, when my whole mind was accessible and working.

    • @windyywillows
      @windyywillows 2 місяці тому

      ​@@horacethecheese1009this!!

    • @windyywillows
      @windyywillows 2 місяці тому

      ​@@aster_11this!!

  • @fabioforte3474
    @fabioforte3474 Рік тому +12

    This makes so much sense now, I found out yesterday that I could be autistic and I've been wandering a lot why I find texting exhausting and would rather call or be in person. I meet all 7 traits listed.

    • @mercuryXe80
      @mercuryXe80 11 місяців тому +4

      Texting is exhausting cause I’m thinking too long about my response

    • @JJ-dr7im
      @JJ-dr7im 8 місяців тому +2

      Hmm. Most asd criteria think taking on the phone or meeting in person is the worst

  • @timpeters7852
    @timpeters7852 Рік тому +12

    I was diagnosed recently but I don't tick all the boxes at all times. We're not stereotypes but all have our individual quirks I guess

  • @marastar208
    @marastar208 10 місяців тому +3

    When I work I forget to eat or drink. I rarely respond to texts, I usually prefer being alone and push myself into going and going even when I sometimes have a flag that says stop. I have a tendency to misplace things, I write a lot down because I'm afraid to forget things --and it helps me to organize the information until I can repeat it. I've never thought of any of this falling into the spectrum.

  • @chang3227
    @chang3227 8 місяців тому +170

    Research has shown psilocybin to have potential to treat a range of psychiatric and behavioral disorders.

    • @coryflores4964
      @coryflores4964 8 місяців тому

      started microdosing mushrooms in place of my prescriptions and the difference is night and day in my mental health and my anger i feel like ive become a better person best decision ive ever made wish it was more accessible to those that need

    • @uncle-nice6556
      @uncle-nice6556 8 місяців тому

      Psilocybin mushrooms saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. Imagine carrying heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone, Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues,

    • @uncle-nice6556
      @uncle-nice6556 8 місяців тому

      dr.garyshrooms

    • @morgancr1993
      @morgancr1993 8 місяців тому +1

      The strains from dr.garyshrooms gave me an exhilarating and mind-blowing trip.

    • @uncle-nice6556
      @uncle-nice6556 8 місяців тому

      He's on
      insta

  • @logicalameetsworld
    @logicalameetsworld Рік тому +37

    I was 32 before I was diagnosed. It took years to figure out how to adjust life around my traits. It's not full proof but I'm less critical about myself now.

  • @baxtinator2153
    @baxtinator2153 Рік тому +7

    I have asd I don’t think the being fine alone thing is incorrect, some of us get lonely are suffer depression from lack of socializing or intimacy.😢

    • @joycebrewer4150
      @joycebrewer4150 Рік тому +4

      The Covid-19 shutdown was a blessed relief, for about the first month. Then I found my mood spiralling down, for lack of more than 25 seconds daily seeing another human face. And that being split between three meal deliveries at my apartment door, which I had to back away from the door or they wouldn't set the food on table next to door. Felt like a prison.

    • @baxtinator2153
      @baxtinator2153 Рік тому +1

      @@joycebrewer4150 i feel ya man RESPECT ✊

    • @user-us2ic2ku3z
      @user-us2ic2ku3z 7 місяців тому

      Relatable

  • @C00kieM4N_Is_Everywhere
    @C00kieM4N_Is_Everywhere 10 місяців тому +2

    that is exactly what i’m like with my autism, i just sometimes find it so hard and wishing i never had it because it’s so tough to go through life knowing i’m different, but then i realise everyone is different and most people with autism have very successful lives and live on happy, i hope i’ll find happiness one day

  • @cheetagames1357
    @cheetagames1357 6 місяців тому +2

    The conversation one is the most relatable for me

  • @oaschbeidl
    @oaschbeidl Рік тому +6

    I should really get diagnosed...

  • @omninerd4276
    @omninerd4276 Рік тому +5

    I have done the paint thing so many times. Sometime with paint. Usually when I'm cooking. I wear whatever I'm working on so often. And yeah I hate not finishing something. It drives me crazy. There are so many times I've pushed myself way past my limits because I started something that now I have to finish it. And yeah everything else too. Those were just my biggest ones.

  • @kaywoodz2222
    @kaywoodz2222 6 місяців тому +1

    The last one didn’t have to hit me so hard

  • @imjustvi6279
    @imjustvi6279 11 місяців тому +2

    "Not realizing you're hungry or thirsty," story of my life, man, story of my life. I need to gain weight and forgetting to eat isn't helping.

  • @satyrkrieg
    @satyrkrieg Рік тому +5

    So you're telling me that all these stuff does not happen to normal people?

    • @ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023
      @ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 Рік тому +3

      Not all the time and to an extent that makes life difficult. BTW, it's called neurotypical nowadays, normal is such a loaded word.

    • @satyrkrieg
      @satyrkrieg Рік тому +1

      @@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 that's a good insight.

  • @ekadria-bo4962
    @ekadria-bo4962 Рік тому +8

    All of them are me 🤭

  • @roseXevans
    @roseXevans 11 місяців тому +2

    That last one was personal ahaha

  • @Ava_is_me
    @Ava_is_me 4 місяці тому +1

    911, what’s your emergency?
    There’s someone stalking me…..

  • @fuzzypickle9537
    @fuzzypickle9537 Рік тому +3

    That last one is me to a T. I am an incredibly intelligent person but sometimes I'm a complete dumbass

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому +1

      Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this

  • @Burgercountry
    @Burgercountry Рік тому +3

    bro i have all of them

  • @makebake4094
    @makebake4094 Рік тому +2

    Man that text one and the "always finishing something when I should stop" hit home real good 😔 😟... but yeah all those are right

  • @ThisIsCandyz
    @ThisIsCandyz 9 місяців тому +2

    The last one really describes me.
    I am in a class and I know EXACLY what I’m doing.While the others usually are still trying to figure out the equations.
    But when I am given a simple direction,let’s say…give this paper to him!I over think..what do they mean by him?

  • @evandkhgold741
    @evandkhgold741 Рік тому +5

    WTF i'm autistic as shit.

    • @Drpapperstrange1
      @Drpapperstrange1 Рік тому

      It's okay dude just end blood line 🤫

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому +1

      Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this!

    • @evandkhgold741
      @evandkhgold741 11 місяців тому

      ​@@aster_11nah, im still autistic as shit.

  • @TheRealGalaxysMelody
    @TheRealGalaxysMelody Рік тому +6

    how do you know these are traits of autism and not anxiety disorders like OCD?

  • @raabbibi
    @raabbibi Рік тому +2

    I realized at 22 that what I thought as hunger was actually being famished. That niggling feeling that I want to eat wasn't me having cravings, it was my brain telling me I need food 🤦‍♀️

    • @spacegames_13
      @spacegames_13 Рік тому +2

      @@bolinhong2598 🎵Autism is not a ✨deadly disease✨ that you need to cure🎵

  • @FrenchBedBugs
    @FrenchBedBugs 6 місяців тому +1

    Everybody rn: “do I have autism?”

  • @D-S-9
    @D-S-9 Рік тому +12

    That’s not fair… surely that’s everyone… right?

    • @davidhelling9296
      @davidhelling9296 Рік тому +2

      I thought so but looking back.... Kindness sometimes is the hard truth ..I lived this..

    • @ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023
      @ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 Рік тому +1

      Not everyone, not even close. I just did not realize it before age 40 because I grew up among 16 first cousins plus all the older relatives who almost all have at least some neurodivergent traits.

    • @D-S-9
      @D-S-9 Рік тому

      @@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023 sorry for the late reply, UA-cam notifications and all that. But really? And if you don't mind me asking such a personal question on an incredibly public forum - is it worth a diagnosis after 40?

    • @barghest94
      @barghest94 Рік тому

      Well, people can certainly have these traits personally without being neurodivergent... but they are pretty recognizable to people who have Autism, if you relate to all of them there is a possibility that you are Autistic... which doesn't have to be that big of a deal.
      AND YES, OH GOD IS A DIAGNOSIS WORTH IT. That is the first step in both discovering and accepting who you truly are, some people go through their whole lives masking... and it just breaks them apart inside without them even realising, it's hard to figure out how to adjust to everything that Autism makes so difficult when you don't even know what it is that makes you the way you are.

  • @gediminasmurauskas7817
    @gediminasmurauskas7817 Рік тому +16

    We've never met before. But you already know me so very well!

  • @savageantelope3306
    @savageantelope3306 9 місяців тому +1

    especially the thinking about what you said for hours

  • @tiffany7023
    @tiffany7023 7 місяців тому +1

    I've had to tell so many people that they're mildly Autistic that I should have a honorary medal.

  • @sarahroberts7374
    @sarahroberts7374 Рік тому +5

    I wonder if obsessively reading UA-cam comments could be considered a trait? I probably spend more time reading and writing UA-cam comments than I actually do texting my friends and family😂

    • @Bunnie_0
      @Bunnie_0 Рік тому

      Yea same😅

    • @jamari777
      @jamari777 Рік тому

      Same 💀

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому

      Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this!

  • @lancerthewoomboi
    @lancerthewoomboi Рік тому +3

    Just a thing rn. Don’t use this to self diagnose. It’s hella fucking weird and puts off people such as myself and many others who have autism.

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому +1

      This self-diagnosing and misinformation is so invalidating fr. I see people saying ":( I want to be autistic" ok sureee sure you do...

  • @cheegum6296
    @cheegum6296 Рік тому +1

    Things people catch you miss. And things people miss you catch.

  • @Panzerfaust_1939
    @Panzerfaust_1939 3 місяці тому

    "I'll never finish anything i started!" -me to my pile of assignments and performance tasks

  • @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes
    @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes Рік тому +3

    Existential question : where is the limit between the INTJ personality type (and so his 8 cognitives functions stack) and Autism ?
    All the traits correspond totally to me.

    • @elizabethf8078
      @elizabethf8078 Рік тому +1

      Many autistics *are* INTJ

    • @HrKCA
      @HrKCA Рік тому

      The difference is that the personality types of the Briggs-Myers test is made up mumbo jumbo, while autism is an actual diagnosis.

    • @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes
      @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes Рік тому

      @@elizabethf8078 I believe too, it correspond very well to our functioning (our 8 cognitives functions)
      After, we are still all unique, but certains of us have more issues than other.

    • @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes
      @Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes Рік тому

      @@HrKCA The tests are just guides to help us with our self discovery, it's just the first step. That's why we share knowledge about the 8 cognitives functions stack of the 16 personalities which explain everything of our functioning and way of process informations. It's better to learn the functions.

  • @PinkPoo
    @PinkPoo 11 місяців тому +3

    If you need a yt video to tell you that youre autistic then you're not autistic

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому +1

      YOU JUST SAID THIS PERFECTLY!

  • @mina__minatozaki__
    @mina__minatozaki__ 6 місяців тому

    “you’re autistic” -han jisung, diagnosing all of us😍

  • @TangleDangleT
    @TangleDangleT 3 місяці тому +1

    I got diagnosed with autism today and my mom made my life hard because she didn’t really know anything about autism, so I have been living with autism 14 years almost 15. But my dad has ADHD and he’s brother had autism and he could see it on me that I have autism and he was right. I’m really happy now because now I can finally get help and my life will be a lot easier 🙃🥳

  • @user-ud8ry8vj8f
    @user-ud8ry8vj8f 11 місяців тому +3

    bro described every social award traits

  • @NorskaFjordskaOfficial
    @NorskaFjordskaOfficial Рік тому +1

    As a person with autism, I’m happy that you were accurate here

  • @iNicoIas
    @iNicoIas Рік тому +1

    Parents: you are not autistic
    *After seeing this video that is relatable to me*
    Me:

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому +1

      Do not use this to diagnose yourself. The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! Be careful bc saying these sorts of things is very invalidating to people who really struggle with this

  • @NoahLoftier
    @NoahLoftier Рік тому +1

    "Always finishing what you start, even when you should probably stop."
    This one I kind of struggle with as an autistic. I procrastinate a lot, I'm disorganized, and my planning often fails. But eventually, you're right, I always have to finish what I consider important, meaningful, or am interested in, even when life screams for me to keep on moving.
    "How can someone so clever be so stupid?"
    Yeah, true. But I'm only clever on what I care about. Anything else that is intuitive for others, I have to learn it from the ground up.

  • @hycix705
    @hycix705 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for the call-out lol
    I am not officially diagnosed, but I have been relating to more and more of these and it's starting to make me question myself a bit

  • @dylanjustdylan9179
    @dylanjustdylan9179 Рік тому +2

    I thought I was weird because I barely know when I’m actually hungry or thirsty, I sometimes go days without drinking because I forget or just don’t ever think if I’m actually thirsty. I’ve been wondering if I’m autistic but I also overthink a lot of things so I get so confused to if I’m making up these symptoms or not

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому

      The criteria is to have almost everything (which is much more in depth, the normal diagnosis requires 6+ hrs) and it must interfere with your day-to-day functioning! There are other things to explain this, autism is like a pi chart and you need everything on that pi chart in ranges but you have to have everything to get a diagnosis.

  • @totally_bubba
    @totally_bubba Місяць тому

    last one made me feel attacked

  • @Charityandpublicwelfare
    @Charityandpublicwelfare Рік тому +1

    If a rich family with autism lives a little better, if a poor family has more than one child with autism, it is a bitter pill to swallow

  • @Goofball-21
    @Goofball-21 18 днів тому +2

    I’m not autistic but I think I’m acoustic

  • @WarHelmetCombine
    @WarHelmetCombine 3 місяці тому +1

    As an autistic person, I now think I am not autistic.

  • @badboygoodgirl
    @badboygoodgirl Рік тому +2

    you just came for my SOUL 😂😂😂😂

    • @Noemie291
      @Noemie291 Рік тому

      Hahaha I felt so exposed.

  • @evoevannismo8141
    @evoevannismo8141 8 місяців тому +1

    As an individual like myself who is on the autism spectrum, I have some of these traits plus anxiety and sometimes depression. It is sometimes hard but that's alright I learned to deal with it as a young adult.

  • @Hana_flower44
    @Hana_flower44 Рік тому +1

    As an autistic person, I can relate to this video (I have high functioning autism)

  • @techro4tyroyal
    @techro4tyroyal 6 місяців тому +1

    I don't know when I'm hungry nor thirsty, not replying to a chat cause of laziness,then realizing wether I should reply or not, I want to be alone,I don't want to have many things,yup that's me😢😅

  • @Crow-likes-coffee
    @Crow-likes-coffee Місяць тому +1

    Everything but the finishing what you started
    I can never finish anything

  • @Caprabone
    @Caprabone Місяць тому

    One of my mom's favourite insults to me as a child was "How could you be so stupid?!" I had always assumed that she was just intolerant of mistakes, but now knowing that i am autistic adds another dimension of understanding.

  • @irononionring
    @irononionring Рік тому +1

    My son is autistic he get frustrated with loud noises and sways back and forth when he finds things overwhelming i know his tiks when hes about to get stressed and he said hes happy with me being with him hes the best thing to happen to me and i tell him everyday

    • @aster_11
      @aster_11 11 місяців тому +1

      He's so lucky to be your child, and I appreciate that you try to understand him

  • @LilChuunosuke
    @LilChuunosuke 2 місяці тому +1

    Just to be clear bc people say that everyone does this:
    People with autism experience this to life-altering extents.
    - Autistic people can accidentally make themselves dehydrated, malnourished, sick, etc because they aren't able to recognize they need it. Many autistics set scheduled times for when they need to eat because they will starve themselves by accident otherwise. This would be an issue that occurs multiple times per day, not just occasionally.
    - part of the reason autistic people are stereotyped to have no friends is because they forget/put off responding to people so frequently that it does significant long term damage to relationships.
    - when he says feeling comfortable being alone, he means that autistic people struggle to fully relax and feel calm around others because they feel the need to perform a false version of themselves to be accepted and that isolation is the only truly safe place.
    - "always finishing what you start even if you should probably stop" is not just going above and beyond, but literally pushing yourself to the point of self-injury because you will have an anxiety attack if you stop.
    - autistics have to script EVERY conversation. Not just difficult ones. Even casual everyday small talk is something autistics cannot just improvise on the spot without non-autistic people reacting with confusion and discomfort.
    .
    Please stop saying "everyone does these things." Autistic people are human. Of course we share behaviors in common with non disabled people. But we experience these things at disabling levels.

  • @taylorklingjesuschristking
    @taylorklingjesuschristking 10 місяців тому

    Not realizing when you are hungry or thirty got me

  • @Itz_kirumi_daganr0npa567
    @Itz_kirumi_daganr0npa567 9 місяців тому +1

    Me after my mom and my big sister told me I had Autism✨✨

  • @AltruisticWarrior
    @AltruisticWarrior 6 місяців тому +1

    Lol the texting bit... oh yah. I was diagnosed back in 1989. I tell folks to call me, I'd rather talk on the phone. It's far more efficient than meaningless banter back and forth being constantly interrupted instead of still being able to complete tasks while on the phone. No wonder people are so stressed out these days feeling like they can never get enough done. These phones waste an incredible amount of time especially when you add heaps of apps and social media on top of the texting. The average person could easily capture at least another 10+ hrs a week if they put the phone down more. I'd rather accomplish more meaningful things with my time. I'm also thankful to have a job that allows me to work when I want, as long as I want and more importantly... no customers or coworkers. I work in near total isolation for a month at a time before going home.

  • @a.m.a9332
    @a.m.a9332 7 місяців тому +1

    Obviously I know I have autism as I was diagnosed as baby but literally I thought it was just me who acted like that as when I went to a special needs school everyone was sooo clingy apart from myself. I always loved my own space and used to not reply back even after looking at a message like I’m not intentionally ignoring people but I don’t know how to respond sometimes and she gets rude when I do that. I’ve never thought anything of it. My sister is ten years older than me and she acts like she knows everything. I enjoy my own space that when I was in school people thought I didn’t like them and some tried to pick on me due to that alone like when I first started school they rang my mum and told them I didn’t say nothing the whole day and the same thing happened when I started secondary school. All I’m gonna say is if you have a quiet autism child and there starting secondary school try to ease them in as much as possible because my heart sank to the floor when I first started, I was stiff as a rock and on the inside I crying cause I just wanted to be with my mum.
    I like having autism but I hate it at the same time as I’m multi talented and smart but sometimes I’ll be talking to people and they’ll be getting rude over the fact that I don’t know what a certain word means. It’s happened quite a few times.

  • @pinklemonqde.
    @pinklemonqde. 6 місяців тому

    That last one hits very very close to home 😂

  • @kfcbetterthanmcdonalds12
    @kfcbetterthanmcdonalds12 2 місяці тому

    Bro summed up my entire life experience. Especially the 1st one, and the 6th one!

  • @ILikeMacaroni_
    @ILikeMacaroni_ Місяць тому +1

    I’m autistic, but i reply to my messages the second i see i’ve got one

  • @jeanetteg83
    @jeanetteg83 Рік тому +1

    On the last one I would maybe add: Beibg so clumsy even though you are a dancer.

  • @Doritoschiplivingthebestlife
    @Doritoschiplivingthebestlife 8 місяців тому +1

    Tbh I also do script conversations and thinking about what I should've/could've said after the conversation but I think/feel like it's just because of my undiagnosed social anxiety lol

  • @cefcat5733
    @cefcat5733 Місяць тому

    Evolving, from all that in youth, I joined the work-world where you must behave differently. I bought things of aesthetic beauty, to be happier, but then I began returning to my autistic roots, during retirement. Possessions have less meaning. So, that's my truth of a lifetime. ❤

  • @angelagokool9514
    @angelagokool9514 2 місяці тому +1

    Just remember, people, that this isn’t an official diagnosis of Autism. If you suspect that you have it, please seek professional help. Don’t diagnose yourself online.

  • @nezarl8374
    @nezarl8374 Рік тому +1

    People think I'm smart but I'm really really stupid and it's crushing me on the inside
    And Btw some times in a group setting I either miss the point or the joke or hear the words said and think it's about another topic, these things are so damn frustrating

  • @IamHim29999
    @IamHim29999 Місяць тому

    "So you see Mother, according to this absolutely random YT short, I have realized that I am autistic"

  • @DAnnbYouere
    @DAnnbYouere Рік тому +1

    Feeling comfortable being alone isnt autistic😂

  • @jeremiahhazelton4496
    @jeremiahhazelton4496 7 місяців тому +1

    Not really "austistic traits" but side effects of the kind of social anxiety that is common in autism. These same things are true for many neurodivergent minds.

  • @mejustme474
    @mejustme474 Рік тому +1

    Yep. I didn’t know I was Autistic until my Kate adulthood

  • @yeahimabeatlemaniac
    @yeahimabeatlemaniac 7 місяців тому +1

    My biggest sign that im autistic is that I was diagnosed with autism

  • @Mini-monke-reacts
    @Mini-monke-reacts 5 місяців тому +1

    i got diagnosed with autism when i was 9 and these are so accruate