How to Help Someone with Social Anxiety
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- Опубліковано 13 кві 2016
- How to help someone with social anxiety in this episode of The Calm Files. As a National Certified Therapist, John offers practical ways to help someone in your life who struggles with social anxiety.
It's hard to know how to help someone with social anxiety, and John Cordray offers you a few great tips that will help.
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Who do you want to help? Do you have any questions! 😃
well my crush has social anxiety so far he talked to me about it alot and idk how to get him to feel free to express himself and stop being so shy
John Cordray I just helped someone with social anxiety while having social anxiety :.) thank you for this video!!! There’s hope for us after all. And that last bit of your video really motivated me T.T
Winner of a video, I've been looking for "ways to relieve social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my neighbour got cool success with it.
My friend who lives in a different state has social anxiety and she doesn't like being complimented when I try to use that as a way to make her feel better. Any idea of ways to cheer her up?
My long distance best friend has social anxiety, but she lives in a different state. I told her that whenever she needs someone she can call me and I'll help her as much as I can. I don't know what I can tell her to help her calm down, but this video helped a lot! Thank you!
You're very welcome. I'm glad it helped!
same here..
Same here, except with my gf
I'm trying to challenge myself, i'm not that far to ask help yet but i feel like i'm really moving forward, lately i've been even brave enough to sometimes smile to strangers
This
S was what I wanted to hear, very morning I am afraid to wake up, because the anxiety depression will come.
My Dr gave me antidepressants and Xanax, I
I really do not want to take them, but after months of struggle, I take it now, because I am afraid, lonely, lost lots of friends, which I need , I understand , but I am a negative person now, but the pain inside is real, hard to deal with.I want to be happy again.
My best friend has terrible social anxiety, she gets nervous around so many people, she never even ever sees my family because she's scared that they won't like her or something but I see hers way more, I have social anxiety but not as bad as hers, I really want to help because her confidence is low and she's getting to the point where she doesn't even want to meet new people and she's only used to me and her family pretty much but anything I say to help isn't working at all but I really wish it wasn't this way but it's not her fault
She also doesn't want to have therapy but I do encourage her and what helps me with mine but whatever I say isn't enough, I'll keep trying but it's been years so I need to work harder
Laura Chambers hi Laura, thanks for watching. I’m sorry to hear about your friend, and it’s so nice of you to want to help! Maybe you could let her know about my YT channel! I talk a lot about anxiety. I would love it if you subscribed too! 😃
Laura Chambers you seem like a really good friend! 👍
John Cordray ye I'll tell her about you maybe it will help her a bit more and thanks I try my best to be a good friend and I want to help her become more confident :)
John Cordray I've subbed too :)
I hate having social anxiety. It makes me want to end my life. I can't do it.
I can't even walk outside without crying
Everyone always says "mabye if you went outside you would be fine."
I just can't do it.
Hey, how are you doing? I know you don’t know me but If you want to talk to anyone, just let me know. I believe in you! Things will get better, I promise 💕
Hey! I don't know how it feels like having social anxiety but I'm trying to understand to! It may be hard to but I believe that you can get through it, I wish you best in life ^^
I'm crying! A friend of mine helped me and I got through it after so many years. Today I'm helping another Pearson, it's a wonderful feeling.
I found this video so helpful as my partner struggles with social anxiety and I often want to help but say the wrong thing and upset him even more. Now I know exactly what to doz thank you 💖
My girlfriend texted me saying that her social anxiety is through the roof so I'm panicking because when I'm sick I apparently freak out 10× faster and I'm trying to figure out how to help her without knowing where she is or what she's doing
Thank you.... ❤
Very helpful my boyfriend has social anxiety and I will def use these tips to help him though it!
Hi Valleri, I'm glad that this video was helpful. And, good for you for wanting to help your boyfriend! Take care, John
Same!
How did he get you to become his girlfriend if he has social anxiety? I've been trying to get my brother a girlfriend for almost 10 years and no girl will give him the time of day because he has social anxiety. having a girlfriend would change his life.
Same
@@prestong5076 I honestly didn’t want to date him but he really liked me and wanted to make me his gf, I guess bc he was trying really hard and he wasn’t the type to really talk much that I gave him a chance? He did tell me later on about how hard it was to even be near me Bc he was always so anxious but that he tried to talk to me as much as he could.
Thank you so much you have given me a way to help and a more compassionate look on how I can help me and my bf grow.
That was amazing😻❤
Your smile is so beautiful omg
A girl joined my class last week and I want to help her :)
Good for you, Phoebe!
So nice of u
I'm watching this cause my classmate open up about her social anxiety
omg this is great
Great topic!
Thank you for sharing these strategies
What can I do if an adult child is developing worsening mental health issues but is afraid to see a therapist because they don’t want another psychiatric hold placed in them?
Thanks for the help
Jessica Siddle you're welcome, Jessica. You may also like my Facebook page Facebook.com/thementalhealthtodayshow 😃
John P Cordray thankyou will go have a look now
Very late but tysm! My best friend has extreme social anxiety and she doesn't even want to go outside. I want to help her
Hi Brooke, you are a good friend!
thank you for this i have no friends lol and hate talking to my family thank you for this maybe i can help my self
But what if they did tell me that they care about me and that they're here for me. They did told me that they did need me. but why does if it feel like they didn't really mean it at all. It just makes me think that they just don't need me all along. Sometimes I need to feel loved but I just don't feel that they're sincere. :(
I suggest that you talk with them about how you feel and be honest with them. You could be misunderstanding them, or they may not know how to help you. Try opening up with them.
Thanks so much!! I have a friend with social anxiety and I didn't know how to handle it at all..
Hi Danai, I’m glad it helped! You are a good friend to want to learn more about social anxiety to help your friend.
@@JohnCordray 💛
i wish i had someone to come with me to therapist
I hope this video comes in recommendation of my friend who is also suffering from this I can't share this with her because she'll think I'm sympathizing her
I find, if I have a companion person, then I am ok… However my companion person can’t be with me every time I need him…
Is there an email you have that I can ask a few questions through?
Hi I have social anxiety I just be confident . People think I don't have social anxiety because I am so confident with my self. also confident doing everything I am doing and I always pretend to be in front of Miror speaking with someone when I am in front of them or I pretend to be my favorite character t v show
How do you help someone with social anxiety? 😀
I just reconnected with a friend(let us call her B) after a long time and in a conversation she said she finds it hard playing basketball(something she likes) without someone to go with her and that she had no other friends but me and another one of our mutual friends. B had moved to a different country 3 years ago and I am sort of worried she doesn't have any close friends other than the ones she made in a different country 3 years back.She also mentioned in passing that it is because of her social anxiety. Should I ask her about it? am I overreacting? How can I help her considering I only 'talk' to her via mail? I am very worried for her, please help.
I am trying to help a friend and start going out with her but I’m not sure where to start
How can i help someone that refuses help? They know they have an issue but they simply insist it cannot be fixed. Like they believe its not possible to make any progress in fixing it.
My friend is going to a camp this summer alone she was gonna go with someone but they forgot to sign up and now it’s too late so when she called saying shes having a panic attack because of the thought of her going alone and having to meet new people what do I do? how do I help?
Hi Danisaur, maybe you can talk with her before camp, and help her make a list of steps to take when she starts to feel a panic attack coming on. Sometimes having a plan ahead of time can really help!
Hi to be honest I don’t really know what to do anymore.
I have severe social anxiety and I’m also completely blind which in my opinion makes everything a lot worse.
I have a very small group of people that I am OK around.
Some days my anxiety gets to where I can’t even leave my bedroom because I’m scared of everything.
I’ve also started to distance myself from every member of my little group except for one.
I want to get help for this but like I said I’m scared and afraid.
Do you know what I should do?
Hi Hailey, sorry to hear that. I ‘m sure it’s been very difficult for you. Have you thought about looking for a therapist?
Yes
I have thought about it I just don’t know how to go about it.
I have a very small Group of people I trust but even then most days I don’t actually talk to them.
There’s only One person in my entire Group that I talk to directly.
The others know not to approach me directly unless I approach them first because of how bad this is.
If I want to say something to them but not directly to them my one friend who I really do trust Will repeat what I say to the others.
There’s only two other people in this group but I still can’t talk to them directly most days.
This is why I thought about reaching out because I’m not always gonna be able to have somebody repeat what I say to the people around me.
If other people do approach me when I am not with my one friend I shut myself off to the world around me and panic.
But when he is around I will occasionally not at the people around me and sometimes raise my hand never making contact.
Some days if it’s really bad I’ll never leave my room and I’ll never even speak to anyone including my one friend.
This is just part of it.
Hey, I my best friend suffers from social anxiety, and she hasn't talked in months to people. And she doesn't live anywhere near since of a move. Is there anything I can do that will help that? Please Reply to my comment anyone!
I’m sorry to hear about your friend. A big transition like a big move can be hard for anyone, but especially hard for someone who struggles with social anxiety. You can write her a letter (hand written) to encourage her. Even if she doesn’t respond right away she’ll know you are thinking of her. You can also send her a video message. Sounds like you’re a good friend.
@@JohnCordray I know what your saying. I’ve done that a few times. And she’s the type of person to be hurting, but won’t tell you. But I can feel when she’s off. And she hasn’t been the best lately and she’s been VERY distant. And I don’t really know what to do. After the move, she would never talk even on a call. So we’ve on,y been texting or I’ve been the one talking. That’s why I’ve come to watch these videos and to see what to do, any tips after that?
Jesus Christ is the truth reach out
Jesus Christ is the truth reach out
Amen! Jesus can really help with anxiety. Prayer is powerful.