My Boyfriend Is Always Broke... What Should I Do?!?
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- Опубліковано 26 бер 2019
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Malcolm “MJ” Harris is an internationally recognized financial services CEO, author, and motivational success teacher who has consistently beaten the odds to achieve extraordinary success. MJ’s rise began when he started an insurance agency - at his dining room table as a side business - while working as a Management Consultant for a “Big 4” firm. Through sharing his story with the world on social media about overcoming personal and financial trials, the business quickly grew into a multi-national financial services and self-improvement powerhouse.
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As a woman I feel so ashamed to ask money from someone...imagine being a guy doing it with no shame at all.... Clearly he is not a man.
Men dont try dating if you havent solved your financial struggles
Two things, either warn him if he doesn’t find a job you’ll leave him or plain just leave him, a guy who is broke all the time and doesn’t even try to find a job and start working is not a man, a real man covers his girl’s back not the other way around!.
Victor montano thank you
Janet Ebong You’re welcome!.
Exactly period I was raised by a drill Sergeant in the Army he taught me a man takes care of his home
You are right!Some broke guys just take advantage whenever they realize that they are loved
😂😂😂 "a real man"
Don’t have a scarcity mindset. Know that there’s abundance out there. And if you trust that there’s an abundance out there, you’ll get everything you need.
Not a sneaky man in yo life. Detach nursing guys.
Thank you for this❤️
There's a difference between a scrub and a man who is actually working and trying to better themselves.
My ex didn’t work for the whole 6 years we were together while I worked several jobs and found out he’s been spending money on drugs and going out with his friends every day. Lol. I’m a fool for that one. Took me a while to realize hes just a bum
Been there, he tried that. Run girl! Get the hell out of there.
One word … RUN !!! TRUST ME !!!!!
That woman needs to let that man go and run for the hills🏃🏽♀️!!!!!!!!
If it was the other way around you wouldn’t have the same opinion
True because this is too shortgoing
In my opinion
If someone temporarely is broke but motivated and does his or her very best
You need a partner to support and trust
But if nothing changes
And all has to be carried on one back then it is sooner or later a breaking point in the relationship
Or at least gives a lot of tension
Depends on several things if a couple gets through
My friend is going through this. She is paying for the gas her boyfriend put in his car, his haircut, everything he needs. He yells at her if she does not give him money. He threatens her when they breakup. He said he was going to buy her a Range Rover as makeup to her for the things she purchased. I'm pretty sure she is going to get stuck with the car note!
Wondering if she dated the same guy I dated🤣🤣🤣
@@Marie-or8uj lol I'm so glad she left that narcissistic piece of trash! He put his hands on her. 😔
The problem with me was I was too kind. I was so willing to help & this guy just saw all that. So he started asking me pretty much everything. Using his parents too that they need help so he had to spend his money on them. When he gets paid he didn't show indication of paying me back. Instead he came up more with issues to not pay me back. Then found out he's with someone younger too. So I left him.
I don't mind helping people who needs help, it just happened I give it to some ungrateful toxic person. He's getting his karma now. It'll take the rest of his life to recover.
My bf is always broke yet he is working
That’s a red flag
These are the red flags 🚩 of struggle love. Early signs that a woman would be doing the heavy lifting financially. Leave him. I once liked a guy in his forties who’s a self employed worker. In last few years has had moments of unemployment living off government assistance when work is dry. He said he wasn’t interested in permanent contracts. Been moving from apartment to apartment numerous times. We used to contact back and forth until it was just me initiating contact most of the time. When we met up again through a friend he apologised me he felt bad for being out of touch. With further reflection I decided to cut the interest and move on, he’s not in my books stable for any woman.
YES!!!!! YOU DARN RIGHT! . I believe a man who doesn't have his ish together shouldn't be dating/entertaining a female anyways
I can understand being down on your luck but the truth is it takes a lot for a man to ask a woman he sincerely cares about for money. Like I would rather rob someone than ask the woman I love for money. Not saying I’m out here robbing ppl but you get my point lol so if he’s asking her for money on the regular, in his mind she ain’t the one
Correction....he's not the one for anyone 😂😂🙄
@@dawnlee866 Exactly, he can’t afford to choose. Sad! 😂
No a man suppose to pay for dates. If he wanna pay half and pay for himself he can go by his dam self. What woman is getting dressed to sit in some man’s face to go Dutch?🤔
And she better run. It will be somethn else later.
I had a argument with a guy before and he deadass said the girl should pay for the date 😂🤣
If hes not your boyfriend yet , its normal that you split bills ... He doesnt owe you anything like you dont owe him anything .
@@simpslayer4793 If a man ask me out, he is paying.
@@UsagiTaughtMe yes if he ask you out
Myyy god! My bf just said that the other day & i was like ohhh helll Noooo!
Right on point!!!!
Excellent advice!
Ugh literally love you! Such great advice- per usual. Also cannot wait to interview you one day!!
Excellent advice, thank you!
love him
I was with someone over 10+ yrs...he nade 3 times my salary and l worked 2 jobs...he had good credit paid his child support and had a house vs my one bedroom apartment....he was an enabler to his Dad, grown son and siblings and they were over 40 yrs old...always spending $$ on them or lending them money....he was a stingy hog with me...l am very independent...l nvr took him for granted financially.....nvr asked for a dime....but he wasn't giving at holidays....one xmas, l got three sweaters...but he gave tv and electronics and a brand new coat to his son and dad....l dumped him...he's the complete opposite of a scrub....a stingy cheap hog...can someone help me with this
Shane I am running for my life from you. I am tired of you being broke all your life. Women escape for your lives. I was robbed all I had hoping he would change 4 years later he is still broke.
Thank you I’m attaching men with wealth and abundance
You know what, I’ve listened to all these influencers, that sprinkle, sprinkle lady, men’s perspective and I’ve come to this…. I love my man, he’s broke, I make more than him, I don’t pay for dates though but I sincerely love him and I’m not going anywhere. As long as he’s truly good to me, that’s all I need.
I agree
Better than me cause I’ll never be with a broke man to begin with.
Dude is A man Wanda Sykes giving real money game. I totally concur with Mr. Harris.
If a man cant pay for all dates, I would regard that as broke.
if every women done this to a man .you never get burned
He’s so handsome
I have been with mine for 3 YEARS and he HASN'T paid for a meal yet.So I just start going alone. And when he borrows money I take it from my half of the rent and thats how he pays me back. And as of THIS month I informed him that I am only buying groceries 1 time every other month. I told him spend all of my extra paycheck on groceries stop THIS MONTH and that in MAY I will leave the buying groceries to him.I get paid 3 times that month I want that extra.
why even be with such a man in the first place
@@Mea_Culpa1 girl are you still in a relationship with him?
@@Mea_Culpa1 lol my bum 😂😂
@@brendachirata2283 🤣🤣🤣
@@Mea_Culpa1 girl leave him
Runnnnnnn
Dump HIM!! He wants you...earn some MONEY!!
I don't really think he is a bad guy as long as he can pay his bills and as great credit. I don't think you should feel like he should go half at all especially if you make more money. If you feel it's problem for you to pay the bill then you should not have daten him from the beginning. I give this advice to my sons and they are providers. Men should be able to pay there bills by themselves before they settle down first and not depend on there other half. It's not what there partner can pay they most likely contribute in other ways. If you pick the right partner it's should be totally great.
At the beginning my date was in a good sit with money, he always paid and put me first, paid my doctors even, when I was sick and didn't have enough money. We went living together after few months and after couple of months he started having income problems. Now is basically 1 year and half that I pay everything, stuck in " his" house that he can't pay and I am paying.. I feel so torn confused bad and so on. I still remember when he helped me so much at the beginning, he almost saved my life in a way, but I also feel very tired and drained now after so long
Lol... Scrubs
There aren't many fish once you get to 50+ ugh
Do you stay if they are just going through a tough time ? Do you set a time frame like 6 months ? What if they make it big a year later and you left at 6 months ? I’m just asking questions 😂
You are reading my mind.. These are my same questions/issues
When you started dating was he a generous provider? If he was, you can stay and give it some time BUT if he was broke from the beginning of your relationship, you need to leave him, he will only drag u down and use u. There is no guarantee he will make it big when u stay with him. He should have gotten his stuff together before he met u. Broke men have no business dating.
See these fairytale dreams has to go!!!! Most men know what they want ... And what it takes to keep that balance in a relationship.... But these should've and could've got to go on somewhere..... This what I'm realizing
Mine is ‘generous’ still bare minimum…I pay 80% on my own…he even hopes I get a better paying job 😢😅
I go between, I am definitely leaving to thinking about this. Then I think about how it’s been 5 years of the same thing. Never keeping a job and not trying to go out and hustle to make money. Just staying in and napping, playing ball and video games. Then I think further that I work full time and take care of the house mostly by myself. We have a kid now and guess who gives into that more? Me. Further than that, I think about how he basically watches me suffer. To me that means that you do not love me at all. He gets military disability checks but that’s not enough for the household. He is in school for the third or fourth time, this time it is for cyber security. Idk about the future but I know that there is a pattern and I can’t get over the fact that we been struggling and he has not done all that he can to have us not struggle. (He gets disability but he is physically able to work. He just has back issues. There are still options for him out there as far as work is concerned). He always asks me for money when he can simply make the little bit of money. I’m just done. I know I deserve better.
Hahaha
I like you mj but unreal on this video I will give you the benefits of this because it's 3 years old but your putting to much into who has the money.
you have to be careful money is not everything- if someone is trying respect that. Money don't hold you night Hunnay
Lol this is going to be racial but why does it seem like the ninja gets it,but the other 3 dont 😂jk jk
people are not fishes ppl dnt fool yourself
MJ, Im a HUGE fan, but I disagree on this one!
This is BS. what if the guy is trying so hard to get his career up and running. He wouldn't leave her if she was struggling financially.
Actually no one should be dating if they aren’t financially stable to do so. Especially a man. Men are supposed to provide.
If you are man in a bad financial spot you shouldn't be dating
MJ is it ok to support a man for 2and half years?
He's hasn't been working