I lost my sister and mother at a fairly young age and was adamant living life to the fullest in honor of their lost time. However, I didn’t give myself the opportunity to really grieve and allow myself to really hurt, and this came back in full force later. Everyone grieves differently but hopefully you, and anyone who’s grieving, are able to allow emotions to surface naturally. Even if you’re feeling (or even prefer being) alone in your hurt I think it can be healthy to just ‘feel’. It’s not always easy, but it’s brave to try. Thank you for sharing vulnerability and sincerity with your community, Inga. Wishing you and everyone here a kind weekend ❤
I lost my mom at a young age, and honestly trying to live life for her was very hard, because as I age, the grief strikes over and over with the same things from a new perspective. So I am glad you got to live life for them for a little, but I am glad you healed for you as well, because that is just as important.
As someone who lost their grandma a year ago - I can relate to the guilt of 'moving' on? I remember wondering how the world was just normal and nothing seemed to change even though I felt paralysed in the grief of losing her. I feel guilty sometimes about getting used to a life without her but I've learned to think about it as carrying her with me in the little ways rather than 'moving on''. My grandma was a wonderful cook and food is one of the ways in which I carry her with me, today. I know it may not be easy now, but whenever you're ready, making food that she used to make is something I recommend doing, especially with family. It's not going to be easy, particularly in the beginning, but we'll keep on loving our grandmas.
one minute ago is insane but your videos just help calm my day down. i am also so sorry for your loss and i felt everything you said since i went through something like that last year as well. grief does change your outlook on life and i'm glad everyone going through that is doing well. and thank you for videos
Inga, you don't know me but I lost my husband in 2019 not long before covid lock down. It has been the most challenging 5 years of my life. Your videos have helped me get through it. I am learning to cook better for just myself and you are an inspiration! Please accept my condolences and heartfelt best wishes for you and your family . ❤
So sorry for your loss. I lost both of my parents last year and it’s been horrible. Thanks for making me smile during this tough time. I hope making your videos brings you much needed joy as well. ❤
My daughter lost her dad recently. Grief is a puzzle for sure. I find great satisfaction in making use of leftovers in a new yummy way. I love your what I eat in a day videos. Thanks
Grief is something we grow around and not away from. It isn't linear so if there is ever a time you feel like "I shouldn't be so sad because x amount of time has passed." that is a lie. Feel what you feel. I love what you said about celebrating with flowers and friends and food. That made me feel a little brighter today so thank you!
so sorry to hear about your loss. yesterday was six months since my dad passed due to cancer. i’ve found that grief is just unlike anything else in life and it’s completely unique to each of us because every relationship is totally unique. for me some days are fine and the bad days get further apart but there’s this fear that that means i’m going to forget something or adjust to the situation that I don’t want to adjust to. I hope you are managing okay ❤️ it sucks
I know people say it gets better but, it NEVER gets better, but it does become normal. You will never get over it but you will get USED to it. It will probably hurt the same in 20 years as it does today and that too is okay because unfortunately, this is what people mean by love is pain. So just revel in the love you shared and it’s okay to feel the hurt whenever it presents itself ❤❤
Thank you for being so open and sharing your experiences with us. My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones. Your videos always help get through rough days and silent battles. You really are such an inspirtation that reminds us all to live each day the best we can! Ty Inga ❤
❤❤❤❤❤ theres a heaviness that comes with grief, and it feels like everything around you should stop bc you're grieving. I felt so strange that the world continued to move around me while I was going through the darkest parts of grief. eventually, slowly.... the light comes back. and while the grief never (never) truly goes away, you learn how to carry it with you. my love goes out to you ❤
I just turned on this video because I found your voice soothing and that is something I needed in my life right now. I did not expect it to be about loss and the recovery from it. I am very very sorry for your loss. Last week I lost my grandaunt who raised me as a child. Hours after her burial, I lost my grandmother and my uncle had a stroke and is still fighting for his life. Reading all the comments, everyone is experiencing loss now, in the past or in the future. But yet, loss can sometimes make one feel like they are alone in suffering it. Please know everyone here is with you and I hope you feel better soon. Your loved ones will always be with you.
I love grapefruit juice, also on a warm day mixed with some sparkling water ❤ I need to stay away from markets because I also have no self control.. they are too expensive where I live to sustain the habit😄 I completely agree about cooking with leftovers, I find it really fun to make something new out of them, plus of course it's a good "skill" to learn.
I used to love it, too. But be careful with Grapefruit juice if you take oral medication or birth control. It contains a substance, that can block the absorption of the active ingredients in the bowel.
❤️ LOVE ❤️ seeing so many different sides of your life outside your apartment! Its such an adventure! And thank you for being open and sharing your life, what is really difficult and not really talked about. Grief in asian culture especially is a topic people dont like to talk about nor know how to talk about. When I lost my loved one, I was not allowed to talk about it with family nor grieve. I was only told to “just keep moving”. I was a zombie and feeling so empty and delved into work until i burnt out. Grief hit me hard recently and I cried so much it didnt stop for quite awhile. So… I wont say “sorry for your loss”. Instead, im just sending lots of love and support as a viewer in anything you do. Cause Grief is a thief who makes living hard, but you are taking each step everyday in your own way to grieve with a smile on your face, and staying true and genuine as you can be. And when guilt hits you hard, rmb that they have lived and shared a life full of love and memories, and that you have been part of, to be treasured. Rmb you are appreciated by many too! ❤ Also, I always get more than what I need at the farmers markets and such too! 😂 Is it a female thing?
Thank you for being open and vulnerable. I love this channel and I started watching this channel after my grandma passed. Cooking is nostalgic, healing and magical. Your video was beautiful and your pasta scarf is iconic ❤❤
This is the second video I’ve ever seen of yours and I almost switched off at the trigger warning but I thought maybe I needed it hear it so I carried on and I’m really glad I did. I lost my father in November and I couldn’t agree more with you. You get once run at this life, be kind to yourself and enjoy all the beauty and goodness this planet can offer. Wishing you all happiness and peace ✌️
Thank you for posting, Inga!! Sending you lots of love and good vibes from Boston!! I think of you every time someone mentions how good the food is in New York City~ Also everytime I yolo in the kitchen.. I've gained so much cooking confidence from watching your videos and I really appreciate it
Thank you for sharing your grief, Inga. In my own journey of grief, when it feels like there's nothing else to look forward to in life, it is truly the little things that keep me going. I can't even tell you how many times I have not had the energy to cook or think of eating, and I see that you've uploaded a new video. I make myself get up, and eating alongside your videos brings a special kind of comfort. When I am crying too hard and want to be left alone as an introvert, but need some form of quiet company, this really means a lot to me. It is not easy to grieve, but you have fellow grievers with you who will hold this space together with you. They will always remain a part of us, and the best way to remember them is to live well for them. All the best, make sure to eat well and take care of yourself ❤
Thank you Inga, for sharing your slice of life with us. There is moments in life we precious most, with friends or family. To lose someone who you cherished most can be painful in short term. But to live is something we do together long term. Food is one common thing all humans share. Looking at you and your videos makes us happy. So do the things you like, eat all the food you want. And share it with us. As always a great video
You asked tips for flowers :) have a vase with water ready and after cutting, put directly in the water - the flower will start to suck up the water as soon as its cut, if you put them in dry, you may get air bubbles in the stem and they may wilt quickly. Particular tip for tulips as i'm from the Netherlands - only have a bit of water at the bottom of the vase (5cm or so) and refill daily as the tulips suck up water. If you put the tulips in a full vase of water they will start growing a lot and droop down. Take care 💐
I'm sorry for your loss. It never gets easier, but we learn to live with it. Greatly enjoyed the video and feel inspired. Thank you for all that you do.
Thank you for sharing your emotions and discussing grief. It's always an emotion that I feel we force ourselves to navigate through when sometimes grief is just there and doesn't need to be sifted through, especially at the moment. Grief looks different for everyone and I don't think anyone should feel bad for how they endure it. Overall, love this channel and wish you the best! P.S. I think the maple cream could be a cool ice cream mix-in!!
I had the best croissants in Paris at the opera, they were incredibly good. There are about 100 layers of puff pastry - sensational! They are not as hollow as most croissants, which are just made of air. They are unusually firm, but totally buttery, flaky and crispy. This is really good handwork!
My grandma passed away earlier this year. Some days I think of her and smile but some days I still shed a tear. Sending you light and love ❤️ thank you for sharing your happy distractions
Thank you for making these great videos. Your food always looks delicious and it is great to see your little adventures to the shops and markets. Grief is painful, and navigating it is challenging. But life has to go on. I cannot just pretend things are okay, but I try to accept it eventually, which takes time, and remember good times and magical moments with those who are gone, which makes me smile. The people you love would not want you to be sad, and there is gratefulness and happiness to be had for the fact that you got to spend time with them and I am sure your grandmother and best friend are very proud of what you have achieved and are continuing to look after you, just in a different way. You never truly know how important something is until it goes away, so go talk to some loved ones you may not have seen or spoken to for a while, give them a hug, and tell them how much you appreciate them. I am sorry for your loss, take care, and I wish you all the best.
Inga, life is all about embracing the distractions! It's like your heart is speaking to you, telling you what you need right now, and you shouldn't ignore that.
You make me smile every time you post, and hearing you go through something is really sad. I lost my grandfather. I felt so guilty because we would argue a lot ,till this day, im not over it. It's been 5 to 6 years, but I accept it. The point is you can never get over it, but maybe you can accept and normalize it. So you won't be so upsset
I lost my mom back in 2009 and all I can tell you is, take your time with your grief. I'm a person who tries to rush through things (grief included,) but that's not always the best thing to do. I was able to manage my grief better when my auntie passed away in 2021. "Survivor's guilt" is a real thing. Don't feel ashamed to go to counseling if you think it will benefit you.
Hi Inga, I lost my mom 4 years ago. Grief is a complicated feeling and something that never leaves, in a way. You learn how to live with it, but not being sad all the time does not mean you weren't/aren't fond of them. Grief sadness comes in waves. Ultimately, the best thing you can do is honor them remember them by also loving the fullest the people that is still around you. Sending you a big hug ✨
I literally just went to a farmers market today and can't agree more to having no self control at one haha. I totally bought way more than I actually needed but everything looked so fresh and good. Also, so sorry to hear about your loss. Take all the time you need to get back to a good place. You never need to apologize or make excuses for taking time for yourself. It is definitely hard to lose someone so close to you. I wish you the best in your continued journey to find the good in all things. You should never feel bad about treating yourself here and there.
Hello Inga! Thank you for your video. You sharing your experiences remembered me that I'm not the only one who suffers and today I dealt with a lot. I didn't have the strength to cook but after your video I heated up my leftovers with a fair amount of veggies being as healthy as possible. Thank you for you video it really helped me.
I too lost my grandmother my mother and I are close but not as close as I was with my Nan, my mother had me young so I feel like my aunties uncle and nan helped raise me but mostly her from my viewpoint. She was so supportive when I came out and any dream job I had no matter how silly she supported and wanted to help and I can only dream of being that good of a parent/grandparent some day. Losing her left a wound in my soul that wont ever go away but it does become easier to deal with. It becomes about remembering her, when I see a robin (bird) I know she's with me she always said she'd send one if she could and I see them often now. I sometimes buy the chocolate she liked or have dinners based on dishes she enjoyed making for us and in a way all of these little things make me feel like she isn't gone she's just waiting for us to meet again.
So sorry for your loss, Inga. Even I lost my grandma 3 years ago, and it just left me and my family devastated...the worst being my grandpa, he's stopped going out altogether and my mom has to also look after him. It's all become very restrictive, but it is also important to keep going in life in every possible opportunity. You are really strong by keeping to your simple daily routine, and that is therapeutic for so many of your viewers, who are always with you. Sending you lots of comforting hugs and love. Take care of yourself❤️❤
That pasta looked and sounded so good! Grief is a lot. I'm glad you're doing some self care. I'm really sorry for your loss and hope you have a good support system. ❤
awe instantly cried but your right about grief you need to take time to let go and be happy. always remember the good times. if it makes you happy do it! today i want to go out and look for a bday present for my boyfriend.
The coffee guy hoping you get good content is so nice! And I tried hot honey for the first time because of your videos! I use it on my kimchi and egg bagels at work and it seriously levels them! On the note of loss, when my Grandpa died it took many months to come out of the slump that followed, it takes time but it does get better. Therapy helped and also remembering they would want what was best for me. Although it looks like your working your way through it! They would be pleased that you hold their memories dear and are making your way through it! Keep it up and ty for releasing your videos, they're so comfy and give so many cooking ideas!
This comment section is so wholesome and sweet I could cry I lost my grandfather about 50 days ago and I miss him all the time. There’s a lot of guilt that can arise as a result of grief but I just really want anyone going through this to give themself grace and treat themselves with kindness as they go through this difficult time
As someone who lost both a close friend and a family member within the last two years, grief is not linear and I’m still working through it myself ❤️ wishing peace for you, and if you feel inclined, I did grief therapy for a little while and it’s helped me in processing so much 🥺
Also feeling a lot of grief lately… Thank you for the deep conversation! And a little flower tip: put the flowers into water immediately after you cut it or even cut underwater so that the stems don’t get clogged with air bubbles )🌸
I just love that the guy was selling beignets wherever you are at. I just wish I was still in Louisiana so I can get some beignets whenever I wanted to
I'm sorry to hear about your loved ones. Take the time you need to heal and be kind to yourself. Everybody grieves differently and everybody heals at different paces. ❤❤
they loved you and you loved them. that they're here is not as important as the memories of love you had for them. They are still loving you now both metaphysically and in your own mind❤
Hey Inga, you don't know me and I obviously do not know you on a up close and personal (even if I've been following you for years now), but if there is something that I have learned in the past year about grief with several (some very influential) people in my life breaking away from this world, it is that we always carry a part of them with us. The impact they had on us will never go away, and just like you carry influences of your friends and loved ones that are still around (not sure for certain, but that little "if I do say so myself" at 15:15 is something I've always heard Alvin say a lot), you will forever carry the shared memories, dreams and wishes of those that you have lost. Nothing in this world can take this away from you, it is yours only to keep. You don't have to feel guilty, Life goes On and so do your people go on with you together
Inga: I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Grieving is a feeling that nobody knows how to navigate; even though there are forums, Reddit, books, and gurus that tell you how to grieve, what it doesn't teach you is the pain you go through. Give yourself the time and space to feel those emotions when you need to, acknowledge that guilt is part of the grieving process; but don't, let it take over your life. It's okay to live your life, but remembering them from sometimes will help with the healing process. I lost my father almost 6 years ago and just almost 2 years when I lost a fellow classmate of mine. It really hurts, but I do remember them when I do have that moment.
Thank you for sharing. It is not easy going through such a close loss and even harder to talk about. Lean into your circle of support and love, and take those moments for yourself. Most importantly, it's okay to cry. ❤
Inga, I doubt you'll see this, but please know you are not alone in that struggle with grief. I had the exact same struggle as you when my sweet Nana passed September of 2021 after a long battle with breast cancer. She is the first major loss that I have experienced in my cognizant life. That two-sided struggle of watching the world pass like yours didn't just end, but also the guilt of trying to not let the world pass despite your lost loved one(s) not being in it, there really is nothing like it, in the worst possible way. The best (unrequested) advice I can give you is to let yourself experience the grief when it comes. It will come at the worst times, when you least expect it. But, blocking it will change you in ways that are unhealthy for this lifelong healing journey. Don't hide away from the memories you have of them, as that'll build to a resentment of self in the future. Just, be. Sit in silence with your coffee, and take it a day at a time. Those tears and stomach pangs will turn to that warm feeling of cherished memories in the future. Sending you so much love, Inga. Blessings and peace to your Grandma and Julius. 🤍🐝
I'm so, so sorry about your grandma and your friend. Grief is meant to be shared, that's the only way it becomes bearable. So thank you for sharing, it must've taken a lot of courage ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss Inga. I lost my own grandmother less than a week ago and I am still very raw. This is not my first loss but nothing ever prepares you for it and every experience I've had with grief has been different from the others. There's no one way to grieve, the feelings just are what they are in each moment and everybody reacts differently to them. Even trying to do your normal life with this new element feels so different. I hope you're as okay as you can be.
Crazy how i lost my abuelo literally one year ago and I felt the same way you explained!! I would cry every single day about how we just moved on in life like it’s normal. It hurts me so much that he is no longer here with me and everytime I visit my abuela i just instantly cry. It also hurt me that life is soooo short and I could not move on from all the beautiful memories I had with my abuelos . I also ask myself and others why do we have to die? Why can’t we live forever…
I'm so sorry for your loss. We all grieve differently and I'm glad you're taking time for you and your emotions. P.S. Pasta Scarf Photoshoot yes please!
Love your breakfast that you bought in Beignet Cafe outside the bank! I always look forward to your "What I eat in a day" with "What you also do throught the day." Hehe. Lovelove, Inga.
I'm with you on the grapefruit juice train. I also carry a torch for a ruby red grapefruit + tangerine juice I used to drink but can never find anymore.
Flowers can be very therapeutic and comforting 😊 They are silly 😜 happy 😁 Sweet 😄 and wonderful 😊 They can say so many things and yet say nothing at all. They bring joy and peace, they express our feelings when we cannot find our words. They can make you cry however they can also make you smile and touch your soul in a very precious and beautiful way. My family and i have lost 23 people including family/friends. It still makes me sad sometimes when I think about how precious they were and how I wish I could still hear them and see them. However I know that they have moved to the next stage so I keep them close to my heart and hold on to the precious memories and moments we had. So don't hold on to the guilt and sadness, they knew you loved them and you are as much of a blessing to them as they were to you. It's ok to let go, it will take time and there will be lots of times that it still brings tears to your eyes. Living your best life for you and living for the precious little moments is the best and most wonderful way to honor them and their memories. You will meet again some day and you can tell them all about what a crazy wonderful amazing journey you had along the way. Be happy it really is ok, mourn at your own pace, take your time, honoring those who have left us reminds us how precious life can truly be. To the big moments the little moments and everything in-between I sincerely hope your heart can heal. Thank you for sharing your time with us 😊l
One of my classmates from high school suddenly passed away 3 years ago, he was only 20 years old. My aunt also died around 2 years ago from cancer. Death really does give you a whole new perspective on how short and fleeting life truly is and grief is also a very complex emotion to feel in itself, in the sense that there is no right or wrong way to go about it. I fully relate to what you're feeling and I hope that with time, it gets easier for you. 💓
Im sorry for your loss. It’s hard but they will never not be in your life. They send messages or signs from the other side in ways you don’t expect :) I love your videos and you do not sound nerdy 😅 When I have left over beans, I refry them and get left over meat and make a taco or when I have left over sliced meat I make jjigae.
hey Inga, quck google search says it's fine eating guancale raw. I think it has something to do with the curing process that pretty much kills off any potential food borne illness so as long as you're eating/consuming the raw product in safe temperatures you're fine :) just treat it as sashimi or charcuterie with thin cuts!
my best friend passed away last christmas and im honestly still in that strange place of grief and guilt and missing her all the time and thinking about all the things we said we'd do in the future that now will never come. i find myself dreading my birthday bc hers was only three days before mine and i realized this will be the first time i'll be older than her. its weird and it sucks and ik words from other people sometimes just dont cover it? i hope youre able to allow yourself to feel and to miss them and to be sad (bc i know thats smth i struggle with letting myself do) but i also hope that youre able to find comfort in their memories and when it doesnt hurt as much and youre able to move past the pain to know that it doesnt mean youve left them behind or forgotten them and that all the love is still there and still with you bc rly thats what we have left of them
I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma and friend. It's just so sad. And you're right. Life is so precious and we are here so briefly. Five years ago I was reminded how important "play" was in my life. After years of being focused on creative achievement and productivity I forgot how to be playful. In fact, I had a lot of shame around things I loved as a kid like playing games and tinkering with old gadgets. You mentioned Hogwarts Legacy. In another one of your videos you mentioned playing Zelda. When I rediscovered video games in 2019 it showed me just how much I was burying my playful spirit. Animal Crossing and Zelda got my partner and I through the pandemic and some really tough times and has taught us to slow down, have fun and detach from work. Keep playing your games, I hear Hogwarts Legacy is great (I'm saving it for winter). All the best to you and your loved ones. Rest. Keep finding joy. Be well.
Let yourself grieve. Embracing life is amazing and important but it’s also healthy to curl up and cry so so hard your face swells up and gets covered in snot xx
When my sister died suddenly at 32, I didn't work for a month. I had friends who gently asked me when i was going to come back. I could barely believe it was even possible. I didn't know how to navigate a world where she was gone. I didn't know if I could. That was 17 years ago. Every time a certain song she loved comes up on a playlist or as some kind of background music in a show, I'm dragged back to that horrible time. But...life does go one, whether we're ready or not. Grief is one of those common experiences that we all eventually share. It has a powerful way to create connections between people. I'm sorry for your losses, Inga.
wondering where in France you got that beautiful croissant! my mom and I tried a bunch of different ones and I would love to go back and try more. also thanks for the reminder about living life to the fullest ❤ it’s so easy to get lost in the day-to-day.
I lost my sister and mother at a fairly young age and was adamant living life to the fullest in honor of their lost time. However, I didn’t give myself the opportunity to really grieve and allow myself to really hurt, and this came back in full force later. Everyone grieves differently but hopefully you, and anyone who’s grieving, are able to allow emotions to surface naturally. Even if you’re feeling (or even prefer being) alone in your hurt I think it can be healthy to just ‘feel’. It’s not always easy, but it’s brave to try. Thank you for sharing vulnerability and sincerity with your community, Inga. Wishing you and everyone here a kind weekend ❤
Sorry for your loss and i all so wish you a kind weekend
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May they both Rest In Peace 🙏🕊️
Poster of this comment my condolences on your loss and thank -you for your words they are so valued in times like these.
I lost my mom at a young age, and honestly trying to live life for her was very hard, because as I age, the grief strikes over and over with the same things from a new perspective. So I am glad you got to live life for them for a little, but I am glad you healed for you as well, because that is just as important.
So sorry for your loss. Everyone works through grief differently. You are doing things the way you need. Thank you for making this content, take care
As someone who lost their grandma a year ago - I can relate to the guilt of 'moving' on? I remember wondering how the world was just normal and nothing seemed to change even though I felt paralysed in the grief of losing her. I feel guilty sometimes about getting used to a life without her but I've learned to think about it as carrying her with me in the little ways rather than 'moving on''. My grandma was a wonderful cook and food is one of the ways in which I carry her with me, today. I know it may not be easy now, but whenever you're ready, making food that she used to make is something I recommend doing, especially with family. It's not going to be easy, particularly in the beginning, but we'll keep on loving our grandmas.
one minute ago is insane but your videos just help calm my day down. i am also so sorry for your loss and i felt everything you said since i went through something like that last year as well. grief does change your outlook on life and i'm glad everyone going through that is doing well. and thank you for videos
Inga, you don't know me but I lost my husband in 2019 not long before covid lock down. It has been the most challenging 5 years of my life. Your videos have helped me get through it. I am learning to cook better for just myself and you are an inspiration! Please accept my condolences and heartfelt best wishes for you and your family . ❤
So sorry for your loss. I lost both of my parents last year and it’s been horrible. Thanks for making me smile during this tough time. I hope making your videos brings you much needed joy as well. ❤
I've lost both of mine too. I hope you are doing the best you can given the circumstances ❤️
Sorry for your losses! Lost my mother as well in 2022, hope we still find things to smile about and stay strong! Good luck ♥️
Grief never looks the same for everyone. Each of us grieves in our own way- but allow yourself to do so when it arrives
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My daughter lost her dad recently. Grief is a puzzle for sure. I find great satisfaction in making use of leftovers in a new yummy way. I love your what I eat in a day videos. Thanks
Grief is something we grow around and not away from. It isn't linear so if there is ever a time you feel like "I shouldn't be so sad because x amount of time has passed." that is a lie. Feel what you feel. I love what you said about celebrating with flowers and friends and food. That made me feel a little brighter today so thank you!
so sorry to hear about your loss. yesterday was six months since my dad passed due to cancer. i’ve found that grief is just unlike anything else in life and it’s completely unique to each of us because every relationship is totally unique. for me some days are fine and the bad days get further apart but there’s this fear that that means i’m going to forget something or adjust to the situation that I don’t want to adjust to. I hope you are managing okay ❤️ it sucks
I’m so sorry for both your losses. @gracievallee2551 it’s been 6 months since my pops passed too same way 😢❤🙏🏽🪶
I know people say it gets better but, it NEVER gets better, but it does become normal. You will never get over it but you will get USED to it. It will probably hurt the same in 20 years as it does today and that too is okay because unfortunately, this is what people mean by love is pain. So just revel in the love you shared and it’s okay to feel the hurt whenever it presents itself ❤❤
This was absolutely beautifully said!
Thank you for being so open and sharing your experiences with us. My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones. Your videos always help get through rough days and silent battles. You really are such an inspirtation that reminds us all to live each day the best we can! Ty Inga ❤
❤❤❤❤❤ theres a heaviness that comes with grief, and it feels like everything around you should stop bc you're grieving. I felt so strange that the world continued to move around me while I was going through the darkest parts of grief. eventually, slowly.... the light comes back. and while the grief never (never) truly goes away, you learn how to carry it with you. my love goes out to you ❤
I just turned on this video because I found your voice soothing and that is something I needed in my life right now. I did not expect it to be about loss and the recovery from it. I am very very sorry for your loss. Last week I lost my grandaunt who raised me as a child. Hours after her burial, I lost my grandmother and my uncle had a stroke and is still fighting for his life.
Reading all the comments, everyone is experiencing loss now, in the past or in the future. But yet, loss can sometimes make one feel like they are alone in suffering it. Please know everyone here is with you and I hope you feel better soon. Your loved ones will always be with you.
I love grapefruit juice, also on a warm day mixed with some sparkling water ❤
I need to stay away from markets because I also have no self control.. they are too expensive where I live to sustain the habit😄
I completely agree about cooking with leftovers, I find it really fun to make something new out of them, plus of course it's a good "skill" to learn.
I used to love it, too. But be careful with Grapefruit juice if you take oral medication or birth control. It contains a substance, that can block the absorption of the active ingredients in the bowel.
The shots of water boiling in the clear pot were so lovely, keep up the fantastic work
❤️ LOVE ❤️ seeing so many different sides of your life outside your apartment! Its such an adventure! And thank you for being open and sharing your life, what is really difficult and not really talked about. Grief in asian culture especially is a topic people dont like to talk about nor know how to talk about. When I lost my loved one, I was not allowed to talk about it with family nor grieve. I was only told to “just keep moving”. I was a zombie and feeling so empty and delved into work until i burnt out. Grief hit me hard recently and I cried so much it didnt stop for quite awhile. So… I wont say “sorry for your loss”. Instead, im just sending lots of love and support as a viewer in anything you do. Cause Grief is a thief who makes living hard, but you are taking each step everyday in your own way to grieve with a smile on your face, and staying true and genuine as you can be. And when guilt hits you hard, rmb that they have lived and shared a life full of love and memories, and that you have been part of, to be treasured. Rmb you are appreciated by many too! ❤
Also, I always get more than what I need at the farmers markets and such too! 😂 Is it a female thing?
Thank you for being open and vulnerable. I love this channel and I started watching this channel after my grandma passed. Cooking is nostalgic, healing and magical. Your video was beautiful and your pasta scarf is iconic ❤❤
13:33 I think a Pasta Ranking video would be SO great! Love your Channel!!! 😊
This is the second video I’ve ever seen of yours and I almost switched off at the trigger warning but I thought maybe I needed it hear it so I carried on and I’m really glad I did. I lost my father in November and I couldn’t agree more with you. You get once run at this life, be kind to yourself and enjoy all the beauty and goodness this planet can offer. Wishing you all happiness and peace ✌️
Thank you for posting, Inga!! Sending you lots of love and good vibes from Boston!! I think of you every time someone mentions how good the food is in New York City~ Also everytime I yolo in the kitchen.. I've gained so much cooking confidence from watching your videos and I really appreciate it
something about these videos bring me peace💗
i just love how peaceful ur house and life is 🥹
Love the natural sunlight (probably afternoon?) somewhere around the 13:00-14:00 mark.
Thank you for sharing your grief, Inga.
In my own journey of grief, when it feels like there's nothing else to look forward to in life, it is truly the little things that keep me going. I can't even tell you how many times I have not had the energy to cook or think of eating, and I see that you've uploaded a new video. I make myself get up, and eating alongside your videos brings a special kind of comfort. When I am crying too hard and want to be left alone as an introvert, but need some form of quiet company, this really means a lot to me. It is not easy to grieve, but you have fellow grievers with you who will hold this space together with you. They will always remain a part of us, and the best way to remember them is to live well for them. All the best, make sure to eat well and take care of yourself ❤
Thank you Inga, for sharing your slice of life with us. There is moments in life we precious most, with friends or family. To lose someone who you cherished most can be painful in short term. But to live is something we do together long term. Food is one common thing all humans share. Looking at you and your videos makes us happy. So do the things you like, eat all the food you want. And share it with us. As always a great video
You asked tips for flowers :) have a vase with water ready and after cutting, put directly in the water - the flower will start to suck up the water as soon as its cut, if you put them in dry, you may get air bubbles in the stem and they may wilt quickly. Particular tip for tulips as i'm from the Netherlands - only have a bit of water at the bottom of the vase (5cm or so) and refill daily as the tulips suck up water. If you put the tulips in a full vase of water they will start growing a lot and droop down. Take care 💐
this is incredibly helpful, thank you!!
I'm sorry for your loss. It never gets easier, but we learn to live with it. Greatly enjoyed the video and feel inspired. Thank you for all that you do.
Thank you for sharing your emotions and discussing grief. It's always an emotion that I feel we force ourselves to navigate through when sometimes grief is just there and doesn't need to be sifted through, especially at the moment. Grief looks different for everyone and I don't think anyone should feel bad for how they endure it. Overall, love this channel and wish you the best!
P.S. I think the maple cream could be a cool ice cream mix-in!!
I had the best croissants in Paris at the opera, they were incredibly good. There are about 100 layers of puff pastry - sensational! They are not as hollow as most croissants, which are just made of air. They are unusually firm, but totally buttery, flaky and crispy. This is really good handwork!
i feel like everything just becomes a bit more relaxing whenever i watch your videos. thank you.
My grandma passed away earlier this year. Some days I think of her and smile but some days I still shed a tear. Sending you light and love ❤️ thank you for sharing your happy distractions
Thank you for making these great videos. Your food always looks delicious and it is great to see your little adventures to the shops and markets. Grief is painful, and navigating it is challenging. But life has to go on. I cannot just pretend things are okay, but I try to accept it eventually, which takes time, and remember good times and magical moments with those who are gone, which makes me smile. The people you love would not want you to be sad, and there is gratefulness and happiness to be had for the fact that you got to spend time with them and I am sure your grandmother and best friend are very proud of what you have achieved and are continuing to look after you, just in a different way. You never truly know how important something is until it goes away, so go talk to some loved ones you may not have seen or spoken to for a while, give them a hug, and tell them how much you appreciate them. I am sorry for your loss, take care, and I wish you all the best.
I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope you continue to do little things to take care of yourself!!
Inga, life is all about embracing the distractions! It's like your heart is speaking to you, telling you what you need right now, and you shouldn't ignore that.
You make me smile every time you post, and hearing you go through something is really sad. I lost my grandfather. I felt so guilty because we would argue a lot ,till this day, im not over it. It's been 5 to 6 years, but I accept it. The point is you can never get over it, but maybe you can accept and normalize it. So you won't be so upsset
You can’t outrun grief no matter how hard you try, take care and take your time❤
I lost my mom back in 2009 and all I can tell you is, take your time with your grief. I'm a person who tries to rush through things (grief included,) but that's not always the best thing to do. I was able to manage my grief better when my auntie passed away in 2021. "Survivor's guilt" is a real thing. Don't feel ashamed to go to counseling if you think it will benefit you.
Hi Inga, I lost my mom 4 years ago. Grief is a complicated feeling and something that never leaves, in a way. You learn how to live with it, but not being sad all the time does not mean you weren't/aren't fond of them. Grief sadness comes in waves. Ultimately, the best thing you can do is honor them remember them by also loving the fullest the people that is still around you. Sending you a big hug ✨
I literally just went to a farmers market today and can't agree more to having no self control at one haha. I totally bought way more than I actually needed but everything looked so fresh and good.
Also, so sorry to hear about your loss. Take all the time you need to get back to a good place. You never need to apologize or make excuses for taking time for yourself. It is definitely hard to lose someone so close to you. I wish you the best in your continued journey to find the good in all things. You should never feel bad about treating yourself here and there.
Hello Inga! Thank you for your video. You sharing your experiences remembered me that I'm not the only one who suffers and today I dealt with a lot. I didn't have the strength to cook but after your video I heated up my leftovers with a fair amount of veggies being as healthy as possible. Thank you for you video it really helped me.
I too lost my grandmother my mother and I are close but not as close as I was with my Nan, my mother had me young so I feel like my aunties uncle and nan helped raise me but mostly her from my viewpoint. She was so supportive when I came out and any dream job I had no matter how silly she supported and wanted to help and I can only dream of being that good of a parent/grandparent some day. Losing her left a wound in my soul that wont ever go away but it does become easier to deal with. It becomes about remembering her, when I see a robin (bird) I know she's with me she always said she'd send one if she could and I see them often now. I sometimes buy the chocolate she liked or have dinners based on dishes she enjoyed making for us and in a way all of these little things make me feel like she isn't gone she's just waiting for us to meet again.
4:46 CALM DOWN🤣♥️ aren't you the sweetest!!!
I love unwinding with video games! So glad you mentioned you do too!
So sorry for your loss, Inga. Even I lost my grandma 3 years ago, and it just left me and my family devastated...the worst being my grandpa, he's stopped going out altogether and my mom has to also look after him. It's all become very restrictive, but it is also important to keep going in life in every possible opportunity. You are really strong by keeping to your simple daily routine, and that is therapeutic for so many of your viewers, who are always with you. Sending you lots of comforting hugs and love. Take care of yourself❤️❤
That pasta looked and sounded so good! Grief is a lot. I'm glad you're doing some self care. I'm really sorry for your loss and hope you have a good support system. ❤
awe instantly cried but your right about grief you need to take time to let go and be happy. always remember the good times. if it makes you happy do it! today i want to go out and look for a bday present for my boyfriend.
The coffee guy hoping you get good content is so nice! And I tried hot honey for the first time because of your videos! I use it on my kimchi and egg bagels at work and it seriously levels them!
On the note of loss, when my Grandpa died it took many months to come out of the slump that followed, it takes time but it does get better. Therapy helped and also remembering they would want what was best for me. Although it looks like your working your way through it! They would be pleased that you hold their memories dear and are making your way through it! Keep it up and ty for releasing your videos, they're so comfy and give so many cooking ideas!
Keep the content coming Inga. I watch your videos daily, I enjoy the calm vibes. Sorry for your loss.
This comment section is so wholesome and sweet I could cry I lost my grandfather about 50 days ago and I miss him all the time. There’s a lot of guilt that can arise as a result of grief but I just really want anyone going through this to give themself grace and treat themselves with kindness as they go through this difficult time
As someone who lost both a close friend and a family member within the last two years, grief is not linear and I’m still working through it myself ❤️ wishing peace for you, and if you feel inclined, I did grief therapy for a little while and it’s helped me in processing so much 🥺
Also feeling a lot of grief lately… Thank you for the deep conversation! And a little flower tip: put the flowers into water immediately after you cut it or even cut underwater so that the stems don’t get clogged with air bubbles )🌸
I just love that the guy was selling beignets wherever you are at. I just wish I was still in Louisiana so I can get some beignets whenever I wanted to
I'm sorry to hear about your loved ones. Take the time you need to heal and be kind to yourself. Everybody grieves differently and everybody heals at different paces. ❤❤
they loved you and you loved them. that they're here is not as important as the memories of love you had for them. They are still loving you now both metaphysically and in your own mind❤
Hey Inga,
you don't know me and I obviously do not know you on a up close and personal (even if I've been following you for years now), but if there is something that I have learned in the past year about grief with several (some very influential) people in my life breaking away from this world, it is that we always carry a part of them with us.
The impact they had on us will never go away, and just like you carry influences of your friends and loved ones that are still around (not sure for certain, but that little "if I do say so myself" at 15:15 is something I've always heard Alvin say a lot), you will forever carry the shared memories, dreams and wishes of those that you have lost. Nothing in this world can take this away from you, it is yours only to keep.
You don't have to feel guilty, Life goes On and so do your people go on with you together
Inga:
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Grieving is a feeling that nobody knows how to navigate; even though there are forums, Reddit, books, and gurus that tell you how to grieve, what it doesn't teach you is the pain you go through. Give yourself the time and space to feel those emotions when you need to, acknowledge that guilt is part of the grieving process; but don't, let it take over your life. It's okay to live your life, but remembering them from sometimes will help with the healing process. I lost my father almost 6 years ago and just almost 2 years when I lost a fellow classmate of mine. It really hurts, but I do remember them when I do have that moment.
Thank you for sharing. It is not easy going through such a close loss and even harder to talk about. Lean into your circle of support and love, and take those moments for yourself. Most importantly, it's okay to cry. ❤
Inga, I doubt you'll see this, but please know you are not alone in that struggle with grief. I had the exact same struggle as you when my sweet Nana passed September of 2021 after a long battle with breast cancer. She is the first major loss that I have experienced in my cognizant life. That two-sided struggle of watching the world pass like yours didn't just end, but also the guilt of trying to not let the world pass despite your lost loved one(s) not being in it, there really is nothing like it, in the worst possible way.
The best (unrequested) advice I can give you is to let yourself experience the grief when it comes. It will come at the worst times, when you least expect it. But, blocking it will change you in ways that are unhealthy for this lifelong healing journey. Don't hide away from the memories you have of them, as that'll build to a resentment of self in the future. Just, be. Sit in silence with your coffee, and take it a day at a time. Those tears and stomach pangs will turn to that warm feeling of cherished memories in the future.
Sending you so much love, Inga. Blessings and peace to your Grandma and Julius. 🤍🐝
something about your vids that always feels so wholesome but also makes me wanna be productive, i luv your content!
I'm so, so sorry about your grandma and your friend. Grief is meant to be shared, that's the only way it becomes bearable. So thank you for sharing, it must've taken a lot of courage ❤
I'm so sorry for your loss Inga. I lost my own grandmother less than a week ago and I am still very raw. This is not my first loss but nothing ever prepares you for it and every experience I've had with grief has been different from the others. There's no one way to grieve, the feelings just are what they are in each moment and everybody reacts differently to them. Even trying to do your normal life with this new element feels so different. I hope you're as okay as you can be.
Sorry for loss. We all deal with grief in different ways. Take your time on videos. Take as time for yourself as needed.
Crazy how i lost my abuelo literally one year ago and I felt the same way you explained!! I would cry every single day about how we just moved on in life like it’s normal. It hurts me so much that he is no longer here with me and everytime I visit my abuela i just instantly cry. It also hurt me that life is soooo short and I could not move on from all the beautiful memories I had with my abuelos . I also ask myself and others why do we have to die? Why can’t we live forever…
My condoleance, your so strong! I love your videos, thank you so much for being honest with your grief ❤
So sorry for your loss, we all grief in different ways and your doing what is working for you and that is okay. I enjoy your videos . Thank you =)
I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you all the best in this time.
I love croissants. when it's made well, it just hits the spot for me.
I'm so sorry for your loss. We all grieve differently and I'm glad you're taking time for you and your emotions.
P.S. Pasta Scarf Photoshoot yes please!
Love your breakfast that you bought in Beignet Cafe outside the bank! I always look forward to your "What I eat in a day" with "What you also do throught the day." Hehe. Lovelove, Inga.
I'm with you on the grapefruit juice train. I also carry a torch for a ruby red grapefruit + tangerine juice I used to drink but can never find anymore.
Grief is just love unexpressed. I read this somewhere. We can never get people back, but we can always express better to those who are still with us.
Flowers can be very therapeutic and comforting 😊
They are silly 😜 happy 😁 Sweet 😄 and wonderful 😊
They can say so many things and yet say nothing at all.
They bring joy and peace, they express our feelings when we cannot find our words.
They can make you cry however they can also make you smile and touch your soul in a very precious and beautiful way.
My family and i have lost 23 people including family/friends.
It still makes me sad sometimes when I think about how precious they were and how I wish I could still hear them and see them.
However I know that they have moved to the next stage so I keep them close to my heart and hold on to the precious memories and moments we had.
So don't hold on to the guilt and sadness, they knew you loved them and you are as much of a blessing to them as they were to you. It's ok to let go, it will take time and there will be lots of times that it still brings tears to your eyes.
Living your best life for you and living for the precious little moments is the best and most wonderful way to honor them and their memories.
You will meet again some day and you can tell them all about what a crazy wonderful amazing journey you had along the way.
Be happy it really is ok, mourn at your own pace, take your time, honoring those who have left us reminds us how precious life can truly be. To the big moments the little moments and everything in-between I sincerely hope your heart can heal.
Thank you for sharing your time with us 😊l
this is my favorite type of video from you! more what I eat in a day's please!
I’m very sorry for your losses! I just want to say that I really enjoy your channel!
I loss my mom two years ago, still miss her😢. Be strong and have a beautiful life
Whenever i have a bad day, your videos give me a smile 😊
One of my classmates from high school suddenly passed away 3 years ago, he was only 20 years old. My aunt also died around 2 years ago from cancer. Death really does give you a whole new perspective on how short and fleeting life truly is and grief is also a very complex emotion to feel in itself, in the sense that there is no right or wrong way to go about it. I fully relate to what you're feeling and I hope that with time, it gets easier for you. 💓
Im sorry for your loss. It’s hard but they will never not be in your life. They send messages or signs from the other side in ways you don’t expect :) I love your videos and you do not sound nerdy 😅 When I have left over beans, I refry them and get left over meat and make a taco or when I have left over sliced meat I make jjigae.
So sorry for your loss. Everyone processes grief differently. Please give time to yourself and don’t shove those emotions down.
I’m so very sorry for your loss. It is definitely pretty rough losing someone so close.
My condolences to you and your family. I hope you take good care of yourself! ❤
i just love that inga is posting regularly and trying and teaching us new stuff love from India
Love the beat production on this video.
That maple cream comes from my hometown! Lovely baby bok choy. Condolences for your loss.
Sorry for ur loss Inga🌸
really love ur content puts the biggest smile on my face...i look forward to ur videos every week😊🤗
Grief never gets easier but in time, you will get used to carry it around. 💙💙
thank you for these videos, Inga. they're always my source of joy and calm and inspiration. Hugs, hunny. 🥰
hey Inga, quck google search says it's fine eating guancale raw. I think it has something to do with the curing process that pretty much kills off any potential food borne illness so as long as you're eating/consuming the raw product in safe temperatures you're fine :) just treat it as sashimi or charcuterie with thin cuts!
my best friend passed away last christmas and im honestly still in that strange place of grief and guilt and missing her all the time and thinking about all the things we said we'd do in the future that now will never come. i find myself dreading my birthday bc hers was only three days before mine and i realized this will be the first time i'll be older than her. its weird and it sucks and ik words from other people sometimes just dont cover it?
i hope youre able to allow yourself to feel and to miss them and to be sad (bc i know thats smth i struggle with letting myself do) but i also hope that youre able to find comfort in their memories and when it doesnt hurt as much and youre able to move past the pain to know that it doesnt mean youve left them behind or forgotten them and that all the love is still there and still with you bc rly thats what we have left of them
my deepest condolences so sorry for your loss, stay strong Inga!
We got you, Inga. Thank you for all you do.
I'm so sorry to hear about your grandma and friend. It's just so sad. And you're right. Life is so precious and we are here so briefly. Five years ago I was reminded how important "play" was in my life. After years of being focused on creative achievement and productivity I forgot how to be playful. In fact, I had a lot of shame around things I loved as a kid like playing games and tinkering with old gadgets. You mentioned Hogwarts Legacy. In another one of your videos you mentioned playing Zelda. When I rediscovered video games in 2019 it showed me just how much I was burying my playful spirit. Animal Crossing and Zelda got my partner and I through the pandemic and some really tough times and has taught us to slow down, have fun and detach from work. Keep playing your games, I hear Hogwarts Legacy is great (I'm saving it for winter). All the best to you and your loved ones. Rest. Keep finding joy. Be well.
I could never live in New York, but that shopping haul makes me wish I could :)
Food = Pleasure, joy, happiness, a high feeling sometimes lol
It’s fun being a foodie
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guanciale is cured already so yes! you can eat it raw! i do enjoy it on my paninis with some radicchio and grandma's picked capsicum :)
Let yourself grieve. Embracing life is amazing and important but it’s also healthy to curl up and cry so so hard your face swells up and gets covered in snot xx
When my sister died suddenly at 32, I didn't work for a month. I had friends who gently asked me when i was going to come back. I could barely believe it was even possible. I didn't know how to navigate a world where she was gone. I didn't know if I could. That was 17 years ago. Every time a certain song she loved comes up on a playlist or as some kind of background music in a show, I'm dragged back to that horrible time. But...life does go one, whether we're ready or not. Grief is one of those common experiences that we all eventually share. It has a powerful way to create connections between people. I'm sorry for your losses, Inga.
wondering where in France you got that beautiful croissant! my mom and I tried a bunch of different ones and I would love to go back and try more.
also thanks for the reminder about living life to the fullest ❤ it’s so easy to get lost in the day-to-day.
Inga's back, loves it. ❤❤❤ gonna play some Hogwart's legacy too!! Twinsies!!💗💗💗