I know this vid is a few months old but I can relate to much of what you're saying here. In the last few years I've had a lot of "dates" and can't seem to keep anyone and it makes me feel like there is something missing from me that women can intuitively spot. I've had the glimpses of sad face at odd moments and it does feel bad. I've also dated women who could be described as "spinsters" and it makes me feel bad that I wasn't able to project myself enough on the date as someone "free from all concern" as Jim Carrey would say, someone fun to be with who has the ability to rescue them from what might be considered a mundane life and thinking about it later as I always do I would come to the conclusion that I just wasn't at ease with myself enough to project that. And yes, I think to myself, "could they not have just given me a chance and realised that I was a bit nervous" but in life you rarely get second chances. When I think of all the men in relationships who look and act like total slobs yet they never seem to reach the high threshold required to actually force their partner to dump them but for someone like me it seems damn near impossible to actually impress a single woman enough for her to want to give up being single in the first place! Maybe we just analyse things too much? You driving your car around and going through these thoughts is so much like what I've been doing in my head
@ELWaller0388 Thank you for taking the time to comment, I highly appreciate it. Yes, everything you say I've experienced as what I said in my video. I've been going through a lot more drama recently and feel as if I lost out to a slob when I felt I would've been the better candidate. I honestly feel as if I'm in a waking nightmare, and there's no way out. I have no idea what to do. Just ride it out to the end, I guess...
@@destroyedbyfeds Well, we're all rooting for you in the comments even if it feels like a waking nightmare at times. At least you're putting yourself out there and you articulate what things are like for a lot of people very well
What she really wanted was companionship, sounds like someone who feels uncomfortable letting their guard down. idk maybe it's too late to try. Keep in touch with her
Perhaps she’s just someone very insecure. Sounds that way, especially if you could see the sadness on her face. Also, the fact that she’s a *woman* in her 40s, that is both looking for a relationship and has never been in one, says a lot (maybe her personal problems always get in the way of things…) I think trying for a friendship with her sounds like a good idea, if she’s also interested. At worst you’ll get a friend out of it, and maybe she’ll grow more comfortable once she gets to know you. Sorry it didn’t turn out well man.
At that point you could of asked if you could take her hand and let her know you were are nervous as she seemed to be and just tell her whatever comes from this date itl be ok.. not all women bite and at times we need to know your not a tower of confidence either.. over confident guys are a big turn off.
I seen you had said that in your video, there is no harm at all in a quick message saying 'im just checking in to nake sure you got home ok' and believe it or not those little things make a girl smile. Its just little things that a girl needs to make her rethink her initial decision at times. Like 'oh that was a really nice thing him checking i got home ok, maybe il go on another date" you cant sum anyone up completely on 1.5 dates.. if its purely based on inital attraction then there is no hope of building a deeper foundation. I got DUM to get a book 'men are from Mars women are fron venus' it truelly helped me with preconceived views I had. I hope DUM reads it and you get a copy, id send you mine but it would take forever to get there. Dont be disgeartened by a few knockbacks, if she wasnt feeling it it was her loss you cant give up trying, not everyone is attracted to each other, that doesnt mean your ugly or not worthy or any of the nonsensicle things that come out of you guys mouths regarding their appearances.. i wish DUM wud get out to a speed dating thing because wherher u meet someone or not you gain a bit more confidence talking to the opposite sex. Hope to catch your next live, gaol bho Alba
I respect you for at least trying. That's definitely more than most men in our position do.
Thank you, kind sir 🙏
Honestly this has happened to me so many times that I don't even take it personally. Dating sucks!
@onthedubba dating is non-existent.
I know this vid is a few months old but I can relate to much of what you're saying here. In the last few years I've had a lot of "dates" and can't seem to keep anyone and it makes me feel like there is something missing from me that women can intuitively spot. I've had the glimpses of sad face at odd moments and it does feel bad.
I've also dated women who could be described as "spinsters" and it makes me feel bad that I wasn't able to project myself enough on the date as someone "free from all concern" as Jim Carrey would say, someone fun to be with who has the ability to rescue them from what might be considered a mundane life and thinking about it later as I always do I would come to the conclusion that I just wasn't at ease with myself enough to project that.
And yes, I think to myself, "could they not have just given me a chance and realised that I was a bit nervous" but in life you rarely get second chances. When I think of all the men in relationships who look and act like total slobs yet they never seem to reach the high threshold required to actually force their partner to dump them but for someone like me it seems damn near impossible to actually impress a single woman enough for her to want to give up being single in the first place! Maybe we just analyse things too much? You driving your car around and going through these thoughts is so much like what I've been doing in my head
@ELWaller0388 Thank you for taking the time to comment, I highly appreciate it. Yes, everything you say I've experienced as what I said in my video. I've been going through a lot more drama recently and feel as if I lost out to a slob when I felt I would've been the better candidate.
I honestly feel as if I'm in a waking nightmare, and there's no way out. I have no idea what to do. Just ride it out to the end, I guess...
@@destroyedbyfeds Well, we're all rooting for you in the comments even if it feels like a waking nightmare at times. At least you're putting yourself out there and you articulate what things are like for a lot of people very well
@ELWaller0388 Thank you, my friend.
Praying it works out brother!
Thank you, my friend 🙏
Recently had something like 10 rejections in a row exactly like that it’s brutal but don’t give uppppppp
That kinda makes me feel somewhat better. At least I'm not the only one.
Getting a second date is not easy
What she really wanted was companionship, sounds like someone who feels uncomfortable letting their guard down. idk maybe it's too late to try. Keep in touch with her
I'm going to try one more time. If she says no, obviously, i'll have to move on.
Hopefully i'm just going full blown skitz-oh but the content of the video and the license plate at 2.16 saying "END 58C" feels eerily prophetic
Damn... 💀
Whats the reference to END 58C?
@@Delusional_Diver the end?
Thought it was like a movie reference or some shit cause of the 58c idk im kinda tarded
Perhaps she’s just someone very insecure. Sounds that way, especially if you could see the sadness on her face. Also, the fact that she’s a *woman* in her 40s, that is both looking for a relationship and has never been in one, says a lot (maybe her personal problems always get in the way of things…)
I think trying for a friendship with her sounds like a good idea, if she’s also interested. At worst you’ll get a friend out of it, and maybe she’ll grow more comfortable once she gets to know you.
Sorry it didn’t turn out well man.
Thanks, Max. I at least want to try with her one more time as a friend.
I can see you are a fellow empath for feeling sad for the girl for feeling sad
I just wanted to hold her...
At that point you could of asked if you could take her hand and let her know you were are nervous as she seemed to be and just tell her whatever comes from this date itl be ok.. not all women bite and at times we need to know your not a tower of confidence either.. over confident guys are a big turn off.
@taranorquoy6696 I'm going to contact her mid week and see if we can meet up again. Hopefully, I can smooth some things over with her.
why would you think that she thinks you don't think she's attractive? what did you say? I feel like you must have said something about her appearance
I actually told her how pretty I thought she was, and she blushed really hard.
I guess people take things the wrong way sometimes
U shuda txt her to makesure she got home safe. Theres nothing wrong in that with any girl travelling home alone.
It crossed my mind, but I didn't want to come across as too clingy or something like that.
I seen you had said that in your video, there is no harm at all in a quick message saying 'im just checking in to nake sure you got home ok' and believe it or not those little things make a girl smile.
Its just little things that a girl needs to make her rethink her initial decision at times. Like 'oh that was a really nice thing him checking i got home ok, maybe il go on another date" you cant sum anyone up completely on 1.5 dates.. if its purely based on inital attraction then there is no hope of building a deeper foundation.
I got DUM to get a book 'men are from Mars women are fron venus' it truelly helped me with preconceived views I had. I hope DUM reads it and you get a copy, id send you mine but it would take forever to get there. Dont be disgeartened by a few knockbacks, if she wasnt feeling it it was her loss you cant give up trying, not everyone is attracted to each other, that doesnt mean your ugly or not worthy or any of the nonsensicle things that come out of you guys mouths regarding their appearances..
i wish DUM wud get out to a speed dating thing because wherher u meet someone or not you gain a bit more confidence talking to the opposite sex.
Hope to catch your next live, gaol bho Alba
go shopping w a female friend have her pick a first date outfit for you it helped me
Wud u quit with the feeling ugly, the issue is hers not urs, im thinking shes quite insecure
Tara always coming with the truth.
Matt is available for you
@@marcK599. Matt knows im always here for him.. minus a timezone
looksmax 4 life
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