I love how you said you’re in control of your own happiness. When you’re single it’s hard at times not to wish that you had someone, but it’s so important to not put your entire expectations on another person, it’s so destructive!! Always love your self-reflection girl!!
I struggle with codependency. It sounds pathetic but I am scared to be more independent yet I want it sooooo bad. Working on this this year❤️ thank you for posting this
same. I came out of a two year with my partner being the codependant one and now in my current relationship where my partner is more independed, I am the codependent one. Working on loving myself more and more.
My comment is about 4 years late, but as a fellow recovering codependent the book "Codependent No More" bu Melody Beatie as well as counselor Carl's series on UA-cam has been an immense help and I feel like I cope better these days. Goodluck on your journey friend!
I am in a new relationship, and I noticed that in the beginning I tend to depend on my partner to make my day, that I end up forgetting the things that I did before I was in a relationship. I understand that it is important not to lose yourself or depend on anyone to bring you happiness from my last relationship, and I really want the relationship that I am in now to be long-term so I am practicing on learning to find time for myself and to continue to do the things that I did before I was in a relationship.
I am dating for 3 years and before him I went single for a very long time. In that time, I'd learn to take care of myself and actually loved me. But lately I've been feel like I'm losing my true self and essence and it kinda affects my entire relationship. I think I've been dedicated to love this person so much that I just forget about loving me as well. Thank you for making this video!
My hubby and I will be celebrating 7 years of marriage this summer and I don’t think we would be as happy as we are without a lot of the things you mentioned, honesty, compassion, having space...great tips, Carrie!
I’m in a semi-new relationship, about 5 months in, and I’ve been feeling like I lost a part of myself because I’m so invested in this relationship. I’ve neglected my needs for meditation, yoga, things that all help me grow and it’s affected our relationship negatively. Thank you for this video - I’m going to implement this into my daily life. Sometimes you just need a reminder.
I’m single right now and I do hope I’ll be single for a long time ! I’ve been with an abusive person for too long and now it’s time to taking care of myself
I’m not personally in a relationship at the moment but this really interested me because, in my past relationships I’ve devoted my entire self to making the other person happy and in the end I lost myself.. was distant from friends and family and had to kind of rebuild... you have no idea how much impact you are having on my life and my self love journey Carrie 💕 I’m so grateful that you take your knowledge and the time to sew into other people, you’re truly out of this world xx
I’ve been in a relationship for just over a year. It’s a really great relationship; we do a lot together but we also do a lot apart. It’s very different from my past relationships where I would have to devote all my time to the other person while receiving nothing in return. This video has shown me that it’s ok to do things apart from your relationship and things together in your relationship. You grow apart and you grow together. Time spent together is cherished more when you spend time apart. Thank you for this video, Carrie.
I love this video idea! I was just discussing this with my boyfriend, it is so important to take time to be independent and productive both with a partner and as an individual. I would love to share this with everyone I know who is in a relationship.. thank you for putting this out into the world ❤️
Hi, I would love for you to share. My fiancé and I are engaged, been together for 10 years. It isn't easy at all. At this very moment I am so upset because I feel like I spent my whole day catering to him, and when I cooked dinner tonight he complained first, before thanking me. I am so angry because I wasnt able to have any time to myself and make sure my cup is full too. I would love some advice on how to take care of me and also balance my relationship. Thank you❤
I desperately needed this video! I just started my first relationship and I truly care for him so much that I’ve lost touch with myself. Everything I do and say seems to revolve around him. So I thank you so much for this video because it inspires me to start giving back to myself and lean on God more ❤️ Your channel and self love talks have truly helped my life move in an even more positive direction, so I thank you for that. It’s like hearing advice from a big sister. Since I’m a big sis, I am constantly giving advice. But, sometimes I need advice too. I mean I’m almost 20 years old, but I still need perspective and guidance. Your videos Carrie have really helped me with that 😊 I hope your channel continues to thrive, God bless you 😊
I am in a long relationship, dating for almost 5 years. I am still learning so much about myself and our lives together. I find it really important to do the things you love as much as compromise. Great video Carrie! 😘😘💗💗 Your words are always so comforting.
I wish I found this video sooner, but I understand why I didn't find it because I was single 3 years ago 🤣 Anyways, for years I've been working on self-love and self-improvement. Back then, I wasn't insecure nor body conscious. I was happy with who I am and my flaws, then I met my boyfriend and I felt that I have to keep on being the perfect girl for him. I became so insecure, so body conscious, so jealous. Basically, what I taught myself for years got thrown out of the window. And I don't blame him. This is my second relationship and the healthy one so I have difficulty trusting that he'd love me if I am vulnerable or imperfect. Thank you for this video, I really need it
You just changed my perception on relationship. I have been going through a fragile time in my relationship, This is really what I wanted. Thank you 🙏🏻
Carrie I almost lost myself in my relationship with my boyfriend. I had to really stay self aware of what makes me happy. And some of that happiness is being with my close friends and maintaining me. I’m so grateful we both love our balance. Loved this video thank you for sharing ❤️
Sometimes I wish your videos went on forever because they temporarily take the pain away from whatever I am going through while at the same time, you’re teaching me habits I can practice when I’m feeling vulnerable or low about myself ❤️
Your man is so lucky to have such an incredible, inspirational, independent woman like you. I can see you guys live your best life together and cherish every moment of it. thank you for all the tips and inspiration you’ve given. Your my role model and I strive to be like you, day by day. 💕🌸
Love that you incorporated this video in your self love series. It's easy to take care of yourself when you're single but not many discuss this topic when you're in a relationship/marriage. Thanks Carrie!
I am married and so happy because although my hubby and I are totally opposite in every way it's what keeps things fun, interesting, and challenging. The challenges definitely help us to grow closer together and fall in love with each other all over again! You guys are so cute btw!! 💕
I needed to hear this message. I work in helping professional that can be emotionally draining. On top of that, I’m in a relationship so it’s difficult to find time for myself. I recently got back into watercolor painting and it was exactly what I needed. Thanks, Carrie, for all your great videos!
I just got into a new relationship after being single for like 2 years and it is a hard balance! I like a lot of space and so does he, and sometimes i get worried like... is this okay? Because I do get this sense that people in relationships spend a lot of time together. But I think it’s whatever feels right to us. Thank you for sharing! 💖
Thank you for this advice! I see that you published this video 4 years ago and uncoincidentally this day and time is when I came across it. I love the way the universe works! I want to thank you because I am currently 21 and I struggle with codependency in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years (high school sweathearts), and we've pretty much spent every waking day and night with each other. We're best friends and we love each other's company so much, but i'm also noticing the extreme codependency. I will take this advice and spend more time with myself so I can inspire him to do the same. It's going to be challenging, I know now that it will benefit in the long run. Thank you! I hope you read this!
So, I love this video. The part about compassion really stood out to me because I am in a new relationship, we’re casual right now but there’s definitely love there. I was giving while being aware he wasn’t able to reciprocate & for good reasons. I respect where he’s at in his life and in a sense I wanted to/would like to be like his rock. However, recently I was PMSing and also going through a REALLY tough time…one of the toughest. Yet I still would push myself a little to send him love. Simply because knowing that he appreciates my kindness and being aware of the chance that it might make him smile it makes me smile. However, I’m mortified by the emotional whiplash I gave him and feel like space for both of us could be really beneficial right now. That being said I’m also scared to let go bc I don’t want him to be sad that I’m not reaching out anymore…i’m addition, maybe this is the best move? he can reach out when he is mentally able to be present and then I’ll also most likely be in a better headspace and life space too. I’m in a good place right now but there’s a lot of work I need to do in my own life atm that I’ve been putting off. I’d love to know your thoughts. Thank you for this video.❤️
I really needed this, I've been feeling lost in my relationship and how I can do both (self discovery and passion for my other half). I've only realised I haven't discovered my fully, but I don't want to give up my relationship to do this. We have been together for nearly 7 years, I feel I need to push and stay strong but sometimes I struggle and feel myself pulling away. Nothing has been awful in my relationship. We have had ups and downs like all but we always got past it and grew stronger. I think what's tricky is that we are suddenly long distance after all this time together. But I don't believe God doesn't give you challenges he knows you can conqer. I'm going to find balance no matter what, he is worth fighting for while Im finding myself ♥️
Love this! I’m in a long term relationship and while we plan on getting married, I sometimes forget to put myself first. There is nothing wrong with that!
This is awesome, thank you for this type of video because it is easy to loose ourselves in a relationship and I think it’s up to us to find our happiness and be in control even when we are in a relationship.💕
I am living with my mother and struggle a lot to get on with life. She is dependent on me most of the time and it cost me my job and my own self. I just started to explore self love after receiving some guidance on that and your video helped me a lot. However, I still cannot figure out how I can make some changes to be a bit independent of this at least a few hours without being under control and scrutiny, She does not do it purposely or to harm me, but that is her way and she is too old to change. I know I need to change and appreciate your guidance on how to get there. thank you very much for the video, information and motivation. Wold love to see more of this advice... Thank you!
It fascinates me how much my mental and physical health has improved since I started using the Forwago. And I was not even thinking that there is something to be improved lolll. Definitely more people should find out about this program.
I needed this in my relationship I have really like lost myself .. I’ve been in this relationship for 2 years now so it’s still fresh.. and where I go wrong is that I give my ALL to the relationship by shutting myself out from friends and not doing things as I’ve done when I were single.. to me it’s important to change your movements when your in a relationship but I have to remember not to CLING soo much .. so thank you for your INSPIRATION it’s very helpful for me .. now time to put it in the right order
wow that last part about knowing that you gave it your all even if it doesn’t last forever was exactly what I needed to hear. ended a long term relationship months ago and started a new one at the beginning of the year. It’s been a time of growth and a time of new beginnings. This was such a neat video and I think it’s very important to remind yourself daily that one person can’t control your happiness. It’s important to love ourselves first.
Thank you so much for this going through this rn learning how to be independent me again where I love myself. Bc of doing nothing for myself anymore and being dependent on my partner has caused us to be in a bad spot. I am terrified to care for myself bc of my anxiety and depression but I know I need to for the sake of me as this self hatred has affected all aspects of my life.
Your videos make me feel so much more confident in my own skin. I have been working on my codependency issues in my relationship and learning that it's okay to want what I want & be who I am on my own. My boyfriend often points out when I'm neglecting life outside of us and helps me see that it's important to prioritize that life too. Thank you for your videos; I love myself more every time I watch them
Hi Carrie! I'm in a long relationship and I think it's so important to maintain self-love time. Be a better version of me is a beautiful way to love better my boyfriend and anybody else. Love you
I'm glad you did a video on this, the topic has been on my mind a lot lately. I am in a newish relationship after not being in one for years. So, being even more of an adult now, I want to approach this new (and very important) part of my life with fresh eyes and a more maturity. I think you really said it all though, so its more about keeping these things at the forefront of your thoughts when making day to day decisions.
Watching this at the PERFECT time mainly from what you said in tip 1 about being afraid to leave a relationship because they make you happy. We broke up in October but we're still talking (I'm weak and thought I could "be friends"). I've known for a month now I need to cut things off in order to heal from the breakup and I'm finally doing it this week. I'm making myself do it. I have to for myself. Taking this as a sign that I can do it ❤
Thank you for sharing your insights! I’m in a long term relationship that’s going through two major transitions at once- we moved in together and my partner started a new job right after. I’ve struggled to balance supporting his need to focus on this new role with also feeling that our relationship has taken a backseat. What you said about compassion being giving your all even when someone can’t give really resonated with me, and it is the mindset I am shifting to through this season of my relationship.
Preach, sista! This video was much needed. A lot of people need to hear this, because often, women usually ALWAYS lose themselves in a man, and it’s kind of sad.
I started following the Forwago workout sessions day after day and it hasn't just changed my body, but positively impacted my mental health and made me a new me..
This is great! I am currently in a new-ish relationship with one of my best friends of 7 years. He knows that I am very independent and practice self love constantly. However, he knows I have some trust issues based on my last relationship so he is very kind and patient with me constantly. We are currently do distance (California to Oregon) and everything that you mentioned I find very true.
Thank you so much for posting this, Carrie! I’ve been married for almost 3 years now and lately I’ve been struggling to remember who I am and what I enjoy, and it’s true that codependency can really wreck things. I’ve gone back to painting which I haven’t done for years and it makes me really happy now. Thanks for posting this - I really needed to hear this. 💕
I heard Esther Perel say sth along these lines once: „In centuries before, we had a stable, almost unchanging community of friends and extended family to rely on. Our partners were just there for procreating. Today, as we have become more drawn to uncertainty and individualism, long-term relationships are rarely looked for. When we desire a relationship, our motive is „I‘ve been alone/isolated for so long, I really need an anchor“ and suddenly our partner needs to meet the expectations of being not only a partner, but an entire community. That‘s not healthy. To feel healthy, we need to take our ancestors as role models. Build a community of friends to chit-chat with, some for deep conversations, some for food etc. Then, your partner simply becomes someone you choose to write a story with.“ I think that struck a heavy chord with me and wanted to share it
I struggle with lying, to my other and you know it’s been a really bad habit and stuff and it’s just about dumb stuff and soo wrong for it and I’m trying to love myself, and learn that man I just need to be honest, and I’ve lied from the get go I made her think I was someone else when I wasn’t and idk if she’s gonna leave on not. I do not blame her but man I’m making a difference in my self and I honestly hope you can reply to my comment and help me out a little bit thank you.
I would say.... because honestly, I’m struggling with this with my boyfriend, I have much reason to believe he lied to me at one point and still may. - Honesty is truly the best policy. When you have to lie to cover up another lie... it becomes lies on top of lies, and one day it will come all crashing down. Sit down and have a serious discussion with her. Tell her you love her and that you want to be able to be completely honest with her, and that you messed up. Own up to your mistakes. I think she will appreciate that, especially if she’s a logical and sane woman. Good luck! ❤️
This is such honest and authentic and just downright tried and true advice. And it’s vulnerable advice because so many people have no idea about these things until they start doing the work in relationship. I think this is a truly needed video for this world so thanks Carrie! 😘 love from down under in Oz!
I'm at a point in my life where I have expierienced a few relationship but now am single since like less than a year. I am free from any pain or heartbreak and am focusing a lot on myself especially education wise. Sometimes I go on dates.. also tried dating apps which I don't really like. I feel like my heart is open to meet someone new and compassionate as myself (maybe even "the one"?). But I feel like there is a wave going on with people not wanting to commit to anything right now. I'm in my early 20ties living in the capital of Switzerland. Would love to know how you guys are seeing this! :)
Wow. I have been in my relationship with my bf for six years now and I am so glad you made this video. It has been really hard for me lately to be able to balance my bf, school, family and my own self care things, and do things I enjoy on my own. I still live with family because I only have a a part time job and school full time, but that also means I need to spend time with my sisters and mother. It gets really tough a lot of the time but have been trying to keep my head up and a schedule, but I always feel like I run out of time. Anything you could recommend me doing? Love the video by the way!! Thanks!! ☺️✌️💛
This was such a great video! It was empowering and the ending caught me off guard. Giving when a person just needs to receive, this was amazing! Thank you for that! Self love and selfless at the same time!
The one thing that really helped me to fall in love with myself and my life was Forwago. I can not believe how much happier person I am now than I was before. Please love yourself, it is one of the easiest ways to dramatically improve your life.
Amazing video! I definitely feel like I’m on the right path when it comes to the relationship with my lover. I love the end where your talking about compassion that part hit home for me because relationships aren’t just 50/50 it’s not a business deal it’s 100/100 and it’s good to know we both have a gave our best into our relationship as well as been able to stand by each other during our darkest moments. 💕
This was all I wanted at this time since I recently came into a relationship and sometimes I feel like I m loosing myself but hearing you it felt like I just need to have my own life too and trust this person that I m with . Thank you so much Carrie ,lots of love 💕💕
Carrie Rad Thank you so much for this video, I just realized that I was loosing myself when I started a relationship and realized that I needed some time for myself to get back on the horse of the things I always love doing, this helps a lot, now I feel twice as better than before!!
Thank you for a sweet and gentle reminder such as this! Always being able to dive back into self love is important 💕 I am a newlywed and even having conversations about self love are important. My hubby like to remind me when I'm stressed I can do an at home spa night
Hey Carrie, I'm struggling with communication with my significant other and with myself honestly. Do you have any books that you would recommend to read that helps someone deal with communication issues, stress, confidence, and self-love?
I absolutely love your videos. You are so inspiring and give the most genuine advice. You are awesome and I love your content! This video helped me so much. Thank you for sharing.
Love love love love lovedddddd this video!! I’ve been wanting something like this from you. I’ve been really intentional this year to make more time for myself, to rekindle the love I have of spending time with myself by engaging in “old” creative hobbies. It’s been so lovely for me. I also feel like I’m able to give more compassion and healthy space for my partner of 4.5 years. We’ve had lots of ups and downs recently and I think it has to do with our trauma history. Something we’re also working on individually and together. I love this topic, cultivating a balance in relationships, the one with yourself and others. Youre speak so much love and wisdom into this topic. So very needed!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Carrie! I love this video and I love you! I want to say this as nicely as possible because you’re one of my favorite creators ever and I don’t want this to be mistaken as mean or critical - I just kind of feel like all your most recent videos have been exactly the same and it makes me sad because i really like when you do stuff that’s different and breaks the norm from other UA-cam creators. I love listening to you chat in front of the camera but it might be nice to switch it up and do another travel vlog or a cooking video or a collab or something. Just something to break the format of listing things and laying some b-roll over the top... but also I love you and will always watch and support you no matter what. I also might be the only person who feels this way, and I know you’re in the midst of creating a podcast so you probably are super busy with a million different things. I just wanted to offer some very friendly feedback as a fan :) anyway we love you and please keep making content for us no matter what it is!!
I am in love with your videos , i really liked your talk , btw you and alex are definitely the cutest couple i've ever seen 😍 god bless you guys , the world really needs someone who is as deep and passionate as you ❤
I loved this!! Definitely needed it; I’m in the place now where I’m not at all looking for a relationship, but I spent months being caught up in heartbreak and longing for a girlfriend. Once my second heartbreak type thing happened, I decided I was done with romance for a long time and just wanted to be on my own. I’ve felt very angry and cynical towards romance (for myself) which has felt sort of refreshing, but also a bit saddening that I reached that point of feeling so hurt and angry. But this video reminded me of the ways that I can focus on being gentle to myself and developing my independence so that whenever I land in a new relationship, I’ve already loved myself enough and I can fully love my girlfriend/partner :) thanks Carrie, love you!!
These are fantastic reminders to build a healthy relationship with yourself and with someone else! I can tell you've taken the time to reflecting and growing! ❤️
Hi Carrie I’ve been watching you videos for well now just want say thank you , you’ve help me glow and be the best me I can be, I not in relationship at the moment I was in one a couple of years ago, it unfortunately ended, You videos have helped me a lot in past year. 💕
I love the way you think but there is no meaning in a relationship when you don't receive the same you give. I mean you can give an end receiving nothing and that's painful. Because there are so many ways to express love but some people just don't know how to. I quote Frida Kahlo fall in love with yourself, fall in love with life and then fall in love with whoever you want. Love what you do Carrie.
My partner does things that are unhealthy and also does things behind my back that robs from our intimacy. What about lines to draw for what should or shouldn't be done in a relationship. We have trust broken. What about when you have kids? Whats the priority wife and kids first before friends and such?
I loved this video, I really needed to hear the section where you discussed being at a point in the relationship when your partner is only able to receive love because I've been struggling with that recently. Thanks! :)
I'm in an old relationship rb and i am crying cause i just realized how dependent I am to him. I've depend everything in my life to him which is wrong. He even said to me that it's to love him too much and not loving myself. It hurts cause it's true. I hope i could find myself again.
1. You are the master of your own happiness. Briefly, your partner affects the way you feel but you have to realize on your own what things make you happy besides your partner. 2. Maintain a degree of space and independence. It helps you grow as an individual and having a personal relationship with yourself. Allot your free time to yourself. 3. Keep up with things that make you happy. There's a world outside of your relationship! 4. Be honest to your partner about everything that has to do with you. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in the relationship. Only do this when you know you are in a strong relationship that you feel will last a really long time. 5. Compromise + Compassion. When there's a good balance between what you're giving and receiving, it's a healthy relationship.
I love how you said you’re in control of your own happiness. When you’re single it’s hard at times not to wish that you had someone, but it’s so important to not put your entire expectations on another person, it’s so destructive!! Always love your self-reflection girl!!
I struggle with codependency. It sounds pathetic but I am scared to be more independent yet I want it sooooo bad. Working on this this year❤️ thank you for posting this
same. I came out of a two year with my partner being the codependant one and now in my current relationship where my partner is more independed, I am the codependent one. Working on loving myself more and more.
I definitely understand
My comment is about 4 years late, but as a fellow recovering codependent the book "Codependent No More" bu Melody Beatie as well as counselor Carl's series on UA-cam has been an immense help and I feel like I cope better these days. Goodluck on your journey friend!
I am in a new relationship, and I noticed that in the beginning I tend to depend on my partner to make my day, that I end up forgetting the things that I did before I was in a relationship. I understand that it is important not to lose yourself or depend on anyone to bring you happiness from my last relationship, and I really want the relationship that I am in now to be long-term so I am practicing on learning to find time for myself and to continue to do the things that I did before I was in a relationship.
I am dating for 3 years and before him I went single for a very long time. In that time, I'd learn to take care of myself and actually loved me. But lately I've been feel like I'm losing my true self and essence and it kinda affects my entire relationship. I think I've been dedicated to love this person so much that I just forget about loving me as well. Thank you for making this video!
My hubby and I will be celebrating 7 years of marriage this summer and I don’t think we would be as happy as we are without a lot of the things you mentioned, honesty, compassion, having space...great tips, Carrie!
I’m in a semi-new relationship, about 5 months in, and I’ve been feeling like I lost a part of myself because I’m so invested in this relationship. I’ve neglected my needs for meditation, yoga, things that all help me grow and it’s affected our relationship negatively. Thank you for this video - I’m going to implement this into my daily life. Sometimes you just need a reminder.
I’m in the same boat about 5 months in.
I’m single right now and I do hope I’ll be single for a long time ! I’ve been with an abusive person for too long and now it’s time to taking care of myself
I'm sorry for you!
I’m glad you got out! You deserve the best!!
I’m not personally in a relationship at the moment but this really interested me because, in my past relationships I’ve devoted my entire self to making the other person happy and in the end I lost myself.. was distant from friends and family and had to kind of rebuild...
you have no idea how much impact you are having on my life and my self love journey Carrie 💕 I’m so grateful that you take your knowledge and the time to sew into other people, you’re truly out of this world xx
I’ve been in a relationship for just over a year. It’s a really great relationship; we do a lot together but we also do a lot apart. It’s very different from my past relationships where I would have to devote all my time to the other person while receiving nothing in return. This video has shown me that it’s ok to do things apart from your relationship and things together in your relationship. You grow apart and you grow together. Time spent together is cherished more when you spend time apart. Thank you for this video, Carrie.
I love this video idea! I was just discussing this with my boyfriend, it is so important to take time to be independent and productive both with a partner and as an individual. I would love to share this with everyone I know who is in a relationship.. thank you for putting this out into the world ❤️
Hi, I would love for you to share. My fiancé and I are engaged, been together for 10 years. It isn't easy at all. At this very moment I am so upset because I feel like I spent my whole day catering to him, and when I cooked dinner tonight he complained first, before thanking me. I am so angry because I wasnt able to have any time to myself and make sure my cup is full too. I would love some advice on how to take care of me and also balance my relationship. Thank you❤
I desperately needed this video! I just started my first relationship and I truly care for him so much that I’ve lost touch with myself. Everything I do and say seems to revolve around him. So I thank you so much for this video because it inspires me to start giving back to myself and lean on God more ❤️ Your channel and self love talks have truly helped my life move in an even more positive direction, so I thank you for that. It’s like hearing advice from a big sister. Since I’m a big sis, I am constantly giving advice. But, sometimes I need advice too. I mean I’m almost 20 years old, but I still need perspective and guidance. Your videos Carrie have really helped me with that 😊 I hope your channel continues to thrive, God bless you 😊
I am in a long relationship, dating for almost 5 years. I am still learning so much about myself and our lives together. I find it really important to do the things you love as much as compromise. Great video Carrie! 😘😘💗💗 Your words are always so comforting.
I wish I found this video sooner, but I understand why I didn't find it because I was single 3 years ago 🤣
Anyways, for years I've been working on self-love and self-improvement. Back then, I wasn't insecure nor body conscious. I was happy with who I am and my flaws, then I met my boyfriend and I felt that I have to keep on being the perfect girl for him. I became so insecure, so body conscious, so jealous. Basically, what I taught myself for years got thrown out of the window. And I don't blame him. This is my second relationship and the healthy one so I have difficulty trusting that he'd love me if I am vulnerable or imperfect. Thank you for this video, I really need it
You just changed my perception on relationship. I have been going through a fragile time in my relationship, This is really what I wanted. Thank you 🙏🏻
Carrie I almost lost myself in my relationship with my boyfriend. I had to really stay self aware of what makes me happy. And some of that happiness is being with my close friends and maintaining me. I’m so grateful we both love our balance. Loved this video thank you for sharing ❤️
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Sometimes I wish your videos went on forever because they temporarily take the pain away from whatever I am going through while at the same time, you’re teaching me habits I can practice when I’m feeling vulnerable or low about myself ❤️
Your man is so lucky to have such an incredible, inspirational, independent woman like you. I can see you guys live your best life together and cherish every moment of it. thank you for all the tips and inspiration you’ve given. Your my role model and I strive to be like you, day by day. 💕🌸
This video came at an important time of my relationship. Thanks a lot for the tips. I loved the last part of the vid. ❤️❤️
Love that you incorporated this video in your self love series. It's easy to take care of yourself when you're single but not many discuss this topic when you're in a relationship/marriage. Thanks Carrie!
I am married and so happy because although my hubby and I are totally opposite in every way it's what keeps things fun, interesting, and challenging. The challenges definitely help us to grow closer together and fall in love with each other all over again! You guys are so cute btw!! 💕
I needed to hear this message. I work in helping professional that can be emotionally draining. On top of that, I’m in a relationship so it’s difficult to find time for myself. I recently got back into watercolor painting and it was exactly what I needed. Thanks, Carrie, for all your great videos!
I just got into a new relationship after being single for like 2 years and it is a hard balance! I like a lot of space and so does he, and sometimes i get worried like... is this okay? Because I do get this sense that people in relationships spend a lot of time together. But I think it’s whatever feels right to us. Thank you for sharing! 💖
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This was everything I needed in this exact moment! Thank you!
Thank you for this advice! I see that you published this video 4 years ago and uncoincidentally this day and time is when I came across it. I love the way the universe works! I want to thank you because I am currently 21 and I struggle with codependency in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years (high school sweathearts), and we've pretty much spent every waking day and night with each other. We're best friends and we love each other's company so much, but i'm also noticing the extreme codependency. I will take this advice and spend more time with myself so I can inspire him to do the same. It's going to be challenging, I know now that it will benefit in the long run. Thank you! I hope you read this!
So, I love this video. The part about compassion really stood out to me because I am in a new relationship, we’re casual right now but there’s definitely love there. I was giving while being aware he wasn’t able to reciprocate & for good reasons. I respect where he’s at in his life and in a sense I wanted to/would like to be like his rock. However, recently I was PMSing and also going through a REALLY tough time…one of the toughest. Yet I still would push myself a little to send him love. Simply because knowing that he appreciates my kindness and being aware of the chance that it might make him smile it makes me smile. However, I’m mortified by the emotional whiplash I gave him and feel like space for both of us could be really beneficial right now. That being said I’m also scared to let go bc I don’t want him to be sad that I’m not reaching out anymore…i’m addition, maybe this is the best move? he can reach out when he is mentally able to be present and then I’ll also most likely be in a better headspace and life space too. I’m in a good place right now but there’s a lot of work I need to do in my own life atm that I’ve been putting off. I’d love to know your thoughts. Thank you for this video.❤️
I really needed this, I've been feeling lost in my relationship and how I can do both (self discovery and passion for my other half). I've only realised I haven't discovered my fully, but I don't want to give up my relationship to do this. We have been together for nearly 7 years, I feel I need to push and stay strong but sometimes I struggle and feel myself pulling away. Nothing has been awful in my relationship. We have had ups and downs like all but we always got past it and grew stronger. I think what's tricky is that we are suddenly long distance after all this time together. But I don't believe God doesn't give you challenges he knows you can conqer. I'm going to find balance no matter what, he is worth fighting for while Im finding myself ♥️
Love this! I’m in a long term relationship and while we plan on getting married, I sometimes forget to put myself first. There is nothing wrong with that!
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This is awesome, thank you for this type of video because it is easy to loose ourselves in a relationship and I think it’s up to us to find our happiness and be in control even when we are in a relationship.💕
BE SINCERE AND GENUINE.
This was really helpful. Self love in a relationship is sometimes challenging
Trueee man
I am living with my mother and struggle a lot to get on with life. She is dependent on me most of the time and it cost me my job and my own self. I just started to explore self love after receiving some guidance on that and your video helped me a lot. However, I still cannot figure out how I can make some changes to be a bit independent of this at least a few hours without being under control and scrutiny, She does not do it purposely or to harm me, but that is her way and she is too old to change. I know I need to change and appreciate your guidance on how to get there. thank you very much for the video, information and motivation. Wold love to see more of this advice... Thank you!
It fascinates me how much my mental and physical health has improved since I started using the Forwago. And I was not even thinking that there is something to be improved lolll. Definitely more people should find out about this program.
I needed this in my relationship I have really like lost myself .. I’ve been in this relationship for 2 years now so it’s still fresh.. and where I go wrong is that I give my ALL to the relationship by shutting myself out from friends and not doing things as I’ve done when I were single.. to me it’s important to change your movements when your in a relationship but I have to remember not to CLING soo much .. so thank you for your INSPIRATION it’s very helpful for me .. now time to put it in the right order
wow that last part about knowing that you gave it your all even if it doesn’t last forever was exactly what I needed to hear. ended a long term relationship months ago and started a new one at the beginning of the year. It’s been a time of growth and a time of new beginnings. This was such a neat video and I think it’s very important to remind yourself daily that one person can’t control your happiness. It’s important to love ourselves first.
Thank you so much for this going through this rn learning how to be independent me again where I love myself. Bc of doing nothing for myself anymore and being dependent on my partner has caused us to be in a bad spot. I am terrified to care for myself bc of my anxiety and depression but I know I need to for the sake of me as this self hatred has affected all aspects of my life.
Your videos make me feel so much more confident in my own skin. I have been working on my codependency issues in my relationship and learning that it's okay to want what I want & be who I am on my own. My boyfriend often points out when I'm neglecting life outside of us and helps me see that it's important to prioritize that life too. Thank you for your videos; I love myself more every time I watch them
Hi Carrie! I'm in a long relationship and I think it's so important to maintain self-love time. Be a better version of me is a beautiful way to love better my boyfriend and anybody else. Love you
I'm glad you did a video on this, the topic has been on my mind a lot lately. I am in a newish relationship after not being in one for years. So, being even more of an adult now, I want to approach this new (and very important) part of my life with fresh eyes and a more maturity. I think you really said it all though, so its more about keeping these things at the forefront of your thoughts when making day to day decisions.
Watching this at the PERFECT time mainly from what you said in tip 1 about being afraid to leave a relationship because they make you happy.
We broke up in October but we're still talking (I'm weak and thought I could "be friends"). I've known for a month now I need to cut things off in order to heal from the breakup and I'm finally doing it this week. I'm making myself do it. I have to for myself. Taking this as a sign that I can do it ❤
I needed this. ❤️ I realised that being honest is self love. Letting my voice out is self-love.
You're absolutely radiant! I can watch this video without sound and still feel your warm smile through the camera. Love you carrie!!
really great video; its such an important topic! Thank you for sharing!
What you said is exactly why I'm here thank you
I haven’t finished this video but already I can’t thank you enough for posting this. ❤️.
Thank you for sharing your insights! I’m in a long term relationship that’s going through two major transitions at once- we moved in together and my partner started a new job right after. I’ve struggled to balance supporting his need to focus on this new role with also feeling that our relationship has taken a backseat. What you said about compassion being giving your all even when someone can’t give really resonated with me, and it is the mindset I am shifting to through this season of my relationship.
Preach, sista! This video was much needed. A lot of people need to hear this, because often, women usually ALWAYS lose themselves in a man, and it’s kind of sad.
I started following the Forwago workout sessions day after day and it hasn't just changed my body, but positively impacted my mental health and made me a new me..
Thanks for the suggestion!
This is great! I am currently in a new-ish relationship with one of my best friends of 7 years. He knows that I am very independent and practice self love constantly. However, he knows I have some trust issues based on my last relationship so he is very kind and patient with me constantly. We are currently do distance (California to Oregon) and everything that you mentioned I find very true.
Thank you so much for posting this, Carrie! I’ve been married for almost 3 years now and lately I’ve been struggling to remember who I am and what I enjoy, and it’s true that codependency can really wreck things. I’ve gone back to painting which I haven’t done for years and it makes me really happy now. Thanks for posting this - I really needed to hear this. 💕
“There was a human at the window” LOOOL😂😂😂
I heard Esther Perel say sth along these lines once: „In centuries before, we had a stable, almost unchanging community of friends and extended family to rely on. Our partners were just there for procreating. Today, as we have become more drawn to uncertainty and individualism, long-term relationships are rarely looked for. When we desire a relationship, our motive is „I‘ve been alone/isolated for so long, I really need an anchor“ and suddenly our partner needs to meet the expectations of being not only a partner, but an entire community. That‘s not healthy. To feel healthy, we need to take our ancestors as role models. Build a community of friends to chit-chat with, some for deep conversations, some for food etc. Then, your partner simply becomes someone you choose to write a story with.“
I think that struck a heavy chord with me and wanted to share it
Watching this at the right timing. Magic :)
You should post more about topics like these, this was really needed. Xoxo
I struggle with lying, to my other and you know it’s been a really bad habit and stuff and it’s just about dumb stuff and soo wrong for it and I’m trying to love myself, and learn that man I just need to be honest, and I’ve lied from the get go I made her think I was someone else when I wasn’t and idk if she’s gonna leave on not. I do not blame her but man I’m making a difference in my self and I honestly hope you can reply to my comment and help me out a little bit thank you.
I would say.... because honestly, I’m struggling with this with my boyfriend, I have much reason to believe he lied to me at one point and still may. - Honesty is truly the best policy. When you have to lie to cover up another lie... it becomes lies on top of lies, and one day it will come all crashing down. Sit down and have a serious discussion with her. Tell her you love her and that you want to be able to be completely honest with her, and that you messed up. Own up to your mistakes. I think she will appreciate that, especially if she’s a logical and sane woman. Good luck! ❤️
Thank you for uploading such a lovely video!!
This is such honest and authentic and just downright tried and true advice. And it’s vulnerable advice because so many people have no idea about these things until they start doing the work in relationship. I think this is a truly needed video for this world so thanks Carrie! 😘 love from down under in Oz!
I'm at a point in my life where I have expierienced a few relationship but now am single since like less than a year. I am free from any pain or heartbreak and am focusing a lot on myself especially education wise. Sometimes I go on dates.. also tried dating apps which I don't really like. I feel like my heart is open to meet someone new and compassionate as myself (maybe even "the one"?). But I feel like there is a wave going on with people not wanting to commit to anything right now. I'm in my early 20ties living in the capital of Switzerland. Would love to know how you guys are seeing this! :)
You are such a sweet person. God bless you.
Wow. I have been in my relationship with my bf for six years now and I am so glad you made this video. It has been really hard for me lately to be able to balance my bf, school, family and my own self care things, and do things I enjoy on my own.
I still live with family because I only have a a part time job and school full time, but that also means I need to spend time with my sisters and mother.
It gets really tough a lot of the time but have been trying to keep my head up and a schedule, but I always feel like I run out of time.
Anything you could recommend me doing?
Love the video by the way!! Thanks!! ☺️✌️💛
This was such a great video! It was empowering and the ending caught me off guard. Giving when a person just needs to receive, this was amazing! Thank you for that! Self love and selfless at the same time!
The one thing that really helped me to fall in love with myself and my life was Forwago. I can not believe how much happier person I am now than I was before. Please love yourself, it is one of the easiest ways to dramatically improve your life.
Amazing video! I definitely feel like I’m on the right path when it comes to the relationship with my lover. I love the end where your talking about compassion that part hit home for me because relationships aren’t just 50/50 it’s not a business deal it’s 100/100 and it’s good to know we both have a gave our best into our relationship as well as been able to stand by each other during our darkest moments. 💕
This was all I wanted at this time since I recently came into a relationship and sometimes I feel like I m loosing myself but hearing you it felt like I just need to have my own life too and trust this person that I m with . Thank you so much Carrie ,lots of love 💕💕
The way you love yourself is how others will show their love to you!
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Carrie Rad Thank you so much for this video, I just realized that I was loosing myself when I started a relationship and realized that I needed some time for myself to get back on the horse of the things I always love doing, this helps a lot, now I feel twice as better than before!!
Thank you! I'm so happy to hear this helped in some way.
Can you do one for long distance relationship
This is such a great video thank you!
Thank you for a sweet and gentle reminder such as this! Always being able to dive back into self love is important 💕 I am a newlywed and even having conversations about self love are important. My hubby like to remind me when I'm stressed I can do an at home spa night
Honesty is the best policy
I like the change in camera quality / filming style!! What's different?
Hey Carrie, I'm struggling with communication with my significant other and with myself honestly. Do you have any books that you would recommend to read that helps someone deal with communication issues, stress, confidence, and self-love?
Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is very helpful!
I love 💖 u so much and your videos are so inspiring 🙂
Such great advice! This video along with the empath video are your best! Thanks girl. xo
Great recommendations, thanks!! Also you two look like supermodels :D
I absolutely love your videos. You are so inspiring and give the most genuine advice. You are awesome and I love your content!
This video helped me so much. Thank you for sharing.
I'm literally taking notes, this was what I needed right now!
Love this video! We are totally in control of our happiness! I am a strong believer of that! 💖 P.s. where is your sweater from? I LOVE it!!!
This came at the best moment 💓 Thank you Carrie!!
I am married and this is some of the best advice ever!! :) Loved it Carrie!
Thanks a lot for this great video ❤️
Love love love love lovedddddd this video!! I’ve been wanting something like this from you. I’ve been really intentional this year to make more time for myself, to rekindle the love I have of spending time with myself by engaging in “old” creative hobbies. It’s been so lovely for me. I also feel like I’m able to give more compassion and healthy space for my partner of 4.5 years. We’ve had lots of ups and downs recently and I think it has to do with our trauma history. Something we’re also working on individually and together. I love this topic, cultivating a balance in relationships, the one with yourself and others. Youre speak so much love and wisdom into this topic. So very needed!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Carrie! I love this video and I love you! I want to say this as nicely as possible because you’re one of my favorite creators ever and I don’t want this to be mistaken as mean or critical - I just kind of feel like all your most recent videos have been exactly the same and it makes me sad because i really like when you do stuff that’s different and breaks the norm from other UA-cam creators. I love listening to you chat in front of the camera but it might be nice to switch it up and do another travel vlog or a cooking video or a collab or something. Just something to break the format of listing things and laying some b-roll over the top... but also I love you and will always watch and support you no matter what. I also might be the only person who feels this way, and I know you’re in the midst of creating a podcast so you probably are super busy with a million different things. I just wanted to offer some very friendly feedback as a fan :) anyway we love you and please keep making content for us no matter what it is!!
I am in love with your videos , i really liked your talk , btw you and alex are definitely the cutest couple i've ever seen 😍 god bless you guys , the world really needs someone who is as deep and passionate as you ❤
Wow - brilliant
I am so glad that you uploaded this video. And this came at such a critical time in my life. Many many thanks 😘❤❤
I loved this!! Definitely needed it; I’m in the place now where I’m not at all looking for a relationship, but I spent months being caught up in heartbreak and longing for a girlfriend. Once my second heartbreak type thing happened, I decided I was done with romance for a long time and just wanted to be on my own. I’ve felt very angry and cynical towards romance (for myself) which has felt sort of refreshing, but also a bit saddening that I reached that point of feeling so hurt and angry. But this video reminded me of the ways that I can focus on being gentle to myself and developing my independence so that whenever I land in a new relationship, I’ve already loved myself enough and I can fully love my girlfriend/partner :) thanks Carrie, love you!!
These are fantastic reminders to build a healthy relationship with yourself and with someone else! I can tell you've taken the time to reflecting and growing! ❤️
Hi Carrie I’ve been watching you videos for well now just want say thank you , you’ve help me glow and be the best me I can be, I not in relationship at the moment I was in one a couple of years ago, it unfortunately ended,
You videos have helped me a lot in past year. 💕
I really needed this today. Thank you Carrie
I love the way you think but there is no meaning in a relationship when you don't receive the same you give. I mean you can give an end receiving nothing and that's painful. Because there are so many ways to express love but some people just don't know how to. I quote Frida Kahlo fall in love with yourself, fall in love with life and then fall in love with whoever you want. Love what you do Carrie.
My partner does things that are unhealthy and also does things behind my back that robs from our intimacy. What about lines to draw for what should or shouldn't be done in a relationship. We have trust broken. What about when you have kids? Whats the priority wife and kids first before friends and such?
I loved this video, I really needed to hear the section where you discussed being at a point in the relationship when your partner is only able to receive love because I've been struggling with that recently. Thanks! :)
i needed that video sooo much, thanks
Live life from the inside out
Thank you! Thank you! This is what i really needed today 😍
I'm in an old relationship rb and i am crying cause i just realized how dependent I am to him. I've depend everything in my life to him which is wrong. He even said to me that it's to love him too much and not loving myself. It hurts cause it's true. I hope i could find myself again.
Thanks I needed this video
Hey u r such a nice n genuine person...
I totally agree with what you said!❤
1. You are the master of your own happiness. Briefly, your partner affects the way you feel but you have to realize on your own what things make you happy besides your partner.
2. Maintain a degree of space and independence. It helps you grow as an individual and having a personal relationship with yourself. Allot your free time to yourself.
3. Keep up with things that make you happy. There's a world outside of your relationship!
4. Be honest to your partner about everything that has to do with you. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in the relationship. Only do this when you know you are in a strong relationship that you feel will last a really long time.
5. Compromise + Compassion. When there's a good balance between what you're giving and receiving, it's a healthy relationship.
Really needed this right now. Thank you! ❤️✨