Being a widower is no better. In fact I think it is worse for the men with their emotionally withdrawn ways. Once in a lifetime is once too much. Pure Hell.
When the Lord was taking me through a process of trusting in Him instead of my wealth, I was broken one night as I had tried everything to get God to respond to my situation. I was about to lose my home, I had no money and even providing food for my children was getting difficult. As a Christian I pulled all the tricks out of my bag…I “blabed it grabbed it, I “Jericho marched” around my bills, you name it. Finally when nothing I tried worked, I was broken in prayer on the floor and the Lord spoke to me. He said: “You have done everything using your faith. Now I am going to give you My faith”. I rose from the floor with a complete peace and security the God was going to take care of it. My circumstances did not change, but He gave me the ability to handle the circumstances. He also showed me that I had faith, in My own faith. I needed the faith that could only come from Him.
I just thought I'd add something from the husband whose wife dies. I was married to the most wonderful woman on July 7th, 1973. In mid February 2015 she had a heart attack. To my amazement they admitted her. We'd been married 41 1/2 years. She was transported from one hospital to another so the surgeon could get a 3D image of her heart. My daughter came down and it was harder for her. She acted as my chauffeur. We found out that my wife needed a triple bypass and a valve replacement, but we kept coming and visiting. The Holy Spirit was truly with me during this time. I thought I was going to totally break down, but that's not what happened. The surgery went fine, but she caught pneumonia and that hospital wasn't equipped to deal with that, so she was transported to another hospital, this one closer to my parents, which was a blessing in many ways. (My dad would die the following year and my mom the year after that. God had everything planned out) At one point visiting my wife, a nurse came in all joyful saying the doctor gave them the thumbs up to take her breathing tube out of her throat. We were shushed out of the room for a few minutes so they could do this. By now my son, flew in from Dallas. This was our family of 4. My wife asked to be seated up more, and they helped her, which was another blessing, because it had a light covering of snow. Then her face flushed and she motioned for use to leave. I asked if she wanted us to leave so she could rest and she nodded her head. So I started to gather my things and she grabbed my wrist. When I turned back to face her she made praying hands. I asked if she wanted us to pray for her before we left? She nodded. So I held her hand, my son placed his hand on her right shoulder, and my daughter touched her left ankle, and there we prayed. We said goodbye fully expecting to see her the following day. Around 3AM my daughter received a call on her cellphone from the hospital that my wife passed. We went to pick up her things, and they wouldn't give them to me, but they gave them to my daughter. I realized I had leaned on her too much, and now that she was gone I was going to have to learn to lean on Jesus. Without anyone trying to console me the Holy Spirit began bringing to mind Scripture, "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. All that awaits me now is the crown of righteousness which the Lord, “the Righteous Judge,” will award to me on that Day - and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for him to appear." (2nd Timothy 4:7-8) I mentioned the second to my daughter and she said, "I guess He has a different race for us." My wife celebrated Christmas all year 'round. She would literally wake up the day after Christmas and say, "Well, only 365 days 'till Christmas." That October I realized that in 42 years this would be the first one without her, so I wrote a short story called "Home." Shortly after that, remembering that she said she once had an extremely heavy blood flow during her period and think she lost a child, I wrote a 2nd short story called, "Hi Mom!" I have not grieved as some do, because God has blessed me with good family and good church family. Also, if I grieve, especially now, it would be for me, not for her. But because I love her (still do) I thank God He took her home before this world went crazy.
Thank you for sharing. Our family of five lost my 31 year old brother in January. This will be our first Christmas without him. Thank you for your encouragement. This grief journey is so hard.
@@nmbrown4076 I am so sorry, but in all my life I've learned that the way out is not by some escapist trick, but by going through the pain is a process God uses to make us grow. Cry, grieve whatever way you feel led, but know that God has a plan for you and it involves this loss. Just as gold and silver are purified in the fire, so does God put us through the fires to make us strong in Him. May our Heavenly Father grant you peace and comfort, and may you and the family see the blessings of God begin to take root in all this.
@@dianaphilip3600 Being in a place where I lost the love of my life, I could hardly not share. This past July my daughter, the Pastor's wife and I scattered my wife's ashes over the garden at the pastor's house where she spent many a morning drinking tea and talking to the pastor's wife. I think that's the last earthly chapter for her. I can hardly wait to be reunited with my Lord and many of my family who have trusted in Him and have passed on to their eternal home.
@@nmbrown4076 Was he a Christian? If he was, he's standing right next to Jesus, once the "babe in the manger." Celebrate Christmas WITH him, therefore, even if he is not with you, because he is with the Lord, the One you will be with one day, ask shall all God's children. i do understand the sorrow you feel, but while here even friends and family are saying, "Sorry for your loss," where he is the Living Creatures a saying, "Holy, holy, holy, Lord God Almighty,’ who was, and is, and is to come," and the 24 elders saying “You are worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honor and power; for You have created all things, and by Your will they exist and were created.” There was a scroll that no one could open, yet the Lion of the Tribe of Judah prevailed and when the scroll was given to him the beasts and the 24 elders sang a new song, “You are worthy to take the scroll, and to open its seals; for You were slain, and have redeemed us to God by Your blood out of every tribe and tongue and people and nation, and have made us kings and priests unto our God; and we shall reign on the earth.” A;though I would like to look down upon those I leave behind when my time comes I think I will be too busy praising the Lord For He took this worthless lump of clay and redeemed it with His own blood. I assure you if your brother was a Christian he is happier than he has ever been and God will see to it his family is cared for.
My friend, aged 54, had major surgery. A 5 hour operation. She woke to a friend telling her that during the op her husband had suffered a stroke and was brain dead. He died a few days later. My friend, a woman of great love for the Lord, and strong faith immediately said that she was going to face it all head on. She did. She spoke at the funeral whilst in a wheel chair. Walked her daughter down the aisle. Nothing was easy. But with Him and in Him she is doing great.
Im 41 and have been a widow twice. Im really uninterested in romantic love again, already been blessed with two amazing ones. My life is the Lords its peaceful here
I wish I would of seen this when I lost my mom and gram mother , nine months apart. I was there caregiver and both of them died in my arms. Such a beautiful testimony, thanks so much!!!
May the love and peace of our Lord be upon all of you. Your testimonies will go far and wide, and although you may think you said but a little thing, there is someone out here who needed to hear that word. Stay rooted in God's Word and pray often.
Yes, it's true! I lost my husband last year on Thanksgiving morning. The grief is so intense that you feel like you're going to come apart. But in the most excruciating pain, I lifted my eyes to heaven and said, "God, I trust you." And then it's like I could see my husband in heaven, with peace, perfect beauty, and eternal life, never to suffer again. At that moment the tears of pain turned into tears of laughter and joy! Jesus has promised that those who believe in Him will never die. From our perspective, our loved ones have died and are no longer living. But from God's perspective, they are more alive than ever, in His presence, if they have trusted in Jesus for everlasting life.
I just lost my second husband, I suffered 14 years with the first loss. This time it will be different because a woman gave me a secret, give honor and glory to God.
Ever since I was a teenager, widowhood has been my worst fear.I couldn't imagine finally loving a man when I grew up, only to have him ripped from my life. I'm 60 now. I'll always be single. I don't have this widow's wisdom.I'm going to read her book.
Losing a loved one is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know, and the journey of grief can feel especially isolating if you're facing it without the immediate support of family. If you're feeling alone in your grief, I want you to know that your feelings are seen and deeply understood, not only by those around you but also by God Himself. "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). This verse reminds us that in our deepest loneliness and pain, God is right there with us. In these times, it can be helpful to reach out to a community that can offer support and companionship. This could be a local church, a support group for those who have lost loved ones, or even engaging with online communities where you can share your experience. While they may not replace family, these communities can offer a sense of belonging and understanding that is so crucial during times of grief. Remember, Jesus demonstrated throughout His time on earth a special care for those who were lonely, hurting, or marginalized. He sought out those who society had often overlooked. You are not overlooked by God. He sees you, He knows your pain, and He loves you deeply. Prayer can also be a source of comfort, allowing you to communicate your feelings of loss, loneliness, and desire for comfort directly with God. If you're struggling to find the words, simply sit in silence and allow God's love to surround you. If you're feeling this way, please don't hesitate to reach out for help. Along with finding a supportive community, speaking with a counselor or a pastor can provide comfort and guidance. And remember, our prayer line is always open to you at 1-866-273-4444. You're not alone, and there are people who want to walk alongside you through this season of grief.
I was always thankful and aware of many gifts. But I hate hope-- it has let me down so many times. It is a destroyer. I stayed in relationships too long in the hopes he would see what he was doing to us. I had hope that pets would get better, that my brother would survive. It is not going to get me out of the grief of the loss of a 45 year marriage.. I have to move forward for children and grands who count on me but it won't be in hope. What am I to hope for?
I lost my husband last year on Thanksgiving morning. The grief is so intense that you feel like you're going to come apart. But in the most excruciating pain, I lifted my eyes to heaven and said, "God, I trust you." And then it's like I could see my husband in heaven, with peace, perfect beauty, and eternal life, never to suffer again. At that moment the tears of pain turned into tears of laughter and joy! Jesus has promised that those who believe in Him will never die. From our perspective, our loved ones have died and are no longer living. But from God's perspective, they are more alive than ever, in His presence, if they have trusted in Jesus for everlasting life. And you are never alone. If your husband was a believer, he is now among the great cloud of witness and he is cheering you on to run your race with strength, faith and obedience to God's call on your life.
@sarahargrave1 thank you we are believers..God loves me and has carried me this whole time I know I just miss my husband so much my kids don't want talk about him. I've tried putting it at God's feet but I still feel my heart broke. I know he's a Angel he's not on life support or ever going hurt ever again I just can't hang onto it..I try see good memories and I do but then sadness and loneliness hits again. Please pray I find peace like you have and can live without sadness
Becoming a widow is awful. I never want to go through this again. 😢
Being a widower is no better. In fact I think it is worse for the men with their emotionally withdrawn ways. Once in a lifetime is once too much. Pure Hell.
Yes, I became a Widow 2 months ago 💔😭🙏
When the Lord was taking me through a process of trusting in Him instead of my wealth, I was broken one night as I had tried everything to get God to respond to my situation. I was about to lose my home, I had no money and even providing food for my children was getting difficult. As a Christian I pulled all the tricks out of my bag…I “blabed it grabbed it, I “Jericho marched” around my bills, you name it.
Finally when nothing I tried worked, I was broken in prayer on the floor and the Lord spoke to me. He said: “You have done everything using your faith. Now I am going to give you My faith”. I rose from the floor with a complete peace and security the God was going to take care of it. My circumstances did not change, but He gave me the ability to handle the circumstances. He also showed me that I had faith, in My own faith. I needed the faith that could only come from Him.
I just thought I'd add something from the husband whose wife dies. I was married to the most wonderful woman on July 7th, 1973. In mid February 2015 she had a heart attack. To my amazement they admitted her. We'd been married 41 1/2 years. She was transported from one hospital to another so the surgeon could get a 3D image of her heart. My daughter came down and it was harder for her. She acted as my chauffeur. We found out that my wife needed a triple bypass and a valve replacement, but we kept coming and visiting. The Holy Spirit was truly with me during this time. I thought I was going to totally break down, but that's not what happened. The surgery went fine, but she caught pneumonia and that hospital wasn't equipped to deal with that, so she was transported to another hospital, this one closer to my parents, which was a blessing in many ways. (My dad would die the following year and my mom the year after that. God had everything planned out) At one point visiting my wife, a nurse came in all joyful saying the doctor gave them the thumbs up to take her breathing tube out of her throat. We were shushed out of the room for a few minutes so they could do this. By now my son, flew in from Dallas. This was our family of 4. My wife asked to be seated up more, and they helped her, which was another blessing, because it had a light covering of snow. Then her face flushed and she motioned for use to leave. I asked if she wanted us to leave so she could rest and she nodded her head. So I started to gather my things and she grabbed my wrist. When I turned back to face her she made praying hands. I asked if she wanted us to pray for her before we left? She nodded. So I held her hand, my son placed his hand on her right shoulder, and my daughter touched her left ankle, and there we prayed. We said goodbye fully expecting to see her the following day. Around 3AM my daughter received a call on her cellphone from the hospital that my wife passed. We went to pick up her things, and they wouldn't give them to me, but they gave them to my daughter. I realized I had leaned on her too much, and now that she was gone I was going to have to learn to lean on Jesus. Without anyone trying to console me the Holy Spirit began bringing to mind Scripture, "I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. All that awaits me now is the crown of righteousness which the Lord, “the Righteous Judge,” will award to me on that Day - and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for him to appear." (2nd Timothy 4:7-8) I mentioned the second to my daughter and she said, "I guess He has a different race for us." My wife celebrated Christmas all year 'round. She would literally wake up the day after Christmas and say, "Well, only 365 days 'till Christmas." That October I realized that in 42 years this would be the first one without her, so I wrote a short story called "Home." Shortly after that, remembering that she said she once had an extremely heavy blood flow during her period and think she lost a child, I wrote a 2nd short story called, "Hi Mom!" I have not grieved as some do, because God has blessed me with good family and good church family. Also, if I grieve, especially now, it would be for me, not for her. But because I love her (still do) I thank God He took her home before this world went crazy.
Thank you for sharing. Our family of five lost my 31 year old brother in January. This will be our first Christmas without him. Thank you for your encouragement. This grief journey is so hard.
@@nmbrown4076 I am so sorry, but in all my life I've learned that the way out is not by some escapist trick, but by going through the pain is a process God uses to make us grow. Cry, grieve whatever way you feel led, but know that God has a plan for you and it involves this loss. Just as gold and silver are purified in the fire, so does God put us through the fires to make us strong in Him. May our Heavenly Father grant you peace and comfort, and may you and the family see the blessings of God begin to take root in all this.
Thank you for sharing.
@@dianaphilip3600 Being in a place where I lost the love of my life, I could hardly not share. This past July my daughter, the Pastor's wife and I scattered my wife's ashes over the garden at the pastor's house where she spent many a morning drinking tea and talking to the pastor's wife. I think that's the last earthly chapter for her. I can hardly wait to be reunited with my Lord and many of my family who have trusted in Him and have passed on to their eternal home.
@@nmbrown4076 Was he a Christian? If he was, he's standing right next to Jesus, once the "babe in the manger." Celebrate Christmas WITH him, therefore, even if he is not with you, because he is with the Lord, the One you will be with one day, ask shall all God's children. i do understand the sorrow you feel, but while here even friends and family are saying, "Sorry for your loss," where he is the Living Creatures a saying, "Holy, holy, holy, Lord God Almighty,’ who was, and is, and is to come," and the 24 elders saying “You are worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honor and power; for You have created all things, and by Your will they exist and were created.” There was a scroll that no one could open, yet the Lion of the Tribe of Judah prevailed and when the scroll was given to him the beasts and the 24 elders sang a new song, “You are worthy to take the scroll, and to open its seals; for You were slain, and have redeemed us to God by Your blood out of every tribe and tongue and people and nation,
and have made us kings and priests unto our God; and we shall reign on the earth.”
A;though I would like to look down upon those I leave behind when my time comes I think I will be too busy praising the Lord For He took this worthless lump of clay and redeemed it with His own blood. I assure you if your brother was a Christian he is happier than he has ever been and God will see to it his family is cared for.
My husband passed away almost two years ago. The thought of starting over without him is horrible.
My friend, aged 54, had major surgery. A 5 hour operation. She woke to a friend telling her that during the op her husband had suffered a stroke and was brain dead. He died a few days later. My friend, a woman of great love for the Lord, and strong faith immediately said that she was going to face it all head on. She did. She spoke at the funeral whilst in a wheel chair. Walked her daughter down the aisle. Nothing was easy. But with Him and in Him she is doing great.
Your friend has more courage and resilience than I ever will! May her God continue to bless and strengthen her always.
What a remarkable woman. I am simply in awe of her strength.
My Greatest Comfort was The Lord
became my husband. I learned to
roll my cares over on Him and
recite Psalm 139: 17.
Thank you for this encouragement. It has been two years, twice widowed, today is rough. The Lord is my Shepherd.....thank you.
Im 41 and have been a widow twice. Im really uninterested in romantic love again,
already been blessed with two amazing ones. My life is the Lords its peaceful here
I wish I would of seen this when I lost my mom and gram mother , nine months apart. I was there caregiver and both of them died in my arms. Such a beautiful testimony, thanks so much!!!
SEEK THE LORD AND HIS STRENGTH , SEEK HIS FACE CONTINUALLY . 1 CHRONICLES 16 : 11 KJV
May the love and peace of our Lord be upon all of you. Your testimonies will go far and wide, and although you may think you said but a little thing, there is someone out here who needed to hear that word. Stay rooted in God's Word and pray often.
Grief and joy can coexist 😭😭😭
Yes, it's true! I lost my husband last year on Thanksgiving morning. The grief is so intense that you feel like you're going to come apart. But in the most excruciating pain, I lifted my eyes to heaven and said, "God, I trust you." And then it's like I could see my husband in heaven, with peace, perfect beauty, and eternal life, never to suffer again. At that moment the tears of pain turned into tears of laughter and joy! Jesus has promised that those who believe in Him will never die. From our perspective, our loved ones have died and are no longer living. But from God's perspective, they are more alive than ever, in His presence, if they have trusted in Jesus for everlasting life.
Praise Jesus. Believes have a hope that keeps us going.
Wow a wonderful conversation.. Thanks for sharing
I just lost my second husband, I suffered 14 years with the first loss. This time it will be different because a woman gave me a secret, give honor and glory to God.
Prayers 🙏
Thank you for this. Peace and hope is with me. Thank you God.
Halleluya for the Encouragement which brings joy and hope again
This conversation has been so helpful, thank you. I needed to hear this.
Amen 😇✝️❤️
Ever since I was a teenager, widowhood has been my worst fear.I couldn't imagine finally loving a man when I grew up, only to have him ripped from my life. I'm 60 now. I'll always be single.
I don't have this widow's wisdom.I'm going to read her book.
Soon it will be 3 years a widow for me 💔🙏
This encouraged me a lot thank you
Speak so God's angels know your will. God sends His angels, use you're voice to speak God's words into your life 🙏
I'm walking in this darkness of the death valley
Me too. May the Lord uplift and keep you.
Please pray food provision grocery needs daily essential needs for the widow's family's.
Pray monthly support for 100 of widows family food provision. Need blessed righteous and generous heart's people for this reggural sponsorships 👍❤️
This lady had family to comfort her. What about people left alone after death who have no family?
Losing a loved one is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know, and the journey of grief can feel especially isolating if you're facing it without the immediate support of family. If you're feeling alone in your grief, I want you to know that your feelings are seen and deeply understood, not only by those around you but also by God Himself. "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). This verse reminds us that in our deepest loneliness and pain, God is right there with us.
In these times, it can be helpful to reach out to a community that can offer support and companionship. This could be a local church, a support group for those who have lost loved ones, or even engaging with online communities where you can share your experience. While they may not replace family, these communities can offer a sense of belonging and understanding that is so crucial during times of grief.
Remember, Jesus demonstrated throughout His time on earth a special care for those who were lonely, hurting, or marginalized. He sought out those who society had often overlooked. You are not overlooked by God. He sees you, He knows your pain, and He loves you deeply.
Prayer can also be a source of comfort, allowing you to communicate your feelings of loss, loneliness, and desire for comfort directly with God. If you're struggling to find the words, simply sit in silence and allow God's love to surround you.
If you're feeling this way, please don't hesitate to reach out for help. Along with finding a supportive community, speaking with a counselor or a pastor can provide comfort and guidance. And remember, our prayer line is always open to you at 1-866-273-4444. You're not alone, and there are people who want to walk alongside you through this season of grief.
I was always thankful and aware of many gifts. But I hate hope-- it has let me down so many times. It is a destroyer. I stayed in relationships too long in the hopes he would see what he was doing to us. I had hope that pets would get better, that my brother would survive. It is not going to get me out of the grief of the loss of a 45 year marriage.. I have to move forward for children and grands who count on me but it won't be in hope. What am I to hope for?
Healing. ❤️🙏And a better future.
Two? That is vile.
I am so sorry.
But what if your family don't want to talk about it because it hurts them also..I lost my husband of 45yrs and I'm lost
I lost my husband last year on Thanksgiving morning. The grief is so intense that you feel like you're going to come apart. But in the most excruciating pain, I lifted my eyes to heaven and said, "God, I trust you." And then it's like I could see my husband in heaven, with peace, perfect beauty, and eternal life, never to suffer again. At that moment the tears of pain turned into tears of laughter and joy! Jesus has promised that those who believe in Him will never die. From our perspective, our loved ones have died and are no longer living. But from God's perspective, they are more alive than ever, in His presence, if they have trusted in Jesus for everlasting life.
And you are never alone. If your husband was a believer, he is now among the great cloud of witness and he is cheering you on to run your race with strength, faith and obedience to God's call on your life.
@sarahargrave1 thank you we are believers..God loves me and has carried me this whole time I know I just miss my husband so much my kids don't want talk about him. I've tried putting it at God's feet but I still feel my heart broke. I know he's a Angel he's not on life support or ever going hurt ever again I just can't hang onto it..I try see good memories and I do but then sadness and loneliness hits again. Please pray I find peace like you have and can live without sadness
🤗🫂
Remind me never marry this woman ,,,,joke,,, God Bless her Amen.
😁 I was thinking that.. I know a woman 3 time widowed, she doesn't mind to marry again I told her noooooo more 😁
❤😂
I really don’t think she had anything to do with their deaths…