She needs to call her lawyer and demand full custody with child support. His weekly harassment would be enough for a judge to give him supervised visitations. Op is already covering 100% of their needs and ex only needs to feed them when they’re with him. I’m concerned about the daily harassment the kids are getting from their father. That they must share everything. Is dad loaning their clothes to his younger ones when they’re there? Do they go hungry? Idk but his weekly assaults on her character would have me demanding full custody.
This guy is nuts. He is not married to this lady. She is not responsible for his three kids. She does not have to buy them clothes or a $2000 birthday present. She owes him nothing. OMG. Stop answering the phone.
Doesn't this guy understand HE should be paying 50% of his kids winter clothes and his other kids mothers should be paying 50% of their kids clothes. So he actually owes her money!
This reminds me of two incidents 1) my dad's ex prior to my mom. His ex wrote him mentioning the shoes sizes of ALL of her children and her niece, only 2 of her children were his. Idk what the deal with the niece was. 2) A gf of relative on our second encounter made a point to look directly at me to tell me the date her grandson's first birthday (who I met for the first time that same evening), which was a couple months away. My mom was there and don't understand wtf that was about, until later on when I explain to her that the gf expected me to buy her grandkid a bday present because a recent small windfall I received at the time. Mom was disgusted.
NTA. You coparent 2 children. The rest are not your problem. He wanted children now he must step up. Document everything and go back to court. He's a moocher expecting you to carry him forever. Detail every one of his proposals to the court and have sole custody of your children with him on child support and a RO for good measure.
This is why all communications should be done via text or a lawyer. Document everything. Op doesn't need such harassment. Op need to sue for full custody.
Wouldn't have been the whole story if they told it in five minutes, the repeating isn't their fault it's the ex husbands for going round and round in circles about HIS OWN RESPONSIBILITIES. Yes It repeats a few times but that's because that's part of what happened really it's just showing the exs entitlement as she said no and explained his kids are not her responsibility and he repeatedly tried to manipulate and guilt trip her into paying for everyone because he can't give his other kids as good of a life as she's giving those 2. MAYBE DONT HAVE 5 KIDS THEN!! Anyways my point is the repeating was necessary as part of the story and showing how entitled her ex husband was continuing to being it up MULTIPLE times after she said no and explained why that was ridiculous
The OP's 11 and 12 year sons might not even like living with her ex and his second wife plus the other three kids 50% of the time. Obviously, he's only doing that so he can avoid paying child support. The kids have to be 12yrs old in some states to decide which parent they want to live with. OP should seriously consider consulting a lawyer about the ex's harassment and attempts to guilt op into subsidizing his other 3 kids wants and needs. The ex is very immature and entitled & this will never change. She and her boys should consider going for full custody with the option to move out of state. Only then they can move across a couple of state lines. Kudos to her for standing firm in her good judgment to only support her own children.
If an ex trys to make you pay, more because they had more kids, or married someone with kids get a laywer and make sure your only paying for your own. As the court original decided.
He’s trying to play crazy. Tell him he better work it out. Two kids, and two kids only. The others deserve support-from him and their mothers. But not you. No joint shopping. And stop asking cause you don’t share his theory. He just wants you to supplement his financial responsibility to his other children. Tell him he better get a second or third job. He must be a comedienne.
AI generated stories. These stories don't even need 5 minutes to cover the whole story, but the AI is pretty good at filling the story with a lot of nonsense irrelevant to the story.
If you want to help fine but if you do help he will come to expect it all the time. Your best bet is to stick to taking care of your 2 kids and let him deal with his. His other 3 are not your responsibility.
Where's the law in this story? Aren't Americans looooooove to involve lawyers and judges? Why not renegotiate custody? Or set up boundaries? Or just fight back?
No, Americans do NOT just love to get lawyers involved. Lawyers cost money and lawsuits are not cheap. Plus there is that misguided notion that everything should be handled "within the family" instead of the courts. This is shorthand for saying, "let me screw you over by convincing you that a legally binding judgment will somehow he hurtful to the non-custodial parent". Yeah, no. Get that sh*t court ordered from the beginning.
Yeah right We are a big family and it’s only OP’s responsibility for providing for this big family, OP if you are reading this, tell your ex you will go for the full custody of your kids so that his poor kids didn’t have to face all this emotional trauma of seeing their step siblings in good clothes and other privileged items because their useless and crappy father is extremely irresponsible to provide for them, OP if you want to keep your mental peace intact than tell him strictly that from now on any talk between you too will be only about your two kids and not about his remaining kids and that too through a coparenting app, I am actually not understanding how you are maintaining your composure with all his nonsense talks and demands
😅🤣😂When I was younger I would have agreed without question, but I have lived long enough to learn that it is not a matter of race but of socialization.
As someone who had bitter fighting parents please never do this. I had toys I had to leave at dad’s house and separate stuff for mom’s house. It was awful.
These stories are so fake, no woman or man would put up with this nonsense! If you are a doormat for an ex then that's your own problem so go out and buy yourself a spine. Jeez. Do better with these stories and pay someone to read them.
The moment I heard the words "Cautiously Optimistic", I said fcuk it, another AI generated story. Fake automated AI generated stories, always use these words, phrases, and sentences. *_Tumultuous, Palpable, Navigating, Challenges, Therapist, Counselling, Rollercoaster,_* *_Don't know what the future holds / Unexpected turn / One day at a time / A lot has happened / Do it for Dan / For the first time in a long time / but the curiosity got the best of me / the journey had been arduous / this new chapter in my life / your words have been a source of strength during this difficult time / part of me / for the first time in years / this whole experience is an eye-opening / cautiously optimistic_*
She needs to call her lawyer and demand full custody with child support. His weekly harassment would be enough for a judge to give him supervised visitations. Op is already covering 100% of their needs and ex only needs to feed them when they’re with him.
I’m concerned about the daily harassment the kids are getting from their father. That they must share everything. Is dad loaning their clothes to his younger ones when they’re there? Do they go hungry? Idk but his weekly assaults on her character would have me demanding full custody.
Time to revisit the lawyer.
This guy is nuts. He is not married to this lady. She is not responsible for his three kids. She does not have to buy them clothes or a $2000 birthday present. She owes him nothing. OMG. Stop answering the phone.
Doesn't this guy understand HE should be paying 50% of his kids winter clothes and his other kids mothers should be paying 50% of their kids clothes. So he actually owes her money!
It appears not.
This woman is an idiot
OP is a mom to her 2 kids, the ex is narcissistic and OP should visit the lawyer and get fully custody instead.
SAYS THE GUY THAT CANNOT EVEN SUPPLY HIS OWN CHILDREN WITH WINTER. CLOTHES
NTA. Tell ex-husband to man up and get a 2nd job to support his own responsibility. The ex-husband is a complete joke and a so-called father.
Record his calls and conversations, sue for full custody.
Instead of listening, hang up, close the door or just don't answer the phone. As soon as he starts, just say NO or tell him to call your lawyer.
This reminds me of two incidents 1) my dad's ex prior to my mom. His ex wrote him mentioning the shoes sizes of ALL of her children and her niece, only 2 of her children were his. Idk what the deal with the niece was.
2) A gf of relative on our second encounter made a point to look directly at me to tell me the date her grandson's first birthday (who I met for the first time that same evening), which was a couple months away. My mom was there and don't understand wtf that was about, until later on when I explain to her that the gf expected me to buy her grandkid a bday present because a recent small windfall I received at the time. Mom was disgusted.
NTA. You coparent 2 children. The rest are not your problem. He wanted children now he must step up. Document everything and go back to court. He's a moocher expecting you to carry him forever. Detail every one of his proposals to the court and have sole custody of your children with him on child support and a RO for good measure.
When OP made the statement that ex wasn't going to see her side? No. He saw it perfectly. He was just trying to play her for money.
Once a bum, always a bum
This is why all communications should be done via text or a lawyer. Document everything. Op doesn't need such harassment. Op need to sue for full custody.
Take him to court for full custody. He can't afford his kids why let him make your boys feel like shit and yes that whole family will
DEFINITELY NOT ALL IN THIS TOGETHER ! HELL OF FUNNY
It’s time for family court. The ex will be quite surprised at the result.
OP should bill the ex for $4,000 for gifts for each of his OWN kids. After all, they ARE his and (by his own “logic”) he is responsible.
A story that could have been told in 5 minutes if you take out all the repetition.
Wouldn't have been the whole story if they told it in five minutes, the repeating isn't their fault it's the ex husbands for going round and round in circles about HIS OWN RESPONSIBILITIES. Yes It repeats a few times but that's because that's part of what happened really it's just showing the exs entitlement as she said no and explained his kids are not her responsibility and he repeatedly tried to manipulate and guilt trip her into paying for everyone because he can't give his other kids as good of a life as she's giving those 2. MAYBE DONT HAVE 5 KIDS THEN!! Anyways my point is the repeating was necessary as part of the story and showing how entitled her ex husband was continuing to being it up MULTIPLE times after she said no and explained why that was ridiculous
ASK HIM FOR. HALF OF PRICE FOR. THEIR. WINTER COATS AND. WINTER CLOTHES
The OP's 11 and 12 year sons might not even like living with her ex and his second wife plus the other three kids 50% of the time. Obviously, he's only doing that so he can avoid paying child support. The kids have to be 12yrs old in some states to decide which parent they want to live with. OP should seriously consider consulting a lawyer about the ex's harassment and attempts to guilt op into subsidizing his other 3 kids wants and needs. The ex is very immature and entitled & this will never change. She and her boys should consider going for full custody with the option to move out of state. Only then they can move across a couple of state lines. Kudos to her for standing firm in her good judgment to only support her own children.
If an ex trys to make you pay, more because they had more kids, or married someone with kids get a laywer and make sure your only paying for your own. As the court original decided.
What an absurd individual! No wonder you divorced him!
He’s trying to play crazy. Tell him he better work it out. Two kids, and two kids only. The others deserve support-from him and their mothers. But not you. No joint shopping. And stop asking cause you don’t share his theory. He just wants you to supplement his financial responsibility to his other children. Tell him he better get a second or third job. He must be a comedienne.
If she has full custody why would she give him their kids school supplies?
All this stories make me mad because of the inaction of the women why they too long to put stop to their demands
AI generated stories. These stories don't even need 5 minutes to cover the whole story, but the AI is pretty good at filling the story with a lot of nonsense irrelevant to the story.
If you want to help fine but if you do help he will come to expect it all the time. Your best bet is to stick to taking care of your 2 kids and let him deal with his. His other 3 are not your responsibility.
Where's the law in this story? Aren't Americans looooooove to involve lawyers and judges? Why not renegotiate custody? Or set up boundaries? Or just fight back?
No, Americans do NOT just love to get lawyers involved. Lawyers cost money and lawsuits are not cheap. Plus there is that misguided notion that everything should be handled "within the family" instead of the courts. This is shorthand for saying, "let me screw you over by convincing you that a legally binding judgment will somehow he hurtful to the non-custodial parent". Yeah, no. Get that sh*t court ordered from the beginning.
TAKE PICTURES OF EVERYTHING THE ///. YOUR CHILDREN TAKE OVER HIS HOUSE
This story is incredibly repetitive. Could be cut in half.
This is one of my favorites voices. AI not AI just a favorite 😅
HELP ?? WHY ? SO WIFE CAN GET HER NAILS 💅. DONE ? HELL NAWL
DONT ALLOW HUSBAND TO TAKE MONEY FROM YOUR HOUSEHOLD FINANCES. 4. THEM UNLESS. YOUR CHILDREN RECEIVED SAME . ASIDE FROM THE NORMAL STUFF
Yeah right We are a big family and it’s only OP’s responsibility for providing for this big family, OP if you are reading this, tell your ex you will go for the full custody of your kids so that his poor kids didn’t have to face all this emotional trauma of seeing their step siblings in good clothes and other privileged items because their useless and crappy father is extremely irresponsible to provide for them, OP if you want to keep your mental peace intact than tell him strictly that from now on any talk between you too will be only about your two kids and not about his remaining kids and that too through a coparenting app, I am actually not understanding how you are maintaining your composure with all his nonsense talks and demands
This is just rage bait with no conclusion.
I was wondering if I was the only one fuming over this nonsense.
Without a doubt: this is a black woman talking about a black man.
😅🤣😂When I was younger I would have agreed without question, but I have lived long enough to learn that it is not a matter of race but of socialization.
But this story is AI generated, probably even the AI made up this plot with black people as the basis for the story.
A történetben nem szerepel bőrszín. De a bemutatott mentalitás szempontjából teljesen mindegy is.
WHAT CHILDREN. PARADES. NORMAL. WINTER COATS 🧥 ?? SOMETHING. EVERY SINGLE CHILD HAS IN WWW
I’d have sent the kids to him in their underwear. He can clothe them at his house. You can clothe them at your house. Sounds fair to me.
Exactly what I'd do. She needs to dress up those boys in their old clothes before sending them over.
I wouldn't do that to the kids. Send them in old clothes, but tell them why so they don't feel bad about wearing them.
As someone who had bitter fighting parents please never do this. I had toys I had to leave at dad’s house and separate stuff for mom’s house. It was awful.
Just get to the point where she responds
He sounds like a fool
These stories are so fake, no woman or man would put up with this nonsense! If you are a doormat for an ex then that's your own problem so go out and buy yourself a spine. Jeez. Do better with these stories and pay someone to read them.
Move far away
The moment I heard the words "Cautiously Optimistic", I said fcuk it, another AI generated story.
Fake automated AI generated stories, always use these words, phrases, and sentences.
*_Tumultuous, Palpable, Navigating, Challenges, Therapist, Counselling, Rollercoaster,_*
*_Don't know what the future holds / Unexpected turn / One day at a time / A lot has happened / Do it for Dan / For the first time in a long time / but the curiosity got the best of me / the journey had been arduous / this new chapter in my life / your words have been a source of strength during this difficult time / part of me / for the first time in years / this whole experience is an eye-opening / cautiously optimistic_*
Ugh, so poorly written. Where is part of the telling him off. Won't listen to these in the future.
Oh hell no you are totally not the asshole
You’re going on and on about the same thing. Boring!
Woooo that artificial voice is terrible. Two seconds before I stopped it.
FORBID EX. FROM. SPEAKING THEIR NAMES IN YOUR COMPANY ! HANG UP ///. WALK AWAY THE MINUTE HE START. PANHANDLING
NEVER EVER. BECOME FREE NANNY ! DONT EVEN GIVE. HAND ME DOWNS . SO HE CAN SELL 2. CONSIGNMENT. STORE
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