S1:E5 Black & Dating • Should Black Women Date Outside Their Race?

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  • @David-wf4ev
    @David-wf4ev Рік тому +2

    I think black women are the most beautiful women in the world. It's like they haven't invented a word that can even come close to describing how beautiful they are. Anyway I just wanted to tell you that. God bless you ladies. ❤🌻😉

  • @allencampbell1058
    @allencampbell1058 Рік тому +9

    I'm a latino guy and I love black women, so attracted to your unique beauty by exotic features, pretty hair and I do encourage the women to do date outside to meet different types of cultures, language and customs to get familiar and while not be ignorant

  • @ANGELMAN.
    @ANGELMAN. Рік тому

    shawty with the twist in the bottom left is so damn beautiful lawdd

  • @tid8583
    @tid8583 3 роки тому +83

    Black men have told us in so many ways that they don't want us. Black women deserve love. We need to move on and date the rainbow.

    • @NicoleOsayande
      @NicoleOsayande  3 роки тому +10

      Lol not the rainbow!🤣😭 while I understand the sentiment, I’d argue that we’re not that loved elsewhere. Yeah there are anomalies… but make no mistake, white men, and non-Black poc do fetishize Black women which often gets misconstrued as love. At the end of the day as long as they’re pro Black it doesn’t matter what race (which we discuss in ep 6, already out) Thanks for watching!

    • @tid8583
      @tid8583 3 роки тому +6

      @@NicoleOsayande I agree about the fetish thing. I'm not into white guys at all. I was referring to others. But at the end of the day, everyone is not the same and everyone male is not going to look at us as fetishes. So, I say date the rainbow and make sure they understand and appreciate your culture.

    • @mikejwomack9597
      @mikejwomack9597 2 роки тому

      No disrespect but you cannot speak for millions of black men on this earth. The Black men that YOU want may not want YOU. They want a black woman just not YOU. So please stop it with this narrative that black men don’t want black women because YOU can’t get the man you want for one reason or another.

    • @morganbmgtow8879
      @morganbmgtow8879 2 роки тому

      @@mikejwomack9597 many WM and lesbians are here incognito posting.. But many BW will continue losing out as long as they embrace Lizzo body types💪🏾

    • @TAPATIOPLEASE
      @TAPATIOPLEASE 2 роки тому

      I'm Mexican and I want a woman with some melanin 😍 I've come to the realization black women are my type not just a fetish but one to build with marry and give babies

  • @sakbar958
    @sakbar958 2 роки тому +22

    The reality is only 30% of black American men are married. Yes, 85% of that 30% are married to black women, but the reality is 70% aren’t committed to anyone. So you should date and marry those who love and value you.

    • @divineroadrunner
      @divineroadrunner 2 роки тому +7

      Exactly, this generation of black men don't even want to be married (Well the ones that even can get women) how many songs you hear about men doing the most to avoid getting locked down. Today's culture pretty much glorifies getting what you want and avoiding the consequences, or at least pretending they don't exist.

    • @babyg7796
      @babyg7796 Рік тому

      @@divineroadrunner exactly. Black women are tired of trying to drag black men to get it together. And if that’s not what they what, that’s 100% fine, black women just need to move on to other men who value them. Stop dating, spending MONEY with/on, sleeping with or HAVING CHILDREN with black men who don’t like black women or are interested in marriage. Cut them off completely is the safest way to be.

  • @fifi24hgf
    @fifi24hgf 2 роки тому +7

    Black women there are plenty of fish, date out. Do what BENEFITS YOU, ONLY YOU. Emotionally, financially, physically, sociology

  • @jaleelguimba8571
    @jaleelguimba8571 3 роки тому +18

    This was a great talk. I agree with most points. I think its fine but people should not date outside their race to put black women down and yeah, people need to be careful for sure

    • @NicoleOsayande
      @NicoleOsayande  3 роки тому

      Thanks for watching!

    • @morganbmgtow8879
      @morganbmgtow8879 2 роки тому

      BW have never hesitated to not put BM down in all media.. Why should a BM not tell them Lizzo is not desirable and loud combative women are not wanted💪🏾

    • @lisa196409
      @lisa196409 2 роки тому +1

      Other men don't do that to their women just black men only black men talk about what we do as black women they accuse us of not being submissive. And we ask them where is that come from and they say it comes from the Bible it says a woman is supposed to be submissive but when you actually read it then Bible says that we are to submit ourselves one to another and the Man actually is commanded by God to love you. But God did not say in the Bible that we had to love their stinking butts he said respect them we have to respect men that's it he didn't even say love them and I'm pretty sure within the confinement of respect love is involved. I think God did that because he knows women are emotional and we love automatically we're nurturers. But they don't want to hear that they want to keep making excuses and I say if you love somebody don't make an excuse never tell that other woman that you don't like a certain type of woman becaused. That's going to make her really study you as a man because if you don't like a black woman and you came out of a black woman's womb then you have mommy issues and you won't love her either and she knows that black men.

    • @divineroadrunner
      @divineroadrunner 2 роки тому

      @@lisa196409 Yeah they do bro, old rich white men always talking about how entitled and spoiled American girls are. Whether it's military or tourism they're always dipping out and talking about how bad things are.

  • @sakbar958
    @sakbar958 2 роки тому +9

    You should date those who show interest in you.

  • @heavenleigh8273
    @heavenleigh8273 2 роки тому +17

    I feel like you guys are still capping for black men when they are not doing it for you .... black men in general ( Not all of them!) do not want black women as much, black men constantly express this on the internet, and in person. Now I'm a black American woman and the black men here will not date us unless we look like Beyonce! I am also way younger than you guys and I even realize where I stand in the dating pool even in high school... I'm going to college in 1 year and I will still continue to be aware of the fact that black men will not choose me first. from what I am hearing through this video is that you all are still giving black men the benefit of the doubt based on factors that we all face as a race as black people in general and it shouldn't be an excuse to bring down and not date black women because of stereotypes black men believe. I have a wonderful example of black love in my home which is my parents but I understand that they were born in a different generation than me and both grew up in a black neighborhood. as black women it seems like you guys are limiting yourselves to black men because you want a back family with black children ... me personally I've chased and "competed" with white girls and nonblack girls over a black boy that wasn't even looking at me in the first place. personally, I don't want to be alone and sitting there waiting for black men to grow up and get over their little white girl phase.

    • @divineroadrunner
      @divineroadrunner 2 роки тому

      I mean if you understand it's not all of them how is it that the ones you like always like other races? If you're in competition for a man you're always going to lose no matter what race he is or you are, those men just have too many options, I'm sure even the non-black women who were chasing the guy had to deal with competing with other women too. You think once that non-black woman gets with him every other girl will stop chasing that guy?
      I went to a mostly black school and ended up with a Hispanic girl, but it's not like it was easy. I had zero luck with the women around me and no friends outside of school so I'd sit at home on my computer all day, we met online when I was in 10th grade and she was in 9th and she'd stop by my live streams of me just sitting there listening to music chatting back and forth. 5 years later and I'm about to get a job so we can move in and have a family together . It's really just first come first served when it comes to men. I know why I had no luck with black women and I wasn't willing to change that, I can't blame bw for that. But what I do know is when I was a 17 year old virgin hearing "I'd take a bullet for you" from a woman all you need to never leave. We met at 14 and 15 and now we're about to be 19 and 20, I've spent a whopping total of $10 on her in our 5 years together and it was for a PSN card so we can play some games together. The only complaint I got was confusing her birthday with a friend's.
      Yes open your options to whatever race you'd like but don't blame BM for it. I'd tell a BM to do the dame thing, you think white guys don't go through this too with WW? Only they're already 60% of the population so if they can't get WW they usually end up on reddit or the news. Feeling like what you bring to the table isn't being valued is exclusive to no one, you just gotta bring something else, or bring it to a different table.

    • @TaureanDreams
      @TaureanDreams Рік тому

      I’m so happy you figured this out early….date all men to give your self the absolute best chance ❤❤❤

  • @freddypoemsofori
    @freddypoemsofori 2 роки тому +2

    Black women should date whoever they want to date, everyone else is. Stop wasting time talking, catch up. It's a fierce competition out here

  • @gedenironald8635
    @gedenironald8635 Рік тому

    The question should be, who is going to date Black woman outside their race?.

    • @NicoleOsayande
      @NicoleOsayande  Рік тому

      Good food for thought

    • @rwellian94
      @rwellian94 Рік тому +2

      There are plenty of nonblack men interested in dating and marrying black women, speaking as a woman who’s interracially dated beginning over 20 years ago and has been married to a nonblack man for more than 10 years.

    • @bsnndnd5654
      @bsnndnd5654 Рік тому +1

      Okay BW let’s answer the question 🙋‍♀️ I’ll start…. I’m African American and my HUSBAND is ASAIN BOO ❤

  • @BlakJakk
    @BlakJakk 2 роки тому +1

    I like Brazilian and dominican women

    • @allmixeddcontentt9424
      @allmixeddcontentt9424 2 роки тому +4

      yeaa that’s not a race,there’s black brazilians and black dominicans

  • @aboutmyfathersbusiness3764
    @aboutmyfathersbusiness3764 Рік тому

    I understand why most black women prefer their own race and the allure black men have with women who are non black. Black men have gorgeous skin, beautiful teeth ,smiles ,they are funny ,charming,confident and general so not require their women to adhere to western standards of beauty in body types. Now with that being said many black women are single and raising their children alone ,not because we want to but because we were forced to. Research shows that two parent homes have higher income and the children are better prepared to deal with life challenges. You cannot force a man to marry or commit. So it is not black woman's faults . I have seen blacken put up with some of the most selfish entitled, non caring women for decades , simply because they love them. Men know how to act right when they want to. I have seen black men do phenomenal things like raising 6 kids by themselves, starting and running successful businesses with little to no education or money. Even making it to become President of the United States. There is nothing black men cannot overcome. If you want to be there for your family you will be. Black women need love as well wherever we can find it,it's time to breathe. .

  • @genovasquez8361
    @genovasquez8361 3 роки тому +9

    I think every bw should date all races of men...that way it wont be bm against bw...it will be men giving sistas a real critique on what needs to be improve with their interpersonal relationships.

    • @NicoleOsayande
      @NicoleOsayande  3 роки тому +17

      Lol imagine dating a man so he can give you ‘critique’ on what needs to be improved 🤣 it’s not giving

    • @genovasquez8361
      @genovasquez8361 3 роки тому +1

      @@NicoleOsayande right i think we all learn that way...men and women 30 and under need to learn interpersonal skills. I found in my 20s i learn by dating multiraces what i needed to work on. Becauses then sistas had certain things they wanted which doesnt fit globally

    • @morganbmgtow8879
      @morganbmgtow8879 2 роки тому

      Black women have problems datin outside their race because they fear rejection too much..Look white girls are far better at flirtin with black men; they will talk to a black man with game for 30 minutes about cats or football or gamin to show interest and openly flirt with him; they will let you touch them (hold hands touch hair)..especially redheads etc; black women flirt with white men the same way they flirt with black men; sisters are fearful and stand offish; they leave the white guy confused; sister lady you got to learn from your ivory sisters; they go hard for what they want..they make it easy for us to ask for the digits and a date...I thank white women for their sweetness...

  • @davidsauce5051
    @davidsauce5051 2 роки тому +6

    I’m black man married to a black women and know other black men that have been married to black women for 10, 15, 20 years and still romantic and keep the flames going in the marriage. It’s about balance and many of my black male friends are in the corporate field. They’re the breadwinner I’m the marriage/relationship. I feel that many black women are looking for the right black men in the wrong place or it’s something in their routine on getting that right guy they need to change. If a black woman want to date outside her race cool, but as a black man I tried multiple times before meeting my wife, but the differences I saw in the relationship was a turn off for me. Example! Before I met my wife,I was dating a white woman and we talked on the phone but on the first date, she wanted sex we did that, but she was all about f*cking, when I mentioned emotional issues racial etc she couldn’t relate. Her dad was Jewish but very racist and after we met his vibes were “I don’t like you but can only tolerate you” that was to crazy for me and I broke up with her

    • @morganbmgtow8879
      @morganbmgtow8879 2 роки тому +1

      I was schooled from the 4th grade to university with WW..so I'm very relaxed with WW and they are morethan relaxed with me..Had I not been in two marriages with BW I would have dated or slept with many WW because they are perfect flirters..I didn't start dating AW until I went to Philippines..AW are nice pretty sexy sweet but lack the physical shapely sexy bodies of BW & WW..

    • @divineroadrunner
      @divineroadrunner 2 роки тому +1

      How things have changed. I'm a black dude in Atlanta and I met a Puerto Rican girl from Colorado online in 10th grade. 5 years later I'm finishing up college so I can get a job and move in together. I had no luck with the girls in my area because I was introverted and stopped playing sports in the 7th grade. The internet has pretty much influenced everything as I was a 5'11 black guy talking to a girl that listened to Kodak and trippie red while living around men with an average height of 5'7, it was pretty much $free.99, but before the internet it was unheard of. Now that we're both adults our relationship is more about our connection and trying to survive in this world than it was about liking the same music and culture.

  • @chukwudinnamani8577
    @chukwudinnamani8577 2 роки тому

    As a Nigerian American I can boldly say with my chest I love and only date black Women. The sistas never miss. I think our culture is the most appropriated, we need to be having this conversation on clubhouses more often for us to bridge this gap and understand each other. I think it’s few ignorant dudes that say much nonsense. I have nothing Against interracial relationship but for me I only want to love and marry a black woman no matter the shade of chocolate 🍫 she is.😎 period!

  • @aideletx7170
    @aideletx7170 2 роки тому +1

    Wonderful talk ladies! Keep growing. At the top of my list is being interested in people who like me across difference. But that’s me and my decision for me. Unfortunately most of the most violent comments I’ve ever received about being black have come from black men. I don’t attribute that behavior to all black men but it has helped me put away what I believe is a false promise.
    I remember my pwi college bubble had me feeling like someone was constantly standing on top of my lungs whilst calling me the mule of the earth because bw are only valued for their labor, love and otherwise. It’s not true. So much joy to be had.

    • @morganbmgtow8879
      @morganbmgtow8879 2 роки тому

      Most likely you deserved those negative comments from BM; as a BM the nastest comments I have ever heard came from........ BLACK WOMEN..You are a typical toxic feminist..Or you are a WM in cognito or lesbian on a recruitiing mission..If you are a sad BW look to your self for BM not finding you desirable.. maybe you are Lizzo or combative or loud....I visit asian youtube sites where Asians speak and its amazing to see AW completely dstroying AM on all levels relating to their manhood and nondesirability and AM never respond back or retaliate in kind against AW???...BM are not AM!!! We slap back when slapped; we know our SMV especially those of us who travel...BW have to find their own way; the biggest first step is to say being a Lizzo is not good for our women...

  • @step8241
    @step8241 2 роки тому +4

    Yaaaas be divest

  • @Perspective-k8n
    @Perspective-k8n Рік тому

    I think no other races like to date black women. So black women have only one option that black men

  • @jasmainjasmain2906
    @jasmainjasmain2906 2 роки тому +2

    Idc about black men with white women for love. Sucks when you know it's because a particular individual despise black women.
    Good point to be aware of hidden biases because it can be hurtful to not feel empathy after feeling mistreated...
    As far as black men, there are some great household leaders out there but there are very few options... very. I'm open to all to not wait around for that one rare black male leader.

    • @morganbmgtow8879
      @morganbmgtow8879 2 роки тому

      As a BW you are fooling yourself wanting a leader of any race for a mate..What is this leader shit?? WW have the same relationship issues in their hunt for men WM & BM; guys are not willing to marry; women have standards that are silly and few women want to ge marrid anymore...But this leader stuff..good luck.. They say AM are in need of mates ..Try them..

    • @morganbmgtow8879
      @morganbmgtow8879 2 роки тому +2

      Non hypocritical BM could care less who BW date; American BM have great SMV in the US and all over the world..BM will never wait on BW or WW or AW for acceptance..BM just enjoy them all..

  • @imaz2616
    @imaz2616 3 роки тому +5

    Y'all do what will make you a good wife just like many brothas are being snatched up all over the world by non black women to be good husband's.also the slim chick with white shirt &big twisty braids is cute..

    • @NicoleOsayande
      @NicoleOsayande  3 роки тому +6

      What are you trying to say?

    • @imaz2616
      @imaz2616 3 роки тому +3

      Be happy and stop dwelling on these topics too much. A lot of usblack folks don't wanna even marry no more so just get in where u fit in. That's what I did. Plenty of chocolate sistas overseas🤷 sistas still want brothas but not in US just go overseas.

    • @NicoleOsayande
      @NicoleOsayande  3 роки тому +6

      @@imaz2616 this is about dating & not marriage… & we talk about Black dating on this channel so idk what to tell you

    • @imaz2616
      @imaz2616 3 роки тому +2

      @@NicoleOsayande comment was never for you🤷. Its general statement for those in chat...

    • @kathleenking47
      @kathleenking47 3 роки тому +4

      @@NicoleOsayande dating, like GOING OUT?
      I notice, "dating" means more than DATING these days.
      Remember:
      We are SINGLE until MARRIAGE

  • @robertmcgee3315
    @robertmcgee3315 3 роки тому +3

    Black women don't go out side your race

    • @Nicole-si3ck
      @Nicole-si3ck 2 роки тому +14

      Why are you telling black women what to do?

    • @jasmainjasmain2906
      @jasmainjasmain2906 2 роки тому +6

      Going gone 😂 love is love. If a black mam has an issue well a black man should step up faster.

    • @sagittariusbeauty
      @sagittariusbeauty 2 роки тому +1

      @@morganbmgtow8879 Nah, black women can continue being chased by the men, not the other way around. That's manly of the woman and feminine of the man.

    • @morganbmgtow8879
      @morganbmgtow8879 2 роки тому +1

      @@sagittariusbeauty If I understand you correctly you are saying BW should not go after other races of men directly ..correct? While other races of women WW & AW actively go after BM directly and openly..you are saying BW should just shyly sit back and wait for men WM or LM to come to them....Lmao,,...good luck..Becky & Li Wo kim will get all the men..

    • @sagittariusbeauty
      @sagittariusbeauty 2 роки тому +4

      @@morganbmgtow8879 When you're attractive like me, I get men, regardless of race, to come to me, never the other way around.

  • @rocmcgee7784
    @rocmcgee7784 3 роки тому

    Wow