Interracial Relationships - Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man - Ep. 5
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- Опубліковано 7 лип 2020
- Interracial couples, Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo & Lindsey Vonn and PK Subban, sit down with Emmanuel Acho to have an uncomfortable conversation about interracial dating and the backlash that has come with it.
So the B M speaker feels betrayed when the B W didn't choose a blk king yet he turns to the W W to ask what she can do to feel more accepted by B W? This is such a double standard. When the B M dates out its fighting the power yet when a B W dates out its betrayal.
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It’s a madness
But he’s asking questions from people who emailed him. No?
It's actually the opposite. Black men get far more hate for dating out, Black woman are actually encouraged/praised when dating out. This is coming from a black woman who has lowkey had a conversation with other black woman about wanting to date out.
@@funmitalabi9607 The comments i've seen about michael ealy and his wife made me mad
They talk about “black women” like were a whole different species. How about do us like you do your dating preferences and leave us out of it :)
@Robert Mitchell stupid
@richard byfield Richard are you wet
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@richard byfield Just say you're racist and go, damn. So long winded and yet you still said nothing at all.
@@alanaj9901 what did he say 😂
“surely surely she’s gonna pick a black king” NO she’s gonna pick the man she falls in love with!!
Maybe not even a king at all. Kings tend to have an attitude.
What a total cringe fest. That poor host is petrified by a WM with a BW and painfully fascinated with the WW/BM relationship.
"I'm taking a strong Black man away from them." No you're not, That's not the case at all.
I cringed soo much when I heard that 💔🤡
I fully agree. Her comment shocked me
It’s not true, but people do still say and think that
I just side eyed her. Child please.
To be fair, that’s what I’ve assumed that she has heard over and over again. I think she said that because it’s what she hears all the time.
He straight up just blocked the white dude out of the conversation
Which is sad!
Maybe just trying to rebalance history? Maybe just subconsciously?
@@aragornthebrave No. There is no REbalance it. What is in the past can't change but we can learn from it not to do the same mistakes again
@@aragornthebrave "rebalance history"
@@aragornthebrave bro u both naive and simpleminded
Bias and you did a terrible job. I’m dating a white guy now and we look damn good together too. I always encourage other black women to not limit their options as well.
Agreed, not just to dating other men but to explore the option to date other women both black and white.
Yes we need to vet and find the man for us. Despite the race
Hey Anika 🙂
Exactly! I took a leap and started dating a WM and I couldn’t be happier. I never thought I would see the day.
@@triciam4798 Good for you. I'm a black man and I encourage many black women to explore other options. There are black men and women whose temperaments may not be compatible with others who share the same complexion. Rather than making someone's life miserable out of a feeling of tribal solidarity, the wiser option is to be in a relationship where there is less drama and greater harmony.
Been married to a black woman for 13 years. We didn't have any of these "deep internal questions". She is a human being. I am a human being. Stop being so obsessed with an organ. Skin is an organ. This whole interview is weird
I think this entire interview is disgusting. It's like the host is trying to actually break them all up.
Yep
This is the best comment so far. I'm with a black woman for 10 years and I feel the same, this interview is odd. The simple fact of thinking about my wife in terms of skin color feels extra dumb. We simply are Earthers.
Then you’re being willfully ignorant to your wife’s life experience and how it differs from yours SPECIFICALLY due to her skin color. Black women especially have historically been kicked over and over again and I think it’d really behoove you to do your research on what kinds of things black women are still dealing with on a daily basis- perhaps implicit racial biases in medicine and uh-oh….. THE WAGE GAP 😮
@@CandiceDanielleeYoure absolutely correct with everything you said👏🏾👏🏾
Ur so biased dude this is revolting lol I wish y’all would get off black womens backs we carry enough lol
wondering carry what?
Carrying what?
@@melechdomeyhwh The hatred and mistreatment of this world. Everybody expecting BW to be so strong even though we get shitted on constantly.
@@upturned4219 The hatred and mistreatment of this world. Everybody expecting BW to be so strong even though we get shitted on constantly.
@@jwinston1 nobody hates black women just from random hate alone. its annoying you keep making problems up
You felt some type of way because her boyfriend is white? Dude you're the problem lmao.
it's called uncomfortable conversations...............
@@Sweatersith Yes. He's making it uncomfortable. Maybe he needs to grab a mirror and have an uncomfortable conversation with himself lol
It’s coming from a male perspective which gives way to his biases
@@Nemcoification YASSSSSSSS
Exactly lmao I see both of these couples as completely normal while this dudes saying “you probably feel some type of way about this” like no dude that’s just you lol, I see 2 happy couples next to each other and nothing else. I thank god that I was raised right.
She didn't take a strong black man from us.... they're divorced. It's truly disgusting how he treated the BW with the WM but approves the BM with WW. BM need help
There ancestors fed your ancestors children to alligators for fun. There is a hugeeee difference in dating white man vs white women. Fucking her is middle fingering the white man. White man fucking you is just a continuous of them fucking us everyday.
Exactly. When she said that I rolled my eyes. That man was weak
They were never married. They were shaking up, her white friends and family didn't like him, she had a little fun and let him go...
Fr tho 💀💀💀
😮so they never got married? Damn I also rolled my eyes when she said " I took a strong black man away from them"🤨 excuse me, do you even know the total number of black people ( black men to be specific) on this planet 🤨not that he isn't special or anything, but no one put chains on him, and we never cried out or thought we "lost" a black guy🙄come on please...but it's sad that the guy didn't even pursue the relationship with the white woman and they really seemed to emphasize their relationship during the interview 😂sad💔
Funnily enough, WM/BW marriages are 44% LESS likely to end in divorce than WM/WW marriages.
While BM/WW marriages have the HIGHEST divorce rates of any interracial marriage.
I also feel like WM/BW relationships are more genuine as you rarely see them and aren't trendy or as much of a fetish as most BM/WW relationships are
Funny you bring this up since PK and Lindsay did split up like 6 months after this video RIP
black women and white men are very common kind of couples nowadays its not rare anymore
Correction: BM/WW marriages have the HIGHEST divorce rate out of ANY marriage including interracial and same-race marriages.
@@marcorubio5852 Good and I pray that it becomes even more common.
@@LifeIsNotorious why?
Anyone notice how he didn't even ask the white guy a question? But completely fascinated by the other couple. Unconsciously showing disinterest of the white man being with the black woman, but praising the cuteness of the black man being with a white woman.
Who cares
So
@@takeoverty1016 Avoiding the uncomfortable conversation? He is a coward and it misses the whole point of the show
@@shabbzgnrproductions8729 jealous of white men
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Like everything in the black community, this conversation was so 'black man' centred.... Rachel betrayed the black man, black women are angry about the black man and his white woman, how can a white woman love her black man better. He didn't even bring Rachel's spouse into the conversation.
Black women, be with whoever loves you regardless of if he's black or blue because even 'pro black' men are pro-black man.
You forgot to add that he thought they were such a cute couple! I was like, really dude?
I love the last sentence in your statement!!!!
entitlement is real
9/10 pro-black means pro-black man.
I dont think they had time to go deeper
Eventually we will realize there is only one Race.. human
We are the only species that does this to one another
And I say this we love..understanding and with experience
I have a blended family
And i realize we need these conversations before we can get to the next level
I applaud the effort put here
To see that sister ENJOYING her femininity is beautiful. She is happy and glowing!
Yeah, that happens when a woman gets with a real man.
@@sociallysober8217
Who’s the sister ?
@@sociallysober8217 🤣💯
I agree
@@sociallysober8217
A Neanderthal Cave beast 😅
this show should literally be called "uncomfortable convos for me" because the host is the only one that has an issue with it...
how come?
It’s interesting that Emmanuel felt Rachel was betraying based on race but TK wasn’t.
its basically sexism.
Its the History
noticed that too
Because he also glorifies the result Chandler’s semen. Lmao
Yup. Blatant double standard.
I wouldn't say that I've lost friends. If we don't talk anymore because I'm married to a black woman...we were never friends to begin with.
fully with ya. some life events take the trash out for you.
You're a buster, dude.
Thank you.
@@bradleysearle12 ok Sarah. Lmao
@Justa Computa I never understood why black men get so mad when we date white men while having a white woman on their arm. I've experienced it many times. It's insane.
He didn’t ask the white man not one question but coddled the ww most of the interview.
"I'm taking a strong black man away from them." Lmao, what is this the 90s? No one says that anymore. Most black women are not bothered by who black men date, especially P.K. Subban.
I can smell the double standard in this video the way he’s gaslighting low-key gaslighting the black woman for being with a white man but entertaining the black man for being a white woman this whole conversation was center around black men like every other conversation in the black community they never let black and have an opinion it’s always about them and their little princesses, and how they and their little white princesses feel, and this is why black women should leave black men, but anyways black women date other races of men and you are not betraying no one
More people need to hear this.
I feel this hard.
Nah we need to date inside your race. This is another form of genocide.
Wrong I got a blk female Friend who with a white dude he calls her a nigger when mad and they got two kids together. He hates her family too. So let's tell the truth
@@daveyjwheels4505 The person is not talking about everybody’s relationship and situation.
So you sound dumb saying “ let’s tell the truth” when there’s no truth to tell.
And that black woman is choosing to be with that white man so she’s making that choice for her own, that has nothing to do with us.
It has to do with her and her bad choice of men and staying with men like that.
Welcome to another episode of "why white men dating black women makes me insecure"
???? When you are married you support thé marriage !! Good Luck !!! Your Friends will not pay your bills ans your housse so.....
Oh thank you for this comment!
@@rolandmerovee8741 ?????? what does that mean?????
Uncomfortable conversations with a man obsessed about race.
lol, that sounds accurate.
Them breaking up after this is just *chef’s kiss*
The blk woman and her yt man have a really good dynamic. Most the time that’s how it is and that’s the difference . BW are more often unapologetically themselves and I love that abt us. That’s why I hate the social media trends making us more insecure than ever.
Probably because he's a beta male provider and she does all of the talking. Of course y'all gush over those kinds of dynamics. I honestly hope all of these delusional BW in this comment sections would just denounce BM and all go and try to find them a WM. It wouldn't take long to figure out what the common denominator is in most of your frustration. But, keep pretending y'all's problem is the BM. I'm sure it sounds soothing.
@@lhaire Ha! you madd
He's Columbian, so he's not the typical white man.
@@sq3004what's a "typical white man"?
How can you feel betrayed by someone else's relationship that doesn't affect you in any way🙄???
Thank you!!🤣🤣! #dumb
It’s dumb, but I could say the same thing of the vlogs ran by black women with hundreds of thousands of subscribers which OBSESS over every lack male celebs who date outside the race despite them saying nothing ill of black women.
Cough cough, chrissie
it's called racism.
seems to be far more abundant in usa than in the rest of america......
Right?! I’m like😂🤷🏾♀️ what?! Sounds like he should do some self reflection because it doesn’t even involve him. Why is he betrayed?
LMFAOOO Y’all know how you can always tell when someone who’s biracial has a white mom & a black dad as opposed to a Black Mom and a white dad???? This is the perfect example
From my experience, When A biracial has a white mom and Black dad they seem pretty distant from their black side and more happier that they are half-white than half black, it's so weird! But when I meet other biracials that has a black mom and white dad, they seem more humble and embrace both races equally. I'm also biracial by the way.
@@homarneysetoute8840 same here, i can always tell. I think it’s the difference between black women & black men. I blame the misogynoir.
@@sapheyasaber6868 Not only that i know that when most black men date and procreate outside their race, they seem to forget about their blackness.
@@homarneysetoute8840 lol that’s the point with black men. They don’t want to have black children. They want children that they’re sexually attracted to.
@@crissoa when you put it that way it’s so sick and disturbing
Rachel and the white guy seem more genuine.
Should be titled “Conversations with an Uncomfortable Black Man” 😂😂😂
He needs to get a grip.
Emmanuel, you appear to have more issues with interracial dating than your guests. That's not a good look, dude.
I was really disappointed to hear the host have that attitude. I guess he was just being honest, but he didn’t really portray it as a flaw so it didn’t seem like he felt bad about it. Bummed me out.
I was more concerned the fact he was more for the black man with the white woman and didn’t have any negative views but had more negative views to the black woman with the white man
@@jadeanderson6981 It's black dude code.
Not a good look for a self-proclaimed know-it-all, who has biases just like the rest of us have.
My homies can hook up with whatever female that they want, but my li'l sis' ain't mess'n 'round w't no white boy.
Lol when the comments section has more honesty, vulnerability and depth than the actual episode.... This one made me uneasy, disappointed and it WASN'T because of the interracial couples. Now I know why. Before we can have a good episode on this FIRST we need one where Emmanuel acknowledges his own prejudices, especially when it comes to Black women dating outside their race
Preach!!! 🙌🙌🙌
But didn't he acknowledge that right up front when he said that he felt some type of way about Rachel dating outside her race? He admitted it flat out, and seemed to understand that it's *his* issue and not hers.
@@santolina8 But he never actually confronted HIS prejudices. Saying "I felt some type of way" isn't the same as taking accountability: "I have a habit of projecting onto interracial relationships or judging black women unfairly for being in them." He hinted that he doesn't like interracial relationships and acknowledged the stigma but not WHY it was there, the nuances surrounding it, when it is/isn't justified, or how to get over it. Nor did he approach the situation from the framework of HIM needing to confront is OWN prejudices and learn. That led to the episode coming off as shallow.
Plus the fact that he pointed out that he "felt some type of way" about the Black woman, ignored her White partner most of the video, but then called the Black man with his White partner cute... Implied the Black community lost an educated Black woman to a White man but DIDN'T imply the same for the Black guy.... Asked the White woman if SHE felt bad about dating a Black guy, but not the Black guy if he felt bad for being an educated man who (metaphorically) abandoned Black women... And used the analogy of sexual domination to justify why a Black man dating a White woman is okay but the reverse isn't... Leads me to believe there's a LOT more Emmanuel needs to unpack before talking to interracial couples about their experiences.
Clearly I feel "some type of way" too lol
RoseEyed, clearly you do feel “some type of way” about it, and after reading through what you wrote, now I do too! Thanks for responding and responding with so many specifics; it helped me realize that his self-critique didn’t have a lot of depth.
I hope that Emmanuel reads your comment and thinks about his answers to some of the questions you posed. It seems like he is committed to having uncomfortable conversations, which I applaud him for, and I’d love to see him in the “interviewee” instead of the “host” seat for a conversation about this.
Thanks again for taking the time to respond - I saw from a different perspective today and I appreciate it.
@@santolina8 Thanks for asking and having such a polite conversation with me. I definitely fault Emmanuel but I also understand where he's coming from. He wants to create a "safe space" for these conversations and to do that he feels the need to come off as this wise, ever calm sage. And that makes sense. BUT when he presents himself that way in a situation where he's clearly not he creates a disconnect that turns a lot of people off because you can tell he's pretending to be something he's not.
Again, I understand where he's coming from, but an even more effective way would be if he also showed vulnerability. Not just in regards to sharing his experiences with discrimination. But with his own shortcomings as a person, his blindspots and prejudices that he needs to work on too. That way there'd still be a safe space and humility but less of a disconnect.
I doubt he'll ever see this message. But I'm glad you did. And maybe other people will be able to reach out to him. He and his team seem somewhat responsive to the audience at least.
When that lady said” I’m taking a strong black man away from them” as a black woman im saying honey you not taking nothing away from me. I have a strong black man my husband of 13 yrs. when I see interracial couples I think Ok there’s a couple just like every other couple. Com on y’all 🤦🏼♀️
Ya but they broke up, and the other couple is married.
I'm a ya'll. The take away concept is rooted in the idea that God made a man for every woman and a woman for every man. It's like a Black people replacement theory. Same reason why people in some cultures have another kid to replace one that died.
the word strong felt so damn forced and fake in the conversation.. not genuine at all.. made me giggle so much :"D
It's so hilarious how P.K and Lindsey aren't together anymore and the other couple is. I knew in the first 5 mins there was no way Lindsey would have still been with him. She definitely wasn't going to pick him over her family.
So th host thinks its okey for a BM to date a WW but not a BW dating a WM? The host himself is full of hate n prejudice. He thinks black women betray the black community for datin interacial but not the men?? I feel like to many black guys watching porn n think that they are superior n think that all white women want them, thats why most BM thinks it nice n coll to date a WW, so in one way BMs stereotype them self n they like it. Woow america is so hang up on colours and races, ffs sake stop talking abt colours, we all humans
I have been looking for comments from men on the bias of the interview because wow, the amounts of men saying black women are just playing victim for pointing this out is amazing. I couldn't allow myself to believe that all the BM in the comments would be blind to the bias
@@langashouse7760 Haha sorry my English is not great so I couldnt understand if you agree with me or not🤣 anyway, wish you a great saturday from sweden!
@@Simonsuryakant it's okay. I agree with you. I was just saying I see many men who don't agree.
@@langashouse7760 Thats sad i think. Nice thsy you agreed with me
Because black men want to date white women and us to date no one. They want black women to be single and wait around to maybe be made into a single parent by them. Only they are allowed to have happiness we are supposed to support them and not complain.
The white dude literally didn't get a single word in til the very end. What was the point of this? The questioning made me feel gross. Love is love is love. Why is that confusing?
I swear I learned more about the interviewer's insecurities than the actual subject they where talking about🤣
@@bobbyjohnson1086 yup
He’s not even a white man, he’s Colombian smh
@@bobbyjohnson1086 THIS!!!
@@Jeanology italians, germans, greeks, french, spanish (spain), etc., aren't white either
This video proves TO THE T why BW feel like WW and BM are just the same to us when it comes to silencing us. Misogynoir is ugly.
This is the way things should be done. I am a white man married to a black woman. I have lost relatives and friends and havent lost a day sleep. She is my better half. When you discuss things like this it should educate as well. Done so well thank you for this
There have been black men in mixed relationships who go out of their way to denigrate black women. I think most black women don't care about black men dating non-black women, just don't speak ill of black women as though we are all guilty of whatever problems you may have with us.
Those are my sentiments. I actually had a Black man that I didn't know come up to me and explained why he was dating a white woman. I didn't notice them until he spoke to me and I told him, no need to explain that is your business and I was married at the time. Do Black men really think that's all we think about is them? Speaking for myself, I have better things to do in life.
@@kimjordan8151 What went wrong with the marriage tho? Was it salvageable?
@@kimjordan8151 I wonder how long he'd been married. When you're newly married, there's a level of paranoia...LOL. Especially, depending on where you live. In some places, the stares are real and mean business. And, then...even in those places...some of the stares weren't even about you and your chosen mate. But, because you're paranoid, you're always on alert for disapproval. Some couples never survive the paranoia stage. It's stressful. Not to mention, UA-cam is full of black commentators saying hateful things about "swirlers". That doesn't help when you're already paranoid.
A lot of black women care tbh they just don’t take down on black men
@masha Can you elaborate? How do black men benefit from the patriarchy? Systemic racism (such as school to prison pipeline) affects black men the most in America from my POV, but I’d love to hear what you have to say.
This conversation was so surface level and that makes me so upset. Byron is also Latino (Columbian) so they could have talked about that too, the cultural differences. It was very centred around black men.
Colombian
agape, like the love he didn’t even ask him a question
I am Colombian and in Colombia and everywhere else, Bryan is considered white. There are white Hispanics too and they enjoy the same white privileges enjoyed by white people all around the world, despite cultural differences
Mariano Gomez 100% agree with you, that’s why I meant I said cultural differences because Bryon is a white latino man.
I mean this is a black mens channel. So i expected it to be exactly what i saw.😂
As a BW I’ve dated mostly European guys. I’m not limiting my options to only BM. I find the WM to be more protective, gentle, generous and approachable
So other than it's unnatural and immoral to mix doesn't bother you?
@@spike2227 we are all human who cares !!
@@eeeeee4554 That means nothing humans is only a group title because of similarities lol stop finding justifications for it, We are very different.
@@spike2227 i think differences in us is due to life experiences and culture but we can lean about each others culture.What do you mean by "we are very different"?.And how is it immoral to intermix?
@@eeeeee4554 I don't understand what you mean, of course we can learn from one another and help one another, but this whole one Human Race thing is a lie, Anatomical Differences and biological shows that we are different creations created in are own origins. Skull shapes show that, police forensics can determine a individuals species by visually looking at bones, I'll refer to species because that is clearly what we are it isn't a bad thing, but I'll not use the word Race due to it having so many different terminologies it can apply to. Race Mixing isn't natural there is no kind after kind progress such as reproducing after your own kind, its an a genocidal act on Nature and God's creations. And sadly people can't see this and destruction awaits down the line all due to fetishisms, curiosity and lust.
This interview was weirdly back handed towards rach and her beautiful husband.
Fragile masculinity showing through indeed…
Okay, first of all, a black woman dating a white man is not the same as a black man dating a white woman. Ya'll know this. Black women are 110% more conscious than black men in relationships. You can see Rachel has done the work with Bryan and PK hasn't done the work with Linds by some of the things she says.
Black women find your joy, you don't have to be loyal to any race, be loyal to your happiness.
That may explain why BW/WM marriages are among the most successful -- they stay married even longer than WW/WM. FACTS!
Loriann Richardson cause they barely exist lmao
How convenient
@@YasminePendergrass i agree i don't think some have done research regarding someone's ethnic background. If they are in denial its not going to last. I can tell Lindsay's family didn't agree with this marriage to a Black man. But he wouldn't let her speak freely.
a white person would say this because the end goal is disunity with us why is it a problem for black people to fight for us to stay united
I wish they would’ve discussed how some black men discriminate towards black women in saying reasons why they don’t date or like black women.
The reasons why some Black men either don't date or like Black women is a Black issue. It's a subject that is better for discussion among only Black people. There are certain issues among Black people that are better resolved WITHOUT white presence or input.
@@kevinc3342 thank you.
@@kevinc3342 There are certain issues among White people that are better resolved WITHOUT black presence or input.
Darth Vader Like what (not trying to attack you, just genuinely curious)?
Darth Vader Well, look at you wanting to be all included in black issues!
Hmmm Rachael, I love your closing statements, black women hear that, open your heart and stop getting yourself disappointed waiting for a black man etc, life is meant to be enjoyed, go with what makes you happy, ditch the expectations
The BM and WW relationship didn't even last and that bm is not a strong bm. He was dressing in bathing suits looking completely emasculated.
Even in this video he is being emasculated crossing his legs and his WW forcefully grabbing his hand with his hand on top.
I live in an area were hardly any black men date black women. I even had a white women tell me that I was racist for marrying a black woman. I think society is more uncomfortable with black love.
@Lisa Shipley Sadly, I live in the South. It maybe the same everywhere
@Lisa Shipley smh that is some California shit huh? Smh smh. I wonder where that mentality came from and why does it majorly happen in Cali.. well in my experience when I travel other places I see a lot of black love. California not so much
@@notyours143forlife2 Do not travel to some parts of Tennessee the most anti-black(black )people. They do not know what Black love is...
When my husband and I visited down South for an entire summer, I noticed that Millenial WW would literally scowl at me and my husband but they'd be so sweet to him when we were shopping while ignoring me, lol. I would get so confused because we're both Black? My blk male best friend friend told me if he's alone, up in New York where we are from, in more diverse neighborhoods, WW will just walk up to him to start conversations. WW are so confident that they are the prize (in the eyes of BM) that many now feel they are entitled to BM and see "Black Love" as a hurdle to their "supremacy".
@@ZoraSearch You're exactly right and black men are conditioned to see white women as an asset and black women as a debt. Most black men who are in these type of relationship will not even look me in the eye when I'm out with my wife.
“I feel guilty for taking one away from you”...you didn’t take anyone away from anyone. If you’re destined for each other nobody lost anything.
As a Black woman, I could see that LV was falling for propaganda. BW don't see her as taking away "strong Black man" from Black women. We''re are fine, lol. Although BM will want to put that idea into WW's heads and push this narrative that BW are more concerned with what BM are doing than they really are. BW are less concerned with the BMWW union than they are concerned over BM disparaging and lying about BW to "other" people including their non-White partners. That's the real issue.
A lot of white women think like that they think their a prize and think by dating black men they’re taking something away from black women which they’re not they’re taking shit
@@kikiloved5189 I think the guys are only "shit" when they date "out" but then cannot stop speaking negatively about Black women and girls. His dating "out" is not so much the problem as his aiding and abetting white supremacist notions of black inferiority by being a mouthpiece for it.
@@ZoraSearch you hit the nail
@@ZoraSearch I know. Shes more triggered that the girl is with a wm than anything. Look at how she looks at them. You can tell. She wanted that ‘woe is me’ victim mentality thing from the bw and it weren’t happening. Lmao.
I'm reading in the comments that the black man/white woman split. Not surprising since they have the highest divorce rates.
@Labayka unfounded assumptions, keep crying also they don't, stats prove this
@@JamesRichards-zk2hlyeah they do. bm/ww relationships are the most likely to end in divorce. even the stats prove this
@@northstar5072 They are not, use data that isn't during the time where interracial marriage wasn't normalized otherwise I could argue next them black women and white men have the second highest despite being rare.
@@JamesRichards-zk2hlyes they are. bm/ww couples are more likely to end in divorce than other interracial relationships statistically. bm are also the only male demographic who has a higher divorce rate than marriage rate in interracial relationships. get over it
@@JamesRichards-zk2hlno they don't lol. white men with asian & black women statistically have the least divorces in interracial & same-race relationships, while black men with white women had the highest & the least likely relationship to end in success lol. but nice cope though
I dated black women and we had a very good time and respected each other and I'm also Mexican
The double standard is real folks. I'm kind of disgusted with this conversation about Rachel. So if the host became the Bachelor we can assume he is going to marry a beautiful brown skin woman? Black men have been dating and marrying white woman FOREVER. SO Emmanuel you don't get to "feel some kind of way". Sorry.
And I would like to see all the women Emmanuel has dated, how many were brown skinned black women?
Do not get me wrong, Emmanuel is “trying” his best with these videos... But this one was not it at all. I did not like how he approached this topic especially with the Black woman vs. the Black man. You can see and feel the double standards🤦🏾♂️💯.
@@JulianSteve I find Emmanuel's opinion is not unique among some black men and its very annoying that they can't see the hypocrisy in their attitude. Its happening AGAIN on social media with the current bachelorette. There should be a black bachelor in January. This should be INTERESTING.
He has a black woman
@@InBlackandWhite1672 Like literally i think his last 2 spouses were black. It seems like everyone has seen 1 or 2 posts online about black men not liking black women. But I as a black man have met, gone to school with, and have seen multiple black women who say they don't date black men. If we are gonna talk about double standards let's start there instead of throwing black men under the bus. Most of us non-ignorant black men really don't care.
Ironically the new "Black" Bachelor pretty much made a disclaimer before the show saying that he's not picking a Black woman and that he shouldn't be expected to. I don't remember Rachel doing all that on the Bachelorette, just sayin. 😶
I was waiting this whole video for him to start talking about colorism and black men being self hating and degrading black women, but of course this was so BLACK MEN biased🙄
and then he felt “betrayed” when she married a white man😐
@@t.t4mia right, soo biased 🙄
You're making a heavy generalization. And his last girlfriend was black. A simple google search before you typed this would have saved some time. He clearly felt inclined to ask questions that he thought applied to his thought process the most. I get it's an issue and the few amount of men that do think that way should be ashamed but don't attack all of us. Doesn't make you any better.
@@zay3029 first of all this ain’t got nothing to do with his last, his second or his first gf being black, the point is he still only asked black men biased questions, and he completely left the white guy out but felt so inclined to ask the white woman every question, and even so the questions that he asked were utter nonsense; Anyways this should’ve been a lot long or had multiple parts because we didn’t even make a dent in this discussion, it was really just a waste of time to be fr. And what doesn’t make me any better, think before you type.
@@eliza-beth5894 he intially asked pk but lindst answered for him, brian was quiet most of the time anyway, all he had to do was man up and talk more.
Why is he asking everyone a question except Ryan. Wth
Dudes like him are insecure and try to force dominance they never have
Because he's the only person there he had a problem with.
I noticed you never asked the white fellow anything. Kinda sketchy
We’re not losing any sleep over THAT “strong black man”... girl bye
& that’s exactly why he went w/ a white chick
Loll, they tell them what they want to hear. I'm not. If he's weak, he's weak and he sure ain't gonna be my man! I only date men, not grown boys.
Like we're surprised you think that. Like most sistas want a nerdy hockey player in the first place. The money may change the pursuit of some, though.
I can’t believe she said that 😂.
I mean you went out of your way to comment about it so it's clearly touching you some way. It's amazing to me as a fellow black person how you can watch a video like this and then continue to comment something so ignorant. She was obviously speaking to the mass and you can tell that probably how most white women think. Don't be upset with her because of the man she got. "Seek to understand than be understood"
This was very black male centered rather than having an actual unbiased discussion about interracial dating 🥴🥴
They should have had an Asian or Latino mediator so there would be no bias.
@@nadedjadannevik6272 interesting thing about Asian is how Asian women, at least Eastern, are more likely to marry out, especially white guys,and the number is huge
Right? He was so disrespectful to the other couple while praising the one with the ww and the bm.
@@wrestlinganime4life288 they marry wm more than they marry asian men, 45% vs 42% i think.
@@hydralily1646 it's male tribalism (in group bias)
On a scale of 1-10; I have yet to see a Caucasian man with a Black woman who would Not easily be considered a 10, 9, or 8! But a Black man with a Caucasian woman who would be considered a 10 is just about nonexistent; as far as my eyes have seen…
PK's woman low key coming across insecure. And the sentence she used of, I'm taking a strong black man away from them. Who's them? Love is between you two, there's no them.
An asian should’ve been the host while asking questions submitted by both white and black men and women, both in and out of interracial relationships. The bias was very strong towards black people (men especially) and the current host needs to step down. He seems a tad threatened by the white guy? He didn’t even ask him a question...
BMWW: y’all so cute
BWWM: I feel a type a way
That’s bias.
I believe it was the host's intention to show a bias by saying "I felt a type of way". He mentioned it first to show the bias he had and that many other blacks have to get the conversation going. Also, he said "y'all so cute" to the BMWW couple because they kissed. They were showing affection to each other and he thought it was cute. I don't believe there was a bias behind that. And if the current host were to step down it wouldn't be "Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man" anymore. Lastly, I don't see where you got the host feeling threatened by the white man, maybe you can tell me? I didn't catch that vibe at all. Maybe he didn't ask him a question directly but it's not like he wasn't involved in the conversation at all.
Umm maybe cause the white man is the only person who isn’t friends with the host. Maybe that’s part of it.
Huh
@@theomorrison1099 that's even more biased. Because of this reason, I take the host as a joke!
@@EgyptianGirlzCurlz The point of this series is to inform us, the viewers, about issues in society. The host isn’t perfect, of course he has bias when it comes to issues in his own community. He’s trying to learn how to be open minded as well and showing us different people’s experiences. He’s showing us his perspective as a black man, so we should respect that, but also take what he says with a grain of salt. Be critical, but I don’t think he’s a joke because of who he brings on the episodes.
Saying "I feel guilty for taking a black man away from a black woman" is the most ignorant statement she could have made. You can only take something or someone away from someone else if that something or someone belongs to someone one else. Black men don't belong to black women and vice versa just because we have the same skin color. If it was someone's husband/boyfriend then yes but some random individual who you don't know or have any romantic relationship with is not in that category.
Because she's not really in a relationship with a man she loves, she's in a relationship with "a strong black man" she loves. It's clear as day, it's not real to her. The host has a real problem because Bryan and Rachel are more of a real and genuine relationship. If they were clearly superficial or were fetishizing each other, he'd have no problem at all
She is saying that others make her feel that way.
shane. mic drop. you totally on point. don't get this ownership thing. black men are free thinking and loving self-agents.
@@NathanielNorman-uh7dl Come on. Oh course she is in a relationship with a man she loves. She said that because that is something black women tell you all the time, if you date a black man as a white woman. "You steal our good black man". ridiculous. As if any person belongs to another person. She is just insecure. Thats all.
and ive taken many white men from white women. how does she feel about that? OMG i feel so guilty -_-
This is why black women have started leaving bm in the last few years. They treat them so badly and are hypocritical as hell
There's a difference between bmww and wmbw relations. Bmww are usually based on lust, or wrong motives and wmnw are usually based on love. Bmww couples usually have to try hard to look like they're happy, but wmbw don't need to.
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Bryan didn't get to talk at all, his profession wasn't raise and he was made to look unimportant, you could see this. Rachel has clearly educated her man but Pk hasn't educated Linsey at all.
That’s how it usually is.
And that's exactly why they are no longer together lol
He has zero expectations of Lindsey other than she be white. She only needs to be white.
Summarised perfectly the typical dynamics of BM/WW relationships vs BW/WM relationships
@@sunflowerseeds263 Exactly!! and as result that is probably the reason why they are no longer together. It’s possible that she broke up with him.
This convo did NOT get deep enough...theres so much more to this that matters more...this was surface ..not uncomfortable enough
Agreed!
It will get there. The videos that make the most $$ are 15 minutes thus thats what you see all around you tube. He can do part 2, 3 lol
@Mike N Yeah, a lot of people in society still judge....
So true.This was a "safe" conversation...where is the raw emotions and real examples of negative interactions
YES!
“Nothing wrong with dating white, black , yellow or whom ever...Date who ever you want to date just dont degrade the people in your own race .”
It makes US look bad!
Her husband is such a hottie. Good job Rachel💜
Bryan is highly educated and accomplished and the host just called him a “good dude “ 🙄
@Maxey no he ain't, and just because you're "richer" doesn't mean you're better than everyone else.
And you people "hate racism" but always bring race into the conversation
@@TheMissiIe "you people" says enough about your character
@@elijahchuruza You interperting that in that context says enough about you too
You just said to hell with the context lmao 😆
@@elijahchuruza "you people" means a collective of people, did I say anything in relation to racism? No. When I said "you people" did I mean "you people who think this..."? YES
quit trying to make me the bad guy because you took two fucking words out of context and used that as evidence for me being a racist, it just proves you didn't even try to understand what I said, you'd rather respond than listen
“up until i was 30” sis looks 18 😭💕
It made it go cold down my back when he asked the WW “what can u do as a WW to be more accepted by BW”, the message in her response being “I don’t know, I’m a good person, I feel like they hate me because I’m taking a strong black man away from them”. And he just lets her go on with playing the innocent victim, “having these hateful black women at her back, when she didn’t have a racist, hypocritical bone in her body”.
It’s truly saddening to whiteness those two black men just sit there supporting that WW while bashing the black woman for having a mind of her own and choosing love.
It’s so utterly hypocritical it’s disturbing.
They’re letting her bath in being the innocent princess and she participates gladly, pretending/lying like it’s 6 generations ago since her people committed genocides agains blacks?!
Absolutely horrifying.
I caught that too. Her parents were in segregated schools. She's just one generation from the Civil Rights Act and the Loving ruling. She's clueless.
as a WW. I was appalled at that detail "6 generations ago" ..... ugh no sweetie. try just 2 generations ago. not to mention it's still problematic white boomers alive to this day with racist mindsets and actions. that let me know she's far removed from reality
Unfourtunatley, that's Lindsey Vohn for you!
Hypocrisy, and low self-esteem is rampant among white women and black men.
They are both pissed that they can’t be black women. 🤣
Do you rtrds realize that it was actually white men spending millions of dollars blocking the African shoreline from the slave trade. Africans we’re still selling their own people to places that hadn’t abolished it yet and it was white people who stopped it. White men died like crazy trying to stop it and pulled over ships that were still doing it. I swear Americans are completely oblivious to anything that doesn’t revolve around them it’s ridiculous. Barely any slaves were even brought to America and it wasn’t even close to the most brutal. Plus only ultra rich land owners owned slaves. I cringe when I see comments that actually believe every single white person owned slaves and supported it when that’s the farthest from the truth. They also completely ignore all the whites who died in the civil war. But nope let’s just narrow it all down to an easily digestible “all whte ppl bad all ancestors bad durrr slve owners”. White men never created slavery but they were the first to abolish it.
This is the realest talk show every and I just wanna thank you bro! I'm sure you'll see I just commented on a different video but I have to say man thank you, as a person as a mixed man i understand the struggles of both sides thru interracial relationships and growing up as a mix man it's been difficult and I see light out of everything I've watched. 🙏🏽 we need more talks like this!.
As a Hispanic man, I just see that love is who YOU LOVE no matter race, religion, I’m blessed to be in an interracial relationship with my Black Girlfriend 👩🏾🤝👨🏽❤️
Lee Santos is a bottom, obviously!!💯💯
@Lee Santos did someone hurt you or something ? LMAOO. you sound like a 40 year old dude, who has this hatred for black women. If you hated them, why are you so attentive on black women subjects
@Lee Santos are u good bro? You've been up and down this thread bashing black women for no reason. Get well soon xx lmao
@@OnlySolii Bw bashing bm.Stop the crying
@Lee Santos you seem pressed 😬
I stopped watching after I saw what he said about Rachel choosing a white man over a black man I mean this is suppose to be an unbiased and evolutionary conversation..and it pissed me off ...that question or statement alone set everything back
WORD....the host is full of it, this fake show pretending to be progressive and positive is just reinforcing the prejudice of old
Every human being on this planet has biases.
I agree 100%. That really bummed me out. I didn’t expect the host to be so shallow and prejudiced. Plus he had a double standard, because he didn’t feel that way about Lindsey and PK.
@@BillBurnette He should've been professional enough to put his bias aside but he failed so badly and didn't even attempt to be professional. It was all about the WW/BM couple who ended up breaking up meanwhile the couple he basically ignored and used as a prop is going on strong. He should've just had the broken up couple there since he spent so much time concerned or gushing about them and left the white guy out for most of the entire thing because he was so bitter. He should be embarrassed.
This conversation was needed to be had. Thank you.
this black girl is very pretty
Lol the host was clearly salty and very uncomfortable....sad
this should be re-titled to "Conversations with an Uncomfortable Black Man"... 🤣🤣🤣
Exactly
@Sweet Bliss Agreed, just as bad as Charlamagne
Or "Tea Time with a Black Man." Lol
Nigerian
Couldn't of said it better myself.
Outstanding! Love real talk and thank you all for opening up yourselves to these issues. God Bless each of you!
Thanks for doing this 🙏🏼
This needs a part two because there are layers to this topic.
I absolutely agree. This discussion was just getting started.
YES! PART TWO TO THIS PLEASE! I'd love to hear things such as what were your biggest challenges, what's the most beautiful part about interracial relationships etc. I absolutely LOVED these two couples too and would love to see them again, so well-spoken and both so in love.
Soooooo many layers this is the surface level and still pretty nice, cuz I do feel like thes ppl are more partial to interracial marriages. I do think these questions are good, but I feel like their answers are very personal. Like I'm black but idk what their relationship is between them and their community the white ppl seem nice but still have the same answers as other white ppl. There seems to be happiness idk about any wokeness. Or deeper understandings yet idk they relationship tho
I agree. There's way more we have to gain from this discussion.
Needs many follow up episodes. So much to discuss
Whomst so ever is playing piano this entire time needs to stop. I can't hear myself think.
whomst so ever???????? lmfaoooo you sound stupid af trying to sound smart.
Eli's Animations & More whomst so ever I’m dead sound like me trying to add to a essay
@Vicodyn that comment made me laugh
People STOP being mean How about helping so you can build them up and not beat them down.
I agree...I was hoping the music would eventually fade away.
The host was so bothered and interjected far too much of his own personal bias. Didn't even ask the WM any questions... what a joke!
40% of stress comes from the thought of caring what others think. Be free people and live Life. 😊
I am 60 years old. I like to feel I'm woke enough to navigate modern society. My sister dated and eventually married a black man. It created an minor uproar in our family, especially with our father. My feelings from the very first were that if he is a good man, treats my sister well, if she loves him then who am I to say a single word against it. He was, and IS, a good man. They are happy together and still married after all this time. I have not spoken nor communicated with our father since his tirade. In a previous episode you spoke to the practice of whites trying to raise children "color blind". That is exactly what my wife and I tried to do. Not that my children didn't notice skin color differences but it didn't seem to matter to them. Now, my oldest son is in love with a beautiful black woman and they are happy together. My prayers are that these times will not negatively affect them even though I know in my heart they will not escape all prejudice. I know growing up white in America is a vastly different experience than what you have been exposed to. My hope is that we can all find a way to set aside the ways, the evil of the past and treat each other as brother and sisters, regardless of skin color. I had hoped it would happen in my lifetime but with a leader like we have now, division seems to be the flavor of the day. I am still hopeful but not as much as before. Thank you for this series.
Very well said. Bless you for your kindness, openness, and standing up for your sister and supporting her, as compared to staying quiet. You have raised your children to be amazing and I hope that yours and their light continues to shine. As you mentioned regarding how divided as a country we have been, these little reminders of good people in our society allows me to keep hope that genuine unconditional love will always win.
Thank you for sharing. I love knowing that there are real strong white men who actually understand what love is. Men like you are few and far between and gives me hope. Prayers for all of your family and ones to come 🙏💖
I love you. Thanks for being a good human.
❤
I couldn't marry into an Indian family to the girl I loved.. There's racism in every culture.. Whites take too much of the blame.. it's in every culture.. I'm glad they overcame their hate..
The fact Emmanuel "felt some kind of way" concerning Rachel and Bryan spilled into this poorly done "interview." Why have them on if you only wanted gush over the opinions of Lindsey and PK? You owe Rachel and Bryan an apology for using them as props in order to appear as if you were really interested in the dynamics of interracial relationships. 🤨
He does
His entire shtick is "uncomfortable conversations with a black man" I guess he means all conversations are uncomfortable if you're conversing with a moron because he was awful
@@Aaron-kj8dv 😂
This was needed and good 👍🏾
This was soooo good!
I used to feel guilty about interracia relationships but hell no not anymore. Never again. Emmanuel wants to know why the hell the bw is dating out but doesnt care to know why the bm is. lmao.
Kelvinator goodbye ☺️👋🏾
Isn't it obvious she likes bbc
Ok why do u date the others?
@@guyfromnewark If she is able to find a man that happens to be of another race and treats her right, why should she limit herself to one race? It should be about whether you love them and not their skin color.
@@rosemariefinlay3735 ive found out luv isnt the main reason IR couples get together
They split up. The jokes write themselves.
Well....😂😂😂💔
I could tell this s*** wouldn't build off a solid foundation once they start talking
y'all act like most people dont end up getting a divorce. not very uncommon. I doubt any of these relationships will last (one already didnt lol)
Don't most marriages in America end in divorce anyway??? Are your parents still together???
@@deathdealer13cat yes
Ma’am you’re not taking anything from black women.
I appreciate this.. This is a much needed conversation for the 🌎
This was a disappointing interview... the “host” seems like he was not ready to have this conversation. And the NJ Devil dude needs to have a serious conversation with his wife and she needs to do her research. She is visibly shaken just having the conversation. Everyone is so grounded and comfortable in their demeanor except for her(which is confusing considering she said his family and friends are so good to her).
I got that vibe too
It’s an uncomfortable conversation, especially when your white...
The difference is, that black men, who dont like mixed couples attac the black woman for that. They make fun of the white guy, but they attac the black women. If a black man has a white woman, the black women attac the white woman. And it may be that the family is nice to her, but i am very sure, that she gets enough hate for being with a black man by other black women. Dont want to see her Instagram or other social network after that video.
It’s not easy to talk about these things. So I feel for her and hopefully over time she will feel more comfortable.
@@samahj8567 They broke up, so she won’t have to worry about it anymore.
The host could've done a lot better to remove his previous biases and obvious distaste for black women in relationships with white men. This either needs to be redone or fleshed out more. The questions were extremely disproportionate and proves we (and especially black men) have a long way to go when discussing these topics. I came for Rachel and Bryan and they did wonderful handling such uncomfortable questions, especially from a host that seemed to target black women. DO BETTER!
Vina I agree
The truth is, with the way black culture is, a white person isn't yet in a position to have a real uncomfortable conversation with a black man, unless those two people are actual intellectuals. Everyday people can't have these conversations because they won't listen to and understand each other. That's why the white people who have appeared on this show just say things like "HEARD" or say very little at all. This show is designed from the view point of, "I'm black, now do as I say." That's not how it works and why he doesn't have 100,000,000 people watching as opposed to 2,000,000. I also seriously doubt there are that many people watching, jus the same ones that follow and a few people like me who are interested to see where this is going. Try to get 2 million people to read his book, I bet you'll have very different numbers for that. Short and sweet is what non intellectual people can handle. If they see others liking it, well then it makes sense to them because they've found their echo chamber for the "oppressed".
Vina I noticed that too. He’s ignorant and wants black women to stay race loyal while they date out
Facts exactly he wasn't asking the questions equally and it's clear he had a bias like how did he say to Rachel in the beginning it hurts him to see her with the enemy why did you choose him but later ask the black man how do you deal with people saying that as if he was the victim??? If you're calling the black girl going with the white man the enemy and it's okay why's it wrong when it's being targeted towards a black man with white woman 🙄
I agree with your points, but not that it needs to be redone. Clearly Emmanual has his biases just like everyone does. I disagree with a lot of the reasonings he provides in his videos but not one person is perfect and I certainly applaud his efforts to create and engage in these conversations. hopefully we call all continue to grow.
I liked the openess from both couples, thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts.
This conversation was much needed .
You need to redo this I’m was so sad when you didn’t mention anything about black men discriminating against darker skinned black women
He is a wrong host for this segment as he is a black man who probably dates white women. This topic needs either him and a black woman who is actually strong enough in who she is regardless of what BM are doing. Wrong host completely,he needs to go toe to toe with a Paris Milan or Cynthia G.
Be quite the video is but ab that
@Rick Bo you didn't even feel compelled to comprehend what we were saying because if you did you would have known it's got nothing to do with what you just said and we couldn't care less who Latina's are dating...I personaly was addressing the host and only if he is dating you then you can take issue with that...read, comprehend and if you don't ask 🙄.
He didn't do it because it wasn't convinient.
That doesn't make sense for this topic
Okay so if this was a genuine conversation why are you questioning Rachel's motives for getting with a white man more than you're questioning the black guy. Black men forever do this, you always wanna police black women and say how sad you are theyre dating out but never do it to other black men 🙄
Say it louder!!!! And he completely ignored Bryan, didn’t even look at him....
You’re Delusional. This was a great conversation. Everyone is bias to a certain degree. He even admitted to not liking that she picked a white man. If the host was a black woman it would have been different. I date white woman and I still get bias when I see a black woman with a white guy. It’s totally wrong but I recognize my bias but i work through it.
@@Brandon-cj4tv I dont understand this mentality. You have black men actively clowning black womens looks and attitude, quite publically declaring how they dislike dating or being around us and STILL have the gall to be upset to see us with someone else? When I date interracially I dont even acknowledge bm/ww couples or at the least treat them well and assume they love eachother unless proven otherwise. It's not "bias", it's misogyny and specically misogynoir. Ya'll are basically thinking, "We don't want them but no one else can have them." How selfish!
@@Brandon-cj4tv That's excellent, maybe other black men will recognize their issues and work through them as well.
@@cjo4210 I'm also starting to learn something else through this video and these comments: when a black person has these misguided thoughts and misconceptions, it is conveniently and neutrally called a "bias". When a white person has these same misguided thoughts and misconceptions, it is aggressively called "racism", which already degrades the white person to a lower and almost pathological level. A linguistically more level playing field would be nice, but probably not as effective for the power "balance".
It’s not race that matters it’s about love.
Fast forward....the B.M/ W.W union didn't last and is divorced at present.
While the W.M and B.W is still happily married.
Looking back at this you can clearly see the genuine love the B.W./ W.W union.
they all suffer from self-hate, esp blacks.
We get tired of white women and move on to the next when we’re done
@@chrisj9993 you Bm get dumped and used for money lol 😂, Pk didn't want to lose his snow bunny
why didn't he bring up the crazy amount of colorist in the black community
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He did when they mentioned she didn’t feel black enough
Good point - we have this ridiculous nonsense amongst ourselves!
There is a BIG difference between these unions, and one side was very educated, and working towards understanding in their union, and the other...........
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@Lee Santos news update: Lindsey broke up with PK. So who is mad? Most BW don’t care about BM with WW. They just don’t like how BM put BW down by openly bashing them and still trying to secretly sleep with them. However, BW are now dating and marrying out as well. It’s about time.
@Lee Santos ya’ll mad because BW are breaking the cycle of struggle love. My sister did it and she is elated. Been married to her NON BM husband for 20 years. He treats her like a queen.
@Lee Santos Well, they lasted a lot longer than Lindsay and PK.
@Lee Santos so you are 👌 with adultery? Wow, make it make sense.
Fabulous conversations!!!
So everyone knows, the white woman and her husband are divorcing. and the white man Ryan and Rachel are getting married. There is a reason why white men and black women have the best success being together.
They actually don’t
@@joeblack2809 they absolutely do.
@@adventpotatoes1118 they actually don’t…otherwise you’d see more of them. And hear of less IR couples divorcing.
@@joeblack2809I mean it IS actually true that WMBW marriages have a significantly lower divorce rate than BMWW marriages. That said, Bryan and Rachel are getting divorced now.