Why You Feel Undervalued in a Relationship & What to Do

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 54

  • @sammelina12
    @sammelina12 3 роки тому +20

    Thank you for your effort in sharing your knowledge with everyone 💖 unrelated, you’re absolutely gorgeous! 🥰

  • @Mollyjak4
    @Mollyjak4 2 роки тому +2

    I’m the PDS school I just took a course called “Rebuilding the Relationship to Yourself: Self-Love, Self Compassion & Self-Soothing” it’s pretty dang amazing… all courses have work books. I love the webinars where you can get on and talk thru stuff with other folks in the school around the world. Sometimes we work on a particular course, other times it’s open share or sharing a communication script that you’d like input on… they also do morning guided meditations … it’s the best monthly money I’ve ever spent in my life!

  • @sorakairi118
    @sorakairi118 3 роки тому +9

    Thank you so much. 20 mins ago was in the shower pondering the last vids posted for FAs like me. I stumbled upon retraumatization in my head, and suddenly this new video brought it up. That's it for me, I'm there -- adjusting my comfort zone. Thank you SO much for being such a formative part of my lockdown year. Am looking forward to joining the school soon as I'm able!

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  3 роки тому +1

      That's wonderful to hear Elijah :) We are so happy you are growing with us and are resonating with the content. Happy to hear we helped you learn and grow during the lockdown. That was one of our main priorities to help people look inwards and try and heal during this time of isolation. Hopefully see you in the school! :)
      -PDS team member

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell 3 роки тому

      That's powerful Elijah. Thank you so much for sharing🌱

  • @BiancaTatum
    @BiancaTatum 3 роки тому +10

    First comment 💁🏾‍♀️
    Thais, I really appreciate this channel! The UA-cam videos ALONE has helped me to truly understand what wa the breakdown in my last relationship and it’s helping me to understand & communicate my needs with the new guy.
    I’ve even been able to pinpoint the he has core wounds causing him to want to run when I expressed being upset about something & my need. But bc of your content I knew to affirm him in a way that made him understand that I WASN’T about to abandon him just bc I had to put my foot down. 🙄😂
    I really loved our conversation last night and I’m excited about moving forward in a really healthy way. I can see us joining PDS together as our relationship grows.

    • @lizp2512
      @lizp2512 3 роки тому +1

    • @BiancaTatum
      @BiancaTatum 3 роки тому

      @@lizp2512 🤎🤎🤎

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  3 роки тому +1

      This! live hearing all of that. Overjoyed we played a part in you understanding yourself and helping you in your new relationship. Hope we see you in the school! Thanks for your comment
      -PDS team member

  • @ginnytilby
    @ginnytilby 3 роки тому +5

    The thumbnail photo doesn't seem to match the video or the video title. The thumbnail says "Fearful Avoidant: Bring Them Closer". But this video is about all 3 attachment styles. Thought you would want to know! Love this channel!!!

  • @universaltruth2025
    @universaltruth2025 Рік тому +1

    Sometimes the truth is we ARE being rejected for whatever reason. Throughout my life I have often been part of a group and its always clear I am lower in the hierarchy than the others - eg I’m part of the group but if its a group of three the other two will always have a stronger bond than with me. If people are talking in a group I will be of less importance than the others. If there is ever any conflict in the group the others will close ranks and no one will side with me. This isn’t my imagination or some story I’ve made up - it happens all the time. I can only assume it is an energy or look about me or my body language or my ideas and opinions. But I know it is definitely not my imagination or a story I have made up. To pretend otherwise would simply be lying to myself.

  • @nogayurveda9579
    @nogayurveda9579 3 роки тому +4

    I absolutely love this! Thanks for the amazing content delivered so on point

  • @Qtipz123
    @Qtipz123 3 роки тому

    Honestly surprised that this channel doesn't have more subscribers.
    Thais speaks nothing but TRUTH!! 😁👍

  • @newlight444
    @newlight444 9 місяців тому

    Most times it has nothing to do with the person we're dealing with. It has more to do with our past issues. When we find someone who has similar traits as someone who has hurt or neglected us, we tend to attach to them and try to get that need met no matter what. We have to be aware of that and work out the issue internally. We were not responsible for meeting our needs as children, because we didn't know better. But as adults, we are responsible to meet the needs we have right now, instead of trying to find people who will do it for us. That way, we learn self-sufficiency and that past wound and trauma will no longer dominate our lives and relationships.

  • @lizp2512
    @lizp2512 3 роки тому +10

    Thank you for this video ❤️ Thais , is this the correct title for this video ?

    • @skwerl81
      @skwerl81 3 роки тому +3

      nope! lol

    • @lizp2512
      @lizp2512 3 роки тому +3

      @@skwerl81 I just watched 3 times on rapid speed questioning myself

    • @BiancaTatum
      @BiancaTatum 3 роки тому +1

      The title is supposed to be Why You Feel Undervalued in a Relationship
      It looks like the wrong thumbnail was added

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  3 роки тому +5

      yes! because you alerted us we caught the mistake and changed it!! thank you so much!
      -PDS team member

    • @lizp2512
      @lizp2512 3 роки тому

      @@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🥰you are most welcome :) !!!

  • @Krohmel
    @Krohmel 3 роки тому +5

    Your videos are syncing up with my life right now 😂😂😂

  • @marynagorbenko3548
    @marynagorbenko3548 3 роки тому

    Very helpful. Thank you so much, Thais.
    Glad UA-cam recommended me your videos, your channel has been a great discovery. Hope you will have a lot of success and prosperity through your work. Keep it up!

  • @CJ-zs4xd
    @CJ-zs4xd 3 роки тому +3

    Please develop a course on how to have a relationship to oneself. Does it exist already?

    • @roshalllambert
      @roshalllambert 3 роки тому +3

      The closest course to what you are talking about is strengthening self identity.

    • @Mollyjak4
      @Mollyjak4 2 роки тому +1

      Rebuilding the Relationship to Yourself: Self-Love, Self Compassion & Self-Soothing

    • @Mollyjak4
      @Mollyjak4 2 роки тому

      It’s in the PDS school I’m just doing it today

  • @rebeccav7420
    @rebeccav7420 3 роки тому +5

    Does PDS have a specific course to address pursuit of people who are emotionally unavailable? You mention the phenomenon here, just wondering if there's a specific place to start. Thanks!

    • @xnflg3074
      @xnflg3074 3 роки тому +1

      Stop trying to pursue people who aren’t ready to be pursued in the way you naturally do. If it doesn’t flow, it’s not worth forcing.

    • @rebeccav7420
      @rebeccav7420 3 роки тому

      @@xnflg3074 It did flow with an FA until deactivation. I'm interested in a course if there is one, thanks.

    • @irynaguziy1202
      @irynaguziy1202 3 роки тому +1

      Thais said " you choose emotionally unavailable people because you are emotionally unavailable to yourself", it's the subconscious comfort zone - the goal is to tackle that first, so I would say "Emotional Mastery and Belief Reprogramming" course.

  • @RebelforaSpell
    @RebelforaSpell 3 роки тому +2

    💚U 💚😍New SUBscriber! I am so grateful to have found your channel. All these seemingly small steps can open up a new life for us all. THANK U your teaching us PATH TO HEALING

  • @nainafavs
    @nainafavs 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you Thais! ❤️

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell 3 роки тому +1

      She's awesome right? I just found her channel. Sending much positivity to you 🌱

    • @nainafavs
      @nainafavs 3 роки тому

      @@RebelforaSpell thank you my love! She is awesome ❤️ sending hugs and healing to you too ☺️💕

  • @marjanpourhassan3314
    @marjanpourhassan3314 3 роки тому

    Such a great topic thank u ❤️🌹🙏🏽😘

  • @TheFarrahX
    @TheFarrahX 3 роки тому +1

    amazing amazing amazing video!

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell 3 роки тому +2

      Yes it is Farah. It is helping me so much. Hope you are having a good day 🌱

  • @axislivedotorg
    @axislivedotorg 3 роки тому +5

    Who said “no more core wounds left?”
    What needs to be done for that to happen?

    • @sorakairi118
      @sorakairi118 3 роки тому +1

      The loads of inner work, which Thais invites us to do here and in the school.

    • @BiancaTatum
      @BiancaTatum 3 роки тому +3

      Im also interested in this too!! Lol like is it possible to live trauma free

  • @PaigeYesLee
    @PaigeYesLee 3 роки тому

    Thank You Thais 🙏

  • @LemansSunset350
    @LemansSunset350 3 роки тому +1

    Do you have colored contacts on? Beautiful eyes.

  • @mozartboll
    @mozartboll 3 роки тому +1

    I really resonate with your videos, but I have a hard time keeping up. I'm not american speaking, so it's a little bit too fast for me.

    • @toninatoli
      @toninatoli 3 роки тому +2

      There is a way to slow the speed of videos on UA-cam. Sorry, but I can't remember what it is! GOOGLE it, as they say.

    • @mozartboll
      @mozartboll 3 роки тому +1

      @@toninatoli Maybe speaking slower would help though. Do you pick up every word? I will google🙂 thank you!

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell 3 роки тому +1

      Yes. Annika it is a very helpful video. I hope you are able to get the "slow down". I am studying Spanish and can relate to that feel. Have a wonderful day

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell 3 роки тому +1

      @UC85lfbkxVb%E2%98%BA%F0%9F%8C%B1WODoAwF3nRBQw Wow really? I didn't know.. Ok. Thanks for the tip will google. Hope you are having an awesome day Toni

    • @mozartboll
      @mozartboll 3 роки тому +1

      @@Alphacentauri819 thank you!!👍🏻😃

  • @BiancaTatum
    @BiancaTatum 3 роки тому +4

    First Comment 👋🏾😌

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell 3 роки тому +2

      😍Hahaha.... Awesome. I love when that happens. Hope you are having a fantastic day Bianca

    • @BiancaTatum
      @BiancaTatum 3 роки тому

      @@RebelforaSpell thank you! Lol me too 😂