WHEN YOU FEEL WORTHLESS - Jordan Peterson (Best Motivational Speech)

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  • @jordanpetersonrulesforlife
    @jordanpetersonrulesforlife  2 роки тому +11

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    • @sd-xk7qr
      @sd-xk7qr Рік тому

      Can you please tell me where the first part is taken from? thanks

    • @dianebauer5046
      @dianebauer5046 Рік тому

      H h

    • @ItsDeanDavis
      @ItsDeanDavis 11 місяців тому

      the thumbnail is too funny.

  • @michaelridenbark9946
    @michaelridenbark9946 Рік тому +116

    I wanna be better. I wanna be stronger. I want to be needed.

    • @ShadzVibez
      @ShadzVibez 10 місяців тому +7

      You have no clue how powerful and amazing you are. I don’t know you and I probably will never know you but I know that god created us in his image and he was perfect. Find that one thing that is worth holding on to and living for and hold onto it with everything you got brother. One day you will wake up and look in that mirror and you will see that one thing worth living for and fighting for is you.

    • @michaelridenbark9946
      @michaelridenbark9946 10 місяців тому +1

      @@ShadzVibez you have no idea how much I needed to hear that today man. Thank you. God bless

    • @ShadzVibez
      @ShadzVibez 10 місяців тому

      @@michaelridenbark9946and you too my friend. I am dealing with so much and reading your message and giving you that advice helped me out. In that way we both helped each other. You never know the value you hold or the power of influence you have without even knowing it.

    • @theloamzone5026
      @theloamzone5026 8 місяців тому +1

      I hear you, maybe we need to have children so we can show our love again, give us responsibility and purpose, keep our minds forever stimulated with love and care, keep us in a happy place, i hope this is the answer, ive felt very uneasy anf worthless for far too long, i must feel this void, i hope we all do, my new quest is to find a women thag shares these same wants and create a family, i will carefully pick her as i dont want a divorce for my children like i had. I wish you all well.

    • @manicmonarch2608
      @manicmonarch2608 6 місяців тому +1

      Women will still act like they don't need you even if they do. Stay strong.

  • @thomashvnmusic
    @thomashvnmusic 8 місяців тому +67

    To all brothers and sisters who are here for this video just know that things will get better and im sending my prayers to all.

  • @MS-ns4ki
    @MS-ns4ki 3 місяці тому +18

    I currently feel completely worthless by the way others are treating me and I keep on telling myself that just because they don’t see my worth doesn’t mean it but it’s getting really hard

  • @Rachid-cg2qy
    @Rachid-cg2qy Рік тому +53

    I don’t want to think, the thought of it makes me so extremely tired, 40 years of worthlessness, the people around me are my identity, I have none of my own. The feeling of purely existing, empty, always giving waiting for acknowledgement until I’m again not needed. I’m a nobody

    • @robotron1236
      @robotron1236 Рік тому +3

      Me too. It’s only been 31 years for me though.

    • @brendabrinkmanpasichnyk3500
      @brendabrinkmanpasichnyk3500 10 місяців тому

      I hear you

    • @mikethomson4064
      @mikethomson4064 8 місяців тому +3

      I understand ur feelings and i feel the same. But that's not the truth. U matter pal. If ppl can't realize that, it's their loss. Prioritize people who appreciate ur value.

    • @lamees6911
      @lamees6911 7 місяців тому

      I truly get it, I was in this rut too and I was able to navigate out. And I'm a woman, my dear, so God help the fellas going through this constant existential crisis. In this period I was suffering emotionally because I felt forgotten. I felt that all my life experience was no longer needed. I realised I was keeping myself hostage to a past identity that no longer served me. Those of us born pre-1998 would know what I'm talking about.
      Pre-social media and pre-Facebook, there was a process in becoming someone, be it in your career, your friendships, relationships, goals, aspirations, and especially making genuine human contact. In 2024 it's like the twilight zone, ha ha! Nothing is as it was. It's like waking up from a 25-year coma and realizing that just like Dorothy, 'You're not in Kanzas anymore.'
      We live in an era where we attain rewards and material wealth from the touch of a phone screen. It's incredible that this message is crossing continents! Holy Nut Balls Batman, that's incredible.
      If you're 40 in 2024 means you were born 1984, in which opportunities that had framed your life were far more 'predictable' and was at a given pace. In 2024, we have resources to attain stuff but we are in drought of emotional and spiritual love. Which means you have to appreciate and value your self-worth first. Make regular contact with someone who needs you, a pet, a relative, a neighbour. Create a means where your love and presence is needed. My point being, be kinder to yourself above all else. You are not a failure, you never were. You have to let go of who you thought you should be and start a new lease of life where you are now. Do not be complacent.
      The technological advancements and science have vamped up the speed and pace of life. Which means generations prior are in constant angst catching up.
      Things like 'Instagram', see that as as a tool box, not a life source.
      The laws of physics and pychology will still apply to the physical world.
      Mr, life has not cheated you, You have not missed the boat. You may simply feel lost at times, and that's okay.
      If you want to survive this life you must take the reins. You must intentially disrupt your thinking with a higher frequency. Therapy is fantastic. You can't dwell on your grief forever. You're too gorgeous for that. It's pointless.
      Instead, practice the art of small talk with people who seem approachable. Be friends with your barber. Practice good discernment, recognise social cues, body language, and take a gamble when opportunity strikes for convesation. Compliment a girl on her shoes. You need mentors, good ones, engage in free seminars in real life, not online. If you work online, go to a poular coffee store at an appropriate time where ppl mostly attend (ie. alignment).
      You got to be a familiar face to people. Be kind, sincere, practice gratitude. Wear clothes that are clean and welcoming. Hello Target!
      I've gone off tangent, I'm so sorry. My point is, it's hard work, but discipline, consistency, and alignment is key. You got this. You got to believe windows of hope exist and will open for you.
      Nothing of value comes to you for free. Get used to rejection, but never lose your integrity. It's never too late, son. Toodles on the noodles, señor.

    • @jong3821
      @jong3821 6 місяців тому +3

      49 here.
      I haven't gone a day without feeling worthless my entire life.
      Even after I got sober last year, the intrusive thoughts are still constant.

  • @tammydietschweiler7852
    @tammydietschweiler7852 2 роки тому +14

    I am chronically sick and everyday I try once again with hoping one day will be better than the next, Dr. Peterson has given me the strength to continue with some happiness to work for my future. Yes, I get pretty low, but something after nine years I still will never given in to losing the joys of life…even when they are not without pain. There is that little voice Dr. Peterson mentions which reminds me to be me and be more.❤

    • @djdhfdjnvlskm
      @djdhfdjnvlskm 2 роки тому +1

      Keep trying, don't give up. I feel so bad about your pain, I wish I could take it from you.

    • @tammydietschweiler7852
      @tammydietschweiler7852 Рік тому

      @@djdhfdjnvlskm Thank you! You are very kind!♥️

  • @gotama570
    @gotama570 2 роки тому +24

    I noticed that people really want to help someone who needs help,because when doing that you will gain a little bit of worth as a human being in someone else eyes

  • @kingfiend
    @kingfiend Рік тому +20

    Why get up out of bed? Why? What for? There's nothing I find meaningful and worthy.

  • @emmanuelgomezlosada9645
    @emmanuelgomezlosada9645 2 роки тому +100

    I just came to say it has been a long year since the last time I felt worthless. Thanks to God.

    • @baconstrips6260
      @baconstrips6260 Рік тому

      Oh no, a latina that follows god.....
      We have so much to learn here!

    • @rodneymil3979
      @rodneymil3979 Рік тому +1

      Wish I could say the same

  • @katekyi2604
    @katekyi2604 2 роки тому +9

    Self worth is not about happiness. Self worth is about the ability to change your life because you are in control of your life. Its about challenging yourself, educating your self, tackling difficult problems because you think you can. When you lose hope and get depressed, its because you do not think you can do anything about your problem. Young people are not learning how to become self sufficient. How to attain a good life. Life is not about being rich, its about living within yourself.

    • @Dan-di9jd
      @Dan-di9jd Рік тому +1

      You say self-worth is about control in your life. I always dreamed of sharing my life with that special someone since I turned 22. After 17 years of struggling to even find one person interested in me, I find that I have no control therefore no self-worth to overcome that. I can't force someone to like me and just as so there's very little I can do to "learn" why someone doesn't like me since there's no logical reason why and each time I think I figured it out, I find that I fail for some other reason. Overall I have no control and therefore no self-worth. Assuming I am able to "figure out" what I did wrong, I'll be a middle age man and whoever I find I'll have to figure out things others did in their 20s and then I'll be in my 50s trying to resolve whatever it is. By then, if I fail, I'll be old, lonely and miserable and hopefully the end will come quick. Personally I plan to pig out at the age of 50. That way I eat well and know that whatever problems come with it will mean I'll get a heart attack and since no one will be around I know it'll be over quickly.

    • @oliviamay7775
      @oliviamay7775 Рік тому +1

      Dear Dan,
      This life is a miracle filled with infinite mysteries. The only way to cope with this situation is to reduce the suffering through believing everything is a miracle instead of nothing being a miracle.
      You can achieve your full potential and find your divine partner through imitating the qualities you like in someone and someone will come matching those qualities.
      I wish you healing and so much peace.

    • @TheFracturedfuture
      @TheFracturedfuture 3 місяці тому

      ​@@oliviamay7775I don't give a sht about the mysteries.

  • @orangem8268
    @orangem8268 Рік тому +27

    i love this guy he gives me motivation when im in my rock bottom right now -- thank you for this video 😔

    • @royg3448
      @royg3448 Рік тому +1

      You got this keep fighting no one is alone

  • @SorenOutDoors
    @SorenOutDoors Рік тому +11

    Hi i am Soren from Danmark. I was put in a toxiq foster care at age 4 untill age 16 due to an alchoholic mother and a criminal father,
    i am a School dropout from 3 grade since i wasnt able to focus and was full of anger i have a criminal past but mannaget to put my anger elsewhere,
    and so i was a non proffesional 155 pound fighter. Brazilian jiu-jitsu 2014-2018 & Boxing 2018 - 2020.
    but now have Wielding education - ADR dangerous goods & Class 7 transport education. Also have Padi diver course 18M.
    Drivers license & a car , a beutifull woman now on 4 year together. i have worked in farms and as a janitor,
    now i will drive radioactive material between hospitals. the message i am trying to give is No matter the ods you must fight to be the best version of yourself.
    i love Jordan and i wish i would have seen his videos way sooner.

  • @camillegurley9121
    @camillegurley9121 2 роки тому +5

    Enjoying the type of work you do has a big impact on how you feel. If you hate your job, things are tough, time for a change.

  • @ChrisLevelsUp
    @ChrisLevelsUp Рік тому +5

    None of us are truly needed.

    • @MS-ns4ki
      @MS-ns4ki 3 місяці тому

      We are all used by others until they don’t have a need for us and then trend change so lately it’s the fat next will be something else

    • @ChrisLevelsUp
      @ChrisLevelsUp 3 місяці тому

      @@MS-ns4ki I think my original comment was a tad cynical and pessimistic. What do you mean the fat?

  • @juliechurch1799
    @juliechurch1799 2 роки тому +9

    Feel this daily as I have depression

    • @conqueringruler4283
      @conqueringruler4283 2 роки тому +2

      I wish you all the best.

    • @memegazer
      @memegazer 2 роки тому

      If I was you I would not trust Peterson bc I found out he actually shaves his butthole...which is highly immoral.

    • @rukeeojigbo2221
      @rukeeojigbo2221 2 роки тому +1

      Wishing you all the best julie🎉

  • @SoloMotivation
    @SoloMotivation 2 роки тому +34

    *THIS STORY WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE*
    *Struggling will make you stronger* 💪🏻
    Once upon a time, a man found a butterfly that was starting to hatch from its cocoon. He sat down and watched the butterfly for hours as it struggled to force itself through a tiny hole. Then, it suddenly stopped making progress and looked like it was stuck.
    Therefore, the man decided to help the butterfly out. He took a pair of scissors and cut off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily, although it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.
    The man thought nothing of it, and he sat there waiting for the wings to enlarge to support the butterfly. However, that never happened. The butterfly spent the rest of its life unable to fly, crawling around with small wings and a swollen body.
    Despite the man’s kind heart, he didn’t understand that the restricting cocoon and the struggle needed by the butterfly to get itself through the small hole were God’s way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings to prepare itself for flying once it was free.
    I Love You 💕

    • @donaldmack2307
      @donaldmack2307 2 роки тому +1

      Are you saying we should never intervene in any conscious beings struggle? I love you too.

    • @raewynurwin4256
      @raewynurwin4256 2 роки тому

      Dear God above, what an analogy makes sense in every way. Thank you for sharing.

    • @barb7124
      @barb7124 2 роки тому

      @@donaldmack2307 it depends on the context.

    • @vaporwingfauxmcloud1190
      @vaporwingfauxmcloud1190 Рік тому +1

      @@raewynurwin4256 I wanna believe in a God but for some reason I haven't been able to grow up or even as an adult get through to God. I begged and begged and cried out to God as a child while getting beaten, mentally shattered, scared, sxually assaulted, had no one in my life and even today, I keep losing and losing and now I have an existential crisis. I grew up realizing that I would only be able to live and survive. I never got the opportunity to live my childhood in a way that allowed me to grow intona strong butterfly because I was shriveled up and couldn't spread my wings to fly like the butterfly in this story. I was robbed for 25 years of any possibility of success or even being able to live a good life enough to work towards helping those in need but even then with my heart in the right place, I keep failing. Jobs take from me like my last one that forced me to somehow spend 35k dollars to be able to work but because I was good at delivering mail, the bashed me and threatened me that if I didn't somehow get a vehicle to deliver mail, I would be terminated and I told them I couldn't afford it but the still forced my hands because I needed the job as it was the only one that hired me. Needless to say, I was only given one day to find a vehicle and report back the next day but I needed to register my vehicle and take it to a repair shop but because they were pretty racist towards me (because I'm white), I was threatened for calling in the next day for a repair and registration of the vehicle. In total I spent 35k dollars in the job and when I went to quit because I couldn't handle the awful and hostile work environment, they asked me how will I pay my bills and my work vehicle without a job? I knew then and there that they purposefully did everything they did to break me mentally like work me 2 months straight with no days off and lie on the paperwork so well that with my evidence, they would side with management. They manipulated my financial status to force me to work and work and they tired me out knowing I would have the energy to spend time dissecting their evil plan and what makes this worse is that I was with an abusive and manipulated girlfriend who used my exhaustion to her advantage. She called me few times just to cry about her financial situation and she guilt tripped me until I broke everytime and sent her money. She took about 20k dollars from me knowing I needed that money to fix my debt and she would spend more time with her guy friends and call me afterwards just to brag about how good they treat her and how awful I am for not being a good bf and how It didn't matter the good things i did for her and how i always whine about everything when i can't even get a single word in until she would cut me off and start a whole different topic when i wanted to vent to her about work and family. She, the postal service and my family did me so dirty despite not ever being awful, mean or hateful towards anyone and when I cried out to God it seemed like he turned a blind eye. So if God was real it would let me know that he or she only caters to the privileged and the people who didnt suffer mental trauma because of their past. I don't have hope or love anymore...

    • @Dan-di9jd
      @Dan-di9jd Рік тому

      @@vaporwingfauxmcloud1190 this reminds me of Jobs story. God was really prideful of Job and even showed the devil what a great guy Job is. The devil said the only reason Job is happy and praising is because god gave him everything. So god said nuh-uh and killed his wives, workers, burned his business to the ground and even gave him diseases and rashes. The devil finally left and god have everything back to job for being so obedient. I wonder what Job felt like when he learned of the reason for his pain and suffering? What about his wives and workers who had nothing to do with anything? Would Job just be laughing and chilling in heaven with god knowing that he was just the butt end of a childish argument? I wonder how often in our lives were we the result of gods childish argument? Do we have a choice in the afterlife not to obey or even accept gods “gifts” for us? If god is this childish when we’re mortals imagine what sort of hell “heaven” awaits us ?

  • @PatientsZer0
    @PatientsZer0 2 роки тому +6

    This is actually what I need to hear.

  • @yspd8842
    @yspd8842 Місяць тому

    I have to prove a lot of things to many people. I don't want to suffer rather I want to prove lot of things because my values were questioned.

  • @garyd.alzagajr.4157
    @garyd.alzagajr.4157 Місяць тому

    Not everyone has faith in their conscience and without self love, shame can push you further down.

  • @diamondback7789
    @diamondback7789 3 місяці тому +1

    I was called worthless this morning by someone I love. Lol this girl loves to try to get under me.

  • @tommym321
    @tommym321 Рік тому +4

    Everything is relative. On the outside, and to some people, it might appear that I have it pretty good- I’m not ugly, have a high paying job, and am intelligent and have hobbies. Inwardly however I am a worthless failure and my self esteem couldn’t be lower, and I feel totally powerless to improve my self image.

    • @bolaa7618
      @bolaa7618 Місяць тому

      Why do you think you feel this way?

  • @johngraham5926
    @johngraham5926 Рік тому +3

    Thank you, your lecture was very helpful. And I needed it this morning.

  • @Monkster2
    @Monkster2 2 роки тому +4

    Please continue to speak sense. Thank you and be kind to yourself x

  • @Dan-di9jd
    @Dan-di9jd Рік тому +11

    I don't think people who struggle necessarily come out a better person. I've struggled all my life trying to find a special someone to share it with. It's the one thing I failed at and the one thing I noticed many of my peers had no problem in obtaining. I'm 39 and I oftentimes get so worried that I rather not go on living. However, I think you know I struggled to get into a relationship a lot and suppose someone did come along? Well that would mean at 39 or whatever age I find someone now I have new struggles to face and as such will fail no matter what. So at this point I know that I am a complete failure no matter if I do find someone or not because at the end of the day I'm worthless to anyone and anyone who does find me will soon see why I am worthless and move along.

    • @soundjip6195
      @soundjip6195 Рік тому +3

      I hope you're okay man, God is with you, and the fact you watched this shows something inside you wants to change, please listen to it, God bless friend

    • @Dan-di9jd
      @Dan-di9jd Рік тому +3

      @@soundjip6195 I guess the problem is regardless of what sort of rationale I use to explain my situation my situation still exists. Sometimes I make little progress and convince myself that all is okay and perhaps there is a grand plan as to why I am single but then somehow it all comes back 10x harder than before. I fear that one day it will hit too hard and I won't be able to come back. I don't want to try anymore in fear that I might get hurt too much again and that time it'll be the last time for me and I decide to end it.

    • @jenp2566
      @jenp2566 Рік тому +1

      Please get help Dan. And try to focus on other things in your life that you care about rather than the relationship you don’t have. God bless you 🙏

    • @reneedwards1082
      @reneedwards1082 Рік тому +2

      Not necessarily...not everyone is meant to be with a partner, sometimes God needs you on your own cause thats the pure value you are giving to the world without someone else blurring your beauty.

    • @reneedwards1082
      @reneedwards1082 Рік тому +1

      ​@@Dan-di9jd look up boy, you are special and beautiful and unique and there is no one else like you. Know your beauty and worth because when you find that within yourself, others will find it in you too! I pray God shows you how much your beauty is worth to Him cause once you know that, there is no higher point you need to aim. ❤❤

  • @ader.t.v.6768
    @ader.t.v.6768 Рік тому

    dont fill i am and always will be. do love jordon tho keeps the hope up. Hope dont change anything just lets u last longer.

  • @DJ-yj1vg
    @DJ-yj1vg 2 роки тому +7

    I drink because I feel ashamed. I'm ashamed because I act like an idiot when I drink. And so begins the vicious circle, the addiction of alcoholism.
    I drink because I'm sad and lonely (expecting it to cure me). But I'm sad and lonely because I drink (by myself). There's another one.
    As soon as we realise that alcohol is just an enabler, for alcoholics, the sooner they can get better. Just speaking from experience. 12 years sober and never looked back..

    • @Bone89
      @Bone89 2 роки тому +1

      U don’t have to reply, were u abused as a child? There is one commonality that is prevalent in hardcore drug addicts and alcoholics. Childhood abuse

    • @backfru
      @backfru Рік тому

      He definitely was
      He probably won't admit it, but if course he was abused
      It's like, who cares if they're narcissistic Damon?
      These kids need to find their own gym
      Yeah someone abused the hell outta that kid

    • @TheFracturedfuture
      @TheFracturedfuture 3 місяці тому

      I've never been a drinker and still always depressed.

  • @Loco801
    @Loco801 2 місяці тому

    Honestly i needed this. More than the other videos that came up

  • @vaporwingfauxmcloud1190
    @vaporwingfauxmcloud1190 Рік тому +2

    I don't have a problem with JP.. he's an awesome man who's trying to heal broken hearts and leading lost souls to hope and love for said souls but something I noticed in JP's voice and his dialogue, he seems to respond with responses within responses. It's like the following example:
    -I have a dog named Mimi and mimi was born in 2015 whereas her mother was born in 2002 and we raise mother til she was about 14 years old in normal years, in which the global war on terror was happening and the economy was fluctuating during this time which made buying anything for pets difficult and we raised mother dog through a difficult time but she was very patient and a very sweet dog and because of that we had something to look forward to when we were struggling to keep hopes up and we made it those 14 years and had to go ahead and 14 years later, raise her puppies. In 4 litters of puppies, Mimi was born and she was the rowdiest of the group of puppies but she was also the sweetest and most adorable puppy ever so we kept her and the other puppies went to other homes that raised their puppies in a wholesome way. So once she was born in 2015, since then, she's been our goodest girl and she is so affectionate that your heart will melt when she doesn't get the head pats and belly rubs because she is old enough to know when we show up, she will get loved and cared for when we get home from a long day's work.
    That's the example I'm talking about. He goes on a tangent and somehow makes people understand the reasoning behind what he's saying while covering all bases simultaneously which makes him prolific and considerate to those that seem to want to be toxic and rude by finding a hole in his logic or attempting to poke holes in said logic. What a man

    • @backfru
      @backfru Рік тому +1

      He is definitely toxic
      Thank you for pointing this out, I thought it was just me noticing it.
      But yeah it's odd. He's so toxic, and condescending

  • @75mmJagdPanzerkampfwagenIV
    @75mmJagdPanzerkampfwagenIV Рік тому +1

    Thank you

  • @bridgetmaynez
    @bridgetmaynez Рік тому

    Listening to the seven points I really agree with some not so much

  • @emmvee1678
    @emmvee1678 5 місяців тому

    I went from being needed at my job to being a number at another one. I cant deal with it. Id go back to making much less to do that job again.

  • @urex1717
    @urex1717 2 роки тому +3

    The Thomas Paines of this world are so few and far between. So thrilled to know that I breath the same air as one of them.

  • @irishwes
    @irishwes 2 місяці тому

    thankyou for making this video. i really needed this today i really stroggle with low self esteem. i dont know how to pell properly cause i never wet to school

  • @PengPeng-h4i
    @PengPeng-h4i Рік тому

    My misery is twisting me to death, I need to pick up the weight of my suffering and carry it, get my act together sort my life out 1day at a time

  • @blank_earth
    @blank_earth 7 місяців тому

    In a nutshell, I come from a dysfunctional and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my self-worth, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing and never had a good home life growing up. I managed to escape that and had to go great lengths to get away from him. I went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately, I guess they didn’t. What seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my psychological and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, their love was like a benchmark, I couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am and only if I meet certain criteria, and had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved, and if I wouldn’t, then it’s basically ‘bye peace out can’t live with your family’. It’s just unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. Yet, some online stranger on discord invalidates me and even went on to say “why should they love you” and “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates me and minimizes my feelings saying “well they raised your brother and not you so he’s their kid and not you why do you think you deserve everything what he always gotten.” and that put more salt in the wound…it’s just really unfair, my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life, the most basic thing in the world… except for me I guess… I have had someone that recognized the validity of my feelings though, and that person said “How on earth can you not be allowed just the same if not more”. All that I wanted was a life there with my family… why would anyone be wrong for that?

  • @Technicallyaddicted
    @Technicallyaddicted Рік тому +3

    I’m 35. My life is homelessness away from being rock bottom. There are things that I need to fix that no amount of money and time can fix. I’m ready to give up. I’m not a “young person” anymore and I’m running out of the “fight” in me. I’m 35 and have no skills. I’m not going to commit suicide. I’d rather fix my life than end it, but without a significant amount of money basically freely given to me(and I mean like $10,000.) I can’t compete the process to fix myself. I can’t even get my license back because I can’t get a straight answer without going back and forth between two states and for someone who is barely making rent, travel is impossible. I still care about my life, and I really want to fix it, but the equation is fraught with numbers that are physically impossible to manifest. What do I do? I’ve been picking myself up by the bootstraps for a couple years now with no results other than spinning my wheels. I’m running out of both time and money. I don’t have any ill habits, I don’t even drink. I don’t have children, I don’t have a felony. It should be possible to fix my life, but after two years I still don’t know how. I need help. I need help badly. Someone please help me.

    • @jaredkyle5987
      @jaredkyle5987 Рік тому +1

      Maybe try church…

    • @Technicallyaddicted
      @Technicallyaddicted Рік тому

      @@jaredkyle5987 how on earth is some guy flapping at the lip reading from a book and asking me for a dollar going to help. I honestly don’t care what God thinks about this. It’s an egregious waste of resources I don’t have.

    • @daboxer181
      @daboxer181 Рік тому

      ​@@TechnicallyaddictedI understand how you feel. Jesus is the only thing keeping me going. I'm 42 .

  • @brianellis9712
    @brianellis9712 Місяць тому

    Im worthless and it will never get better and people treate me like sh***t so cool thats my life

  • @mikepittman9260
    @mikepittman9260 Рік тому +2

    I lost my woman of 18 years, never a dam of happiness...

  • @StuartLoria
    @StuartLoria 27 днів тому

    I used to listen to this man a lot, now this is the only audio from him I find attractive. But I only believe half of what he says.

  • @torenkneedler
    @torenkneedler Рік тому +2

    I’m worthless.

  • @scottswisher4840
    @scottswisher4840 2 роки тому

    The TRUTH

  • @eishiba3916
    @eishiba3916 Рік тому +2

    I'm a Christian and every single day I feel worthless.

    • @donidan4894
      @donidan4894 3 місяці тому

      @eishiba3916 then you haven't believed who God says you are in Ps 139.

  • @gniewomircioek6845
    @gniewomircioek6845 3 місяці тому +1

    I feel even worse after listening to this.

  • @heather3358
    @heather3358 11 місяців тому

    Sometimes the reason for depression is because you concentrate too much on others and not yourself. Social expectations from childhood that we are not consciously aware of are the cause of many depressions, who are we really, what do we really like. The social expectation that you should have a partner and you cannot be happy without one being a part of that. Relationships are in the majority of cases give and take, one gives the other takes, few are equal, least that is what I have observed.

  • @R__a872
    @R__a872 Рік тому

    To anyone who sees this , thank god you are good at english and you are not living in thirld world country 😊
    I've recently learnt about illegal advantage or something like that ..
    Just have some kind of status , money , location or looks and use this to seek for your purpose .
    I'm really lost and my hands are tied it's the worst feelings ever ..
    So , i hope my comment might be useful to someone ..
    And please pray for me to just know what should i do in life apart from being a pharmacist cause i don't

  • @conqueringruler4283
    @conqueringruler4283 2 роки тому +4

    I admire dr Peterson. But is it okay to just want to have fun with friends and family?
    What good is happiness going to do you when you are unhappy? -he asks. Is that not the same as asking what good is eating going to do you when you run out of food? You should get used to not eating. Same for breathing, sex and having your blood circulation. Jordan Peterson is always saying "strive harder, fight through all disconfort, make sure to become the most productive possible version of yourself." I would love to ask: If the most important thing for people is to feel accepted, loved, forgiven and at home in their life, isn't the most important thing you can do with your life to make other people feel accepted, loved, forgiven and at home?

    • @conqueringruler4283
      @conqueringruler4283 2 роки тому +2

      @@ltracy100 hi, thanks for your comment and thanks for sharing that about yourself. It's a very interesting point you make and I suppose that's wisdom. But I think JP defines what your struggle within yourself should be. That is: focus on objective reality problems and be of practical use, so you can be of service to others and don't have to become malevolent. Which I agree with, but if you focus too much on objective results and less on how you make others feel, you'll work harder, contribute more than others, but people still don't feel at ease with you. You might not feel loved as much as you feel depended upon.

    • @nandu1770
      @nandu1770 Рік тому

      Thats the kind of people he is exactly talking to. The ones who cant fit in anywhere, the ones that are ignored. The ones that are doubting whether their life is even worth living.

  • @Mad-rs7fw
    @Mad-rs7fw 9 днів тому

    As a woman who's lived through 62 happy, miserable and enlightened periods of time, I wish more women would follow some of these types of advice. Not to be more like a man because I find that ridiculous, we are who we are as it was intended to be, God doesn't make mistakes. But for advice, on how to become mentally better, stronger and to become who we're supposed to be without the head games, cattiness and general bitchiness that I'm sorry to say most women resort to at times. Anyway, I follow Jordan and agree with most of what he says.

  • @rightinsideleftistmiasma2975
    @rightinsideleftistmiasma2975 2 роки тому

    JP rocks

  • @misslinda772
    @misslinda772 2 роки тому

    Jordan, you gave us the magical Word, “Jesus.”

  • @matthewmontgomery7764
    @matthewmontgomery7764 Рік тому

    I agree with Jordan straight up been bornt worthless there ain’t no assisted suicide in Amarica so that’s fucked up but at the same time there’s an Canadian Olympian that they offered up assisted suicide dispite her doing her best to survive and they tell her if you feel your life is worless you can end your self like tbh if anyone should end them selfs
    It’s me big dowg

  • @OriginalJohnDoeFakersBeware
    @OriginalJohnDoeFakersBeware 4 місяці тому

    I don't FEEL worthless, I AM WORTHLESS. I can't possibly only FEEL worthless because according to the hypocrites abusing me I don't have feelings and am subhuman trash and they are God's chosen ones so they must be right. God gave them knowledge and rulership over me so they could prove I am worthless and they are gods on earth. Everybody worship them, THEY INSIST YOU WORSHIP THEM.

  • @ceciliasandoval1726
    @ceciliasandoval1726 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for the voice of wisdom. Love you Dr Peterson.

  • @johnheart6890
    @johnheart6890 2 роки тому

    The insistence nit assistance

  • @RealziesCuts
    @RealziesCuts 2 роки тому +2

    Congratulations 🍾🎊 Man. I quit drinking 81 days ago 🥇🏆

  • @dripdrop4625
    @dripdrop4625 3 місяці тому

    Anyone get out of the military recently and end up here? Hell yea years of depression 😎

  • @macandcheese9324
    @macandcheese9324 8 місяців тому +2

    I tried something new...and failed

    • @blessed-are-the-broken7068
      @blessed-are-the-broken7068 7 місяців тому +3

      You learned something in that failure, so you apply that to the next time and then the next etc until you achieve what is meant to be yours. You got this! And you’re allowed to fail. Quitting is true failure, not the lessons in falling down

    • @macandcheese9324
      @macandcheese9324 7 місяців тому

      @@blessed-are-the-broken7068 ❤️

    • @clariceribeiro-370
      @clariceribeiro-370 7 місяців тому +3

      Congratulations for your trying!!! I believe in you and on your greatness keep going !!!

  • @Ghostdud
    @Ghostdud Рік тому +1

    Why this guys voice sound like Sauls voice from better call saul

  • @kikinhugs11
    @kikinhugs11 25 днів тому

    what if there is no one around just co workers that give u the cold shoulder and only talk to take jabs on you, so i used to come to home to my dog and that was the highlight of my day to take him out for walks and absorb his unconditional love
    ....now i just sit in my couch and just stare at his tin can with his ashes....
    life is weird. so much love and i don't know what to do, it's been a year and 2 months since my doggo passed... and just got torn apart, spat on my humbleness from ever opening up again to anyone... just getting old. and its not how this is supposed to be.. i dont know smh

  • @susanc4622
    @susanc4622 Рік тому

    It’s not only men who can be made to feel worthless and stupid. I feel trapped by obligations and unable to change things.

    • @Dan-di9jd
      @Dan-di9jd Рік тому

      Even Jesus said we’re worthless and unworthy of the afterlife with god so how much value would god put on those living life?

    • @susanc4622
      @susanc4622 Рік тому

      @@Dan-di9jd Where did he say that?

    • @Dan-di9jd
      @Dan-di9jd Рік тому

      @@susanc4622 Matthew 22. God said the kingdom of heaven is not for everyone and those who are invited are not worthy of entering. That means god already choose who to enter heaven and unless you’re invited and deemed worthy of it your life will not be blessed by god and that is why you’re suffering and feel trapped as a way for god to tell you that you’re not invited.

    • @backfru
      @backfru Рік тому

      Of course you can change
      Leave your family behind.
      Quit your job.
      Move north and take up pottery

    • @susanc4622
      @susanc4622 Рік тому +1

      @@backfru You had me until you got to the “take up pottery” bit.

  • @partykitstudio4146
    @partykitstudio4146 Рік тому

    And this is how Jordan Peterson explains you how to redeem your self to capitalism and/or slavery ….

  • @liveuser8527
    @liveuser8527 Рік тому +2

    Tried this...Didnt work...

  • @holymasterchief
    @holymasterchief 3 місяці тому

    I have no faith in myself, I have no desire to see myself succeed, I feel that I'm a burden dead or alive. I want attention and that's bad because only selfish and self absorbed people want and seek attention. I'm stuck with childhood issues into adulthood and my parents refuse to acknowledge their part in how I grew up, so I'm left feeling like it's all my fault, I should have been better, I should have been different. I don't want to succeed, I don't even want to try. If I try, why do I bother when I'm just going to fail? If I succeed, why bother because I'm inevitably going to fail. I don't want to exist, my existence isn't merited or earned. It's certainly not desired, especially not by my parents. I am worse than nothing because nothing is at least invisible unless you look for it. I'm perpetually unhappy, envious, jealous, prideful, neglectful, messy, slobby. I don't even know why I'm writing this because this is just blatant attention-seeking "NOTICE ME NOTICE ME" drivel.

  • @reneestevez7193
    @reneestevez7193 2 місяці тому

    My only comment is......., HIS PLAN IS PERFECT.

    • @reneestevez7193
      @reneestevez7193 2 місяці тому

      Because there's is NOTHING ELSE that I can do for myself.

    • @reneestevez7193
      @reneestevez7193 2 місяці тому

      I let you carry me out since at age 57 all I want is to exit from it all........

  • @guillermo3947
    @guillermo3947 Рік тому

    Feel like I don’t serve a fucking purpose. I lack work experience and just feel fucking lost, like I should’ve studied medicine instead… I know the profession is overwhelming but at least they become busy in their field.

  • @kufudokungfu
    @kufudokungfu 3 місяці тому

    only thing I look forward to is going overseas i hate Australia my family hates me I'm always not good enough for them

  • @RaySimmonz
    @RaySimmonz Рік тому

    Well came for "motivation" , didn't get that for sure....

  • @zacharymaxim3400
    @zacharymaxim3400 2 роки тому +1

    I have such sinister tales to tell everyone here.

  • @AFernandezReborn
    @AFernandezReborn Місяць тому

    I am at a dead end right now

  • @jmontyman5790
    @jmontyman5790 2 роки тому +1

    i had a realization watching this video, i poop to much.

  • @JimeLello
    @JimeLello 10 місяців тому

    Speaks is circles

  • @Belfreyite
    @Belfreyite 10 місяців тому

    Jordan sounds like an advert for the Outward-Bound School. The tragedy is that adventure is an even worse intoxicant than alcohol or heroin. Years ago, Edmund Hillary got up Everest. Now there is a queue near the summit and every Tom Dick and Charlot is in it........ All for the Bragging rights!!

  • @vincemakesedits
    @vincemakesedits Рік тому

    I have a better idea
    Do you feel useless? Imagine being a taxi when everyone is a car!

  • @time9166
    @time9166 5 місяців тому

    Smart people have faith thats high iq

  • @BenToasty
    @BenToasty Рік тому

    At '1:22' into the video.... If you missed it then the video won't make sense!... Tell me what you see..?.....

  • @grahamjones5400
    @grahamjones5400 Рік тому

    If you feel negative about yourself, just remember you'll always be a better person than the Pill Poppin Professor Peterson.

  • @phatmantv
    @phatmantv 4 місяці тому

    Who can afford a new continent to discover when you struggle to pay rent?😢 I HATE MY LIFE. Happy birthday to me 😅

  • @ohandanotheronebitesthedus6247
    @ohandanotheronebitesthedus6247 9 місяців тому

    just a walking shell at this point

  • @scottonanski4173
    @scottonanski4173 10 днів тому

    Fuck that noise. Way too much work and not enough comes back in return.

  • @erinvela1555
    @erinvela1555 5 місяців тому +1

    I love Jordan Peterson.... but this message didn't help at all.

  • @revolutie89omorareasecurit77
    @revolutie89omorareasecurit77 2 роки тому

    I don t never feel worthless
    You feel anaf for me too

  • @andretheintrovert
    @andretheintrovert Рік тому

    The path to happiness lies in being an individual and carving your own path, not by relating to an identity of politics, race or religion but accepting yourself on account of your own merits. So many bible bashers who think they are free, and yet they chose comfort over truth and lie to themselves even for the sake of reason. They wish not to admit only that they are wrong but those close to them in their inner circle of relations that think nothing on the contrary, and therefore they do not expand the breadth of their capacity to think differently and are thus and are forever destined to be sheep of a subservient herd. Sentient life is meant to evolve, not simply languish is contented stasis, break the chains of your indoctrination and be an individual.

  • @KenpachiX420
    @KenpachiX420 4 місяці тому +1

    You had me, until you went to religion.

  • @Slc81
    @Slc81 2 місяці тому

    This does zero for me

  • @Instkarma9765
    @Instkarma9765 Рік тому

    Why is he just speaking about “men”?

  • @malihehbrasseur778
    @malihehbrasseur778 2 роки тому +1

    Sir act Stan fight for people suffering Jihadi in CANADA destroying us !

  • @martinshannon7632
    @martinshannon7632 2 роки тому +1

    Jordon a gatekeeper doesn't want people' anonymous on likes of twitter wants them named tagged etc, use to think he was real, but no he's part of the gatekeeping club, just saying

  • @Samsgarden
    @Samsgarden 2 роки тому

    Kinda the anti-self help guru