Part 1 - I had to put my dog to sleep - How to handle the death of a / your dog
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- Опубліковано 24 гру 2013
- I have MUCH more footage coming of my talks about this as well as video of her and photos of her.
December 9th was the hardest day I think I have ever had. I had to make the decision to put my dog, my best friend of 14 years, to sleep. It was decision that I pondered over and over and over. it was not come to easily. This video shows a lot of the agony that I endured in this continuing process. I thought if I shared this that others in pain of the loss of a pet, might in some way, be able to help themselves heal. I know that I felt so terrible and alone, that the making of this video and the website and blog was the best way I knew to help myself. I hope its not to weird for people to see someone grieving, it was done out of compassion and love for animals. I imagine it is never going to be easy to put your pet to sleep. But maybe with this you won't be alone, and you will have some insight.
If you are struggling with the quality of life of your pet, consider all options, cause once you do it it is totally final. - Домашні улюбленці та дикі тварини
My best friend of 15yrs has 2 weeks and I'm having a very hard time. I don't want anymore pets because I don't think I can ever go thru this pain again.
I can't believe how fast 15yrs has gone by, I remember the day My family brought him home like it was yesterday. I guess I never thought I'd see the day & it's getting closer and all I see when I close my eyes is his face and it kills me
You did the right thing. My 17 yr old maltese suddenly died of heart failure, and seeing her suffer was heart breaking. I wish we would have had the chance to make it less painful.
You were good to your baby, and I am sure she knew how much you loved her. You will see her one day again.
I just put my dog rose to sleep 7 hours ago and i found this video and it helped me alot i feel your pain so much and im trying to figure out how to get through this. god bless you
Thank you so much for making this video. I am just back from the vets and can't stop crying.This is such a sad video but listening to you is the only think that helps right now. Thank you for being so brave.
Thanks Karen. I hope you are healing well. I have found great comfort in the book, How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams. Its a real joy to read. Keep well.
Thank you. Today is also the anniversary of my son's death. Having faith is the only help for a broken heart. We have to keep living to fulfill our assignments . I don't know.... someone said we can get to the point where we can celebrate their lives, but it has been 15 years and I can't get past my son's death. I thought I could never cry again, but when my dog died ......well you know. I can't get comfort from memories. They just make me cry. We just have to learn to live with the pain. God bless.
I had to put my chihuahua down last night. She was 7 years. It was all so unexpected. My family thought it was just a bug but it turned out way worse. I just keep remembering the look in her eyes. I almost feel like I let her down. My sister and I took it the hardest. Thank you for this video. I know it will be hard.
Dog you ever get over it? My dog died today and I keep researching ways to cope with it but my heart is breaking every time I picture his face💔 I feel so helpless.....that dog was obsessed with me and the feeling was mutual....did you ever get over it I honestly don't know that to do right now....this pain is unbearable.
I feel for you, sweetie. In my case, it doesn't get any better. Everything just reminds me of my pet. She was also obsessed with me and me with her. I've never imagined the day would come when we'd have to part. I just feels so empty! I hope it's different for you and that you'd be able to move on.
des gomez Hi, I am sorry I saw your comment and I felt your pain. The pain does feel unbearable at first but as time goes by that sting eventually becomes less painful. I never thought I would ever move forward with the death of my cat. I still love Patches and I always will but honestly what helped me to move forward was talking to God. I was completely real with God including tell him that I was angry with him. The more I shared my feelings is the more I felt the pain being lifted. I can look at Patches photos and not feel that pain. I still miss him but I have the opportunity now to help others that are hurting and I have the opportunity to adopt another pet that needs to be loved and cared for. Your pet knew that you loved them.... don't let this become your stumbling block. You can move forward. It takes one day at a time.... I hope this has helped.
It is VERY difficult. But as we are stewards for our pets, sometimes it is just the hardest thing to do, but the right thing to do, if and when we have to put them down. And if you don't have to put them down, losing them to medical complications or just old age, nothing makes it any easier... I hope you are healing well. I have found great comfort in the book, How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams. Its a real joy to read. Keep well. I did get over it... well not 100% but I still miss my girl. It doesn't HURT like it used to... I have just happy memories now. I don't cry anymore, I ran out of tears, and for me, thats what it took. We all heal in our own ways. :)
Thank you so much for making this brave video. I can't believe how important it was for me to watch it and feel like I'm not alone with my sad feeling of loss.
I had to put my little boy Shady down 9 days ago and it also was the most difficult and worst thing I have ever experienced in my life. I loved this little dog more than anything in this world. When the vet told me that he will die it felt like there wouldnt be any purpose in my life anymore. Everything stopped around me and I couldnt do anything but cry and cry and cry and beg the universe not to take my beautiful companion away from me. I just could not imagine a life without him. He was always there for me in the last 10 years, moved with me across the world and there was always unconditional love from him to me and from me to him. I went to lots of different vets including a holistic vet just to be told the same over and over again, that my dog had liver cancer which was very much spread all over his liver and that I would know when the right time would be to put him asleep. I tried all sorts of different medication and natural remedies but nothing made it better. At the end I just begged the universe or god or whoever is out there to please not take Shady away from me but when he couldnt go to the toilet anymore and wouldnt eat or drink anything anymore and not even be able to look up I knew I had to do it. Me, my husband and my second dog Inca were there when the vet came to our house. We all sat with him and talked to him and stroked him. He was able to lie on his favourite spot in our living room, in his familiar surrounding and I think this made it much better for him. When the needle went in it only took 1 second and he was dead. I was strangely calm when it all happened...maybe because it all went so fast and I knew Shady wouldnt even had the time to think about what was going on. All he felt and saw was us sitting arround him, talking and stroking him as we always did. I was so thankful that the vet came to our house to put him down rather than us having to take Shady to the vet clinic which he always hated anyways.
The first 4 days were terrible, I thought I wouldnt be able to cope. I cried for most of the days and thought my life couldnt continue without my loyal companion and the best friend I ever had. After one week I started to feel better. It helped me to take away all his toys, bedding, collar etc and hide it in a draw. I should have done that just after or even before he was put to sleep. I now only have one picture of him in a frame in my living room and it helps me a lot to speak to him ( to the picture) and I also try to feel positive everytime I look at him...rather than feeling negative and sad. I also imagine him being around me as a little invisible "soul dog" who follows me everywhere and he is really healthy and happy and doesnt want me to be upset. He keeps telling me "STOP sobbing! I'm absolutely fine. I have never felt so good in my life and I love how everthing is right now. I'm still with you, you just can't see me...but I can see you :) and I'm feeling as healthy and fantastic as never before"... This might sound crazy but it really helps me :)
When I take my other dog Inca out for a walk I always say to her that Shady's little sould dog will come for a walk with us to. I like to imagine it like this. It makes me feel so much better.
Another thing that really helps me at the moment is to think about giving another dog a new home who really needs help and a loving person who takes care of it. I always said once one of my dogs will die I would give another poor dog in need a new loving home. I wouldnt search for a dog that looks exactely the same as my Shady because it wouldnt be fair on the new dog ( I would more than likely compare him too much with Shady) but it does feel right to give another dog a chance and also find a new companion for my female Jack Russel Inca. She is 15 years old and was with Shady 24 hours in the last 10 years, and she seems lost and upset about not having him around.
And one last thing that helps me to cope with the situation is to remember how he was in his last days, how poorly he was, how thin and weak and no energy for life left in him. This makes me feel more calm about my decision to put him down. I know I did the right thing and it makes more sense that he is not with us anymore. If I only think of the past times where he was healthy and happy and full of life it hurts too much as it doesnt seem right that he isn't alife anymore. Not sure if this makes sense to everyone...but it does to me. I'm sure eventually, once I'm over the worst grieving period I will be able to remember and think of all the happy times I had with him without feeling upset but to feel lucky and blessed to have had such amazing 10 years with him.
Sorry this message is so long now but this is the first time I'm writing about Shadys death and it makes me feel much better.
Thank you xx
Lisa, thanks so much for sharing about Shady. it clear your kiddo was important to you. I am so sorry for your loss. It is VERY difficult. But as we are stewards for our pets, sometimes it is just the hardest thing to do, but the right thing to do, if and when we have to put them down. And if you don't have to put them down, losing them to medical complications or just old age, nothing makes it any easier... I hope you are healing well. I have found great comfort in the book, How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams. Its a real joy to read. Keep well.
Thank you so much to share your story. I agree. You are so brave. I am in pieces for losing my best friend Odie, a dachshund mix. He was my rock and my soulmate. I am lost now. He had to be put down on 12/12/2016 due to extreme complications with a possible brain tumor and diabetes/cushings disease. I feel for you and just know you are not alone. Many of us are dog lovers and not just that...these babies are our FAMILY and it is an incredible blow to lose them. (HUGS) Jaime
Oh my, I could have written this letter. I just had to put down my precious Benjamin after 14 years of loving him. I am heart broken. I can hardly breath and I can't stop crying. Thank you for writing this. If you want to communicate, please do. Withsalt@att.net
PRallo so very sorry for your and everyone else's loss. It is unbearable, isn't it?! I am going through it right now as well. Lost my incrediby sweet and amazing black labrador completely unexpectedly three weeks ago from an acute stomach bleed. I am completely devastated. He was by my side for all these years and I cannot wrap my heart or my head around him being gone. Our love for our animals runs very deep. They are always there, always loving and much more faithful, sweet, and innately good that humans ever can be. The worst part about it is that honestly will help stop the crying is time. And time crawls when you are this hurt. When I went through this with my first dog, I lost my cat two days after my dog. I thought I had landed in some sort of cruel nightmare. Cried for months and months and didn't believe I would ever smile again. In time it became easier to think of them and the amazing memories without crying. I don't think it's something you ever truly get over, you just automatically, with time develop a coping mechanism. I am going through it allover again now with my lab though. And it also brings back all the sadness of losing my other pets. Every single thing in my house reminds me of him, I think that I hear him all the time, when I open the door and he is not right behind it, I just sit like a ball on the floor, and sob. There are so many triggers where I could be ok one minute, but then I will see or hear something that reminds me of him and it will start allover. These past three weeks since he has passed feel like time stood still. Every minute seems like torture being without him. Just wanted you all to know you are not alone in your grief. Sending so much love to everyone.
I know this is an old video,I just came upon it. I’m going the same thing . I just had to put my beloved dog Buddy down 2 days ago. I’ve been crying nonstop. This video help me see I’m not the only one who feels like this. Sometimes I feel like I don’t want to live anymore. It’s so lonely not having my Buddy any more. If you see this comment please me know how your doing.
hi I'm Presley I'm 12 years old and today my dog tina is 16 in human years and we took her to the vet since she's sick and old. she has been with me since I was born, tomorrow we are taking her for her last shot (to put her to sleep) I have been crying the whole day except watching youtube but I am crying right now I do not want her to suffer but do not want don't want to die :(
Thank you so much, I’m grieving as well. I had to put my baby boy down on 10-19-18. He was 11 yrs.old, & my best friend, I miss him so much.
I just went threw that and I can’t get over the fact that my cat is gone. I can’t say that I understand what you are going through but I am feeling sad and powerless. I’m sorry that this message is late but your story is very helpful.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. It's been a month since I had to put my kitty of 16 years down and I cry every day, I don't know how I will survive without him, he was my best friend too, I can totally relate with you, my heart is broken. I hope you are doing better now. God bless you!
thanks +Alliswell I am doing much better. Happier but never will be over my girl. I go see the other pups in need of a home cause my own situation does not allow me to have a pet currently. I WILL get one in the future though! :) Hope you are well.
Alliswell I lost my beloved, heart-and-soul-and-mind beloved pet today in a dog attack. How did you make it through?
Oh God, how I relate to this emotion. I am going through the loss of our black lab, Rex. He passed away two days ago (January 25, 2018). It came as a complete shock. It came out of nowhere. He was only 6 years old, and passed from acute stomach bleeding. He was my everything. Followed me everywhere. I have been in bed for many months these past two years because of illness, and most of my days were spent with him by my side. He was always there. The 24th of January he threw up his breakfast, and was sick all day. We thought it was something that would pass, maybe something he ate outside. Yet, the next day we rushed her to the vet and then to an emergency hospital and he died there. We never saw this coming. We thought we'd go to the vet, he would get some antibiotic and all would be well. Never in a million years did we think he wouldn't come back home with us. I am so beyond devastated. Can barely catch my breath from crying so hard and so much. I am completely heartbroken. I also feel tremendous guilt for not taking him to the vet the previous day. I keep thinking "what if". He didn't deserve to die this young. He was full of life, full of love, and this was so way before his time. I can't find adequate words to describe how sad I am. The words "sad", "devastated", and "heartbroken" don't even come close to describing how painful this loss is. The house doesn't feel the same. Nothing feels right. The heartbeat of the house is gone. The happy spirit is gone. I feel completely empty and so very heartbroken.
Me too .!!! Christmas Day 2018 . So sad broken hearted ....r.i.p. Princess I love you forever ...
It's been 28 days since I put my 13 year old Dalmatian; my best friend, to sleep because of renal failure & arthritis... i still remember it like yesterday that night when i had to make the decision at 3 in the morning. I remember the ride there, I wrapped him in his blanket and was holding him like a baby. I remember those big brown eyes gazing up on me as my sister drove us there. Once there, I layed him on the counter... he was very curious, looking around acting tough, looking very lively, really made me twice about what I was about to do. I wanted to put him on the floor and hope that he could walk without pain and somehow be ok now, but I knew it would all be in vain... I really wanted to run out of there with him! But I just had to be strong and get it over with. It was the only thing I could do for my best friend... to finally let him rest and be free of all his pain. The vet wanted to take him to the back to start the procedures, but I told her to please let him sleep in my arms which she was ok with. I can still feel his last heart beats as I had him in my arms like a baby, witnessing the last seconds of my best friend's life... and then, there was no heart beat and his journey here on earth was over. It was so difficult walking out of there without him. but I would not have done it any other way.... He was there for me during the most difficult moments of my life, I had to be there and be strong for him for his... It's been almost a month and not a damn fucking moment passes by that I don't long for his companionship, for those amazing, simple moments of looking down and seeing him laying next to me. It especially hits me so hard every time I come home, after a stressful day at work... when I open the front door, he's no longer there welcoming me home as if I'd been gone for years!!! My brother gave him to me as a puppy a few months after my mother passed away when I was 12. He was there during the few happy moments of my life and always there with me during the darkest hours of my life. I actually do have human friends, but I've always preferred the companionship of my canine best friend. He always kept me in the present. He kept me sane and gave me a reason to get out of bed on days when I had no need to be anywhere like school or work.. and all he asked for in return was tennis balls! He loved his tennis balls and no other toy!!!!
Fast forward 28 days later, His tennis balls still laying all over the house, his water saucer still with water, his leash and collar still hanging in the coat rack next to the front door, the urn holding his ashes on his bed next to mine, and his human best friend... trying to find another reason to keep existing...
I miss you, Spotty Boy!
Dec 6 , tomorrow will be the one year anniversary that I put down my 11.5 year old golden retriever we had a relationship like no other dog I've met/ had. I've been dreading this day.
It's been almost 9 months since my best friend has gone. Dec 2 was my 26th bday and I spent it locked in my room and my phone turned off. There's been quite a few setbacks in my life since I put him to sleep. I've completely stopped going out for walks/hikes (something we both loved doing). My family tells me to get another dog, but I still need time. Still daydream about him ever single day. Dogs are the most noble beings on this planet, they love us unconditionally. I don't personally believe in any religion, but as Mark Twain truthfully once said:
_Heaven goes by favor. If it went by merit, you would stay out and your dog would go in._
It is VERY difficult. But as we are stewards for our pets, sometimes it is just the hardest thing to do, but the right thing to do, if and when we have to put them down. And if you don't have to put them down, losing them to medical complications or just old age, nothing makes it any easier... I hope you are healing well. I have found great comfort in the book, How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams. Its a real joy to read. Keep well.
Wow. You have NO idea how much this video has touched me. I lost my first fur baby March 7 2018-a month ago. She passed due to kidney failure at the young age of 9. I am absolutely just broken and feel like I can’t go on. Her name is Juliette & we are completely lost without her-(had her since she was 2 1/2 months old)-so are her other beagle sisters-we have 4 other beagle girls who miss their sister-and they keep us busy but life has definitely changed forever. I find myself talking to her constantly-it feels like it hasn’t set in...We had and still have such a strong bond. I cannot have human kids so our fur babies are our only kiddos in life and I’ve lost a child. I am broken!!!! 😥😖💔 Our Julie and your Kup may be playing together on the other side! 🐶🐾🐶
I can't thank you enough for this video. I had to put my dog to sleep this last monday, August 1st 2016. I was bonded to her in an indescribable way, and I think you truly understand. My little Lucy had similar health issues and I've spent the last six months carrying her around everywhere since she couldn't walk. I watched her turn slowly into a shadow of herself before I could finally let her go and even on the day of Euthanasia I almost asked for two more weeks. In the end I knew she was staying alive for me but was in a lot of discomfort and pain. She was blind, deaf, and couldn't walk. She also had cancer wracking her body and I realized that if I didn't let her go she may die while I'm away. I'm suffering crushing agony and pain.... I feel as if I can't breathe. However watching your video has really helped me to see that others have the same experience and have similar bonds with their unique friends. I love Lucy forever and I hope she'll run free in my heart where I can continue to love her fiercely for as long as I live.
Thank you so much for making this video, I put my dog down yesterday and I felt so alone till I watched this. I hope it helps you knowing that what you done is the most loving amazing thing to do for your baby, I believe for me I will never get over this and it is a gift I have been given by my girl that I hold in my heart to honour the life she shared with me. All my love to you, you wonderful person x x x
I can't take your pain away, but hearing your story validated my own. Thank you for that. Much love to you.
I know what it feels like to lose a pet, I had to put my dog Max down the day before thanksgiving and I was sad about it, he was the best and only poodle that I ever had, his health was bad, he had a heart murmur and the day he was put down the vet told us he had cancer in his prostate , he was one of the best friends I could ever ask for and every day when I gave him his medicine I would tell him he was a good boy, pet him on the back and call him my old man, but I know he's in a better place and that he is with his 2 brothers playing and being a happy and healthy dog. RIP Max!
Lilly also has a heart murmur. She is 14, 10 mths when I got her, and I'm struggling to make the decision to put her down. She can't walk properly and is now having breathing problems, falling over. I'm not too pride to say I'm a guy and a mess going through this, but she's my pumpkin.
Thank you for sharing your story... Just put my beloved Coco to rest 18 hours ago... I'm broken in a way I don't know how to fix... Thanks for the encouragement.
I can relate. I had to put my Shellbee down yesterday. He was a 13 yr old Shih Tzu. He had kidney/liver failure. Today begins my first day of "firsts". It's horrible :/
I lay here alone my kona is no longer next to me, today at 4:20 pm she was laid to rest after battling uncontrollable seizures. I sat across the office of my vet listening to the vet explain her condition will only get worse and it would be best for kona to not suffer.
I wanted to scream no but I allowed them to take my baby to the back, I heard her Yelp from the back room...then a silence, then the vet came moments later, he said so sweet "she's asleep"
I wanted to drop to my knees and scream give her back!
But I had to keep control as my 11/2 year old granddaughter was me.
My life will never be the same my deepest pain is embedded in my soul, my chest will forever quiver... I can't help but think i was wrong.... But when I recall her body before me, I only seen peace in her face... I'm gonna miss her so bad... I can't imagine tomorrow without kona....I hurt bad. I feel alone. I can't catch my breath.
Hi Tia, I don't know if you'll see this but your story has really hit me. My baby girl, Qro (Coturnix Quail) died after our vet removed a stuck egg from her little body. I knew her chances weren't good, but I was praying and hoping I raised her healthy and strong enough to survive and recuperate from the surgery. Qro passed on 11/19/19 and I still cannot control my crying fits 4 months later and I'm still trying to catch my breath. I hope time has helped you and The Dog's Tale Lady & have both been able to heal your hearts.
God Bless, Rafael
I cried so much.. I'm so sorry for your loss dogs are amazing..
Thank you for your video I absolutely feel your pain. I'm going to have to make a decision myself before long with my dog friend.😢😢😢
I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how hard doing this must be for you. I’ve recently had to have my collie cross springer put to sleep. She was 15+. She was a wonderful companion, loyal, loving and so protective. It’s been nearly 2 weeks since we lost her. Our home will never feel the same and our other little pooch misses her terribly. It does get better. It takes time and we will always love our faithful friends.
I am so deeply sorry for your loss. You love her and you did your best for her, I am sure she knew it. She is now pain-free ,probably playing in heaven. She will be very happy to see her mommy being happy again. Be strong soon and remember you did the right thing for her as no any mother could stand seeing her beloved ones suffering from illness. You are not alone because your dog is always in your heart.
Oh, strength for you! I lost my lovely Angel Iris almost at age of 15. She was on extra-time since December 2013. I can feel your pain and sorrow. She passed to Rainbow Bridge in my arms at vet. Iris 10.6.1999 - 9.4.2014 R.I.P. Miss Her everyday!
Also, I got my dog when I was 3 years old. We grew up together and she was like my sister. I miss her with all my heart
I put down my lab Chelsea yesterday evening. So many of the symptoms and experiences you and your dog went through, I have seen with my Chelsea. Bless you for sharing.
Thank You for sharing your story! It has HELPED me deal with my having to put down my beloved poodle (Frappe) of 12 years! At the vets office, I told the vet I found it HARD to thank him for helping put down my BELOVED Frappe. My vet stood up straight and said, "In vet school he made a PROMISE to stop PAIN and SUFFERING"! He said, "He was HAPPY to STOP Frappe's pain and suffering". My vet told me, it was BETTER to be a week early, then a day late!!! That helped me a lot!! You were a GREAT mommy for your beloved Kups
yes BL it is VERY difficult but as we are stewards for our pets sometimes it is just the hardest thing to do. I hope you are healing well. I have found great comfort in the book, How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams. Its a real joy to read. Keep well.
What a touching story, honest, raw and brave. I thank you for posting it. I just lost my dog Socrates 1 week ago, and still feel lost. I really don’t know what I will do next...
So grateful to you for this video. I recently had to put my 15 year old dog Mollie down 3 days ago. I am so devastated. Your video is so therapeutic for me. Knowing that my feelings are real and that there are others who understand. Thank you and I hope that you are well.
Extremely moving story. Beautiful. I just lost my Airedale Terrier of 11 years, and I am sobbing.
My heart is with you, as I am sure your precious dog, was trulyvthe sunshine of your life. I know, I just made that difficult decision myself and put down my Papillon of 14 years. I miss Duncan so much, not blessed with children, he was my child. I cry randomly in my grief, unexpectedly. May we both heal from this.
Thank you for sharing your dog's story. She sounded like a wonderful dog and clearly you were a wonderful owner. I needed to hear your story tonight - I just lost my beloved little dog this evening.
i understand your intense relationship with your precious one YOU MUST NEVER FEEL SILLY FOR THE PAIN OF YOUR LOSS, I lost my 15 year old August 25th 2014 and I think of her everyday. Try to think of the good times and laugh and cry and scream. You are experiencing genuine grief and it should never be underestimated or brushed aside xxxx
Thank you for putting together you blog. I now know that I am not alone. My family just recently put down our 13-14 year old baby. It was the hardest decision ever. It was so hard to let go. After watching your videos, you helped me feel that we made the right decision. It is very sad, but our dogs are pain free and are in a better place. Again, thank you for your inspiring story.
so sorry for your loss
Thank you so much for being real and sharing your experience. I did not have a dog but I had a cat and he was only two years old. I was so heartbroken that I had to put him to sleep. He got sick and I am not sure how he got poison into his system. Anyhow, watching this video you have helped me. I am so sorry that you lost your friend. But I've come to realize that even through our pain we can receive our own healing by helping others. I understand the pain of making that decision for your pet's life. It is the worst decision to ever have to deal with. I noticed that you posted this video from last year. I am hoping that you are doing much better since this video. Be encouraged and may God bless you for being real.
I just had to put my dog down a few days ago and its been really hard and thank you for making this video so I know I'm not alone 🐶❤
We had to put down our 15 year old dog today, it was more emotional and upsetting to me than most of the deaths of human family members. I watched your video the whole way through and it made me feel better to hear someone who went through the same thing. Thanks for sharing your experience.
I feel your pain.....my dog died a few days ago, 2019. Your story is helping me cope with my lost...The hardest part, My God, is letting go...Thank you so much for sharing your story...It’s been years from your story. I’m sure now you can look back with loving memories.,Your bond was incredible..She is always with you...🙏❤️
I'm sorry for your loss.
thank you so much for doing this. I had to put my dog down yesterday morning and I am really taking it really hard. I really don't know if I can handle this loss. I thought that I could but I'm just really shocked in allot of the same ways that you explained with your whole process. The panting the constant bathroom walks. All of it. I was just watching your video and so amazed that our stories were almost the same. Like it was the same experience with the same dog or something it was really weird. My Rocky was also a month from being 14 yrs old. I hope to see more of your videos of your journey to heal. Just so I know that it is possible because right now it really does not seem to me that that will be the end result. Thank you again for sharing, and God bless you.
We just had to put our dog of 12 years to sleep, and have been grieving so much. He was my husband's buddy. He's devastated. It helps to know we are not alone in how much we are grieving over our dog. Jack was such a part of our family and has left a hole in our hearts. Thanks for your video. It seems like right now we'll never stop hurting or crying over Jack. 😭
My heart aches for you, and my heart aches for my boy Rocky (German Shepherd/Collie Mix) that I had to put down on Dec. 8, one day before you had to put your girl down. It takes a lot of courage to make this video, something that I couldn't conceive of doing myself, it would have been impossible for me to get all the way through it.
Rocky was just over 10 years old, we rescued him at 2. He was easily the smartest and most sensitive dog I have ever owned. When he was 4 years old he contracted Lyme (I have it too) and his kidneys went into acute failure, he was given less than 3 weeks to live by no less than 3 vets, including an "holistic" one who told us that he "didn't have the will to live". This incensed me and I told her so. I told her that I knew my dog better than her and that her "diagnosis" was inappropriate. I left her office with a new resolve.
After MUCH expedited research we decided on trying to bring his kidneys back using various herbal, homeopathic, and dietary remedies, including initially flushing his kidneys with a subcutaneous saline solution. To make a very long story short Rocky nearly lived another 6 full, healthy, and vibrant years before his kidneys took a turn for the worse again, this time there was nothing we could do.
I want to personally thank you for your courageous video. This past month has been excruciating, I know I'm not telling you anything you aren't experiencing yourself, but it helps to know that those of us who are absolutely in love with our dogs (pets) are not alone in our collective grief.
It's too early to even think of adopting another dog yet, and there is no "replacing" the uniqueness of our beloved dogs, but one day, when our hearts have healed enough, I hope to adopt another dog. It won't be the same but I take some comfort in knowing that at the very least we are giving another animal a wonderful life. I hope you arrive at the same conclusion some day because you clearly have a lot of love left to give.........please take care and feel better.
Awe thanks so much for your great, kind and encouraging words. Yes I go back and forth on whether I should keep the videos up or not... I DO NOT watch them or preview them at all... i just record it and put it up... its the only way Ill make it through it... I was fearful that I would receive lots of unwanted heavy criticism or wild remarks... for me it was a way i knew that would help me heal.. and you have def helped me to be grateful for having gone ahead and make this video and THEN post it... what an amazing story of survival or Rocky! Thats really awesome that you had 6 more years! Holistic stuff is surely great! to go through all of that with him... i can see that you too, just as I, love our pets unconditionally. Perhaps one day when I am healed enough I will watch my videos... for now, your right i am still healing and in fact, today makes 4 weeks. Again i tear up at this...so i won't go there... I did make a huge 16x20 size print of me and my girl and put it next to my bed so that i can tell her goodnight. It does help because sometimes i would swear that she showed up at the bed for me to pet... i realize it was a dream but seemed so real. So now i tell her goodnight each night and that i love her. It helps. Heres a couple of big hugs... one for you and one for your loved one! Thanks for responding! May peace, love and light surround you!
+The Dog's Tale Please keep your videos up! They are so helpful to so many of us! Thank you for making these. After Buddy passed, I still felt him on my bed at night. It's not a dream. Her spirit is with you.
+Karen Thomas it's not a dream, my brother saw our ka'an beside the computer chair once, lying there curled up, the never leave us.
+Karen Thomas Its 2 days after Christamas, and as I sit and think about past years, my eyes fill with tears as I realise that this is my first Xmas in 15 years that I don't have my BuddyBoy here with me celebrating Christmas, him with his Santa hat (which he didn't really like but put up with it to please me) then he would wear his bandana for a while which he didn't mind. I look around me and see him in my mind so happy and comfortable with me and our home. He was so faithful and an honest friend to me unlike so many others who said they were friends but weren't. I think back on our times togethers and a smile comes onto my face as I realise I was blessed to have him for those years we were together. In the back of my mind I guess I knew that there would come a time we would have to say good bye to each other, but I always pushed it off not wanting to accept the inevitable outcome of our relationship. Buddy, I loved you, and always will. You blessed me with your companionship, your loyalty and your love. It was a true love, unconditional and honest. A love that does not come every day. Tonight as I say a prayer I will ask God to make sure there is a place in heaven for you as you deserve a spot for your loyal and unwavering love you gave me. I miss you Buddy and if there is a heaven then one day we will be together again. Love Mike
Thank you for your video. My Goku died in the freak accident 2 weeks ago. I almost suffocated from the grief. Still going through though. Thank you again
I had my beloved terrier of 16 years, laid to rest on Sunday, he passed at home, with family and my other dog, I miss him, he was my love, best friend, God bless everyone.
We had to put ours down of 15 years today. I feel your pain. Today has been the worst day of my life. I dont know what to do
aww dont worry! i hope you good luck on the rest of your life and god bless you and your dog.. he's in heaven now so your dog is watching over you!
Thank you for your video. I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for your courage in making this video. It will help people. I put my dog Mollie down on Sept.5th, 2015. It was the hardest thing I've ever done.
Thanks Ida. Hope your healing well.
Attachment is a biatch!! I had to put my dog to sleep unknowingly. He wasn't feel well for past two days and took him to a hospital. Denial had to turn into reality. Decision had to be made.Just the thought of De-attachment crushes the entire world. I couldn't do it, but someone did it, since he was 14 and suffering of the loved one is impossible to watch. The best thing at this given time is to keep your self busy and not to talk about it. Suffering is inevitable. Suffering is due to attachment. Aging is suffering. We all eventually have to accept the bitter reality. He is gone, but fed him like a pig with all the goodies. We gave him the quality life any pet desperately look for. I am done with pets for good now. Don't have the heart to see them passing away or knowingly drive them to be euthanized.
I'm so sorry for you're loss, i lost my black Labrador tonight named Tye he was 8 and he had blood in his stomach from a tumor in so devastated, and don't be silly i was crying with you to this, it's been less than 24 hours for me to at this point now so upsetting was crying my eyes out before. The very least is that she had a great life with you and that I'm certain we will all see our loved ones and pet angels on the other side one day❤ god bless you it will never go away but time makes it easier to bare u have some lovly memories with her as i do with mine and we will cherish them forever hope you heal over time all my love
thank you sooooo much, Lee. just put my dog down 12-27-13. also had 6 months of geriatric care with her, exhausting, but I would gladly have continued, if I could. She had bladder cancer , and could not go on....everything you said is true for me, especially the silence in the house, that is the toughest. My eyes are sore from crying..I look just like you. She was also my best dog ever, absolutely irreplaceable. You are NOT alone, I wailed at the vet's when she went limp. (get flash backs of this image, very painful) I second guess my decision when to do it, but I know it was right. Hope it has gotten better for you....hope it gets easier for me :( My dog was adopted from the local shelter as an adult and she "picked" me! I was adored by her every day, and protected and respected.
hey there and thanks for the great response! yes that wailing at the vet;s office i know all to well. I can still hear myself.... today makes 4 weeks since I lost my battle with my girl. My heart goes out to you it is just really the hardest thing ever. and something that takes a long time to get over... tears are healing... time is healing... let it flow. you have lost someone very dear to you... my Kup too "picked" me. we were the lucky ones no doubt. love hugs peace and light be with you! your kiddo is waiting for you at the Rainbow Bridge. :)
Your vidio has been a great help to me as I also lost my Diva two days ago, It can't have been easy doing the vidio Many thanks Peter Wines Somerset UK
I litteraly cried through this whole video. Im so sorry. I know how this feels. Me and my dog were so so so close. Now, she can hardly walk. Just like my last dog we had to put down when I was about one. My dog is basically paralyzed now. She can hardly walk at all. It hurts her. I have to put her down today. Im going to be balling. Im sorry for ranting knowing that you are going through this. But stay strong.
thank you for this. my childhood dog is getting close to the end of her life and i am scared for the day to come, but this has made me feel less alone.
last time i've had a dog die, i was 4 so i didn't fully grasp the concept as i do now. same as my old cat who died months after my old dog.
I had to have my cat put down today. I grew up with her around and she was like my best friend. I always see her in the corner of my eye. I'm so sorry to hear about your dog! I hope you are Ok!
I put my dog Bilbo down today. Yesterday he had a nosebleed. We went to the vet today and found out he had a giant tumour. We put him down right then. It was awful, he was only 10 years old and so happy, even his last days, I didn't suspect a thing. We buried him in the yard with his favorite blanket and his favorite toy. I've cried all day, but this video really helped me, it's comforting to know you're not alone. Thank you so much.
God bless you Lee! I love you for doing this. Do you know what I am thinking while I am watching this? I'm thinking that your baby had the best owner ever and was so blessed to have you as her mom! That includes your decisions for her well being. You are so brave and NOT alone! God and your pup are with you always. 2 years later, I pray that you are with peace about her and your decision. I have no doubt that you knew what was best for her since you are a compassionate and caring guardian! I also hope that you continue to bless other dogs by being a "mom" to them; there are so many out there who need wonderful owners like you! I had to PTS two of my dogs early this year, only one month apart. My schnauzer Buddy was 14 and he had diabetes and pancreatitis; my pointer Abby was only 9 but she went into acute kidney failure within a few days. It broke my heart and I thought I'd never get through it. But I have, despite missing them and thinking of them almost every day. I still have dogs and constantly hug them, kiss them and tell them I love them. I know they won't be here forever. You are so blessed to have found your soul mate in her. I'm enjoying you reminisce about her accomplishments and smile as you do. I know she is smiling too.
Thanks Karen. After sitting here and reading all the replies and responding to them, none had made me cry again until I got to yours. Thanks for sharing what you felt and stepping out there. :) There are few loves like the unconditional love of a pet. It is VERY difficult. But as we are stewards for our pets, sometimes it is just the hardest thing to do, but the right thing to do, if and when we have to put them down. And if you don't have to put them down, losing them to medical complications or just old age, nothing makes it any easier... I hope you are healing well. I have found great comfort in the book, How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams. Its a real joy to read. Keep well.
I just lost my best friend, Digital. literally 24 hours ago. A female Jack Russel, she was 18 years old.
She was 'fine' but i guess she showed a few signs something was going on, a little sleepy etc but she was 18 and beat the odds so many times.
She got up early yesterday morning about 5am, couldn't settle, shaking and laying in a cold hallway. I got her into the vet at 8am for bloods and still with the hope it might have been gastro. About 9:30 at work i got the news from the vet she took a turn and amazingly she wanted me to come in and discuss 'treatment options'. Either her skin cancers had moved to her liver or she was fighting off a bad infection.
Then i made the decision to have her put to sleep. :( i loved her so much.
The misery and dread i feel right now is unlike anything i could have imagined. I loved her so so much. She was perfect and my only friend throughout those years.
It is VERY difficult. But as we are stewards for our pets, sometimes it is just the hardest thing to do, but the right thing to do, if and when we have to put them down. And if you don't have to put them down, losing them to medical complications or just old age, nothing makes it any easier... I hope you are healing well. I have found great comfort in the book, How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams. Its a real joy to read. Keep well.
Today was the day for us and it was awful...just like you, she was so happy to go for a ride and I was wanting to say don't trust me! I've wandered throughout the house and I am lost, my husband is very empathetic and feels the loss as well, but it's still so lonely. I hope you are doing well now and have another friend.
I just recently had to put down my shih tzu who was almost 16 years old. Watching your video, I cried through the whole part I. All of your emotions were exactly the way I felt. It's been 1 week and the pain is still tearing me up. Will it get better? I am writing this comment on Dec. 29th, 2018 so your fur baby has been gone 5 years? Your video makes me feel okay about the pain and torment of losing my baby. Thank you.
I had to put my lil.buddy down yesterday morning.this name was soda pop Jones.when I got him my life was could have went on the wrong track.so I went into his world and I stop drinking and partying 1 week after getting him.and last year I stop smoking cigarettes after 30 years.he was my Angel.I miss so much.he was my lil.baby handful.he showed me how in joy life.i hope I really see him again 1 day.its hurt so bad.i loved him more then myself.i am so happy to go though his life with him.he loved all
My husband and I put our smart, beautiful, incredibly loyal and obedient dog down today. Our hearts are broken. We both wished that we could have gotten the injection along with him. The pain is unbearable. We’re empty nesters and our worlds revolved around each other.
Thank you for your story, I hope that you’re OK now🙏🙏🙏, and that we too will be OK.
Thank you for this it's really helped me I lost my dog yesterday and feel so much pain
Thank you, I am going to put my dog down today.... I have never had to make this decision before....I love her so much but I don't want her to be in pain anymore. She isn't getting enough food and water. Her tongue has cancer I have had this dog through everything in my life. I fought from 16 to now to have her in my life. I am so scared and your video has really helped me... I don't have anyone to go with me to the vet... So I am taking my other dog storm. Thank you.
It is VERY difficult. But as we are stewards for our pets, sometimes it is just the hardest thing to do, but the right thing to do, if and when we have to put them down. And if you don't have to put them down, losing them to medical complications or just old age, nothing makes it any easier... I hope you are healing well. I have found great comfort in the book, How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams. Its a real joy to read. Keep well.
This happen to me i feel your pain i still cry its really hard too get over im so sorry for your loss
Watching in 2015. I don't think it's silly at all. I feel for you and absolutely dread the day I must also make the decision to put my baby girl down. I helped her mommy deliver her and she's been my best friend, sidekick, and a like a child to me. Anywhere I do, she goes. She is the love of my life and I cannot imagine my life without her. She is 3 years old and not a day goes by that it doesn't cross my mind that there will be a day that I won't have her by my side. I thank you so much for sharing this. Please know that I am thinking of you and praying that you find some comfort knowing that your beloved is not suffering and that she had the best life possible with you. She knows that you done what was best for her. ♥ Much love from Indiana.
Thanks Angela! Hope Indiana is treating you well. ;)
I cry with you. My dog Riley an English Lab is almost 14. I have had to make the plans to put him down next week. My heart is breaking right now. I feel so sad.
Thank you for this video just lost my dog last week
Thank you for sharing. I just had to do the same thing yesterday and I’m a wreck 😭
my dog was 3 months old 5 years ago i had to put her down.
for some reason out of nowhere i got emotional today im about to watch your video i hope it helps me and im sorry for your loss.
i still remember the first day i got her she slept next to me on a mattress i remember playing with her and how i hate myself for not being there for my final moments.
3 months may seem like nothing but i swear we had a connection it may be the guilt but i think the first day i got her we bonded really well, i cant explain it but we were best mates.
miss her still to this day i cant look at a photo of her without having to hold it in really hard to not get teared up.
R.I.P Carly 28 March 2010 - 18 July 2010
Im sorry for not being to scare to go in with you and not watching you more carefully when you ate those dummies i should i spent a little more time with you and maybe you would be there.
I hope to see you again one day.
awww sweetheart x
very nice video 📹
thx I am 12 and today is Black Friday and my dog tina is very sick old had her for 16 years ( before I was born) and she was just a pup then my dad bought me home and the first thing he did was show me to her she was with me all my life and in all my home video's and even my first steps! thanksgiving she stopped eating stopped moving and could barely stand we wanted to take her to the vet but it's closed on Thanksgiving so today we took her to the vet waited I cried the entire time then the doctor said to bring her back tomorrow to put her asleep ( to give her a shot and she will never wake up) so I just said goodbye before I went to sleep my dad is going to take her while I am asleep. she is the first dog I ever had :( I will miss her so so so much!! I am crying right now still, my head hurts
I cried sooo much yesterday. My dog Cookie was born in my house on May 29, 2003
I put her to sleep yesterday March 18, 2018
She lost a lot of weight, she wouldn’t eat or drink. She could not even open her mouth. She could barely walk and lost her hearing. She slept all day. Basically she lost her quality of life completely and I knew she was suffering. Your dog played with a freesbie and my dog play soccer with an old basketball
I miss her sooooo much! I hope I did the right thing.
My beautiful baby girl was snatched from me yesterday. Somehow slipped through my fingers to kidney failure. I'm lost. I'm shattered. I never knew about kidney disease in dogs. I feel so stupid. She was 16 and I was expecting 18 wonderful years. I hope wherever she is, she is being taken care of and loved the same way we loved her.
I had to do it to yesterday.I know I feel like my heart was ripped out. I pray for both of us. Please if you need to talk I will be here.
Putting down my best friend today. This pain
I know how you feel, we had to put down my bestfriend in the whole world last month, he was so sick. My heart aces for you. Stay strong ❤
Same.. its so sad. just this afternoon about 4 hours ago i had to put my best friend down .. my companion. he was alive for 18 years and has been year for all 12 of mine... im still crying..
anneliese nilssen Stay strong
thanks... so supporting to hear someone cares.. thanks again..
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We had to put our dog down yesterday. It was the hardest decision I’ve ever made. He was a 10 year old dachshund. I miss him so much! I wish he would visit me in my dreams. I feel so alone. 😥 we still have other dogs but I still feel sad. I miss you Kenshin! Iloveyou!
Thank you soo much for your video.....I had to put my best friend to sleep also....she was 17. Very hard.....very.
you have helped me rhank you
I'm dealing with the decision of having to put down my precious Leon, the frenchie (cutest baby ever) he has a returning hemangiosarcoma that has meastasized to his lungs. He is having double walking because the cancer has taken all his muscle and I'm sure it's heavy. He has a hard time going to the bathroom and at this point even getting up and walking. He is the light of my life and this is in fact the hardest time ive ever faced. But I would really like all of his time on earth to be pain free even if it means not being with him longer. Thank you for making this video.
I just lost my dog of 4 years. His time on this earth was short, but he was so energetic that I think he packed a lifetime of adventures into those short 4 years. He injured himself and suffered a slipped disc and it morphed into a deadly infection. He quickly became paralyzed and his spinal cord starting dying. I keep thinking if I didn't let him run around and jump on the furniture that he wouldn't have injured himself. But I know he loved jumping and running around. It's just so sad to think about. My house feels so empty. There was such a routine with us everyday. I'd wake up every morning and the first thing I'd say is "Good morning Baby Doggy." I said that this morning out of habit and realized he wasn't there. The worst feeling. Part of me has died. I know it was right to put him down, to relieve him from the pain. But it's so lonely now. It was only me and him. He was always right by my side. Thank you for this video. It does help.
Humans are crazy! Doesn’t seem to make any sense...I guess we are all pathetic! I never in a million years thought I would feel this way for a dog! But thanks for sharing everyone! I had to put to sleep my baby girl! I know she came into my life to help cope with my divorce! But it became more then that and she had a tragic accident! I watched her go 02/21/2019 and I haven’t been able to sleep the last to days. She was only 10 months old and I loved her so much! This really sucked! I miss her! This whole thing sucks! Not sure where it all goes from here. Sweeties big Pyrenees you would ever see and have jump on you! I love you my sweet girl....I’m so sorry! Thanks for reading my grief! This sucks!
I'm sorry for your loss:(:(:(;(
I never had a puppy
I wish I had a puppy or a dog
Don't worry miss your gonna be ok I never had expirience losing a puppy but I know how it feels to lose someone you really care😢
My prayers go to you and hopefully you could feel better❤️
Thanks for uploading as I'm in the exact same situation as you and my dog is to sleep tomorrow
I've not long had my Yorkie 'Meg' put to sleep, not 4 months ago. she was 14 and had dementia, and so was lost by the time I made the choice to help her along. I felt crippling guilt after that and still do. I could say nothing more when the vets came to the house but "I'm so, so, sorry Meg", "I'm so sorry". The pain was like nothing I've ever felt before with relatives.
So here I sit, not 4 months later, and our doberman 'Sable' is seriously ill and , I know that the time has come again where I have to make the choice to kill my best friend. she's got a tumour on her lung and it's gradually getting bigger and bigger, and the past couple of weeks she's barely eaten anything and her weight has dropped like a stone, to the point where she's all but skin and bone.
I know what I have to do, to help her and me, but this blow is tearing the soul of me apart in ways that I've never felt before, and I'm not sure how to cope with this loss after Meg.
I',m phoning the vets tomorrow to see if they cane come to the house over the next couple of days, the same thing which happened not 4 months ago.
We love our dogs so much, in such a different way to people, there is so much taken on trust and love alone. To have a dog put to sleep by your own hand, is like the biggest betrayal you thing you could ever do against your dog. But it has to be the biggest mercy.
If only we could convince ourselves of that :-(
I feel your pain. My baby had to put down today. I didn’t even know it would be my last day with him.
I had to put my best friend down last year. She was 15 years old. Diabetic, her health went down hill a year before I decided to put her to rest. My Jessie girl is now buried in my front yard.
3 days ago i had to put my beloved sweet "Miss Kitty" to sleep. I had her for about 15 years and she was a young adult when she found me. So, she was olderthan 15. She developed hip problems and lost weight and then just could not stand up or walk. It was so terrible to see her that way. So,I had to get her euthanized. She was a sweet, smart beautiful little white, orange and black calico. She was my best friend and fur child. I loved her so much. It was devastating to lose her even though she was elderly and it was time. Coming home to an empty house after work was terrible. I didn't think I wouldever stop crying. . I know how you feel. Seeing her empty beds and putting away her food and water bowls broke my heart. The only thing that makes me feel less sad is that I am blessed to have spent 15 years with that precious little creature. She had a good life I know she loved me and we made eacch others lives better. Our pets are such a blessing.
I can't stop shaking and screaming. My cat was my everything!
My heart goes out to you, I also put my best buddy down yesterday. He was fourteen also. He died in my arms. Im so heartbroken. Im a 69 yo male.
I'm so sorry my heart breaks for you. I had to euthanize my best friend of 17 yrs, a long coat Chihuahua on 1-6-17. My Bailey was never without me. I'm so lost without him. My heart hurts.
I know it hurts I lost my Yorkie and God she was my life she was my child she slept with me everyday since I got in her she was 8 weeks I miss her so much she was so pretty always used to ask so let me rub my belly and she said turn around and let me rub her belly she was so smart and so sweet and full of love and I cry my eyes out sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind going to depression feeling suicidal I just want to be with her cuz I know she miss me as well as I miss her I just want her back I love her so much I mean love her so much and I get up and cry everyday so I know your pain
I am sorry to hear that .we had to put my cat to sleep because she had cancer I know her for many years since I was a baby when we put her to sleep I was crying so much
very nice
God bless you. i put down my cavalier today.
My heart is broken my dog got put down I cried and cried it is just is not fair I hate death it was the hardest thing in my world I cry when I think about the day he got put down he was only 8 years old kind of young:( :(:( :(