I Killed My Partner In Self-Defence(Part 1) | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja- Episode 57| Season 3

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  • Опубліковано 7 гру 2021
  • A guest shares her story on how she ended up killing her husband to protect herself.
    Studio Guest: Philda Sarlie
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 104

  • @hiljainoethandje1222
    @hiljainoethandje1222 2 роки тому +137

    How can I show mama Relebogile how much I love her and how much I appreciate what she’s doing for everyone?? Can we show this channel so much love . Love and prayers from Namibia 🇳🇦🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @relebogilemabotja215
      @relebogilemabotja215  2 роки тому +30

      You watching and sharing is more than enough! Thank you ❤️🥺

    • @cecilemuntu5401
      @cecilemuntu5401 2 роки тому

      @@relebogilemabotja215 totally agree 👍 👌 👏 🙌 💯

    • @jaiyaalexandra144
      @jaiyaalexandra144 2 роки тому +1

      Lol so cute

    • @immaculatakadyanji5927
      @immaculatakadyanji5927 2 роки тому +1

      Love from Tanzania.

    • @faraimusakuro9090
      @faraimusakuro9090 2 роки тому

      @@relebogilemabotja215 I love the dress ur putting on ther ..where can I get one like that pliz...thank u for this show ... I love you

  • @Miss_Sir2
    @Miss_Sir2 2 роки тому +195

    We have heard a lot of sad stories of women being abused by their partners, I’d love for you to interview the perpetrators . It would really be interesting to hear what goes through their mind during these hurtful acts . I’d love to get one guest who would just speak openly and honestly.

  • @sizwentinga
    @sizwentinga 2 роки тому +85

    Relebogile is incredibly perfect fit for this job. She's not distracted by the sensitivity of the story. She's cool,calm and collected. Well done

    • @relebogilemabotja215
      @relebogilemabotja215  2 роки тому +6

      Thank you 🥺

    • @sizwentinga
      @sizwentinga 2 роки тому

      @@relebogilemabotja215 You are welcome

    • @Busi-Divine_Ndlovu
      @Busi-Divine_Ndlovu 2 роки тому +1

      @@relebogilemabotja215 Hie sisi Rele l would like to see you unpacking the story whereby someone get Raped because a family member sold her to the perpetrator, l have scars in my heart but l can't share my story because of the abuse l experienced in the hands of someone l loved,whom l opened to him about the whole scenario l ended up being physical abused because of my openness,now l can't even tell my husband this thing because l'm afraid of what his reaction would be,but sometimes he ask me the questions like I'm acting like someone who was raped.Kindly unpack stories like these thank you

  • @TM-ys1kc
    @TM-ys1kc 2 роки тому +34

    Our very own Oprah. Love watching your show Lebo ❤️

  • @tererayimapfumo1356
    @tererayimapfumo1356 2 роки тому +35

    Now those who ask how can you stay for 2years with your abuser, i wish you can watch this. Its always easy to say you will leave when you are not in the situation. She stayed for 18yrs, lets be kind to one another and be less judgemental

  • @kelebogile_morelife
    @kelebogile_morelife 2 роки тому +45

    It's always hard to leave...
    Abuse affects one mentally.

  • @nompilongcobo2002
    @nompilongcobo2002 2 роки тому +6

    this should be a reality show on DSTV or Showmax as it is teaching us alot of things and it helps people overcome skeletons that they have not dealt with some things are just not easy to speak out about.
    Thanks Relebogile Mabotja god bless your incredible work.

  • @boitumelomasinga8680
    @boitumelomasinga8680 7 місяців тому +1

    This woman is so smart and well spoken. She sounds lovely and I am glad she got herself out of that situation.

  • @lebom8076
    @lebom8076 2 роки тому +18

    She seems like a very sweet, caring lady. I am glad she survived all that.

  • @phendulwazondo5207
    @phendulwazondo5207 Рік тому +3

    Rele is struggling in holding her tears. 4 the 1st tym seeing her struggling this much. Understandable u human dear.😍

  • @tankisokgomonyane5033
    @tankisokgomonyane5033 2 роки тому +15

    Yohh so traumatic💔
    Sending love and light to you ❤️❤️🇧🇼🇧🇼

  • @boipelomohlakoane7959
    @boipelomohlakoane7959 2 роки тому +4

    Relebogile is more Oprah than Oprah. Like, she’s the new bar for me. Incredible talent.

  • @helennamupala6636
    @helennamupala6636 2 роки тому +40

    This was so touching 😢 and she didn't deserve all that abuse 😢

  • @meep2605
    @meep2605 2 роки тому +36

    If you have a son, u have to love and respect yourself, if the father isn't trating you well, you MUST GO cause the sons learn and go burden other peoples children looking for love and dignity.
    How can we not hate man though? These stories are creating a monster in my soul even if I've never been a full on victim... it's rare to find a woman without scars from men💔.

  • @TuaKalola
    @TuaKalola 2 роки тому +9

    My heart bleeds for this woman. None deserves that type of abuse.

  • @albechabikoumou5647
    @albechabikoumou5647 2 роки тому +5

    I feel her pain I was also in a abusive relationship he abused me physically emotionally and verbally ...made me feel little of a person while he cheating on me but he was the most jealous and insecure person ever I was abused yet I was scared to leave the relationship until my older brother fought him physically man to man in order for our relationship to end and called the police forced me to get a protective order because he came to my work place and beated me almost to death...my face was so unrecognized

  • @leratonedz1370
    @leratonedz1370 2 роки тому +17

    Sounds like she was in a trauma bond… it’s not easy to leave any kind of abusive relationship. I feel like she is finding healing by telling her story

  • @mapalokaunda7900
    @mapalokaunda7900 2 роки тому +7

    What we women go through for this animal Love is so shocking. May you find healing mum.

  • @Siba93125
    @Siba93125 2 роки тому +5

    Sorry granny for the experience. God bless you and your family.

  • @ViolaLottering
    @ViolaLottering 2 роки тому +11

    Can we stop telling women to stay in abusive relationships, even if the abuser is yr son! It won't get better. He won't change!

  • @thebokas1247
    @thebokas1247 2 роки тому +13

    Such a powerful and touching story . I can't wait to hear part 2. I hope you heal from This Mam. 🙏

  • @thandikapenge1714
    @thandikapenge1714 2 роки тому +16

    To us 🥂who like the video before we unpack 😊

  • @trustingnobody628
    @trustingnobody628 2 роки тому +3

    This is good. Listening to the narrator and asking questions scantily makes the narrative interesting.

  • @gomolemoramanteba6876
    @gomolemoramanteba6876 2 роки тому +8

    May God guide you through🙏🙏🙏🙏🇧🇼

  • @healingspaceswithflorencen3482
    @healingspaceswithflorencen3482 2 роки тому +1

    I pray that one day, she’ll tell her story without crying 😢.. She is a whole a strong woman to endure all this.

  • @mildredmatjie5652
    @mildredmatjie5652 2 роки тому +5

    Sorry Mommy, this is soo heartbreaking 😢💔❤

  • @GK222_
    @GK222_ 2 роки тому +13

    What goes on in the mind of an abuser mara? 💔

    • @malilahabasonda3526
      @malilahabasonda3526 2 роки тому +2

      It's all about their EGO, that's what I think is on their mind all the time. Both, male and female!

  • @tshikaradikotla7850
    @tshikaradikotla7850 2 роки тому +7

    This is just a sad really. Sorry mama you had to go through all this abuse.

  • @thatayaonedick1663
    @thatayaonedick1663 2 роки тому +8

    Iam so sorry you had to go through that ma'am.Lots of love to you ❤️

  • @busisiwewendykiva937
    @busisiwewendykiva937 2 роки тому +4

    Your dress and shoes sesi Lebo 😍😍😍you are beautiful nje period

  • @ekakhumalointombi5286
    @ekakhumalointombi5286 2 роки тому +12

    F#$K lm sorry...l deeply appreciate these stories but this cheating,dishonesty and BS in relationships is sickening to my stomach...
    It's insane!
    God l pray for a healthy,divinely orchestrated relationship!

  • @Jaythecook
    @Jaythecook 2 роки тому +6

    I am so sorry mommy..

  • @sunflawa
    @sunflawa 2 роки тому +30

    Does Relebogile see a therapist? The issues shared here are a lot... Is there a debriefing session for her?

    • @tarquinmckay5104
      @tarquinmckay5104 2 роки тому +4

      Yeah.. Us watching as well lol

    • @xolilemahlangu5893
      @xolilemahlangu5893 2 роки тому

      If there isn't, there should be, because wow!!!! This is aloooottt!!!!!

    • @makeyray7378
      @makeyray7378 2 роки тому +3

      They show must have therapists detectives Army etc etc to protect all the victims

    • @LumkaJwara
      @LumkaJwara 2 роки тому +1

      The stories are very heavy.. I wonder this to.

    • @Dklady
      @Dklady 2 роки тому

      @@tarquinmckay5104 lol that's what I thought too, we are also affected by watching....This show has created light, awareness and insight to a lot of things I didn't know but it has also created a lot of fear for man .

  • @makeyray7378
    @makeyray7378 2 роки тому +8

    This show must be supported by Detective Army Therapists etc etc give justice to the victims SA can do better & provide better health care systems for all citizens

  • @swazi4769
    @swazi4769 2 роки тому +5

    This is a sad story maan. Our mothers have been through the most because of societal expectations.
    Young women now need to be empowered. Marriage or a relationship is not everything, it's not an achievement. Your life and happiness is worth more than that.
    I'm saying this as a Christian married woman. It is not enough to stay in a toxic marriage or relationship. It's not worth it. Leave... If you can't do it yourself, then involve POWA, and other organizations and seek help. Speak to a friend and get out.

    • @sbonzama7013
      @sbonzama7013 2 роки тому

      It's an achievement to some! So don't troll!

  • @victoriaehrich7131
    @victoriaehrich7131 Рік тому

    I love your show so much.
    Especially if everything is in English.
    Your intro is what I'm obsesse with.
    "Let's unpack"

  • @neomalete5832
    @neomalete5832 2 роки тому +8

    Let's unpack 🥺🥺

  • @cecilemuntu5401
    @cecilemuntu5401 2 роки тому +3

    Omg 😲😱😲 this is heartbreaking 💔 😢 😞

  • @tiaratebogo1916
    @tiaratebogo1916 2 роки тому +1

    This is heartbreaking 💔

  • @Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz
    @Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz 2 роки тому +6

    I am in shock

  • @thenjiswamakhaba1440
    @thenjiswamakhaba1440 2 роки тому +2

    I'm so touch by these stories💔💔💘💘,it's so hurting wish man can stop abusing women

  • @ribamamokgethi6982
    @ribamamokgethi6982 2 роки тому +5

    I'm here too
    Let's unpack

  • @ogiyonkelesebane9756
    @ogiyonkelesebane9756 2 роки тому +5

    part two pls

  • @hasanikubaye1497
    @hasanikubaye1497 2 роки тому +5

    All glad she fought for her life. Oh God… I’ve no words. Is this the lady who called Anele Mdoda on radio and said I am the lady who killed my husband because he was abusing me?

    • @phildasarlie988
      @phildasarlie988 2 роки тому

      Hi..yes it's me.

    • @hasanikubaye1497
      @hasanikubaye1497 2 роки тому

      @@phildasarlie988 I wish I can give you a big hug! Take care... I love you

  • @hilmamartin3697
    @hilmamartin3697 2 роки тому +1

    We approve this channel 👏🏽👏🏽
    🇳🇦

  • @sphazwelakhe2784
    @sphazwelakhe2784 2 роки тому +2

    Is this content also on national tv?

  • @faraimusakuro9090
    @faraimusakuro9090 2 роки тому

    Rebo plis. Tell me where I can get the red that ur putting on

  • @lizwithwala2443
    @lizwithwala2443 2 роки тому

    This is sad ,thank God you survived mummy 🙏

  • @tee623
    @tee623 2 роки тому +4

    🕯️🕯️🕯️for this show to continue for years

  • @ThePrincess-vb8ql
    @ThePrincess-vb8ql 2 роки тому +3

    Present 🙋🙋😍

  • @mbt9820mpp
    @mbt9820mpp 2 роки тому +1

    😢😢😢😢Oh Lord have mercy!

  • @LindaTinahTV
    @LindaTinahTV 2 роки тому +1

    The pain she still holds inside. You never fully heal from this.

  • @aliceo9529
    @aliceo9529 2 роки тому +3

    Let's unpack From 🇰🇪

  • @jamessliton9410
    @jamessliton9410 2 роки тому +1

    Time to wake up at my usual place

  • @Wyntah888
    @Wyntah888 2 роки тому +7

    I’m sorry mama 💔

  • @user-nc5ym4vp8b
    @user-nc5ym4vp8b Рік тому

    the cycle of abuse, leave and come back again. After years thanks I managed to leave

  • @katlehomotsetse4317
    @katlehomotsetse4317 2 роки тому +1

    What a sad story 💔but she is strong indeed I want part 2 of the story

  • @noxolosakang6547
    @noxolosakang6547 2 роки тому +1

    Life is not fair

  • @nolithajohnston6214
    @nolithajohnston6214 2 роки тому +8

    Let's unpack

  • @theglen85
    @theglen85 2 роки тому +6

    Trust a colored mom to show him how things are done... Lol so something my mom would do.... "wie is bang vi daai gun van jou" 🙆‍♀️🤣

  • @lusaninakisanimurathi
    @lusaninakisanimurathi 2 роки тому +6

    hectic so terrible

  • @Dalailama3674
    @Dalailama3674 2 роки тому +1

    Thank God lam not married yet but if l was l would end up in prison for murder or my partner of the day would kill me like what happened to James. I was that animal at one stage and l completely regret being that animal" why, why , why were l behaving that way? I don't have answers until the day today but fortunately lam not that person anymore

  • @gcwalisile932
    @gcwalisile932 2 роки тому +4

    🇸🇿❤️💯

  • @93seronica
    @93seronica 2 роки тому +3

    What’s wrong with these men!

  • @joeswartz6181
    @joeswartz6181 5 місяців тому

    I don't understand why beat up somebody that you confess you love..or a woman you have children with what makes you angry to beat a woman you're having sex with??.I'm married to my wife for 50 years I had my man things too but I never lift my hand for my wife she has her own ways too but it ends up a second after the argument..no fighting or swearing

  • @naemishikongo3774
    @naemishikongo3774 2 роки тому +1

    🙏🏾🇳🇦

  • @khef3846
    @khef3846 2 роки тому +11

    TBH I believe that abusive people deserve more than death. Death is too merciful

  • @maxeen5368
    @maxeen5368 2 роки тому +6

    First❤️

    • @Filoe365
      @Filoe365 2 роки тому +1

      Hope to beat you tomorrow 😘

  • @kms708
    @kms708 2 роки тому +1

    Our channel is increasing by 1000 subies a day🤪🤪🤪🤪.

  • @ikagengmalepe7530
    @ikagengmalepe7530 2 роки тому +3

    Second

  • @nokwanda_maphumulo
    @nokwanda_maphumulo 2 роки тому +3

    Third 😃