I discovered my mother's butchered body (Part 1) | Unpacked with Relebogile - Episode 90 | Season 3

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  • Опубліковано 28 гру 2024
  • A guest shares his story on how he discovered his mother's butchered body and how he managed to change his pain into purpose
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  • @balungilesapo3647
    @balungilesapo3647 2 роки тому +260

    “Because I knew what love is and how dad expressed it to my mom. As young as i was i knew that this is not love” I was moved right there

  • @samkefakude6255
    @samkefakude6255 2 роки тому +56

    "my dad prioritized my mom's happiness" This is so beautiful

  • @thobieuiko8906
    @thobieuiko8906 2 роки тому +15

    This is a horrifying event you faced but I applaud how you were brought up by both your parents, humble, responsible, smart and knowing yourself. The traumatic experience also shaped you. No one should go through what you went through. You are so strong for sharing your story. I think if you guys were also there his plan was to axe everyone, but God protected you and your sister.

  • @thandekamasango3095
    @thandekamasango3095 2 роки тому +96

    This thing of our mother's staying in abusive relationships is a thing..I watched my late mom take my stepdad back soo many times..eventually she did leave him but it was not easy..this thing stays with you..changes your whole perspective on love..but we grow..we heal🙏🏼...I can't imagine finding your mom in that state 💔 may God bring healing to this bright young man and his whole family 🙏🏼🙏🏼🕯🕯❤

  • @gailmokwatlo
    @gailmokwatlo 2 роки тому +40

    So articulate, every word goes straight to the heart. I’m so sorry, I’m so so sorry for your loss ♥️

  • @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y
    @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y 2 роки тому +47

    This poor man.
    He's so strong, I stand amazed at his perseverance.
    I pray he finds peace and has a blessed future.

  • @lebomol
    @lebomol 2 роки тому +84

    Started crying from the intro alone. Had to pause and type this while I gather strength to continue watching. This is surely going to be a tough and emotional episode to get through.

    • @nondumisomngadi6806
      @nondumisomngadi6806 2 роки тому +5

      I saw the notification yesterday and I just didn't have the strength to watch this episode. I'm only watching it now so I totally understand what you mean.

  • @summadaze2546
    @summadaze2546 2 роки тому +105

    I cannot ever imagine the pain he still carries to this day 💔

  • @dimakatsondala9229
    @dimakatsondala9229 2 роки тому +28

    I cried from beginning to end cause i was in a similar relationship..Im glad i left alive 💔 may you heal Katlego

  • @kgomotsotlhapane2076
    @kgomotsotlhapane2076 2 роки тому +34

    This story touched me so much, I am in complete awe to know that as young as he was back them he was able to decipher the difference between real love and abuse but we as old women chose to ignore the red flags In the people we date. First sign of abuse you need to run for your life regardless of how much you may love a person it's not worth it cause eventually you will end up dead. He is a very strong man even though it's been years since his Mom passed you can hear the pain in his voice.

  • @lovickn5403
    @lovickn5403 2 роки тому +20

    So articulate through the pain….my heart goes out to you,young man…

  • @gomolemoramanteba6876
    @gomolemoramanteba6876 2 роки тому +31

    Ten minutes in and i have sworn to myself to never ever let my son see this from me...So sorry for all you have been through...May God heal you and your sister...
    Nb...you have a smooth way of expressing yourself...POETIC even😘🥰😘🥰😘

  • @mbalitwala848
    @mbalitwala848 2 роки тому +30

    He narrates so beautifully ❤️

  • @MissOnai_SouthAfrica
    @MissOnai_SouthAfrica 2 роки тому +18

    Painful to watch what u went through. You are so eloquent, your mommy would be so proud of how smart you are. She is resting in the Lords bosom and is so proud ❤️

  • @nellygumede5597
    @nellygumede5597 2 роки тому +18

    One trend I've noticed about abousers is that, once you forgive them, when you decide to not forgive, they escalate the abuse. Who are you not forgive them coz you've been forgiving. This is taking advantage of a forgiving heart

  • @nosihlematyeni7650
    @nosihlematyeni7650 2 роки тому +15

    Besides the fact that I am so saddened and literally in tears. I am also amazed at how this young man still goes on, for me this is living proof that there is God in all of us and he restores or rather will continue to restore us.

  • @zeemaj6853
    @zeemaj6853 2 роки тому +10

    My heart bleeds for this family. May these kids find healing.

  • @nkamogelenglebeloane3394
    @nkamogelenglebeloane3394 2 роки тому +18

    You defied the odds Katli. Shakung and Moiletswane is proud of the POWER that you are. Strength, Love and Light. Continue to inspire us.❤

  • @Createair
    @Createair 2 роки тому +13

    Abuse is like a drug, it's so addictive, it presents itself as love at first and once you get hooked it's hard to leave, I've been in that situation. sending love and healing to you brother, you're a definition of a true leader, may the Lord bless you in abundance. you're loved and appreciated for your kindness and your strong character.

    • @thabangmawela1981
      @thabangmawela1981 2 роки тому +1

      And I think a lot of people, specially black community, we believe that when a person gives you that perfect love in the beginning of a relationship is the perfect man. And they lure you into loving them deeply. Nna I think there should be programs across all the TV and radio stations weekly, that will actually explain what a narcissist is. We need to get this information across because like you say, it is a drug, getting out it is hard. And people who have never been in that kind of an abuse will never understand when u say it is hard to live, or even forgot the abuser. And we even think emotional abuse is not bad. While that is the most dangerous abuse you can ever endure. I still struggle, but one day at a time we heal

    • @Createair
      @Createair 2 роки тому

      @@thabangmawela1981 Exactly!! hang on in there wesho, time does heal, like they say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. we learn everyday to put ourselves first, the physical world might perceive that as selfishness, but deep down we know what we had to endure hence we love ourselves more than anything.

    • @philisiwemkhulisa2674
      @philisiwemkhulisa2674 2 роки тому

      So true

  • @phoenixtehrani7848
    @phoenixtehrani7848 2 роки тому +28

    I'm so sorry for your loss.🙏🏿 My mom just passed away on 12 February. 😥 I'm still grieving this loss as I've never lost anyone before. 🙏🏿

  • @siviwekula760
    @siviwekula760 2 роки тому +11

    This is so painful. Praying for your healing bhuti. You'll never lose that horrible image in your head yho😭

  • @tmarian8397
    @tmarian8397 5 місяців тому

    His narration though. He is really one intelligent man. Been so touched from the very beginning.

  • @thakgalomaphutha8412
    @thakgalomaphutha8412 2 роки тому +18

    Keatlegile 🙌🏾🙌🏾 you are so amazing. Thank you so much for impacting my life and many other young people. Pain to purpose ♥️♥️

    • @2951_jade
      @2951_jade 2 роки тому +1

      He's such a great human being. He has a book.

  • @bonganimiza6253
    @bonganimiza6253 2 роки тому +3

    This weighed so much heaviness of all sorts of negative emotions. Every swallow of his heavily pushed saliva in attempt to hold things up as he tried to keep composure was felt. Such a horrible human act has caused on the other and unbelievable that people / children have undoubtedly experienced at a tender age. Yhooooo. May God give this young man peace. No one deserves to feel like this after so many years of an act and still talks like it happened a few days ago. Sorry for the all the pain that was caused. I still don't know I wanna progress and watch part 2. Thanks Lebo for holding things up as you continued with the interview.

  • @catherinenjoroge1236
    @catherinenjoroge1236 2 роки тому +5

    What a strong young gentleman....
    May our good lord take care of you and your sister.Your Mum is in a better place and may she continue resting in peace.

  • @din_dins_adventures183
    @din_dins_adventures183 2 роки тому +5

    I wish this interview was conducted in sesotho. Condolences

  • @peninahnjoki9797
    @peninahnjoki9797 2 роки тому +7

    May you find peace and healing, I can't even start to imagine the pains you are going through.

  • @masochas1314
    @masochas1314 Рік тому +1

    'He will change!' That's what we always say, and unfortunately it often ends in tragedy!

  • @mphomoreki
    @mphomoreki 2 роки тому +42

    May we have discernment to know the kind of people we allow into our lives and may the good Lord completely heal you Katlego.

  • @madampresident2053
    @madampresident2053 2 роки тому +11

    Your mom did an amazing job in raising you, wow I do not know your mom but seeing you wow, I am impressed cause raising a boy child is not easy.

    • @juliashiba3764
      @juliashiba3764 2 роки тому

      When you talk about emotional abuse to others it looks like you're just a drama queen people think it's a norm.whilst you are slowly dying inside. Being called all the nasty names

  • @charlottedolly9975
    @charlottedolly9975 2 роки тому +1

    The way the guy is so humble, YOH! I love him.

  • @kamogelovivian8528
    @kamogelovivian8528 2 роки тому +6

    For the first time I cried watching your interviews. He narrated the story and I pictured everything in my mind

  • @mosalesitha8429
    @mosalesitha8429 2 роки тому +2

    Feeling so sad for this humble young man...no one deserves this kind of hurt..May God bless him and his sister 🙏

  • @kgomotsomafifi6143
    @kgomotsomafifi6143 2 роки тому +19

    Yhooooo this takes me back to when my sister in law was stabbed to death by her boyfriend, on the 1st of January 2020. So I understand the pain he's going through u will never really know why he did that and that alone leaves u with so many questions on top of the pain😭😭😭☹️

  • @philisiwemkhulisa2674
    @philisiwemkhulisa2674 2 роки тому +6

    I love Rele everytime I watch these I observe you more and expressions and how you accomodate everyone you interviewing you are good at this ❤️

  • @keno.M
    @keno.M 2 роки тому +2

    I'm totally shattered... this is one of the most painful stories I have seen 😢 💔 the pain in his voice aowa mara people can be monsters tjo sorry my Bru I hope you heal and you find peace

  • @olgadutoit9560
    @olgadutoit9560 2 роки тому +1

    Am sorry Kea, your story is very sad. There's so many signs of abuse that we ignore, am sorry for your loss. May God give you and your sister strength, may you stick together and support each other. You really had good parents, stay strong.❤️

  • @bubulamahlangu992
    @bubulamahlangu992 2 роки тому +6

    This is sad to watch. I'm happy that I've walked away from the emotional abuse although it was hard but healed. Now my friend is also in it experiencing similar situations and she keeps on saying oh chomi we only fight when he is drunk . She even accepted lobola from the guy , and the abuse is still there .
    She always say , the only problem is weekend during the week he is a good man . Oh thixo wami
    I tried ...

  • @nenesibanda4171
    @nenesibanda4171 2 роки тому +8

    Some people are so damaged that they always have to inflict pain on others because of the pain they feel or the pain they have experienced. Healing is so crucial for a human being, when a person does heal they will hurt others without evening realizing because to them hurting others is healing to them while it only causes more damage. South African men are broken, the notion of a man does not cry has to be altered, guidence and prayer to the Lord is always necessary. ❤️🕯️To the guest.

  • @c0w_g03s_moo5
    @c0w_g03s_moo5 2 роки тому +6

    Sending love and prayers to him 💜🦋✝️. Man he sounds so humble. God bless him 🥺❤️

  • @leratomoepya478
    @leratomoepya478 2 роки тому +27

    This is so sad🥺🥺... Wishing you healing💜.
    South African men, let's do better. The GBV stats are heartbreaking. Learn to let go and move on. Women are not your possessions. Being emotionally/physically abusive to your woman doesn't make you look any stronger or even prove your masculinity instead it shows just how weak you are.

    • @kelebogile_morelife
      @kelebogile_morelife 2 роки тому +3

      Wena! Di insecurities tsa banna ba... yoh!

    • @leratomoepya478
      @leratomoepya478 2 роки тому +1

      @@kelebogile_morelife you can say that again ... its nothing but insecurities. Yhuu haisuka man ba lapisa shame!

    • @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y
      @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y 2 роки тому +2

      It's disgusting.
      We have the highest rape rates in the world.
      While I was going to school near mamelodi I had to break up two incidents where a woman was being assaulted.
      It's crazy and during the pandemic it got worse, which is mind boggling, there's not even as many interactions between people.

    • @philisiwemkhulisa2674
      @philisiwemkhulisa2674 2 роки тому +1

      It is man in the entire world not just SA ey watch international documentaries Yoo sy

  • @glorialinda386
    @glorialinda386 2 роки тому +4

    May God comfort you, I failed to watch the whole episode. The pain is unbearable. I am praying for you. No one should go through that kind of pain.

  • @Sandra-xf1dy
    @Sandra-xf1dy 2 роки тому +2

    what a beautiful appreciative, articulate young man. condolences to you. love from australia

  • @ronellecandice1536
    @ronellecandice1536 2 роки тому +3

    😭😭😭😭😭 When I heard an axe I froze.... Omg my deepest condolences to you and your sister brother... I'm so broken by this💔💔💔

  • @fariraimapiye9491
    @fariraimapiye9491 2 роки тому +11

    Sad story..many life lessons from this story.Sorry to the young man and his whole family for this loss.

  • @slaapiencala5217
    @slaapiencala5217 2 роки тому +3

    Ou the English : My Pain = My Purpose, My Scars = My Stars, Background = Back On the Ground, shine boy you're the real man fana🙏👏🤞

  • @dikolizaskk5847
    @dikolizaskk5847 2 роки тому +10

    I wish next time Kelebogile you can get sponsers for therapist, and for yourself, most people are still hurting

  • @Mimi-gj1fq
    @Mimi-gj1fq 2 роки тому +6

    Th red flags are always flying but sometimes women think toxic behavior is cute/ok/normal so they overlook the “little” stuff… being honest n hard on yourself isnt easy..most cant stand hold themselves accountable..lets stop calling jealous controlling abusers “protective”…self raw honesty is hard but 1 of th most powerful things to learn💕

  • @nomafmaroga6827
    @nomafmaroga6827 2 роки тому +1

    Relebogile you are doing a great job with this. We wouldn't have known all the things that are happening in SA because many content comes from US. Hopefully when I'm ready I'll come share my story.

  • @joycenonhlanhlavilakati7161
    @joycenonhlanhlavilakati7161 2 роки тому +1

    My heart goes out to this young man and his sister. I was holding my breath almost throughout the video. So sad. I'll have to summon a lot of strength to watch Part 2.

  • @ZeeInterpretationz
    @ZeeInterpretationz 2 роки тому +2

    My friend saw the signs but she thought it's love because her former lover never called as much or check up on me as much. She saw the real him on their engagement when he threatened to kill himself coz an ex said congrats on your engagement. I hope my brother you heal. Sending hugs and light ♥️❤️

  • @jaiyaalexandra144
    @jaiyaalexandra144 2 роки тому +4

    This is not fair, no child deserves this 😭. He even warned his mom, ngwana WA batho... 💔💔😢.
    I wish I could hug him, may God comfort him because this is just so wrong. He really tried to save his mother.
    Do women in SA even know what love is? This is so common and it really pains me.

    • @zodwaangelaexcellencemaset2642
      @zodwaangelaexcellencemaset2642 2 роки тому +1

      I don't think they do. I'm not even sure if I do. It's really sad and scarry. I think ladies in SA aren't taught self love and self worth. We are always taught how to take care of husband's and homes but not ourselves

  • @okuhledinga6011
    @okuhledinga6011 2 роки тому +6

    This was so painful. God knows what that man could have done if the kids were in the house as well. I pray for your healing

  • @kedumetsemodise5975
    @kedumetsemodise5975 2 роки тому

    I started crying way before it even started.I pray God gives you strength

  • @schneidermusonda2350
    @schneidermusonda2350 2 роки тому

    Am glad that your background has not kept your back on the ground. You overcame yo become what you are today. Kudos mwanake.😍😍

    • @mphochuene
      @mphochuene Рік тому

      Mpho Chuene God will heal you❤❤

  • @kiss4ever610
    @kiss4ever610 2 роки тому

    May God continue to comfort you brother and the entire family,i lost my mother but she was sick,i cant imagine you going through losing your mother but in such a cruel way,my condolances 💔

  • @kerilengzungu8703
    @kerilengzungu8703 2 роки тому +5

    No one should go through the same experience again as long as He is on the throne 🙏AMEN

  • @ntombozukomatomane9826
    @ntombozukomatomane9826 2 роки тому

    Such a sad story, it really broke my heart😔 hope this gentleman will find healing.

  • @mamothusifrancina1132
    @mamothusifrancina1132 Рік тому

    Im so that this thing happens to u,i can see that its still hurts even today,condoless to your loss😢😢😢

  • @sizakelediya4080
    @sizakelediya4080 2 роки тому +11

    Mmmmmh this story is so painful 😢 💔 😫 no child deserves to see their mother like that. The men we fall in love with, South African men the worse when we talking about these topics some men support this behavior. There is no behavior that allow someone to take life. I'm so sorry for your suffering you went through.

    • @namisazulu1372
      @namisazulu1372 2 роки тому +1

      The best response SA men say is... "not all men" 🙄

    • @thoesibanda7769
      @thoesibanda7769 2 роки тому

      I hate man because of such
      Ngyabazonda

  • @nobuhlekhumalo6106
    @nobuhlekhumalo6106 2 роки тому +1

    Awwwwwww...this story of beauty of love and tragedy of abusive relationships,touched my heart!
    It really did...
    God bless and comfort this young man...

    His humility radiates..."lm a humble and respectful person"...
    You can hear it in his voice!!!
    Oh my God,this has moved me to tears!

  • @kellyalexander7347
    @kellyalexander7347 2 роки тому +6

    Please ladies if you in abusive relationship or marriage GET OUT men are going crazy today if they can't have you no one will thats the mentality today
    GET OUT

  • @nthabisenghalahala3979
    @nthabisenghalahala3979 2 роки тому +3

    A very strong young man❤️❤️❤️

  • @Fluencysprings
    @Fluencysprings 2 роки тому +2

    💔💔💔This is painful... Strength and light to you bro.. Yoh💔💔😭😭

  • @tigelechaboneka5777
    @tigelechaboneka5777 2 роки тому +2

    He's in pain💔😭 may God heal you and may your mama rest in peace❤️❤️🕊️🕊️

  • @busiswamacholisa6239
    @busiswamacholisa6239 2 роки тому +2

    This is so heartbreaking... 💔😢😭

  • @Shaladash
    @Shaladash Рік тому +5

    To everyone - if a man or women starts abusing you mentally or emotionally. Leave. Pack up
    your items and leave in secret.
    In addition, do not share your family with your significant other until you have fully vetted that person with all red flags waived. Do not ever make excuses for abuse.

  • @busisiwetshabalala8645
    @busisiwetshabalala8645 2 роки тому +3

    Ohh Nkosi yam.. What boy kids go thru and yet we don't take thm seriously.. GBV is real😭😭

    • @mulalotshililo5652
      @mulalotshililo5652 2 роки тому +2

      I went through this untill i finally decided to move out because i couldnt stand my stepdad anymore. Mothers dont realise the pain we go through just by watching them get abused💔

  • @LibangMichaels
    @LibangMichaels 8 місяців тому

    This is so true ,one can't explain how it happens

  • @tammialevisnus4259
    @tammialevisnus4259 2 роки тому +2

    The deep pains in his voice....makes my heart to bleed😢#unbearable!

  • @busiprudence7779
    @busiprudence7779 2 роки тому +4

    Keatlegile mabena❤🙌🙌

  • @Onkzit
    @Onkzit 2 роки тому +9

    May he find solace and comfort

  • @dikolizaskk5847
    @dikolizaskk5847 2 роки тому +4

    You still need therapy hle dear, 😭😭😭
    You are still deeply hurt askies👏👏wish i can hug you and tell you "its ok to feel pain and cry, time heals" i am so sorry🙏🙏🙏

  • @lelobamatenge4846
    @lelobamatenge4846 2 роки тому +3

    😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭, bcoz I knew what love was 😭 as young as I was 😭😭😭 I LOVE YOU MY KIDS 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Nkos yam

  • @kzeetha
    @kzeetha 2 роки тому +2

    I am terrified of watching this one🤞🏾

  • @mpume131
    @mpume131 2 роки тому +1

    My God thus is so sad strength to this young men God will heal you

  • @thebffguffyshow8849
    @thebffguffyshow8849 2 роки тому +1

    What a sad,hurtful experience for a young man 💔

  • @ZomziWeAfrika
    @ZomziWeAfrika 2 роки тому +7

    My dad was butchered too his lungs were out this is trigger for me😢

  • @NoxxyM
    @NoxxyM 2 роки тому +3

    🥺🥺🥺Continue to be strong my friend ❤️

  • @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y
    @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y 2 роки тому +7

    Ephesians 5:25
    King James Bible
    "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it"

  • @mechiledom3002
    @mechiledom3002 2 роки тому +2

    It's so painful, i lost my mama last year too, it happened so fast 😭😭

  • @Thulz.
    @Thulz. 2 роки тому

    Stay strong as you are champ you dad is with you 🙏🏿

  • @mduduzibhebhe4268
    @mduduzibhebhe4268 2 роки тому +1

    How do you heal from this? I have no words

  • @pheladinare2876
    @pheladinare2876 2 роки тому +2

    Sho so painful 💔 May God continue to give you and your sister strength

  • @conniechoex7925
    @conniechoex7925 2 роки тому +1

    Hey Kele i have lost information of contacts were i can write a suggestive story to kindly post the email..thanls

  • @khumbuzilemthiyane964
    @khumbuzilemthiyane964 2 роки тому +1

    "We used to chose her outfits", how we all have been our mothers stylist...

  • @edithwatinaye7528
    @edithwatinaye7528 2 роки тому +8

    Can men allow us to live our lives peacefully I beg eish

  • @asemahlendwayi1385
    @asemahlendwayi1385 2 роки тому

    This is so painfull.😭😭😭💔💔i hope you find peace

  • @luyandampungose2533
    @luyandampungose2533 2 роки тому

    I'm at the office watching this , Tears just pored OMG

  • @shusshus8487
    @shusshus8487 2 роки тому +3

    The guy was going to kill all of them but God make sure that they take long in the salon .

  • @boledielizabethmaake8369
    @boledielizabethmaake8369 2 роки тому +1

    I am very sad and can't concentrate, hope they will find peace and healing in time💔💔

  • @clementinehonyini6189
    @clementinehonyini6189 2 роки тому

    ""it feels so good to love n be loved""

  • @nobuhlekhumalo6106
    @nobuhlekhumalo6106 2 роки тому +1

    This story is really messing with my emotions...
    Seeing him gracefully related the story.....
    Wow!

  • @leratomahabane3189
    @leratomahabane3189 2 роки тому

    Is part 2 out?

  • @shaniikapeterson1682
    @shaniikapeterson1682 2 роки тому

    So sad that a sweet loving person has to go trough so much and still be so positive 💗
    GOD BLESS YOU ❤😇
    #ScarintoStars🌠

  • @silindilepatience1821
    @silindilepatience1821 2 роки тому +1

    I'm really sad because I know exactly what u talking about. It happened to me too. It was my biological father. He stabbed my mom with a spear and chopped her into pieces.

  • @mantelekhitsane8935
    @mantelekhitsane8935 2 роки тому

    😭😭😭😭😭Jesus I feel the pain in his voice 😭😭some ppl are evil, I'm so sorry abuti 🙏🕯

  • @fariraimapiye9491
    @fariraimapiye9491 2 роки тому

    Waiting for part 2...Sad sad sad!!

  • @rue9841
    @rue9841 2 роки тому +1

    This is so painful 😭💔

  • @princessm2893
    @princessm2893 2 роки тому +3

    So sad so sorry.