Dr. Joy DeGruy: Access to Respect | The Man Enough Podcast
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- Dr. Joy DeGruy challenges us to look at the systems of patriarchy, racism, and neglect that have caused incredible injury for generations. Renowned researcher, educator and author, her dedication to healing has led her to develop revolutionary models and tools aimed at increasing racial and social justice. With passion and wisdom, Dr. DeGruy enlightens us all to connect with our intrinsic worth.
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DR. JOY DEGRUY: ACCESS TO RESPECT
Spiritual and scholarly, renowned researcher, author, and educator, Dr. Joy DeGruy brings her passion for racial and social justice, along with the facts from her research, to a conversation rooted in healing. Dr. DeGruy invites us to get curious about what’s going on inside our minds, while also challenging us to look at the systems that have caused incredible injury for generations. With warmth and wisdom, Dr. DeGruy gives us permission to connect with ourselves, and one another, as she helps us move beyond masculinity and femininity to remembering and respecting our shared humanity.
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"We're asking people to change and they don't know how. " I cried. This is everything!
So many gems like this one from Dr. DeGruy!
Care about how you want to be treated or how you want your love ones (if you really love them) to be treated. Love, PEACE deep down in your core (Soul) 😘 Love, love, love. Put yourself on the other side of sicknesses, violence, struggle, etc., and change your mindset, please🙏🏼🙏🏿sending love in advance. This woman is sent and used by GOD to get everyone Woke, AMEN 🙏🏿🙏🏼
Dr DeGruy is a living legend!! Much respect!!
Exactly! I bought her book about 10yr ago and it blew my wig way back. Dr..Joy is absolutely phenomenal!
I love Dr. Joy's compassion, intellect, and continued effort to help the black community and society as a whole. I've been following her for a number of years now, and wanted to express my appreciation for her work!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts!
My Grandmother said the same thing about greeting people," act like you see people and speak." And nothing burns her like when people see her and dont greet her. I learnt to speak to people and dont act like i didnt see them. Good work Doctor.
Ugh I’m so glad she was invited .. I LOVE HER SOOOO MUCH 🥺🤍
I just love this woman!
This woman is a Goddess, wise woman Queen Mother Oracle …. She is a shining light ! Her book helped me articulate what I was seeing in the community as a caretaker clinician
Amazing 🔥🔥🔥.
I love Dr. Joy's definition of respect; "please look at me again." That's a whole new level of shifting and looking at people.
So true. It's so key to learn the roots of words. It helps to shift one's perspective so much.
I hope this podcast goes viral
We do too. The world needs to hear this brilliance. Thank you for your support.
Agreed
Me to but when you live in a world of devil's Truth is considered a lie....think if that
I’ll definitely be sharing this with anyone who I can. I absolutely LOVE this discussion. I have been wanting to read her book, and am going to have to move it up on the list. What an AMAZING and powerful mind. Much love 💜💜💜
I can't stop watching this...3rd time and I get something new out of it each and every time. Challenging and uplifting.
Thanks for being here! Dr. Joy has such great insights!
I had a breakthrough today. From the story of Joy's husband. Thank you.
This is one of those podcasts I wish y’all would let be like 3 hours long!!! It was beautiful and I have another person to look into!! Thank you!!
We feel the same! We will have to have Dr. Joy with us again. Thanks for being here with us.
She is a true gem of this earth
that poem at the end sent me into the stratosphere. such immaculate and powerful words !!
That poem was fire
I’m down for love being my religion. That poem was the best sermon I have ever heard.
Jamie has been on one in the last couple episodes. Asking Eldra for his number to keep in touch, introducing Jamal and his poetry to us, as well as sharing the amazing gift that Dr DeGruy has been in his own life. Just loving the hell out of that.
I have to listen to this again because it is packed with essential information and I want to make sure I soak it all up. She is awesome and the poem at the end was a nice dessert. 🔥🔥🔥👏👏👏
Amazing woman how she can take a person to first base and get THEM to walk all the way home.
Dr. Joy is incredible! So much incredible insight from her. Thanks for being here!
This podcast was amazing. I lived with my father for most of my life and wasnt given much emotional support. I am now 21 and haven’t lived without him for about a year. The topic of fight or flight in men and tend and befriend in women broke me in a good way. I have been doing a lot of work towards recognising, understanding and changing the damaging masculine behaviour that i learned from my father. When I would get stressed because of university or work, I would shut off and push everyone away, including my partner at the time. She would question my on why I would do this and I would just say that I didn’t know and its just what I do. It was something I always felt guilty for, that I would push away those I loved most but ai didn’t know why or how I could change this. I just learned to think it was normal. This podcast really helped me feel validation and seen in that it isn’t who I am, and it is something that I can change and that will help me. Thank you all for the amazing work you do
Why would you feel guilty or let someone convince you that you're doing something wrong when You need your space when you feel stressed everyone does that.
@@thehills1042 I do the exact same thing. But I have ADHD and must cut out socializing to stay on track (school). I do communicate this to the my tribe
I am so happy and grateful that I got to watch this. Dr Joy expressed and put to words things I have been struggling to articulate. "You break my leg and complain when I limp" resonated so much with me. Also the entire section about respect and being seen spoke to me. I look forward to having conversations about this topic with my friends and family.
Anyway, I would just love to say that I love this podcast. You guys are amazing and thank you for having hard, uncomfortable conversations. I can't wait for future episodes!
Healing is such a process. I read the last black cargo by Zora, and only watch this bc of Joy’s book being recommended to me. I haven’t read it yet but when I tell you. This is powerful, there is tears in my eyes 👀.
10 minutes in and I'm already close to tears... I'm not even kidding when I say that in that one hour I have become a different woman. I appreciate the work you are doing here so much and I don't even have the words to describe how much those types of conversations mean to me. The more I learn the stronger becomes my desire to keep learning especially about experiences that I am not directly a part of. I am white and I started really learning about racism and white supremecy about two years ago and every day I am learning and trying to put my ego aside and see the world with different eyes than my own.
So, again, thank you for these talks and for introducing me to this incredible scholar. I'll defintely pick up her book. Much love to all of you.
Dr. Joy is truly incredible! We really appreciate you digging into this work and are truly honored to share space with you to support your journey. Thanks for joining the conversation!
I accidentally ran across her lecture 10yrs back and in the middle of the lecture I was in tears too. She made me think about how I was raised, how I act with other men, and fatherhood!
Such a great episode. Love the conversation and the enlightenment. Dr. Joy never fails to open my mind.
We agree. So much to learn.
What a Joy she was to listen to. Such a beautiful Soul. I loved Jamey's love for her, it was palpable. And Jamal’s poem was so powerful!!! I loved her story about Jerome and her point on people not knowing how to do something, ie: go within, what to do to lower cortisol. I loved hearing about Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome and how adapting to your parents and then their parents is how PTSS carries on genetically. Thank you, she left me with such a blessing in my heart ❤️
She is a true genius and intellectual, this was a terrific interview. She reminds me how important it is for our country to keep embracing the elders we have, they have so much to teach us.
We agree!
The poet and the poem RIGHTEOUS. Hotep. Praise Dr. Joy DeGruy and nephew, Jamal.
I need Jamal's poem read at my funeral! What beautiful words!!
It was such an unexpected surprise. So glad we were able to capture that.
Thank you We Are Man Enough Staff and Dr DeGruy for this presentation1
Thank you so much for listening
Just wonderful! thank you Dr Joy Degruy , thank you Jamal and thank you sooooooo much Man enough. You guys are changing and saving lives ❤️
I too could listed to her speak all day. Loved it.!
PEACE LOVE AND APPRECIATION DR. JOY
This woman is so valuable
She is absolutely AMAZING! I read her book, and it was one of the best books I’ve ever had the pleasure of experiencing
Great podcast after great podcast, the three of you don't miss wow
Sigh of relief. Cavalry is here. Change is-a comin'. Thank you.
Much love to our elder
I love this show. The honesty, respect and gentleness. Thank you for doing this. I am so thrilled to have found this show. Thank you Justin baldoni for putting it up on Instagram.
Dr. Joy, really enjoyed this discussion. Thank you so much for overlooking the inept commentary of the female cohost. She represents every single white woman I have ever worked for and with. Made my skin absolutely crawl.
Dr. Joy laid down some roundabout residual reflections, that called back to the Emmanuel Acho conversation. Masterfully Done 🤓
She is incredible, isn't she?
@@WeAreManEnough Dr. Joy is The TRUTH ✊🏼❤️🖤💚💪🏼
This was an amazing podcast with great content. I love Dr Joy Degruy for her brutal honesty and her amazing insights 👈🏼 I can listen to her all day! But, I particularly love her systematic approaches when dealing with triggers in high levels of stress. “ children are untouchable today” and no one’s teaching them how to have clarity in identifying the triggers to manage & prevent stress. Great points on preventing cortisol levels and so many nuggets for children, men & women.
I’ve been following her work before she published “Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome”… I’m very fond of her. Her insights & theories on the subject matter are awesome. There was so much positive energy between all the hosts and Dr. Joy. I can’t believe she is 63! I first stumbled on her work when she started guest appearing as a panelist on Gil Nobel’s talk show titled: “Like It Is” show back in the 80’s. She was awesome then as well as now. I hope more people discover her and her amazing work. She is truly a treasure!
Really enjoyed listening to Dr. Joy - thank you.
Thank you - so glad it resonated with you.
Dr. Joy is a Gift from God. #listen 🌎
👏👏👏
She’s so brilliant really looking forward to this one ♥️🔥
...Dr J DeGruy consistently provides clear, pictorial info...I enjoy that...thank you...
Actually I was desperately seeking to find her episode because her statement in the trailer is so intriguing for me I was like who is she I want to listen to her! Finally here it is 🙌✨
Glad you found it! She's quite incredible.
Y'all....you shred me every time. Thank you.
Thanks for listening!
Great episode! As usual, I’m going to have to listen again to let it all sink in deeper. ❤️
Thank you Dr Joy DeGruy, I been watching you for years and I have your book. Thank you 🙏
More power to Dr. Joy Degruy she is really what black people needs the most .. sharing her knowledge so that we can heal psychologically
She is doing such important work. Thanks for joining us here.
Wow this podcast...that poem, I have chills and tears...Joy is a well of knowledge...hit hard and well with everything discussed here..thank you all for the work you do for us! Love you
Dr Joy was incredible and I will be definitely be looking into her work. I feel expanded by what I have learned and grateful Dr Joy came on the podcast to share it with us- and Jamal's poem moved me to tears in a way I haven't felt in a really long time. I feel healed and hopeful from listening to it. Thank you to Jamey, Liz and Justin, and everyone who contributes to bringing this amazing podcast into the world ❤
Thank you so much for sharing. Glad you're here.
54:47 knowing there are public servants/ peace officers that use empathetic skills in the course of duties with and to persons who've been painted as:
those that another would or will say they felt threatened from is amazingly awe-inspiring. I cried listening to her story of someone she loves being away from home in a space and place where he may be judged as:
the other, the other not belonging, the other accused, the other to be doubted, the other to be doubled down on. 🎉❤😊 there is boundless beauty when one sees others and sees me. 😢
Thank you. Glad you're here with us.
Thank you🔥🌞. Am fired up. The quotes and poem you read are very uplifting and inspiring❤.
Another great episode by Man Enough Podcast! Listening to this while having my dinner is such a blessing. Thank you for this episode. Love from Malaysia 🇲🇾❤
Thanks for this
This was absolutely beautiful.
Thank you for watching!
This conversation was so beautiful 😍 I learned so much thanks ❤❤❤
Ugh… I loved everything abt this podcast
Thank you!
Please get penn badgley on the podcast! You guys have so much in common!
Working on it.
Pffff, that was amazing! 🤯🤩 thanks for this episode ❤ I see you guys, and I love youuu🤗
LUPE’ - A Divinely Inspired alternative greeting acronym for Love, Unity, Peace, and Empowerment!
Lead with LOVE for self and others.👍🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️
This episode has blown my mind. I think I’m going to have to listen twice. World changing. As a disabled neurodivergent woman I’ve had to work VERY hard to separate my self worth from my productivity or achievements, how “impressive” I am, just to survive. And what you said about people viewing respect as earned esteem or essential humanity really touched me. I had to learn that my value as a human being is inherent and can never be taken away, and I have to keep learning that every day. My physical disabilities were also caused by stress combined with genetics (and probably multigenerational trauma) so that whole conversation was mind blowing to me too. I’m learning to regulate my emotions without stuffing them inwards and imploding myself. I’m actually learning to release my anger, which might look different from someone blacking out with physical rage. I’m learning to physicalize my rage in a healthy way instead of internalizing it. It’s so interesting the different ways that men and women tend to deal with their emotions, how we express our cortisol, and how that differs racially as well. I loved the idea of the environment affecting cortisol levels and how we can affect that culturally by positively acknowledging and appreciating race and culture. I loved the part about fight, flight, freeze, or gather. I saw something that I really love that said that if grief is love with nowhere to go, then the solution for our mental health in times where the news is breaking us is not to turn off the news or social media, but to gather and act. To give that love somewhere to go at home near us, either by advocating for the issue that is grieving us, and/or doing something about an issue in our own backyard. Releasing the love. And I really think the instinct to gather in trying times and the matriarchy of it all is so connected to that.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us 🧡
“Our intrinsic nobility!”- Wow!!!
A mic drop moment for sure!
The part of the definition of respect really spoke out to me. Not sure if it relates but to me and I’m Latin decent, when I think of respect I think of it as something that is given and although it something we’re supposed to have for people without expectation I can say that’s the ideal lol but I for sure struggle with not expecting it in return - I guess I could say I also related to feeling “dissed” I feel it quite often actually. Calming myself down and remembering to be present is really a huge part of my journey and something I struggle with every day
What surprises me is a lot of Latinos or people to consider them selves Latinos are from African dissent in slavery Dominican republic, Cuba and Haiti Puerto Rico descended from the transatlantic slave
This podcast is truly necessary. Breathtaking, full of imprescindible knowledge, everytime. I've watched all episodes, and I will keep on doing so. Thank you thank you, thank you 🧡🌸.
Thank you, Monica. We really appreciate that.
This was incredible
This was amazing! Would love if she came back.
We agree. She has so much wisdom to share.
Just watched. So much wisdom and Love!!!!. Thank you and Dr. Joy. I love her so much. 🥰
I love Dr. Joy DeGruy .... I hope I get to meet her in my lifetime. I am a author of Life books,... I would so love have a few minutes of her counseling.
Well, she needs to be on 20 more episodes. Does she have her own podcast...?! Lol. Also this episode has just about converted me to the Bahai faith (although conversion prob aint necessary ;)
She doesn't have her own podcast (maybe we should develop one with her), but does a lot of speaking events, has online courses and more. You can find it all here: www.joydegruy.com/
@@WeAreManEnough thank you!!
@@WeAreManEnough I would definitely listen to Jamey and her on their own podcast. You can call it “My Relationship with Joy”.
@@samzamir4907 Love this.
@@WeAreManEnough I know that there was a podcast series that she did along with her daughter but I'm not sure whether it was time-limited or if they are still doing it.
This is by far my favorite episode & I’m only halfway through 😩
Dr. Joy is incredible! Love all your input and takeaways and thanks for joining the conversations.
Incredible conversation with a lot of wisdom
Ten thousand respect for this BLACK QUEEN
I don't believe in god and I don't practice any religion so I didn't expect to go to church, but it was exactly what I needed.
Very enlightening episode! This is a great one, I’m excited to share this and continue this discussion in my social circles
Thank you for being here and sharing. Let us know how those conversations go here or on IG: @wearemanenough
Wow. Wow. Wow. Im just... I have to see this episode again because wow, there are so many diamonds here. First of all, THANK YOU for introducing me this AMAZING woman. I didnt know her and im just so excited of all the wisdom that she has said. Im really nervous and excited. It was amazing.
I was open and trying to learn new things, even if she spoker about race things and, as jamey said, i dont have the "black lenses" to see and really feel and understand this problems, i just feel that i can understand new things, maybe not completely because i dont have the experiences, but i can have empathy and understand a little bit.
I cries a bit when she sai that to her younger self she would say "what you are feeling and experience its real". Puf, this really hit me. Really really. I have so much work to do, and learn a lot off things. Its exciting, overwhelming... So many mixed feeling now.
Thank you all of you for making this podcast and give me this opportunity for discover new brilliant people and wisdom. I really love you guys!
PD: Thank you jamal for sharing your poem. It was beautiful! Keep this passion alive and enjoy it!
Okay JAMAL. 🙌🏼🔥 Does he have a page to follow for his poetry? A Patreon to subscribe to?! I need to show appreciation for those skills somewhere. 👀🔥💯 #allllthesnaps
me too!
This webcast is awesome. It has opened doors. I feel, i love, i have loves room.
Thank you…….
Thank you. Glad you're here with us.
Dr. Joy is JOY!
We agree!
Absolutely incredible. Big big BIG stuff needing to be consumed, digested, and RECONCILED!
Day by day! Thanks for joining the conversation and digging into this work.
Too many powerful statements are made here! How do you pick one? I need to listen over and over again.
She's really brilliant. We all learned so much and have just scratched the surface.
Soooo good
Dr. DeGruy on respect...we'll never hear that word the same again.
The POEM...OMG ❤️ LOVE
People who complain about "another race conversation" probably aren't affected by racism in their everyday life. It reminds me of the German Christians who sang louder to drown out the screams of the human beings being taken by train to the Nazi death camps.
This was a privilege to experience.
the poem touched my soul
Jamal really brought it. So beautiful.
This Podcast and That poem is so, I just don't know, exceptionally good to my heart. I am taking this information in and sharing this message. Thank you so much. Much love to you all. ❤️ 🙏🏾🤝🏾😊 Thank you all
Thank you. Yeah, that poem from Jamal was such an unexpected treat and a bonus on top of Dr. DeGruy's brilliance.
@@WeAreManEnough
It was icing on top of a really great cake. It just made it even better. So sweet 😋 💖
Omg this was a seriously amazing podcast
We agree! Joy blew our minds.
Ma'am I just simply want to say with sincere passion and the utmost respect I personally can and will give... I. See. You.... Again And Again.
Lovely questions and answers in the rapid fire. Joy for joy and for this podcast. Thank you
We agree! She is truly amazing.
It's such a thing for black people in the UK to acknowledge each other with a nod or smile. This is not discussed or learnt it's a state of being.
I saw the value of intuition by observing my Mom, GrandMom, and Aunt. I prayed daily since a child to have intuition similar to a woman.
So many wonderful things. Thank you for sharing.
WOW. I am speechless. GREAT, GREAT, GREAT podcast! You've earned a fan.
That's how we all feel about the incredible Dr. Joy. Thanks for being here with us! We appreciate your support.
Great podcast! I would also like to see Jackson Katz as a guest. He is a domestic violence advocate and focuses on men's relationship with it and society's relationship with it. I think that Liz and he would have a great discussion
Coming soon!
@@WeAreManEnough AHH!! I'm so excited!!!
This was beautiful to experience. I thoroughly appreciated this conversation 🙏🏽.
Thank you. She is really incredible and we all learned so much.
I love you all too. Dr. Joy thank you for your work it's given me the confidence to change, how we teach our children to understand what go on with their mind and body's.
Thank you! Sending love to you as well.
This was beautiful full of ❤️ Love
Joy is truly incredible.
I have never commented on anything on youtube before that I can remember. Nine minutes in, I've turned everything off, become incredibly focused.. and I desperately want to sit in a room with this woman to just have a conversation with her.. Because the way that she speaks and weaves her words.. Her intelligence, her kindness, her smile.. She feels like the warmest, safest place to grow.. and I have never had that from women in my life. I was raised by strong women, by hard women.. But hard women who know how to be gentle is such a different caliber of safety AND growth.. Too often as women we have to do too much and end up harder for it.. but hard women who radiate warmth.. She Radiates that through the very tone of her voice.