How to Start TRUSTING Yourself and Others In A Relationship | Tom Bilyeu & Lisa Bilyeu
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- Опубліковано 6 жов 2024
- Having trust for others is never easy once you’ve been hurt, and yet is it a must for any relationship to thrive. How do you determine for yourself if you can trust your partner? Tom and Lisa discuss the most effective ways you can begin building trust with your partner and why trust with yourself is the key.
“Trust is the only thing that can help relationships last a lifetime!” -Mohith Agadi
Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.
SHOW NOTES:
Trust Yourself | Tom explains trusting yourself and reading vibes to determine trust [0:43]
Listen to Your Gut | How to mark your gut instincts and see how things play out [3:18]
Follow the Vibe | How Tom explores weird vibes and discards misreadings when needed [7:00]
Ask Questions | Lisa and Tom discuss how to proceed with questions and getting better [10:57]
QUOTES:
“I wouldn’t be silent, if something made me feel uneasy. If it made me feel uneasy, I wouldn’t engage.” Tom Bilyeu [2:15]
“You have to understand that intuition is trained, and that it becomes intuition once you’ve run enough cycles that you can do it subconsciously.” Tom Bilyeu [9:29]
How did you learn to start trusting yourself and others after being burned previously?
Hurt my wife emotionally we separated for a week and it was the most introspection I have ever done. She graciously took me back but only after I gave her what she always wanted…my open, vulnerable, and honest heart.
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Great conversation but what is not addressed is the person with trauma may feel unsafe often and the mind goes into searching for indiscrepanices because of an overactive nervous system. The mind lies often for the people with a history of trauma. It takes time to navigate and heal past betrayals and trauma.
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Oh my goodness, I'm totally writing down what you said. Seriously, this makes so much sense to me, I just always had a hard time putting it into words. So thanku for sharing
I agree, it can be so hard to separate reality from paranoia when you’re in that state. I think for me the most sensible thing to do in that case is do whatever I can do balance out my emotions, get my nervous system feeling calm again, and when I’m feeling like I’m a little less in that “fight or flight” mode, take a look at what my thoughts are telling me, while understanding that trusting someone may always feel a little scary, as it’s closer to the unknown…😅
Married for 5 years been so scared to open up that it has been detrimental, I’ve had a really difficult upbringing and an even more chaotic adult life. I’m 7 years sober this year just to give an insight of my struggles, I met my wife when we were drinking and she has been superwoman for so long, and it has taken its toll on her. Thank God I finally gave in to trusting my wife in the way I’m supposed to and this video has been great to help push me in the right direction. Vulnerable, open, and honest conversation has been the greatest release I have ever felt. As an former addict I can say that for the first time I’m high on my marriage. Hope we launch forward to success from here. Thank you both so much for being yourselves…..you guys have no idea that you literally save lives. You’re both superheroes in this modern age where marriages fail. Thank you so much.
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Your thought is the issue.. recognise the thought which becomes a behaviour.. it’s not ok to put your insecurities into someone else because of past hurts issues in other relationships whatever.. it’s toxic and destructive to not trust because of past relationships..
Is so true u can train it or choose to avoid it. Your intuition is there to protect you
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This gut instinct is your build, instill inside of you- God given conscious and intuition. Is the ability to discern an energy that comes from other people and it helps you to feel if that energy will effect you in a good or bad way
My immediate family was a red flag parade, so yes, like Tom mentioned, i don't know when people are good for me. Sometimes my mom is not good for me, sometimes she gaslights. Often, she's the only one who will help with my kid.
So learning my own self and my own needs was something that i had to work on. Now i am learning to accept people as they are, and to recognize when i am "barking up the wrong tree." Because i have dealt with my family for so long, i dont go out of my way to explain myself unless i am directly asked. If they dont ask, i assume they arent open to it. I have gotten to the point where some people will only believe what they want to believe, and i cannot put any more energy into attempting to express myself.
It has created confusion in the public sphere. I dont know when accusations are a tactic, or when it's something with evidence i am "supposed to" explain. I spent too many months, waiting on my ex husband to believe me. If someone wants to misunderstand, they will.
I want to give people the chance to learn to do better, but most ive encountered arent open to that. I end up hurt because i want to believe the things they lead me to believe.
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Good insight thanks
Thank you for this one. It helped me to detach today and realize I started the craziness and then the explosion came and it was an epiphany
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Thats what i do ......dont trust myself, thinking im over reacting.....it can be very confusing expecially with PTSD....or is it the ptsd?? Thats what i do Lisa....
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Thank you both for sharing your knowledge and wisdom, appreciate you both. Thank you.
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Couple goals. I love watching how you guys interact. These videos help me so much! Thank you for sharing!
Relationships are a gamble plain n simple
Trusting in myself is one thing completely different from what the other person is capable of doing to cause harm and emotional damage. Is best to stay single or not take things seriously until you know better.
lol i have a rule called, the three strikes and you're out rule. First time could be an accident, second time is a coincidence and the third is intentional.-Obviously, you gotta figure it out and look at perspectives- I, apparently, have good intuition, I ignored it but now, am listening to it more often. Its not all of them, just the ones that make logical sense. Like, somethings out of pattern of habit, choice of word, body language or if something is too coincidental. Its a variety of things.
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I've always been forgiving, always tried to talk things out. When l have a doubt l asked just like he advised in the video, but also how do you know they answer with the truth?? Something common about cheaters is they never admit the truth.
I’m in a relationship now and let me tell you this. I’m working on myself and realizing that what you are internally is what will be projected outwardly.
If you love yourself and care about yourself. You will attract someone who does the same which means If you’re in a relationship right now.
with someone and you start to love and care about yourself and reciprocate that you won’t cheat.
Just by you changing that, you will literally make the significant other show their true feelings and plans they were either hiding or not hiding.
It all starts with YOU🫵🏽. If you don’t believe me. Look at the people in your life who came and went.
And how YOU🫵🏽 were at that time. You’ll realize that you weren’t your best even when you started the relationship.
And even somewhat the same. Trust me when you start to focusing on yourself, you’ll realize how crazy it was to even assume or think about it.
Because your body will guide you to your answers based on how you feel about yourself.
This is sticky, what about folks with cPTSD where nothing ever feels safe? And what about confirmation bias?
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I don’t think most men can handle conversations like this. Immediately they show signs of insecurity and you can’t be free.
Vibe vs Intuition??
Is it even realistic to trust your partner not to cheat in current societal norms
I believe so. Because if you can believe you won’t cheat, then of course someone else can.
I believe that what you are internally projects outwardly. So if you believe theirs a reason she/he should or could be cheating on you for.
Then you need to fix it. A gold digger will attract a person who believes all women/men are gold diggers.
I’ve seen this mindset and even believe it myself. You gotta understand that You are the creator of your own world not others.
Which means if you believe in yourself, love yourself and know you deserve someone who is faithful and loving.
You will attract that person. Based on who you are and what you think. So instead of thinking she’s cheating on you should be thinking instead.
“ I love myself and respect myself, I should only get that from others I choose “
What will happen is, by you doing this. The other person has no choice but to either abide by your energy or leave.
This will basically either have them slipping up when they weren’t before or loving you even more because they aren’t cheating.
Ultimately you realizing how much you love yourself and just focusing on how you deserve the right person.
Will make your current relationship either prosper or diminish. Because your soul won’t allow you to be with someone who will hurt you.
what do you do when your partner never believes you and you're not cheating her or betraying her in any way? I have nothing to hide, I'm not doing anything wrong and my girlfriend still believes I'm not honest with her or loyal even though we spend every single day together. I cook for her 3 days a week at least, took care of her in the hospital among many other things and she still doesn't believe that I'm loyal to her.
Sit down with her and let her know you have always been loyal to her and suggest a counselor. You guys can go as a couple or individually. It’s expensive but if these trust issues end up tearing apart the relationship you will regret not spending the money.
@@sarahbera6744 thanks for your message we have been to a therapist many times. things seem to be better now, we'll see! lol