I am an impulsive person that struggles with the concept of practising delayed gratification. It’s easy to give into the impulses that lead to immediate satisfaction (sometimes this may mean avoiding something I don’t want to confront), but most often the choice to take the instant reward has ramifications for the future that don’t help me to achieve my long term goals. I now challenge myself constantly about my choices and whether they are going to help my future self. It’s not always easy, but I’m hoping it’s a skill that will improve over time and become part of who I am and how I live my life.
Excellent video! I think we also have to keep in mind that when we focus on the short term we are also just postponing the inevitable. It's not going to magically resolve itself. It's probably easier to deal with the emotional impact in bite-sized pieces rather than to have to deal with it ALL in the future when we likely be overwhelmed by all and may not have the same emotional strength. Perhaps we should look at dealing with stuff now as a gift to our future selves.
There is a wonderful strategy popularized by Suzy Welch, called 10-10-10. You think about decisions (small and large) in terms of 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years. It has helped me take the emotion and urgency out of decisions and fears. Thank you for this excellent video.
I can definitely relate to holding back for fear of doing or saying something wrong. I have to remember that the more I practice speaking up, the easier it will be in the future. Thinking about the short-term vs. long-term consequences and results is helpful, thank you!
Oh I felt this hard! When I was in grad school my supervisor wanted all of us to ask a question whenever we had a guest speaker, even if we thought our question was "dumb" or we "had nothing to say." I'm super grateful for her pushing us to take up space and share our thoughts, and I'd do well to remember the lesson the further I get from that time in my life.
I never comment on videos but I had to come here to thank you. At the beginning of the video I had no idea how you were going to tie that idea into decluttering but as i listened I thought about all the ways I hold myself back, not in terms of anxiety but in terms of procrastination. I have ADD and I often have a hard time sticking with anything but framing my decisions on my overall goals makes it much easier to push through. Thank you!
I really appreciate and enjoy your sweet, relaxing, informative, and encouraging videos. I am so glad that you asked at the END of this video for us to click the Like button. I think that in many of your earlier videos, you would mention that at the beginning but I would forget to click after listening. So, thank you for making it easier to do.
This made a lot of sense Aline and I can really relate to what you were saying about focusing on the short term discomfort or potential embarrassment rather than the long term goals/benefits - I've done the former so many times in my life and then always regret not speaking up/ miss out on an opportunity to gain confidence or put my thoughts out there. I'm getting better but it's taken me until my late 40s so thank you for sharing, your thoughts and insights make all the difference ❤️
I have definability spent a lot of time holding back because of fear of feeling shameful. It is so hard to put yourself out there when what you say can't be taken back.
So I’m actually the opposite of her example in this video. College taught me to speak my mind whenever and boldly. And it was applauded in that setting. Fast forward 10 years and people don’t really appreciate that in “real life.” I’ve had to learn to reign it in and tone it down A LOT. And I think it’s healthy NOT to speak everything. It’s good to have a filter. But where I do relate to her example is in doing things. I hold back doing things bc of the perceived embarrassment. I couldn’t post things to sell on line bc I didn’t want to suggest the wrong price and be laughed at or criticized. I didn’t want to learn to line dance for fear I wouldn’t get the moves down. I didn’t try out for a play for fear I couldn’t learn the lines or I’d be booed off the stage. I couldn’t start an organizing business for fear no one would want to use my service. Like her, I was focusing on the short term rather than the long goal.
First video I've seen of your channel, and I'm loving it. Telling that anecdote really helped getting across tge message. Def will check your other stuff.
This is so good! My daughter has anxiety disorder and avoids things she's having a hard time with. She's 18. Going to college. Sometimes I don't know how to help her...
The amazing Ali Wong once said that men who fail get up and try again, because the society doesn’t really bother, it even values men who get up back on their feet. If women fail, society thinks it’s because we’re women. That women in general aren’t capable doing certain things. This is how we grow up and internalise that our failure has to do with us as a person and not as human-being making mistakes and trying again.
Your videos are always amazing 😊😊 I learn so much from you in each one of them....you are a wonderful friend a million miles away my dearest 🥰🥰🌷🌷🌷🌺🌸🌸💮🌼🌼
PSA: The constant “I’m sorry” from women can signify submissiveness or insecurity or even OCD. Don’t say it will nilly. It makes the REAL apologies underwhelming. Also, it’s highly irritating.
I think that the title and content of this video really don't add up. Only around 7 minutes in do I actually hear the point of the vide, and again, 3 minutes later the point is lost. The concept of feeling guilt or anxiety after letting go is definitely something to tackle and talk about but then again, the video itself and the title could have been formated and thought out a lot differently. :)
I am an impulsive person that struggles with the concept of practising delayed gratification. It’s easy to give into the impulses that lead to immediate satisfaction (sometimes this may mean avoiding something I don’t want to confront), but most often the choice to take the instant reward has ramifications for the future that don’t help me to achieve my long term goals. I now challenge myself constantly about my choices and whether they are going to help my future self. It’s not always easy, but I’m hoping it’s a skill that will improve over time and become part of who I am and how I live my life.
Excellent video! I think we also have to keep in mind that when we focus on the short term we are also just postponing the inevitable. It's not going to magically resolve itself. It's probably easier to deal with the emotional impact in bite-sized pieces rather than to have to deal with it ALL in the future when we likely be overwhelmed by all and may not have the same emotional strength. Perhaps we should look at dealing with stuff now as a gift to our future selves.
Such a good point/way of thinking of it!
There is a wonderful strategy popularized by Suzy Welch, called 10-10-10. You think about decisions (small and large) in terms of 10 minutes, 10 months, and 10 years. It has helped me take the emotion and urgency out of decisions and fears. Thank you for this excellent video.
Everytime I watch one of your videos I declutter a few items. Just now was 4 swords and 2 tri pods. Thanks
I can definitely relate to holding back for fear of doing or saying something wrong. I have to remember that the more I practice speaking up, the easier it will be in the future. Thinking about the short-term vs. long-term consequences and results is helpful, thank you!
Oh I felt this hard! When I was in grad school my supervisor wanted all of us to ask a question whenever we had a guest speaker, even if we thought our question was "dumb" or we "had nothing to say." I'm super grateful for her pushing us to take up space and share our thoughts, and I'd do well to remember the lesson the further I get from that time in my life.
Best to ask dumb questions
than to make dumb mistakes.
I never comment on videos but I had to come here to thank you. At the beginning of the video I had no idea how you were going to tie that idea into decluttering but as i listened I thought about all the ways I hold myself back, not in terms of anxiety but in terms of procrastination. I have ADD and I often have a hard time sticking with anything but framing my decisions on my overall goals makes it much easier to push through. Thank you!
I really appreciate and enjoy your sweet, relaxing, informative, and encouraging videos.
I am so glad that you asked at the END of this video for us to click the Like button. I think that in many of your earlier videos, you would mention that at the beginning but I would forget to click after listening. So, thank you for making it easier to do.
I find even if I immediately regret it I often forget about it later. But for me the benefit of having and owning less matters more than the item.
This made a lot of sense Aline and I can really relate to what you were saying about focusing on the short term discomfort or potential embarrassment rather than the long term goals/benefits - I've done the former so many times in my life and then always regret not speaking up/ miss out on an opportunity to gain confidence or put my thoughts out there. I'm getting better but it's taken me until my late 40s so thank you for sharing, your thoughts and insights make all the difference ❤️
I’m new. I had to
Subscribe on the mental approach or roadblocks that you share. Thank you!! Clutter starts in the mind first
Thanks for this...the hook was 'always saying Sorry' oh yes, I'll get there eventually!
I have definability spent a lot of time holding back because of fear of feeling shameful. It is so hard to put yourself out there when what you say can't be taken back.
So I’m actually the opposite of her example in this video. College taught me to speak my mind whenever and boldly. And it was applauded in that setting. Fast forward 10 years and people don’t really appreciate that in “real life.” I’ve had to learn to reign it in and tone it down A LOT. And I think it’s healthy NOT to speak everything. It’s good to have a filter. But where I do relate to her example is in doing things. I hold back doing things bc of the perceived embarrassment. I couldn’t post things to sell on line bc I didn’t want to suggest the wrong price and be laughed at or criticized. I didn’t want to learn to line dance for fear I wouldn’t get the moves down. I didn’t try out for a play for fear I couldn’t learn the lines or I’d be booed off the stage. I couldn’t start an organizing business for fear no one would want to use my service. Like her, I was focusing on the short term rather than the long goal.
So good!! Thanks for this.⭐️✨
Thanks for sharing your brilliance with us.
First video I've seen of your channel, and I'm loving it. Telling that anecdote really helped getting across tge message. Def will check your other stuff.
Awesome! Thank you!
This is so good! My daughter has anxiety disorder and avoids things she's having a hard time with. She's 18. Going to college. Sometimes I don't know how to help her...
What a wise pep talk that I really needed!
The amazing Ali Wong once said that men who fail get up and try again, because the society doesn’t really bother, it even values men who get up back on their feet.
If women fail, society thinks it’s because we’re women. That women in general aren’t capable doing certain things. This is how we grow up and internalise that our failure has to do with us as a person and not as human-being making mistakes and trying again.
This was such an insightful video. Thank you for sharing it!!
Excellent perspective... definitely going to share this one :)
I gave My TV away and I don't miss it. My TV is UA-cam
Your videos are always amazing 😊😊 I learn so much from you in each one of them....you are a wonderful friend a million miles away my dearest 🥰🥰🌷🌷🌷🌺🌸🌸💮🌼🌼
Oh boy, so I understand Impostor Syndrome. I have it baaaaad! I think it’s part of my Asperger’s.
Great video!
I will still will never be comfortable with snakes. But rest all accurate 😜
Powerful content❤️
PSA: The constant “I’m sorry” from women can signify submissiveness or insecurity or even OCD. Don’t say it will nilly. It makes the REAL apologies underwhelming. Also, it’s highly irritating.
So I'm 6 minutes in, and I've yet to hear something about minimalism or decluttering or intentional living. Just saying.
Exactly!
I think that the title and content of this video really don't add up. Only around 7 minutes in do I actually hear the point of the vide, and again, 3 minutes later the point is lost. The concept of feeling guilt or anxiety after letting go is definitely something to tackle and talk about but then again, the video itself and the title could have been formated and thought out a lot differently. :)