My girlfriend in Perth owned a speed dating business, quite often she would ask my sister avd her brother (who were both married), to fill in to make up the numbers! Where there’s a profit to be made, you can expect inconsistencies in the truth!!!
I went on my first speed dating event recently. I met a guy I really like, we had so much in common but due to his career, he wouldn't be around much so he wasn't for me, however, we are staying in touch as friends. Not the fault of the organization but it was totally worth it and it made me realize that I can meet people that I actually have a connection with. This really helped me as after my divorce I have not met anyone that I actually had some connection with which made me end up in relationships that were bad for my emotional health. So for me, it was 100 percent worth going and I am open to going again. Anyway, a business is a business and their main goal is to make money. A business will not offer a product that is not desirable to the masses.
1:25 I tried speed dating once and it seemed like a great idea (it was held in a library with the idea being you bring a book as an ice breaker). I very quickly worked out that the event had not enough women sign up when it dawned on me that so many of women knew the organisers. I ended up only getting one match but when I met up with her for dinner at a restaurant it was like she was obligated to be there and she had no real interest and couldn't wait to leave; didn't even wait for dessert and the 'date' was over by 7:30pm. I concluded that she had been pressured to go out with me so that I would have a positive opinion speed dating and didn't want to be there. Fast forward 15 years and I see the same thing; so many speed dating events where it's "men sold out." Why would I go along to another event where the organisers are likely to fill out the seats with people who aren't actually interested/available?
I would be surprised to find out a woman agrees to go out with you on a date because she's paid by speed dating event organisers. Seems a bit over the top. I know it's a hard pill to swallow.. But maybe she simply wasn't that interested and found the company rather dull, so she chose to leave before the dessert 🍰 Would you say you were having a great time at that date??
I was once in a speed dating event and apparently guys needed to pay for getting in while the girls got in for free. We had 3minutes per person and in the end the notes I wrote about each person did not help at all because the time was just too short. :D I ended up going on one date but that was about it... nevertheless, it was a fun experience
Aš irgi atsimenu rašiausi iš pradžių fotografas, mėgsta keliauti ir t.t. Bet po to pasidaviau 😂 O kokia tu kalba? Angliškai, vokiškai, ispaniškai? Kad ir kokie 'linksmi' tie speed dating renginiai bebūtų, linkiu, kad nei tau nei man nebereikėtų į juos eiti. Kad būtų happily ever after 😉 💒
@@IevaKambarovaiteAš pamenu tiesiog + iškarto ant visų užsidėjau 😆. Bet su niekuo nesumatčinau. Gal dėl to kad 3 milijonus klausimų bandžiau išklausinėt 😆 O šiaip kad vaikinai moka o merginos ne manau teisinga. Nes lietuvoje kas organizuoja tai moka abi lytis vienodai, bet gaunas tada moterų trūkumas. Arba kad kainą moterim sumažint pagal lyties skaičiaus trūkumą.
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I went to my 1st speed dating event last night. I wanted to try something new and this would give me an opportunity to sharpen my mouthpiece. My goal was to have fun and meet women. I had a good time but didnt get any matches but i guess that doesn't mean none of the women didnt like me. Anyways i am looking forward to the next one and i will use a couple tips to improve my chances!
This is. Very good video. Even though I have never attended a speed dating event, this topic held my attention! Speed dating events sound like it can be a Fun experience!
I knew from the get go that dating apps are a scam because you get all these matches and once you join not one of those people want to even get back to you. Then all you get is these women that you would even give a second glance out in the wild.
1:14 This is very true. The best-looking guys there are paid to be there and they're there to keep the women coming. Most of us regular guys never had a chance.
I'm a feminine and traditional women I don't approach men nor ask for their number something I will not do. At these speed dating events or social events with guys I'm interested in what can I do? To show interest but get them to make the move.
As a woman very often you just need to look his way and smile. Hold an eye contact for a bit. You also have to understand that men are intimidated and approaching a lady can be very scary. Check out some videos on my channel on why men don't approach women and what you can do if you'd like to be approached.
Ahhh, ask for his number. Im 48 and I dont consider it odd, weird, or not traditional. Most men don't understand women and attraction enough. When a woman shows interest, it makes it so much easier on both of you. Women dont understand rejection on the level men do. You asking for his number, will immediately make him less nervous. I love it when women ask, it says "Hey, Id like to talk to you some more." Women speak a different language then men in the attraction arena. Men never know what to say without being creepy because in 2024 any sign of unreciprocated attraction is "harassment" to most women. Get their number, even if he doesn't find YOU attractive, he will take the number. Personally, I give them MY number and say, "lets cut the bs, here's my number, if you are interested, call me" Some call, some dont, the ones that like me, automatically give their number before I leave. That's how I know who will call. Everyone is afraid of rejection in some way.
What can you do? You can change your attitude about showing interest in men for a start. It'll help you more than anything else you can possibly do except getting in shape.
Yes and no. What about those that decide the very last minute not to turn up? Also, some people get their tickets very last minute. But yes, it would be ideal if you didn't had to wait around awkwardly at a speed dating event. Have you tried speed dating?
I can see why it could be nerve wracking. But if you go with the intention to connect with one person, to have a nice conversation with just one person, it takes down the pressure. I hope you try a speed dating event. Good luck 😊
A great question. Sadly, probably for the same reason why a married man would be on a dating app. That's why a woman should always find out whether he's single, seperated, maybe he considers himself to be single but he's actually in a relationship.
Honestly, If you are not a professional event planner DO NOT have one. It is just someone trying to make a quick buck. Making it a weird event. As if it were scripted, Millennials.
I did think many times after attending a speed dating event how I'd do things if I was planning one. I'd do things differently and I'd make it more engaging. But I hear you 😊
I went to one recently, my first. I dunno, seems fishy. I don't want to toot my horn; I'm no 'super catch' or anything, but I'm decent looking and decent dressed, and a good talker. I didn't get a single match, despite having some good conversations. I wonder whether all the women there are really single and not hired guns.
I think it's all what you make out of it. If you're going to a speed dating event thinking that's going to be a complete waste of your time, this is exactly what you're going to get. Sometimes to get a different outcome, you may just need a slightly different point of view
I did not go there thinking it was going to be a complete waste of time. I went to several and found them to be a complete waste of time. I have my shit together and most of the men there were horror shows, so you would think that I would get one or two wanting a subsequent meet up. Most women go there with a friend to drink wine and get validation and an ego boost by talking to men and knowing that they could date any man there should they want to. It's a total joke. The last speed date event I went to, I would ask them "what do you want out of a boyfriend," and most of them said that they were not looking for a boyfriend. I explained to them that this is a speed DATING event, not a speed FRIENDING event, and since they were not seeking a relationship I would instead take the time I would have interacted with them and get a drink at the bar. They were left to sit there themselves. No validation for them. @@IevaKambarovaite
What an interesting experience, Michael. Never heard someone coming from a speed dating event where they only met women who are not interested in a relationship. I think it sometimes depends on the demographic, the venue and many other factors. Some answers to questions may simply be the indication that they're not interested in you. Regardless, well done for putting yourself out there and doing something different. Good luck
There is one thing I dont understand. If some women get paid just to be on SD event... how is that gonna earn them more money if they have to pay other people. There wouldn't be good revenues at the end. But could be possible. I was on two events recently but I dont think Im gonna go again.
It's not just women, it could be men as well. But I don't know this for sure.. It's just something I've heard. How did you find those events you went to? Any nice people?
@@IevaKambarovaite yes I've heard it too. People were fine, last event I "liked" 4 women out of 10 but again no match. I just dont make very good first impression.. also when you mentioned giving each other contacts directly, that would be violating the rules. I dont think organizers would do something that silly and lie about matches. But anyway good video. You should make them more often
@@arthurmorgan2906 rules are here to be broken😊 I'd say if you like someone, definitely ask for their number. It's not even about the organisers messing up the results, it's more about you taking action on something you care about.
@@IevaKambarovaite lol a rebel one ain't you XD I thought you were a good gurl hehe. Anyway there wasn't no one I liked THAT much. I also talked to this dude after the event and he said he went third time and he had some matches but they didnt even meet after all. It looks like it's not that different from online apps..
I think there are a lot of factors. Right timing, luck, where you're in your life, where this other person is, how you feel about yourself overall. I think it all comes into the equation. But you always increase your chances of meeting someone if you; 're proactively putting yourself out there. Every interaction teaches you something. Good luck!
@@romesew7888 I don't personally organise speed dating events, but I can see why a background check could be useful. Probably, more common in the US. I think you can expect a background check if you're paying for a premium service. For example, if you're signed with a matchmaking agency who provides you dates. I hope it helps
the good ones have this issue. The attractive women come in groups, they are either successful and cant meet "men on their level" or are expecting to meet Bruce Wayne enter their lives. The men mostly are divorced, widowed, or have never been around women ina social environment.
i'm going to make single dating events longer and better. maybe this is my sales pitch, "if you don't hookup then its you, come back improved next week" haha you are right speeddating events aren't very fruitful. not enough time to develop repoor. nice aussie accent. ;)
I don't know, sounds like bullshit take... I guess there are some scams, that just want your money and give you crappy ratio like1000 men and 10 women, but if I go to an event and nothing happens, fuck that I aint going back
I can see why it may seem like a scam, but I also think it's what you make out of it and what your expectations are. If you just go with the intention to do something that's out of your comfort zone and meet new people, then it's ✅ Also, this is the reason I always say if you meet someone at that event you fancy, you ask for their details, number or what no instead of waiting for speed dating organisers to do any of that lifting for you. Good luck. I hope you try it and have fun
*Have you ever been to a speed dating event? Have you met anyone you liked?* Tell me in the comments
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I met my last gf at a speed-dating event. I was a non-engineery engineer, and she was a corporate lawyer. We were together for 15 years.
Did you marry her ...
My girlfriend in Perth owned a speed dating business, quite often she would ask my sister avd her brother (who were both married), to fill in to make up the numbers! Where there’s a profit to be made, you can expect inconsistencies in the truth!!!
I went on my first speed dating event recently. I met a guy I really like, we had so much in common but due to his career, he wouldn't be around much so he wasn't for me, however, we are staying in touch as friends. Not the fault of the organization but it was totally worth it and it made me realize that I can meet people that I actually have a connection with. This really helped me as after my divorce I have not met anyone that I actually had some connection with which made me end up in relationships that were bad for my emotional health. So for me, it was 100 percent worth going and I am open to going again. Anyway, a business is a business and their main goal is to make money. A business will not offer a product that is not desirable to the masses.
Thanks for sharing! I’m coming out of divorce as well and not sure how I would introduce that in the intro, any suggestions for how you handled it?
I’m so nervous about going to one I keep procrastinating
Have you signed up for one yet? I hope you do. And please let me know how it goes
@@IevaKambarovaite Unfortunately no, I haven’t. Every time I try to book one on meetup I wimp out last minute. 😅
Just do it! You will feel great just doing something out of your comfort zone
@@jonjon4923It won't lead to anything but might as well go and get the experience.
1:25 I tried speed dating once and it seemed like a great idea (it was held in a library with the idea being you bring a book as an ice breaker).
I very quickly worked out that the event had not enough women sign up when it dawned on me that so many of women knew the organisers.
I ended up only getting one match but when I met up with her for dinner at a restaurant it was like she was obligated to be there and she had no real interest and couldn't wait to leave; didn't even wait for dessert and the 'date' was over by 7:30pm.
I concluded that she had been pressured to go out with me so that I would have a positive opinion speed dating and didn't want to be there.
Fast forward 15 years and I see the same thing; so many speed dating events where it's "men sold out."
Why would I go along to another event where the organisers are likely to fill out the seats with people who aren't actually interested/available?
I would be surprised to find out a woman agrees to go out with you on a date because she's paid by speed dating event organisers. Seems a bit over the top.
I know it's a hard pill to swallow.. But maybe she simply wasn't that interested and found the company rather dull, so she chose to leave before the dessert 🍰
Would you say you were having a great time at that date??
I was once in a speed dating event and apparently guys needed to pay for getting in while the girls got in for free. We had 3minutes per person and in the end the notes I wrote about each person did not help at all because the time was just too short. :D I ended up going on one date but that was about it... nevertheless, it was a fun experience
Aš irgi atsimenu rašiausi iš pradžių fotografas, mėgsta keliauti ir t.t. Bet po to pasidaviau 😂 O kokia tu kalba? Angliškai, vokiškai, ispaniškai?
Kad ir kokie 'linksmi' tie speed dating renginiai bebūtų, linkiu, kad nei tau nei man nebereikėtų į juos eiti. Kad būtų happily ever after 😉 💒
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@@IevaKambarovaiteAš pamenu tiesiog + iškarto ant visų užsidėjau 😆. Bet su niekuo nesumatčinau. Gal dėl to kad 3 milijonus klausimų bandžiau išklausinėt 😆 O šiaip kad vaikinai moka o merginos ne manau teisinga. Nes lietuvoje kas organizuoja tai moka abi lytis vienodai, bet gaunas tada moterų trūkumas. Arba kad kainą moterim sumažint pagal lyties skaičiaus trūkumą.
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I'm involved in one today and when I signed up at least it was much cheaper for the men.
I like how informative and honest and analytical you are.
I went to my 1st speed dating event last night. I wanted to try something new and this would give me an opportunity to sharpen my mouthpiece. My goal was to have fun and meet women. I had a good time but didnt get any matches but i guess that doesn't mean none of the women didnt like me. Anyways i am looking forward to the next one and i will use a couple tips to improve my chances!
Is there a video about matchmaking services? Would you try that?
I've never tried matchmaking. I think if I was single I'd be open to trying it
I don't trust matchmakers. It's very expensive.
This is. Very good video. Even though I have never attended a speed dating event, this topic held my attention! Speed dating events sound like it can be a Fun experience!
Thank you darling 💞
I can't believe you lived for so many years in NY and never went to a speed dating event 😳
@@IevaKambarovaite never!
I knew from the get go that dating apps are a scam because you get all these matches and once you join not one of those people want to even get back to you. Then all you get is these women that you would even give a second glance out in the wild.
1:14 This is very true. The best-looking guys there are paid to be there and they're there to keep the women coming. Most of us regular guys never had a chance.
6:21 OMG… so funny! 🤣
Forgot about that bit 🤣
The problem is with these things is that you only get offered the bottom of the barrel!.. And as an Archeologist.. This is just unacceptable..
I'm a feminine and traditional women
I don't approach men nor ask for their number something I will not do. At these speed dating events or social events with guys I'm interested in what can I do? To show interest but get them to make the move.
just ask them out. That's the only way you can show interest,
As a woman very often you just need to look his way and smile. Hold an eye contact for a bit. You also have to understand that men are intimidated and approaching a lady can be very scary. Check out some videos on my channel on why men don't approach women and what you can do if you'd like to be approached.
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Ahhh, ask for his number. Im 48 and I dont consider it odd, weird, or not traditional. Most men don't understand women and attraction enough. When a woman shows interest, it makes it so much easier on both of you. Women dont understand rejection on the level men do. You asking for his number, will immediately make him less nervous. I love it when women ask, it says "Hey, Id like to talk to you some more." Women speak a different language then men in the attraction arena. Men never know what to say without being creepy because in 2024 any sign of unreciprocated attraction is "harassment" to most women. Get their number, even if he doesn't find YOU attractive, he will take the number. Personally, I give them MY number and say, "lets cut the bs, here's my number, if you are interested, call me" Some call, some dont, the ones that like me, automatically give their number before I leave. That's how I know who will call. Everyone is afraid of rejection in some way.
What can you do? You can change your attitude about showing interest in men for a start. It'll help you more than anything else you can possibly do except getting in shape.
Thumbs up for your confidence! You do have the eyes - certainly very attractive!
Hahaha ☺️
I would never join a singles group that charges a yearly fee.
2:20. This is ridiculous because it is the most easiest factor to control. Smh. Have a set even number about of space and ticket for both genders
Yes and no. What about those that decide the very last minute not to turn up? Also, some people get their tickets very last minute. But yes, it would be ideal if you didn't had to wait around awkwardly at a speed dating event. Have you tried speed dating?
I'm open to it. Thank you
For many guys, speed dating is just a night of rejection and wasted time.
id be really nervous if i was to go to a speed dating event and it doesn't help that i have a stammer.
I can see why it could be nerve wracking. But if you go with the intention to connect with one person, to have a nice conversation with just one person, it takes down the pressure. I hope you try a speed dating event. Good luck 😊
My city has a lot of virtual speed dating events. I might try one
Look at you showing off your perfume
I'm assuming it made you feel slightly sick just looking at it 🤭
@@IevaKambarovaite actually I thought you got to stop using it before getting pregnant… I love Chanel #5 when the chemicals wear off!
@@WhenAphroditeSpeaks stop it 🤣🤭
Why would a married man go to an event what's the purpose of that?
A great question. Sadly, probably for the same reason why a married man would be on a dating app. That's why a woman should always find out whether he's single, seperated, maybe he considers himself to be single but he's actually in a relationship.
Forget the costs, speed-dating events for most men are a pure time loss.
Honestly, If you are not a professional event planner DO NOT have one. It is just someone trying to make a quick buck. Making it a weird event. As if it were scripted, Millennials.
I did think many times after attending a speed dating event how I'd do things if I was planning one. I'd do things differently and I'd make it more engaging. But I hear you 😊
I went to one recently, my first. I dunno, seems fishy. I don't want to toot my horn; I'm no 'super catch' or anything, but I'm decent looking and decent dressed, and a good talker. I didn't get a single match, despite having some good conversations. I wonder whether all the women there are really single and not hired guns.
In essence, women go to these things for entertainment, and men go to find a girlfriend. It's a total waste of time for the men.
I thought it's the other way round
I think it's all what you make out of it. If you're going to a speed dating event thinking that's going to be a complete waste of your time, this is exactly what you're going to get. Sometimes to get a different outcome, you may just need a slightly different point of view
I did not go there thinking it was going to be a complete waste of time. I went to several and found them to be a complete waste of time. I have my shit together and most of the men there were horror shows, so you would think that I would get one or two wanting a subsequent meet up. Most women go there with a friend to drink wine and get validation and an ego boost by talking to men and knowing that they could date any man there should they want to. It's a total joke. The last speed date event I went to, I would ask them "what do you want out of a boyfriend," and most of them said that they were not looking for a boyfriend. I explained to them that this is a speed DATING event, not a speed FRIENDING event, and since they were not seeking a relationship I would instead take the time I would have interacted with them and get a drink at the bar. They were left to sit there themselves. No validation for them. @@IevaKambarovaite
What an interesting experience, Michael. Never heard someone coming from a speed dating event where they only met women who are not interested in a relationship. I think it sometimes depends on the demographic, the venue and many other factors. Some answers to questions may simply be the indication that they're not interested in you. Regardless, well done for putting yourself out there and doing something different. Good luck
@@clyomuright? I heard the rations always work against the women because not enough men go?
There is one thing I dont understand. If some women get paid just to be on SD event... how is that gonna earn them more money if they have to pay other people. There wouldn't be good revenues at the end. But could be possible. I was on two events recently but I dont think Im gonna go again.
It's not just women, it could be men as well. But I don't know this for sure.. It's just something I've heard.
How did you find those events you went to? Any nice people?
@@IevaKambarovaite yes I've heard it too. People were fine, last event I "liked" 4 women out of 10 but again no match. I just dont make very good first impression.. also when you mentioned giving each other contacts directly, that would be violating the rules. I dont think organizers would do something that silly and lie about matches. But anyway good video. You should make them more often
@@arthurmorgan2906 rules are here to be broken😊 I'd say if you like someone, definitely ask for their number. It's not even about the organisers messing up the results, it's more about you taking action on something you care about.
@@IevaKambarovaite lol a rebel one ain't you XD I thought you were a good gurl hehe. Anyway there wasn't no one I liked THAT much. I also talked to this dude after the event and he said he went third time and he had some matches but they didnt even meet after all. It looks like it's not that different from online apps..
I think there are a lot of factors. Right timing, luck, where you're in your life, where this other person is, how you feel about yourself overall. I think it all comes into the equation. But you always increase your chances of meeting someone if you; 're proactively putting yourself out there. Every interaction teaches you something. Good luck!
I have enjoyed speed datign events. It depends on how an who hosts it.
I went speed dating once
I was the only one there 😂
Poor men how much we have to pay for a minute? WTf I'm not going to pay a cent
I'm not sure that's exactly how it is. Women pay to get to the speed dating even just like men do. Why are you so bitter?
@@IevaKambarovaitefree speech.
Do you do background checks, to weed bad people out?
@@romesew7888 I don't personally organise speed dating events, but I can see why a background check could be useful. Probably, more common in the US.
I think you can expect a background check if you're paying for a premium service.
For example, if you're signed with a matchmaking agency who provides you dates. I hope it helps
Just went to a speed dating event. Such nonsense. I rather watch geese hiss.
Excellent comment. Hiralous!
the good ones have this issue. The attractive women come in groups, they are either successful and cant meet "men on their level" or are expecting to meet Bruce Wayne enter their lives. The men mostly are divorced, widowed, or have never been around women ina social environment.
i'm going to make single dating events longer and better. maybe this is my sales pitch, "if you don't hookup then its you, come back improved next week" haha you are right speeddating events aren't very fruitful. not enough time to develop repoor. nice aussie accent. ;)
I don't know, sounds like bullshit take... I guess there are some scams, that just want your money and give you crappy ratio like1000 men and 10 women, but if I go to an event and nothing happens, fuck that I aint going back
I can see why it may seem like a scam, but I also think it's what you make out of it and what your expectations are. If you just go with the intention to do something that's out of your comfort zone and meet new people, then it's ✅ Also, this is the reason I always say if you meet someone at that event you fancy, you ask for their details, number or what no instead of waiting for speed dating organisers to do any of that lifting for you. Good luck. I hope you try it and have fun
I have went and worked for a speeddating company. I had fun hosting and attending. Much better than dating apps.
That's brilliant. Can't beat meeting face to face. What are some of the biggest mistakes you've noticed speed daters make?