My Summary and Take Aways from The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

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  • @insightandintuition276
    @insightandintuition276 2 роки тому +18

    I feel like crying as I glance up at the photo of my mother I found in the bottom of my closet today. She died when I was still a young woman saying “ you really need a mother”. That was as close as she could get to saying sorry , I guess. When I spoke to her today, her spirit, I acknowledged she had a very tough life. My heart and belly hurt as I write that as I too had a very tough life and a nightmare of a childhood. Still a part of me Liam’s her for the pain she inflicted on me. My body, mind and spirit were severely harmed….I do have a relationship with the higher power today or I couldn’t bare to go on. Pain gets triggered all too often at times. I have many gifts and talents which I hope and pray to continue to be more available to manifest and thereby make a contribution to my fellows🙏🏻🦋

  • @catherinejames2734
    @catherinejames2734 3 роки тому +18

    My life has been so affected by CPTSD it was the best thing I could have read to learn how I can heal. I’ve had the eye treatment mentioned and am pleased with how much it helped. I also now practice yoga which is also helpful. The degree of body pain I was experiencing has now calmed down incredibly. This book will be of great benefit to anyone who feels permanently afflicted by their past trauma. I now have a much deeper understanding of why my body feels more pain as a result of childhood trauma, something I learnt from reading the book. Very grateful to Bessel van der Kolk.

  • @exercisingwell7920
    @exercisingwell7920 2 роки тому +10

    Thank you for this excellent summary. I recently started reading this book again and I am amazed at how insightful it is - and how it is increasingly needed as so many of our mindsets about exercise and health disconnect is from our body. Thank you!!!

  • @sierrafoxtrotgolf3638
    @sierrafoxtrotgolf3638 Рік тому +4

    This book was literally life changing for me, and this is a great primer to share to get others interested. Thanks for making this video.

  • @Lawman212
    @Lawman212 3 роки тому +16

    This was an excellent summation, and made me more interested in seeking out the book.

  • @cameliakhalid1646
    @cameliakhalid1646 2 роки тому +3

    WoW! Thanks, great summary. I wanted to survey the content of the book before getting into reading it in details and instead of flicking through the pages, I looked for a summary in UA-cam. Your summary was very helpful in understanding the structure of the book as I go through!

  • @t.h.nguyen5193
    @t.h.nguyen5193 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for the summary! I listened before and stopped because I found it so disturbing. I'll re-listen to the audio book again. I tend to act hypervigilant and realized why I acted the way I was. My childhood trauma stores in my digestive system, and a few other places. Neurofeedback has helped calming me down. I have along journey ahead of me: to acknowledge my past and embrace all the events in order for me to move forward.

  • @408sophon
    @408sophon 2 місяці тому

    Great summary -- thank you!

  • @macmillan8278
    @macmillan8278 2 роки тому +8

    It is not that you did not have trauma (the speaker, in the intro). It is that in babyhood and growing up you had people around you who were capable of helping your undeveloped nervous system cope with and successfully pass through the trauma, through co-regulation. It’s not only the event, it’s how the aftermath is handled. If the people around a child are ignorant of or indifferent to what is happening to the child and fails to help them cope, the trauma(s) is not physically processed by the nervous system and stays stuck in the body.

    • @lindazulinov9873
      @lindazulinov9873 2 роки тому

      What do I do? Stuck in a psych ward paralyzed((abdomen) aside from my IBSC. PSYCHIATRIST DON'T UNDERSTAND.

    • @soniap2891
      @soniap2891 Рік тому

      I’m not a medical professional, survivor of childhood & adult traumas. The good news is that we can heal by providing ourselves the support that we didn’t get in childhood or adulthood…self-soothing & reparenting ourselves…you have to find the techniques that work best for you. Trauma causes brain & neurological changes/damage; we can learn to recognize when we become dysregulated & learn to re-regulate…the crappy childhood fairy talks about this here on UA-cam, she offers her method of re-regulating for free, if that doesn’t resonate with you, keep looking for what may help you.

  • @shahilagh
    @shahilagh 2 роки тому +5

    Still I listened to his recent interviews and his suggestions are applicable to few groups . Like
    He says ultimately the goal is to make people feel safe with others. Like doing volleyball and singing. Man after two hours they all go back home and you go by your own and that actually emphasises that people are not safe because they go back to their own cave families forgetting who you were. What he suggested even in 2022 is useful for some people and many not. I don’t expect more too but the least these people can do it to acknowledge the limitations of their recommendations

  • @sharongonzales2495
    @sharongonzales2495 3 роки тому +2

    Wow, you did such a beautiful job summarizing this book. I read it a while back. So it was nice to hear you talk about the book and bring up points that I missed. Thank you so much. Your patients are going to be very lucky they found you

  • @aad7451
    @aad7451 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much for the summary! I own the book since I suffer from trauma and other mental disorders and I’ve read about a hundred pages but I have difficulty focusing so it’d take long time for me to finish so I wanted to know the overall picture of it first. Have a nice day!!

    • @emilyrivard6616
      @emilyrivard6616 2 роки тому +1

      I’ve really enjoyed the audiobook so far which has been helpful

  • @phoenixpetterson825
    @phoenixpetterson825 2 роки тому +45

    I want to point out that as far as “doing what you needed to do to survive” goes, there’s a war veteran named Tom depicted as the first trauma victim in this book, someone who did horrific things that *were not needed to be done to survive*. Sometimes abusers do awful things that we should not excuse in the name of trauma, hurt people don’t ~need~ to hurt bystander innocent people in the name of revenge. I found the beginning of the book to be incredibly triggering to SA survivors, as it came off as an apologetic to SA committers with no compassionate reference to the victims.

    • @marblejarchannel
      @marblejarchannel  2 роки тому +12

      THANK YOU so much for commenting and bringing your perspective to this. I had not considered how triggering the first portion of the book might be, so I appreciate your willingness to give voice to your experience. I'm sure you speak for many!

    • @phoenixpetterson825
      @phoenixpetterson825 2 роки тому +8

      @@marblejarchannel hey, thanks for the response! I still plan to go through the book to try and glean the useful information because I think it’s very valuable, I just was very taken aback initially and needed a break from it to reorient my approach to it. I had been under the false impression that, given the subject matter, the book would be written in a way that was sensitive to the more delicate audience members that it was written about. Readjusting my expectations will make it easier to get through!

    • @wildlightarts
      @wildlightarts 2 роки тому +7

      Some scientists are extremely compartmentalized and cold in their outlook. I just take this as the writers blind spots and biases. He doesn't admit his biases, or acknowledge them. He seems heteronormative and locked into a way of being/thinking.

    • @phoenixpetterson825
      @phoenixpetterson825 2 роки тому +12

      @@wildlightarts I definitely agree. I decided to keep going with the book and to do my best to move over the uncomfortable parts without getting stuck on them, but I do keep finding that he makes interesting writing choices that don’t feel completely necessary or as nuanced as they could be. A small example that keeps coming up is him stressing the importance of sex as a “need”. I think it’s somewhere more on a spectrum, and I think I am sensitive to it being painted as a need because that has been the framework for sexual coercion in my life.

    • @assjuice8223
      @assjuice8223 2 роки тому +12

      The point of that part was he was studying the veteran and trying to understand how what happened to him and what he did lead to his condition. It’s not the author’s job to add in judgment on top of the core material in order to placate the feelings of the reader. It’s a book that deals with some of the most gut wrenching kind of stories, so if you’re not prepared to be able to read that don’t read the book. It’s important for people who actually want to study it for literature to be what it’s actually about. The truth is often ugly so sorry but literature isn’t always going to be pleasant to read.

  • @daniellasmith3580
    @daniellasmith3580 Рік тому

    This is great. Thank you. Helpful to direct clients here before they purchase the book

  • @MasculinityMindset
    @MasculinityMindset 2 роки тому +1

    I recently bought this book and very much look forward to reading it.

  • @botijahon8869
    @botijahon8869 2 роки тому +2

    I would like to add between the "get calm and maintain calm " advice in the book... ..definitely use prayer to the One and only J.C.... As He said in the gospel 2,000 yrs. ago..." without Me you can't do anything "....or " For God nothing is impossible "
    At the end of the day... He is the author of everything and everyone whether you ask for His help or not.
    There is plenty of evidence that confirm this . When God's children come humbly and return to Him things turn out great ! ... It could be an immediate miraculous recovery or it can be a life journey...
    Thank you Lord.

  • @jeremysnowdenz
    @jeremysnowdenz 2 роки тому +1

    Excellent summary. Concise. Thank you.

  • @EvaGrammer
    @EvaGrammer 5 місяців тому

    Ok you convinced me! It's on my Amazon wish list right now. I'll get it!

  • @sarasmile4666
    @sarasmile4666 2 роки тому +9

    Recovery communities often say, "You're as sick as your secrets."

    • @nadernikmorad73
      @nadernikmorad73 2 роки тому

      What could the secrets be? Did they mention any examples? Tks

    • @sarasmile4666
      @sarasmile4666 2 роки тому

      @@nadernikmorad73 It could be things we suppress and don't deal with (like shame or trauma), and therefore take on unhealthy coping mechanisms in order to avoid thinking about them. It could also be dishonesty about ongoing unhealthy behaviors, because we don't feel ready to stop them. 12 Step programs rely on "rigorous honesty, " to the extent that they say the only people who probably can't get and stay sober are those who cannot or will not be completely honest with themselves.

  • @rthib1960
    @rthib1960 2 роки тому

    I watched a video on how to track my weight with my Apple Watch, started perusing your Vids and am amazed the scope of your videos. When I saw this Vid it immediately caught my attention. I have listened to the Audiobook several times along with Pete Walker's book: CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving among others. All are very helpful both for validation and tools for healing from CPTSD. It is a LONG process, which I don't believe is possible to fully heal from, but can be coped with using tools innovated advocated my Van Der Kolk, and others. Thank you for this Vid -- and you have a new SUB.

  • @taylorjanegreen1
    @taylorjanegreen1 2 роки тому +2

    Thanks for making this. It is excellent. ❤️

  • @silk62004
    @silk62004 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the summary. You did a good job.

  • @simonjonesptchester
    @simonjonesptchester 2 роки тому +1

    Very helpful summary of the book, thank you!

  • @rebeccacoxon3017
    @rebeccacoxon3017 Рік тому

    Thank you - excellent and useful summary!

  • @robynhope219
    @robynhope219 6 місяців тому

    Better than The Myth of Normal bc it gives you helpful suggestions...The Myth is more a critique of whats considered normal. Read The Body...

  • @kathleenwharton2139
    @kathleenwharton2139 Рік тому

    Very Helpful! Thank You! 😊❤

  • @nadernikmorad73
    @nadernikmorad73 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this. I have his book recommended by a holistic psychologist and have read a bit of it but these are very tricky with the ego the false I which loves to identify with something as a sense of self.
    Couldn't we identify with emptiness as there is nothing in us compared to thinking there is trauma stored in my body don't we reinforce this idea as a thought in our body that there is trauma stored in it? Because when I think this way my body does get tense! I think the idea goes from the mind to the body when I believe this theory. I do yoga and meditation and I'm very careful with my thoughts and still need to feel it by my self that trauma is stored in my body rather than just think it.

    • @marblejarchannel
      @marblejarchannel  2 роки тому +1

      Hi, Nader -- I believe the concept of having trauma stored in your body is less "cognitive" and more practical. In other words, in order to treat the trauma more quickly, you have to do what you are doing and engage in body-based methods and memory reconsolidation like EMDR or EFT Tapping.

    • @nadernikmorad73
      @nadernikmorad73 2 роки тому

      @@marblejarchannel Hi so much thanks I'm a fan of eft but I had no idea that it works for trauma! By the way I've been doing cold exposure as well for about a year now taking very cold showers around 7° wouldn't that be a better tool than eft? I'm curious. And how long do you need to do eft to get results? Would you be trauma free after a certain time? And how would you know exactly what to say? Do you have a different contact than here?

    • @marblejarchannel
      @marblejarchannel  2 роки тому +1

      @@nadernikmorad73 I think cold showers are a way to stimulate the vagus nerve, which can help with the way that your nervous system respond to stress. However, to work through trauma, I would suggest working with a therapist who is trauma informed and works with one of the body based methods like EMDR or EFT Tapping to bring up memories and reprocess them in a way that feels safe. Hope that make sense!

    • @nadernikmorad73
      @nadernikmorad73 2 роки тому

      @@marblejarchannel thank you it's a bit challenging to find the right therapist as I've been reading and listening to someone like dr David burns or even bessel. I guess this it self could be all or nothing thinking!

  • @dariomargeli
    @dariomargeli 2 роки тому +1

    I watched this video to see if it is worth reading the book. It looks from what you are saying that it just lists the types of therapy that may be useful, but doesn't really walk you through healing steps: EMDR (rapid eye movement therapy), self leadership, psycho motor therapy, neurofeeback and theatre theory, breath yoga Taichi meditation chanting,

    • @marblejarchannel
      @marblejarchannel  2 роки тому +2

      That's right. I would also add EFT Tapping to that list!

  • @YouAndMeLivingFree
    @YouAndMeLivingFree 2 роки тому

    Thank you! 😊

  • @tarawalsh-arpaia3928
    @tarawalsh-arpaia3928 2 роки тому

    Thank you so MUCH for this!

  • @bootiemacarthur9182
    @bootiemacarthur9182 10 місяців тому

    Well stated!

  • @marymotherofgod4861
    @marymotherofgod4861 Рік тому

    U rock excellent book!!❤❤❤❤🙏🙏

  • @worldofsoumya
    @worldofsoumya 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for the information mam! 🙏🙏🙏❤❤

  • @Brentley88
    @Brentley88 3 роки тому

    This is excellent! Thank you!

  • @werocktheplanet
    @werocktheplanet 3 роки тому

    Thank you, this was amazing!

  • @joho9815
    @joho9815 2 роки тому

    Well articulated.

  • @sandrahartman5027
    @sandrahartman5027 11 місяців тому

    What about the very frail elderly who have experienced sexual abuse as a child and as an adult?

  • @happilyeverafterenterprise2239
    @happilyeverafterenterprise2239 3 роки тому

    EXCELLENT THANK YOU

  • @htttppppp
    @htttppppp Рік тому

    Such type trauma involves forgiveness as the end of that journey. This means self-knowledge as the starting point. Then working with a specialist because in my opinion trying to heal on your own can take a physical toll and make you sick. Maybe this is not the case but I think it almost happened to me. So overwhelm is to be avoided. Later on you work on forgiveness. Obsiously there are steps to be taken.....umph

  • @gyenglz67
    @gyenglz67 2 роки тому

    Thankk Youu

  • @andrewmiller6272
    @andrewmiller6272 2 роки тому +1

    I suffer from religious trauma syndrome. Which can cause complex PTSD. I was abused by the pastor's son physically emotionally mentally sexually and spiritually. The church was teaching the members children some pretty horrible things
    Spiritual abuse: This occurs when a religious leader(s) or religious system tries to control, manipulate, and degrade you.
    Sexual and physical abuse.
    Emotional abuse.
    Being told you are sinful and going to hell.
    I experienced all of the above mentioned.

    • @marblejarchannel
      @marblejarchannel  2 роки тому

      Good luck to you in your journey. 💜

    • @andrewmiller6272
      @andrewmiller6272 2 роки тому +1

      @@marblejarchannel thank you. I do my best at not takings things personally. And be impeccable with my word. Which means to use the word in the direction of truth and love. That when a person has learned to do their best at being impeccable with their word. They than have the mindstate of heaven. I have learned how to be readily accessible to joy and love. All these things I have mentioned teach a person how to be their authentic self. The authentic self is a being of love and Joy.

  • @HenryCasillas
    @HenryCasillas 6 місяців тому

    🌻

  • @jts841
    @jts841 2 роки тому

    Great video. And you are beautiful as well 🙏🏻

  • @leccion5282
    @leccion5282 2 роки тому

    Always, the bloody dutch

  • @wildlightarts
    @wildlightarts 2 роки тому +3

    I thought it was an interesting book. Definitely too heteronormative and cis gendered, for me personally. While I found some of the medical data/information interesting, the anecdotal evidence and sociology at the roots feels pretty outdated to me. Did anyone else think this?

    • @emilyrivard6616
      @emilyrivard6616 2 роки тому +1

      Do you remember what might’ve made the book seem that way to you? I’m only 150 pages in and so far I’ve felt like it’s done a good job

    • @emilyrivard6616
      @emilyrivard6616 2 роки тому

      I just want to be able to analyze the book better

  • @1NFORTHEKILL
    @1NFORTHEKILL Рік тому

    Is this worth reading the whole thing