How To Control Your Emotions & Become Mentally Strong - Dr K HealthyGamer (4K)
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- Опубліковано 6 чер 2024
- Dr K is a psychiatrist, Harvard Medical School instructor, co-founder of Healthy GamerGG, Twitch streamer and a UA-camr.
Humans face a predicament that has never been seen before, a massive overload of stimulation. The effect of constant exposure to social media, video games, and porn is not good, but thankfully Dr K has developed a ton of powerful ways to finally take back control of your attention.
Expect to learn what social media is doing to our brains, how much we can attribute the mental health crisis to screens, why anxiety and depression are so prevalent, how to let emotions into your life more, why therapy so often sucks for men, why high profile UA-camrs are quitting, how to separate your self-worth from your accomplishments and much more...
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00:00 What is Technology Doing To Our Brains?
07:28 How to Deal With Shame
14:56 The Terrifying Survival Feature of Trauma
18:40 Why Anxiety is So Prevalent Today
27:27 How to Deal Better With Emotions
33:40 Opening Up About Your Feelings
37:38 Can You Have Too Much Self-Awareness?
45:28 The Antidote to a Distracted Mind
50:57 Learning About Your Own Thoughts
55:28 How to Do Well in Therapy
1:02:41 Why Therapy Sucks for Men
1:15:42 How Important is Talking for Men?
1:20:32 A Better Movement for Masculinity
1:25:56 Why UA-camrs Are Quitting
1:41:31 Stop Moving the Goalposts
1:54:54 What Does it Mean to Dissolve Ego?
2:05:38 Where to Find Dr K
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Here's the timestamps:
00:00 What is Technology Doing To Our Brains?
07:28 How to Deal With Shame
14:56 The Terrifying Survival Feature of Trauma
18:40 Why Anxiety is So Prevalent Today
27:27 How to Deal Better With Emotions
33:40 Opening Up About Your Feelings
37:38 Can You Have Too Much Self-Awareness?
45:28 The Antidote to a Distracted Mind
50:57 Learning About Your Own Thoughts
55:28 How to Do Well in Therapy
1:02:41 Why Therapy Sucks for Men
1:15:42 How Important is Talking for Men?
1:20:32 A Better Movement for Masculinity
1:25:56 Why UA-camrs Are Quitting
1:41:31 Stop Moving the Goalposts
1:54:54 What Does it Mean to Dissolve Ego?
2:05:38 Where to Find Dr K
Could you interview Abigail Shrier about her new book "Bad Therapy" Love the podcast, thanks!
11:00 You are stating completely that emotions are not valid. That is a dangerous and wrong statement. How does someone know LOVE if they ignore their emotions? It's not about turning off emotions. It's not about devaluing emotions. It's about learning with your emotions, and each person is different and so is their spectrum of emotions and you will never be able to write a book that "fixes" everyone's problems for them, nor will you ever be able to make a prescription medicine to "fix" their problems.
I wish psychiatrists would understand this more. You're all looking creepy when you're trying to teach people to basically be mentally UNHEALTHY.
should have Buyng Chul han, his book "Tired society" it's just mindblowing on the efect of technology. This is not an era of viral diseases but Neurological ones, he says.
The idea is not to kick someone when they are down. Benzos are fucked up and Jordan should have massive amounts of empathy for addicts because their struggles mirror his but he doesn't. He still exists in his shame bound persona. He is shameless because he is shameful. He needs to feel his shame in order to recognize his ego/false persona. Call it a moral grey area but humanity needs to awaken to its shame in a big way so they can be human. Where does war come from?
@@HalfJapMarineare you implying and/or making the assertion that war comes as a result of (unrecognized / disowned) shame? Might be a gross simplification of multiple overlapping reasons as some are largely rooted in money and resources or control of ideology but yes if it’s ultimately a fragile ego state that’s running the show and captaining the ship, so to speak, then yes, I guess you can say that it’s ones shame that drives us to act out and/or kill / conquer. For some, there’s also a motivator for a “will to power” as Adlers psychology talks about. Whereas Freuds philosophy was a will to pleasure. And viktor frankls was a will to meaning. And they’re all right in their own way.
Thank you for having us and for the incredible conversation 💚 Truly unforgettable!
absolutely love you guys, so glad we get a second episode
This was an amazing podcast!
We need more pls.❤
Is he speaking to the slave mind when he says that you should not find pleasure in using technology but use it as tools for work? Who is usualy lacking labour force? The ones that don't want to do the labour😂 I'm so sad that you feel disrespected that we treat the tools that you design for more work as toys 😂
I literally just watched this just to make sure that im doing 'it' properly, and im really glad it's confirmed. Thanks man
Dr. K is the best thing to come to UA-cam in the last 10 years. So much free education. Thanks Doc!!!
Agreed, he rocks
came to comment that but you already did.
He's the Yogananda of our century
Advising kids to take pills?
I'm not sure about that
@@simonebenitozzi2892 When did he do that? Please give one concrete example. I challenge you to find one.
modern wisdom is playing chess while other podcast productions are playing checkers. I appericate how much Chris cares about the viewers experience.
Checkers is pretty fun too ngl
@@AlmightyScorchyno, that’s just an escape from the true game of life, which is chess. If you’re not scheming on how to win from every angle at every moment can you say you’re really striving to evolve into a mega Chad like me? (All sarcasm) pls can we all just enjoy what we enjoy and not stand on watching videos like these as some kind of superior experience
Mind of a CEO podcast also plays chess, both great podcasts!
then youre watching the wrong podcasters , alex o'connor , CosmicSkeptic is his channel is a good recommendation , diary of a ceo podcast , everyone knows huberman the man himself , tetragrammaton by rick rubin and startalk by neil degrasse tyson , all objectively great podcasts and interviewers with the best and most interesting guests
Is he speaking to the slave mind when he says that you should not find pleasure in using technology but use it as tools for work? Who is usualy lacking labour force? The ones that don't want to do the labour😂 I'm so sad that you feel disrespected that we treat the tools that you design for more work as toys 😂
Chris and Dr. K laughing at the Indian accent and about getting cancelled was the most wholesome moment I've seen on a podcast in a long time hahaha
Hahaha me too i laughed so hard
As a fellow ethnic Indian and a doctor, I promise you I found it equally if not even more hilarious
40:00
So good
breath through the cancellation had me dying . it was so perfect
This is the way. Was an honor hosting this production!
Congrats on having them! That’s awesome!
Amazing work. I am usually not a person who pays attention to the details, but it looked amazing even on Smartfon screen.
I watched behind the scenes video. Absolutely spectacular studio environment! The crew was also so admirable 🙂
I love the background, you guys are awesome!
Amazing production! Love the cinematic feel! 🎥
you know they speak the truth when listening becomes uncomfortable
I dunno man, Nazi recordings are pretty fricking uncomfortable:-D
@@skadi6750 nay it just sounds stupid
@@skadi6750the nazis arent truthful though? What are you trying to insinuate?
@@skadi6750apples and oranges. There's a difference between feeling embarrassment for your own behavior being called out, and feeling disgust and hatred for evil rhetoric.
@@shlosher we shouldn't support mass factory farms because animals are getting tortured
“No no .. don’t feel the cancellations just breeaaath” Dr k always makes me ball out laughing man 😂
It was amazing and hilarious 😂
Don’t fear*
As an Indian I feel proud and sad at the same time , why sad ?
Because our heritage has so much practical knowledge and despite of that our education system is so colonised that we don't even hear of these things let alone studing about then
And obviously i feel proud they my country has such rich heritage to solve modern issues.
This is one of the best content pieces I have seen on UA-cam .
I scrolled through the comment section for such a comment. Thank you for sharing! Even though I’m from Europe, I felt the same mixed feelings you are describing. So much conscious living has been lost due to the ego revolution in the west.
As an Indian, I want to say it is not just Indian culture that is being eroded(Frankly speaking Hindutva has helped retain some culture in India).
But it is traditionalism throughout the world that is in decline. Be it Europe, US, even the middle East and of course ASEAN and East Asia.
Nietzsche was right.
I think it's best to feel proud because there's someone now teaching about it, we can learn as well and apply to our lives and help out others as much we can
'' Whatever you want to cultivate within you, keep within yourself '' Dr. K, Amazing !
If there was only one takeaway, this is the one
I frankly dont get it. So like, dont share? Dont talk about yourself or what you want to do? I feel like this is casting too broad of a net.
Talking about doing something can sometimes feel like you've actually done it, but to truly cultivate that sense of accomplishment, just take action!
@@Ven-zg3fj here
@@Ven-zg3fj That's what he says the research is saying. I find it difficult to imagine in practice, although I have indeed experienced the losing sight of a goal from talking about it
Dr. K's insights on the impact of technology on our brains are spot on. A lesser-known tactic to combat the negative effects is to schedule "tech-free zones" in your day, where you intentionally avoid screens and stimulate your mind with activities like reading or engaging in face-to-face conversations. This can significantly improve focus and mental well-being.
We did no tech Sunday for the whole family yesterday. It was tough but good for everyone. Going to continue it. I think it helps to figure out when you default to tech/screens and why.
It got so bad for my husband that he started watching Ring videos bc he so needed to watch TV/youtube at night to wind down lol.
Is he speaking to the slave mind when he says that you should not find pleasure in using technology but use it as tools for work? Who is usualy lacking labour force? The ones that don't want to do the labour😂 I'm so sad that you feel disrespected that we treat the tools that you design for more work as toys 😂
@@francestaylor9156 That sounds so good
@@renelovemetalYour comment is poorly written
This has been a great eye opener of a podcast. My wife passed away at the height of the pandemic and seeking any help was really difficult. We were both 32 at the time and I had never really experienced loss or trauma before. I tried grief shares, therapy, and in the end the only thing that seemed to help was exercise. Grief is a very difficult reality. I wish I understood just how much It pulls mental, emotional, and physical resources from you. The term “Grief Brain” is a very real side effect. The tiredness you experience from the emotional rollercoaster. The constant effort to be present and not miles away in grief laden thoughts. The immediate burnout that sets in from the whirlwind of life events just experienced. Just hearing or reading this small paragraph would of helped me SO MUCH in understanding the monster that grief really is and the fallout it creates. I know men don't like to share or open up, trust me, as a young widower, its really really difficult to find anyone to relate too. If your going through something, people do care, your not alone, and love is really the only way out of your circumstances. Love for yourself, gratitude, and patience. Great work Chris and Healthy Gamer!
I think his trauma guide would be an amazing resource once it’s out!!
Hugs dude!
Wow I'm so sorry. Wish I could help ease your pain
Sorry for your loss young man
Sorry for your lost dude
I’m so glad I deleted social media after high school, can’t even imagine how stuck some people are. Life so much simpler when you just live life and just do your best with what you got. No one can take that away from you
Real question: what do you do for your news? I won’t watch any MSM because they all have agendas and put crazy spin on everything, I just want facts. I have found independent journalists in the past that were decent sources for the most part, but it requires staying connected to social media and I really want to break away completely.
Exactly
I'm right there with you brother
UA-cam is social media, look at us right now, being social, together online.. lol just FYI
This has actually been the most impactful episode I've seen.
"Just because you don't feel it doesn't mean it doesn't exist"
Dr K incredibly based
That's what he said
Sorry
the sun shines in the morning, the sky is blue, rain is wet, Dr.K is based
why doesnt he give his full real name? his supposed credentials are unverifiable.
@@cwg9238 Google is SO HARD
@@cwg9238 lol what? He's simply searchable by this name. Real name is Alok Kanojia, if that helps you, and his UA-cam channel is @HealthyGamerGG, with the official licensed doctor thang under every video
"Now I am dissolved Ego, the Taker of Shits."
In all seriousness, it pleases both heart and mind to see two Chads of improvement and aiming upward, join together to have a sublime conversation.
Looking forward to more collaboration and overlap in the future.
Ignoring your emotions leads to chronic illness. I'm digging myself out of that right now.
You got this
There's basically no good evidence to suggest that. In fact, I think the longest running study on happiness suggests the opposite. That a degree of emotional suppression is actually helpful.
@@myself2noone I'm not going to get into my personal stuff, but I know it's true. I'm in a program specifically for fixing it and I've recovered 90%. I'm not talking about ignoring my emotions a little bit. I'm talking about half my life.
@@dmarie2231No, you don't. But whatever story you need to tell yourself, go for it.
Just 10 minutes in and I had to pause the video to say this: Chris, this is a WORLD-CLASS production. Thank you for continually investing in mastering your craft. Your viewers appreciate it far beyond words can explain
Litterally, just today, I had a conversation about children being taught meditation. As a 53 yr old with A.d.h.d. that has never had a quiet moment of thought. Both breathwork and meditation are giving me some peace .
The sad part of a lot of keeping yourself healthy is free, and we have a healthcare system meant to keep you sick for profit..
I've told so many people about the show.. Thx Chris .
40:00 ABSOLUTE GOLD. Dr. K is both serious AND knows when to be comedic
Dr K and Chris Williamson and next world cinematography is certified gold
Such a good episode! That part about hypotheticals activating negative emotions but not the dopaminergic system…🤯
This is one of the best mental health podcast I’ve ever listened to. Gonna have to listen again and again because there’s just so much gold I need to let sink in and apply
Love that the "slow down on the screens" guy is on the first episode with a giant screen as the background. 💪
Lol, but in seriousness I think it’s more about what’s on the screens 🧐
Love the BTS of the screen and the room and everything! And love Dr. K back on!! Amazing work, Chris. Amazing.
BTS?
@@shoutatthesky Behind the scenes
Bro i normally watch or listen to your podcast on my phone, but for this i literally went and open my laptop and put headphones on just to appreciate your hard work Keep it up brother!!!!!!!!!!
I was listening to this at work, but I want to relisten to take notes. This was a good discussion/interview.
I really needed to hear this. I went back to using Twitter in 2020 when the UK 🇬🇧 was in lockdown. It self-soothed me as I was also caring for my Mother who had Alzheimers. I realised I was getting addicted to my phone by 2021. It wasn't until Jan 2022 when I deleted my Twitter account, a month after my mother had died. I only watch certain UA-cam channels nowadays that I consider informative like Chris's channel, Jordan Peterson and some Christian channels. You guys are great. Thank you.
I know you know this, but aren't missing anything, I was on Twitter yesterday and it's so depressing, people complaining, nothing's changed. You're so much better off. I need to find the courage to delete it.
Is he speaking to the slave mind when he says that you should not find pleasure in using technology but use it as tools for work? Who is usualy lacking labour force? The ones that don't want to do the labour😂 I'm so sad that you feel disrespected that we treat the tools that you design for more work as toys 😂
@@renelovemetalGet help asap, copy pasting the same non-sense everywhere .
@@GorzFCD ASAP 😂
Shut off my emotions for years as a coping mechanism, and honestly it makes life so much worse later on. Early on its so useful and amazing, no more emotional pain? No more sadness? Sign me up!
Problem is eventually they come back, and its not like flipping a switch on; its like the emotional Dam you built exploded and had a catastrophic failure. As a result the city of "good" emotions and things you enjoy or dont feel bothered by gets destroyed. Suddenly youre an adult now and the lack of shame and guilt has led you to a place where its very hard to get out, and now you ARE feeling the shame and guilt and things that make you feel that way are all around you.
YES! I could listen to you talk to Dr K for weeks. Please have him on as many times as you can think of questions to ask him. This is wonderful.
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This is like if the Joe Rogan show was good
💀💀💀
yeah chris is like +2 sigma over joe. love joe tho
@@ZachMeadorcan you translate that in English?
@@TyroneBiggums789 feed it into chatgpt
Would love to listen to dr. K on joe rogan preferably on a good day for joe sometimes his podcasts are realy inconsistent. :/
Dissolving the ego is a herculean task. Start with knowing that the ego is your tether to this world/reality. You need it in order to continue existing. It is a symbiotic relationship that sometimes gets out of balance af.
I've loved Dr. K for years and this is one of the best podcasts I can remember. Keep killing it Chris, Modern Wisdom is truly becoming one of the premiere podcasts on Earth.
So happy you had Dr. K on. He is not only amazingly insightful and smart, but one can tell he has thought deeply about these subjects. I love how he brings ancient wisdom in. One of your best guests ever!
What a great episode! As someone who has had my first therapy session being a couples therapy session, with a female therapist, I can call myself lucky that she was extremely empathetic about how both my wife and I would be communicating and always making sure our points were mutually understood without giving any sort of judgement. What I especially liked was her ability to "translate" what we said and how we said it into what the other person needed to hear or even see. But to Dr K's point, we had spoken to 2 other couples therapists before that we had to pass on as it just didn't feel right. I only wish we had done it sooner (we are all good, but as Dr. K said, I was first against it as I thought we could handle it without the help of a therapist)... Fascinating stuff and I can only encourage more people to go into couples therapy!
Glad you got Dr K on. Dude's doing important work. Really insightful.
Yesterday I was at the store and I got sad and pissed all in one because some POS put a rotisserie chicken on a regular shelf, letting it go bad. It upset me that a whole chicken was killed and some turd thought it ok to just waste this good food. I took it to the front and then later was mad at myself that I didn't just buy it and feed it to my dogs. I realize my emotions are too much, because they linger, at the same time, I don't want to be so detached that I don't give a damn about consideration and human kindnesses and most importantly GRATEFULNESS. I definitely needed this episode 😅😅
Would be a good idea to not feed that to your dogs those rotisserie chickens have a bunch of salt and other added ingredients that aren't good for dogs.
If you do give your dogs chicken or meat it's best to cook it without any seasoning just trying to be helpful 👍
Conscientiousness is a blessing and a curse. You seem like a kind soul, hope you find a balance between caring enough to do something and being wise enough to know your own limitations
"It is never *THE ISSUE(the chicken)* that is your issue, *YOUR ISSUE(the anger)* is how you react and respond to the issue." - A course in Miracles
Your issue is your anger, case in point; your usage of words like "some POS" , "some turd", "mad at myself" in the present tense illustrate that the anger is still with you and l bet it always has been before the chicken issue. I believe it was Jung who said our subconscious mind holds all our unresolved baggage which it tries to bring into our conscious mind to be resolved; and that one way it does this is through conflict (internal & external). The chicken scenario could very well be the conflict your subconscious self used to bring your anger issues to the surface of your conscious mind so that you could address them with a smaller conflict before/instead of a bigger conflict.
Objectively nothing really gets wasted in this world because energy is never lost, it merely changes form. Thus, the chicken wasn't objectively a waste of "good food" because as biological organisms decompose, they become "good food" to other organisms and useful manure to the earth... When you look at the idea of "waste" in this way, you begin to see that your anger wasn't even rational in the grand scheme of reality/nature. If you address & resolve the internal anger directly, external situations won't trigger what is not there(in you). If you don't address it, it will colour ALL your experiences, big and small... Food for thought
@@andreaspapakanellou3804 Bare in mind that conscientiousness could very well be a dressed up form of Control. The human ego often dresses up its need for/coping mechanism of control in positive & palatable terminology... What's the litmus test for this? It's fear, for wherever the ego seeks to control, there is always fear (which can manifest/be expressed in the form of anger).
@@MylezNevisonsheesh,so how do you directly face those emotions, those problems?. Do you go in a room, try to remember , what exactly do you do?
Two of my favorite UA-camrs collaborating! Looking forward to watching/listening.
Thanks to both y'all for doing what you do.
Never before have I felt so seen while at the same time given the knowledge and tools to free myself. Thank you for this infinitely valuable episode
Dr K is a brilliant person ! So loved that he recognized your brilliance as well, Chris ! I will listen to this again. The amount of information was huge ! Thankyou
I've listened to hundreds of podcasts rarely do I smile as big as I was when Dr. K kept going with the accent. Loved so much in this, thank you both.
Could have effortlessly listened to another 2 hours. Great conversations and questions. Thanks for having on one of my favorite people!
This is gold. Thank you both for such a wonderful, insightful conversation.
This episode was wild. Properly one of the best ever, the ego death part that hit hard.
Thank you so much, Chris and Doctor K! The part about moving goalposts and dissolving the ego was very helpful, really appreciate this...!
Dr K absolutely has one of the best perspectives & approaches when it comes to mental health & habits. He’s one of the best!
This might be my favorite episode you’ve ever done. And not because of the dope screen. Great conversation dude, thank you.
What an outstanding podcast. Every time I see Dr.K I learn so much about myself and I'm provided with new tools to better my life. Chris, thank you for being an excellent speaker and interviewer. Your conversational skills and honesty during the podcast makes it that much better.
The production quality on this is incredible. The aspect ratio on my phone, the lighting, the LED wall. Stunning. Not to mention one of my favourite educators Dr. K. Great episode guys!
Two of my favorite intellectual influencers sitting down and dropping wisdom. What a treat.
Wow this is the best podcast I have ever watched about Psychology, Mental health and technology. Absolute master piece. Please do more collabs in the future like these!
Yes! Was waiting for this one!
Two of my favourite role models having a conversation. Thank you for making this happen!
The production value on this podcast is on another level. Love the background visuals, lighting, audio quality and obviously the content itself - all AAA+ stuff. Keep it up, Chris!
This was a great podcast. I know we’re not all doctors, but one time I read a Reddit post about a doctors being asked about how he handles the death of patients and he said “there are people who will live no matter what and there are people who will die no matter what and there’s nothing you can do to change that” so it was nice to see Dr. K break that downs in a way that we all can apply that to ourselves.
“All you can do is action, you cannot achieve any result”
That comes from the bhagavad gita -
“You have the right to work only but never to its fruits. Let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction.”
easily the best conversation this podcast’s ever seen. Dr K is a Planetary Treasure. Great chemistry between the two aswell.
This was by far the best interview you’ve done, Chris. Thank you so much for this. 🙏
Dr. K and the Platform of Chris ist just the perfekt match . the high lvl of his knowlege matches perfectly with chris high lvl of leading an conversation and asking the right stuff.. completing the thoughts.
Thanks both, probably one of the best Podcasts I’ve ever watched.
I love how CW talks about the blend of “East” and “Western” philosophies on the matter, since Dr K can resonate with both it’s a great position to be able to share from.
Thank you, I've been struggling with some things. Finding your podcasts has really been helping me to focus on something productive and get out of a rough spot mentally. I appreciate you.
My Favorite podcaster meets favorite therapist! Cant wait to watch this 10 times!
Straight into the deep end with this episode. Loved the "No intro".
Absolutely stunning production! Great work, Chris. Love the connection you have with the people you bring on and the care you have for the audience. 👍
This was one of the best podcasts ever! The cross over between these two. Love it! So many important and timely topics teased and discussed. Lots of wisdom nuggets. Will have to relisten for sure.
One of the best podcasts I've ever watched! Very helpfull to understand our mind! Thanks!
Bravo, what a great conversation and so needed in this day & age . Thank you Chris Williamson for bringing this guest. 🇫🇷🇺🇸
On the Accomplishments part I think Captain Picard said it best: "It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life"
Ultimate dream job: traveling on-set production team member for this podcast. Piterally hands-on development of the best podcast going while getting all the best info from the brightest minds straight from their mouths.
Thanks for the guidance Dr. K
Very Respectfully,
- Jon
one of the most informative and most valuable conversations to be had in the modern era. Already this is in my top 5 podcasts of 2024, possibly 2020's in general as everything is so spot on, on the current human condition especially when it relates to attention. Hopefully more and more people realize what's going on around us by looking up from their phone and choosing courage over running away from their problems. I'm currently trying to do my part in all of this by creating videos that helps young adults navigate this same thing. Thank you Dr.K and thank you Chris, odd are that y'all wont see this comment, but it cannot be state enough how important this conversation is and how important it will be in the coming years.
This one has become my favorite podcast of all time , listened twice today. Thank you Chris and Dr. K .
This was revolutionary for me
Are we entering an era where podcasts will be watched and enjoyed in cinemas ? The highest tier of quality conversations.🎉
Congratulations on the success of your hard work!
40:05 I love Doktor K makes Chris laughing using his Indian accent 😂
This might be my favorite podcast episode I’ve seen in all podcasts. Such a beautiful conversation
I love dr k so much thank you. I've had a social worker/ therapist since i was 13 because of my moms mental health. Everything you say is absolutely correct
I have a challenge for everyone reading this: Try a kind of trataka but the thing you are staring at is your turned of phone lying before you and hold it as long as you can. Watch your impulses go wild. (At least for me it was pretty crazy)
Taking podcasts to a level I didn't even know they could go - this is fantastic
Thanks, Chris for this profound episode. I am grateful for Dr. K sharing his wisdom and compassion with us. The less I focus on how other people perceive me and the more I focus on acting with integrity, doing the best I can and let the rest take care of itself, I feel free and content.
Honest thanks for both of your work! You're doing it truly obviously soulfully, thus in the highest quality and you help us so much!
the part about men being socialized to not be very “emotional” (except for anger) is so true. i assume that is because anger is seen as an emotion that portrays (on a surface level) strength, power, and aggressiveness, unlike the “female” emotions that many of us associate with vulnerability, weakness, and dependence. this made me realize that perhaps a lot of men turn their sadness, shame, insecurity, etc. into anger since it’s the only emotion that has been accepted and expected for men to express for so long. the other emotions get suppressed, but they have to be released somehow, so they’re released as anger.
100%. The part on the red pill stuff was so spot on. To me it's men with serious, unresolved trauma. Men need to be told it's okay to feel things and process them.
We can also let I out as aggression in a healthy way such as exercise.
“The biggest ego trip is getting rid of your ego”
-Alan Watts
Great conversation.
Bravo.
I could listen to Dr K talking for hours non-stop. So inspirable. Love the content Chris
Such an inspiring conversation. Thanks for going there, Chris. It's a rare thing to observe, and Dr K is such a font of wisdom 💙
I understand why we're studying the effects of social media on children and teens directly, but more needs to be said about the effects of having parents who are addicted to these apps and online "clout".
For the first time, we'll have a cohort of new adults (turning 18) who will have had their very first moments on earth documented in a Facebook status update (and almost every significant moment thereafter). Imagine how different that person's relationship with social media, the internet and the notion of privacy is compared to an 80/90s kids like the majority of this audience.
Started listening to this one on Spotify and look forward to finishing in this cool studio jungle setting.
This is amazingly timely for me; I had a bad interaction, where I was at a pub, trying to talk to a group of new people who were talking to my friends who had just left. They weren’t clear at first, but eventually after buying a drink and trying to stay with them to make new friends, one of them told me to leave them alone. It sounds kinda dumb spelling it out, but it definitely hurt me. Putting myself into a hypothetical the way that Dr K describes makes me evaluate the emotions that I am feeling. Thank you.
This is one of my favorite podcasts because of critical conversations like this.
The quality of the picture in this is better than seemingly most movies we watch these days. Koodos for the incredible first ever movie/podcast release. This is phenomenal!!
Is this the first? I've seen similar on another podcast at least two years ago.
Kinda wish this was 4 hours...
Thank you for this nuanced and thoughtful interview. We need more people to think at this level, who have these platforms.
Love Dr. K, I've been hoping for this collab for a long time! Certainly exceeds my expectations!
It takes more than just genius to revolutionize the world; it takes a trait that only leaders possess to bring something new to life. I'm telling you with certainty that the entire podcast space will tap into this in the nearest future, all thanks to you for this contribution.
See you soon my future friend.
Fellow 21:9 aspect ratio enjoyers, please press the like button to show Chris his efforts into providing an A+ viewing experience aren't going unnoticed.
This episode is brilliant, this one of the best specific knowledge I've gained so far
one of THE best podcast episodes i've ever watched. the world needs this. please keep making amazing content.
I listened once but I need to hear this again. It had way too many gems for my brain to handle the first time around. Thank you both!
Haha omg I had to laugh out loud so hard : "I will teach you practice" 🤣🤣🤣 amazing episode overal! So many great Insights, whilst also having a good laugh here and there
Chris, your killing it. What a podcast. I remember starting a podcast at the same time as you and seeing you with like few thousand view. You continued , I didn’t, and now look where you are… I’ve taken this with me into my business now, and I’ll never stop, I’ll never quit, because I know I never tapped into my potential because I stopped. That’s changed my life, and I’m always routing for you and what you represent to me. Wishing you continued growth and abundance mate, and I’ll see you at the top.
Insane production and fire convo. Thank you for what you’re doing Chris 🙏🏼
Well done Chris! the production in this video is insane :O
13:40 trauma fix 14:30 schema automatic thoughts, narcissistic ego defensive mechanisms, influence behavior
17:05 Reality vs survival
1:14:15 Shame towards your wins > turning them into losses = drinking poison towards your life
1:47:10 Comparisons are a fallacy, The Wonder of U
1:49:08 Self worth vs Accomplishment: Judge yourself by your actions, not your outcomes
1:56:00 A judgement by someone elses mind is not reality
A judgement by your own mind is not reality
Thoughts are not reality
1:57:00
How people treat you is not what you are, it's how people treat you.
What and who you are is separate from how people treat you. Two different things..trauma needs to understand this...conclusion
1:57:40
Whatever comparison or thoughts or negative ego you endure, dissolve it by acknowledging that we all take shits
1:59:00 ,The nature of pleasure vs accomplishment and ego damage from attaching oneself to outcomes rather than actions is one of the main paths of pain in life
2:01:00 Dr K goes full David Goggins. Once your ego is dissolved, acknowledge what you could have done better, and the next day go get after it