The second guy is not an A hole He is just lost because its a hard decision But i feel like he should tell them For the reasons you mentioned in the video
Pfttt, if being a asshole was a crime I’d still be in fbi custody for 25 accounts of vehicular manslaughter, 61 accounts of first degree murder, and 18 _reported_ arson accounts
I relate a lot to the first one, in my country (Chile) is really common to have a nannie or 2, and as someone who grew up with nannies I can tell you that they don’t do their job for only money, they do it because they care about the people in the house, and if a nannie doesn’t care about the people that she/he works with I can guarantee you that they will not last long in the job. In my opinion the boyfriend is indeed the asshole, I mean my parents are alive and I saw them every day and still I felt a kind of mother son relationship with lots of my nannies and I can’t imagine how strong that bond would feel if she/they were the only mother figure in her life, if I was her I would leave that guy or at least be super angry at him, he literally said “your mom only loved you because she was obligated to” or something like that.
I mean it's like teachers or babysitters. Yeah they're payed; but they still bond and care about the kids. If they didn't they would just be professors and maids.
@@FroyourHistory yeah, but there is a small difference, that is that the nannies work with only single family and not a whole classroom or more than one, but yeah something like that but with more bonding
i grew up in a similar environment. i used to have a nanny who took care of me and my brother for 9 years since i was 3. obviously they get paid but tbh sometimes i think they do more than what theyre told, they treat us like their own child which i am very thankful for.
Jesus, I started bawling my eyes out when you read the line "I won't be there by Christmas." He should definitely tell them though so they all can spend as much quality time together so his passing is less harmful to them. If he continues on not telling them, something might happen where they don't get to say the things they want to say to him the most and that will be ten times worse for them.
to what you said, “just because they’re doing something doesn’t mean they’re doing it to get paid” is true, I am a full time serial killer/arsonist, and I’m not even getting paid and I do it!
For the second story, for once someone isn’t EXACTLY the a hole Just some guy who isn’t going about something correctly and regardless of him dying or not, calling him an a hole in this type of situation is a little harsh... Edit: never got this many likes lmao
Ikr sometimes I can agree with him but calling him an a hole is just plain stupid man, imagine how much pressure you would be under if your going to die he shouldn't even of covered it if this is how he's gonna act.
I mean he kinda is- Ik this because I’ve dealt with the loss of my mother without being told. I always knew she would die because she’s always had these mental issues and other health problems. Nonetheless, I still loved her and I still do. I didn’t expect her to die so early though. My sister barely remembers her since she was so young. I feel bad that my mother wasn’t there for her. It was very surprising when I was told since it was 4 days before my birthday and my mother was even planning my surprise party and presents. I was given the gift she got me. I was never told how she died and a funeral was never hosted for her. My parents were also divorced so my dad either way wouldn’t want to arrange or attend it and wouldn’t let us either. The dude is a major a-hole if he doesn’t tell his wife and child because the wife and child will undergo extreme hardship and pain.
@@artistically_pain3876 still just think about what's going through your mind when you are litterally dying of course he's wrong in the situation but obviously when your dying your not gonna know what to do, your not gonna think right when your life is about to come to an end in a small amount of time so you can't blame them for not being able to make the desicion.
I really think that the second man should tell his wife and daughter what’s gonna happen, that way they can be more emotionally prepared , it’s gonna suck either way, but it won’t be all at once. Also someone dying on you isn’t exactly a nice experience. And then there is the fact that dying nowadays is costly, unless you get cremated you will need a coffin, funeral service and a burying ground, which aren’t things you can get immediately. I remember having my grand aunt passing in the middle of the pandemic, and even with a prepaid funeral plan things were still hard to get.
@@duxhunt and that’s the hard part about all of this, he wants to protect them from hurting now, he doesn’t want them to feel worried and stressed over something they can’t do anything about, but still, it would hurt them even more if they found out when they can’t at least do something to enjoy what little time they have with him. Death always come with pain, sorrow, regret over the things that could have been but that now can’t, the feeling of loss over someone precious enough to carve a place inside your heart... it’s painful to only be able to say goodbye, to grieve over the idea that you could have share some more meaningful time with them... but again, we’re only humans trying to guard our hearts from the pain, and trying to do the same for our loved ones
@Kamryn Everett what can I say, the man speaks facts... I just added a few experiences I had with things like that, have a nice evening my fellow being of culture... and enjoy some chicken nuggets
The part where the guy doesn't wanna tell his family that he's dying reminds me of myself whenever I'm sad or in pain mentally I don't tell anyone because I don't want them to worry about me
Second dude should tell his wife, and then they both break it to their daughter, i appreciate that he is confused about what to do and I feel really bad for him
@@muffinlorde0n420 why is it necessary to tell her "the hard truth," which might not even be true? They were getting paid to watch her, that doesn't mean they didn't love her. He didn't know that, nor did he need to say that. He was being unnecessarily antagonistic.
I don’t think the second guy is an a hole because imagine having to confront your family about how your dying, that sounds like one of the hardest things to tell someone you love.
I get the guy who doesn't want to tell his wife and daughter. I'm the same way with most things and would probably do the same. I'd rather just die out of no where rather than spend all my last days with people pitying me and crying.
@@draconshot928 for me i have life insurance so that would cover it and I would put in my will not to have an expensive funeral[or have a funeral at all]. The only thing that would be worrisome or problematic is if they have great debt or the family can't survive on 1 income. I dont know their whole situation but for me personally, kicking the bucket wouldn't be a burden on anyone
The first guy annoyed his girlfriend for literally no reason, so he's 100% the asshole. The second one almost made me cry. I feel like he should tell them about this just to be prepared for when it does happen, because it'll probably be more heartbreaking if it just happens all of a sudden.
The title is already saying "no im not an asshole because i dont want my daughter crying for my death and i want her to be happy and just forget about me"
Second guy there is no A hole. He is just caught up in a moral dilemma where he should tell them, but he provided good points of why not too it’s just an extremely tough decision to make
So a few years ago my dad died suddenly while the rest of my family(other then my dad) was in Taiwan, visiting my mom’s family. We called him ever night, which would be morning back in California, but one day, he didn’t answer. My mom thought something was off, so we headed back to America the next morning. When we got back, I discovered the news, and my brother cried, by dad’s dad cried, and my mom cried. I was so shocked I didn’t know what to do, so I cried a little, got a little mad, and then tried to act normal. There was so much shock that I couldn’t think anything of it until about a month later at his funeral, where I burst into tears and couldn’t stop. It was horrible. The shock was gone and it hit all at once. The thing is I kinda guessed that he might go to the hospital before i left for Taiwan, because he was so stressed about designing what would be our new house, and doing his work, and helping my brother and I, and my toddler sister. He stopped eating much. He fell at the construction site for our house and had to get stitches in his head. He was on the computer working almost every second he was awake. It’s even more scary because he was like never like this for the 9 years I was alive before that, so it was very sudden and scary. I remember once, my mom had to call my dad’s best friend over, and he spent almost half and hour arguing with my dad, trying to convince him to eat something. After my dad’s funeral, I, who was never religious because I believed more in science then ancient stories, convinced myself that heaven was real. Then ghosts were real. They whenever I was alone I would talk aloud as if he could hear me. It’s been years since. I no longer remember his voice, or even his face some(very little) of the time. I’ve grown and come to terms with it after 3 years. Now, 6 years after he died, all I remember about him was that he was a handsome, hardworking, kind person. He is what I could consider an ideal human being, after all, he had an IQ of 146, which is super high. He was in decent shape, not fat or very muscle-y. I remember his favorite show now, it was regular show. I even remember the color of his favorite shoes, pajamas, and hat. To this day nobody knows the cause of death, all I know is that he was found dead when we came back. All I know is if we knew he had an unavoidable death coming, like the 2nd guy in this video, I wouldn’t have wanted to know ahead of time. Knowing ahead would’ve made me sad, depressed even, and I would do nothing but cry all day, knowing that he would never see me grow up, or even get to move to what would be our new home in a few years. I’m glad I didn’t know if nothing we could do would’ve saved him, because all that pain at once is better then it being spread out over a long time, plus it was so much for me that at first it was just confusion for me, not knowing how to feel, or what to think. Would you rather get shot and die instantly, or slowly bleed out with no way of stopping it. Personally, I’d prefer a quick, death, like this situation with my dad, api would’ve preferred a sharp, instant, pain, rather than a slow, insufferable one.
I actually have some experience with nannies and children (tldr at the bottom). I live in England in a normal middle class life but the family on my mum's side lives in a 3rd world country in Africa with quite a bit of wealth. The wealth was enough for the family to have a nanny work in the house. I went there for a trip with my at-the-time 4 year old brother and we stayed in the house for an ample amount of time. The nanny was really close with us and especially my 4 year old brother. When the nanny had finished all the work in the house or if she was on her break, she would offen spend some time with my brother on her own free will. They acted like they were family with eachother; playing games; watching movies; and just generally spending alot of time with eachother. When we were going back to England and we were saying our goodbyes, my brother hugged the nanny and she started to tear up. Even on the plane home, my brother said to me "I miss [the nanny]". The first person is an asshole imo as I know that kids can and do form bonds with their nannies as if they were family. Tldr; My 4 year old brother formed a deep connection to a nanny as if they were family. Person 1 is an asshole.
For the first one, i think even though the nannies we're doing their job for the money they might of gotten attached to the girl because when you spend time with someone it's hard not to get attached to that person
as someone who recently lost my mother to cancer, please please tell your family if you’re ever in that situation, we found out late that she wasn’t going to survive and it shocked all of us, if we had found out months earlier it would’ve hurt just as much, but at least it hadn’t been all at once.
Regarding the second one, it's very complicated, and everyone has to make that decision for themselves based on a lot of factors. I'm dying, and my ex-wife knows, but I haven't told my son (who lives with her). He knows I'm sick, but he doesn't know it's incurable. The big difference is that I am getting treatment, so I could have several years ahead of me. They're years that we can spend having good times together, and he can continue to do well in school without worrying about an upcoming loss. And hey, who knows, maybe there will be a miracle cure by then. But as for this guy, we don't know nearly enough about him and his circumstances to judge him.
Regarding the last story, it's indeed a difficult situation. As someone who lost his sister to cancer at the age of 16, the 3 and a half years of battle against cancer was for sure no easy ordeal, but if I had to choose between losing her in one or a few days or this 3,5 years of emotional (and sometimes physical) stress, just hoping for things to turn better til the end and beyond - i'd say we were lucky to have been able to spend more time together, even if the end was so sudden, we couldn't even say farewell (cancer probably reached her respiratory groups on the brainstem and she stopped breathing - just a few days after She got home from the hospital). It was traumatic, but not as traumatic as it could have been. However, I don't like to be seen as a victim, her condition made me choose to study pharmacy instead of chemistry, and now i'm an intern (don't know if that's the correct term) in a research group that is developing a new type of targeted cancer treatment for inoperable brain tumors just like the one my sister had. I like to think I was given retribution, exactly the way I wanted/imagined. For anyone that's reading this far - maybe because they can relate to what my family and i lived through - I wish you all the best, never give up, don't think that you can't change, be kind to people and try to find your place in this world.
As someone who lost my father to cancer i would say to tell the family for the reasons you provided, losing someone is hard but finding out they were struggling through pain as well might bring more hardships, its easy to prepare when you know its happening rather than taking the tidal wave all at once, and after the two tiny waves of the cancer reveal and the death its will be easier to move on the having the tidal wave come back and make you question why they hid struggling rather then coming out and saying it, it'll take a big weight off both the guy and his family if he comes out and says it. Sorry for the big rant, this felt like writing a essay lol :p
The second story hits a little too close to home. In 2019, my great grandfather was diagnosed with two types of leukemia. We eventually knew that he would die, but my parents (mother and great grandmother) tried to hide it to protect me. In this case, I don't think that the person was an A hole as he was trying to protect his family, but they need to know sooner or later without the situation of finding him gone one day with no explanation.
that second dude is not an A hole. He's just a guy who wants to protect his family but doesn't know how. I mean he has to tell his wife and child that he's going to die soon and that they can't do anything about it. He's a man who knows he's on a timer and can't do anything about it. That's a hard decision to place on anyone, let alone a father.
I agree that you should tell your loved ones if you're dying. They will want to know so that they can make memories and make the best of the time they have left with you. It hurts way more when it comes as a sudden shock and hits you all at once. There is pain and dread involved in the days leading up to your death but it is overcome the appreciation and happiness that you are at least there for the moment and that there is still time to tie any loose ends.
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The reasons he doesn’t want to tell them are solid, and if something important is coming up like seeing if your gonna be accepted to a collage or whatever was coming up, I’d hold off until that was over and then tell them tbh
Knowing you WILL die before living your entire life and seeing your daughter grow up is an experience probably none of us have experienced and hopefully no one will have to and it doesn’t make him the a hole the feelings he must feel are indescribable but he should still tell his family like you said it gives them time to cope with it before the inevitable and also allows you to spend every last second with those you love
the second one is the same as my grandpa, he had a tumor on his head for i dunno sometime? anyways he didn't say to us and one day we found it, my mother cried for weeks then she went in albania to prevent if he is okay or not, he did a surgery on turkey because he felt bad but after the surgen he felt better. we are doing our best to cure him, even if i with my family live in another state we are trying to support him and the family beacuse this was a really thought situation even for us in italy (im albanian btw and my grands live in albania with my mother's family).
He should tell them about him dying, I've been there but as the daughter. It's really painful and I wished to spend more time with him instead of focusing on school. At the end, they will both get hurt, but please choose the option that is the least painful, let them receive the outcome well before they dwell with regrets. You matter more than what we're doing.
for the second story, i m not gonna lie i have mixed opinions On one hand: If I were the dad I would not want to tell my daughter, who btw is working very hard to get into a top tier uni, that i have cancer, this can cause shock and make her more demotivated from what she is doing currently, alternatively this can add even more pressure on her as she might believe that this is the last thing she can do for her father and work way too hard and burdern herself. Same applies for the mother On the other hand: As pegasus said, If I belong to this family I want to know that my dad has brain cancer so that I can spend quality time with him and to cherish these last moments.
the second guy i wouldn’t say is an a hole because his intentions aren’t bad and he just doesn’t want to hurt them but it is a huge mistake he’s making and should definitely rethink his decision about not telling his daughter and wife
The second is obviously not an A hole, and I hope for you and humanity that you don’t think that. Learning that you’re gonna die must be an absolute horrible experience, and you’d have a lot of things to figure out. You should definitely tell your family what situation you’re in, so it won’t hit them double as hard when you do die. But don’t judge a dying person for being confused.
I feel genuinely bad for the second guy. He's just afraid of making his loved ones upset, I would say for him to tell them but comfort them as you're done talking. I hope that person well, god bless them
If i was the second guy i would definitely not tell them. I don't wanna get treated differently and i still wanna see them going on with their normal lives and i don't wanna prolong their pain. I'd prolly tell them when i only have a week left
I thought I was going to die, and so were my parents and even the doctors. I thought it was an actual miracle and I I was so relieved. I did tell the rest of my family about it and it was a really tough time for all of us, and I'm so glad I got through it
Personally i think that the guy that's dying is just between a-hole and not a-hole, his heart is definitely in the right place but he might have wanted to think it through a bit better.
Bruh I had nannies and they djd care about me. Nannies do care about you and mine was like a mother to me since my biological mother didn't have much time for me
when my dad came back from the doctors and said he had cancer, a lot changed. Fights that are huge at the moment and petty things that happen on your day to day life with that person, once you know that they are dying, everything changes. You want to tell them things you wouldn't normally but that should be known :/ so yeah that dad will hurt them a lot more long term if he doesn't tell
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@@moonlightcrew7145 you can tell its a lung disease with the beginning of pneu. the rest is just scientists pretending to be big IQ by adding very much unnecessary letters
The second man I feel isn't the A-hole. I mean it seems like he loves them so much and if I were in his shoes, it also would've been hard for me as well. Should he tell them? Yes. Is it difficult? Yes. I mean imagine having to tell your favourite people "I'm dying and you can't do anything about it." Good luck to the family in the future.
Ha ha I remember when I got depression my parents told me to pray...... I don’t tell them how I feel now- I am Bi Sexual and I will tell them in the next 3 year because I am scared-
that seems real bad just please remember to push through and that there are multiple support groups for LGBT ppl in poor situations and that there's ppl that will help you. (sorry if this is badly worded)
The second one is scary and tragic as fuck. Imagine knowing that you will die in less then a year and all of your family members thinking you’re ok and not knowing your gonna die soon.
imo, in the second story nobody is an a-hole there for one reason: it's not that easy of a decision to tell someone if they're dying or not, but I do think that OP should tell his wife and his daughter as soon as possible
The second guy is not an A hole
He is just lost because its a hard decision
But i feel like he should tell them
For the reasons you mentioned in the video
Yea he’s not an a hole for not knowing how to deal with a situation like that
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why did you say it like that...
I have been charged with 6 counts of 1st degree murder, and 2 counts of arson. But these people were breathing very closely to my car.
*AITA*
*No you’re not the the a-hole*
Your not the a hole very ez answer
Pfttt, if being a asshole was a crime I’d still be in fbi custody for 25 accounts of vehicular manslaughter, 61 accounts of first degree murder, and 18 _reported_ arson accounts
No you’re not an a-hole, but...
*Yes officer, this comment right here.*
@@Rekter lol put this man on a watch list
“Should I subscribe to Pegasus”
This is an example of an *easy decision.*
Very agree much.
Finally a decision my brain doesn't have a seizure to.
no
Facts...
*obviously the answer is no (I’m joking)-*
It was easy for me
man really got confused when his girlfriend visits her moms grave on mother’s day...
Exactly like wtf is there to be confused about????
Wait? You visit your mother’s grave? That’s kinda cringe.
That's only because she said "the unusual thing" which of course he wanted explanation.
Unsual probably since most young people's mothers are alive, that is my guess
@@bulbamastera8644 its a joke
I relate a lot to the first one, in my country (Chile) is really common to have a nannie or 2, and as someone who grew up with nannies I can tell you that they don’t do their job for only money, they do it because they care about the people in the house, and if a nannie doesn’t care about the people that she/he works with I can guarantee you that they will not last long in the job. In my opinion the boyfriend is indeed the asshole, I mean my parents are alive and I saw them every day and still I felt a kind of mother son relationship with lots of my nannies and I can’t imagine how strong that bond would feel if she/they were the only mother figure in her life, if I was her I would leave that guy or at least be super angry at him, he literally said “your mom only loved you because she was obligated to” or something like that.
I mean it's like teachers or babysitters. Yeah they're payed; but they still bond and care about the kids. If they didn't they would just be professors and maids.
@@FroyourHistory yeah, but there is a small difference, that is that the nannies work with only single family and not a whole classroom or more than one, but yeah something like that but with more bonding
i grew up in a similar environment. i used to have a nanny who took care of me and my brother for 9 years since i was 3. obviously they get paid but tbh sometimes i think they do more than what theyre told, they treat us like their own child which i am very thankful for.
Guy: Has brain cancer
Pegasus: uses the word "No-brainer"
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"Am I the A**hole" is just an elaborate way of saying "I don't wan't to say I'm an a**hole but I am"
In most cases, I would agree, but sometimes the people aren't really assholes
@@nebula1931 Yeah, its rare, but It does happen
I wish there were more were the person wast the ahole
That or people are obviously not in the wrong
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Bench watching. I didnt spell that right did i?
Why do you always get the top comment even if the comment is not good
You havent even watch the whole thing..
Jesus, I started bawling my eyes out when you read the line "I won't be there by Christmas." He should definitely tell them though so they all can spend as much quality time together so his passing is less harmful to them. If he continues on not telling them, something might happen where they don't get to say the things they want to say to him the most and that will be ten times worse for them.
The thumbnail is honestly hard to watch, telling your daughter that you're dying, this will stay with her forever.
@DJ Weirdo he did'nt meant to be ne but he subcouncisly is
@@Blue-vs6fj he's not the a hole tho he just f'd up
He should have gotten the treatment
to what you said, “just because they’re doing something doesn’t mean they’re doing it to get paid” is true, I am a full time serial killer/arsonist, and I’m not even getting paid and I do it!
FBI OPEN UP
@@dinosaurtimeandfunnyvideos *And I’ll fucking* -do it- _commit arson_ *again!*
We don’t get enough praise
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Just take commissions and graduate to hitman/assassin
For the second story, for once someone isn’t EXACTLY the a hole
Just some guy who isn’t going about something correctly and regardless of him dying or not, calling him an a hole in this type of situation is a little harsh...
Edit: never got this many likes lmao
Ikr sometimes I can agree with him but calling him an a hole is just plain stupid man, imagine how much pressure you would be under if your going to die he shouldn't even of covered it if this is how he's gonna act.
@@birdwithinternetconnection2624 Pegasus did give the man a pass for the whole death situation so I suppose it’s fine...
I mean he is a father after all, trying his best to keep his family not concerned about him
I mean he kinda is- Ik this because I’ve dealt with the loss of my mother without being told. I always knew she would die because she’s always had these mental issues and other health problems. Nonetheless, I still loved her and I still do. I didn’t expect her to die so early though. My sister barely remembers her since she was so young. I feel bad that my mother wasn’t there for her. It was very surprising when I was told since it was 4 days before my birthday and my mother was even planning my surprise party and presents. I was given the gift she got me. I was never told how she died and a funeral was never hosted for her. My parents were also divorced so my dad either way wouldn’t want to arrange or attend it and wouldn’t let us either. The dude is a major a-hole if he doesn’t tell his wife and child because the wife and child will undergo extreme hardship and pain.
@@artistically_pain3876 still just think about what's going through your mind when you are litterally dying of course he's wrong in the situation but obviously when your dying your not gonna know what to do, your not gonna think right when your life is about to come to an end in a small amount of time so you can't blame them for not being able to make the desicion.
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The second dudes story is actually depressing. He’s speaking so calmly about it and ir breaks my heart, fuck cancer
RIP
I really think that the second man should tell his wife and daughter what’s gonna happen, that way they can be more emotionally prepared , it’s gonna suck either way, but it won’t be all at once. Also someone dying on you isn’t exactly a nice experience.
And then there is the fact that dying nowadays is costly, unless you get cremated you will need a coffin, funeral service and a burying ground, which aren’t things you can get immediately. I remember having my grand aunt passing in the middle of the pandemic, and even with a prepaid funeral plan things were still hard to get.
@Boofer I'm very sorry for your loss
The man has good intentions
Sorry for your life, dude. 🙁
@@duxhunt and that’s the hard part about all of this, he wants to protect them from hurting now, he doesn’t want them to feel worried and stressed over something they can’t do anything about, but still, it would hurt them even more if they found out when they can’t at least do something to enjoy what little time they have with him. Death always come with pain, sorrow, regret over the things that could have been but that now can’t, the feeling of loss over someone precious enough to carve a place inside your heart... it’s painful to only be able to say goodbye, to grieve over the idea that you could have share some more meaningful time with them... but again, we’re only humans trying to guard our hearts from the pain, and trying to do the same for our loved ones
@Kamryn Everett what can I say, the man speaks facts... I just added a few experiences I had with things like that, have a nice evening my fellow being of culture... and enjoy some chicken nuggets
The second guy wasn’t an a hole but I do think he should tell them
I wonder if he did. That story was wrote in September 2020. He also said he wouldn't be there at Christmas. He is dead
@@bobafett2881 rip
@@bobafett2881 I would love if someone could find the link to the Reddit post because I want to see an update on it
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@@givemeyourphone2707 His account got suspended
The thumbnail is honestly heartbreaking to me
The situation really is.
Yeah it is... clicked immediately because I was curious
@Jamison Sutton it also depends on the age of the child I haven’t finished watching it yet so I will get back to you when I finished watching it
@@susan9835 same
@Jamison Sutton well I know how old the daughter is now and yeah he or she should have told her.
The part where the guy doesn't wanna tell his family that he's dying reminds me of myself whenever I'm sad or in pain mentally I don't tell anyone because I don't want them to worry about me
Second dude should tell his wife, and then they both break it to their daughter, i appreciate that he is confused about what to do and I feel really bad for him
He is gone now
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"Just because they get payed they dont actually care about you" pokimane simps: wait what
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The first guy just needs to think of the show jesse lmaoo
Dang, Anna sounds like a steal. The BF seems jealous and manipulative. How does someone type all that out and still feel justified? So rude.
I agree and disagree but it was the hard truth
@@muffinlorde0n420 why is it necessary to tell her "the hard truth," which might not even be true? They were getting paid to watch her, that doesn't mean they didn't love her. He didn't know that, nor did he need to say that. He was being unnecessarily antagonistic.
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I don’t think the second guy is an a hole because imagine having to confront your family about how your dying, that sounds like one of the hardest things to tell someone you love.
I get the guy who doesn't want to tell his wife and daughter. I'm the same way with most things and would probably do the same. I'd rather just die out of no where rather than spend all my last days with people pitying me and crying.
Yeah, i probobly wouldnt either. But at the same time i would want people to know im trying to make the last days the best.
Yeah but then they need to cover the expenses of your death. If they didn't know this could be problematic
@@draconshot928 for me i have life insurance so that would cover it and I would put in my will not to have an expensive funeral[or have a funeral at all]. The only thing that would be worrisome or problematic is if they have great debt or the family can't survive on 1 income. I dont know their whole situation but for me personally, kicking the bucket wouldn't be a burden on anyone
@JUICE im not sure how saying youre dying is selfish, but ok
100th like congrats
For the second scenario
As a son I would want him to tell me
But as a father I would not tell them
"I'm dying from brain cancer, should I tell people?"
Peg: That's kind of a no brainer.
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The first guy annoyed his girlfriend for literally no reason, so he's 100% the asshole. The second one almost made me cry. I feel like he should tell them about this just to be prepared for when it does happen, because it'll probably be more heartbreaking if it just happens all of a sudden.
The title is already saying "no im not an asshole because i dont want my daughter crying for my death and i want her to be happy and just forget about me"
Second guy there is no A hole. He is just caught up in a moral dilemma where he should tell them, but he provided good points of why not too it’s just an extremely tough decision to make
These are the type of people to tell a kid having a asthma attack to breathe
Not their fault they forgot to breathe
they are the type of people to take the inhaler and say no vaping.
@@themicrowavedpancake338 my school did that to me once
@@coolterra8491 that sucks
What about the second guy lol
So a few years ago my dad died suddenly while the rest of my family(other then my dad) was in Taiwan, visiting my mom’s family. We called him ever night, which would be morning back in California, but one day, he didn’t answer. My mom thought something was off, so we headed back to America the next morning. When we got back, I discovered the news, and my brother cried, by dad’s dad cried, and my mom cried. I was so shocked I didn’t know what to do, so I cried a little, got a little mad, and then tried to act normal. There was so much shock that I couldn’t think anything of it until about a month later at his funeral, where I burst into tears and couldn’t stop. It was horrible. The shock was gone and it hit all at once. The thing is I kinda guessed that he might go to the hospital before i left for Taiwan, because he was so stressed about designing what would be our new house, and doing his work, and helping my brother and I, and my toddler sister. He stopped eating much. He fell at the construction site for our house and had to get stitches in his head. He was on the computer working almost every second he was awake. It’s even more scary because he was like never like this for the 9 years I was alive before that, so it was very sudden and scary. I remember once, my mom had to call my dad’s best friend over, and he spent almost half and hour arguing with my dad, trying to convince him to eat something. After my dad’s funeral, I, who was never religious because I believed more in science then ancient stories, convinced myself that heaven was real. Then ghosts were real. They whenever I was alone I would talk aloud as if he could hear me. It’s been years since. I no longer remember his voice, or even his face some(very little) of the time. I’ve grown and come to terms with it after 3 years. Now, 6 years after he died, all I remember about him was that he was a handsome, hardworking, kind person. He is what I could consider an ideal human being, after all, he had an IQ of 146, which is super high. He was in decent shape, not fat or very muscle-y. I remember his favorite show now, it was regular show. I even remember the color of his favorite shoes, pajamas, and hat. To this day nobody knows the cause of death, all I know is that he was found dead when we came back. All I know is if we knew he had an unavoidable death coming, like the 2nd guy in this video, I wouldn’t have wanted to know ahead of time. Knowing ahead would’ve made me sad, depressed even, and I would do nothing but cry all day, knowing that he would never see me grow up, or even get to move to what would be our new home in a few years. I’m glad I didn’t know if nothing we could do would’ve saved him, because all that pain at once is better then it being spread out over a long time, plus it was so much for me that at first it was just confusion for me, not knowing how to feel, or what to think.
Would you rather get shot and die instantly, or slowly bleed out with no way of stopping it. Personally, I’d prefer a quick, death, like this situation with my dad, api would’ve preferred a sharp, instant, pain, rather than a slow, insufferable one.
I actually have some experience with nannies and children (tldr at the bottom).
I live in England in a normal middle class life but the family on my mum's side lives in a 3rd world country in Africa with quite a bit of wealth. The wealth was enough for the family to have a nanny work in the house. I went there for a trip with my at-the-time 4 year old brother and we stayed in the house for an ample amount of time. The nanny was really close with us and especially my 4 year old brother. When the nanny had finished all the work in the house or if she was on her break, she would offen spend some time with my brother on her own free will. They acted like they were family with eachother; playing games; watching movies; and just generally spending alot of time with eachother. When we were going back to England and we were saying our goodbyes, my brother hugged the nanny and she started to tear up. Even on the plane home, my brother said to me "I miss [the nanny]".
The first person is an asshole imo as I know that kids can and do form bonds with their nannies as if they were family.
Tldr; My 4 year old brother formed a deep connection to a nanny as if they were family. Person 1 is an asshole.
For the first one, i think even though the nannies we're doing their job for the money they might of gotten attached to the girl because when you spend time with someone it's hard not to get attached to that person
as someone who recently lost my mother to cancer, please please tell your family if you’re ever in that situation, we found out late that she wasn’t going to survive and it shocked all of us, if we had found out months earlier it would’ve hurt just as much, but at least it hadn’t been all at once.
I’m glad to see one where the person writing isn’t exactly an asshole, he just isn’t sure how to talk to someone he loves about a serious topic
"I feel like it's a no brainer"
-Pegasus on Brain Cancer
Lol
Regarding the second one, it's very complicated, and everyone has to make that decision for themselves based on a lot of factors. I'm dying, and my ex-wife knows, but I haven't told my son (who lives with her). He knows I'm sick, but he doesn't know it's incurable. The big difference is that I am getting treatment, so I could have several years ahead of me. They're years that we can spend having good times together, and he can continue to do well in school without worrying about an upcoming loss. And hey, who knows, maybe there will be a miracle cure by then.
But as for this guy, we don't know nearly enough about him and his circumstances to judge him.
“He didn’t want to deal withthe bills from chemotherapy” Europeans:”hippity hoppity healthcare is free on our property
"free"
mostly free, some medication cost money but you usually would never pay more than 1k
We pay it with our taxes. It's not free.
@@nebula1931 yes
Regarding the last story, it's indeed a difficult situation. As someone who lost his sister to cancer at the age of 16, the 3 and a half years of battle against cancer was for sure no easy ordeal, but if I had to choose between losing her in one or a few days or this 3,5 years of emotional (and sometimes physical) stress, just hoping for things to turn better til the end and beyond - i'd say we were lucky to have been able to spend more time together, even if the end was so sudden, we couldn't even say farewell (cancer probably reached her respiratory groups on the brainstem and she stopped breathing - just a few days after She got home from the hospital). It was traumatic, but not as traumatic as it could have been. However, I don't like to be seen as a victim, her condition made me choose to study pharmacy instead of chemistry, and now i'm an intern (don't know if that's the correct term) in a research group that is developing a new type of targeted cancer treatment for inoperable brain tumors just like the one my sister had. I like to think I was given retribution, exactly the way I wanted/imagined.
For anyone that's reading this far - maybe because they can relate to what my family and i lived through - I wish you all the best, never give up, don't think that you can't change, be kind to people and try to find your place in this world.
The last guy wasn't the A-Hole, he actually had a better reason than most people on the subreddit. But he should tell them.
As someone who lost my father to cancer i would say to tell the family for the reasons you provided, losing someone is hard but finding out they were struggling through pain as well might bring more hardships, its easy to prepare when you know its happening rather than taking the tidal wave all at once, and after the two tiny waves of the cancer reveal and the death its will be easier to move on the having the tidal wave come back and make you question why they hid struggling rather then coming out and saying it, it'll take a big weight off both the guy and his family if he comes out and says it. Sorry for the big rant, this felt like writing a essay lol :p
The second story hits a little too close to home. In 2019, my great grandfather was diagnosed with two types of leukemia. We eventually knew that he would die, but my parents (mother and great grandmother) tried to hide it to protect me. In this case, I don't think that the person was an A hole as he was trying to protect his family, but they need to know sooner or later without the situation of finding him gone one day with no explanation.
Not every person who is dying and has a family is Walter White
knowing that I watched this after Christmas hurts.
that second dude is not an A hole. He's just a guy who wants to protect his family but doesn't know how.
I mean he has to tell his wife and child that he's going to die soon and that they can't do anything about it. He's a man who knows he's on a timer and can't do anything about it. That's a hard decision to place on anyone, let alone a father.
"Welcome back Everyone"
Love hearing that.
I agree that you should tell your loved ones if you're dying. They will want to know so that they can make memories and make the best of the time they have left with you. It hurts way more when it comes as a sudden shock and hits you all at once. There is pain and dread involved in the days leading up to your death but it is overcome the appreciation and happiness that you are at least there for the moment and that there is still time to tie any loose ends.
Playing hollow knight is seeing someone else play hollow knight and thinking that they’re crap even though you were twenty times worse when you started
ikr i jus done poh and im totally relating to this
For sure. Not the best player in the world, but I don't get down to 1 health during the False Knight fight.
Man i think he is really bad
I died 13 times to hornet 1
The second one was the one where I actually thought he wasn't really an a-hole, just a conflicted person.
I like how a lot of these people resort to explaining their problems online, Then resolving the issue themselves
@All Mods Are Bas- [AMAB] are u feeling ok?
@@criticalhit07 dont worry, he might be an edgelord who just learnt what being emo means
Yeah I wonder about that too sometimes but if it does som for them in a positive way then what the heck.
It's better to get an opinion from strangers because they probably won't be as biased.
dam bro rewatching this is crazy the man with brain cancer is no long with us rest well king
Fun fact: 76% of stair accidents happen on the stairs
:OOOOO
What about the other 24%?
@@Anastasiaaugh they fall off the edges of the stairs onto the ground
@@greenbudgieplays8092 Thank you
Pegasus, i absolutely hate you. You make me watch your videos till 4am when I need to wake up at 8am.
The dying guy should tell his wife first and then sort it out with her daughter. Its easier to tell it to one person at a time
The reasons he doesn’t want to tell them are solid, and if something important is coming up like seeing if your gonna be accepted to a collage or whatever was coming up, I’d hold off until that was over and then tell them tbh
*"Where is cuphead?"*
*"He is dead"*
*It's gone*
Hk is better
Cuphead is kil
When this guy says "P" his entire house gets coverd in spit.
Hardest decision is staying in bed or getting up and living life in the morning
This series hurts my brain
AITA season 2 has been productive lately
Do you think Netflix will make a live action about it?
@@noonebossesthegarnet2890 maybe
playlist name: am i the bad guy?
well, seth everman is the bald guy
Knowing you WILL die before living your entire life and seeing your daughter grow up is an experience probably none of us have experienced and hopefully no one will have to and it doesn’t make him the a hole the feelings he must feel are indescribable but he should still tell his family like you said it gives them time to cope with it before the inevitable and also allows you to spend every last second with those you love
It is indeed the hardest, but it is also the saddest...
the second one is the same as my grandpa, he had a tumor on his head for i dunno sometime? anyways he didn't say to us and one day we found it, my mother cried for weeks then she went in albania to prevent if he is okay or not, he did a surgery on turkey because he felt bad but after the surgen he felt better. we are doing our best to cure him, even if i with my family live in another state we are trying to support him and the family beacuse this was a really thought situation even for us in italy (im albanian btw and my grands live in albania with my mother's family).
My parents are only letting me use my phone for 2 hours today and well a pegasus video seems worth it
He should tell them about him dying, I've been there but as the daughter. It's really painful and I wished to spend more time with him instead of focusing on school. At the end, they will both get hurt, but please choose the option that is the least painful, let them receive the outcome well before they dwell with regrets. You matter more than what we're doing.
When pegasus sees someone who does something dumb: Now this is content
the guy is just feeling like an inferior complex bc she has more money
Stan Pegasus
I already have
@@The-Mr-Man-Man accurately represents a stan
for the second story, i m not gonna lie i have mixed opinions
On one hand: If I were the dad I would not want to tell my daughter, who btw is working very hard to get into a top tier uni, that i have cancer, this can cause shock and make her more demotivated from what she is doing currently, alternatively this can add even more pressure on her as she might believe that this is the last thing she can do for her father and work way too hard and burdern herself. Same applies for the mother
On the other hand: As pegasus said, If I belong to this family I want to know that my dad has brain cancer so that I can spend quality time with him and to cherish these last moments.
You can't spell Pegasus without sus! 😳
AUGHHHH STOP SHUT UP AIGHHH
Wow bro you must be a comedian with that humor
How long have you said this
😳 kinda sus bro
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the second guy i wouldn’t say is an a hole because his intentions aren’t bad and he just doesn’t want to hurt them but it is a huge mistake he’s making and should definitely rethink his decision about not telling his daughter and wife
The second guy isn’t an a hole but he should really tell his wife and daughter
The second is obviously not an A hole, and I hope for you and humanity that you don’t think that.
Learning that you’re gonna die must be an absolute horrible experience, and you’d have a lot of things to figure out.
You should definitely tell your family what situation you’re in, so it won’t hit them double as hard when you do die.
But don’t judge a dying person for being confused.
Rubs hands together “I’m ready”
Pegasus: I don’t wanna ppl to treat me differently even if I’m dying
Also Pegasus: You’re dying so I’ll give u a pass
"am i the A-HOLE" is the best series ive seen since pewdiepie minecraft
the dying dude isn't an a-hole
Agreed
Me: Say the line Pegasus
Pegasus: welcome back to a new episode of am I a hole
Everyone: 😁
I didnt know that there was a new "hole" gender
@@stanlaa5808 BRUUUUUH!
@@lacryingbaby3005 ?
I feel genuinely bad for the second guy. He's just afraid of making his loved ones upset, I would say for him to tell them but comfort them as you're done talking. I hope that person well, god bless them
If i was the second guy i would definitely not tell them. I don't wanna get treated differently and i still wanna see them going on with their normal lives and i don't wanna prolong their pain.
I'd prolly tell them when i only have a week left
I thought I was going to die, and so were my parents and even the doctors. I thought it was an actual miracle and I I was so relieved. I did tell the rest of my family about it and it was a really tough time for all of us, and I'm so glad I got through it
I’m home alone and I just got hissed at I think.....I have no cat
Uhhh id call whoever you live eith
Personally i think that the guy that's dying is just between a-hole and not a-hole, his heart is definitely in the right place but he might have wanted to think it through a bit better.
Exactly
Sees title
Wait is this gonna get weird?
How is that weird?
How is it weird?
The first guy is literally so vile. How the hell can you laugh in someone's face when they're speaking about their dead mother? Absolutely disgusting
Bruh I had nannies and they djd care about me. Nannies do care about you and mine was like a mother to me since my biological mother didn't have much time for me
when my dad came back from the doctors and said he had cancer, a lot changed. Fights that are huge at the moment and petty things that happen on your day to day life with that person, once you know that they are dying, everything changes. You want to tell them things you wouldn't normally but that should be known :/ so yeah that dad will hurt them a lot more long term if he doesn't tell
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God I needed to get this off my chest, thanks for coming to my pep talk
Steve Jrobs moment
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@@malekahmedsamir1337 I had no idea 1. that was a word. and 2. it is a lung disease
@@moonlightcrew7145 you can tell its a lung disease with the beginning of pneu. the rest is just scientists pretending to be big IQ by adding very much unnecessary letters
@@NuggetOG Scientist: I am big IQ because I add letters to something
Im so smart
The second man I feel isn't the A-hole.
I mean it seems like he loves them so much and if I were in his shoes, it also would've been hard for me as well. Should he tell them? Yes. Is it difficult? Yes.
I mean imagine having to tell your favourite people "I'm dying and you can't do anything about it."
Good luck to the family in the future.
Ha ha I remember when I got depression my parents told me to pray......
I don’t tell them how I feel now-
I am Bi Sexual and I will tell them in the next 3 year because I am scared-
that seems real bad just please remember to push through and that there are multiple support groups for LGBT ppl in poor situations and that there's ppl that will help you. (sorry if this is badly worded)
The second one is scary and tragic as fuck. Imagine knowing that you will die in less then a year and all of your family members thinking you’re ok and not knowing your gonna die soon.
Do you really have to laugh a men who’s gonna die that’s actually sad 😔
Ikr and whenever somebody criticizes him at all about stuff like this he just does "5% of you are stupid"
He didn't laugh
Not really. Just don't get brain cancer to begin with.
@@dinosaurtimeandfunnyvideos not funny
@@birdwithinternetconnection2624 Sometimes I feel like he just dont take things seriously sometimes..
Like you are gonna joke and laugh about it?
imo, in the second story nobody is an a-hole there for one reason: it's not that easy of a decision to tell someone if they're dying or not, but I do think that OP should tell his wife and his daughter as soon as possible
wait!
Is it just me or does his voice kind of sound like a calm quackity voice?
ur kinda right
now i have two people to simp for, thanks a bunch underscore
I usually don’t cry at any sad story, but I lost my dad, so the second story really got me crying
"The Hardest Decisions Ever..."
*To be or not to be*
Edit: "The Hardest Decisions Ever..." was the original title of the vid
the first guy sounds bitter like he secretly is envious and resents her somehow.
Person: is dying
Also person: let’s waste our time on Twitter
I mean he had to ask something that he didn't know the answer to. Also what's wrong with wasting your time on Twitter?
@@travisscott3050 Twitter will kill all your braincells
@@alexaltman8106 Maybe thats why he have brain cancer.
This is my favorite series, keep it up man