A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white
Well relationship works if there is a good and healthy foundation.When a relationship starts on lies and deception than nothing can save the relationship 😊
2 minutes into this video, I thought - hmmm seems like Matthew is showing up differently than I remember. Not for the better or for the worse, but in a way that felt softer to me. More warm, compassionate. Come to find out, he confirms this himself midway through the video! Loved it. Thank you!
Yes! Quieter, coming from a deeper place of self-awareness, assurance without arrogance, not outwardly performative or hyper, humble, vulnerable, and at a slow pace that shows he’s deeply considering the actual question instead of always being “at the ready” with any old answer the way a lot of intelligent ppl do when they want to portray they’re an expert in something…I flagged many parts of this interview to come back to later that I wasn’t expecting, like the topic of grief…so beautiful…
He feels different to me, indeed. You can see the things he is talking about are not scripted, it's his Own experience and moments where he has found self-awareness. You can see he thinks his words at the moment and it's something new. I also liked the pause at the end after the host's question about women, he was really thinking at that moment. I'm glad to see this side of him. Very helpful podcast. Made me think how to encourage my man to show vulnerability and feel safe doing that.
I so much appreciate the vulnerable side of Matthew, it's so attractive to me as a woman to see a man being present, taking his time, allowing stillness... it's very clear that he has connected with a deeper part of himself and shows overall more depth in the way he speaks, the things he shares, his body language... and Andre you are such an amazing host, it's truly inspiring.
I've practiced exactly those things, being connected, thinking things out, being intentional and present. I've received a great deal of love and appreciation as a result... I never once thought of myself as attractive for that. Thank you for sharing the idea and helping me more fully receive what people share with me. 😊🙏🏼
Yes, it is good to see some men who actually think. Most of these creatures only think about themselves, have zero deeper convos and treat women as objects.
Brilliant. Loved * enjoyed this podcast. Matthew, I have profound respect for you. People need to relate to this & heal them selves . We need to accept who we really are.
Matthew Hussey is completely right! Andre you are an incredible host, very compassionate and most importantly you let your guests speak instead of trying to one up them and you are truly engaged on listening and not needing notes. By far you are amazing host/ Podcaster. Thank you for everything you!! ❤
It's true. The older you get, the more and more it is a lottery. Not all of us will be winners. I don't mean to be negative, just realistic. I leave my heart and my eyes wide open, but I live as if I am doing this spin around the earth on my own -- which right now I certainly am.
@@northofyou33agreed, and I have come to the acceptance that I may not likely be one of those ladies, but that doesn’t make me unlucky. I just focus on self sufficiency and my relationship with God because that is a more efficient use of my time and energy.
The love of your life is not another person is yourself ❤ you are the one who has to love your own company if u don’t like it nobody else will. It really all starts within 😊
At 2:06 André asks Matt a great question, something I have thought about and have asked my own relationship coach. Matt doesn't answer André's question. At 37:38 I love Matt's four levels of evaluating a life-partner, it's such a great framework to use. 1) Admiration 2) Mutual Interest 3) Commitment 4) Compatibility
I think he answered the question in his own way. Finding the balance between strategies how to act to meet the best partner and between inner work is the same analogy as finding balance between competence that is learned and consists of strategies and between confidence that comes from within. So you basically need to find that balance and it's different for everyone I guess. But also at about 5th minute he starts to explain that if you lack the inner work you cannot compensate for that with the learned strategies. That's why it's important to work on your shadows. And then as an example comes the story about his wife and his shutting down cuz of jealousy. And then he goes deeper to his childhood in order to explain his realisation that inner work is a lot more important than strategies.
This was great! I almost didn't watch because it didn't fit into my usual diet of esoteric / ancient history / quantum physics / nonsensical comedy, BUT something in me told me to watch it since I am deep down a hopeless romantic and could use some practical advice now and again. Matthew had a way with words that I thoroughly enjoyed and I really like how clear he was about the 4 levels of finding "the one". Well done Matthew and as always Andre! Loved it.
Matt was one of the first spiritual teachers I ran into. This dude is full of beautiful wisdom and knowledge with respect to relationships. Thank you so much Andre for these killer episodes!
I can concur.....don't get hung up on the package. I found the most mind blowing person. All 4 on his list check, but the depth of quality of each is so incredible. This biggest physical feature is this man is smaller than me. But he is so much smarter than me. And I'm a smart cookie. He makes me laugh every single day. And he can see right through me. I hated in my past 20 years relationship that I could hide parts of myself. I can not hide in this new relationship, and I love it so much. He calls me out when I hide. And it's so sexy.
This is one of the best conversation I ever heard on every single topic, and every point you made here is absolutely everything I needed to hear. Thank you for helping people to live better and navigate better in this crazy nowadays world.
Thanks for the confirmation!! My teenage daughter just recently helped me shift my 50 year old mindset on this topic. We had just both gone through an unexpected heart break- I didn’t share too much with her but I did my best to empower her with advice I couldn’t seem to take myself. She was post 4 days a break up and was I was 4 months and she said, “my person wouldn’t do something like that!” How right!! Here I am lamenting on how come it didn’t come to full fruition if it was so perfect - it’s because he wasn’t MY person! Took the baby to teach me. ❤So that helped my reality shift. I still find myself thinking of that one person but it feels like it’s so the past and the future is where it’s at with beautiful new set of eyes!! What I loved in this podcast that was impactful for to me, was : Disappointment is a lot easier to get over than the chronic grieving of telling ourselves a story that we found our person…”
There is no "my person" meaning a person out side of yourself. You're buying into a delusion if you feel pain, the pain is a reminder that you believed in a falseness. You believe that someone else can make you happy or ge your reason for existing. The person for you is the person in the mirror. You are the person for you. No one else. That's why heartache is so debilitating, because you've disempowered your worth and places it into the idea of another person. I'm glad your daughter could steer you off your trap, but don't delude yourself into Thinking that the pain will disappear, it never will. Embrace it and practice on loving that aspect of you
@@devarmont87 yes, totally understand that but sometimes you get gut punched and have to “remember “ all that again. At this point, I take my lessons more seriously and take them with me to the next NEW💫
I have loved the conversation so far. I have a perspective to add. One hand clapping. You told your story that you needed to have another hold that space for you. So you were lucky enough to learn that lesson of self love through love. That's wonderful. We can also learn it through trauma. We can learn it through a "toxic" relationship where you get abandoned in some way. Then through taking the time and being alone without being, "in the game". Because we can work through what happened and find all the same answers when we find them in ourselves. We don't need to be in a relationship to learn to love ourselves and not need anyone else to hold space for us than ourselves. But someone else doing it is a lovely way, if we get to that point before the options get farther away than your energy. 😂
For the first time in my life i learned about how to be vulnerable and how the right person is going to recieve your vulnerability with an open heart and show love to you and how it makes you brave. Thankyou for such an amazing discussion. 🌸
I started listening to Matthew about a year ago, and I’ve gotten so much value from his videos and interviews. This was the best one yet. The interviewer did an amazing job, and Matthew’s answers were so in sync with where I’m at on my spiritual journey. After getting out of an abusive relationship 1 1/2 years ago, I used that experience as a springboard to deeper healing, and I to the wonderful world of curiosity and “I don’t know.” The ending and the piece about chronic pain (physical and emotional) was 🤯🤯🤯 Also, right on time for where I am with my relationship with pain as well (and making the connection to the pain and stress and my “dis-ease” in my body)… I have no words. That was some profound stuff. I had no intintion of ordering your book. It just wasn’t on my radar, as I’m not “looking for love” any longer… and this interview made me realize I am. Of course we all want more love! I just am thinking about how juicy loving myself more is. And how wonderful loving my life more has been in the last year and some change… who doesn’t want more of THAT?! A greater relationship with yourself?!?! Like, it can keep getting better?! Sign me up! Thank you for this interview. Both of you.
Im a female age 58 widow who finally took the risk after 24 year marriage to get out there and date. I had a wonderful six months, but this person was a narcissist love bombed me at the beginning, and after the faded, we slowly went downhill he broke up with me, and I felt the rejection so deep that I realized my ADHD issues of rejection sensitivity dysphoria, and that took me into a whole other world of learning this last winter, I’m finally getting enough courage to leave and let go although he broke up with me. We stayed friends this whole last winter and I was hanging on and hanging on your talk today hit me and I’m excited for the book to arrive and I’m gonna be on that live coaching where you set me up for the next year cause I’m ready to take the steps thank you Matthew. You are an amazing person and I’m so glad you’re sharing your whole self in this book. I will respect every page love from Annette. Canada 🇨🇦
matthew is the epitome of the wounded healer, he deeply understands the depths of pain and is so beautifully compassionate and pragmatic in his perspective - all of which is deeply healing ❤🩹
Matthew, thank you for sharing honestly, I did similar things when I was a child, thought I was punishing others, but I really was the one punished, missing on so many things in my life. I still have to deal with it today, the memory, as I am not longer doing this but it is some regreat about stuff we did miss. Great interview Andre, thank you for putting this together.
This is the most real, mind opening and heart opening thing I’ve heard in a long while. Even I myself felt very in tune and connected to your convo as a listener. I cried the whole way through, thankyou a million , this has really helped me come out of my avoidant and numbness to actually feeling what I’ve not been able to feel and connect within myself . Thankyou so much, your work is powerful. ❤
Huge shift Matthew… disappointment is a lot easier to get over than the chronic grieving that comes From telling ourselves a story that we’ve found our person🤯🤯🤯
The more I listen to this dating coach though very valuable the closer I got to differentiate between a dating coach and a love coach. Very interesting! A love coach transcends it all! True lovers may or may not need to date. They live life in love that’s it. All the insights I get here are serving me in that direction therefore very valuable to me! We need love to date but we don’t need to date to love! We need to date a certain age but we don’t need age to love. We need to date only people but we don’t need to love only people. We need a partner to date but we can love anyone even alone! I didn’t know the difference until recently and it helped me know who I am - a powerful love coach! In my eyes, I prefer to love than just date! So thank you very much! You opened up my path by making it clearer.
The Collective Consciousness of Love brings our partners to us. There is nothing we have to do but to love ourselves with Divine God Love. I promise. Every day focus on bringing joy to your life, prayer, meditation with loving every cell of your body. This is the recipe to manifesting a true love for our hearts. 🥰
Thank you so much for the fantastic conversation!! Mathew is an outstanding writer and expert on relationships! I loved the book, and I'm passing it on to my daughter ❤️🙏
This was so good, I love being able to witness men having open conversations about these deep topics with such sensitivity and openness. Matthew's work is helping me finally understand what some of my blocks around finding lasting love have been coming from. He really highlights how universal these struggles are, and I'm grateful! Thanks for bringing him on.
Wow, I dont know what compelled me to watch this, this morning, but what a gift. Just in this past hour, I am putting myself back in the game ( it's something i have wanted longer than i can remember), and I'm buying the book and coming to the event. Maybe I'll even get to work with Matthew. Thanks Andre and Matthew for raising my standards!
Hi Matthew, thank you for your compassion on delayed fertility to none at all due to not staying truth to the desire of a family. My ex husband kick the can so far down the road on starting a family with me. Evertually I had to let him go. If someone decide not want to be a father, it is only right not to continue with the relationship or marriage. It is no one's fault. It is our decision to make and move on. I pray for all men and women out there to had to grief the time missed on the chance to conceive and make life. Amen
Thank you so much, this podcast saved a very important relationship in my life because it brought so much insights around my own wounds. Thank you Matthew for sharing your vulnerability, it saved a very beautiful relationship in my life. Thank you both for this profound healing experience! 🙏💗
Thank you for sharing. I can +1 on how emotionally draining relationships can create seemingly incurable diseases that vanish as soon as the stress factor is removed.
I love the way you state as a matter of fact "that was not the right person', there have been a number of fabulous guys I was simply not compatible with. Thank you for making the analogy of the wall. That is the point to remember for me.
Does anyone else get frustrated when we are told to “just love life” when we are working 60 hours a week? Who has time to love life properly these days? Makes me more depressed to know that I don’t have the proper foundation for what you are talking about due to circumstances outside of my control.
I use to feel similar to this before my healing journey. Until I realized I have all the power. You have to believe in it first then put the footwork in to achieve such desires. You have to first understand the principles of thought and word having power. That you are a creator! Speak positive affirmations into your life and circumstances. Ask for support from your guides of helpers. Or don't, we all have free will, but I will leave this for you and hope that the seed has been planted & roots to follow. BLESSING TO YOU FRIEND.
What we work 8 hours, rest it's life. Without work does not make sense. We are wrong teach, if we do get a good job we do have life. But it depends how we spend time out side the job.
Hi Christina, sending lots of love from Ireland. Read 'You Can Heal Your Life' by Louise Hay. It completely changed my life and my sisters. It gives you the tools you need. Take your time reading it. It will blow your mind!! 🫶
1:26 the 1 thing to remember is you are loving life just right!.... Think not. Your reality is the only one that holds any sway. You are still seeking. Congratulations you won.
There's a saying in Spanish that's says "el que se enoja, pierde". Which means "he who gets angry, loses". The sleepover story is a perfect example of it.
Thank you for this amazing talk! It’s great to work towards a more deep more connected and reflected understanding of us, our loved ones and those we meet on the journey of life! 💙💚
Wow, each interview I watch regarding the SAME book is phenomenal. 'Each' interview covers something that SO resonates with where I am. Mario Andretti was very insightful; your childhood/trust issues was vulnerable. I like you more each interview. I stopped listening to you some time ago, yet, now since Audrey, you are much more of a 'real' person. Thanks! Btw, you're interview with Mel Robbins was sooooo cute, unexpectedly so! 😊
love it thank you!! 🤩 I read the book and loved it, I"m in Matthew's online community and I appreciate the focus on healing, new beginnings and starting over as I navigate my own heartbreak and believe that better things are to come, thank you for this inspiring conversation, you two are a gift!
Amazing! So relating to ”the wall ” and also the last part with rat A & rat B. Applies to all in life! Time to read your book and find courage to face myself🙏🏻❤️
Discovered Matthew on another podcast 2 days ago and I was so impreesed. Wanted to hear him again. And again... I am 68 and he just gave me the answers to my long years of questionning. I would have had a better love life had I met him younger. But better late than sorry! Will defenitely buy the book and really read every word carefully. By the way, I am French speaking and living in Quebec, Canada. Thank you so much for being part of this world. Great interviewer. So fascinating and loved every minute of it. Success to both of you. Jocelyne
God Bless You! Time and space is cyclical; time is not always linear. Lessons is what make relationships beautiful. ❤ Peace, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit
There are a couple of past relationships I'd think "wrong time, wrong place" but now will give them no more mental energy - because they weren't for me 🤷🏾♀️ The release is great 😄
43:20 YOU. JUST. CHANGED. MY. LIFE. I AM FUCKIN DONE. YOU JUST MADE ME SEE MY WINGS. Virgo left level 2 building and is Ave Phoenixing into CONSICIOUS HIGH LEVEL AUTHORITY NEW LIFE HIGH VIBE BAM❤
Loved this whole conversation- didn’t know the tinnitus stuff. When it happens to me I say “I’m listening, what do I need to hear?” and I stop. & It stops. Dunno - but i was intrigued to hear about his journey. Thanks for the ace Q’s too. 🙏🏽
I have known for years, I was repeating a pattern but have been asking for years also ok I have this pattern but how do I break the chain??? Matthew just gave me the answer with "the wall". Very gratefull. Thank you for your work and book that will help me break the chain. ❤
so true Andre… do you know who self is the most important thing before we start looking. I would love to come on your show and talk about my chapter and my latest book miracles online, finding through and lasting love and digital world, the most important part to me is the self work.
I honestly think this guys wife being a good person to begin with has far more to do with what he’s saying than what he actually did. So many of us have lost women because we thought we could share vulnerabilities, not to mention those vulnerabilities being used against you the second everything isn’t Sunshine and Rainbows
I strongly believe there is evolution and for me it includes the conviction that everything grows and gets better and better... So, let's imagine our Ideals being lived by us truly and fully. Self-realisation is the highest goal. ✌️ ✨🐛✨🦋✨🐉✨ Thank you very much for this great interview. 🙏🙏🙏
You're never actually "ready" to become a parent. To a large extent, you become ready when you need to. The ability to "control birth" with birth control has allowed the fear of parenting to overwhelm the reality that at any point, you can decide or be forced to grow up, and that's been an important impetus for many throughout history to learn how to parent. (It has also scared many to run away and be bad parents, to be sure). Wanting the "maturity" of an older woman without being willing to do the work to grow up and be mature enough to face parenthood is just so so self-centered, and men need to acknowledge that before messing with women. Kudos to Andre for at least having the conversation quickly.
I love being alone so much, that I often turn down what were probably great opportunities. After watching this podcast Im more open to exploring my options. Key moments had me laughing as I was married , have had five children, and those things are off my table, but often younger men are into me, and i think....no no no .... youve got to have your children on your timeline 😂
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks
You wont regret it
Well relationship works if there is a good and healthy foundation.When a relationship starts on lies and deception than nothing can save the relationship 😊
2 minutes into this video, I thought - hmmm seems like Matthew is showing up differently than I remember. Not for the better or for the worse, but in a way that felt softer to me. More warm, compassionate. Come to find out, he confirms this himself midway through the video! Loved it. Thank you!
I noticed that too!!👍👍
Yes! Quieter, coming from a deeper place of self-awareness, assurance without arrogance, not outwardly performative or hyper, humble, vulnerable, and at a slow pace that shows he’s deeply considering the actual question instead of always being “at the ready” with any old answer the way a lot of intelligent ppl do when they want to portray they’re an expert in something…I flagged many parts of this interview to come back to later that I wasn’t expecting, like the topic of grief…so beautiful…
I noticed that too.
He has a long story deep down about hating women starting from his mother...
He feels different to me, indeed. You can see the things he is talking about are not scripted, it's his Own experience and moments where he has found self-awareness. You can see he thinks his words at the moment and it's something new. I also liked the pause at the end after the host's question about women, he was really thinking at that moment. I'm glad to see this side of him. Very helpful podcast. Made me think how to encourage my man to show vulnerability and feel safe doing that.
I so much appreciate the vulnerable side of Matthew, it's so attractive to me as a woman to see a man being present, taking his time, allowing stillness... it's very clear that he has connected with a deeper part of himself and shows overall more depth in the way he speaks, the things he shares, his body language... and Andre you are such an amazing host, it's truly inspiring.
I've practiced exactly those things, being connected, thinking things out, being intentional and present. I've received a great deal of love and appreciation as a result... I never once thought of myself as attractive for that. Thank you for sharing the idea and helping me more fully receive what people share with me. 😊🙏🏼
Yes, it is good to see some men who actually think. Most of these creatures only think about themselves, have zero deeper convos and treat women as objects.
Brilliant. Loved * enjoyed this podcast. Matthew, I have profound respect for you. People need to relate to this & heal them selves . We need to accept who we really are.
Just changed my life in that moment..the one who doesn't say yes can not be the one🎉..oh I'm 68..never too late to learn❤❤
You’re amazing ❤
I wish the world would have more men like you two. Amazing conversation! 🙏
The world is full of such men. Don't you see that?
@@Klaus9002 darling, I didn't say there are not, I said I wish there were more...😉
@@Klaus9002that’s unfortunately not my experience or that of most women I know. 😞
Sorry Klaus, it is really really hard to find a good Quality man@@Klaus9002
Matthew Hussey is completely right! Andre you are an incredible host, very compassionate and most importantly you let your guests speak instead of trying to one up them and you are truly engaged on listening and not needing notes. By far you are amazing host/ Podcaster.
Thank you for everything you!! ❤
Absolutely 💯
GRIEF is simply the result you didn't want. But God has a plan....
🎉❤❤❤🎉 There is HOPE for tomorrow. Be still and LET HIM BE God.
Amen.
Matthew is such a gift, he has a very empathetic and non-judgemental presence and he just explains things so well
Whoever Andre and Matthew's significant others are have won the Lottery..Swoon❤❤❤
It's true. The older you get, the more and more it is a lottery. Not all of us will be winners. I don't mean to be negative, just realistic. I leave my heart and my eyes wide open, but I live as if I am doing this spin around the earth on my own -- which right now I certainly am.
@@northofyou33agreed, and I have come to the acceptance that I may not likely be one of those ladies, but that doesn’t make me unlucky. I just focus on self sufficiency and my relationship with God because that is a more efficient use of my time and energy.
The love of your life is not another person is yourself ❤ you are the one who has to love your own company if u don’t like it nobody else will. It really all starts within 😊
True❤
Absolutely.
At 2:06 André asks Matt a great question, something I have thought about and have asked my own relationship coach. Matt doesn't answer André's question. At 37:38 I love Matt's four levels of evaluating a life-partner, it's such a great framework to use.
1) Admiration 2) Mutual Interest 3) Commitment 4) Compatibility
I think he answered the question in his own way. Finding the balance between strategies how to act to meet the best partner and between inner work is the same analogy as finding balance between competence that is learned and consists of strategies and between confidence that comes from within. So you basically need to find that balance and it's different for everyone I guess. But also at about 5th minute he starts to explain that if you lack the inner work you cannot compensate for that with the learned strategies. That's why it's important to work on your shadows. And then as an example comes the story about his wife and his shutting down cuz of jealousy. And then he goes deeper to his childhood in order to explain his realisation that inner work is a lot more important than strategies.
This was great! I almost didn't watch because it didn't fit into my usual diet of esoteric / ancient history / quantum physics / nonsensical comedy, BUT something in me told me to watch it since I am deep down a hopeless romantic and could use some practical advice now and again. Matthew had a way with words that I thoroughly enjoyed and I really like how clear he was about the 4 levels of finding "the one". Well done Matthew and as always Andre! Loved it.
Matt was one of the first spiritual teachers I ran into. This dude is full of beautiful wisdom and knowledge with respect to relationships. Thank you so much Andre for these killer episodes!
I can concur.....don't get hung up on the package. I found the most mind blowing person. All 4 on his list check, but the depth of quality of each is so incredible. This biggest physical feature is this man is smaller than me. But he is so much smarter than me. And I'm a smart cookie. He makes me laugh every single day. And he can see right through me. I hated in my past 20 years relationship that I could hide parts of myself. I can not hide in this new relationship, and I love it so much. He calls me out when I hide. And it's so sexy.
Sounds very sexy, yes!
This is one of the best conversation I ever heard on every single topic, and every point you made here is absolutely everything I needed to hear. Thank you for helping people to live better and navigate better in this crazy nowadays world.
Thanks for the confirmation!!
My teenage daughter just recently helped me shift my 50 year old mindset on this topic. We had just both gone through an unexpected heart break- I didn’t share too much with her but I did my best to empower her with advice I couldn’t seem to take myself. She was post 4 days a break up and was I was 4 months and she said, “my person wouldn’t do something like that!” How right!! Here I am lamenting on how come it didn’t come to full fruition if it was so perfect - it’s because he wasn’t MY person! Took the baby to teach me. ❤So that helped my reality shift.
I still find myself thinking of that one person but it feels like it’s so the past and the future is where it’s at with beautiful new set of eyes!!
What I loved in this podcast that was impactful for to me, was :
Disappointment is a lot easier to get over than the chronic grieving of telling ourselves a story that we found our person…”
There is no "my person" meaning a person out side of yourself. You're buying into a delusion if you feel pain, the pain is a reminder that you believed in a falseness. You believe that someone else can make you happy or ge your reason for existing.
The person for you is the person in the mirror. You are the person for you. No one else. That's why heartache is so debilitating, because you've disempowered your worth and places it into the idea of another person.
I'm glad your daughter could steer you off your trap, but don't delude yourself into Thinking that the pain will disappear, it never will. Embrace it and practice on loving that aspect of you
@@devarmont87 yes, totally understand that but sometimes you get gut punched and have to “remember “ all that again. At this point, I take my lessons more seriously and take them with me to the next NEW💫
I have loved the conversation so far.
I have a perspective to add.
One hand clapping.
You told your story that you needed to have another hold that space for you.
So you were lucky enough to learn that lesson of self love through love.
That's wonderful.
We can also learn it through trauma.
We can learn it through a "toxic" relationship where you get abandoned in some way.
Then through taking the time and being alone without being, "in the game".
Because we can work through what happened and find all the same answers when we find them in ourselves.
We don't need to be in a relationship to learn to love ourselves and not need anyone else to hold space for us than ourselves. But someone else doing it is a lovely way, if we get to that point before the options get farther away than your energy. 😂
For the first time in my life i learned about how to be vulnerable and how the right person is going to recieve your vulnerability with an open heart and show love to you and how it makes you brave. Thankyou for such an amazing discussion. 🌸
“When you overvalue the wrong things you get yourself into a world of pain”
I felt that.
I started listening to Matthew about a year ago, and I’ve gotten so much value from his videos and interviews. This was the best one yet. The interviewer did an amazing job, and Matthew’s answers were so in sync with where I’m at on my spiritual journey. After getting out of an abusive relationship 1 1/2 years ago, I used that experience as a springboard to deeper healing, and I to the wonderful world of curiosity and “I don’t know.”
The ending and the piece about chronic pain (physical and emotional) was 🤯🤯🤯 Also, right on time for where I am with my relationship with pain as well (and making the connection to the pain and stress and my “dis-ease” in my body)… I have no words. That was some profound stuff.
I had no intintion of ordering your book. It just wasn’t on my radar, as I’m not “looking for love” any longer… and this interview made me realize I am. Of course we all want more love! I just am thinking about how juicy loving myself more is. And how wonderful loving my life more has been in the last year and some change… who doesn’t want more of THAT?! A greater relationship with yourself?!?! Like, it can keep getting better?! Sign me up!
Thank you for this interview. Both of you.
Im a female age 58 widow who finally took the risk after 24 year marriage to get out there and date. I had a wonderful six months, but this person was a narcissist love bombed me at the beginning, and after the faded, we slowly went downhill he broke up with me, and I felt the rejection so deep that I realized my ADHD issues of rejection sensitivity dysphoria, and that took me into a whole other world of learning this last winter, I’m finally getting enough courage to leave and let go although he broke up with me. We stayed friends this whole last winter and I was hanging on and hanging on your talk today hit me and I’m excited for the book to arrive and I’m gonna be on that live coaching where you set me up for the next year cause I’m ready to take the steps thank you Matthew. You are an amazing person and I’m so glad you’re sharing your whole self in this book. I will respect every page love from Annette. Canada 🇨🇦
Men don’t understand how similar women actually are. It is rare a man says the right thing, when asked what a woman wants. Kudos to Matt.
Wow! I love this collab - unexpected, so props to you both for widening your circles
matthew is the epitome of the wounded healer, he deeply understands the depths of pain and is so beautifully compassionate and pragmatic in his perspective - all of which is deeply healing ❤🩹
I had tinnitus for 3 years after exposure to a loud alarm. I thought it would never end and it was maddening! Matt has come such a long way!
❤ it I’m in my 7th decade. Realistic wisdom so very well articulated. Ty both 🕊️💕✨
Matthew, thank you for sharing honestly, I did similar things when I was a child, thought I was punishing others, but I really was the one punished, missing on so many things in my life. I still have to deal with it today, the memory, as I am not longer doing this but it is some regreat about stuff we did miss. Great interview Andre, thank you for putting this together.
It’s such a trip to watch why something like feminism even exists in real time! I love it!
Such a wonderful conversation. Thank you Andre for being a great host and Matthew for being so honest and vulnerable
This is the most real, mind opening and heart opening thing I’ve heard in a long while. Even I myself felt very in tune and connected to your convo as a listener. I cried the whole way through, thankyou a million , this has really helped me come out of my avoidant and numbness to actually feeling what I’ve not been able to feel and connect within myself . Thankyou so much, your work is powerful. ❤
Huge shift Matthew… disappointment is a lot easier to get over than the chronic grieving that comes
From telling ourselves a story that we’ve found our person🤯🤯🤯
The more I listen to this dating coach though very valuable the closer I got to differentiate between a dating coach and a love coach. Very interesting! A love coach transcends it all! True lovers may or may not need to date. They live life in love that’s it. All the insights I get here are serving me in that direction therefore very valuable to me! We need love to date but we don’t need to date to love! We need to date a certain age but we don’t need age to love. We need to date only people but we don’t need to love only people. We need a partner to date but we can love anyone even alone! I didn’t know the difference until recently and it helped me know who I am - a powerful love coach! In my eyes, I prefer to love than just date! So thank you very much! You opened up my path by making it clearer.
Always had a secret crush on Matthew Hussey. Now I love him even more. ❤
What a illuminating conversation. Really got a lot of value from this one. Thank you Matthew and Andre!
The Collective Consciousness of Love brings our partners to us. There is nothing we have to do but to love ourselves with Divine God Love. I promise. Every day focus on bringing joy to your life, prayer, meditation with loving every cell of your body. This is the recipe to manifesting a true love for our hearts. 🥰
Thank you so much for the fantastic conversation!! Mathew is an outstanding writer and expert on relationships! I loved the book, and I'm passing it on to my daughter ❤️🙏
I hate the words I don’t know!!!! I love the words: I WANT TO KNOW…I WANT TO FIND OUT… I WANT TO STAY CURIOUS… FOR (MY) LIFE!!!!
I like how you do not interrupt and let him respond.
This has been a beautiful podcast with a lot of acceptance, love and taking responsibility.
Lovely to listen 2❤
these amazing men brought me to tears. heartfelt conversation...just beautiful!
I'm tearing up by the vulnerability shown and felt...beautiful, thank you both!
This was so good, I love being able to witness men having open conversations about these deep topics with such sensitivity and openness. Matthew's work is helping me finally understand what some of my blocks around finding lasting love have been coming from. He really highlights how universal these struggles are, and I'm grateful! Thanks for bringing him on.
that childhood story, it hits home... It's very helpful to reflect on that now and see how it's rooted deep. Great interview! Lots of insights
Wow, I dont know what compelled me to watch this, this morning, but what a gift. Just in this past hour, I am putting myself back in the game ( it's something i have wanted longer than i can remember), and I'm buying the book and coming to the event. Maybe I'll even get to work with Matthew. Thanks Andre and Matthew for raising my standards!
Hi Matthew, thank you for your compassion on delayed fertility to none at all due to not staying truth to the desire of a family. My ex husband kick the can so far down the road on starting a family with me. Evertually I had to let him go. If someone decide not want to be a father, it is only right not to continue with the relationship or marriage. It is no one's fault. It is our decision to make and move on. I pray for all men and women out there to had to grief the time missed on the chance to conceive and make life. Amen
Just bought the book because I've spent the last thirty years of my life in that room missing the sleepover. Better late than never.
Wonderful interview!!! Matthew provided sooo many “A HA” viewpoints. I already pre-ordered the book🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
One of the best stuff I’ve ever heard I’m going through heartbreak plus more and this has given me hope excitement for my future
Thank you so much, this podcast saved a very important relationship in my life because it brought so much insights around my own wounds. Thank you Matthew for sharing your vulnerability, it saved a very beautiful relationship in my life. Thank you both for this profound healing experience! 🙏💗
I hope this show becomes available on hulu, prime, netflix. I truly appreciate it & all the information I learn from the guest.
Thank you for sharing. I can +1 on how emotionally draining relationships can create seemingly incurable diseases that vanish as soon as the stress factor is removed.
I love the way you state as a matter of fact "that was not the right person', there have been a number of fabulous guys I was simply not compatible with. Thank you for making the analogy of the wall. That is the point to remember for me.
I LOVE the personal experience Matthew shares with us at 23:23 mark. ❤
Does anyone else get frustrated when we are told to “just love life” when we are working 60 hours a week? Who has time to love life properly these days? Makes me more depressed to know that I don’t have the proper foundation for what you are talking about due to circumstances outside of my control.
I use to feel similar to this before my healing journey. Until I realized I have all the power. You have to believe in it first then put the footwork in to achieve such desires. You have to first understand the principles of thought and word having power. That you are a creator! Speak positive affirmations into your life and circumstances. Ask for support from your guides of helpers. Or don't, we all have free will, but I will leave this for you and hope that the seed has been planted & roots to follow. BLESSING TO YOU FRIEND.
You do have control beyond what u realize.
What we work 8 hours, rest it's life. Without work does not make sense. We are wrong teach, if we do get a good job we do have life. But it depends how we spend time out side the job.
Hi Christina, sending lots of love from Ireland. Read 'You Can Heal Your Life' by Louise Hay. It completely changed my life and my sisters. It gives you the tools you need. Take your time reading it. It will blow your mind!! 🫶
1:26 the 1 thing to remember is you are loving life just right!.... Think not. Your reality is the only one that holds any sway. You are still seeking. Congratulations you won.
Something about MH has changed and he has gone from great to unforgettable.
Thank you for this superb conversation. Loved the analogy of the dolphin and the mind-body connection
Great conversation and also killer lighting on your podcast.
I agree!
There's a saying in Spanish that's says "el que se enoja, pierde". Which means "he who gets angry, loses". The sleepover story is a perfect example of it.
Thank you for this amazing talk!
It’s great to work towards a more deep more connected and reflected understanding of us, our loved ones and those we meet on the journey of life!
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Thank you for your interaction and The magic you created❤
Thank you André. This is so precious. I love the people you bring on and your questions. 🙏🐛🦋🐉
This was great, thank you. I just pre-ordered the book on audible.
Wow, each interview I watch regarding the SAME book is phenomenal. 'Each' interview covers something that SO resonates with where I am. Mario Andretti was very insightful; your childhood/trust issues was vulnerable. I like you more each interview. I stopped listening to you some time ago, yet, now since Audrey, you are much more of a 'real' person. Thanks!
Btw, you're interview with Mel Robbins was sooooo cute, unexpectedly so! 😊
love it thank you!! 🤩 I read the book and loved it, I"m in Matthew's online community and I appreciate the focus on healing, new beginnings and starting over as I navigate my own heartbreak and believe that better things are to come, thank you for this inspiring conversation, you two are a gift!
Amazing! So relating to ”the wall ” and also the last part with rat A & rat B. Applies to all in life! Time to read your book and find courage to face myself🙏🏻❤️
Discovered Matthew on another podcast 2 days ago and I was so impreesed. Wanted to hear him again. And again... I am 68 and he just gave me the answers to my long years of questionning. I would have had a better love life had I met him younger. But better late than sorry! Will defenitely buy the book and really read every word carefully. By the way, I am French speaking and living in Quebec, Canada. Thank you so much for being part of this world. Great interviewer. So fascinating and loved every minute of it. Success to both of you. Jocelyne
Beautiful! Mutual YES or nothing else will work. ❤
1:17:00 wow rat A : pain into power 1:20:00 WOW: REMOVING THINGS FROM MY LIFE❤
Thank you. What a wonderful podcast. I am a college professor in public health and I will be sharing this with all my students.
omg haha.. "i don't like me... but i hope YOU will..." so true... you have to love yourself first.
That episode was so helpful , would be nice to have Mathew back again :)
This was an awesome conversation, thank you both. I will most definitely be getting this book.
God Bless You! Time and space is cyclical; time is not always linear. Lessons is what make relationships beautiful. ❤ Peace, Minister Hanifah Hightower, Detroit
There are a couple of past relationships I'd think "wrong time, wrong place" but now will give them no more mental energy - because they weren't for me 🤷🏾♀️ The release is great 😄
There are so many more possibilities than the one s you've been telling yourself. 💙✨
43:20 YOU. JUST. CHANGED. MY. LIFE. I AM FUCKIN DONE. YOU JUST MADE ME SEE MY WINGS. Virgo left level 2 building and is Ave Phoenixing into CONSICIOUS HIGH LEVEL AUTHORITY NEW LIFE HIGH VIBE BAM❤
I would listen to a whole episode on tinnitus and narcissistic relationships… I can’t believe it came up ..
Loved this whole conversation- didn’t know the tinnitus stuff. When it happens to me I say “I’m listening, what do I need to hear?” and I stop. & It stops. Dunno - but i was intrigued to hear about his journey. Thanks for the ace Q’s too. 🙏🏽
❤Deeply appreciate this podcast and your guest transparency . Thank you
Power conversation, as per usual 🖤🙏🏼🌟
Wow this was awesome. So insightful. Matthew, you've gone so far. 🎉❤
This is such a beautiful conversation. Thank you both so much ❤❤
amazing questions in the end, great interview and a lot of appreciation to Matthew!
Thank you, your words are like magic in my life.
Thank you Matthew for reminding me about William Zinzer's book, On Writing Well. Worth a reread. Beautiful conversation, gentlemen ❤🙏🥰
Woow just woow. He is speaking my words. My heart is breaking and mending at the same time. Thank you so much 💓
I have known for years, I was repeating a pattern but have been asking for years also ok I have this pattern but how do I break the chain??? Matthew just gave me the answer with "the wall". Very gratefull. Thank you for your work and book that will help me break the chain. ❤
Super conversation about love&life,Congrats!!thank you Audre& Matthew,highly appreciated!!❤
so true Andre… do you know who self is the most important thing before we start looking. I would love to come on your show and talk about my chapter and my latest book miracles online, finding through and lasting love and digital world, the most important part to me is the self work.
I honestly think this guys wife being a good person to begin with has far more to do with what he’s saying than what he actually did. So many of us have lost women because we thought we could share vulnerabilities, not to mention those vulnerabilities being used against you the second everything isn’t Sunshine and Rainbows
Beautiful timing. Thank you!
So much wisdom in this whole thing, one of M’s best interviews, thank you both so much 🙏☮️💖
I truly enjoy this conversation so much.
Thank you
Great conversation. Many thanks for this gift.🎉
Thank you Andre, I appreciate this reflection with Mathew Hussey, will be getting the book.. first time I visit your channel & I subscribed 🫶
I needed this. Thank you.
I strongly believe there is evolution and for me it includes the conviction that everything grows and gets better and better... So, let's imagine our Ideals being lived by us truly and fully. Self-realisation is the highest goal. ✌️
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Thank you very much for this great interview. 🙏🙏🙏
You're never actually "ready" to become a parent. To a large extent, you become ready when you need to. The ability to "control birth" with birth control has allowed the fear of parenting to overwhelm the reality that at any point, you can decide or be forced to grow up, and that's been an important impetus for many throughout history to learn how to parent. (It has also scared many to run away and be bad parents, to be sure). Wanting the "maturity" of an older woman without being willing to do the work to grow up and be mature enough to face parenthood is just so so self-centered, and men need to acknowledge that before messing with women. Kudos to Andre for at least having the conversation quickly.
I love being alone so much, that I often turn down what were probably great opportunities. After watching this podcast Im more open to exploring my options. Key moments had me laughing as I was married , have had five children, and those things are off my table, but often younger men are into me, and i think....no no no .... youve got to have your children on your timeline 😂
This is everything I didn’t know I needed to hear!