Be More CONFIDENT With The High Five Habit | Mel Robbins | Rich Roll Podcast
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- Опубліковано 18 тра 2024
- Mel Robbins is a former lawyer turned CNN legal analyst, bestselling author, talk show host, and one of the most widely booked public speakers in the world. Her new book is The High Five Habit. To read more about Mel and peruse the full show notes, go here👉🏾bit.ly/richroll630
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:59 - Perspective on The Mel Robbins Show
00:11:17 - Voicing Change
00:12:16 - Mel's Past Struggle with Anxiety
00:20:15 - The Story of Mel's Journey to this Point - Quitting Her Job with a Law Firm
00:25:59 - Mel's Start in Digital Marketing & Becoming a Life Coach
00:29:20 - A Life of Constant Seeking, Growth, and Failure
00:34:56 - The Suitcase Story, TV Show Deal
00:42:17 - Hitting a Rock Bottom in 2008
00:49:02 - Developing the Five Second Rule
00:55:36 - The Simplicity and Effectiveness of the 5 Second Rule
01:00:23 - Turning a Corner with a TEDx Talk
01:05:44 - Becoming a Master on Stage
01:11:03 - Distilling Simple Ideas for Complicated Problems
01:12:13 - ‘The 5 Second Rule’ Book Launch Fails (at first)
01:18:02 - Mel's Mantra
01:21:08 - The High Five Habit
01:28:44 - Why Do We Beat Ourselves Up?
01:32:25 - How the High Five Habit Works
01:38:30 - Choosing to Love Yourself
01:42:40 - Struggling with Feelings of Unworthiness
01:50:34 - Mel's Painting Story
02:04:44 - Searching for Hearts Exercise
02:08:47 - Giving Your Heart a High Five
02:12:19 - The High Five Challenge & Closing Remarks
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What struck me the most is how comfortable Mel is with failure. THIS is life-changing to me: that someone that successful could have screwed up so many times, and still come out on top. Amazing. Thank you a million times.
I agree.
Me too agree to the fullest. 🙏
I agree❤️
She comfortable with it as she has now moved past it. When she was going through it, she never could have talked about it like this. One take off for me is that shit will happen, mistakes will be made and you have to accept that and learn from the hard times and mistakes and really persevere. The high five yourself is a new and interesting concept to me. To supplement what she says about why it works is the idea that success breeds success. So start with small success and celebrate them, applaud yourself. String together several small successes as part of a larger success and your subconscious will respond by changing it's patterns and steering you toward more success. One big benefit of meditation and visualization, is in order to get to the point of effective visualization is, you have to clear your mind of all the crap that typically runs through it. You start with the relaxation breathing and focus on the breathing as you let all those various thoughts slip away. It may take several tries, spending 20-30 minutes of relaxation breathing to be able to clear your mind, but it will get easier and you will get to that point quicker, the more you practice it. I first did the relaxation techniques in high school for athletic competition. The counting down that she discusses here I also used while racing as a way to get me ready to "make a gear change". My point being that when you learn and employ some of these simple techniques for a specific purpose, doing small modifications using the same techniques, you will be able to adapt the benefits to other venues. eg. I learned it (being my routine) to help me in racing, Mel was using similar techniques to help with career and it can be adapted to help with relationships. Deepak Chopra also gives a lot of same information contained here, but it gets delivered a little different. I really like the way Mel explains it. Several books also explain how meditation and positive self talk work. Think and Grow Rich was the book I read in high school that introduced me to the idea and techniques of retraining the brain to help you rather than give you doubts and fears that hold you back. Anyway, hope my missive helps..
Yeah I love how they started the interview that way. Really helps build rapport with the viewers.
Nice video and Thank you also for recommending your broker jessica Robert, her services are exceptional and I've been earning greatly from investing with her
Jessica Robert really is doing a lot of people a genuine favor with her daily signal! I've earned alot also
Wow i'm glad i did. I withdrew my first profit two days ago now I have another ongoing trade with her
The fruitfulness of your trading lies on the account manager or the expert
saw recommendation but I did not bother chating her up
I have been seeing so many recommendations about Jessica Robert on different platforms trending I think she must be good for people to talk about her
“This moment is preparing you for something amazing that hasn’t happened yet. Keep going.” This really resonated with me. 🙏
I call that a step in the right direction. Applaud yourself for that first step and that will lead to the next. If a problem or task seems too big to accomplish, just break it all down into a series of steps. Take one step at a time. Each step taken makes the next step easier. It's easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life and get overwhelmed but by listening to this and knowing that there are some simple things you can do and as silly as it seems, actually work and work very well, you have really taken a big step towards being able succeed in anything you do. Now you know. Next time you get overwhelmed, stop, relax and go back to just taking one step at a time. Remember to clear the doubt out of your mind and just focus on each step as it comes. I would love to hear about something that you have done in the past 8 months in which you employed Mel's techniques and how well it worked for you. If you had a few stumbles, no worries, each time you use what you learned you will get better at it, so don't let a few bumps derail you. Just keep going.
initially, i wasn't drawn to this conversation. i started listening and thought that i wouldn't be able to relate to this woman. after watching the entire thing, i appreciate her honesty and admire her love for the simple things we can do to advocate for ourselves, to grow to love ourselves, and to work with the power of our minds. thank you!
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Just love her simple and doable suggestions. Have implemented some and changed my procastinating habits.
Mel is fantastic - I’ve followed her for years
This is the best single podcast episode, of any podcast, that I’ve listened to this year. Many thanks to both Rich and Mel.
In Social Work the mantra is " meet the person where they're at..." What Mel seems to be saying is.."Meet yourself where you're at.. " Thanks Mel
No thanks hah I'd rather push for excellence / exceed my grasp. Comfort zones are where dreams die.
Totally missed the point. Zoom over the head.
Mel and Rich, it was two hours of pure gold. I know it's going to make a huge difference in how I take action and how I love myself. Thank you
I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. ua-cam.com/users/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!
43:16 I swear people admitting their failures and when they hit rock bottom is refreshing. Weird way to put it but this year I made a major change and have faced really scary times financially. It was my favorite part of the podcast. We can’t highlight reel our reality to others all the time. Thanks for this Mel! We need more honesty like this. ✋🏼🤚🏼
i am not good at listening and understanding the whole contexts exactly. it's because i'm a foreigner but this video turns into the motivation for me to learn english more harder than now. really appreciate to mel and rich to share their stories!
and one of the memorable part rich said is "it helps remind me that this difficult situation is happening 'for' me and not 'to' me" it's empowering me. thanks y'all
멋있는말이네요 keep practicing, every day!
"You'll know when you hit rock bottom because you finally hit something solid within yourself." 45:13
"There is no way, Mel, if you have worked this hard, that you will not be rewarded. You have to believe that this moment is preparing you for something amazing that hasn't happened yet. Keep going." 1:18:25
I can't tell you how perfectly timed this interview was. Thank ya'll so, so much. I am in the middle of a massive career change (vegan baker/chef for a decade to software developer) and have been having waves of fear and self-doubt. Already high-fiving myself and, honestly, feeling better and more motivated! I can't wait to see where this kooky journey will lead. So much appreciation from Nashville, TN
Go, Allison!!!!
I really want to hear how things go 2 years from now!! Good luck!!
The subconscious at work!!! It took you where you needed to be.
I really needed to hear this today. I'm someone for whom the i-beams didn't always line up and I fell. It's a real challenge to remain focused on moving forward in the face of sustained, long-term panic and stress. I'm starting over as well in an effort to get myself out of poverty.
You look like you have time on your side, I believe in you! If you are listening to Rich Roll Podcast you are taking action to better your circumstances! I myself missed a few I beams, sometimes you have to let help come in. Sometimes you end up at the food Bank, sometimes you see a ladder you can step up into! 💪😉🔥
You look like you have time on your side, I believe in you! If you are listening to Rich Roll Podcast you are taking action to better your circumstances! I myself missed a few I beams, sometimes you have to let help come in. Sometimes you end up at the food Bank, sometimes you see a ladder you can step up into! 💪😉🔥
@@hollyhinman9818 Thanks Holly! The pic is about 10 years old now. I just graduated after going back to school to better my situation (in my 50s) and make a career change. It's tough out there looking for work and the times are strange. It's also very tiring. I have to put my energy out and have faith The Universe will do its part. Thanks for your encouraging words!
You got this melody! 💪🏽❤️
High five a hole through the wall, don’t let the past be an excuse. 54321 you freaking got this!
Okay this is the third interview I've watched with Mel, about her newest book. I can't stop watching!! Every interview blows my mind, every interview she tell different stories. I'm blown away but this lady and I can't wait to shake her hand one day! Also, I didn't realize how bad her anxiety was, the story about the AG and the speech.... that's me, or should I say that WAS me. I was afraid to talk on the phone or even deal with customer's at my previous place of employment. Now I'm doing network marketing literally something I never saw my self doing, and now I can't imagine doing anything else. I've broke out of my anxious, sad, limiting shell and I'm thriving, and I owe it all to self development and God. Now this high five habit is going to shoot me and my career into outer space!!!
Thanks Rich for another great podcast. I "lost everything" after the housing crisis. I've experienced exactly what Mel described. I quit my job this summer and started digging through a lifetime of emotional garbage. This is perfect timing to add to my arsenal moving forward in a more fulfilled life.
From one neurotic to another, I love you Mel!
THIS IS THE BEST PODCAST I HAVE LISTENED TO IN THIS YEAR SO FAR
Just used the 5 second rule and ended up running for the longest I have ran in a while. Beating my last year pace also. Thanks for the motivation! 👍🤜🤛
Mel Robbins doesn't know this but she's about to change my life. I relate to so much of her story, being riddled with anxiety, homesick as a kid to the point an emergency Dr was called in, diagnosed with GAD in my 40s, living in a constant state of anxiety, I used alcohol to mask my feelings. I could go on. Instead I'm going to embrace everything she says and do everything she does so that I can be the person I believe I'm meant to be. Thank you for your awesome and life changing podcast.
This is a life altering pod cast. Her honesty and transparency is humbling. I love this discussion. Thank you!
"I don't give a F how stupid you think this is" Absolutely love it
I’ve made comments like that before. In hindsight it’s the most ridiculous of comments I’ve ever uttered. It’s a complete contradiction to anything that might be construed as profitable for the self.
@@mr.c2485 Why though? Why is it a contradiction? I’m curious.
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For me, it was a form of triggering/knee jerking. If I’m convinced of what I believe, then there is no room for either…especially if I think I’m helping others.
@@mr.c2485 I think she said it because the tactics she's talking about are very commonly casually dismissed & scoffed at, when those are the same people that are struggling but are scoffing at the tools readily available to them. I have friends like that too and sometimes you got to be frank with them
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Perhaps.
I have heard only two of your podcasts and both have changed my life . This one and Andrew huberman’s . Thank you for doing this😀😀
I loved this interview and the fascinating back story about Mel Robbins’ career rise. I found the story of grit and resilience in her marriage to be really inspiring. Rich has such a gift for creating an environment for deep truth-telling. I’m amazed at how easy he makes it look, but to create a cone of safety for the guest and and to be that free and casual with all the studio tech going on is a clinic in documentary interviewing : ).
Everyone who watches this is immediately walking into their bathrooms, smiling wide as they give themselves a high five :) much love
I sure did.
For sure!! 🙋🏼♀️
I disagree with (only) one thing that Mel Robbins says in min 53. I don't thing we need to be "ready" (will we ever be?). I believe we need to be WILLING. Willingness is the internal force that moves us into action.
Great point! Thank u!🖤
I have a very similar story about a beloved work of art. Her story made me cry.
I really needed this podcast badly..thank you so much. I did the 5 second countdown about 15 times during the end of my first 50k. It was the only way I got through it because my body was hurting so much I couldn't respond. But counting down helped me start running again when I thought I couldn't. Thanks for this podcast rich!.
1:18 -"There's no way Mel,that you can work this hard and not be rewarded!"...love that.
I just need to keep taking notes of all this inspirational content here. Amazing podcast Rich.
Your humility is contagious
Mel is the bomb! Great ep. I started listening to her in 2018 and love her book The 5 Second Rule. It honestly helped me perform without the pre performance, performance anxiety that has plagued me for my entire life. She’s so funny, down to earth and completely honest. Well done 👏🏼
Please have her back ASAP Rich!
I just wanted to say thank you for this podcast. I cried...I ordered both her books. Thank you.
Your voice is always so calming to me. ❤ You Mel. So much. ❤
Authentic woman in her integrity no matter the circumstances, that alone is inspiring…
Thank you Mel x and Rich for interview :)
Now THIS is the kind of story we need. So thankful to hear what she’s gone through… how she’s reframed… and that everything happens as it’s meant to.
From one Michigander to another Mel's voice personally speaks to me - her uniquely honest view is so raw, direct and moving. I suspect portions of this video will go viral.
This is an empowering interview. Humane and motivating in a compassionate, honest way.
Thank You ✨
One of the more compelling, even riveting, discussions I’ve heard in a while.
Mel, I love you but I believe the purpose of life is joy. Thanks for helping us to show up. Don't forget to smell the flowers. 💐 😍❤️
Here I am watching this video on UA-cam through my TV set while having breakfast and explaining to my mother, who of course does not understand a word in English, and in addition has Alzheimer's, how this extraordinary woman achieved to overcome her huge anxiety problem. Mesmerizing to say the least.
Thanks a lot, Mel and Rich.
Beautiful
@@kcampos5619 Thank you!
Oh My Gosh, I love this woman!! No one tells it like it is like Mel Robbins!! Great podcast!
"Life is school. It's not meant to be enjoyed." Deep.
Another reason to avoid consuming animal flesh and lactation. Life isn't about "pleasure" It isn't always about "us"
Future pandemics (school) etc. until we learn to do what's right. Meanwhile, the "dog meat" trade lives on... :(
I thought he was being sarcastic…do you guys really find that quote deep?
@@JB5D and what does any of this have to do with being a vegan
@@jamesw.blatch1584 Meditate on it. Pretty self-explanatory. Choose compassion. Live vegan.
@@jamesw.blatch1584 I’m trying find out what this has to do with vegan as well lol
As I listened to this interview I found myself wondering “If Mel was a Black woman would her story be the same? Would all of those failures eventually lead to this level of success?” BTW Great interview.
This is great. As an aside, I love that she curses like a sailor. It made me feel at home ;)
This has been 2:14 of your life that feels like 24 mins.I have been onto Mel Robbins since 2019....and what I LOVE is how she relates real issues,real emotions,real thoughts...(I am sad to say I was feeling these thoughts today)....but she is powerful and talks to you....not everything is sunshine and rainbows
Wow! Just wow! I connect with both of you so deeply! I think we’ve traveled similar roads of childhood trauma, codependency, and conditional love. Oh, and if I had satisfying conversations like this everyday, I could rule the world! 😂
As always with this show, my life has improved because of this episode. I love the high five practice and will be adding it to my routine.
I can relate to this conversation so much. Thank you!!!
*”If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride - and never quit, you'll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.” - Bear Bryant*
This ain’t no football game.
Thanks Rich and Mel❤
Rich dead set mate this is honestly one of the most impactful real impactful stories I have had the pleasure of hearing. The painting story did it for me. Thank you so very much x
“Dead set mate…” lol so Aussie Roxanne 👌❤️
@@jamesw.blatch1584 all the way from The Sunshine State Queensland 😘
Reminds me of the “20 seconds of courage” in the movie We Bought a Zoo. Great episode!
How beautiful! I had given up (for the rest of my life) 3 years ago, when I moved to live next to my mother for her health, on ever finding a little house with a garden in my favorite quiet neighborhood, and a few months ago, it just materialized. I love the story of the painting.
Listening to this podcast made me accept them my failures and let go of them… this was really helpful! Thank you!
Love Mel! Great podcast Rich!
Always ready to bring diversity into my knowledge. Simple and science approved. 🙌🙌My morning routine needed a little " je ne sais quoi !" Will definitely practice this! ✋
This interview hit me hard. OMG. I have such an association with your experiences. I am a F*** up too! Even with the education and experiences I have....such a loser. I am glad to see this interview. I cried. Touched me BIG time.
Thank you Rich for pointing out the problems with the self help industry. Some of it has absolutely “made me” to a shrinking flower. And thank you Mel for sharing your shitty moment in front of the mirror. I love your honesty
Loved this heartfelt truly relatable podcast! Namaste
What a cool, funny and inspiring lady!
Here to spread some love and kindness to those reading this comment. Have the best day. You deserve it🧘🏻♀️
That talk is so empowering. Thank you for your words Mel!
This was such a great interview and storytelling I had to listen twice. Thanks Rich and Mel.
Awe. For so long I was so hesitant for a very long time to listen to her because I thought she was Tony Robinson wife.
I'm glad I listen. Rich Roll you didn't let me down. Another amazing guest that speaks so loudly to my life...
Thank you.
Could have listened to an extra hour!! So much gold here! Love you both 💕
Resilience.... Mel and the host thank you I needed this
Absolutely eye opening! I resonated with Mel from Anxiety to just always running away from life and myself to finally, at 52, getting to really know and accept who I am. I have fallen in Love with this pod cast and everyone's story. We are all in this crazy life together. So blessed to have found this outlet. Learning so much all the time. Looking forward to future guests and ordering Mel's book as soon as I finished typing. Take Care. Peace Out. :-)
This podcast was so moving! Practical and easily digestible advice. Much love!
Mel being transparent about her journey is impactful, and how she paints the picture is masterful. One of your greatest interviews Rich 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Wonderful message that’s very important for many to hear at this time. Thank you for sharing your piece of the puzzle for humanity to move forward. ❤️🌷
I've heard only a half of the episode so far but I can't believe how many similarities there are between her story and Simon Sinek's. The TEDx happening quite organically for both of them, not intending to become speakers, speaking about a very simple idea that worked for them, the talk becoming hugely popular online without them even knowing, the first book not being on the list but becoming a bestseller later on.... And, she articulated her WHY quite clearly. To move people 👏👏👏
I’ve listened to so many of your podcasts - all great, but this one hit home right in my heart. I’m mid-40s & needing to put my needs first and find myself. But no idea how. Now with these tools - thanks Mel and Rich, I’m feeling like it’s all do-able. 👋🏼 to you both!
Thank you Mel and Rich, this conversation helped me a lot !
So good. The value you two are providing is seriously otherworldly and has a profound impact on people. Thank you
So excited to listen to two of my favourite mentors! Thanks to you both, Rich & Mel! Always amazing!
Thank you Rich, for reaching out to Mel to get this piece of content. I can't wait to one day make content and talk to people and learn what you get to learn through conversations.
So GOOD!! Thank you, Rich and Mel!!!
One of the best life coaching video and really truly inspiring. Thanks rich for bringing this on.
I really needed this message, thank you Rich and Mel. You are helping us so much, making our lives better in ways you can't imagine. Peace blessings and many thanks.
As always thank u for so much useable content!! U both always give another voice to what I’m teaching students in Long Beach CA! Amaaaaaaazing
What an honest, amazing conversation between these two. So much to learn and reflect on... I am definitely going to be reading the book and make a change in my life.
This was one of the best podcasts I have ever listened to! I listened to it but by bit whilst working out and it was totally worth it
Absolutely remarkable conversation 💜 I love Mel's message - so important. Thank you Rich and Mel 🙏
Loved this! Simple but sooo helpful!
Wow, what a wonderfully eye opening conversation! Definitely going to implement these tools! 💕
Thank you Rich for what you do, truly! I love this episode.
What a deep, honest and funny conversation with you both. Love it!
Mel Robbins . . I need this so much. I am scared to make a change but this is empowering and I will take a deeper dive. “This moment is preparing you for something amazing that hasn’t happened yet. Keep going.” I really need to believe in this
. I will be telling myself this.
The best podcast ever !! Thank you ❤️
I really LOVED this podcast. Thank you Rich! Mel is so good at spreading this positive energy - really contagious! It was a real treat.
interesting study. Thank you. Anxiety, medication, ADHD, Drug addiction Zoloft, and bad behavior. I do not recall one time during that conversation the term mental illness was used? I find the absence fascinating.. Entrepreneurship........Stunning!
Love this woman . Best interview ever ! Will send it to everyone I know.
Very inspiring. Sometimes you feel like you are the only one struggling and kicking yourself for past mistakes. Then you realize you are not the only one and that you can persevere. We all have so many blessings and we forget that sometimes.
Whoa. Kairos, my friends! I've been listening to the both of you recently, and find resonance in both of your stories. This, today, was medicine. I know, because I felt it. I'm 60, starting again from nothing...almost sold my Cervelo but not yet. Getting a new hip which initially I found insulting, but now I see it as "setting me up for something amazing." This episode was powerful, moving, and so meaningful for me, you know, like it was meant to happen(Kairos). Without going on, and on, I'm so grateful for this and look forward to my life opening up to financial stability and perhaps a relationship. Both of you have impacted me in bonkers positive ways. Onward! ...high five!
Thanks, I needed this today. It's been a rough year and after finally getting a job I got hurt and can't work again. I've had very negative thoughts and I will try these techniques to move forward.
This video really did change my life. I had hit a low point two years ago after a breakup. When I think back to the moment my life started going in an uphill trajectory, I think of this video.
Writing that just gave me shivers.
Thank you, thank you, thank you both!!
Xoxoxo,
Rebel Fitz
Rich looks better Today......& Mel is the BEST of the BEST --- Rich, Mel IS ACTUALLY right........
Thank you both for having this conversation and reminding me to give myself I high-five as I can totally relate with Mel. I felt so heard, seen, and validated. In a world where they all conditioned us to feel less than be accepted lieu of our achievements is so messed up that I'm happy to hear that we're all going through it together and help each other to reclaim our inherent power again. We are worthy for BEING ALIVE, damn it!
I'm crying tears of joy feeling so supported by strangers online. We got this, y'all. We are love. We are.
This podcast is really educational Thank you in connection to the fact that toxic anxiety needs to be addressed truthfully Thank you again.