Kalvin Garrah is far WORSE than you thought
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- Опубліковано 27 чер 2024
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This video contains discussions around transphobia, ableism, fatphobia and mental health.
Fun fact: making this video destroyed my sanity.
I have made time stamps because this video is very long. If you're only wanting watch some of I would encourage you all to watch Lars and Noah's stories because I really want people to be aware of how serious Kalvin's actions are - I think it's very important their stories are out there.
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Time Stamps
(If you're going only wanting watch some of this video, I would encourage you to watch Lars and Noah's stories)
Chapters:
0:00 Intro
1:20 The Beginning
3:51 Kalvin‘s content changes
5:48 Brennen Beckwith
11:31 "Being trans is a mental illness"
14:06 Ashton Daniel
19:45 Kalvin's channel is deleted
22:18 The Tr*nny voice"
26:24 Lars's Story
33:14 Blaire White
34:55 Supporting a TERF
38:18 Noah's Story
45:34 Korviday
46:57 Cavetown "beef"
50:38 Kalvin's decline
54:25 Arielle Scarcella
55:45 Riley Grace Roshong
59:02 "Breaking my silence"
1:00:56 Neo Pronouns
1:03:31 The End
MY PART TWO IS OUT NOW !!
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What are your pronouns?
@@marcus.... It
3:08 is a banger
yay I'm the 444th like on this comment 😄
Calling into a federal agency because you don’t think someone is trans or disabled enough is a whole new level of evil
Yeah that's just messed up
This happens ALL the time with disability. Every disabled person I know has been harassed at some point for either allegedly faking or allegedly committing fraud (like actual legal fraud) via their disability.
@@Anonymous-54545 My mom is currently trying to work to get disability insurance and all that crap for me because I'm mentality disabled. However, she's also very concerned that said services will refuse me because I don't "seem" disabled
Jesus fucking christ
@@lizsharpeartist 🌌🥰how bout you learn the difference between "their" and "there" before writing stupid shit 😘🌌
he rebranded transphobia, like “sure you can be trans but if you don’t look, sound and identify like what i want you to... i will bully you”
This was the exact mindset I used to have when I allowed myself to be swept away in Ben Shortpenos crowd and had my dad indulge my views and let me say that shit is damaging and if I didn't get out of there as soon as I did I fear I would've turned out like Kalvin. It's noting but a hate circle jerk with nothing but wanting to put down people who were already at a disadvantage.
reminds me of blaire white
Sounds exactly like Blaire White lmao
@@namis6925 Haha "Shortpenos" XD I hope I remember that once I'm sober lol
This is the mindset I had and that I still struggle with to this day because I watched kalvin when I was trying to figure myself out
he is so focused on the “right way” to be trans that he doesn’t realize that his experience is not universal. just because you experienced one thing one way doesn’t mean EVERYONE did.
@Boop but I don't think that's the only thing wrong with his content even when he made videos being "nicer" to other trans people. The videos he reacted to still were bombarded with tons of hate. These views are the root of the problem because they breed hate and create an audience who bullies others. Of course being hostile didn't help and encourages his audience even more but his views and ideology still attracted these kinds of people who were already hostile towards trans people and already transphobic.
@Boop these views gave these transphobic people a reason to be even more hateful.
@Boop trans people can be transphobic dipshit. being one group doesn't mean you never can have prejudice. and self hate exists
@@bingus48 I agree with you! You see, I am a person of color who has a deep seeded prejudice against other people of color. This is because Im bi and have faced discrimination from people who look just like me, even more so than other races. So my subconscious mind says "don't tell these people your true sexuality else you may be mentally harmed" Its sad and I know that not all of them are like that but I cant help but feel like that sometimes😔
@@bingus48 Can confirm, a lot of the other trans people I know were/are subconsciously transphobic towards me.
Kalvin Garrah: Laughs at child sex abuse victim who attempted suicide as a direct result of Kalvin's harassment
Kalvin Garrah: Why musician doesn't like me :'(
Also didn’t be bully an Austin person for using neopronouns and then they ended up attempting suicide as well, and he basically made a half assed video saying like “oh lol it’s not my fault they’re sensitive”?
Also if the vid maker says this later in the video, I didn’t know bc I’m not done watching yet, I’m only 20 minutes in.
@@uhhhahhh4793 i’m pretty sure the person used they/them but he bullied them because he was mad at the fact that they called themself a “soft boy” as a joke?? i’m not entirely sure it’s been a while since i’ve heart about it
LITERALLY
Yeah, I think it was the same person that Kalvin said was faking their INVISIBLE illness for oppression points. The person in question had Elos dolos syndrome and used a wheelchair when they needed to. As a person with an invisible illness, I'm disgusted at the fact that he didn't even say sorry for that
'an Austin person', 'Elos dolos syndrome'
“i dress like this because it’s TIGHT AS FUCK” what a king i love him
I know! He's amazing and so brave!
i absolutely adore his confidence
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@@noriii 52:35
@@Tijggie82 thanks lol
“Kalvin’s Decline”
all I see is Calvin’s deKlein and I’m hoping you made that pun on purpose
Omg I love your vids Frederic! The joke was hilarious too👌
FEDERIC IS HEREEBJSANZ
👖👖👖
yoooo fred from scooby doo
omg hi 😳
Y’all know that people who use wheelchairs don’t have to be wheelchair bound
Right?
*sees a wheelchair user lying in bed* HEY NOW-
Yeah, like there is one thing that messes with people's joints and makes it hard to walk for a long time, so it's easier for them to use wheelchairs. And people keep having to put in their joints back. Like, they can sometimes watch for a small amount of time, but it causes a lot of pain. I'm not a doctor or a professional, but I forgot the name.
@@StomachAcid ehler danos syndrome maybe
@@wishingwell_333 Maybe, something like that. But it's really sad :(
The dumbest part is that he acknowledged that, and then continued on.
Honestly it’s sad that Kalvin, when transitioning, decided to absorb literally all the shittiest personality traits associated with men
I mean ... he picked the name Kalvin - the name literally means “bald” and everyone I’ve ever met with that name has been a complete and utter wanker.
Kinda sexist of u
Yeah I used to be kind of a man and other men were definitely a source of pain, toxic masculinity is too real
He didn’t “absorb” anything. Hate to break it to you but trans men can be just as mean and sexist as biological men.
@@beanerbeanie yeah I was making a joke
Throwback to when I tweeted Kalvin, “claiming people who don’t experience being trans the same as you are making you look bad is the same as masc gay men saying fem gay men make them look bad”, and he told me to stick to doing makeup 🙃
Couldn't have said it better myself
- A fan 💜
Queeeeeeen 💕
Fuck him, you are a queen 👑 we love you Samantha
Damn he's full on decided to become a misogynist as part of his transition 😬 glad I didn't opt for the toxic masculinity expansion pack when I got my T script and referral for top surgery 🥴
The fact that he has had a platform so large for so long when he says stuff like this confuses me so much.
P.S.- Huge fan of your content
Kalvin Garrah gives me school bully vibes, big time. He reminds me of all the people who mocked me and didn't want to be me. It's awful.
Same. I find him and Blaire White utterly repulsive because their entire body language and tone oozes contempt, especially in the collab video about Milo.
It's disturbing to me as well to watch them when they remind me so much of my time being bullied at school. The way they play innocent, deflect and make excuses and how somehow people still buy it despite them being so obviously devoid of empathy :(
Same here. I hear these stories and it's bringing back screwy memories from fourth grade.
Same. I hate Blaire and Kalvin and their rhetoric personally been very toxic for me. Their ideology prevented me from discovering that I’m non-binary until recently and their anti SJW videos caused me to go down the alt right rabbit hole.
Didn't he actually get in trouble with his school for bullying/targeting a trans classmate at some point??? I know he complained about getting in trouble with his school for something like that - So he literally is a school bully
As a criminal justice major, Kalvin should know he's playing with fire. If someone actually does succeed at s**cide because of his actions, he could be charged with manslaughter in the United States.
Exactly
I don't want to start trouble or blame anyone but please can you edit the wording? "Success" and "s*icide" really don't belong together, an alternative could be "dying from s*icide". Again, I don't want to call anyone out or sth, it's just a sensitive issue to talk about.
Edit: I'm also willing to take criticism if my wording sounds inappropriate for any reason!
@@oddball_lynn5972 if someone commits.
@@oddball_lynn5972 I’ll be candid, as somebody whose attempted suicide many, MANY times I don’t understand why that’s necessary. It seems kind of silly tbh.
No... he wouldnt but ok bud.
Is it just me or is Kalvin incredibly sexist? He told Samantha Lux to “stick to her makeup” when she gave him valid criticism, and the tone in his voice when he says “oh I guess we’re calling her _she_* and then goes on to fatshame Brennen... and whenever he sees someone that’s visually more feminine he goes “oh they’re female presenting 🙁” with some sort of disgust in his voice. It would also explain why he’s so anti-sjw, since sjw originated from the feminist movement. It seems like Kalvin has a lot of insecurity he likes to reflect onto others lol. That’s why he got so offended when Brennen gave valid criticism and only got 533 views. 533 views doesn’t seem like a lot to us, but to a person who is so insecure they can’t handle anyone else’s perspective on them, it was a lot to him. I don’t think it’s just sexism either, I think it’s just anything he deeply hates about himself, he reflects that insecurity onto others. That’s why he keeps fatshaming. Not to shame him either, but he’s called multiple people “fat” (in a negative way) when he’s about the same size as them.. did anyone else notice that?
And to top it all off: how he bullies other trans people when he’s literally trans. He’s just insecure and a literal bully. A bully reflecting his self hatred and insecurities onto everyone else. He also wants to seem like “yes I’m trans but I’m not like other trans people” like damn bro you’re so quirky lol.
Sorry if my comment is super messy, there’s just a lot to say about this guy. If he doesn’t already have one, he should seek a therapist. And a healthy outlet. It seems like he wants to please sexists, transphobes, and just any sort of bigot because he likes feeling validation from them. He’s one of those “I’m not like other trans people.” I really hope he can just reflect on all of this and become a better person.
Yeah that's pretty sexist
Great comment and not messy! Don’t apologize :)
Oof- Samantha mentioned it in her latest video but she didn't name any names and all I could think was, " well fk whoever said that 'cause she is much more kinder, much more educated and talented than he'll ever be. " you're right this guy is a literally bully.
You should watch contrapoints "Cringe" video... it explains basically the same thing but in more depth
@@jamiehatesyou9175 I agree
i know several people who are in wheelchairs who can walk? paralysis isn't the only reason people need wheelchairs??
I HATE when people who aren't disabled or aren't educated on the community speak like this
Imagine accusing someone of faking a disability you know literally nothing about
@@worldsbiggestholdthegirlfan sadly those are the people who feel the need to shout the loudest... completely disregarding that their opinions are both irrelevant and harmful
as a disabled person its literally so scary to see so many people think like this. i dont have a wheelchair but i know if i did get one, my life would significantly improve. Yet I'm scared of being accused of faking disabilities so I don't think I'll get one.
Yup, my friend with EDS gets this all the time. He usually uses a wheelchair for hilly places or long walks, but he can walk short distances on flat ground. Just because he doesn't use a wheelchair 24/7 doesn't mean he's faking having a disability (and why would someone do that?)
Kalvin Garrah is kinda like jake Paul for young trans people - they watch him when they’re younger and stop when they come to their senses
Wait this literally works because I used to watch jake Paul AND Kalvin kshsjsj
Literally, when I first started researching and learning about Trans people, his videos were extremely popular, so I watched them. Now I’m almost an adult i see his insecurities in his cruel content
Yes! I agree! I watched him when I was younger and have now stopped watching him
Ngl, did watch him a lot a year ago or so. Now I feel like what je says is utterly redicilous and harmful
This is accurate
kalvin: "they act like it's their personality to be fat."
Meanwhile Kalvin's whole (online) personality is hating on an already discriminated and stigmatized group of people that didn't harm him in the slightest
Largest example of punching down the fuckin ladder
Holy shit Britney's video is good. Kudos to him for being confident and courageous enough to stand up like that, especially as a kid with a much smaller platform than Kalvin's
You just reminded me of that vid, welp time to a rewatch of it
Honestly he is such a legend! I dont think people really get how much it takes to stand up to someone with a platform as large as Kalvins.
(also ah hello I love ur content)
Woah Sarah Z is here!
Brittany = a good boi.
i love britney
Calvin is the living embodiment of “yes i’m trans. yes i’m transphobic. yes we exist.”
He and blaire white would get along so well..
Me lina I mean, they actually do lol
@@melina2685 they best friends 😂
imagine wanting cis people to accept you that badly
@@melina2685 In fact, they do LOL
“Actually I choose to dress like this because it’s tight as FUCK”
I support this message 😌✨
Gave me life
i laughed so hard
Fucking king
same 😌💞
This is how you take down a troll. You don't get mad. You don't get upset. You take away their power to hurt you. They just end up looking petty and stupid.
If Kalvin calls talking with a softer pitch the "t**nny voice" then he should know he had it for a long ass time before he trained it down. I have a high voice and it isn't unnatural for cis men to even sound higher, it is just "basic biology," as he likes to say. It's so blatantly disgusting and hypocritical, does he think before he speaks?
Yeah like he has two voices ... the soft sad boy lisp he used in his “apology” video when he wants people to feel bad for him, and his bully voice he uses in all his other videos.
I think he’s just really insecure about his own voice.. he’s clearly insecure about a lot which is why he projects & calls it out in everyone else.. it’s just sad
it's like if he labels it as a "fake trans" thing hard enough, people are just going to assume he always sounded like he does now, which puts him in a different social bubble from... most trans people. It makes him look more "natural" more like he's "supposed to be" a guy, whereas all the vitriol against not fitting in is directed at someone else, doesn't matter who
obviously not, because if he did he’d realize he used to sound the same way.
Yeah kalvin is squeaky and lispy. I wouldn't ever mention that if it weren't for the fact that he constantly mocks other people's voices.
I work at a school for autistic and disabled students k-12 and there are many students in wheelchairs who can WALK or stand up, they just need extra assistance. I am so angry that Kalvin didnt take responsibility for ANY of the harm he caused to the people he targetted
Even if your just in crutches because you moderately sprained your ankle on the stairs then your still valid but he can't grasp that simple truth
@@bellekelly582 yeah I hope he's reflected after this time off UA-cam but who knows smh
My ex step sister had hip dysplasia she could walk but had a wheelchair and we would have ignorant people staring when she would get up assuming she was faking
why is it a personality trait to make fun of fat people for existing
Exactly. Notice how people are only "making it a personality trait" when they are being proud of themselves
I hate so much how fatphobia goes under the radar a lot of times because it is so pervasive in so many communities
Because people are insecure
why are you everywhere for me huH?? I've seen you in like 5 comment sections today
@@gsyhgfnnk lol maybe we like the same stuff ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Kalvin still misgendering Noah while “addressing” what happened made my fucking blood boil. I genuinely hope Kalvin sees this video and the effects he has caused. Not that it’d really do much, seeing how horrible he is.
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Well looks like he just uploaded a vid today
i really respect your hopefulness for human race, and i hope he understands what he did too, but i honestly doubt he can. he seems like a deeply hateful and disrespectful person after all he’s done.
YO I commented on his photo about that one time and said ‘if you wish them the best and hope they’re ok then why don’t you stop misgendering them and calling them she/her’ and he literally blocked me for saying that.
kalvin sayin "'i personally have no problem with fat people" has the same energy as "i personally have no problem with gay people BUT-"
@@christmastree6817 yeah very true, this is just like the first thing that popped up into my head when i heard thathdsgjdj
I'm glad that the first trans UA-camr I found was Jammiedodger, one of the most wholesome, intelligent, respectfully and educated guy out there. He taught me a lot and helped me discovered who I was. This is the 1st video I have seen of yours, and I plan to watch more today. Sam Collins and Samantha Luxe are great as well.
I love jammiedodger!!
i went from kalvin to mileschronicles 😼
@@totallyoutofit6989 Yeah, he's really cool!
The first one i found was sam collins :)))
The first person I found was Samantha Lux
kalvin garrah: "gender identity and gender presentation have no correlation"
also kavin garrah: "you're not a Real Trans Person if you present yourself in a way i find unacceptable"
@@pink.lemonade7715 Do you not have critical thinking skills?
FACTS
@@pink.lemonade7715 you dont have to explicitly say those words to imply it babe
@@noodlepoodle3582 LMAOOOO
@@pink.lemonade7715 use your brain
“D’Angelo Wallace style”
Accurate description tho
100th like
Yes
petition for a moe x d’angelo collab??
@@alcyone2129 Absolutely
“they convince 15 year old girls with body issues that they’re boys” the funniest thing is that boi was 15 when he came out as trans on his channel XDDDD
Yeah, but Kalvin knew that the was a Boy since childhood and there really are cis people with body issues that mistake them for being trans but it's not the fault of gnc trans people.
@@thundertooth okay and?????? So you can only be trans if you experienced it in your childhood?? Miss me with that bullshit
@@liamgeorgios I was just talking about Kalvin okay? And no, you can be trans even if you don't know it from day 1. But that doesn't mean that they are no cis people with body issues that mistake them for being trans. Cony xd was acting like everybody who finds out they are trans at the age of 15 really is trans, which is just wrong.
@@thundertooth No, the original comment was pointing out Kalvin's hypocrisy by judging others who come out as trans at 15 when he did the same thing. At least that's how I interpreted it
@@liamgeorgios that is not what was said whatsoever.
As a csa survivor my biggest fear was someone somehow believing I was a pedophile, the worst thing I could imagine being. I can’t imagine going through what Noah did.
kalvin needs to seriously step back and evaluate all the harm he's caused
Honestly
Pretty difficult when you've gotten so comfortable being a manchild
Some people just cannot selfreflect and thats concerning
Unfortunately I don’t think Kalvin is capable of that.
ya'll are right unfortunately
Say it with me now: *trans is who you are, clothes are what you wear*
!!!!!! EXACTLY
What he did to Ashton was so sad. I can imagine getting a top surgery and finally being happy with my body, then someone make a video wich include my photo and saying its horrible and disgusting.
Gay men: Do literal drag
Ppl like Kalvin: Yeah that’s fine
Trans men: Wear a dress
Kalvin: WTF TRENDER UR NOT A GUY
I wonder what he’d think about someone like Gottmik
As an australian who is disabled - I am not legally disabled enough to get onto benefits, its really fucking hard to get on disability benefits in australia. never try and take that away from someone.
It's the same in america but I don't know if it's as hard as there, because servely mentally ill people can get disability
agreed as a d1s@bl3d person a lot of us require it to even barely squeak by.
@Milena Shvedova your illness is just as valid! I am so sorry. I hope one day you are able to get the proper help you need from doctors without mistreatment.
Just know I am here rooting for you!
@Milena Shvedova i have mental health issues & they are listed in the disability blue book, so you are just as valid as am I. I don't like referring to myself as disabled bc i feel like I have it way better than most do (I also have a condition that qualifies as a disability on my skin kinda like psoriasis) but I have disabilities listed in the book? Its confusing lmao. So I feel like I can relate. We have to stick together you are correct!
I wish things could go better in your country tho :(
In UK and any country you can't claim disabilities or any diagnosed long illness/nuerodiversity without medical records to back it up!
Plus we're not well off it's to help us pay for things because disabilities cost money
He's really taking the Toxic Masculinity™ thing to heart, huh?
This is exactly it.
noah's story broke me. wtf did he do to u kalvin? and to laugh at someone who told u they attempted suicide bc of the harassment sent their way bc of you is.. unacceptable.
Lars should seriously sue Kalvin for defamation
Kalvin is like "look i paint my nails it's okay if men are feminine" and then bully trans guys in dresses lmao wtf
He's just salty that he could never be as dapper as those trans men in dresses.
It’s like it’s fine if he does something feminine but if other trans people try to be more feminine it’s all of a sudden bad 🤦🏽
I can’t imagine being trans, hating your voice, getting on hormones and liking how your voice is changing, then being told you have a t slur voice by some guy on the internet with thousands of followers.. I’m cis and I’m getting anxiety just thinking about it. That clip of him mocking other people’s voices made me cringe so hard.
Btw just a heads up cause I'm petty. It's not really "hating" the way you sound or look and more feeling like that isn't the real you, and obviously every trans person has got a different experience with it, some may even want no change at all
@@babyblouie4761 You’re not being petty! Thanks for correcting me. Using the word hate was a lack of knowing how that feels, poor choice of words and also trying to keep my comment short, so I’m glad you gave me a better understanding here as well as anyone else whose cis and reading this. Also I wasn’t saying every trans person feels that way but just thinking of worst case and just what my mind jumped to and empathized with. I should have said but I was trying not to write too much.
@@sierrawal767 Thanks for trying to get a better understanding on trans people! It always warms my heart when I see cis people doing that, as I don't see it too often. I'm pretty sure that you already know, but trans people still may hate their voice, appearance, etc. I personally hate my voice as it just sounds too feminine imo.
Thanks for being a good ally! As a trans person thos thread was really nice to read.
its so fucking terrible. its literally just people early on hormones, and he's shaming them for something they have little control over, like his voice didn't crack or drop or anything
Ok so maybe I'm saying the wrong thing. I'm 51 and a straight married female but have been researching other genders and community as I try not to be ignorant. I found your channel and have been listening and this video was an educated, well presented analytical complete annihilation of what I can only describe as a complete arsrhole. Kudos to you.
I’m glad that you’re trying to educate yourself!
Hey it’s never too late to educate yourself! Some trans youtubers can be very problematic but people like Moe, Sam Collins, Ty Turner, Samantha, Jamiedodger, are all reallt sweet and informative youtubers that make all kinds of different videos on trans topics. Kudos to you for being very open minded!
aw, that’s incredible. good on you for making an effort to listen to and learn from trans people! like others said, it’s never too late. we appreciate you.
@@angryfence3928 and noahfinnce!
As a trans man I’m glad! Makes the world a better place
You achieved what Calvin couldn't: criticize and be kind at the same time.
"I dress this way cause its tight as fuck!"
What a power move! Kids only 15 and I am sure he is going places with that kind of drive, damn!
That response gave him full respect in my books.
That young king must be protected at all costs!
Protect the boy
i love him
That Lars section pretty much broke my heart.
Yeahhhh it is absolutely heart breaking ,,
Noah's story broke my heart too
I don’t know how Kalvin was socially deplatformed after what happened.
I guess people are really THAT level of shite.
Even if he doesn't believe he was responsible for Noah's suicide attempt, he should at least have some empathy for the suffering of another human being. His behavior is disgusting
"Trans people have tr*nny voice bc they don't hate sounding like a girl"
And it's a bad thing?
One of the reasons why I've never fully accepted transphobia (even tho I was raised in a pretty conservative country) is because it's basically repacked sexism. That's also why binary transsexuals are more socially acceptable. You don't need a lot of restructuring to make place for them. Non-binar and genderfluid people are more tricky. You can't put them in a box and give them a fixed role in society
Used to be a fan of him but realized his channel is focused on the fact that he thinks he can shame people for not transitioning as well as he did (not saying there’s a better and worse way to pass\ transition but he clearly thinks there is) and shoving it in ur face that he’s above every other trans guy. It’s pathetic
The idea of passing is stupid Because no matter how hard it transperson tries there's always going to be somebody that misgenders them (terfs and transphobes) and trying to passing so hard and being misgendered just puts you in a really bad mental state so I'm at the point where I mean I still try to pass but I wear whatever I want and if somebody calls me the wrong gendered word then I just ignore it at this point because I can't change what other people do
Dude wants to badly to be cis that he's willing to throw literally all other trans people under the bus to fit in with cisnormative society. I go by he/they, but I guarantee Kalvin would call me she because I'm not physically able to transition. Being poor and physically unhealthy doesn't mean I'm not nonbinary, it just means I don't have the ability or resources to do shit the way I want to.
EXAVTLYYYY
Yes I used to follow him as well... He is basically the male version of Blaire white (who I used to follow as well smfh)
I used to follow him too. It cause a lot of insecurity and doubt in my beliefs, since I was thinking, “I just think people, including me, should be able to express themselves, but he’s saying I’m wrong? And he’s an actual trans person, so he must have more experience than me.” I started thinking that there was some sort of test you had to take in order to even just say you’re trans, and that being somewhere in between man and woman wasn’t real. It hurt me a lot.
I honestly have no idea if I’m trans or not, and I really don’t care anymore. There are too many other issues going on right now. While back, once I realized that I was in a really bad place, I chose not to worry about whether or not I am trans, and just do what feels right, even if that changes.
Do people understand that not everyone who needs a wheelchair is paralyzed or has no mobility in their legs? There are other disabilities that require a wheelchair other than paralyzation.
Thank you!!!
I knew a guy who had Huntingtons disease and he could definately walk but he still needed a weelchair sometimes for when he'd get exhausted or struggled with coordination
I was in a wheelchair for a few months due to a back injury that simply made it too painful to stand for long periods of time and I still needed to get around. I wasn't even truly "disabled" and I still had one, so to tell someone they cant have one bc they arent "disabled" tf??
yeah and not every disability is 100% visible at first sight.
I just got to that part of the video and I'm even more annoyed. Kalvin acknowledges that there are certain conditions where a person using a wheelchair can walk...but apparently he has an issue with people "flexing" about being in a wheelchair. Are wheelchair users just not allowed to take pride in who we are? Do disabled people need to be in a constant state of self loathing and agony to keep their disability membership card?
@@TuesdaysArt that’s true. I think broader society tends to have their own ideas of what disability looks like. Society tends to want to picture people with disabilities, as being sad or depressed because they are disabled. That’s why when some people see an instagram post with a disabled person smiling and being happy, some of the first things to go to their minds is to question the validity of the person. I think part of it stems from people wanting to play “hero” when it comes to people with disabilities, so they don’t like it when they see someone with a disability thriving and living their best life. It also stems from a severe lack of representation whether in films, tv, or social media.
The "fake" disabilities thing really hits me because I relate. While I am not trans, I am a disabled person who both walks and uses a wheelchair. I am constantly afraid that people will think I am faking because I only use my wheelchair when outside because I can't walk long distances with out being in extreme pain or literally being unable to walk anymore. It's infuriating and upsetting that someone else has to go through a great fear of mine. Also those phych ward people are assholes, like seriously what did they ever do to you for you to be so nasty. People suck sometimes
I was a die hard kalvin fan for a long time, and was a person that contributed to the hate elliot got as you can see My comment was included in this video. I recently realised that I am non binary and was in hardcore denial about it, using kalvin’s views as a way to invalidate my feelings and the reality that i am actually trans. I realised a while ago that kalvin was toxic and transphobic and that i was becoming like him. I still have a lot of internalised transphobia (directed towards myself) but am working on being a better person. I just want to say i am deeply sorry for being apart of the transphobic rhetoric Kalvin pushed and im sorry if i effected anyone.
good on you mate. ive seen a lot of ex kalvin supporters realize the flaws in the rhetoric and be able to come to terms with their queer identities, myself included. it's a mark of strength that youve been able to move past an ideology you no longer agree with. hope you find love and joy in your life and your queerness :)
Im proud of ya
Good on you for growth and working on yourself! It's hard to admit when we are wrong but it is one of the bravest things we can do! 🤗
i found his channel and was interested in trans ppl and he was one of the first examples of trans ppl i saw i got a lot of transphobic ideals from him that im trying to unlearn its honestly harmful to a lot of ppl if he’s the first trans person they encounter on the internet
Ugh same here. Back then I watched his videos as a way to deny that I was trans. His rhetoric can be very damaging to young trans people like myself
Autistic trans person: *exists*
Kalvin: "I took that personally"
@@sam-fv4ps it's because gender is a spectrum and if you took a college level course in biology you would know gender and sexuality are a BIG SPECTRUM
The saddest things is that autism and transness (lots of non binary and non conformity) often go hand in hand. I think it's totally cool for someone to be autismgender. Consider autistic people experience the world differently, gender as well.
@@sam-fv4ps That's not exactly right, friend. Some studies show that people with autism are considered less inhibited by social maxims, including ways different genders are supposed to stereotypically behave. Autistic people who express a gender identity that doesn’t conform to their assigned biological sex can also be seen as doing so because they’re refusing expectations society has placed on them. So, maybe autism isn't the person's gender as a whole, but it _can_ have a big impact on your gender.
@@sam-fv4ps Ok, maybe I can explain it in a way that makes sense to you. When you consider who you are, it's like you're looking in a mirror. You compare yourself to other people, to the concepts you know, what your understanding of gender is. You look at how you like to wear your hair, and your clothes, you look at your walk and your talk, and you compare those to how the people around you dress and interact with the world. And you go "I'm more like group A, this matches what's on my birth certificate!" or "I'm more like group B, this doesn't match what's on my birth certificate :(" (*note: ofc it's not just the things I mentioned, but this is a metaphor).
Now, let's say you're legally blind. You can't see the mirror clearly. You can see rough shapes, but. There's very little detail. You look at your neighbor, and you can kind of recognise the pattern as being group A, but it's hard to really articulate how or why, or maybe you only know because they told you. Applying these things to yourself? Doesn't work.
Or maybe you're completely blind, and you know people only by touch. They tell you they're in group A or B, and you can recognize those patterns, but the difference in perspective means that you yourself don't fit into either pattern. At all.
That's my understanding of what it means for your neurodivergence to influence your understanding of your gender. You say that autism has "NOTHING" to do with gender, but don't list your sources. Are you autistic? Are you a clinical psychologist? Are you a researcher, working on how ASD intersects with gender or sexual divergence? If you need my own references: I have ASD. I don't personally identify with any neurodivergence-related genders, but I understand how neurodivergence can influence gender. I've spoken to a few people who identify as one of the "like 70 something genders made up" (which makes it pretty clear you only identify as one made up gender).
This accomplishes that people have a better model for their own gender. That they know how to make themselves comfortable in their own skin, or explain how and why they feel to others when asked. It spreads awareness that hey, you can be something other than cis/het/binary/allo. And I think that's worth something -certainly more than worth telling you to stay in your goddamn lane.
@@ashm2338 As someone who's on the autism spectrum, I'm going to gently caution that you probably should not compare being trans with being autistic. Not everyone trans is autistic, and not every autistic person is gender non-conforming, trans, etc. I know you probably mean well, but it can open up the gates to potential ableism and a lot of unwanted attention considering autistic people like me often are considered unintelligent or defective in some way, and in some circles "autistic" is even slang for "mentally disabled". It also comes off a little cringe to say that a diagnosis can count as a gender. I'd personally be slightly offended if someone assumed my gender was 'autistic', because that's just one aspect of my personality and it has *nothing to do* with my gender identity. The way my mind works doesn't really track with what gender I feel I am (female for the record). It's kind of like assuming someone with ADHD's gender is "ADHD", or assuming someone being an African-American means they are "black-gendered". It's a different aspect of identity.
WTF is up with people who aren't suicidal dictating how people who are suicidal are supposed to behave? Thanks for showing the whole story - I knew he was bad but this is insane.
Honestly, when Kalvin was saying that someone suicidal wouldn't tell people they were going to commit, I just knew he's never been to the point where just one person's input could change what you decide to do with your life.
People who have never been suicidal don't understand the mindset. They seem to think it's an attention seeking move and not a legitimate cry for someone to intervene when someone announces to the internet that they want to die.
I'll go as far as to say even suicidal people have no right to dictate other suicidal people.
You can't speak for everyone. Everyone is different, and copes differently. There's a sizeable amount of people trying to gatekeep suicidal thoughts and depression and seem to think having it makes them as smart as a mental health professional on the topic.
@@cb-02-37 I know right? Before I tried to commit suicide in 2012 I told my family members that I didn't want to live anymore. I have actually read that it's more common for suicidal people to tell someone how they feel rather than not 🤔 that's apparently the case in my home country at least. My father's long time friend killed themselves last year and he was constantly telling people that one day he's gonna do it. And he did ☹️
To be fair in the past he has said that his dysphoria made him incredibly suicidal, but that still gives him no right to tell people that their way of reaching out for help/dealing with their feelings is invalid.
//TW// self harm
Just as an example, I used to cut in middle school. I was so anxious and depressed. I had no way of dealing with my feelings. I ended up showing my friends my arm because idk, I guess I was trying to reach out for help. But obviously I've know people who didn't tell anyone, or ppl who talked about it exclusively on social media just to get their feelings out into the universe. There are so many ways of dealing with SH, and it's the same for suicide. You cannot police someone for coping.
reading the chat between lars and kalvin is heartbreaking. lars is obviously using facts, as well trying to show and relate to kalvin, only to face things like “this makes no sense” and ridicule. it just makes me sad.
It’s literally like he didn’t understand what Lars was saying at all. It was rude and mean and Kalvin just kept kinda being vague and changing topics, and trying to act like he knows everything about hormones and who should be on them or not. It was really fucked up to read that
Ironic how he calls people with diverse gender identities "snowflakes", when he's the one getting triggered by nonbinary people existing and minding their own business.
No straight up losing it at gnc transmen and enbies is literally the most snowflake shit one can do esp if unprovoked
Us : Transmen are men.
Kalvin : Yes.
Us : Men can wear dresses.
Kalvin : Yes.
Us : So by that logic; we can agree and say that transmen can wear dresses.
Kalvin : *SCREAMING*
As a trans man that wears dresses, I can confirm that they cause me to burn and die every time I wear them
Trans men can wear dresses for sure, but are you really going to put yourself through all that dysphoria when you get misgendered because you don't pass as male? I just don't get why anybody'd want that.
@@sionsioux3636 Does it really matter? This is not me being snarky, btw. i just mean . . . does it matter what transmen decided to wear? they don't HAVE to wear dresses, they are just allowed to if so they wish. No one will force them to wear one, but if they feel good wearing one; more power to them and i think we should respect their choice. After all not so long ago men would wear dresses, gowns, skirts etc.
As long as everyone is comfortable in their own expression; isn't that all that matters?
@@sionsioux3636 not all trans people experience dysphoria the same way (hell, not all trans people experience dysphoria... at all. being trans isn't inherently a disease.) some trans men like wearing dresses, some don't. simple as.
@@darksideofthemood Personally I'm going to wait until I have a full beard, then I might do drag or wear more feminine clothing (I'm nonbinary and transmasc btw). I simply can not imagine putting myself through the pain of getting misgendered "on purpose". Maybe that does stand in the way of my ability to understand other trans people's feelings. You're right though, and I do agree with you! I don't - have - to get it either for me to respect their choices. Thank you for making me understand :)
the fact that he's still obsessed with cavetown after finding out he doesn't like him is honestly somewhere between sad and hilarious
wait where’d you get this info of cavetown disliking him?
Never mind i was mid-video
Lars story is absolutely heartbreaking, how can Kalvin not have any shame of making Lars suffer that way? It's not even about legality anymore
Before I started T I was so nervous about how my voice would sound and now that I think about it, it’s partially because of people like Kalvin that make fun of trans people’s voices. It’s so sad to see trans people tearing down other trans people.
Kalvin's studying law to see just how much harassment and slander he can get away with before facing criminal charges.
He must be slacking in class
Kalvin saying "I don't think this person should be on testosterone" is so funny to me. Like who asked you, my man lmao
ah yes, everyone should ask kalvin garrah, who is not a medical professional, if they should go on t before they go on t /s
Gatekeeping testosterone smh
Also he’s always telling transmasc people to act more masculine etc and then when they do it’s also wrong?
@@lusy6682 Yes, then he says "they're trying too hard and being forced/cringy"
Haha exactly. Who made a twenty year old UA-camr the gatekeeper of testosterone and hormones?
‘Actually I choose to dress like this because it’s TIGHT AS FUCK’ absolute king shit 10/10
8:53 badass "Moe"ment
27:34 sarcastic "Moe"ment
1:04:00 appreciative "Moe"ment
hehe
i feel like Kalvin always had that “im not like OTHER transgenders” energy but its so obvious hes got internalized transphobia
So true
@uwu we stan He’s narrow minded, not logical.
@@uwuwestan2524 shush
Off topic but your profile picture fits your username really well and is also very cursed.
@@uwuwestan2524 imagine being subscribed to both sam collins and samantha lux and still commenting this
The irony of him reacting to cringy tiktoks
That's different. He recognises he was cringy then too, and he's cringey for useing musically not for existing. Calling someone cringy isn't inherrently bullying unkind sure, but it's different no one is calling kalvin cringey for existing.
@@RaeDole No he definitely is cringy just for existing lol, he cares more about pleasing cishets than his own community. So many trans people hate themselves/have internalized transphobia because of this guy.
PLEAAAAAASE BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHFJRNNRNRNRNNRBBFBFBFBFBBDNFNNF
@@RaeDole Why do you need to call people "cringy" at all? Why is it so hard to just ignore them? Why do adult people feel the need to comment on everything like a bunch of catty high schoolers?
@@PhoenixRising87 Maybe not on people just being annoying, but people whose word’s are harmful like Kalvin’s need to be discussed.
As a straight cis female I’ve always supported the lgbtq+ community and tried to be educated when it comes to this and because I wanted to learn more watched his videos for a long time and because he is a trans man I took everything he said as facts about trans people. People like this could really misinform other people and influence people the wrong way :/
I’m really sad that kids exploring the world, being silly, spontaneous, and lighthearted, gets called “cringe”. Shaming people for taking harmless chances that make them look a little bit goofy is something we could do without.
"i dOn'T tHiNk i diD aNyThiNg mOrAlLy wRonG" he's such a bad person i can't.
I feel sick seeing someone laughing about a person being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I'm having a physical reaction of disgust. I hope Kalvin gets help. More importantly, I hope his victims receive all the support they need
Highkey fuck Kalvin, I hope Lars is able to recover!!!!
Ex-Kalvin Garrah supporter here, a lot of the reasons why he had such a huge platform was gender validation; that I was being trans the right way. I felt so much hate in my heart for these “transtrenders” who were invalidating my experience. I’m still questioning who I am and I never had the stereotypical experience of a transman, much like the people he targeted. I am so scared of being a “trender” and that I’m not real. I need to grow up and realize that nobody has to have that stereotypical experience. That you can self identify as anything you want and are still valid. I truly thank Moe and anyone who called him out, if they didn’t, I think I would still be a huge transphobe.
I remember when I was really young, looking for trans creators after I found out I was trans, and following Kalvin. I felt very similar, I followed him because I was so scared of being a bad trans person somehow, and Kalvin's videos really instilled a lot of inner transphobia in myself, and how I presented. I still suffer severely from it.
“Ignorance breeds fear, fear breeds hate, and hatred breeds destruction.”
-Daryl Davis
That “Actually I choose to dress like this because it’s TIGHT AS FUCK” is iconic. That was a great video, as is this one.
I need that framed so ill feel confidence with my crappy stylr
I love that omg what an icon
hes so swag :))
I swear D’Angelo Wallace is pretty much a genre at this point. And I love it.
We stan him
It's iconic
@@rowaneditspeppa3361 HAHAH i love it
I fucking love it, i love hour long breakdowns
He's not the only one or the first to do long form, in-depth videos about internet stuff
Kelvin really talks about the 'T Voice' as if he didn't have it at the start of his transition
I swear I also remember sometime around last year he bullied some guy named Keith on tiktok and called him slurs. I don’t think he’s ever been a good person
he's following the Blaire White strategy FOR SURE 😳
Kalvin really thought Cavetown and him were tight bc he dm'd Cavetown a few times. Like man, Cavetown was probably just trying to be respectful to a fan.
this is the funniest and saddest comment I'M
LOL
the section about Ashton and how Kalvin made fun of "botched top surgeries" really really hurt me... my mom got breast cancer when i was like 5/6. thankfully she survived and has been completely cancer free to this day but she had to get both of her breasts removed during her treatment.
she has tried like 3 times to get breast implants but each time they got infected and had to be removed, at that point she just gave up and realized that it wasnt worth it to keep getting surgery on her chest. all of the scar tissue and how the surgeon closed the wounds (in case she "ever changed her mind and wanted implants") left her chest disfigured. it looks very similar to the picture on the left in kalvins "dark side of top surgery" video.
basically what im saying is that for one, not everyone who gets surgery to remove their breasts does it because theyre trans, sometimes women, who otherwise are happy with their breasts, are forced to because, like my mom who was sick with cancer, it could save their life.
it took my mom years to overcome being self conscious about her chest and if i ever saw anyone using photos of her chest to mock how it looks and go on about how awful it would be to "look like that"..... i would fucking be devastated.
I just wanted to share this to show how ignorant and downright hateful kalvin is for making that video and thinking it was okay to uplaod. he made it out of pure malice and insecurity. i cant fucking believe i used to watch and like a few of his videos, hes just not a good person at all.
ah, my mom had breast cancer too, she unfortunately passed away.
i hope your mom lives a happy, long life. cancer is a real, concerning issue. and i hope people like kalvin won't destroy you or your mom's confidence
I had the same experience with my mom
I have also had people in my life who have had breast cancer and have had to go through the same things
It's a pity that people like Kalvin and Blaire White have internalized the bullying and insecurity surrounding their experience and turned it outward onto others- but that is often how the cycle of bullying works. That they have such large platforms and can weaponize their self-esteem starved views against impressionable minds, smaller creators, and children is downright cruel.
Ok but you have to be a pretty terrible person to get into beef with Cavetown.
yep
definitely
very true
Little does Kalvin know that suicide baiting is a criminal offense soooo.... someone pls take him to court
He technically didn't suicide bait. He never told the person to kill themselves. The person just attempted to because of all the harassments and legit threats they were getting
@@topcat104 that's still cyberbullying, which is illegal in some areas. Depending on where they are, it's still a criminal offense
@Maxwell Banks-Cofell People still blame Trump for what his followers did. People blame celebrities for influencing their kids. When you have a platform and a following, you are going to have influence over people and while you can't control what they do you need to understand that what you say has an impact. People will act on what you say.
@Maxwell Banks-Cofell ok but if Kalvin didn't say anything..the hate by his fans wouldn't have been sent..you see what I mean?
It's a domino effect
The fact that he's literally in/about to be in law school,,
Kalvin made me feel like being a gay trans man made me a trender
Same
You're valid and loved, at least by me... *Digital hugs* 💖🌈
he made me feel like a trender as a transmasc too
He made me feel like a trender for the longest time because I'm a trans man who not only embraces his femininity, but I'm not even sure I want to get on hormones. I still question my identity because of the shit he says. He's very "if you don't want to get every procedure available done then you're a trender". I guess social dysphoria isn't good enough for him. Lol
@@delvinmallory3427 I know you're already aware of this but I just wanna remind you that you are 100% valid, with or without medical transition💜
( coming from a fellow trans guy😊)
is it just me or is their voice so bloody poetic. i could listen to some deep meaningful poem read by them every day
Kalvin is literally the reason why I haven't told anyone that I'm non-binary, almost everyone knows I'm ftm but I identify as masculine non-binary, because when I first started watching his videos at around 9/10 years old I thought that what he was saying was right because he was basically a role model for me and then when I got older I realized that what he was saying was wrong and disgusting and it made me feel like I didn't deserve to fully be me because I'd be treated how he treats "transtrenders", the only people who know I'm non-binary are my mom and my ex girlfriend who is trans mtf, ill never feel comfortable enough to come out publicly as non-binary because even tho I know how he acts isn't how a lot of people act towards non-binary people, I wish I didn't watch him as a child because I can never truly be myself because of him
Finally people are starting to realize how horrible he is..
Exactly my thoughts. I remember watching some of his videos before I was even out and hating everything he said but also wondering how people could support someone so hateful. I can't help but feel like his videos are just one big reflection on his own stupid insecurities..
Made me uncomfortable as a genderfluid and pansexual person. I felt terrible in my own skin. That’s why I don’t follow him.
I'm really glad the whole "anti SJW" thing is no longer cool and acceptable. In fact it's kinda cringe now to be "anti SJW" like Kalvin and Blaire White
@@kenziewittkopf9526
ME TOO i'm afab and heavily femme but identify as transmasc, and he made me feel awful about myself and gave me loads of internalised self-aimed transphobia and dysphoria
he made me legit hate myself and think that u had to be masculine or had to be a certain way just to be trans and everyone's journey is different. There isnt a right or wrong to being a man
As a disabled person who is a part time wheelchair user his words are so much worse than you think. I have a severe fear of using my wheelchair in public. I’m scared people will harass me or even go as far as to assault me because they believe I am faking. Because of this I don’t use my wheelchair as much as I should and my health suffers for it
same ! I have EDS (which is what Lars has) and I just walk in pain rather than use a wheelchair because of people like him :(
I’m sorry bro, I don’t really have experience with a problem like this so I can really offer a solution but I can say I hope you feel better soon however you chose to deal with this.
I feel the exact same way. I'm terrified to go out in public using my wheelchair/cane, because I'm terrified someone is going to attack me over it.
Calling people out for faking illnesses/ being crippled shouldn’t make you feel bad if you’re actually disabled. You are a dumb crybaby holy.. there’s nothing wrong with calling people out for FAKING TERMINAL ILLNESSES AND BEING DISABLED!!!! And if you think it is bad, you’re part of the problem. People SHOULD be called out if they’re faking something. Like are you people this brainless
@@homosexualskittles9285 if you’re not faking it you have nothing to worry about. People should be called out for faking stuff and if you don’t think so you’re the problem. Thoughtless and brainless people think they can say they have a certain illness without even actually having it. That’s a problem. If you don’t see that’s a problem you have an egg for a brain.
The way this is set up I feel like I’m watching a Kalvin Garrah Documentary
For real! It’s so well organized and thought out, very good content!
i’m not gonna wholeheartedly blame kalven for the fact it took me so long to realise i was nonbinary but how he talked about nonbinary people definitely set me back
kalvin: if someone does *this pose* they're a transtrender
...... dawg it's literally just running ur hands through ur hair.
Which he literally does constantly! Lmao. The kid is just super insecure, all the negative shit he points out about other people are things he’s actually self conscious about himself.
The funny thing is that I'm 100% sure he wouldn't have said that if it was a skinny, cis-passing trans guy doing the exact same pose
@@partly_disconnected get me an audience with him we'll see what he says
Not to mention he does it himself several times...
@@thecatingrey ikr? It's so stupid
I have a small vendetta against Kalvin Garrah. I found him before he attacked Brennen, as I was attempting to learn how to be a good ally to trans folks (I'm a cis lesbian). What he was saying initially rubbed me the wrong way a bit but I put that to the side because I thought, "I'm cis, he's trans. His opinion on trans issues outweighs mine." I realized that this case was an exception when he started bullying people but I'm definitely ashamed that I listened to his content and adopted some of his views. Luckily I didn't know any trans people irl and would only meet them after I was disillusioned, and I'm really ashamed to think how I could have acted if the timeline had been different. so I take personal responsibility, but also, I'm irate at Kalvin for enabling and furthering my cis idiocy.
Also, something to add as an autistic and disabled person: most people in wheelchairs are capable of walking short distances and standing. The problem is it takes a lot more effort and they can't do so for long periods of time. I am not a wheelchair user but I have such severe chronic pain that I have had to occasionally use the ones provided in public places. Paralysis is pretty rare and many wheelchair users are actually encouraged to practice walking and standing to prevent muscular atrophy. Also, being autistic does not reduce your right to do anything in the world and does not invalidate your gender, sexuality, or anything else.
Not gonna lie, as an autistic person myself, I'd much rather be autistic than be Kalvin
Being autistic doesn’t mean your not something. It just means your autistic and your brain works differently
As an autistic non-binary person, I agree with you and Kalvin’s content has been very harmful for me. I’m 19 now and only just figured out my true identity due to the harmful transmed rhetoric.
The same thing happened to me 😩 I’m glad I’m not the only one
I also found Kalvin and Blaire White when I was trying to find out how to be a better ally. Thankfully I also had other trans UA-camrs like Jamie and Noahfinnce, and I also knew some trans people in real life who told me Blaire White was awful. I never really liked Kalvin Garrah's approach and after a while found out he was also talking out of his butt so I stopped watching him fairly early on.
"I didn't do anything legally or even morally wrong"
Wow... just wow.
I hope Lars is doing better, they seem nice
not everyone can afford surgery or have supporting family members, kalvin
Not everyone feels they need to transition or take medication, Kalvin
Some people such as myself are non-binary and are closeted due to transphobic parents, Kalvin.
Some people live in countries where its illegal to be transgender, Kalvin.
Some people are nonbinary and/or transitioning to the other binary sex can make us dysphoric, Kalvin
not everyone is physically a Male or Female, Kalvin.
(there are 6 physical sexes in humans)
kalvin garrah pay for lars' medical bills challenge
I always told myself my gender dysphoria was just body dysmorphia because of Kalvin.. I’m so glad he can’t be manipulating more trans youth.
Kalvin made me feel like I was a trender just cause I'm a gender non-conforming bisexual trans man/transmasc. I literally forced myself to be cis for one entire year, and I was suffering so much by pretending that I was cis that I attempted suicide many times, and that also made me develop an fucking eating disorder. He and Blaire were two people that made me feel invalid on my own transness, and I can never forgive them for this. They are bullies that project their insecurities on other people, causing hundreds of trans teenagers feel invalid on their own identity.
(I can't change my name, cause my parents ain't supportive and I'm not out to anyone, so excuse the name)
I’m in the exact situation, my mother is not supportive I’m not allowed to be masculine. So hearing people who don’t fit there “standards” really hurt tbh
stay strong man, I'm sorry these shitty assholes made you feel this way about yourself
Hey dude...
Sending loads of support and hugs (and I really hope that things start to look up for you and that life becomes more kinder and better to you)
Man, Kalvin is horrible. What he did to Lars and Noah is unforgivable.
It’s honestly fucking disgusting
What happened?
What did he do??
@@hekaterinedragon8776 26:24 38:18
@@jennahyser7245 26:24 38:18
hes the trans leafy. his entire online carrer is sending hate mobs, just like leafy.
Kinda funny because Leafy's real name is Calvin....hmmmmmm
ugh, and I was such a huge fan of both of them when I was like 12-14. Thank god I grew out of it
@@rainingwhenidie oh my gosh same
@@rainingwhenidie Same, but low key hated when leafy got banned.
Kalvin is debatably worse because his entire presence online was harassing a very specific, already targeted group of people
He made a video about he/him lesbians as well and kinda just invalidated pronoun noncomforming lesbians (basically anyone who identifies as a lesbian and uses he/him, they/them or any other pronouns besides she/her or she/they. If they don't use she as a pronoun then they COULD be considered pronoun nonconforming). That sucked. Not sure if he meant what he said about he/him lesbians but his video when I searched the topic up had the most views about he/him lesbians. I hope he knows that pronouns do not ALWAYS equal an individual's gender. It can but not always.
I don't see why TERFs and trucsum find that concept so hard to wrap their minds around; you can literally read "Stone Butch Blues" online for free.
28:52
Lars: I studied neuroscience at uni and it is a myth
Kalvin: IS NOT!! *throws transphobic tantrum*
I've always read Kalvin Garrah as a deeply insecure person. I kinda identify with it because I've been like that and I've even made UA-cam videos during that time in my life that were, in retrospect, very cruel. But we didn't have trans youtube how we do now. I probably only got like 100 views on those videos. Even I know that during that time in my life, I hurt a lot of people. It's sad that he's impacted so many people in such a negative way. I see him as truly projecting his insecurities onto others, but that's not an excuse, just an explanation.
yeah he's deeply insecure and you can tell
I 100% agree. It’s so easy to fall down that rabbit hole as a young trans person, it’s just so so sad that he had drag so many people down with him.
I think that’s why many gave him the benefit of the doubt for so long, he was young, insecure and emotionally troubled. People gave him compassion, he gave people harassment back. What a shame.
I remember him attacking you on twitter for like a week too back when I used to be a fan of him
Why are you everwhere? Lol, love your videos 💜
I, a cisgender female, used to watch his content a few years ago to educate myself on being transgender. Then suddenly I just started feeling like.. something was off. I was too young to understand exactly WHAT was making me feel this way, but I just felt the need to run as far away as I could. Not I see why.
Same here.
It felt off for me when he started talking about the T-word voice so obsessively.
me too ;-;
I'm glad you've change ur ways also (love the agust d pfp)
i think that happened to a lot of people with blaire white. its the "ohhhhh just bc they're trans doesn't mean they should be a voice for trans people, clearly they have personal issues of their own."
Same and I stopped because his meanness and had this bully way of being I don't know how to explain it
two years after you posted this i am finally learning about this, and this is so so extremely powerful