What I took away from this video: - Don't let the media consume you, it will portray beliefs to you again and again of a "beta-oriented" persona of manliness - Do not attach yourself to the different emotions that you experience throughout the day, instead, experience the emotion and move forward. Do not be emotional because then, your emotions will begin to control and direct your actions and if your thoughts or emotions control your actions, your emotions determine the trajectory of your life. - Do not listen to music 24/7, it will distract you from doing simple things or take away your complete focus on your intentions, even things as simple as working out. Human beings were not built to multi-task. Many people don't experience 'flow' or being in the zone because of little distractions such as music or notifications. - You need to stop looking up to people who you don't want to be like, look at the archetype of exactly the type of person you wish to be and mimic their values. Jesus Christ is one example. In short, Find a person you admire, determine why you admire them, and adopt what they are doing that makes them admirable. - Many people have anxiety because of something going on in their lives. It could be an unethical job, unhealthy relationships or even an inconsistent diet. Do not buy into the fad that being anxious is normal, do not purchase the medicine and instead be a real man who can learn to control their own emotions. One thing I've noticed myself doing with many YT videos, lectures, podcasts, or readings that I enjoy is that at the end of the piece, I don't reflect on exactly what the author/speaker's message is. Starting today, I'm going to identify exactly what's important at the end of each of these videos for myself to learn and actually apply it to my own life- if not the very least recognize what I'm doing wrong in my daily life. Thanks so much Eli!
-Decisiveness -mental/physical toughness -establish order -Purpose If you have no father, think of the kind of man you would like your father to be, and become him!
@GhOsTx I'm a pretty indecisive when it comes to many things because I like to weigh the pros and cons of them instead of just going with my gut, which I should. Be as decisive as you can, and stick to your decisions
I am fascinated by your comment on music. I've often thought about this before as well and thought I was the only one. Not much discussion about this topic out there. I love music, but sometimes it feels to me like it can become just another dopamine addiction. I try to go several days in a row without listening to any music once in a while just to reset my brain, and I always find that I enjoy the music far more after a temporary break from it.
One suggestion for listening to music, is to listen to music how they did in back in the day. I.e. Put an album on, and sit/lie down and actually listen to it all the way through, and actually experience the music. Of course, it's technically more time- consuming than listening to music as you go about your day, especially if you are a musician that aims to listen to new music consistently for inspiration. But just throwing that suggestion out there anyway. Although, if I had a car I would definitely blast my music every time I drive. In fact, I often fantasise about it (but not financially wise for me to get a car when I don't need it). I can also understand why people might want to play music at the gym, especially because a lot of gyms play really shitty music that is not exactly conducive to getting you in the mood to fuck shit up. Having said that, I've actually been having better workouts without my own music playing. It seems I don't get as fired up, but instead lift in a calmer fashion, leading to better technique as well as not feeling as burnt out afterwards. P. S. Gojira and Leprous are the best bands around right now. Followed by Tesseract, Mastodon and Parkway Drive.
Music is great after a long day of work, or when you're frustrated, you turn on some calm music, or you shake it off when you're feeling like it with some music But overdose of music is not good either.
10:00 I agree with your sentiment. I'm an avid musician myself, but I'm one of the few people at my school who got rid of their earbuds. I don't listen to music nearly as much. It's a distraction from the task at hand. Music is a powerful experience, why waste it and be desensitized to it by having a playlist constantly playing in your ears. You lose touch with reality and live in your own world, where you get too comfortable. Good video as always
I am a musician, and I agree with your message regarding the overstimulation of music. People listen to it constantly...in the hallway at school, in the car, at the grocery store, at the gym, at parties, etc. And important to note: the music is coming from a digital device, not an actual person playing music in the real world. Most pop, rap, hip-hop and even new country music has a message that promotes nihilism, hedonism and other degenerate lifestyle habits, not to mention the music itself is produced in such a way that triggers the reward feedback loop in the brain, like drugs, sugar, or pornography. See: Roger Scruton - The Tyranny of Pop Music
That is why you listen to Metal my friend. Metal is the truest form of music. It is on a level with the classical music out there and that is why it is underground. Cause its not made for alot of people and not everyone can accept it.
@@xPetkovskiUR Seems like there are a lot of metal heads on Elisha's videos. I like this. If you go to an Infinite Waters video, however, they will probably tell you heavy metal is 'low vibration'.
Christian Taylor lol wtf... except actual meat is clearly way better?? Also wtf are we gonna do with all of the animals? Free them into the wild and just let millions of pigs and cattle loose to fuck up the already fragile ecosystem? Nah let’s eat em
I fully agree brother. On everything you said. Music in a way is a form of escapism that people don't really take into account, it can stop people from interacting with each other on the street, or isolate people when wearing earphones. That obviously doesn't mean its always bad, but it should be handled with moderation.
Music was considered indulgent and sinful in the renaissance era. It was a pretty common theme in religious paintings at the time. See Bosch's ”Garden of Earthly Delights" in where his vision of hell is just full of instruments.
I have been battling Schizophrenia for most of my adult life as well as porn and alcohol. I am sober 3 months now and don't miss it. Also I am porn free and these are two things I'm so grateful to have gone from my life. I take two blistering cold showers a day, commit to my diet, listen to 3 hours of audiobooks a day and always force myself to mediate. I take each day at a time. I've taken some great lessons from this channel and implemented them into my life as best I can. I'm by no means cured. But each good day I cherish. Keep up the good work :)
Corey Theisen I spoke to someone who specialises in that sexual research nonsense and she confirmed my thoughts that watching porn, I.e. seeing another dick, increases homosexuality.
Elisha, you are totally right dude. They do make fun of men, they almost always have to show how Male looks away first, and how women are the leaders ect....
I usually think of you when I think of what kind of man I want to be. Watching you and hearing you speak is a breath of fresh air to the perceptions of the goof male or the evil father. I do need to be less emotional. When you say that about music, I'm torn because that's my passion and one of the gifts I have to the world, but I must also find that balance of stoicism in my daily life, while also leaving some moments to my gift. I admire Jesus and I love you mentioned him as an example. I was thinking of reading the Bible and now I think I will do it since you recommended it. Another great video brother!
If music is what you love to do then never stop doing it man. Making music is productive and can keep the mind sharp! I’m glad you’ve found something that you’re passionate about in life. There are many people who walk around in life with no purpose or passion.
Agree with most of what you say here dude. Metal music has saved my life on several occasions. Maybe being clinically depressed isn't an excuse for being emotional, but going to a metal show and getting in that mosh pit is one of the best releases of negative energy I have ever experienced. One of the experiences that I genuinely love, letting shit out with the other dudes in there. Music can be awesome. Your videos always give me an extra kick up the backside to get shit done and get out of my head. I'm grateful for that.
Newish metal listener been listening to lots of slipknot and system of a down over the typical classic rock. Nothing wrong eith rock but i feel like metal makes me feel so good and energized! Any band recommendations?
@@ladiesman5622 Gojira are modern metal gods. Anyone who needs convincing, watch their Pol'And'Rock performance (on UA-cam). Gunna see them in London at the end of June. Should be pretty epic.
@@Adrianstryingstuff Depends what kinda metal your looking for really. Considering both those bands are 'Nu- Metal', try Disturbed (10,000 fists their best album imo). Also Five Finger Death Punch (try War is the Answer). And then like our fellow monk suggested, Gojira (Magma is probably their most accessible album, but still really good).
Got my first job today and i'd be lying if I said you weren't a big help. Just by being able to tap into your mindset helps a lot especially when your having a bad day, thanks for all the motivation Elisha!
I remember when I subscribed to your channel I think you had less than 7k subscribers. Listened to a lot of your videos about nofap, meditation, keto diet, and more. Men you have really changed a lot of lives for the good. "I think we deprived ourselves from a lot of happiness and gratitude is the best way to get there". That is by far my favorite quote of one of you videos. Now you with almost 70k subscribers you haven't change a bit, only for the good. Keep it up men wish you nothing but the best, amazing content as always.
Only 19 but I am learning a lot thanks to you brother. Just finished calculating my earnings after tax per week and divided it up using the 50/20/30 rule. The job I am at is training me to run the warehouse and I'm hoping to have a raise soon. I've got full coverage benefits. I'm hoping that following this budget plan, by the time I am 21, I will have accumulated a large sum of extra money and healthier habits to lift me up off my feet, and help me get my own apartment.
Man, I'm from Brazil, my english is bad, but I'm here to say that you channel changed my life, you are the only channel that tell the truth, that speak about so many things, you do really a great job, I whatch every video of you, so congratulations, you be more great, and the end of video you talk about Jesus, beatiful words, thanks for share this knowledg with us...
Tbh I'm getting tired of obsessing over becoming a "real man". It's starting to feel negative and forced. I feel like it's coming from a belief of 'I'm not good enough so I have to change myself in order to fit all these expectations'. That might even be true, maybe I do have to change a lot about myself in order to be happier, but all this pressure to be something different is getting me down. And what makes it even more difficult is that now I feel like I'm not even allowed to feel down about it. I should just deal with it and work harder, because I'm a man and men shouldn't be weak, right. Man... I don't really know why this video is having an opposite effect on me today. The videos usually make me feel motivated and encouraged.
I think the main point is to be true to yourself. It's just that with all this social conditioning, it can be really hard to, for instance, be assertive when in your heart it feels like the right thing to do. Like, how fucked is it that so many guys, myself included, find it so damn hard just to talk to a girl. This ain't normal. And, of course, supressing emotion is not healthy. But in my opinion, there is a time and a place. If you need to cry, wait until you are alone in your room if you can. The world doesn't need more Justin Trudeaus.
Want it or not, if you’re a man you already have that masculine energy and instinct of a real man. You shouldn’t worry about fitting in anywhere, or being an alpha male. Be your true self, without worrying about what others think of you, that’s when you become a real man.
Thank you ! what a great message. You are the first guy I see wondering about the effects of listening music a lot. I thought about that too. Apart from becoming deaf I couldnt find any real "bad effects" from listening music which is a drug to me. A lot of people talk about masculinity theses days but your videos are always very qualitative and honest on the subject.
You are helping me through brother. I'm making it but in a period that requires minimalism and stoicism. Feeling fucking alive knowing you and the group is out here.
You have said what I couldn't put into words clearly for years in only 20 minutes. Thank you for all that you do. Your hard work will pay off ten fold, very soon. Keep fighting the good fight my friend.
Bro film more videos outside like you used to do e.g in your car or at the park or in front of the gym (i think it was). Imo those were way cooler to watch and one could indulge more in the message. Btw please more videos about girls and working out (you used to show lifts and stuff in a gym!) Thanks man
The best way to sum up a man in one paragraph. Let me try. A man is a stoic. He doesn't allow his emotions to determine his decisions. He keeps himself healthy and fit inorder to take care of his family and those weaker than him. If there is a problem he fixes it, he does not complain about it. He occupies himself in a meaningful discipline and seeks to enrich the world with his work. He has a woman who is intelegent, beautiful and sexy, and is somebody who he wishes to make a family with someday. He teaches and diciplines his offspring so that they become stronger than he was. He dies peacefully knowing that his life on this earth was well spent.
In my own opinion, women have made men weak. By growing up with only a mother myself I see where she would try to make me submissive. I understand respecting her but she made me feel like it was wrong to shout or be aggressive. This would allow her to control me better like she did my dad, who I bearly even look up to because he always did what she said and couldn't function properly without her, he is also an idiot. That made me weak as a child. But now that I am 17 I am working on becoming stronger as a man.
I really look up to you bro. Thank you so much for your insight. We need more men like you. Men that inspire and men that you can learn from. Just like in the old times. You are amazing. Thank you for being with us.
Unfiltered wisdom is needed in this day and age. As someone who allowed themselves to become effeminate in their youth I appreciate the no bullshit attitude given. I know truth when I hear it, there’s no doubt when I listen to this video. Stay strong brother, thanks for helping pull me out of the gutter.
Dude this video has literally changed my mindset.. I know it’s weird, but I’ve listened to it like 10 times. You’re changing minds and lives bro. God bless you dude
Elisha Long I really liked it. Well worth a listen or read, especially for young men. I’d say that for me it’s as influential as 12 rules for life or the 48 laws of power, at least for me anyway.
Man is the most complicated and misunderstood creation next to the woman. Noone other than the man in the moment knows what he feels and is adapting to. His experiences are objected by others, he is ridiculed and berated, and he must still find the strength to hold on and go further. His life expectancy is low, his debts are high, his time is short and his vision is long. He holds the X and the Y chromosomes, and his daughter is a piece of him for another man to repeat the cycle. After Dad dies, we all dream of him over and over again. There is never enough, men.
I am new here...but just by going through this comment section makes me proud to see brothers striving to their best abilities and seeing men be men again...keep it up..bless 💯
Self reflection : dont let your emotions control you, and turn the direction of your life. When i feel sad, i have to bounce back and go on, when i feel anger i have to take a step back and let it pass. I can't let jt guide my decisions and my life relationships. Focus when doing shit. The anxiety i feel is probably because of my relationship with my mom. I can't be hating her, blaming her or being angry at her. That only worsens the problem. I forgive her for imperfections she raised me with and im not going to fight with her, or get angry when she or the situation provokes me to I have to be kind and loving with her yet not let walk over me or insult me.
I fully agree with your statement about music. It is the most powerful tool to control the emotions of the blind masses. I use music very conservatively. Mostly to relax for an hour or set the mood for reading or meditation but in the gym its podcasts or audiobooks and almost no music
In Digital Minimalism, one of the things Cal Newport talks about is the importance of solitude. Which he defines as something like time without influence from other minds. In other words, spend time alone, and don't think you always have to be playing music or even listening to an audio book. Of course, listening to audio books is a good thing and is a more efficient way for most of us to read. But there is something about going for a walk, or just sitting in your room, and not needing any kind of stimulation that can be very beneficial. I mean earphones are only a recent invention.
I agree with your opinion on music. We truly cannot multitask, but instead we switch tasks rapidly. We can definitely hear the music while giving something else our 100% concentration but you won't be hearing or enjoying the music 100%. It's just noise at that point. If you are listening to the music with enough concentration to enjoy it then it will be subtracting from any other task you have going on in that moment. It really is just a distraction and it will do more harm than good when abused. I personally love music but i listen to it when i'm in the right state of mind, with high quality headphones, when i can relax and devote my attention towards the music. When i am in that state though, the emotion of the music can influence my own emotions and state of mind so choosing what type of music you listen to is very important. Thanks again for the video brother.
I’m 18 soon to leave college and go to university these videos have helped so much to keep the right mind state even when negative things are happening still being able to enjoy life Thank you 🙏
Great video man I agree and as for the music I think what you mean is people shouldn't use it as an escape from something they don't want to confront or just allow themselves to be so caught up in the songs that it literally dictates their lives. Of course music can and will shift your mood but if you're self aware enough you won't allow it to alter your character in any way and you'll remain grounded while still being able to experience emotion from it. Also since it it so widely accepted I think it makes it that much easier to fall prey to it just like alcohol. I am a musician/ sound designer & now that I'm older I have learned to just appreciate music for the art form that it is without allowing myself to be swayed by any type of emotion the music is emitting. I just enjoy it and then that's that the song is over. It's very much like paintings to me you view the picture and think for yourself what the artist was trying to convey through it and you appreciate it then move on. Alot of people might not even be aware that they can do that but I appreciate your observation though stay up bro!
I'm a music producer and i make and produce music for a living. I can tell you right off the bat that people listen to too much music, like they are addicted to cocaine. The best producers work with artists and corporations/brands to "hypnotize" and keep you under their influence for as long as possible. Because of the internet, attention is everything for artist so the longer you listen the better. Music has become less spiritual and meaningful. Its been watered down to BS and people are overdosing w/out realizing. I love *creating* (key word) music as I feel in flow and purpose. Too much consumption of music, such as mainstream suggests, will lead you to becoming a goddamn zombie. Be aware of its effects and you will be more in control of your state... that being said, too much of anything will kill you! cheers and thanks for the dope video Elisha lol *EDIT: Grammer*
Such a good point regarding music! I've had the exact same thoughts, and I've been told I'm being a dick for it as well haha. Music definitely has its place, as a piece of art to be enjoyed and appreciated. Most often though, it's a form of escapism, humming away in the background while you're taking a shower, running, whatever, not even appreciated. Many people just use music to escape from their thoughts, and I always feel like telling people like that to start practising some mindfulness and become a bit more self-aware. Women like that are also a bit of a turn-off for me. It just screams "I'm willfully ignoring glaring issues in my life."
A man is someone who has no resistance between thought and action. A man takes action and gets the desired result. A man determines his own value. A man has impenetrable boundaries to his identity. A man is exactly who he says he is. He embodies truth, passion, and direction.
You can experience emotion...or be emotional. Glad you cleared that up, i've been trying to understand what you've been saying about that for the past 2 months.
I enjoy music, but what I think is more important than listening to music, is learning music theory and learning how to play instruments. I’ve been learning how to play piano and I think it’s a good skill to learn
I find I have the mentality of “ entitled” because I raise and till now every thing provided to me ! Specially in the well fare countries most people having this mentality rather than “ chasing and efforts “ mentality
To have a higher chance on cultivating masculinity, it's better to be a somewhat of a loner and get own understanding of manhood from personalities of the past. Because most of the society radiates with femininity and the best possible way to not be affected is to avoid it and surround yourself with masculine role models.
Needed this, 18 and went through a lot last couple of years. Gotta bounce back, forgive myself for the past, find purpose, get back to Jesus, can't give up. Thanks once again Elisha.
Love your take on music. I come from a household where there are 4 violinists (my 3 sons and wife) and we regularly go to classical concerts, yet we do NOT have background music in our household. One does not see elite sportsman we earphones sticking in their heads. If it really helped then we would see Olympians competing with music as sport is big business for the successful few. Music has its place but should not be put on a pedestal, sometimes less is more.
My older brother had always been my example of masculinity. I have no dad, only my mom and him. He's always been shy insecure and constantly angry at the world. He bullied me for being chubbier then him and never let me bring my friends over to my house let alone my girlfriends. When we got in fights he would always go for my broken nose or my nuts and I would be too scared of hurting him because I am larger than him and he actually tried to kill me once. I have a scar on my right shoulder from that one time. Weeks after my birthday we got in a fight again. I was too afraid to hurt him because he was my brother and I love him, and also because I was scared. He had no sympathy for me. After a year of taking anabolic steroids he has gotten toned up. Nothing major in size only shape. He tried lifting me up and throwing me around. As a boxer I knew to keep my distance and find opportunities but I could bring myself to hurt him. He left me bruised and with nose even more broken than it had already been for years. After finally getting a girlfriend (that looks like a guy) and after that fight he walks around like a tough guy happy at life while I constantly contemplate suicide and am haunted by the failures of my past. Needless to say he brings his girl to the house every day. My mom doesn't like her and I don't care I just find her annoying and an attention seeker. He always makes me feel lesser and worthless. The insecurities he grew up with he passed down to me now that we are older. And all the friendly, vim and vigorous masculine energy I had he enjoys now. I always ask myself how and why god would allow this kind of injustice. Sure he was bullied, and suffered in his own ways, but so did I and I tried to help him because he's my brother. Our entire family sees me as a failure and I feel unworthy to live every single day. I try to explain these things to people but they say It's wrong of me to blame my brother. I feel betrayed and above that I feel angry as hell. The discipline I once had was somehow removed from me and transferred to him but why?? Why would god(s) allow that sort of evil person to get away with this? I am in anguish and I'm lost. I need help.
i dont think music is necessarily a problem, its a correlation but definitely not a causation. there is such a thing as listening to music in a stoic manner, being able to feel/observe but not necessarily invest. it provides an escape especially for something like a 9-5, im sure it can ruin peoples lives but so can things like a simple alcohol addiction or even a relationship that can turn sour. actual musicianship is a form of mental entrainment and it can take years of training to be proficient, from anything to any one instrument to something like audio engineering. but I totally understand what your getting at
Elisha i agree with almost everything said in this video. Im still in highschool in what would be senior year there in the states. My trouble is when putting into practice this type of thinking because of the huge amount of Femenine men and Masculine women around me. I am not saying this is something bad but just simply that when i propose or even touch the topic of gender roles the femenism wave comes at me like fucking fire. What I am saying, how is that a person stands up with thus view in a society that punish you for even trying to practice it. Please make a video in how to be a man part 2 discussing this topic, because its been a while since i started trying out all that you propose but when people start talking me about this philosophy they throw me a type of femenist proselitism. HELP!
I'm not sure if I would call it ,"being emotional," but what you mean is when someone has no control over his/her emotions. And I agree that makes you weak. You are not in control, you are just reacting to your environment, you are just behaving like an animal. Still, for me, "being emotional" means someone who allows himself to feel emotions. There are extremes where you don't control your emotions, but I also think being able to show your emotions is a kind of strength. If you can show the world your sadness or anger, you are putting yourself on the line and letting people know who you truly are. And while I say that, I also don't see a rational argument as to why emotions are good. They really are more of a problem than a blessing. Unless you begin thinking about what emotions could make you do. Like love would make you be with your wife and children, which would raise the chances of survival of your offspring, leading to the continuation of the species. Anger could make you change something. Fear would keep you away from danger... but while they may be helpful at times, most of the time they make you unproductive.
What I took away from this video:
- Don't let the media consume you, it will portray beliefs to you again and again of a "beta-oriented" persona of manliness
- Do not attach yourself to the different emotions that you experience throughout the day, instead, experience the emotion and move forward. Do not be emotional because then, your emotions will begin to control and direct your actions and if your thoughts or emotions control your actions, your emotions determine the trajectory of your life.
- Do not listen to music 24/7, it will distract you from doing simple things or take away your complete focus on your intentions, even things as simple as working out.
Human beings were not built to multi-task. Many people don't experience 'flow' or being in the zone because of little distractions such as music or notifications.
- You need to stop looking up to people who you don't want to be like, look at the archetype of exactly the type of person you wish to be and mimic their values. Jesus Christ is one example. In short, Find a person you admire, determine why you admire them, and adopt what they are doing that makes them admirable.
- Many people have anxiety because of something going on in their lives. It could be an unethical job, unhealthy relationships or even an inconsistent diet. Do not buy into the fad that being anxious is normal, do not purchase the medicine and instead be a real man who can learn to control their own emotions.
One thing I've noticed myself doing with many YT videos, lectures, podcasts, or readings that I enjoy is that at the end of the piece, I don't reflect on exactly what the author/speaker's message is. Starting today, I'm going to identify exactly what's important at the end of each of these videos for myself to learn and actually apply it to my own life- if not the very least recognize what I'm doing wrong in my daily life.
Thanks so much Eli!
Faustino They made Jesus Christ look weak so that people think its not worth following his words but hes stronger than the devil
I've notice that too. I need to think by myself and read the comments after that.
Thank you for writing this down! Keep going you are in the process of becoming better! God bless
-Decisiveness
-mental/physical toughness
-establish order
-Purpose
If you have no father, think of the kind of man you would like your father to be, and become him!
Become better than him, surpass the past generation
Wish someone said that to me growing up. Powerful af
@@KAIZENURAMESHI Set outstanding goals, and sacrifice everything to achieve them
@GhOsTx I'm a pretty indecisive when it comes to many things because I like to weigh the pros and cons of them instead of just going with my gut, which I should. Be as decisive as you can, and stick to your decisions
I am fascinated by your comment on music. I've often thought about this before as well and thought I was the only one. Not much discussion about this topic out there. I love music, but sometimes it feels to me like it can become just another dopamine addiction. I try to go several days in a row without listening to any music once in a while just to reset my brain, and I always find that I enjoy the music far more after a temporary break from it.
For real!
Hi Nietzche.
One suggestion for listening to music, is to listen to music how they did in back in the day. I.e. Put an album on, and sit/lie down and actually listen to it all the way through, and actually experience the music.
Of course, it's technically more time- consuming than listening to music as you go about your day, especially if you are a musician that aims to listen to new music consistently for inspiration. But just throwing that suggestion out there anyway.
Although, if I had a car I would definitely blast my music every time I drive. In fact, I often fantasise about it (but not financially wise for me to get a car when I don't need it). I can also understand why people might want to play music at the gym, especially because a lot of gyms play really shitty music that is not exactly conducive to getting you in the mood to fuck shit up. Having said that, I've actually been having better workouts without my own music playing. It seems I don't get as fired up, but instead lift in a calmer fashion, leading to better technique as well as not feeling as burnt out afterwards.
P. S. Gojira and Leprous are the best bands around right now. Followed by Tesseract, Mastodon and Parkway Drive.
Music is great after a long day of work, or when you're frustrated, you turn on some calm music, or you shake it off when you're feeling like it with some music
But overdose of music is not good either.
10:00 I agree with your sentiment. I'm an avid musician myself, but I'm one of the few people at my school who got rid of their earbuds. I don't listen to music nearly as much. It's a distraction from the task at hand. Music is a powerful experience, why waste it and be desensitized to it by having a playlist constantly playing in your ears. You lose touch with reality and live in your own world, where you get too comfortable. Good video as always
Tooootally true. I'm not a musician but when I listen to music, I just do that. It heals my soul.
I am a musician, and I agree with your message regarding the overstimulation of music. People listen to it constantly...in the hallway at school, in the car, at the grocery store, at the gym, at parties, etc. And important to note: the music is coming from a digital device, not an actual person playing music in the real world. Most pop, rap, hip-hop and even new country music has a message that promotes nihilism, hedonism and other degenerate lifestyle habits, not to mention the music itself is produced in such a way that triggers the reward feedback loop in the brain, like drugs, sugar, or pornography.
See: Roger Scruton - The Tyranny of Pop Music
That is why you listen to Metal my friend. Metal is the truest form of music. It is on a level with the classical music out there and that is why it is underground. Cause its not made for alot of people and not everyone can accept it.
@@xPetkovskiUR - check out some of the music playlists on my channel ;-)
@@xPetkovskiUR Metal is indeed the best, but everything in moderation, as they say.
KILLERZEN lmao
@@xPetkovskiUR Seems like there are a lot of metal heads on Elisha's videos. I like this. If you go to an Infinite Waters video, however, they will probably tell you heavy metal is 'low vibration'.
You need to be working on a manual or book. Some in-depth shit to improve your life. It would sell out
Totally agree with you Elisha. Being a man is doing what nature made men for; which is protecting, bringing meat and keeping order.
I’ll bring you my meat bitch you
Christopher Surnname shut up lil kid
We don't need meat in highly advanced civilisation. Just take a supplement and go vegan.
Christian Taylor lol wtf... except actual meat is clearly way better?? Also wtf are we gonna do with all of the animals? Free them into the wild and just let millions of pigs and cattle loose to fuck up the already fragile ecosystem? Nah let’s eat em
Christian Taylor research the carnivore diet.
I fully agree brother. On everything you said.
Music in a way is a form of escapism that people don't really take into account, it can stop people from interacting with each other on the street, or isolate people when wearing earphones. That obviously doesn't mean its always bad, but it should be handled with moderation.
hey Bachar, how about wearing earphones and listening to music in the gym?
Music was considered indulgent and sinful in the renaissance era. It was a pretty common theme in religious paintings at the time. See Bosch's ”Garden of Earthly Delights" in where his vision of hell is just full of instruments.
Only a few instruments
The most manly quality that so many lack: HONOR!! can you make a video on that? Love your videos man
Yes yes.. its time to acknowledge it
This channel has so many hidden gems, thank you brother
I have been battling Schizophrenia for most of my adult life as well as porn and alcohol. I am sober 3 months now and don't miss it. Also I am porn free and these are two things I'm so grateful to have gone from my life.
I take two blistering cold showers a day, commit to my diet, listen to 3 hours of audiobooks a day and always force myself to mediate. I take each day at a time.
I've taken some great lessons from this channel and implemented them into my life as best I can.
I'm by no means cured. But each good day I cherish.
Keep up the good work :)
Corey Theisen I spoke to someone who specialises in that sexual research nonsense and she confirmed my thoughts that watching porn, I.e. seeing another dick, increases homosexuality.
Elisha, you are totally right dude. They do make fun of men, they almost always have to show how Male looks away first, and how women are the leaders ect....
bless your soul for beeing activ on youtube and helping us to become better with every video you upload
I usually think of you when I think of what kind of man I want to be. Watching you and hearing you speak is a breath of fresh air to the perceptions of the goof male or the evil father. I do need to be less emotional. When you say that about music, I'm torn because that's my passion and one of the gifts I have to the world, but I must also find that balance of stoicism in my daily life, while also leaving some moments to my gift. I admire Jesus and I love you mentioned him as an example. I was thinking of reading the Bible and now I think I will do it since you recommended it. Another great video brother!
If music is what you love to do then never stop doing it man. Making music is productive and can keep the mind sharp! I’m glad you’ve found something that you’re passionate about in life. There are many people who walk around in life with no purpose or passion.
So much from meditations is given to us in this video alongside your views. Powerful.
Agree with most of what you say here dude. Metal music has saved my life on several occasions. Maybe being clinically depressed isn't an excuse for being emotional, but going to a metal show and getting in that mosh pit is one of the best releases of negative energy I have ever experienced. One of the experiences that I genuinely love, letting shit out with the other dudes in there. Music can be awesome.
Your videos always give me an extra kick up the backside to get shit done and get out of my head. I'm grateful for that.
Favorite band?
@@ElishaLong Either Gojira or As I Lay Dying
Newish metal listener been listening to lots of slipknot and system of a down over the typical classic rock. Nothing wrong eith rock but i feel like metal makes me feel so good and energized! Any band recommendations?
@@ladiesman5622 Gojira are modern metal gods. Anyone who needs convincing, watch their Pol'And'Rock performance (on UA-cam). Gunna see them in London at the end of June. Should be pretty epic.
@@Adrianstryingstuff Depends what kinda metal your looking for really. Considering both those bands are 'Nu- Metal', try Disturbed (10,000 fists their best album imo). Also Five Finger Death Punch (try War is the Answer). And then like our fellow monk suggested, Gojira (Magma is probably their most accessible album, but still really good).
So young and yet so much wisdom, love this man
I’m only 13 but you’ve helped me deal with a lot
You're very lucky my friend. Stay on the right path.
Got my first job today and i'd be lying if I said you weren't a big help. Just by being able to tap into your mindset helps a lot especially when your having a bad day, thanks for all the motivation Elisha!
Well done man. Keep going
Thanks man your awesome.
Absolutely love you bro
Keep doing your thing and inspiring hundreds of men
I remember when I subscribed to your channel I think you had less than 7k subscribers. Listened to a lot of your videos about nofap, meditation, keto diet, and more. Men you have really changed a lot of lives for the good. "I think we deprived ourselves from a lot of happiness and gratitude is the best way to get there". That is by far my favorite quote of one of you videos. Now you with almost 70k subscribers you haven't change a bit, only for the good. Keep it up men wish you nothing but the best, amazing content as always.
Only 19 but I am learning a lot thanks to you brother. Just finished calculating my earnings after tax per week and divided it up using the 50/20/30 rule. The job I am at is training me to run the warehouse and I'm hoping to have a raise soon. I've got full coverage benefits. I'm hoping that following this budget plan, by the time I am 21, I will have accumulated a large sum of extra money and healthier habits to lift me up off my feet, and help me get my own apartment.
You're so smart man. These are gold
The critique on music is a really interesting point to be honest. Never thought of it that way.
that's so true.. amazing video Elisha
In this confusing world where it’s hard to find a real, genuine role model, he’s been really helping me out. Lmao he’s like an older brother
Man, I'm from Brazil, my english is bad, but I'm here to say that you channel changed my life, you are the only channel that tell the truth, that speak about so many things, you do really a great job, I whatch every video of you, so congratulations, you be more great, and the end of video you talk about Jesus, beatiful words, thanks for share this knowledg with us...
Se você não conhece ainda, recomendo o canal do Copini. Varias lições para desenvolvimento pessoal.
Man this is the shit I needed to hear from my family but no one stepped up. Youre like the big brother I always needed 💯 thanks for the vid
I truly appreciate these wise words of encouragement. Thank you!
Tbh I'm getting tired of obsessing over becoming a "real man". It's starting to feel negative and forced. I feel like it's coming from a belief of 'I'm not good enough so I have to change myself in order to fit all these expectations'. That might even be true, maybe I do have to change a lot about myself in order to be happier, but all this pressure to be something different is getting me down. And what makes it even more difficult is that now I feel like I'm not even allowed to feel down about it. I should just deal with it and work harder, because I'm a man and men shouldn't be weak, right. Man... I don't really know why this video is having an opposite effect on me today. The videos usually make me feel motivated and encouraged.
I think the main point is to be true to yourself. It's just that with all this social conditioning, it can be really hard to, for instance, be assertive when in your heart it feels like the right thing to do. Like, how fucked is it that so many guys, myself included, find it so damn hard just to talk to a girl. This ain't normal.
And, of course, supressing emotion is not healthy. But in my opinion, there is a time and a place. If you need to cry, wait until you are alone in your room if you can. The world doesn't need more Justin Trudeaus.
Want it or not, if you’re a man you already have that masculine energy and instinct of a real man. You shouldn’t worry about fitting in anywhere, or being an alpha male. Be your true self, without worrying about what others think of you, that’s when you become a real man.
Thank you ! what a great message. You are the first guy I see wondering about the effects of listening music a lot. I thought about that too. Apart from becoming deaf I couldnt find any real "bad effects" from listening music which is a drug to me. A lot of people talk about masculinity theses days but your videos are always very qualitative and honest on the subject.
You are helping me through brother. I'm making it but in a period that requires minimalism and stoicism. Feeling fucking alive knowing you and the group is out here.
Elisha your so on point here! As always!
Was literally thinking about what it means to be a man today. Perfect timing for this video.
You have said what I couldn't put into words clearly for years in only 20 minutes.
Thank you for all that you do. Your hard work will pay off ten fold, very soon.
Keep fighting the good fight my friend.
We ALL must learn how to control our emotions! Be proactive not reactive 💚
Bro film more videos outside like you used to do e.g in your car or at the park or in front of the gym (i think it was). Imo those were way cooler to watch and one could indulge more in the message.
Btw please more videos about girls and working out (you used to show lifts and stuff in a gym!)
Thanks man
Been thinking this
The best way to sum up a man in one paragraph. Let me try. A man is a stoic. He doesn't allow his emotions to determine his decisions. He keeps himself healthy and fit inorder to take care of his family and those weaker than him. If there is a problem he fixes it, he does not complain about it. He occupies himself in a meaningful discipline and seeks to enrich the world with his work. He has a woman who is intelegent, beautiful and sexy, and is somebody who he wishes to make a family with someday. He teaches and diciplines his offspring so that they become stronger than he was. He dies peacefully knowing that his life on this earth was well spent.
In my own opinion, women have made men weak. By growing up with only a mother myself I see where she would try to make me submissive. I understand respecting her but she made me feel like it was wrong to shout or be aggressive. This would allow her to control me better like she did my dad, who I bearly even look up to because he always did what she said and couldn't function properly without her, he is also an idiot. That made me weak as a child. But now that I am 17 I am working on becoming stronger as a man.
I really look up to you bro. Thank you so much for your insight. We need more men like you. Men that inspire and men that you can learn from. Just like in the old times. You are amazing. Thank you for being with us.
Just turned 18 from australia and I agree with everything you mention. Just want to let you know that you do have an impact on all of us
Happy Birthday mate
Unfiltered wisdom is needed in this day and age. As someone who allowed themselves to become effeminate in their youth I appreciate the no bullshit attitude given. I know truth when I hear it, there’s no doubt when I listen to this video. Stay strong brother, thanks for helping pull me out of the gutter.
Fuck man, you hit on a lot of sensitive subjects. Feeling lukewarm as fuck right now, but your words are refreshing and I subscribe to this.
Dude this video has literally changed my mindset.. I know it’s weird, but I’ve listened to it like 10 times. You’re changing minds and lives bro. God bless you dude
Hey brother. Thanks for the message. Share it if you have any friends who could benefit from it
Just finished the rations male audiobook. This video feels like icing on the cake 😌 keep up the good work
The rational male***
What did you think of the book?
Elisha Long I really liked it. Well worth a listen or read, especially for young men. I’d say that for me it’s as influential as 12 rules for life or the 48 laws of power, at least for me anyway.
This video changed my life thank you
I love your videos and I'm pleased you seem to be reaching to the younger guys as well.
Elisha, your videos are always quality, but this one was something more than that...keep that going brother! Pax vobis!
Just what I needed to hear, thanks for being there man.
Man is the most complicated and misunderstood creation next to the woman.
Noone other than the man in the moment knows what he feels and is adapting to. His experiences are objected by others, he is ridiculed and berated, and he must still find the strength to hold on and go further.
His life expectancy is low, his debts are high, his time is short and his vision is long. He holds the X and the Y chromosomes, and his daughter is a piece of him for another man to repeat the cycle.
After Dad dies, we all dream of him over and over again.
There is never enough, men.
Amazing video bro.
Thanks brother
As men, we need to stop aiming at happiness and start marching towards healthiness.
I am new here...but just by going through this comment section makes me proud to see brothers striving to their best abilities and seeing men be men again...keep it up..bless 💯
“You can experience emotions, or you can be emotional.” Great point. Don’t attach yourself to the emotion, experience it and move on.
Great video bro. Continue to show us the path.
I had a father when I was growing but he always worked so I never saw him.
But I see you as the father I never had
I hope life is good man
getting better
I’m glad I found this channel
This is exacly the video I was searching on your channel some months, I've now found it.
Self reflection : dont let your emotions control you, and turn the direction of your life.
When i feel sad, i have to bounce back and go on, when i feel anger i have to take a step back and let it pass. I can't let jt guide my decisions and my life relationships.
Focus when doing shit.
The anxiety i feel is probably because of my relationship with my mom. I can't be hating her, blaming her or being angry at her. That only worsens the problem. I forgive her for imperfections she raised me with and im not going to fight with her, or get angry when she or the situation provokes me to
I have to be kind and loving with her yet not let walk over me or insult me.
I fully agree with your statement about music. It is the most powerful tool to control the emotions of the blind masses. I use music very conservatively. Mostly to relax for an hour or set the mood for reading or meditation but in the gym its podcasts or audiobooks and almost no music
Emotions is your brain sending you a report of a situation. You can choose act stoic and sensible - or let it consume you and be a slave to it.
In Digital Minimalism, one of the things Cal Newport talks about is the importance of solitude. Which he defines as something like time without influence from other minds. In other words, spend time alone, and don't think you always have to be playing music or even listening to an audio book. Of course, listening to audio books is a good thing and is a more efficient way for most of us to read. But there is something about going for a walk, or just sitting in your room, and not needing any kind of stimulation that can be very beneficial. I mean earphones are only a recent invention.
Good damn, you have the balls to talk about those topics, we have the same thoughts about music and emotions, love yo bro!
Forever grateful for your teachings
This was awesome, put it on because its been a while since a watched one of your vids but damn it hit hard. Espacially that part at 18:52
I agree with your opinion on music. We truly cannot multitask, but instead we switch tasks rapidly. We can definitely hear the music while giving something else our 100% concentration but you won't be hearing or enjoying the music 100%. It's just noise at that point. If you are listening to the music with enough concentration to enjoy it then it will be subtracting from any other task you have going on in that moment. It really is just a distraction and it will do more harm than good when abused.
I personally love music but i listen to it when i'm in the right state of mind, with high quality headphones, when i can relax and devote my attention towards the music. When i am in that state though, the emotion of the music can influence my own emotions and state of mind so choosing what type of music you listen to is very important. Thanks again for the video brother.
Yeah those 'dumbass dad' commercials have taken a toll on me I have noticed. I never really realized that until now.
I’m 18 soon to leave college and go to university these videos have helped so much to keep the right mind state even when negative things are happening still being able to enjoy life Thank you 🙏
Very inspirational shit man! Dropped a like
I encourage all those even myself who watches these videos of wisdom to fully support Elisha in any way possible to keep getting more wise👍
Great video man I agree and as for the music I think what you mean is people shouldn't use it as an escape from something they don't want to confront or just allow themselves to be so caught up in the songs that it literally dictates their lives. Of course music can and will shift your mood but if you're self aware enough you won't allow it to alter your character in any way and you'll remain grounded while still being able to experience emotion from it. Also since it it so widely accepted I think it makes it that much easier to fall prey to it just like alcohol. I am a musician/ sound designer & now that I'm older I have learned to just appreciate music for the art form that it is without allowing myself to be swayed by any type of emotion the music is emitting. I just enjoy it and then that's that the song is over. It's very much like paintings to me you view the picture and think for yourself what the artist was trying to convey through it and you appreciate it then move on. Alot of people might not even be aware that they can do that but I appreciate your observation though stay up bro!
bring back the workout videos please💪💪haha, love the content man, you're gonna make it big for sure 😊
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welcome bro
Shamtastic you’ll like it here
I'm a music producer and i make and produce music for a living. I can tell you right off the bat that people listen to too much music, like they are addicted to cocaine. The best producers work with artists and corporations/brands to "hypnotize" and keep you under their influence for as long as possible. Because of the internet, attention is everything for artist so the longer you listen the better. Music has become less spiritual and meaningful. Its been watered down to BS and people are overdosing w/out realizing. I love *creating* (key word) music as I feel in flow and purpose. Too much consumption of music, such as mainstream suggests, will lead you to becoming a goddamn zombie. Be aware of its effects and you will be more in control of your state... that being said, too much of anything will kill you! cheers and thanks for the dope video Elisha lol
*EDIT: Grammer*
You really helping me with a lot of the things you say bro. Thanks
Such a good point regarding music! I've had the exact same thoughts, and I've been told I'm being a dick for it as well haha.
Music definitely has its place, as a piece of art to be enjoyed and appreciated. Most often though, it's a form of escapism, humming away in the background while you're taking a shower, running, whatever, not even appreciated. Many people just use music to escape from their thoughts, and I always feel like telling people like that to start practising some mindfulness and become a bit more self-aware.
Women like that are also a bit of a turn-off for me. It just screams "I'm willfully ignoring glaring issues in my life."
Your comment on music was right on the money Elisha.
A man is someone who has no resistance between thought and action. A man takes action and gets the desired result. A man determines his own value. A man has impenetrable boundaries to his identity. A man is exactly who he says he is. He embodies truth, passion, and direction.
Being able to provide for yourself and your tribe.
You can experience emotion...or be emotional.
Glad you cleared that up, i've been trying to understand what you've been saying about that for the past 2 months.
Another great video. Thank you for the content.
Elisha speaking facts out here
I enjoy music, but what I think is more important than listening to music, is learning music theory and learning how to play instruments. I’ve been learning how to play piano and I think it’s a good skill to learn
I find I have the mentality of “ entitled” because I raise and till now every thing provided to me ! Specially in the well fare countries most people having this mentality rather than “ chasing and efforts “ mentality
Do what you do, ur great man, keep it up!
To have a higher chance on cultivating masculinity, it's better to be a somewhat of a loner and get own understanding of manhood from personalities of the past. Because most of the society radiates with femininity and the best possible way to not be affected is to avoid it and surround yourself with masculine role models.
Be a lone wolf
Elisha keeping it real!
Being a man is all about the future
Keep making progress my brothers
Needed this, 18 and went through a lot last couple of years. Gotta bounce back, forgive myself for the past, find purpose, get back to Jesus, can't give up. Thanks once again Elisha.
Love your take on music. I come from a household where there are 4 violinists (my 3 sons and wife) and we regularly go to classical concerts, yet we do NOT have background music in our household. One does not see elite sportsman we earphones sticking in their heads. If it really helped then we would see Olympians competing with music as sport is big business for the successful few.
Music has its place but should not be put on a pedestal, sometimes less is more.
Wassup future padawans. Eat this knowledge up.
My older brother had always been my example of masculinity. I have no dad, only my mom and him. He's always been shy insecure and constantly angry at the world. He bullied me for being chubbier then him and never let me bring my friends over to my house let alone my girlfriends. When we got in fights he would always go for my broken nose or my nuts and I would be too scared of hurting him because I am larger than him and he actually tried to kill me once. I have a scar on my right shoulder from that one time. Weeks after my birthday we got in a fight again. I was too afraid to hurt him because he was my brother and I love him, and also because I was scared. He had no sympathy for me. After a year of taking anabolic steroids he has gotten toned up. Nothing major in size only shape. He tried lifting me up and throwing me around. As a boxer I knew to keep my distance and find opportunities but I could bring myself to hurt him. He left me bruised and with nose even more broken than it had already been for years. After finally getting a girlfriend (that looks like a guy) and after that fight he walks around like a tough guy happy at life while I constantly contemplate suicide and am haunted by the failures of my past. Needless to say he brings his girl to the house every day. My mom doesn't like her and I don't care I just find her annoying and an attention seeker. He always makes me feel lesser and worthless. The insecurities he grew up with he passed down to me now that we are older. And all the friendly, vim and vigorous masculine energy I had he enjoys now. I always ask myself how and why god would allow this kind of injustice. Sure he was bullied, and suffered in his own ways, but so did I and I tried to help him because he's my brother. Our entire family sees me as a failure and I feel unworthy to live every single day. I try to explain these things to people but they say It's wrong of me to blame my brother. I feel betrayed and above that I feel angry as hell. The discipline I once had was somehow removed from me and transferred to him but why?? Why would god(s) allow that sort of evil person to get away with this? I am in anguish and I'm lost. I need help.
i dont think music is necessarily a problem, its a correlation but definitely not a causation. there is such a thing as listening to music in a stoic manner, being able to feel/observe but not necessarily invest. it provides an escape especially for something like a 9-5, im sure it can ruin peoples lives but so can things like a simple alcohol addiction or even a relationship that can turn sour. actual musicianship is a form of mental entrainment and it can take years of training to be proficient, from anything to any one instrument to something like audio engineering. but I totally understand what your getting at
I be liking ur videos before I even watch them
About to step in a cold shower and im talkin knob all the way right
feeling alert and alive after? hell yeah baby, lets gooooo
U really want to do it first thing in the morning. It’s meant to set the tone for the day.
I still can’t do this someone gotta push me in
@@lilrobwave7679 step in and yell out "Unlock me ELISHA" and just do it
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Elisha i agree with almost everything said in this video. Im still in highschool in what would be senior year there in the states. My trouble is when putting into practice this type of thinking because of the huge amount of Femenine men and Masculine women around me. I am not saying this is something bad but just simply that when i propose or even touch the topic of gender roles the femenism wave comes at me like fucking fire. What I am saying, how is that a person stands up with thus view in a society that punish you for even trying to practice it. Please make a video in how to be a man part 2 discussing this topic, because its been a while since i started trying out all that you propose but when people start talking me about this philosophy they throw me a type of femenist proselitism. HELP!
I'm not sure if I would call it ,"being emotional," but what you mean is when someone has no control over his/her emotions. And I agree that makes you weak. You are not in control, you are just reacting to your environment, you are just behaving like an animal. Still, for me, "being emotional" means someone who allows himself to feel emotions. There are extremes where you don't control your emotions, but I also think being able to show your emotions is a kind of strength. If you can show the world your sadness or anger, you are putting yourself on the line and letting people know who you truly are. And while I say that, I also don't see a rational argument as to why emotions are good. They really are more of a problem than a blessing. Unless you begin thinking about what emotions could make you do. Like love would make you be with your wife and children, which would raise the chances of survival of your offspring, leading to the continuation of the species. Anger could make you change something. Fear would keep you away from danger... but while they may be helpful at times, most of the time they make you unproductive.
Amazing video
you articulate so well brother