Anxiety Expert Reacts to Popular Anxiety TikToks 2

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  • Опубліковано 21 лис 2022
  • Psychologist Dr. Ali Mattu fact checks the most popular anxiety TikToks (again).
    Watch part 1: • Anxiety Expert Reacts ...
    Learn more:
    - ANXIETY 101 - Everything You Need to Know: • ANXIETY 101 - Everythi...
    TikToks seen in video:
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRutwhf5/
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRut42En/
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRutpNEu/
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRutxLeJ/
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRutVt7U/
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRutgVwK/
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRutcggo/
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRutWdm4/
    - www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRutwAqd/
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    For information purposes only. Does not constitute clinical advice. Consult your local medical authority for advice. The information in this video was accurate as of the upload date, November 22, 2022.
    If you or someone you know needs help immediately, you should take one of the following actions:
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 72

  • @drali
    @drali  Рік тому +24

    What do you want me to react to next?

    • @solemates2410
      @solemates2410 Рік тому

      How do you heal health anxiety?

    • @Heradventuresinwonderfulland
      @Heradventuresinwonderfulland Рік тому +1

      Would love to see you react to the Andrew T Austin projection analysis that Critical Minds did.

    • @oddguyMtha
      @oddguyMtha Рік тому

      depersenalzation

    • @simritdhadda1464
      @simritdhadda1464 Рік тому

      Bpd tiktoks

    • @st__pt
      @st__pt 11 місяців тому

      The vampire diaries. It was so big among us when we were teens. I want people to know that it had some bad messages.

  • @XSemperIdem5
    @XSemperIdem5 Рік тому +201

    I can't remember where I heard it but there's this quote, "never in the history of calming down has anyone ever calmed down after being told to calm down".

    • @drali
      @drali  Рік тому +29

      Love this!

    • @acetraineraster5171
      @acetraineraster5171 Рік тому +6

      THIS, 1000%
      Don't tell people to calm down!! Like, thanks Captain Obvious, I never though of that *eyeroll*

    • @Mushroom321-
      @Mushroom321- 6 місяців тому +1

      Yes!!! 😮😮

    • @Nameless_Teacher37
      @Nameless_Teacher37 22 дні тому

      So true. Someone to listen to and/or talk to, a quiet room, and soothing music are the best medicines for those with extreme social anxiety.

  • @michellegirau8136
    @michellegirau8136 Рік тому +29

    With social anxiety and college the most frustrating thing is the professor not understanding. As for my gradschool experience my professors are all phycologist so they get it and it helps so much.

  • @sarahpriddy3720
    @sarahpriddy3720 Рік тому +40

    I have dealt with anxiety my entire life. As an adult I have been able to get therapy and it has changed my relationship with my husband, family and friends. By far the best thing that has come out of therapy is me being able to be the best version of myself for my loved ones and now as a mother and grandmother I am able to see the signs of anxiety in my children and their children and help them seek the assistance they need to be the best version of themselves and they don't have to wait as long as I did.

    • @idfkwhattosay
      @idfkwhattosay 7 місяців тому

      i feel so bad for you, for me it started when i was 8. you’re not alone and i know how horrible it can be.

  • @clairecook1720
    @clairecook1720 Рік тому +16

    your voice and the rhythm of your speech reminds me of john green. its very nice to listen too

    • @drali
      @drali  Рік тому +9

      That’s high praise! John Green is the best.

  • @Haffina
    @Haffina Рік тому +26

    Empathy does not equal agreement - my Uni lecturer said this on repeat.

  • @Nameless_Teacher37
    @Nameless_Teacher37 22 дні тому

    I still remember when I was failing Japanese 101 from the workload (I'm a perfectionist) and how my Japanese teacher (actually from Japan) took me aside after class and was so worried about me. Asking if I knew that I was failing her class. I told her, with a smile, "Oh I already know, but thank you so much for your concern. It's refreshing to see a teacher actually worried about a student in a world where most teachers either don't care about their students or don't have time to care." (USA, Phoenix, Arizona Circa Late 2007 to Early 2010). After quitting my only U.S. job at a 99 Cents Store to finish college for my family's sake.

  • @strange_game_2972
    @strange_game_2972 Рік тому +8

    As a person with anxiety AND social anxiety I overthink every second of my life in many different ways

    • @KawaiiKemono
      @KawaiiKemono 11 місяців тому

      anxiety and social anxiety are the same disorder.

    • @strange_game_2972
      @strange_game_2972 11 місяців тому

      @@KawaiiKemono No they are 2 different disorders that are a lot a like
      Social anxiety disorder (SAD) is a newer term that includes nervousness in any social setting, including smaller or one-on-one social engagements. Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) causes feelings of anxiety or excessive worry over everyday events or the future, in and out of social settings

  • @seanshingatok303
    @seanshingatok303 9 місяців тому +8

    I really dislike group activities. I prefer to do it on my own

  • @RunToEternity
    @RunToEternity 2 місяці тому +1

    "No one notices me, right?"
    "Just walk to class, wait am I walking right?"
    "It doesn't feel like I'm walking right."
    "I hope no one notices my awkward walk."
    "Maybe if I speed it up by 5% faster and just get through it sooner."
    "Though not too fast or people will see I'm walking too fast"
    "got to be at least 5 minutes early, before too many people are in the room"
    "though not too early either, don't want to be the first there either, that is bad too."
    Ok there are some specific thoughts I used to have going to class in college.

  • @Haffina
    @Haffina Рік тому +18

    As someone with GAD and Social Anxiety these really speak to me.

  • @someforgetfulperson4911
    @someforgetfulperson4911 9 місяців тому +7

    My parents yelled and screamed at me as a kid beacause I was “ to mature “ for my age and I didn’t wanna be around other kids, I got scolded and hit …that caused a lot of trauma looking back on it.

    • @Moldy_Spaghetti
      @Moldy_Spaghetti 2 місяці тому

      I’m really sorry that happened to you

  • @-iamlisa
    @-iamlisa Рік тому +9

    16:40 it hits home. I remember a time when I was suffering from an extreme anxiety attack and couldn’t accept any of this from my loved ones, but I was also sad to see they got hurt by my refusal…

  • @AceyOC
    @AceyOC 8 місяців тому +3

    I have social anxiety, The other day, I found out one of my classmates also was diagnosed with it. It honestly made me feel a little bit better, because now I knew that I wasn't the only one. He usually gets picked on by the others, always playful though and not intended as hurting him. I had recognized similar attributes of social anxiety that I had in him. Lately he's been showing a lot more openness towards me after he confronted me about it ( This was really surprising to me as he never really confronted anyone.) I ended up confiding in him and he in I. It was really nice to know that I wasn't alone and I've found that he's really sweet just equally nervous!
    The day I started taking the signs into consideration was on the dreaded presentation day! He was stuttering a lot and every few seconds he would cover his face with his hoodie, the look on his face after he would pull away from it physically pained me. It hit so close to home and I really just wanted to tell him it was okay and give him a comfort hug(If he was okay with it of course!)
    I have a really huge friend crush, I don't know what to do other than keep trying to be his friend!
    Sorry for that vent-ish thing that story was! Anyways, I'm here if anyone needs to vent, or talk about anything! And of course I'll do internet hugs to the best of my ability! Love you all!

  • @SabrinaMSabrinasStories
    @SabrinaMSabrinasStories 7 місяців тому +2

    During every parent-teacher interview in high school I would get told by my teachers that I need to ask questions when I need help and after every interview my parents would tell me I needed to make eye contact with my teachers, lol. Didn't realise for myself that social anxiety was a thing until late high school. It certainly caused me to drop out of university - twice. I'm 26 now and I still struggle to ask for help and make eye contact along with a whole bunch of other things (work is a nightmare). I wonder if things would have been different if someone had realised earlier on that my behaviour was a result of more than just being shy.

  • @xlGoldenlx.
    @xlGoldenlx. Рік тому +10

    That first video paired with your commentary really called me out... Hate eye contact (especially with blue eyes, even though they are beautiful) just because it makes everything awkward and uncomfortable. Asking to go to the bathroom was always difficult and the feeling of needing to go was amplified because I was anxious. Normally avoided asking for help but felt like a burden when I did. I always tried to take the lead in group activities because I didn't want anyone else's work to influence my grade. Honestly, I'd much rather let the other people in my group chat and do whatever while I'm stuck with all the work. We'll all get a good grade, you get to have fun, and I don't have to worry about socializing.

  • @vanesasteves6922
    @vanesasteves6922 Рік тому +7

    Great vid! I love that you gave credit and shouted out a collegue!

  • @ashley.g
    @ashley.g Рік тому +7

    I would love to see you react to a Kdrama that deals with mental health. Some possible shows being Chocolate, Just between Lovers, Flower Boy Next Door, or Kill Me Heal Me.

  • @jonathanalcantara3385
    @jonathanalcantara3385 Рік тому +10

    Thank you for your insights doc!

  • @Sophie673
    @Sophie673 11 місяців тому +6

    Thank you 😊 as a person with social anxiety AND anxiety and has panick attacks all that time, i missed nearly my whole year 5 dealing with my anxiety not wanting to go into school. I assure you this is all true and I go to Thearpy a lot. To all my friends like me, i hope you are doing well. This video really helped me❤

    • @Sophie673
      @Sophie673 11 місяців тому

      ALL MY FRIENDS, TYPE HERE

  • @frozenlillypad2070
    @frozenlillypad2070 Рік тому +3

    Why dont you have more attention 😭 I wish I could have found your account sooner your videos are the best I have ever found

  • @linnhjertberg1110
    @linnhjertberg1110 11 місяців тому +4

    I just discovered this channel and already love it! Keep up the good work!

  • @aspidoscelistigris
    @aspidoscelistigris 7 місяців тому +1

    Re. not asking for help-I think it's important to recognize that this is sometimes learned and rational. People don't help. The more you ask, the more that's reinforced.

    • @aspidoscelistigris
      @aspidoscelistigris 7 місяців тому

      Pushing people to ask for help is common in mental health messaging. For some of us, it's just setting us up for more failure.

  • @visionforprogramming7624
    @visionforprogramming7624 Рік тому +6

    Hi Doctor,
    I'm actually suffering from social anxiety and the must difficult is that mine make me act weird. I have tryed to overcome the fear but the weird acting just won't go away. It's really bothering me because people do not take seriously. Some are even ferious when they see me. They may look Somewhere else just to avoid me. What can I do. It's really difficult for me even at work.

  • @karlin2222
    @karlin2222 Рік тому

    FAbulous video! Thank you.

  • @sulatska
    @sulatska Рік тому +4

    Are these partners who can support like that really exist? 😢

  • @goldensmile935
    @goldensmile935 4 місяці тому

    You should post more often, I love your videos, they are super helpfun and nice 🥺

    • @drali
      @drali  4 місяці тому +1

      Thanks! I’ll have more this year. I’ve been working on a book which has been taking up most of my time.

    • @goldensmile935
      @goldensmile935 4 місяці тому

      @@drali Best of luck with the book, I'm sure it will be amazing 😌

  • @miaculpin8558
    @miaculpin8558 Рік тому +1

    Your psychological perspective on the Andy Austin analysis on Critical Minds is required!

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 6 місяців тому +1

    " WE COnTROL our actions " , not our thoughts. 👏👏👏😼👍

  • @lemondotsquares
    @lemondotsquares 7 місяців тому

    That tiktok gave me the boost i needed to take my meds. Clipping it and saving it on my phone. :)

  • @bestcity0979
    @bestcity0979 Рік тому +2

    I wish he was my therapist he looks so fun

  • @Aliciae411
    @Aliciae411 7 місяців тому

    The one about playing music is so funny. If somebody walks past my house and I’m listening to music or even just watching tv I immediately turn it off even if they can’t hear or see me 😂 also if I’m playing music in my car I’ll turn it down if I’m driving past people.

  • @Nameless_Teacher37
    @Nameless_Teacher37 22 дні тому

    Heh, the young lad stepping on the glass with the dozens of pounds of weight upon it reminds me of the Captain Morgan pose, one of my ancestors as it happens hehehahaha.

  • @isobelesperanza
    @isobelesperanza Рік тому +5

    I like this video! I have a question can social anxiety be "cured" with medication or is it only treatment? I got diagnosed a year ago and it feels like my medication fixed my anxiety.

    • @StellaBeveski
      @StellaBeveski Рік тому

      Medications can help, but they can't cure. You can be on medication and think that your anxiety is "cured", but then sometimes you can have anxiety attacks again. Im not a professional or whatever, im just saying this from personal experience.

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 6 місяців тому

    great metaphor !!! Of the weights on the cup.
    😲

  • @Shingujikorekiyo_creep
    @Shingujikorekiyo_creep Рік тому +2

    underrated

  • @frozenlillypad2070
    @frozenlillypad2070 Рік тому

    This whole video is basically just him calling me out 😂

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 6 місяців тому

    Awesome education!!!!😮😮

  • @dagimdagne9508
    @dagimdagne9508 Рік тому

    doc i need you help in my anxiety

  • @keiramcgill9515
    @keiramcgill9515 Рік тому +1

    I have social anxiety we're I scratch my neck and look away from people

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 6 місяців тому

    Yes!!!, great example to do instead of invalidating someone. !!
    Im fortune to have a supportive partner !! ❤😊

  • @UrUZab
    @UrUZab Рік тому

    Mindset before talking to someone

  • @zaidhajju2804
    @zaidhajju2804 Рік тому +4

    Hey, DR Ali Mattu
    CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGIST
    I want you to make one video on IMPOSTER SYNDROME... though it is not officially diagnostic in DSM-5
    BUT please ensure me how to cope with this.
    Have you got any patient of this kind of syndrome???

    • @drali
      @drali  Рік тому +2

      It’s an older video but here you go: ua-cam.com/video/3R-IPNyU8OI/v-deo.html

  • @rhett-says-hullo4229
    @rhett-says-hullo4229 Рік тому

    What is a minor you suggest that goes well with psych?

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 6 місяців тому

    go example CONNER !! 😮

  • @home8630
    @home8630 5 місяців тому +1

    1:33 What is asking for help like as you age.....I need help....silence. Excuse me I need help, silence. Yes I am in trouble, I need help silence. We need help, silence. Our nation is in trouble, silence. Whole towns are being wiped out silence.
    Stop asking for help, because there is none. Solution, get off your backside, and don't bother asking for help, because all you will get is silence. And sort out the anxiety yourself....because it exists because of inaction, immaturity and exclusion along with having to deal with corruption...face it, process it and take action...I had the worst anxiety disorders with no cure.....and I am in remission....be the help that you need, because it is within you already. Be at peace with silence, Be at peace with your life.

  • @nandenayo3_catsandraw
    @nandenayo3_catsandraw 11 місяців тому

    Cognigtive

  • @KawaiiKemono
    @KawaiiKemono 11 місяців тому +1

    TikTok kids don't understand what Anxiety is like, you get chest pain; like your having a heart attack. Hyperventilation, ect. They will never understand, I've had Anxiety my whole life.

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- 6 місяців тому

    Uh... , cringe remembering the group forced activities. 🙄
    Horrible!! , what the teachers did...🤦🏼‍♀️