i've been listening to lectures by and interviews with dr porges for a bit and my life suddenly makes a lot of sense and it gives me hope for genuine healing.
nuffsed You Know ho long it takes for those Ideas to become accepted in the Schollmedicin??Its slow very slow,they need to be proven first!And Now the Therapist go by what they learnt in there Books,what’s outdated!Its depending on what you can pay to your Therapist and if he is Inlightend,because Ego Humans don’t have the compassions to heal a person ho had multiple Trauma!Even us they want true it there selfs,the Self comes always first,it needs the giving up from Ego to make his Methods available!
Me too. I'm trying to find the actual exercises that will rewire me now. I can't seem to just stop being defensive after a lifetime. Maybe Porges' SSP (safe and sound protocol).
When child was treatened in a safety enviroment, she run from the safety enviroment in order not be vulnerable anymore. In the body, there is only true, it doesnt know lie.
@@rosisunny9302 ! I am listening/watching and overwhelmed by the information. Am I in defensive mode? Looking for a therapist. Should I find a coach? I feel immobilized.
This was fantastic. And he nailed the reason I avoid Coaches. The evaluative context retraumatizes me and the impulse to punch someone is just too harsh on my bodymind. I just need my arisings to be witnessed - as he said - then they dissipate naturally and I can then figure out what to do on my own. I'm a smart girl and hardly ever truly need advice. When I do need it, I ask for it and I don't like it when people assume that if I'm talking about a negative experience, they feel entitled to give me advice. It feels like being poked in the chest over and over and over and over. It's great to hear how expertly he handles this issue and how equally expertly you heard him and made a good plan of action on your own. 5 stars!!!
Yes! It feels really good to see someone else who gets this. CBT is great for “solving” issues but I found that after being out of it for a few months despite using the techniques consistently, the symptoms came back in more covert ways. It was like putting a bandaid over an infected wound. Talk therapy seems so appealing now; stop trying to fix me and instead provide a safe space for me to explore my own experiences! (Not to rag on CBT or anything, for some cases it’s just not as helpful)
Interesting. I have to admit I've had these exact feelings with counsellors!!! Now that was with depression 20yrs ago. Now I'm trying2treat possible trigemnic nuralagie without strong drugs!!
@@mintermchugh8176 I can c u don't get it! People that are hyper sensitive are often child victims of repeated severe trauma! they come in fear and are astute in reading threat and easily 'triggered'. It is automatic! They have become primed to see threats!
Since i started doing vagus exercises, (massage, yoga balls, and now a foam roller i use standing up) i've seen a profound shift in my state, more relaxed, less stressed, just more a sense of ease and peace. I've been dealing with years of stress from ill health and various other factors which were exacerbated even more after the pandemic so i've been looking at ways i can improve my health and well being but now i'm seeing a link with this and years spent in solitude without social engagement over long periods due to ill health and a very challenging at times living situation which has meant i haven't felt safe in my environment. I knew there was something beyond anything talking therapies could and address and i think this is the key component, i'm seeing how i've been in a constant state of flight and how over the long term preceded by years of trauma growing up this has affected my behaviour and had a major detrimental effect on my ability to engage socially further expounded by the lock down, but i'm seeing the cause and effect of things and role my vagus system plays in all this and how it could be a major key in my health. I guess the question is where do i go next? I've seen the vagus nerve stuff and the books and lookngi for ways to start integrating poly vagal exercises into my daily routines and maybe look further into therapy and treatment, i really think this could be the way forward.
Hi. Thank you for your comment. I regret that I do not have an answer to your question, but have a question of my own. Where did you find the vague exercises to which you refer?
@@franwilliams4306 know it might sound silly, But ask yourself what you need to do to heal rebalance yourself within, and you will guide yourself to whatever you need, intuition will tell you guide you to whatever it is, Singing, humming, whistling, socialising safely in a group of some kind, SAFETY is the aim a SAFE SECURE environment relationship is what humans require to be in balance (stop watching the news will help alot) get off social media too) not overloading the mind with infotainment will help too, moderate exercises yoga My body guided me to all I needed to heal, was always exactly right, I didn't know why I always breathed different to others, I just as kid did, I do t know why I always ran daily for fun I just did, don't know why I always talked alot talked things out dealt with things immediately I just did, I suffered terrible child abuse on every level terrible domestic violence in my teens Yet never had any mental health issues any health issues in fact was very balanced, because I was always 'intune' with myself with what was happening inside of me, somehow whatever was needed to rebalance me just naturally occurred no Drs books information from anyone outside of me was required, in fact the only time I have Ever been Undone was when outside sources/people interfered with my natural occuring process Body can does & always will HEAL ITSELF! It's outside sources that mess the bodies natural ability healing process up Hope this helps
@@franwilliams4306Dr Arielle Schwartz practises yoga using vagal exercises. She has lots of videos on YT. Yoga has many of the breathing exercises too. Today I used alternate nostril breathing and it helped.
"You Have no control over initial bodily reaction but you can have control on what you do and how you react to your initial bodily reaction" this is the key in Therapy. The Key is to Down-regulate visceral/physical cues/feelings then re-look at the information I have had a reaction to. Create healthy behaviours to down-regulate strong visceral feelings such as fear.
Yes breathing exercises alone won't cure chronic stress or anxiety. You have to address the stressors themselves. For me that was obsessive thinking/playing conversations in my head over and over.
My experience is that developing present moment awareness through meditation and prayer is helpful to detecting the disturbance of self soon enough to respond instead of react.
Dr Porges is deeply compassionate and warm. I look forward to reading more of his work and watching videos to learn more about polyvagal theory. This man, as a scientist, is so healing.
Listening to Stephen regulates me. Also, I like his voice. He speaks with integrity. I have listened to him expressing his brilliance in respect to Poly Vagal theory many times on various you-tubes for the past 2 years. It takes time to trust. I get that he cares about how he presents himself to others. I feel that he thinks of himself and cares about how he comes across to others safety.
It's now a year since your post Sandra. I have only just started 'listening to, learning from Stephen Porgs.' Have a similar reaction ot hiim as you expressed:
This is such a hopeful message. I hear that, if we create the conditions in society for safety and trust to arise, many destructive and harmful behaviors will dissipate.
Such a helpful and rich discussion. I love listening to Porges. He never fails to get me excited and more compassionate for our lived experiences. Thanks for posting.
This interview touched the core of my relationship issues, both in the general world and on a more intimate level. It was so good to understand that my nervous system simply overrides my cognition and that there are ways to calm my nervous system down to achieve a more peaceful and loving existence. Many blessings for both Dr. Porges and Sick to Fit!
@@rhondapelletier2141 you have to let go, also called somatic experiencing(feeling your sensations) so you could release trauma. Also, follow Julienhimself
Great conversation! I recently saw a documentary on Mr Rogers. I feel that this theory validates his work on the importance of feelings. I'm now realizing that even my healthiest relationships are with people that are dismissive of my feelings. While they are supportive of my individuality and I feel they love me, they like to tell me I feel too much and need to think more logically. I usually just end up tuning out and agreeing with them. I'm usually the one who will listen to others vent and try to help them feel heard, it's hard to find people who will do the same.
I am experiencing the same and learning to develop a relationship with myself in the same way I support others in being heard. I believe we all need connection and finding those who are like-minded starts with how we treat ourselves; this creates an openness to receive healthy relationships.
@@soulwisdom82 Yes, good advice, thanks! I'm working on trusting what I think more rather than relying on what others think. If I have my own back then I can afford to lose those that don't treat me right. If I don't have myself to rely on and trust, I'll always be afraid to lose someone for fear of having nothing. I have started speaking up more with a friend, which she has been encouraging me to do. I am finding that we got along so well because before because I held myself back. Now shes calling my thinking flawed, whether I'm telling her how I feel or disagreeing with her. While she's been there for me through some hard times, as I have for her, she has also managed to minimize my opinions and thoughts many times. Now, I will value myself over holding on to that friendship, if it comes down to it
@@goldieh7121 Hi! You are doing great work! As you grow into your True nature, those who no longer are aligned with you (as you state above) and honoring yourself in relation to that friendship. This gives way to receiving friendships that are in alignment with your current state. This friendship sounds like it was/is a teacher for you to step into your power.
Vitality, intelligence, understanding and compassion is pouring out of this podcast!!! Such a flood of INSIGHT to my ancestral history…can’t thank you enough 🙏
Wow! I am familiar with Polyvagal theory, but this conversation really brought it home for me that the safety of the body is the primary issue. And that I have a lot more reading of Dr Porges to do!
Yes, I'm feeling exactly the same. I KNEW all this, and now I know it in a much deeper way. Dr P's presence - even via Skype - is profound. I kind of want to write a much more popular book about Polyvagal Theory with him... :)
Totally . We want people to see what we are suffering and that person then understands what you are suffering. So like other day I hit tipping point with people keeping me on hold them hanging up and then making mistakes with everything I was trying to do. I had been asking for support not bullying and judgement not CBT rammed down my throat about how my righteous reactions are treated like bad behaviour. So after 22 years of struggling. I managed to get an advocate to to help me. She then had to try ringing my dr ( she went yes it took me an hour. I said yes exactly and they all the state authorities is eating my life on hold because of their or other peoples mistake which for me are stopping me moving on). Having got me a phone appointment and Gl her. Telling me it was a phone appointment . Then my dr texting me to say I had missed my surgery appointment. When they were supposed to ring me. I then rang the advocate, left a message , then rang the drs after another 30 mins wasted of my life who were going to deny all their screw ups. But that as I ate then rang them and said , hey. You did say it was a phone appointment as she had made it. She then must of explained a bit about autism and processing. And the drs was much nicer. But that advocate was also annoyed my problem wasted 2 hours of her life so now she doesn’t want to help me. I’m not joking this is happening to me on 7 things then they are complaining I’m frustrated. The point is other people are wasting our lives with hold in the phone, chat bots what do t help. Companies not delivering their services then stopping us contacting them. I’m in a shut down now. I just feel I’m wading through treacle in this life.
Maria Nelson...I know how frustrating it is dealing with health companies...drives me crazy and can easily trigger me. However, don't take it personally. They are all screwed up...I think they are overwhelmed, disorganized and short staffed. I frequently project my rage onto them, which is truly pointless. Maybe find a Coach to help you minimize your frustration and anger. (?)
@@bellakrinkle9381 they have a choice to show empathy and treat me like an equal human they don’t so why should I treat them like one. I worked in care too and in retail I did my best for people. And stood up to bullies. Bullies hate people standing up to them. Half the nhs especially in MH are self serving narcissists
Recently discovered this theory through Feldenkrais. I really enjoy and learn from listening and reading Stephen Porges. He is a real benefit to the human species.
Yes, that's one of the great gifts of Dr Porges' work - people can not only forgive themselves for their inability to "do the right thing" or "shake it off" or "get with the program," but realize that there's nothing to forgive. Their body was doing its best to protect them, and just got stuck in a strategy that was no longer helpful.
This must be third time me listening this podcast in a time span of an year. There's so much wisdom in this that I'll probably come back fourth time or more. Thank you so much!
I’ve been suffering cptsd since a child but full blown anxiety and depression due to that complete shutdown of FREEZE by 15🥵😱😭. To learn it’s now 2022 and this wonderful concept has been available in somatic healing is so damn angering!!! 30 years of suffering along with so many others. Aside from scientific egos we that suffer this intense pain is so exhausting I can’t believe I even survived high school. Thank dog for alcohol then otherwise I could relate to anyone. I was painfully numb emotionally. Literally locked in not a mood or any E- Motion. I was E-FRÖZEN🥶😶🌫️😱 That 1st year was HELL. Thank you To Stephen Porges to P Levine & Besel Van Der Kolk. I love you all for working so hard to help us get some light into a tunnel that has been my daily living hell. You are such beautiful beautiful human beings 💛💚🧡❤️💜💙🖤🤍🤎☯️
💥 just found a man that gets it all . Everything he explains I understand nowadays from my own study over the decades and late evolution of myself . I’m very excited about finding his books to share / sell along side other great heroes, for those I can’t possibly support 1-1. Thank you for bringing this man and his work to my attention and others.
I really enjoyed this exchange, thank you! And love those words "Help your clients see that they are not bad, wrong or broken" I met a few coaches and those were really unpleasant experiences each time because I felt judged and patronized and not seen or heard. Im so glad to know that the knowledge around trauma and Polyvagal Theory are being integrated into coaching now !
Yes, so true! I'm doing everything I can to introduce Polyvagal Theory into coaching, especially health coaching. There's so much trauma, and so many neurological barriers to change, and we're battering our clients with cognitive and behavioral solutions that often harm them further.
This information is life changing. I had no one to give cues and my personality split out of numbness so I could serve both roles for myself but switched back to receive. I observed myself thru others bc i couldn't trust them I used them to learn myself. I couldn't understand why I could intellectulize it but not convert to safety sensations.
Great video. I definitely feel marginalized and feel like my ability to connect with other has been hindered to a great degree. I went through a few impactful traumas in my life. The most recent being about a month ago. I didnt feel like I could get through it because i feel like I have so few people around me that i can connect to. This makes it really hard to heal. The parts where you talk about being marginalized and feeling a bit disconnected from the body really resonates with me.. I don't really understand why but i feel like my symptoms sort of disappears when im talking to people, when im at my mom's house, around children and pets. I just want the things i need in life. Again thanks for the great video.
Thanks for your kind feedback! Yes, mammalian co-regulation is so crucial to well-being, and it's so unfortunate that we've grown to think of it as an "extra" rather than a baseline necessity for wellbeing. I've been asking friends to text me photos of their dogs lately - I suspect for just that reason. I hope you continue to find healing!
It's crazy how I struggle to find safety in human beings but I feel safe with Dr porges. He's so calming and regulating and makes me feel safe like he won't hurt me like other human beings.
Within the first 10 min, your convo elucidates my perpetual struggle in the last 4 years in tech: burning out due to running on the toxic fuel of anxiety and thinking i'm not smart anymore or that i'm lazy. This gives me hope :)
Thanks, Stephen. Hooray for PLAY!!! Let those children, adults find the wonder of the present joys of juggling, sunsets, sunrises, plants, people, critters...MUSIC! Let the clarinets, saxophones do their magic. If we do this, we will mature, grow, heal and ward off illnesses. Thanks for all your wonderful work, years of research! You have helped me, family, so many of my clients over the years because of your years of insights.
Thank you for this work and this interview. My whole life people have been devaluing my feelings and I have felt such shame that it was impossible to revisit my history without being more shameful because I have not yet been able to look at how I got to this point without even more feelings coming up. I thank you with all my heart and all my feelings therein.
Wow, wonderful. Love how clearly Dr. Porges is able to explain this in a cohesive way in this interview, and Howard you did such a great job interviewing him to bring out this information. Loved it. As a Bible based healing and deliverance minister (not a religion, Bible based following of Yeshua Mashiach-Jesus Christ-as God head. "Religion" is man made. Only the Bible, of any spiritual text on earth, is not a "religion;" it stands alone in form and function apart from any religion) and Manual Therapist in 25 years private practice, I have seen the importance of the ANS and vagal system in symptom development, and have been guided by the Holy Spirit and my own intuition how to help them by addressing the trauma origins of their beliefs and guarding tendencies, with many many clients with many types of symptomology, and with myself, in prayer, have been able to see my own trauma origins and heal in a process that's much like peeling layers of an onion. Now I'm learning about the polyvagal theory and it's really bringing this all to a grounded, comprehensive view that is immediately applicable, not only for my clients and students, but myself as well. (Edit: Love how Dr. Porges said we need to shift our focus imperative from "not dying" to "how can I be safe." That's God! His whole Word-rightly understood-is about that, Praise!) God made us so wonderfully! Thank you so much!
31:32 He said very true about me. I feel that i must do something risky but at the same moment, i dont want to. I feel nervous very much in simple conversation and in traffic. Thanks for your interview, i feel very sympathetic and must write this comment now.
Words, words selected, pauses, inflection and not just non-verbals say so much. It is a combination. As an autistic person who misses a lot the non-verbals, I pick up a lot through what I just mentioned.
A very kind, patient man & so clear. The interviewer talks at length & in a slightly convoluted way. Porges answers simply & directly. I had to pause the video frequently so i could absorb what he was saying & not be derailed by the rush (anxiety? Enthusiasm?) of the interviewer. 🙏🏽
This is so informative. Also, this conversation is an excellent example of why coaches (and their clients) should be clear that they are not therapists. There is a much bigger difference between a coach and a therapist than "coaches focus on the present and therapists focus on the past," which subtly casts therapists as retrograde. Therapists have years of schooling and thousands of hours of supervised internship training, which among other things creates greater assurance that they will not do harm. Trauma must be handled sensitively and slowly. Even after decades of clinical practice, most therapists still exercise caution around their scopes of practice when it comes to trauma, to feeling into the body, etc.
To me this is one of the most insightful discussions I ever followed! The questions are leading along a coherent path and than the answers of Dr.Porches are expanding the scope to a sense giving, integrative next level where all information is falling correctly in place!, making sense to me. Thanks to both of you!
I want to thank you both from the bottom of my Heart for providing such insightful and invaluable information that serves me personally and professionally on such a deep level.This is critically important information that the fields of #psychology #psychiatry #coaching #energywork #psychic readers #trauma specialists #obesity specialists #counselors #BPD therapists and clients #DBT specialists and clients, etc. would all benefit from embracing. May your Journeys be Blessed in all ways!
Great program! Sharing with my grown kids and grandkids. They've all heard about polyvagal from me and this is the interview that I want to use to explain it! Thanks
🎉 I am feeling some moments of relief and clarity as Dr. Porges talks about isolation, marginalization, and ostracization. It unveils some of my confusion about loneliness, and the challenges of having lived alone, extremely isolated by geography and poverty, for 20 years (from age 53 to 73). 🎉
Thank you- I wanted to learn about polyvagal theory for some time but hadn't come across resources that made sense to me. I really enjoyed your interview. It explained so many things I have experienced in my work with myself and others.
That was so amazing and so helpful..One of the best interviews of Stephen Porges for me. One to save and listen to again and again. Thankyou very much!
Wow! Mysteries I've been curious about at least half my life as well as a few current ones you nailed on the head and specifically.. multiple times. This information is going to change my life. So grateful to you. Truly amazing! Thank you with all my heart for posting so I could find!! Much love😘
I had childhood trauma since birth stemming from parental mental illness and health related mobility restriction. Then as a teenager, I had a near drowning experience that was calm. peaceful and removed all fear of death. As a Christian I reject suicide as an option but in times of stress and despair I gravitate to dangerous behaviors specifically aggressive driving and physical danger. I have sought therapeutic help but continually find multiple professionals dismissing what I reveal. My records show they are ignoring what I say and modifying it to what is comfortable for them to process and fits the mold of their typical client.
I have found an online course called Befriending Yourself to be amazing and almost better than therapy. Matt Licata is very much like Stephen Porges, but a therapist...
Wonderful conversation. Thank you for this. I especially love the part on evolution, the inner ear 👂🏼 and evolutionary psychology! I believe a lot of people in so many fields can be unreached by being poly informed. Thank you so much for sharing thie understanding work and this conversation.
Thank you. I struggled with this theory previously when I tried to understand it. Through this interview, it seems so much down to earth and more accessible. Still need more understanding but I sense I absorbed more that I am aware off. Thank you both for your clarity and intention to be clear and helpful!
I had a dream about him…he was laying in bed and was under covers and he looked so cuddly. I have been listening to different podcasts. So it was a weird warm dream. Ever since I saw his face I thought his face is welcoming and loving. 👍👌
I believe I am a perfect example of the fight or flight seeking safety. Personal life married 3 times left first 2 husbands without them knowing...flight. job...quit in fear of being fired or have been fired from every job I've ever had. Defensive is what every Supervisor has told me. Grew up in home with extreme Domestic Violence and trauma
G-d s love and teaching about what loving human behavior is and is not does not induce fear- in fact the opposite- It is when people harm others and don’t respect life and boundaries where fear is created. There is no fear in love, for Perfect Love casts out fear. It’s not Gods fault that some humans choose to harm instead of Love. Nature is a gift from God and I agree as a former pre-school teacher - we need to play and sing and dance- and clap. Great reminder!
Great interview. I found this interview looking to improve my spiritual understanding based on these principles. Boy, did this interview deliver. You have good interview skills. thank you
Thanks so much to both of you: great interview which I will revisit. Explaining the way our body has evolved to protect us, and the 'out of awareness' responses that keep us stuck, then ways to start unpicking them to get unstuck, is so helpful.
Thanks, Hazel, for your kind words. I'm so glad you find the convo helpful. I'm been leaning more and more on breathing, and connecting with nature, as this pandemic drags on. I'm finding that both are helping me neuro-regulate.
I started doing this instinctively, I started talking to my body instead, asking it why it was reacting what does it need right now etc without knowing it I was teaching myself to regulate, to listen to my body, I understood my thoughts were only in Reaction to my body prompts, because of this I started New You A New WAY Psychology- Embodied self Empowerment no advertising, no media no websites I am completely booked out through word of mouth only Because it actually works Body/mind connection
I feel there is a caveat to this related to Emotional Intelligence and the ability to have learned the vital human necessity of accessing/acknowledging/accepting/expressing one's own feelings. I think we function properly when we aren't disconnected from others, when we don't feel as if we are marginalized or a source of dread to others. We need to learn how to understand feelings/emotions aren't happening to us necessarily, but are sensations we are having the opportunity to momentarily experience to use as navigational guideposts. At least that's been my experience. What do you think may be other cues that play a part Howard?
I totally connect with "necessity of accessing/acknowledging/accepting/expressing one's own feelings" I use a meditation body scanning technique. Try and memorize the body sensations ; linked with certain negative thoughts like "everything will go badly" when everything does not go badly, I make a mental note. So next time similar body sensation and thoughts arise. I can now dismiss them more easily since I have that past event fully and conciously witnessed. Building that emotional intelligence :)
People refuse to connect if your working classes . They demand we respect them but they don’t respect us or show no empathy. So if I ask someone how something would make them feel . They then sit saying well I’m not allowed to say, I don’t know. They simply refuse to relate to me . And I then say ok if it’s yiyr son or husband going through what the state is putting me through then giving 0 empathy then all I get is them being negative to me then telling me to be positive. It enrages me.
Yes, Dr Porges' work has changed my life for the better in so many ways - personally and professionally. I'm so honored to have had the chance to connect with him.
This was a very intersting hour. I learned a lot in this discussion. Especially the fact that "If we have feelings of safety we can not have feelings of threat." So we have to lokk out for the moments we feel save. The only thing that was really disturbing is that the subtitels ar often wrong.
i've been listening to lectures by and interviews with dr porges for a bit and my life suddenly makes a lot of sense and it gives me hope for genuine healing.
nuffsed EXACTLY.
nuffsed You Know ho long it takes for those Ideas to become accepted in the Schollmedicin??Its slow very slow,they need to be proven first!And Now the Therapist go by what they learnt in there Books,what’s outdated!Its depending on what you can pay to your Therapist and if he is Inlightend,because Ego Humans don’t have the compassions to heal a person ho had multiple Trauma!Even us they want true it there selfs,the Self comes always first,it needs the giving up from Ego to make his Methods available!
Me too. I'm trying to find the actual exercises that will rewire me now. I can't seem to just stop being defensive after a lifetime. Maybe Porges' SSP (safe and sound protocol).
Same here, i am allso looking at Tibetan Buddhist exercises to see which would work in the way as mentioned in the vid.
@@rosisunny9302 1 pp lqq1
14:34 - "If u have feelings of safety you can't have feelings of threat." This is the best thing that have happened with me.
So I have the opposite. I have feelings of threat all the time.........Anxiety’s/ FEAR
When child was treatened in a safety enviroment, she run from the safety enviroment in order not be vulnerable anymore. In the body, there is only true, it doesnt know lie.
I can't believe I found this. this guy makes SENSE.
I know, right?!
ki Thats not it!Now find a Therapist,that’s like swimming against Water!!!!😩😢😢
@@rosisunny9302 ! I am listening/watching and overwhelmed by the information. Am I in defensive mode? Looking for a therapist. Should I find a coach?
I feel immobilized.
Maybe it found you.
@@robertharrelson5024 > Maybe it found you.
> When the student is ready, the teacher appears.
This was fantastic.
And he nailed the reason I avoid Coaches.
The evaluative context retraumatizes me and the impulse to punch someone is just too harsh on my bodymind.
I just need my arisings to be witnessed - as he said - then they dissipate naturally and I can then figure out what to do on my own. I'm a smart girl and hardly ever truly need advice. When I do need it, I ask for it and I don't like it when people assume that if I'm talking about a negative experience, they feel entitled to give me advice. It feels like being poked in the chest over and over and over and over.
It's great to hear how expertly he handles this issue and how equally expertly you heard him and made a good plan of action on your own.
5 stars!!!
41.25 Exactly right. Come in peace approach.
41:25
Yes! It feels really good to see someone else who gets this. CBT is great for “solving” issues but I found that after being out of it for a few months despite using the techniques consistently, the symptoms came back in more covert ways. It was like putting a bandaid over an infected wound. Talk therapy seems so appealing now; stop trying to fix me and instead provide a safe space for me to explore my own experiences!
(Not to rag on CBT or anything, for some cases it’s just not as helpful)
Interesting. I have to admit I've had these exact feelings with counsellors!!! Now that was with depression 20yrs ago. Now I'm trying2treat possible trigemnic nuralagie without strong drugs!!
@@mintermchugh8176 I can c u don't get it! People that are hyper sensitive are often child victims of repeated severe trauma! they come in fear and are astute in reading threat and easily 'triggered'. It is automatic! They have become primed to see threats!
Since i started doing vagus exercises, (massage, yoga balls, and now a foam roller i use standing up) i've seen a profound shift in my state, more relaxed, less stressed, just more a sense of ease and peace. I've been dealing with years of stress from ill health and various other factors which were exacerbated even more after the pandemic so i've been looking at ways i can improve my health and well being but now i'm seeing a link with this and years spent in solitude without social engagement over long periods due to ill health and a very challenging at times living situation which has meant i haven't felt safe in my environment. I knew there was something beyond anything talking therapies could and address and i think this is the key component, i'm seeing how i've been in a constant state of flight and how over the long term preceded by years of trauma growing up this has affected my behaviour and had a major detrimental effect on my ability to engage socially further expounded by the lock down, but i'm seeing the cause and effect of things and role my vagus system plays in all this and how it could be a major key in my health. I guess the question is where do i go next? I've seen the vagus nerve stuff and the books and lookngi for ways to start integrating poly vagal exercises into my daily routines and maybe look further into therapy and treatment, i really think this could be the way forward.
Hi. Thank you for your comment. I regret that I do not have an answer to your question, but have a question of my own. Where did you find the vague exercises to which you refer?
Very astute self assessment. If we met on the morning train I would really enjoy your conversation. Get out there and shine your light!
@@franwilliams4306 know it might sound silly,
But ask yourself what you need to do to heal rebalance yourself within, and you will guide yourself to whatever you need, intuition will tell you guide you to whatever it is,
Singing, humming, whistling, socialising safely in a group of some kind, SAFETY is the aim a SAFE SECURE environment relationship is what humans require to be in balance (stop watching the news will help alot) get off social media too) not overloading the mind with infotainment will help too, moderate exercises yoga
My body guided me to all I needed to heal, was always exactly right, I didn't know why I always breathed different to others, I just as kid did, I do t know why I always ran daily for fun I just did, don't know why I always talked alot talked things out dealt with things immediately I just did,
I suffered terrible child abuse on every level terrible domestic violence in my teens
Yet never had any mental health issues any health issues in fact was very balanced, because I was always 'intune' with myself with what was happening inside of me, somehow whatever was needed to rebalance me just naturally occurred no Drs books information from anyone outside of me was required, in fact the only time I have Ever been Undone was when outside sources/people interfered with my natural occuring process
Body can does & always will HEAL ITSELF!
It's outside sources that mess the bodies natural ability healing process up
Hope this helps
@@franwilliams4306Dr Arielle Schwartz practises yoga using vagal exercises. She has lots of videos on YT. Yoga has many of the breathing exercises too. Today I used alternate nostril breathing and it helped.
Pp0
"You Have no control over initial bodily reaction but you can have control on what you do and how you react to your initial bodily reaction" this is the key in Therapy. The Key is to Down-regulate visceral/physical cues/feelings then re-look at the information I have had a reaction to. Create healthy behaviours to down-regulate strong visceral feelings such as fear.
Yes breathing exercises alone won't cure chronic stress or anxiety. You have to address the stressors themselves. For me that was obsessive thinking/playing conversations in my head over and over.
@@jainee4507 me too!!!
My experience is that developing present moment awareness through meditation and prayer is helpful to detecting the disturbance of self soon enough to respond instead of react.
Dr Porges is deeply compassionate and warm. I look forward to reading more of his work and watching videos to learn more about polyvagal theory. This man, as a scientist, is so healing.
Listening to Stephen regulates me. Also, I like his voice. He speaks with integrity. I have listened to him expressing his brilliance in respect to Poly Vagal theory many times on various you-tubes for the past 2 years. It takes time to trust. I get that he cares about how he presents himself to others. I feel that he thinks of himself and cares about how he comes across to others safety.
Sandra Ainsley Agree, listening to Stephen Porges coregulate my nervous system as well 😊
It's now a year since your post Sandra. I have only just started 'listening to, learning from Stephen Porgs.' Have a similar reaction ot hiim as you expressed:
Same here in June, 2022.
Me too
This is such a hopeful message. I hear that, if we create the conditions in society for safety and trust to arise, many destructive and harmful behaviors will dissipate.
Do others have to adjust to your bad behavior then? This is what the brain/behavior non-consensual testing people want!
Dr. Porges’ theory has revolutionized my body and my existence.
Mine too! And my professional life is so much more attuned with my clients' needs and experiences since discovering Dr P's work!
Such a helpful and rich discussion. I love listening to Porges. He never fails to get me excited and more compassionate for our lived experiences. Thanks for posting.
Thanks so much for your kind words!
Like Gabor Maté, equally beautiful & brilliant. Thank you both for this fantastic conversation.
This interview touched the core of my relationship issues, both in the general world and on a more intimate level. It was so good to understand that my nervous system simply overrides my cognition and that there are ways to calm my nervous system down to achieve a more peaceful and loving existence. Many blessings for both Dr. Porges and Sick to Fit!
Did you find any tips and tricks that work?? I am suffering and anxiety and fear......ty
@@rhondapelletier2141 you have to let go, also called somatic experiencing(feeling your sensations) so you could release trauma. Also, follow Julienhimself
Great conversation! I recently saw a documentary on Mr Rogers. I feel that this theory validates his work on the importance of feelings.
I'm now realizing that even my healthiest relationships are with people that are dismissive of my feelings. While they are supportive of my individuality and I feel they love me, they like to tell me I feel too much and need to think more logically. I usually just end up tuning out and agreeing with them. I'm usually the one who will listen to others vent and try to help them feel heard, it's hard to find people who will do the same.
I am experiencing the same and learning to develop a relationship with myself in the same way I support others in being heard. I believe we all need connection and finding those who are like-minded starts with how we treat ourselves; this creates an openness to receive healthy relationships.
@@soulwisdom82 Yes, good advice, thanks! I'm working on trusting what I think more rather than relying on what others think. If I have my own back then I can afford to lose those that don't treat me right. If I don't have myself to rely on and trust, I'll always be afraid to lose someone for fear of having nothing.
I have started speaking up more with a friend, which she has been encouraging me to do. I am finding that we got along so well because before because I held myself back. Now shes calling my thinking flawed, whether I'm telling her how I feel or disagreeing with her. While she's been there for me through some hard times, as I have for her, she has also managed to minimize my opinions and thoughts many times. Now, I will value myself over holding on to that friendship, if it comes down to it
@@goldieh7121 Hi! You are doing great work! As you grow into your True nature, those who no longer are aligned with you (as you state above) and honoring yourself in relation to that friendship. This gives way to receiving friendships that are in alignment with your current state. This friendship sounds like it was/is a teacher for you to step into your power.
@@soulwisdom82 Thanks Lisa💕
@@soulwisdom82 And, it sounds like you are doing great work also😊
Vitality, intelligence, understanding and compassion is pouring out of this podcast!!! Such a flood of INSIGHT to my ancestral history…can’t thank you enough 🙏
Sounds like a good explanation of why borderline PD is developed. Wired for high anxiety, view everything as a criticism or emotional attack.
Sounds like me😢
Wow! I am familiar with Polyvagal theory, but this conversation really brought it home for me that the safety of the body is the primary issue. And that I have a lot more reading of Dr Porges to do!
Yes, I'm feeling exactly the same. I KNEW all this, and now I know it in a much deeper way. Dr P's presence - even via Skype - is profound.
I kind of want to write a much more popular book about Polyvagal Theory with him... :)
Totally . We want people to see what we are suffering and that person then understands what you are suffering. So like other day I hit tipping point with people keeping me on hold them hanging up and then making mistakes with everything I was trying to do. I had been asking for support not bullying and judgement not CBT rammed down my throat about how my righteous reactions are treated like bad behaviour. So after 22 years of struggling. I managed to get an advocate to to help me. She then had to try ringing my dr ( she went yes it took me an hour. I said yes exactly and they all the state authorities is eating my life on hold because of their or other peoples mistake which for me are stopping me moving on). Having got me a phone appointment and Gl her. Telling me it was a phone appointment . Then my dr texting me to say I had missed my surgery appointment. When they were supposed to ring me. I then rang the advocate, left a message , then rang the drs after another 30 mins wasted of my life who were going to deny all their screw ups. But that as I ate then rang them and said , hey. You did say it was a phone appointment as she had made it. She then must of explained a bit about autism and processing. And the drs was much nicer. But that advocate was also annoyed my problem wasted 2 hours of her life so now she doesn’t want to help me. I’m not joking this is happening to me on 7 things then they are complaining I’m frustrated. The point is other people are wasting our lives with hold in the phone, chat bots what do t help. Companies not delivering their services then stopping us contacting them. I’m in a shut down now. I just feel I’m wading through treacle in this life.
Maria Nelson...I know how frustrating it is dealing with health companies...drives me crazy and can easily trigger me. However, don't take it personally. They are all screwed up...I think they are overwhelmed, disorganized and short staffed. I frequently project my rage onto them, which is truly pointless. Maybe find a
Coach to help you minimize your frustration and anger. (?)
@@bellakrinkle9381 they have a choice to show empathy and treat me like an equal human they don’t so why should I treat them like one. I worked in care too and in retail I did my best for people. And stood up to bullies. Bullies hate people standing up to them. Half the nhs especially in MH are self serving narcissists
To helping people to understand, trust and supplies themthelfs, is verry, verry worthfull !!!
Thank you .
Recently discovered this theory through Feldenkrais. I really enjoy and learn from listening and reading Stephen Porges. He is a real benefit to the human species.
It feels so libertaing to find answers to unexplained feelings and behaviors. Thank you!
Yes, that's one of the great gifts of Dr Porges' work - people can not only forgive themselves for their inability to "do the right thing" or "shake it off" or "get with the program," but realize that there's nothing to forgive. Their body was doing its best to protect them, and just got stuck in a strategy that was no longer helpful.
his voice is so calm and soothing
Yes, it's been years since this interview and I'm still learning from it. And from Stephen's being. I felt so co-regulated! :)
So cute I love how he smiles and his voice.
This must be third time me listening this podcast in a time span of an year. There's so much wisdom in this that I'll probably come back fourth time or more. Thank you so much!
I’ve been suffering cptsd since a child but full blown anxiety and depression due to that complete shutdown of FREEZE by 15🥵😱😭. To learn it’s now 2022 and this wonderful concept has been available in somatic healing is so damn angering!!! 30 years of suffering along with so many others.
Aside from scientific egos we that suffer this intense pain is so exhausting I can’t believe I even survived high school. Thank dog for alcohol then otherwise I could relate to anyone. I was painfully numb emotionally. Literally locked in not a mood or any E- Motion. I was E-FRÖZEN🥶😶🌫️😱 That 1st year was HELL.
Thank you To Stephen Porges to P Levine & Besel Van Der Kolk.
I love you all for working so hard to help us get some light into a tunnel that has been my daily living hell. You are such beautiful beautiful human beings 💛💚🧡❤️💜💙🖤🤍🤎☯️
💥 just found a man that gets it all . Everything he explains I understand nowadays from my own study over the decades and late evolution of myself . I’m very excited about finding his books to share / sell along side other great heroes, for those I can’t possibly support 1-1. Thank you for bringing this man and his work to my attention and others.
I have tears in my eyes right now. Thank you very much for bringing this to us
You are not alone 🙏🙏
I kept welling up as he validates my personal experiences and evolution .
I really enjoyed this exchange, thank you! And love those words "Help your clients see that they are not bad, wrong or broken" I met a few coaches and those were really unpleasant experiences each time because I felt judged and patronized and not seen or heard. Im so glad to know that the knowledge around trauma and Polyvagal Theory are being integrated into coaching now !
Yes, so true! I'm doing everything I can to introduce Polyvagal Theory into coaching, especially health coaching. There's so much trauma, and so many neurological barriers to change, and we're battering our clients with cognitive and behavioral solutions that often harm them further.
This information is life changing. I had no one to give cues and my personality split out of numbness so I could serve both roles for myself but switched back to receive. I observed myself thru others bc i couldn't trust them I used them to learn myself. I couldn't understand why I could intellectulize it but not convert to safety sensations.
Great share & insight, can you expand on your comment it's interesting & useful
Thankyou for sharing yourself with us 🌻
Great video. I definitely feel marginalized and feel like my ability to connect with other has been hindered to a great degree. I went through a few impactful traumas in my life. The most recent being about a month ago. I didnt feel like I could get through it because i feel like I have so few people around me that i can connect to. This makes it really hard to heal. The parts where you talk about being marginalized and feeling a bit disconnected from the body really resonates with me.. I don't really understand why but i feel like my symptoms sort of disappears when im talking to people, when im at my mom's house, around children and pets. I just want the things i need in life. Again thanks for the great video.
Thanks for your kind feedback! Yes, mammalian co-regulation is so crucial to well-being, and it's so unfortunate that we've grown to think of it as an "extra" rather than a baseline necessity for wellbeing. I've been asking friends to text me photos of their dogs lately - I suspect for just that reason.
I hope you continue to find healing!
Wow! I feel the same way. Nice to know some else feels that way.
It's crazy how I struggle to find safety in human beings but I feel safe with Dr porges. He's so calming and regulating and makes me feel safe like he won't hurt me like other human beings.
Within the first 10 min, your convo elucidates my perpetual struggle in the last 4 years in tech: burning out due to running on the toxic fuel of anxiety and thinking i'm not smart anymore or that i'm lazy. This gives me hope :)
Thanks, Stephen. Hooray for PLAY!!! Let those children, adults find the wonder of the present joys of juggling, sunsets, sunrises, plants, people, critters...MUSIC! Let the clarinets, saxophones do their magic. If we do this, we will mature, grow, heal and ward off illnesses. Thanks for all your wonderful work, years of research! You have helped me, family, so many of my clients over the years because of your years of insights.
He nailed it right on the spot. We have forgotten how to play and socially interact.
Thank you for this work and this interview. My whole life people have been devaluing my feelings and I have felt such shame that it was impossible to revisit my history without being more shameful because I have not yet been able to look at how I got to this point without even more feelings coming up. I thank you with all my heart and all my feelings therein.
So glad this was helpful for you, Marina!
Hello 👋 dear how are you doing today
lifautdanser - you nailed it. Porges calm explanations make sense and clarity out of so much of life.
such a beautiful and powerful conversation! thank you
Thanks for your kind words, Joanna!
So glad i came across this video. It makes so much sense. Thank you so much. Looking forward to learning more.
Wow, wonderful. Love how clearly Dr. Porges is able to explain this in a cohesive way in this interview, and Howard you did such a great job interviewing him to bring out this information. Loved it. As a Bible based healing and deliverance minister (not a religion, Bible based following of Yeshua Mashiach-Jesus Christ-as God head. "Religion" is man made. Only the Bible, of any spiritual text on earth, is not a "religion;" it stands alone in form and function apart from any religion) and Manual Therapist in 25 years private practice, I have seen the importance of the ANS and vagal system in symptom development, and have been guided by the Holy Spirit and my own intuition how to help them by addressing the trauma origins of their beliefs and guarding tendencies, with many many clients with many types of symptomology, and with myself, in prayer, have been able to see my own trauma origins and heal in a process that's much like peeling layers of an onion. Now I'm learning about the polyvagal theory and it's really bringing this all to a grounded, comprehensive view that is immediately applicable, not only for my clients and students, but myself as well. (Edit: Love how Dr. Porges said we need to shift our focus imperative from "not dying" to "how can I be safe." That's God! His whole Word-rightly understood-is about that, Praise!) God made us so wonderfully! Thank you so much!
Thanks for your insights - glad you liked the conversation.
31:32 He said very true about me. I feel that i must do something risky but at the same moment, i dont want to. I feel nervous very much in simple conversation and in traffic. Thanks for your interview, i feel very sympathetic and must write this comment now.
so helpful... it helps my logical brain accept love and cuddles, because through listening to this, i understand that its optimum. 🙂
Words, words selected, pauses, inflection and not just non-verbals say so much. It is a combination. As an autistic person who misses a lot the non-verbals, I pick up a lot through what I just mentioned.
Thanks for sharing your experience and perspective - they enrich my understanding!
Thank you!
What a wonderful way to spend an hour! Thank you to you both for sharing this message of enrichment with the world.
Thanks, Cærulamija!
A very kind, patient man & so clear. The interviewer talks at length & in a slightly convoluted way. Porges answers simply & directly. I had to pause the video frequently so i could absorb what he was saying & not be derailed by the rush (anxiety? Enthusiasm?) of the interviewer. 🙏🏽
Very helpful feedback. I hope I'm improving as an interviewer, and hearing honest reactions helps me get there. Thanks!
This is so informative. Also, this conversation is an excellent example of why coaches (and their clients) should be clear that they are not therapists. There is a much bigger difference between a coach and a therapist than "coaches focus on the present and therapists focus on the past," which subtly casts therapists as retrograde. Therapists have years of schooling and thousands of hours of supervised internship training, which among other things creates greater assurance that they will not do harm. Trauma must be handled sensitively and slowly. Even after decades of clinical practice, most therapists still exercise caution around their scopes of practice when it comes to trauma, to feeling into the body, etc.
Such an insightful conversation, thank you for sharing!
I learned more during this interview than in all my years of therapy - Thank you!
To me this is one of the most insightful discussions I ever followed! The questions are leading along a coherent path and than the answers of Dr.Porches are expanding the scope to a sense giving, integrative next level where all information is falling correctly in place!, making sense to me. Thanks to both of you!
I want to thank you both from the bottom of my Heart for providing such insightful and invaluable information that serves me personally and professionally on such a deep level.This is critically important information that the fields of #psychology #psychiatry #coaching #energywork #psychic readers #trauma specialists #obesity specialists #counselors #BPD therapists and clients #DBT specialists and clients, etc. would all benefit from embracing. May your Journeys be Blessed in all ways!
Great program! Sharing with my grown kids and grandkids. They've all heard about polyvagal from me and this is the interview that I want to use to explain it! Thanks
Hello 👋 dear how are you doing today I hope to hear from you soon.
@@wesleymartenson150 Stop hitting on women in this forum!
Wonderful video. I am learning a lot from Stephen Porges. This information definitely needs to be shared throughout the world.
🎉 I am feeling some moments of relief and clarity as Dr. Porges talks about isolation, marginalization, and ostracization. It unveils some of my confusion about loneliness, and the challenges of having lived alone, extremely isolated by geography and poverty, for 20 years (from age 53 to 73). 🎉
Thank you- I wanted to learn about polyvagal theory for some time but hadn't come across resources that made sense to me. I really enjoyed your interview. It explained so many things I have experienced in my work with myself and others.
That was so amazing and so helpful..One of the best interviews of Stephen Porges for me. One to save and listen to again and again. Thankyou very much!
i love how stephen porges tailors his teachings for this particular channel and podcast. by focusing on eating behaviours and coaching. great teacher.
incredibly valuable and relatable on multiple levels.
Thanks, Crystena - I agree that Stephen is a gem!
What a great interview!!
So useful, insightful...
Thank you for this great gift!!
The best to you, Dr. Porges!
This is a brilliant interview. Very well conducted.. Stephen Porges is amazing as always. Thank you...
Incredibly rich and rewarding interview. Thank you so much for sharing this with us all.🙏🏻
Glad you enjoyed it!
Hello 👋 dear how are you doing today
omgoodness 3 years later i find this. ty.
Wow! Mysteries I've been curious about at least half my life as well as a few current ones you nailed on the head and specifically.. multiple times.
This information is going to change my life. So grateful to you. Truly amazing!
Thank you with all my heart for posting so I could find!!
Much love😘
I had childhood trauma since birth stemming from parental mental illness and health related mobility restriction. Then as a teenager, I had a near drowning experience that was calm. peaceful and removed all fear of death. As a Christian I reject suicide as an option but in times of stress and despair I gravitate to dangerous behaviors specifically aggressive driving and physical danger. I have sought therapeutic help but continually find multiple professionals dismissing what I reveal. My records show they are ignoring what I say and modifying it to what is comfortable for them to process and fits the mold of their typical client.
Barb in Idaho Yes I’m giving up on the Therapy what’s out there!💜💜🤷♀️🤷♀️👍👍👍🌹
Wishing you lots of strength, peace and faith and a path to healing 🙏💪❤️🙏
I have found an online course called Befriending Yourself to be amazing and almost better than therapy. Matt Licata is very much like Stephen Porges, but a therapist...
@@karenb5616 the crappy childhood fairy lady is very good too, she really gets it.
I understand so much more about my auto responses. Thank you. Such valuable insight.
Wonderful discussion, so thankful I found this, I will definitely keep returning to it
Thank you for your clarity and excellent examples to make this subject much more accessible to me!
Such a great interview. Glad to have found you! Porges is amazing. Thank you for all you do.
Wonderful conversation. Thank you for this.
I especially love the part on evolution, the inner ear 👂🏼 and evolutionary psychology! I believe a lot of people in so many fields can be unreached by being poly informed. Thank you so much for sharing thie understanding work and this conversation.
This is such a great conversation. I've learned so much. You're also a good interview. Thank you so much!
Glad you enjoyed it! And thanks for the kind words :)
This interview was FANTASTIC, FENOMENAL! THANK YOU VERY MUCH🙏
Thank you. I struggled with this theory previously when I tried to understand it. Through this interview, it seems so much down to earth and more accessible. Still need more understanding but I sense I absorbed more that I am aware off. Thank you both for your clarity and intention to be clear and helpful!
Appreciate you getting more content with porges himself! This is awesome
It sure is an honor to talk with him!
Such an awesome interview. So brilliant both of you. Thank you
I had a dream about him…he was laying in bed and was under covers and he looked so cuddly. I have been listening to different podcasts. So it was a weird warm dream.
Ever since I saw his face I thought his face is welcoming and loving.
👍👌
Hello 👋 dear how are you doing today
Thank you both for such a cogent, deep, and informative interview!
I believe I am a perfect example of the fight or flight seeking safety. Personal life married 3 times left first 2 husbands without them knowing...flight. job...quit in fear of being fired or have been fired from every job I've ever had. Defensive is what every Supervisor has told me. Grew up in home with extreme Domestic Violence and trauma
I’ve seen the same. Quitting out of fear of being removed whether from relns work etc
G-d s love and teaching about what loving human behavior is and is not does not induce fear- in fact the opposite-
It is when people harm others and don’t respect life and boundaries where fear is created.
There is no fear in love, for Perfect Love casts out fear.
It’s not Gods fault that some humans choose to harm instead of Love.
Nature is a gift from God and I agree as a former pre-school teacher - we need to play and sing and dance- and clap.
Great reminder!
Great interview. I found this interview looking to improve my spiritual understanding based on these principles. Boy, did this interview deliver. You have good interview skills. thank you
Such transformative work 🙏🏼so grateful to have access to tools & practises for my personal healing & for me to share with others 🦋
Wow great interview. Respect to you for being brave to challenge and question things you didn't understand or that you wanted to explore further.
Love Dr. Porges!
Thanks so much to both of you: great interview which I will revisit. Explaining the way our body has evolved to protect us, and the 'out of awareness' responses that keep us stuck, then ways to start unpicking them to get unstuck, is so helpful.
Thanks, Hazel, for your kind words. I'm so glad you find the convo helpful. I'm been leaning more and more on breathing, and connecting with nature, as this pandemic drags on. I'm finding that both are helping me neuro-regulate.
Thats goooood!!!! Don't assume others behavior is intentional. Wow. Smh. Its often a reaction to their physiologic state. 🤯🙏🏽
Very engaging! Love to hear Dr Porge more
Beautiful! Your conversation fills my heart. ❤️🌟
I'm so glad! Thanks for the kind words :)
Lucky you to get Porges for an hour.
Yes, I agree completely!
16 +- on being heard/witnessed, not fixed
29+- on behaviour being reflexive, not intentional
28:38 about how to stop feeling chonic guilt for our past deeds (by understanding our unconscious motivations). Still it implie a radical comitement.
Very well moderated discussion for the lay people
Thanks, priceandpride. As a lay person myself, I'm just trying to understand it myself :)
Wow-- thank you so much for this interview...
Thank you for this interview!
This is like a bunch of missing puzzle pieces that I had observed should be there but I didn’t know what they were
"We're all on the journey together"-- Yes
Win Hof is a master of using an extremely lengthy exhale for cleansing and restorative purposes.
I started doing this instinctively,
I started talking to my body instead, asking it why it was reacting what does it need right now etc without knowing it I was teaching myself to regulate, to listen to my body, I understood my thoughts were only in Reaction to my body prompts, because of this I started New You A New WAY Psychology- Embodied self Empowerment no advertising, no media no websites I am completely booked out through word of mouth only
Because it actually works
Body/mind connection
This guy is awesome. Good stuff.
Glad you got value from the conversation!
I feel there is a caveat to this related to Emotional Intelligence and the ability to have learned the vital human necessity of accessing/acknowledging/accepting/expressing one's own feelings. I think we function properly when we aren't disconnected from others, when we don't feel as if we are marginalized or a source of dread to others. We need to learn how to understand feelings/emotions aren't happening to us necessarily, but are sensations we are having the opportunity to momentarily experience to use as navigational guideposts. At least that's been my experience. What do you think may be other cues that play a part Howard?
I totally connect with "necessity of accessing/acknowledging/accepting/expressing one's own feelings" I use a meditation body scanning technique. Try and memorize the body sensations ; linked with certain negative thoughts like "everything will go badly" when everything does not go badly, I make a mental note. So next time similar body sensation and thoughts arise. I can now dismiss them more easily since I have that past event fully and conciously witnessed. Building that emotional intelligence :)
such a valid point . Having emotional intelligence is key and I would also add the ability and willingness to be self reflect.
People refuse to connect if your working classes . They demand we respect them but they don’t respect us or show no empathy. So if I ask someone how something would make them feel . They then sit saying well I’m not allowed to say, I don’t know. They simply refuse to relate to me . And I then say ok if it’s yiyr son or husband going through what the state is putting me through then giving 0 empathy then all I get is them being negative to me then telling me to be positive. It enrages me.
Wow, thank you so much, brilliant and life changing.
Yes, Dr Porges' work has changed my life for the better in so many ways - personally and professionally. I'm so honored to have had the chance to connect with him.
So interesting the theory around ingestion (min.30+) and co-regulation
This was a very intersting hour. I learned a lot in this discussion. Especially the fact that "If we have feelings of safety we can not have feelings of threat." So we have to lokk out for the moments we feel save.
The only thing that was really disturbing is that the subtitels ar often wrong.