For me the narcissist is my own mother who came to live with me 5 years ago and it is a extreme struggle. She is 88 and still as she always was, 60 years a Christian but in name only, she has always been unloving as a mother.. A transition needs to come about, please pray for us.
Completely understand!!!! My Mom has literally tortured me all my life!!! My sister n I are now Mom's only helpers. She's age 95 and high maintenance, ungrateful most of the time and this is very draining. How can we say no? Without God we would be dead trying to love this poor woman which is an impossible task. If God brought us to it God will bring us thru it.. The whole armor of God!! 🕊️🤍✝️
Keep quoting 1 Corinthians 13:4 -13 Love is patient Love is Kind. Disengage, i know it is hard disruptive and it is okay to take a walk. If you have a dog walk the dog. If you have a child walk with your child, if you have a husband take a walk with your husband. Step out. Do not engage! Just set her up so she is safe first, safety first. her to Take time out. God does not want you to sacrifice you life the plans he has for you for a Mother who does not have your best interest in her heart. My Mom is a Christian and told me i had to live my life. Both my 90+ yearold parents are in assisted living where professionals can care for them. In late life you become dependant like a child. Its hard i know I took care of two parents for two years during covid, my siblings noticed the strain, I couldn't handle it. I'm a daughter not a professional. We did the work to paydown all their assets (lawyer and socialworker, can't do this job either without the trained pros). You can not communicate with bad behavior. Or during an argument. Take time out. Just speak your truth. "I love you Mom, in my home we place love before all things. Love is compassion and it works when both are on the receiving end. Say what you need to say with love or dont say it at all. You do not have permission to disrespect me in my home. But dont explain yourself, these are just one liners. Keep it simple and edit your speach to fewer words before you speak. Never explain yourself to a narcisist. Never be quick to react. Take charge of the situation, you can engage with disorder. Step away, say something like, "when you feel better later we can talk". Pray for the holy spirit to guide you. Godly love. 1 Corinthians chapter 13 verse 4. When you feel better we can talk. If she tells you she changed your diapers that was then and this is now. You are a daughter and not her mother. Let a trained professional do the jobs to much for you. Its okay to say No. , set the boundaries you need to set. It is not your job to do it all. There are things we are not trained to do, elder care is the hardest job. 😢 you are her daughter and grieving its okay to grieve. Keep reminding her you are her daughter. Keep it simple. Have her listen to sermons like Dr Stanley. Stram recordings from a church she went to. Place God before all challenges pray for patience, being patient does not mean being a doormat. Both Medicare and medicaid have income help and out care help. Find what is best for her safety. Its is best to make a transition if need be where she can get the care needed and build friendships. Involve your church too for guidance. And remember " for I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future". Quote the Bible to your Mom Jeremiah 29:11 read it twice to her as in 2 9:11 . I see a 911 call in this post. Invite the holy spirit to guide you both. It's okay to go Gray Rock if she is abusive, ungrateful. Jesus went Gray Rock with Pontius Pilate at the trial and he ordered his crucifixion. Narcisist who fear God will fear a follower of God and think you are against them and want to destroy you. But if your mom is a christian you can remove the evil spirit. Good and Bad Spirits of this world are in conflict and one can never become the other. Jesus said about Ceaser. "Renderer the things that are Ceasar's to Ceasar and to God the things that are God". So render the stupid words people say to stupidity and quote the words of the Bible as God's. You got this. It is an awakening and growth for you both. In conclusion read your Bible, .. God has "plans to give you hope and a future"
Don't make up excuses to stay with a narcissist because you have children with them, due to financial matters, or because you're afraid to leave. Get some help right away! You deserve so much better! 💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
@@michaelmalech5742 I had to comment to you and what you stated. Before giving out advice like this to anyone, re-examine your own heart. GOD is spelled out completely and not missing letters when addressing or referencing HIM! You say your message was not to offend and was sent with love? GOD is love and deserves respect!
Still in the middle of a divorce from my alcoholic narc. I recently went to check his welfare and when I arrived, he was immediately horrible to me. At first I was just angry and it reminded me I'm doing the right thing by leaving. Later tho, I was sad and frustrated because I realized how much I still wanted his approval. I realized I shouldn't have gone there AT ALL. Now I realize I wasn't wearing Gods armor either. I still have so much healing to do. I can't believe how deeply this has poisoned me. If it weren't for my trust in God and his daily grace and blessing, I don't think I would have made it out. Now is when the cleansing work has to be done. I have to be honest with myself and see my feelings clearly so I can identify the devil when he is near. Thank you Shaneen!!💕
The Bible doesn’t actually say that the Lord is responsible to clothe you with His armour. I’m not just discussing semantics becasue a lot of people railroaded by narcissists tend to miss this key point: God has given _you_ authority and power over _all_ the works of the devil. You have the job of putting on the armour. You have the responsibility to set clear boundaries with the narcissist. You have been equipped to speak the truth in love, to guard your heart and ensure no root of bitterness springs up. You are responsible to work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, knowing the Lord is at work, both to will inside of you, and to complete that which He wills, through your cooperation of the Holy Spirit. A lot of people are exploited and bullied and ask, “If God is so good, why did He allow this?” or “If God is so good, where was he when the narcissist was depleting my savings, lying, cheating, being abusive etc…?” Your response is the problem with this thinking. Shaneen did not say “ask God to put the armour on you.” The Bible doesn’t instruct us to ask God to clothe us with the armour. The Bible says we should do it. This shift in mindset will be the first step to actually succeeding in gaining meaningful victory over narcissists you simply can’t go no contact with. Blessings.
@@Ad-Lo Greetings and Blessings! All your points are true in valid. For someone who’s not familiar with Ephesians 6, I see where it could be a problem. But for us, it’s not. My thinking is not the problem but my wording probably is to someone who’s not familiar. I was just excited to hear Shaneen talk about such things in a largely secular format, concerning a topic that most people tell you break off all ties and run from people suffering from this order. To hear the other side, for people especially who have a divine calling to deal with people like this. Thank you for explaining what I did not. 💜🙏🏻🔥
getting closer to God, trusting in Him and putting Him first has done wonders with dealing with my narcissist! i go to therapy, and letting time pass has helped heal me but God will take you to the next level ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼
I find "forgiveness" is also a very effective sword. "Pray for those who abuse you" - with a safe distance, it's the quickest way that I heal and move on. I hope you know your videos inspire folks from multiple faiths, by virtue of mining spiritual truths universal to faith.
Shaneen, will you please do a video on COMMUNAL Narcissists (specifically preachers) who have covert, malignant traits and the flying monkeys who protect them?
Your channel is phenomenal, thank you. Listening to psychologist only gives you 50% of the picture. You give full context. I learned so much, thank you. God bless you.
I have had no contact with my narc sibling and his flying monkeys, also siblings, for many years. My Mom is still alive and my greatest fear is having to be in the same room with them at her wake/funeral, if she passes before me. I’d like to honor my Mom, but also don’t want to be a punching bag for my siblings. The narc has already said, “When Mom passes, it’s gonna be fun!” I’m not even kidding! Please address this in a future video. I have been so blessed by your wisdom and I love your biblical perspectives! I thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Currently surrounded by narcissist, flying monkeys and demons at present job. Searching for other opportunities to leave, but change isn’t coming right now. It is so draining, but through faith and boundaries it is getting better. Great video and advice. -Subscribed
Amen, Amen!!!! Narcissism is growing exponentially in these days of apostasy, we need to know the things mentioned in this video. Thank you for posting it!
This was right on time Rhema! I literally have to do this when I go to sleep and wake up everyday in order to have God's peace. I'm halfway through my journey to the promised land away from the narc and its nerve-wracking to get the calls/texts to "check on the kids." My body gets so anxious, but I hear God's calming voice saying "Do Not Fret!" My son ended the call in 2 mins today lol 🙌🏽
After yesterday, I feel my ex may be exactly that. He said, “having people in the community tell me the awful things you say I do to my kids is weird.” OMG. He hit them with a belt while I was at work on the palms of his hands. And I still couldn’t get full custody because he makes lots of money and has lots of friends. Ugh. He still has a hold on making me react. So I told him everything he did. And then he said I was changing the subject. No I wasn’t. Then he said I was hoovering. And called me a narcissist
I became physically disabled just as it was beginning to dawn on me that a person I was entangled in a business venture with was someone I needed to run away from. In time, this person's ICD10 dx was indisputable to me, but my physical disability didn't resolve itself, unfortunately. So to me these youtube channels like Sister Shaneen Megji's with navigation techniques & support have been like a floatation device thrown out to passengers of a shipwreck for me. Until the day of my great escape, I learn & prepare & practice techniques!
This video is confirming that God is speaking to me and helping me with the 3 narcissists in my family I can't avoid. I have let my son and daughter in law control me and I put up with so much from my ex. Not anymore! God is empowering me to get my life back. Your videos are a big help!
Take this up in prayer to God. He will strengthen you to do things you didn't think possible, to remove the power of those that wish you harm, and to empower you to know that nothing they say or do can injure you without your permission. Read and meditate on Psalm 23. God will prepare a table and feast for you * in the presence * of your enemies. In Him, you are stronger than you can know.
Could you talk about the covert narcissist that doesn't fight in angry arguments but pushes you to loose your temperature so you're wrong? My narc made me the upset one and then says see? He spoke quietly and would walk away from the problem once he escalated me to where he looked like the harmed one. It's one if the ways he gets his Monkeys. When God saved me and said enough.....he got my mother, our daughter, and our GRANDBLESSINGS! I have no relationship left with people. But God...💜💜💜💜💜 I have never been so content and provided for than I am now by God! He has given me everything I need and could want. One day, I hope to trust a two legged beast....until then, the Lord gave me a kitten! Love your work! Thank you! God's perspective on this topic is the only way any of us will heal from these monsters! God bless you! 🤟💜
All the [it turns out] Narcs in my life removed themselves by shunning/going NC with ME between 2018-2021. It took a couple of yrs in solitary working from my small apartment, getting closer to God every day to finally realize what's really going on. And What Time It Is. God is separating the wheat from the tares in some final shakes.... has beeb for awhile now. By God's Grace, each time a Narc removed themselves from my life, I was given the wisdom and sight to understand that He was saving me from demonic forces that had surrounded me for so long I couldn't even see them. Now my eyes are open and I'm awake. We're in a Spiritual War and I'm so grateful every day 🙏 that God has protected me and shown me the way my entire life. ❤
I am watching this video because I have a narcissistic boss and it's as if she has a roster for slicing each and everyone of us and this morning it was my turn again. In the meantime I cannot quit my job but it's really frustrating me now because I have tried to reconcile so many times because I live by the conduct of forgiveness and I do not like conflict. Thanks for this Shaneen. It's really helpful.
God told me that when lm trying to defend myself to include him in the conversation.. not to rely on myself .. but say things like.. God wouldn’t like that or God wouldn’t approve .. or he would never do that.. bring him into the confrontation.. l find every time.. it stops things
I’m right there with you. My kiddos are 11 and 3. I married the father of my 3yo. I’m so glad God revealed the truth to me and have led me to find videos like this. These videos have been so helpful and confirmed many of the things I have been dealing with. Now that I am walking in truth and self-love…. God has continuously moved in our lives. There is more to come, but I’m grateful for figuring out how to deal with him despite the narcissism.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS IM KNEW TO YOUR CHANNEL I AM A VICTIM OF NARCISSITIC ABUSE THIS PERSON HAS BROKE ME DOWN THROUGH MONTHS AND YEARS OF THE NARCISSITS SILENT TREATMENT THIS PERSON HAS DESTROYED MY LIFE I AM SEVERLY TRAUMA BONDED IM STRUGGLING TO DISCONNECT I CONTINUE TO MESSAGE AND CHECK HIS SOCIAL MEDIA.I AM BEING GIVEN THE SLIENT TREATMENT .IM STRUGGLING
Glory to God Thank you ms Shanneen Megji for obeying the call to minister to us. I always look forward to your videos. Now I set off to really study inorder to understand well about putting on the full armor of God. God bless you
Shaneen, thank you so much for your faithfulness with your annointing. The Lord has used you so much in my recovery from narc abuse. I am healing greatly and moving on. I have to see the narc, as we share a child, but my faith has grown greatly through forgiveness and the armour of God when encountering the narc. we are attempting Co-parenting counseling. Pray for us thanks.
Sheena, a topic that is rarely addressed here is when the narcissist is your own child. In dealing with this, i have discovered it is not so unusual for parents of adult children to be "cancelled" and it is usually abruptly in every case and without explanation. This is a whole different type of trauma because the loss is not a romantic one or that of a spouse. I'd love to hear your teachings on this issue. Of all the voices on this topic, yours rings most clear and most impactful. It is a tremendous help. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this video ! So true- yes been getting healing from this relationship that was and no more! Daddy God bless your Daughter Shaneen Big Time for helping us out, through Holy Spirit 🕊💜😘
My 13 year old is doing what her dad did . He is gone but she picked up where he left off . I feel very bad for her because some of it is learned but the sick part is she witnessed the damage he did to me and to her but yet does to me and often with no remorse and lies even seemed planned out she will gaslight me and her older brother who has learning disability . She’ll turn him against me . I grew up with a mom who had borderline and was Narc and from what I witnessed is they don’t change unless something breaks them . OnlyGod can change them . I’m just having a hard time being nice and it’s daily war not to become bitter from abuse . A fear comes over me when I engage with her . I worry she’ll do something bad .
My son was like this but thanks be to God for answering my prayers, he is a changed boy now. He still struggles with the personality traits but he wants to change. He has experienced God's love and healing and he is working on change. Keep praying for your daughter. And show her how much God loves the real her and the purpose he made her for. Knowing how loved you really are is the most important ingredient for change. Especially for a narcissist who feels so much shame and condemnation. There is still hope with how young she is ❤.
@@flutterby77 thank you butterfly I felt that I had to pray because it’s all I can do and show love that’s what the Lord placed on my heart . You confirmed what I need to do . God Bless You .
I’m so sorry to hear you are having to endure this pain Amanda in Christ Praying for the Holy Spirit to touch your daughters heart to allow her to know the truth and for her to have Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior and to have the peace that surpasses ALL understanding ! Also praying for God to give you the strength courage wisdom and tenacity to endure this storm trusting that He will never leave you nor forsake you ! I too am going through a difficult situation with my narcissistic ex and how my teen daughter is effected by her moms cruel and abusive ways ! I’m here for you to offer prayers encouragement and support ! I could surely use the same !! Reach out if you’ll like to step out of your comfort zone and trust a stranger in seeking comfort during these difficult times May God hear your prayers and cry’s for help and restore your relationship with your daughter ! God bless you and your precious daughter 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️✝️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@iamthestorm1004 Thank You so much it’s been hard . I’m not sure if your a woman or man you don’t have a name but God knows who you are God bless you .
I am a man My kids call me DaD 🙂 I live on the west coast Been watching countless UA-cam videos Christian based and secular I’m really trying to figure things out Trying so hard to let go and let God but as a warrior protective father I feel my hands are totally tied due to my ex narc not having any boundaries on what limits she will go to in her attempts to try to destroy me These narcs Really hurt our kids 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🥲
@@ShaneenMegji thank you yes, the no contact, is just not good for me right now, although that would be good, maybe early on. Mother is the covert narcissistic.
Thank you! This video was desperately needed! Thank you for using your wisdom and gift to help out in this area! Thank you as always Shaneen! You’re the best!
Shaneen, don’t you think David was a nercissist and a psychopath at some point in his life? But ofcourseyes he is a perfect example of a person who repented right and got right with God the right away. Sure he still got the consequences of his sin but it humbled him many ways and brought him even closer to God and matured him more to point more people to God!
I referred to my divorced husband Diablo. There’s no other explanation how cold & manipulative he is. His heart is cold, no empathy. I truly feel his fury from miles away. He is not able to communicate with out rage. Dangerous to be with. I’m safe in my own space now & God knows how much I continue my faith in the Holy Spirit. I ask God to give me Grace to forgive & allow me to be me once again. Fearless
This video is truly extraordinary. I have done everything suggested in this video, and God really protected me, especially my soul from a narcissistic wife, whom I could not leave, for the sake of our children. I have been doing Anglican Daily Office for the past seven months, and the Office is really God's tools for bringing great refreshments for my soul.
Please consider contacting your local women's shelter or church community outreach. Pray for God to guide you and open the doors that need opened. I will pray too.
I wish people who preach no contact would recognize that their are many for whom this is not an option at all. However for followers of Jesus I agree the best, and perhaps the only option is to wear the armour of God. He's the expert in human nature and human survival so when He advised wearing His armour it's got to be because it works against the demons of narcissism.
I went no contact after one narcissist destroyed me and left me penniless. Then when you become broke, homeless and powerless from one narcissist, you are Prime Supply for the next Narc. Trust me I'm now stuck with another one for 8 years now after going no contact with own father and this one is WORSE than the first one. Just give up and deal with it is all you can really do. It's Hell on Earth 😩😞
I recently found your channel and deeply appreciate your teaching. I struggle with this particular video. I understand and practice the principles of spiritual armor and warfare. The problem is that the primary narc is my husband, an expert covert narc. I'm worn down from years of the battle, trying to stay safe spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Due to finances and younger children, separation, let alone no contact, is simply not possible. What do you do when you HAVE prayed, stood, and battled for so many years that you are weary, weak and lying on the battlefield giving up?
My situation is my husband who I can't leave. Thirty years of him and I am barely alive. I must beg God all day to continue to give e the strength that I DO NOT have without HIM. Take care of yourself!!!
I too am in a situation very similar to yours except I am 80 years old and disabled and so am able to support myself financially anymore. If I could I'd be gone in a flash because my narc husband likes to hurt me every day. I know it's hard with young children, but spending time talking with Jesus, telling him your hurt and pain and reading the Psalms gives the energy and strength to make it through the day. Think about him standing with his arms around you when you're being tormented and abused because he is with you always. I really feel for you and I will pray. In Jesus love, Eden
Shaneen - You are a prayer answered! Thank you so much 💓. I must recommend another UA-cam upload that completely changed my Bible study and explains why churches are all fouled up. It's: "Richard Jordan, the changing face of dispensationalism". Peace and thank you very much!
I just filed a order of protection. It seem the seven years no contact, I relocated!!!! I give him zero, but it is not working making this 🤪 worse. Be safe and stay in prayer.
I tried everything to leave my narcissistic family, and it backfired. Now, I have high cholesterol calcium from the situation. If people want me to have a permanent medical condition, I will accept that offer because I don’t have anything left to fight for.😞
After 15+ years of trying to figure out why things were consistently difficult and vindictive with my triangulating parents, we decided to go no contact/grey rock about half a year ago. My husband and I have two kids who are aware of what we’re trying to achieve and why we are doing it. Here’s the problem/question: we live very close to them and it is *uncomfortable* when we pass each other on walks/etc. They recently sent us all (their grandkids too!) a letter that was: non-apologetic, filled with projection, they tried to reassert previously successful trauma-bonds, blame shifting, emotionally immature, and yet the letter had no restorative guilt. How in the world do we continue to live so close to them? We do not trust them as they are manipulative and have shown us dysregulation in severe forms BUT they periodically *love bomb* their only grandchildren. Any spiritual insights for us?
A topic which is interesting me is what is actually the essence of love. There are different types of love, even adonai love of God. But if a person is constantly attacked by evil and traumatised and in pain, like St Paul, when how and where to fill the love ? Love not being provided to a child, where can a child be filled with love being traumatized, if parents are not there ? The child can neither protect it self, nor can it think or act on its own. What is this warm filling love which heals. How does it fill, if it is not where and how to find it in yourself ?
I see my person at Church and I usually go to a different service. If I go to the same service I will pull back on the attention but I'll still act like nothing is wrong because I don't want to give her the satisfaction of ignoring her. If I ignore her she'll try to draw me right back by giving me attention hoping I'll start pursuing her again.
By the way…. Narcissist Personality is a “personality” type. Yes, some narcissist can be demon possessed, yet not all narcissist are possessed with a demon.
What about when you have a child with that person and the child, by law, has to visit with the narcissist. And both the stepmother and the real father are narcissist? How do you protect the child?
@@ShaneenMegji Please do Shaneen. It is the situation my g. granddaughter is in with her father. Both the step mom and her father, my grandson, are very worldly and are teaching her the opposite things her mother and other grandparents are trying to teach her. She is in counseling, because it is scary and almost debilitating to her emotionally to go there. Thank you for your videos. They have at times been a lifeline to me when I felt hopeless for my little great granddaughter (6 yo) and her father, my grandson, the narcissist. I have prayed everyday for 27 years for my grandson since he was conceived. And will continue to pray for a breakthrough. ❤️
You are wonderful. Love your insight… Struggling so much with any interaction even though I’m very near no contact…only very business-y gray rock through a parenting app…my young men/ kids keep bringing him around in words etc… sigh … moving would’ve helped it my sons needed me to stay to finish their high school- I get so much help from your videos, they’re fabulous
What about child support? I haven't gotten it in >4 years. I moved to a new state and wonder if I should even file. He hates my guts. Never has anything nice to say to me his ex wife and mother of his kids. I just don't understand. 😔
Great job/huge help - thank you. You are a lifesaver. What about the subject: "🤔How the narcissistic personality can be used for good cause?🤔" Knowing what I know right now I managed to use "love bombing" stage of narcissist, who is interested in me, to redirect her energy to help our community and her kids. I told her from the beginning, that I'm attracted to her, but not interested in relationship. She, being loved by everybody and so desired, cannot accept being rejected and stays in "love bombing " stage - prolonging it is very beneficial for everybody around. I do not think it can work as a cure for her, but, at least, transforms bad energy in good one. It's risky to do not fall in the trap, but after 20 years of experience it is not so likely. Am I becoming a narcissist myself? I'm tricking another person and it is not good, not godly, but.... it's something to think about. All the best Maciek P.S.: I come across a "stupid" narcissistic boss who was so hungry of admiration and very predictable, that, flattered, he could be easily led by the nose. I know - it is not very christian approach, but it feels so refreshing. I can feel that I didn't completely wasted all that years. Should I be ashamed?
Listen to the still quiet loving voice in your mind and heart. That is how the Spirit speaks. Anything else is not of God. Read his word closely to learn to know his truth and ask him daily to help you learn how to hear the Spirit.
70-sth Muslim NMom who hates Jesus while I am a Christian; she's showing signs of dementia so I had to uproot my life and move in with her. She's being turning to the occult through her religion for ages and she still does. I have no peace of mind anymore. I am going through a non pleasant perimenopause on top of everything. At this point of my life, I even regret being a Christian because I feel so betrayed by God. My mom is still a divisive person. I think that part of her dementia is just a cover for her demons. I can't understand why the Lord would abandon people while He's fully aware of the difficulty to find a genuine deliverance ministry. I mean, He knows what it is to look for help for 12 (woman with blood issue) or 18 years (the bent over woman) and yet, He would let us suffer for ages without doing squat.
I CONFRONTED MY NARC EVIL MOTHER SHE WAS PISSED AND ENDED UP DOING RITUALS ON ME BUT NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER IN JESUS NAME SHE IS 85 AND UNCHANGING AND ALL HER CHILDREN TOO I HAD TO CUT MYSELF OF THE CONTERMINATED TREE AND BUILD MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD TO STRENGHTEN ME AND PRAYER BECAME MY WEAPON FOR DAILY PROTECTION AGAINST ANY JEZEBEL SPIRIT
I don't agree that you can't heal around somebody like that because in the Bible God had some people or those people aren't really bad situations and they had to learn how to find joy and peace even in the worst even if they were in jail and being beaten.
@ShaneenMagji I would like to thank you for all your videos 🙏 it has been a tremendous help. I was wondering if you could read us The Holy Bible, as we follow along your voice is so soothing and your explanation really help understand The Most High. Thank you again.👑🕊️🙏🫂💞
For me the narcissist is my own mother who came to live with me 5 years ago and it is a extreme struggle. She is 88 and still as she always was, 60 years a Christian but in name only, she has always been unloving as a mother.. A transition needs to come about, please pray for us.
My Narc NOTher (nicknamed) is 84 & a Christian poser. My prayers with you & for us all with demon's for loved one's!
@@keithstewart7514 NOTher is GENIUS!!!!! LOL You truly rock!!!🌞 Much love!💖🌈
Completely understand!!!! My Mom has literally tortured me all my life!!! My sister n I are now Mom's only helpers. She's age 95 and high maintenance, ungrateful most of the time and this is very draining. How can we say no? Without God we would be dead trying to love this poor woman which is an impossible task. If God brought us to it God will bring us thru it..
The whole armor of God!! 🕊️🤍✝️
I will pray Patrick
Keep quoting 1 Corinthians 13:4 -13 Love is patient Love is Kind. Disengage, i know it is hard disruptive and it is okay to take a walk. If you have a dog walk the dog. If you have a child walk with your child, if you have a husband take a walk with your husband. Step out. Do not engage! Just set her up so she is safe first, safety first. her to Take time out. God does not want you to sacrifice you life the plans he has for you for a Mother who does not have your best interest in her heart. My Mom is a Christian and told me i had to live my life. Both my 90+ yearold parents are in assisted living where professionals can care for them. In late life you become dependant like a child. Its hard i know I took care of two parents for two years during covid, my siblings noticed the strain, I couldn't handle it. I'm a daughter not a professional. We did the work to paydown all their assets (lawyer and socialworker, can't do this job either without the trained pros).
You can not communicate with bad behavior. Or during an argument. Take time out. Just speak your truth. "I love you Mom, in my home we place love before all things. Love is compassion and it works when both are on the receiving end. Say what you need to say with love or dont say it at all. You do not have permission to disrespect me in my home. But dont explain yourself, these are just one liners. Keep it simple and edit your speach to fewer words before you speak. Never explain yourself to a narcisist. Never be quick to react. Take charge of the situation, you can engage with disorder. Step away, say something like, "when you feel better later we can talk". Pray for the holy spirit to guide you. Godly love. 1 Corinthians chapter 13 verse 4. When you feel better we can talk.
If she tells you she changed your diapers that was then and this is now. You are a daughter and not her mother. Let a trained professional do the jobs to much for you. Its okay to say No. , set the boundaries you need to set. It is not your job to do it all. There are things we are not trained to do, elder care is the hardest job. 😢 you are her daughter and grieving its okay to grieve. Keep reminding her you are her daughter. Keep it simple. Have her listen to sermons like Dr Stanley. Stram recordings from a church she went to. Place God before all challenges pray for patience, being patient does not mean being a doormat. Both Medicare and medicaid have income help and out care help. Find what is best for her safety. Its is best to make a transition if need be where she can get the care needed and build friendships. Involve your church too for guidance.
And remember " for I know the plans I have for you" declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future". Quote the Bible to your Mom Jeremiah 29:11 read it twice to her as in 2 9:11 . I see a 911 call in this post. Invite the holy spirit to guide you both.
It's okay to go Gray Rock if she is abusive, ungrateful. Jesus went Gray Rock with Pontius Pilate at the trial and he ordered his crucifixion. Narcisist who fear God will fear a follower of God and think you are against them and want to destroy you. But if your mom is a christian you can remove the evil spirit. Good and Bad Spirits of this world are in conflict and one can never become the other.
Jesus said about Ceaser. "Renderer the things that are Ceasar's to Ceasar and to God the things that are God". So render the stupid words people say to stupidity and quote the words of the Bible as God's.
You got this. It is an awakening and growth for you both.
In conclusion read your Bible, .. God has "plans to give you hope and a future"
Don't make up excuses to stay with a narcissist because you have children with them, due to financial matters, or because you're afraid to leave. Get some help right away! You deserve so much better!
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@@michaelmalech5742 I had to comment to you and what you stated. Before giving out advice like this to anyone, re-examine your own heart. GOD is spelled out completely and not missing letters when addressing or referencing HIM! You say your message was not to offend and was sent with love? GOD is love and deserves respect!
@@stephaniechargois6805
I am Yahuah, this is my name
My esteem I will not give to another
Nor my praise to idols
I've observed countless women who still stay with the narcissist because they like their bed performance. Pathetic hey..
Still in the middle of a divorce from my alcoholic narc. I recently went to check his welfare and when I arrived, he was immediately horrible to me. At first I was just angry and it reminded me I'm doing the right thing by leaving. Later tho, I was sad and frustrated because I realized how much I still wanted his approval. I realized I shouldn't have gone there AT ALL.
Now I realize I wasn't wearing Gods armor either.
I still have so much healing to do. I can't believe how deeply this has poisoned me.
If it weren't for my trust in God and his daily grace and blessing, I don't think I would have made it out.
Now is when the cleansing work has to be done. I have to be honest with myself and see my feelings clearly so I can identify the devil when he is near.
Thank you Shaneen!!💕
You're so welcome Janice. Thank you for sharing. God bless you! 🙏🏽💕
See how vulnerable we are?! We are sick and we will Heal, then we can help others to see.
Great job! This healing work is so difficult, but very worth it❤
That’s where I’m finally avoiding & not feeling sorry for the beast he allows himself to become. I just learnt about the armor tonight. God bless.
I can relate to your comment, I’m also going through a divorce with my narcissistic wife, total nightmare. Any updates on your situation?
Absolutely Shaneen! Ask the Lord to place the full Armor of God upon you daily!
Amen. 🙏🏽😊🕊
The Bible doesn’t actually say that the Lord is responsible to clothe you with His armour. I’m not just discussing semantics becasue a lot of people railroaded by narcissists tend to miss this key point: God has given _you_ authority and power over _all_ the works of the devil. You have the job of putting on the armour. You have the responsibility to set clear boundaries with the narcissist. You have been equipped to speak the truth in love, to guard your heart and ensure no root of bitterness springs up. You are responsible to work out your own salvation with fear and trembling, knowing the Lord is at work, both to will inside of you, and to complete that which He wills, through your cooperation of the Holy Spirit. A lot of people are exploited and bullied and ask, “If God is so good, why did He allow this?” or “If God is so good, where was he when the narcissist was depleting my savings, lying, cheating, being abusive etc…?” Your response is the problem with this thinking. Shaneen did not say “ask God to put the armour on you.” The Bible doesn’t instruct us to ask God to clothe us with the armour. The Bible says we should do it. This shift in mindset will be the first step to actually succeeding in gaining meaningful victory over narcissists you simply can’t go no contact with. Blessings.
@@Ad-Lo Greetings and Blessings! All your points are true in valid. For someone who’s not familiar with Ephesians 6, I see where it could be a problem. But for us, it’s not. My thinking is not the problem but my wording probably is to someone who’s not familiar. I was just excited to hear Shaneen talk about such things in a largely secular format, concerning a topic that most people tell you break off all ties and run from people suffering from this order. To hear the other side, for people especially who have a divine calling to deal with people like this. Thank you for explaining what I did not. 💜🙏🏻🔥
Amen
@@marknack5427 Like the scripture says "I look up to the hills whence cometh my help." It is good to ask God for extra help when you need it.👍🙂
getting closer to God, trusting in Him and putting Him first has done wonders with dealing with my narcissist! i go to therapy, and letting time pass has helped heal me but God will take you to the next level ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼
I find "forgiveness" is also a very effective sword. "Pray for those who abuse you" - with a safe distance, it's the quickest way that I heal and move on. I hope you know your videos inspire folks from multiple faiths, by virtue of mining spiritual truths universal to faith.
Shaneen, will you please do a video on COMMUNAL Narcissists (specifically preachers) who have covert, malignant traits and the flying monkeys who protect them?
Your channel is phenomenal, thank you. Listening to psychologist only gives you 50% of the picture. You give full context. I learned so much, thank you. God bless you.
I have had no contact with my narc sibling and his flying monkeys, also siblings, for many years. My Mom is still alive and my greatest fear is having to be in the same room with them at her wake/funeral, if she passes before me. I’d like to honor my Mom, but also don’t want to be a punching bag for my siblings. The narc has already said, “When Mom passes, it’s gonna be fun!” I’m not even kidding! Please address this in a future video. I have been so blessed by your wisdom and I love your biblical perspectives! I thank you from the bottom of my heart!
I’ve already decided not to go to the funeral, or funeral home. “Let the dead bury the dead.”
Currently surrounded by narcissist, flying monkeys and demons at present job. Searching for other opportunities to leave, but change isn’t coming right now. It is so draining, but through faith and boundaries it is getting better. Great video and advice. -Subscribed
Amen, Amen!!!! Narcissism is growing exponentially in these days of apostasy, we need to know the things mentioned in this video. Thank you for posting it!
Greater is He who is within me! Thank you!
This was right on time Rhema! I literally have to do this when I go to sleep and wake up everyday in order to have God's peace. I'm halfway through my journey to the promised land away from the narc and its nerve-wracking to get the calls/texts to "check on the kids." My body gets so anxious, but I hear God's calming voice saying "Do Not Fret!"
My son ended the call in 2 mins today lol 🙌🏽
I heard that a narcissist is a demon inside an empty human body.
The dry places
After yesterday, I feel my ex may be exactly that. He said, “having people in the community tell me the awful things you say I do to my kids is weird.”
OMG. He hit them with a belt while I was at work on the palms of his hands. And I still couldn’t get full custody because he makes lots of money and has lots of friends. Ugh. He still has a hold on making me react. So I told him everything he did. And then he said I was changing the subject. No I wasn’t. Then he said I was hoovering. And called me a narcissist
I need to learn to shut up and not react.
It is .. NPD is demon possession
That sounds about right!
Great video, great biblical teaching and understanding ❣️
Thank you Shaneen. This reminder of Ephesians 6 is a must for our spiritual warfare with evil ( Narcissists) “Glory be to God for everything “
I became physically disabled just as it was beginning to dawn on me that a person I was entangled in a business venture with was someone I needed to run away from. In time, this person's ICD10 dx was indisputable to me, but my physical disability didn't resolve itself, unfortunately. So to me these youtube channels like Sister Shaneen Megji's with navigation techniques & support have been like a floatation device thrown out to passengers of a shipwreck for me. Until the day of my great escape, I learn & prepare & practice techniques!
This video is confirming that God is speaking to me and helping me with the 3 narcissists in my family I can't avoid. I have let my son and daughter in law control me and I put up with so much from my ex. Not anymore! God is empowering me to get my life back. Your videos are a big help!
Take this up in prayer to God. He will strengthen you to do things you didn't think possible, to remove the power of those that wish you harm, and to empower you to know that nothing they say or do can injure you without your permission. Read and meditate on Psalm 23. God will prepare a table and feast for you * in the presence * of your enemies. In Him, you are stronger than you can know.
I'm so glad to hear that. Thank you for sharing! God bless you. 🙏🏽😊
You sure that YOU aren't the narcissist?
Could you talk about the covert narcissist that doesn't fight in angry arguments but pushes you to loose your temperature so you're wrong?
My narc made me the upset one and then says see? He spoke quietly and would walk away from the problem once he escalated me to where he looked like the harmed one.
It's one if the ways he gets his Monkeys.
When God saved me and said enough.....he got my mother, our daughter, and our GRANDBLESSINGS! I have no relationship left with people.
But God...💜💜💜💜💜
I have never been so content and provided for than I am now by God! He has given me everything I need and could want. One day, I hope to trust a two legged beast....until then, the Lord gave me a kitten!
Love your work! Thank you! God's perspective on this topic is the only way any of us will heal from these monsters! God bless you! 🤟💜
This is so me.
Exactly! The covert narcissists are more subtle and dangerous!
All the [it turns out] Narcs in my life removed themselves by shunning/going NC with ME between 2018-2021.
It took a couple of yrs in solitary working from my small apartment, getting closer to God every day to finally realize what's really going on. And What Time It Is.
God is separating the wheat from the tares in some final shakes.... has beeb for awhile now.
By God's Grace, each time a Narc removed themselves from my life, I was given the wisdom and sight to understand that He was saving me from demonic forces that had surrounded me for so long I couldn't even see them.
Now my eyes are open and I'm awake. We're in a Spiritual War and I'm so grateful every day 🙏 that God has protected me and shown me the way my entire life. ❤
Thank you so much, you have no idea how God is using you to help me. Am currently going through a transition period and these videos are life savers
I'm so glad the videos have been life savers. God bless you during your transition! 🙏🏽😊
I am watching this video because I have a narcissistic boss and it's as if she has a roster for slicing each and everyone of us and this morning it was my turn again. In the meantime I cannot quit my job but it's really frustrating me now because I have tried to reconcile so many times because I live by the conduct of forgiveness and I do not like conflict. Thanks for this Shaneen. It's really helpful.
Quietly find another job and get out of that situation as soon as possible. Hopefully you've been able to do that.
Your message is giving me a lot of peace.
God told me that when lm trying to defend myself to include him in the conversation.. not to rely on myself .. but say things like.. God wouldn’t like that or God wouldn’t approve .. or he would never do that.. bring him into the confrontation.. l find every time.. it stops things
Thank you for your videos. They fit a need as you speak from a Christian perspective.
I have a 5 year old with a narcissist, and a newborn baby with a different one. Have to have contact with both of them, this helped!
I’m right there with you. My kiddos are 11 and 3. I married the father of my 3yo. I’m so glad God revealed the truth to me and have led me to find videos like this. These videos have been so helpful and confirmed many of the things I have been dealing with. Now that I am walking in truth and self-love…. God has continuously moved in our lives.
There is more to come, but I’m grateful for figuring out how to deal with him despite the narcissism.
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING THIS IM KNEW TO YOUR CHANNEL I AM A VICTIM OF NARCISSITIC ABUSE THIS PERSON HAS BROKE ME DOWN THROUGH MONTHS AND YEARS OF THE NARCISSITS SILENT TREATMENT THIS PERSON HAS DESTROYED MY LIFE I AM SEVERLY TRAUMA BONDED IM STRUGGLING TO DISCONNECT I CONTINUE TO MESSAGE AND CHECK HIS SOCIAL MEDIA.I AM BEING GIVEN THE SLIENT TREATMENT .IM STRUGGLING
Stop doing that. Focus on yourself. Time to take care of yourself. Start putting yourself first.
@@queenesther4142 YOUR RIGHT THANK YOU🙏
Glory to God
Thank you ms Shanneen Megji for obeying the call to minister to us. I always look forward to your videos.
Now I set off to really study inorder to understand well about putting on the full armor of God. God bless you
So look forward to your videos. I have to deal with 3 narcissists. I've reached out to you before! ❤
Hire her as a coach, it will change your life
Shaneen, thank you so much for your faithfulness with your annointing. The Lord has used you so much in my recovery from narc abuse. I am healing greatly and moving on. I have to see the narc, as we share a child, but my faith has grown greatly through forgiveness and the armour of God when encountering the narc. we are attempting Co-parenting counseling. Pray for us thanks.
Wow I’m so glad to hear that. Thank you for sharing! ❤️🙏🏽
Extremely helpful. God bless you greatly...
Hallelujah! So glad I found your channel today.❣️🙏🏻✨
Thank you for this sound teaching and encouragement to keep moving forward! Thank you!
Sheena, a topic that is rarely addressed here is when the narcissist is your own child. In dealing with this, i have discovered it is not so unusual for parents of adult children to be "cancelled" and it is usually abruptly in every case and without explanation. This is a whole different type of trauma because the loss is not a romantic one or that of a spouse. I'd love to hear your teachings on this issue. Of all the voices on this topic, yours rings most clear and most impactful. It is a tremendous help. Thank you!
Beautiful comfort from the One who breathed life into this body.
Thank you so much for this video ! So true- yes been getting healing from this relationship that was and no more! Daddy God bless your Daughter Shaneen Big Time for helping us out, through Holy Spirit 🕊💜😘
He is NOT YOUR DADDY HE is your Heavenly FATHER , Your daddy was or is your worldly or earthly dad
you know what, He is my Daddy God, he may be your heavenly Father or Papa, or whatever we call our God Almighty. I forgive you John
My 13 year old is doing what her dad did . He is gone but she picked up where he left off . I feel very bad for her because some of it is learned but the sick part is she witnessed the damage he did to me and to her but yet does to me and often with no remorse and lies even seemed planned out she will gaslight me and her older brother who has learning disability . She’ll turn him against me . I grew up with a mom who had borderline and was Narc and from what I witnessed is they don’t change unless something breaks them . OnlyGod can change them . I’m just having a hard time being nice and it’s daily war not to become bitter from abuse . A fear comes over me when I engage with her . I worry she’ll do something bad .
My son was like this but thanks be to God for answering my prayers, he is a changed boy now. He still struggles with the personality traits but he wants to change. He has experienced God's love and healing and he is working on change.
Keep praying for your daughter. And show her how much God loves the real her and the purpose he made her for. Knowing how loved you really are is the most important ingredient for change. Especially for a narcissist who feels so much shame and condemnation. There is still hope with how young she is ❤.
@@flutterby77 thank you butterfly I felt that I had to pray because it’s all I can do and show love that’s what the Lord placed on my heart . You confirmed what I need to do . God Bless You .
I’m so sorry to hear you are having to endure this pain Amanda in Christ
Praying for the Holy Spirit to touch your daughters heart to allow her to know the truth and for her to have Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior and to have the peace that surpasses ALL understanding !
Also praying for God to give you the strength courage wisdom and tenacity to endure this storm trusting that He will never leave you nor forsake you !
I too am going through a difficult situation with my narcissistic ex and how my teen daughter is effected by her moms cruel and abusive ways !
I’m here for you to offer prayers encouragement and support !
I could surely use the same !!
Reach out if you’ll like to step out of your comfort zone and trust a stranger in seeking comfort during these difficult times
May God hear your prayers and cry’s for help and restore your relationship with your daughter !
God bless you and your precious daughter
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️✝️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@iamthestorm1004 Thank You so much it’s been hard . I’m not sure if your a woman or man you don’t have a name but God knows who you are God bless you .
I am a man
My kids call me DaD 🙂
I live on the west coast
Been watching countless UA-cam videos
Christian based and secular
I’m really trying to figure things out
Trying so hard to let go and let God but as a warrior protective father I feel my hands are totally tied due to my ex narc not having any boundaries on what limits she will go to in her attempts to try to destroy me
These narcs Really hurt our kids
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🥲
this info is just perfect, I was looking for this....no contact is not an option.
Putting on the armour of God is the answer for me.
I’m so glad the video was helpful. God bless you!
@@ShaneenMegji thank you yes, the no contact, is just not good for me right now, although that would be good, maybe early on. Mother is the covert
narcissistic.
Thank you for this content Shaneen. The Lord answered my prayer.
Stay blessed ☺
I'm so glad to hear that! God bless you Ghislaine. 🙏🏽😊
Again Thank You 🔥
I am so thankful that Jesus has your channel on here. 🙌🔥
Definitely needed this✨🙌🏾
I’m so glad it was helpful. God bless you. 🙏🏽😊
So extremely helpful & thank you so so much 💖🌸
You're so welcome Gaye! Glad it was helpful. God bless you. 🙏🏽💕
Thank you for this wonderful video! I had a setback this weekend due to his name calling triggered past traumas.
Thank u as always for the words of wisdoms , eyes opening 🧚🏻♀️🙏🏻🙌🏻👍🏻😇💝💝
Awesome content ! Praise God!
Thank you! This video was desperately needed! Thank you for using your wisdom and gift to help out in this area!
Thank you as always Shaneen! You’re the best!
This video was very helpful to me.
God bless you bunches 🙏 💗 ❤️
God bless you too Angel! 🙏🏽😊
Thank you I lost your videos for a while but found them again today!!Thank you so much for you help.
thank you Shaneen. I love your video's.
I'm so glad you like them. God bless you. 🙏🏽😊
This message was AWESOME! Just what I needed. I will listen to this one many many many times! Thank you and God Bless you!
You are so welcome
Thankyou so much Shaneen.
Your message is just what I need in my life ATM.
God bless you 🙏
Shaneen, don’t you think David was a nercissist and a psychopath at some point in his life? But ofcourseyes he is a perfect example of a person who repented right and got right with God the right away. Sure he still got the consequences of his sin but it humbled him many ways and brought him even closer to God and matured him more to point more people to God!
I am so blessed watching this! Subscribing now!
Way to break this down, Shaneen!
Many thanks... Great videos
I referred to my divorced husband Diablo. There’s no other explanation how cold & manipulative he is. His heart is cold, no empathy. I truly feel his fury from miles away. He is not able to communicate with out rage. Dangerous to be with. I’m safe in my own space now & God knows how much I continue my faith in the Holy Spirit. I ask God to give me Grace to forgive & allow me to be me once again. Fearless
Empower yourself with David's Psalms when he couldn't go 'no contact' with the narcissists in his life.
Good word, very very good. Just subscribed.
This is great advice, thank you
This video is truly extraordinary. I have done everything suggested in this video, and God really protected me, especially my soul from a narcissistic wife, whom I could not leave, for the sake of our children. I have been doing Anglican Daily Office for the past seven months, and the Office is really God's tools for bringing great refreshments for my soul.
Trust in God and live a life of righteousness
Well done
What about when your living around narcissistic people and don't have the financial means or option of moving to a new environment
Please consider contacting your local women's shelter or church community outreach. Pray for God to guide you and open the doors that need opened. I will pray too.
That's a good question; praying for answers
I wish people who preach no contact would recognize that their are many for whom this is not an option at all. However for followers of Jesus I agree the best, and perhaps the only option is to wear the armour of God. He's the expert in human nature and human survival so when He advised wearing His armour it's got to be because it works against the demons of narcissism.
Very helpful video, thank you 🙏🥰
Excellent work. Simply fantastic.
I went no contact after one narcissist destroyed me and left me penniless. Then when you become broke, homeless and powerless from one narcissist, you are Prime Supply for the next Narc. Trust me I'm now stuck with another one for 8 years now after going no contact with own father and this one is WORSE than the first one. Just give up and deal with it is all you can really do. It's Hell on Earth 😩😞
I recently found your channel and deeply appreciate your teaching. I struggle with this particular video. I understand and practice the principles of spiritual armor and warfare. The problem is that the primary narc is my husband, an expert covert narc. I'm worn down from years of the battle, trying to stay safe spiritually, emotionally and mentally. Due to finances and younger children, separation, let alone no contact, is simply not possible. What do you do when you HAVE prayed, stood, and battled for so many years that you are weary, weak and lying on the battlefield giving up?
My situation is my husband who I can't leave. Thirty years of him and I am barely alive. I must beg God all day to continue to give e the strength that I DO NOT have without HIM. Take care of yourself!!!
I too am in a situation very similar to yours except I am 80 years old and disabled and so am able to support myself financially anymore. If I could I'd be gone in a flash because my narc husband likes to hurt me every day. I know it's hard with young children, but spending time talking with Jesus, telling him your hurt and pain and reading the Psalms gives the energy and strength to make it through the day. Think about him standing with his arms around you when you're being tormented and abused because he is with you always. I really feel for you and I will pray. In Jesus love, Eden
Shaneen - You are a prayer answered! Thank you so much 💓. I must recommend another UA-cam upload that completely changed my Bible study and explains why churches are all fouled up. It's: "Richard Jordan, the changing face of dispensationalism". Peace and thank you very much!
I just filed a order of protection. It seem the seven years no contact, I relocated!!!! I give him zero, but it is not working making this 🤪 worse. Be safe and stay in prayer.
❤ thanks
I tried everything to leave my narcissistic family, and it backfired. Now, I have high cholesterol calcium from the situation. If people want me to have a permanent medical condition, I will accept that offer because I don’t have anything left to fight for.😞
After 15+ years of trying to figure out why things were consistently difficult and vindictive with my triangulating parents, we decided to go no contact/grey rock about half a year ago. My husband and I have two kids who are aware of what we’re trying to achieve and why we are doing it. Here’s the problem/question: we live very close to them and it is *uncomfortable* when we pass each other on walks/etc. They recently sent us all (their grandkids too!) a letter that was: non-apologetic, filled with projection, they tried to reassert previously successful trauma-bonds, blame shifting, emotionally immature, and yet the letter had no restorative guilt. How in the world do we continue to live so close to them? We do not trust them as they are manipulative and have shown us dysregulation in severe forms BUT they periodically *love bomb* their only grandchildren. Any spiritual insights for us?
Move.
Don’t negotiate with demons!
Agreed! The Devil is the ultimate narcissist, and even God..who IS Love, kicked him out with no chance for reconciliation. God is our example.
@@annajustice7620 Good one!
@@annajustice7620 Wow! I said the same thing recently. Confirmation 👍
A topic which is interesting me is what is actually the essence of love. There are different types of love, even adonai love of God. But if a person is constantly attacked by evil and traumatised and in pain, like St Paul, when how and where to fill the love ? Love not being provided to a child, where can a child be filled with love being traumatized, if parents are not there ? The child can neither protect it self, nor can it think or act on its own.
What is this warm filling love which heals. How does it fill, if it is not where and how to find it in yourself ?
I see my person at Church and I usually go to a different service. If I go to the same service I will pull back on the attention but I'll still act like nothing is wrong because I don't want to give her the satisfaction of ignoring her. If I ignore her she'll try to draw me right back by giving me attention hoping I'll start pursuing her again.
👏👏powerful
Thank you very much
+Shaneen Megji Praise the LORD amen, my sister Shaneen. amen, my sister Shaneen and amen my sister Shaneen. God bless. Agape love
By the way….
Narcissist Personality is a “personality” type.
Yes, some narcissist can be demon possessed, yet not all narcissist are possessed with a demon.
Thx, Can you said something about doughter which catch demonik forces?
You also needs Gods Grace and strength to leave.
What about when you have a child with that person and the child, by law, has to visit with the narcissist. And both the stepmother and the real father are narcissist? How do you protect the child?
Thanks for the question Nancy! I'll keep this in mind for future videos!
@@ShaneenMegji Please do Shaneen. It is the situation my g. granddaughter is in with her father. Both the step mom and her father, my grandson, are very worldly and are teaching her the opposite things her mother and other grandparents are trying to teach her. She is in counseling, because it is scary and almost debilitating to her emotionally to go there. Thank you for your videos. They have at times been a lifeline to me when I felt hopeless for my little great granddaughter (6 yo) and her father, my grandson, the narcissist. I have prayed everyday for 27 years for my grandson since he was conceived. And will continue to pray for a breakthrough. ❤️
You are wonderful.
Love your insight…
Struggling so much with any interaction even though I’m very near no contact…only very business-y gray rock through a parenting app…my young men/ kids keep bringing him around in words etc… sigh … moving would’ve helped it my sons needed me to stay to finish their high school-
I get so much help from your videos, they’re fabulous
What about child support? I haven't gotten it in >4 years. I moved to a new state and wonder if I should even file. He hates my guts. Never has anything nice to say to me his ex wife and mother of his kids. I just don't understand. 😔
Great job/huge help - thank you. You are a lifesaver.
What about the subject:
"🤔How the narcissistic personality can be used for good cause?🤔"
Knowing what I know right now I managed to use "love bombing" stage of narcissist, who is interested in me, to redirect her energy to help our community and her kids. I told her from the beginning, that I'm attracted to her, but not interested in relationship. She, being loved by everybody and so desired, cannot accept being rejected and stays in "love bombing " stage - prolonging it is very beneficial for everybody around. I do not think it can work as a cure for her, but, at least, transforms bad energy in good one.
It's risky to do not fall in the trap, but after 20 years of experience it is not so likely.
Am I becoming a narcissist myself? I'm tricking another person and it is not good, not godly, but....
it's something to think about.
All the best
Maciek
P.S.: I come across a "stupid" narcissistic boss who was so hungry of admiration and very predictable, that, flattered, he could be easily led by the nose.
I know - it is not very christian approach, but it feels so refreshing. I can feel that I didn't completely wasted all that years. Should I be ashamed?
Yes. Leave her and be a good worker.
Amen.
How do you know its Him telling you to leave???
Only if there is an open opportunity. I have been waiting for year's. God is with me I know it 🙏
Listen to the still quiet loving voice in your mind and heart. That is how the Spirit speaks. Anything else is not of God. Read his word closely to learn to know his truth and ask him daily to help you learn how to hear the Spirit.
Got a own gang of them. Tore my car up so I'd have to dependent on them.
70-sth Muslim NMom who hates Jesus while I am a Christian; she's showing signs of dementia so I had to uproot my life and move in with her. She's being turning to the occult through her religion for ages and she still does. I have no peace of mind anymore. I am going through a non pleasant perimenopause on top of everything. At this point of my life, I even regret being a Christian because I feel so betrayed by God. My mom is still a divisive person. I think that part of her dementia is just a cover for her demons. I can't understand why the Lord would abandon people while He's fully aware of the difficulty to find a genuine deliverance ministry. I mean, He knows what it is to look for help for 12 (woman with blood issue) or 18 years (the bent over woman) and yet, He would let us suffer for ages without doing squat.
I CONFRONTED MY NARC EVIL MOTHER SHE WAS PISSED AND ENDED UP DOING RITUALS ON ME BUT NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER IN JESUS NAME SHE IS 85 AND UNCHANGING AND ALL HER CHILDREN TOO I HAD TO CUT MYSELF OF THE CONTERMINATED TREE AND BUILD MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD TO STRENGHTEN ME AND PRAYER BECAME MY WEAPON FOR DAILY PROTECTION AGAINST ANY JEZEBEL SPIRIT
I don't agree that you can't heal around somebody like that because in the Bible God had some people or those people aren't really bad situations and they had to learn how to find joy and peace even in the worst even if they were in jail and being beaten.
A just God would not create narcissists.
He doesn't.
God will destroy the World for three things. GREED..SELF-LOVE AND PERVERSION..self love is narrcism...
Sorry. Advice not Biblical based.
Thank you so much for this video ❤️✝️🥲
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@ShaneenMagji I would like to thank you for all your videos 🙏 it has been a tremendous help. I was wondering if you could read us The Holy Bible, as we follow along your voice is so soothing and your explanation really help understand The Most High. Thank you again.👑🕊️🙏🫂💞
Thank you shanine this message gave me hope that is bigger than me🪡
Thank you!!!!
This is extremely helpful!🙏
You're so welcome!
I love this ❤️ thank you!