Overstimulation: How To Take Control Of Your Life
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- Опубліковано 8 сер 2023
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is andrew huberman actually your uncle ?
where can i find the podcast with niklas christl? didn't find it on DRVN Podcast.
I want the sound at the end of this video ,
epic video
Fuck Society
I've wasted too much time on social media. And I know it's not the social media that keeps distracting me, but It's the overwhelming feeling that I have created toward my own goal. So I'll always find something to do except face my own target. You just have to put yourself in the right environment. Your mental health plays a major role! Stay safe!
You are not the only one lets try to change our mindset towards our goals💙
So, are you still watching UA-cam right now?
exactly same here
Me too bro
Same
1. Remove Temptations (Avoid/delete/remove all temptations if you can live without them)
2. Acountibility (Accept your failures and what you are missing out)
3. Impulse Control (practice saying no to your urges whenever you feel it)
4. Emotional Health (The most important. Why do you want it? to be happy? to find purpose? etc)
That's my interpretation
So basically just like that one guy in the beginning said: 1. eliminate completely 2. just stop 3. quit 4. don't open it - ever.
thanks.
Watching videos right now?
Thank you 🙏
So even yt is bad?
Leon Hendrix has changed my life
उन्होंने केवल तुम्हें दिशा दी, यह तुम ही हो जिसने तुम्हारी जीवनशैली बदल दी।
Same here 🤗
😂
Same
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Most of us watching this video are already aware of these tenets, but as you said creating a life we don't need to escape is the most challenging part. I had the best months of my life when i was living with 2 friends i wasn't leaving anytime soon, we were sharing daily life for almost 2 whole month and i was tempted of nothing, I was content... What i struggle the most since i cut ties with these old friends and that my others friends are either far away of not so available, is making new quality connexions. I can't get myslelf to go out alone at a festival, or bars or clubs to meet new people, it's just not who I am. I made a few online connexions which are great, but the distance and the language barrier just doesn't cut it.
If anyone here is in a perpetual motion of trying to better himself, that has naturally alot of drive to create and discover new stuff, is a bit of a nerd and passionate about anything, that hold spirituality dear and can admire the world for how magic it is, feel free to reply to this comment if you're from France or you can talk french.. or even that you recognized yourself. Maybe this is here where it starts :) Thank you for reading, keep your head up !
Hi Layn! Your comment really resonated with me. Je ne parle pas français, and I am not from France either. But I would love to connect as I think creating the best life possible happens by having beautiful people around you.
What really bothers me is that, even after watching this video and thinking I've got everything figured out, I know this is not going to be enough. You watch these types of videos and you kind of feel motivated (this one is especially good imo), but what really happens is after a few hours or days, you relapse again into consuming. I've done that several times. At this point I feel like I know every single "miracle solution".. But I can't get to apply. It's as if the force of temptations is greater than the one I get from the lucid moments of realization (liké this one, rn). And I can't seem to be getting out of this situation. At this point, I'm starting to think that nothing will change, if I keep waking up every morning to do the same stupid useless shit every day. It's like I need something else in my life, something profoundly new that will finally "faire un déclic" in my head (yes I'm French btw) and make me finally implement all the advice I've heard. I'm 17 and I feel lost. Merde
Ok.. I cant' speak french.. but I propose exactly all the stuff you said.. but in italian/english XD
Mec j'ai l'impression que tu viens de me décrire parfaitement
Great 🔥🙏
Don't be so hard on yourself if you find yourself going back to your old habits. The important thing is to learn from it and start again on the right track. It's not how many times you get knocked down. It's how many times you get right back up and keep going.
Every time you fail you have to at least punish yourself!
@@60sekundenpolitiki don't think that is good for your mental health, but you should take it into account, yeah
@@m.l.7558 if i would miss a day at the gym i have to give 200 Dollars to my wife.
Biggest issue Ive had with impulse control is the rebound effect. Couple days of killing it and then you reverse course hard and over indulge on whatever you were trying to cut down on in the first place.
As weird as it is Ive found a more gradual approach works best. For every 3 impulse checks I have I let one fly. Not as great as letting none fly, but now a week later Im less likely to risk 8 impulses fly!
I have noticed this too. Living both extremes - either fully focused which feels great or totally lazy/ unmotivated - is really no way to move forward. Maybe thats because I am setting myself up for failure because I cannot meet my arbitrarily high standards - perhaps you are right and a gradual approach is the better alternative after all.
This video is 100% accurate and the chess analogy is on point.
However, unfortunately, most of us start the chess match with only 10% of the pieces, and that makes it nearly impossible to win the game.
I’d like to share something that really worked for me to overcome these compulsive behaviors. This is based on what I learned from our uncle Huberman, therapy and other sources.
Due to our addictions, our baseline level of dopamine is very low. This makes our willpower to do things that require effort extremely weak, and our craving for more dopamine hits very strong.
You may be able to do some of the crucial tasks proposed in this video, but you will likely end up falling back into old habits. So what can we do? This is key…
The objective is to begin this chess match with 100% of the pieces, this means making sure one has normal levels of motivation and drive.
To do so, my personal recipe is forcing yourself to stop spending this finite dopamine for a long enough period of time to allow your brain to recover the lost motivation (literally).
My special recipe is:
Spend 2 or 3 weeks (ideally 30 days, which is on average how much time it takes for what comes next) completely disconnected from everything that spikes your dopamine.
Basically, identify what brings you pleasure or satisfies your basic needs at zero cost (without effort) and make sure you don’t have access to it in this journey.
The simplest way is to go camping or something similar. Use this time to build new healthy habits and to plan a system for when you return to “normal life”.
Your dopamine levels will be skyrocketing by the time you come back. You won’t believe how good you will start feeling (the drive is unmatched). And this will completely change the effectiveness of all the methods to change your habits. The difference is MASSIVE.
PS: I have ADHD and I’ve tried everything, lost my mind a few times, nothing used to work. In the end I was missing the key ingredient, natural motivation. That’s why forcing myself to recover normal dopamine levels before actually trying to “fix” my horrible habits was the key to success.
PS 2: Thanks Leon for sharing useful life hacks, you’re doing a good service to society.
I'm feeling like there's actually a lot people like me, like us, who are trying to escape this state of overconsuming and everything. I've been thinking for a while about this, and I want to ask you guys, have you ever shared this stuff? Like the troubles you have, trying to resist the temptations? To other people, like your friends and family? I'm saying that because I have not, and it's actually the first time I'm speaking about this, the fact that I spend way too much time on my phone, on my lap, playing video games, scrolling on social medias, etc... But I'm ashamed of it.
I feel like I should talk about it, that it would be easier to finally make a change and improve, if I had someone trying to overcome the same things as me. But I don't know who, and I feel like I'm the only one realizing how much of a waste of time this shit is. I fear getting mocked or that the person won't understand or that he'd say "lmao just stop", as if it was so easy
So whats your experience on this? Have you personnally tried talking about it? I'm very curious.
This is gonna get a bit conspiratorial but I think part of it is because overconsumption is exactly what every corporation wants. Cause it makes them so much money. Naturally, as a society, we've adopted a culture in which this overindulgence is commonplace
just find something productive to do. delete every game, social media app (I allow youtube cause I choose my vids and I watch like 3 vids). Do you honestly have a lot to do in your life? Like hobbies? I got church. Music. Sports. Gym. School. wbu
@@gavinthecrafter Yeah ur absolutely right, I mean it's obvious that all these new technologies were DESIGNED to make people addicts, by some dudes who are probable way smarter than we are.
But the thing that frightens me is that even if we are aware of that, why cant we stop?? Because I don't really want my life to have the only purpose of profiting the companies that sell these things. However, since we were little, we've been used to it and now it's like trying to quit cigarette after smoking for 20 years (not my case, but just saying)
@@1saamor897 The thing is that I know what I should be doing (academically speaking) but I can't get started, especially because I've been in holidays for 2 months now and and I coule be doing so much other (unproductive) things due to procrastination, like watching youtube.
I have hobbies too but they dont keep me active all the time and there's always a few hours a day where I dont feel like doing anything.
I dont know man i feel kinda weak tbh.
So did you personnally talk about this to your family, your friends? Or did manage to improve on your on, thanks to great willpower?
This was an incredible video! I've burnt myself out a few months ago and ever since then I've fallen into this deep hole of overconsumption. It's a way for me to escape the way I feel and to avoid thinking about all the things I need to fix. Emotional health really is the key component here! I need to start healing my inner self. Thank you so much for this - something just 'clicked' for me
We've known the evils of modern over abundance, great to see you come out with this video! I'm ready to take the next steps in retaking my life!!!
Loved this SOOO Much. I can see you are getting better control over the perfectionism and the videos actually feel even better than before. Don't Stop keep going Leon.
That quote will forever be engraved in my brain:
"Create a life you don't want to escape from."
Keep going with this Leon. Mentally, you’re on the right path and even though it’s in our nature to stare us blind on things that we already have, it’s good to take a moment to look at your age and the path you’ve already embarked. The mindset you’ve build is something that will stay with you the rest for your life and you’re still so young. We shouldn’t compare, but most people don’t even have this kind of knowledge at age 80.
It definitely works. I decreased my "stimulation level" (no adult videos, less youtube, no fast food, no sugar, etc. just not too much of anything) and after just two weeks I made so many awesome social connections. It's incredible (I have social anxiety and depression so this is huge for me). I hope that in the future blocking apps will get better and better because it's so hard to block everything while still using devices for work - and it's so easy to find a workaround for these blocking apps.
Funny. As of late I've been feeling the EXACT same way.
I don't use Social Media anymore, UA-cam is my heroin.
Trying to stop UA-cam is waaaay harder than any of the other things.
The problem with UA-cam is that I also use it to learn new things.
Having UA-cam premium actually makes it worse, because I don't see shitty ads that would want to shut down the app.
The only way I've been able to quit is this.
I only use UA-cam on my tablet. I've deleted the UA-cam app from my phone.
@@arcadepiano barely though. It's definitely a media consumption app, but I don't use it to socialize.
I guess most people nowadays barely use any social media app for the social aspect.
Tbh, I don't even know which social media is still being used to actually be social and communicate. It's all just mindless consumption nowadays.
Just use an adblocker. It works even on ipad
I need this video so much its unreal, been thinking how to take back control and help me focus on what is important
Ugggghhhhh your story telling has gotten SO GOOD!!! Most helpful videos just state the solutions and that's it. You take us on the journey WITH you. For instance, Columbia!! You didn't need to include that at all but it made us feel so included in your journey. Well Done Leon
Whenever I feel down or bad about something Loen has a video on that exact topic. You are truly one of a kind youtuber. All your videos are life changing.
I have been in the same situation as yours, THIS IS LITERALLY THE MOST RELATABLE AND MOST HELPUL VIDEO, I HAVE SEEN TO FIGHT AGAINST THESE VICES. KEEP IT UP LEON, you got a NEW SUBSCRIBER
Another Amazing Video, This content is the best life-advice and most inspiring content I've ever watched, "Create a life You Don't Want to Escape From" Wow. I love how you've took such a difficult and complex topic and managed to make anyone who watches this video feel like they can get rid of all the negativity in their life and improve it no matter what. Everyone's life may have slightly differing goals wants and needs but this will definitely help pretty much anyone who chooses to listen to you. Thank you for doing what you do. Simply put you make me want to fix myself and improve my life in every way possible and to help others get where they also deserve to be in life. If we have enough people like you in the world it might just create a chain reaction of positive change. Keep pushing more content out, I hate this video had to end but i also look forward to seeing your next video as soon as it exists.
thankk uuu leon
Although I have tried to reduce the use of social media and youtube for years, I have the same problems and I cannot say that I have fully progressed. You're right, it's because I can only find people with ideals like me around here, and when I'm online, I'm not alone. But this gets wrong after a point, because you need to develop yourself and connect with people who are really focused on self-improvement. And the anxiety of the future also bothers people from time to time.
This is the BEST video i have ever watched on UA-cam, it answers many hard Qs , and i feel much much better knowing that i am not struggling with this alone
This was a great video to procrastinate with. You laid out fundamentals. And I actually never saw this as a war with a moving enemy. Thanks to you I can see my relationship with abundance more clearly. Alright. Got to get on with my day. Good luck
leon bro, all i want to say man, is thanks bro, keep up the good work👊
Awesome video man: very relevant & the extra attention to editing doesn’t go unnoticed 🙏🏼👊🏼
Let’s go Leon!! I 100% needed this video
My fav video you did in a while Leon.
I also liked that you confirmed the thumbnail in the first 5 seconds.
Funny - I actually immediately recognized the Soul apartment (I stayed there for a few months). Hope you enjoyed Medellín bro.
*"I should stop after this one"* is, is just exact. I am sort of words here. Just perfect, that's what happens. All emotions and experiences you've presented, represent the exact phenomena of my YT addiction. I am glad I've found this 🤗
Great video! Its the reminder I needed to work on my own vices and build my own system (I guess starting therapy as well haha). Looking forward to the next videos
This video came to me in a time when I needed it the most. Thank you!
I appreciate your videos man, helps when in difficult moments in life.
The solution to this problem is actually very simple. When you have an ambitious goal, you don't have to make an effort to not deal with all the time-wasting things. it happens spontaneously. What are you going to do with your extra time if you don't have a goal? Are you going to sit and watch the tree in your garden? Go find a purpose to devote your life to and everything will be fine on its own.
What purpose. I am struggling to find one
Even If I have one it is a v hard one. I cant take "steps" to work towards it.
@@tahabashir9405 If you had no financial problems in your life, what would you like to deal with for the rest of your life?
This came at the perfect timing!!!
Awesome production bro, love your honesty, and found the video useful and applicable to me - thanks!!
this video is earth-shattering and brimming with knowledge! thanks, Leon :D
also, it's so cool how you can hang with Nikilas
This is so true. When I am living with my family abroad we are all day laughing or outside.
When I am living a life that Im not wanting or waiting due to a specific hard situation I distract my self with social media or food.
I admire your drive and creativity 😮
Thanks man!
I'm not gonna lie, the message that this content convey is exceptionally relatable to my personal self development journey. Essentially, it's our brain. Doesn't matter all the vices that we desperately try to renounce from- one way or another it'll find a way to do something fueled by compulsion or even as a reflex. The more we suppress a vice, the more taxing it morphs into. Ergo, goes the fact we are hardwired for pleasure.
Great video as always, really resonated with this one, I often struggle with this, and always the answer is to listen to myself and remind myself of the goals I have and get to work, and you get suck into the work you forget about the temptations, when you remind yourself to live life and enjoy real life and not get dopamine from the phone you realize you don't need it anymore.
I also have control apps, but what my mentor said, if you can't control yourself you will find a way to break those, so what works the best is impulsive control like you told us, force yourself to not use the app, and after a while you will realize how dumb and how much time you wasted using those apps.
thank you so much for this video, I Tthought I was the only one stuck in this loop but now I feel as a community we can grow past this because we actually located the enemy.
Make a life that you don't want to escape from.
One of your best ones thantk you!! I was able to relate to almost everything you mentioned...
Dude,the whole video is filled with truths! Loved it
always glad to see a new one from your channel
this is literally me my whole life. The timing of this video couldnt be better
This is one of the only video's that has deeply touched me. Thank you
Remove temptations- stop yourself from opening apps before you use them
Accountability- ask your friends / family for support
Impulse control- challenge yourself to resist your temptations (phone, games, movies). I heard about the “do nothing” method, where you cut out all distractions except for your responsibilities. This gives you 2 options, work on your stuff or do nothing.
Emotional health- recognize that you are trying to escape from the real world and force yourself to live in it. Don’t replace social media with other dopamine fixes (like over eating for example). Once you start living your real life you’ll start to enjoy it and not want to escape
Good luck whomever reads this. I’m writing this after spending 4 months of doing nothing but scrolling on tik tok.
I wish I could get this time back :(
But going forward is my only option so that’s what I’ll do
Hi, do you want to be my accountability buddy?
@@InsideEarth_ORIGINALI am in the same boat ...
@@InsideEarth_ORIGINAL how bout we make a discord server for accountability and keep the member count really low?
I've created one and im the only one there ;0
@@advaith_31 I am interested in joining, can I join?
Wow this video is top quality. It deserves more views and likes in my opinion
What. a. great. video!
Thank you Leon!
Great vid. You're helping people live their best lives which I find very meaningful. Thanks for turning my life around.
Great video. Thanks Leon
Great video. It just blew my mind a couple of times watching it and made me say to myself 'how did I not see that?'
The ending hit different!
Great Video again Leon :)
Great video buddy, thank you!
After multiple breakdowns yesterday I decided enough was enough and I’d uninstall all the social media apps. I kept UA-cam as I want to look up exercises and stuff… but here I am scrolling it on awakening like a coffee. However this video helped me as I’m going through the same thing. I hope to have my boredom back, my natural creativity, zest for life, etc.
I LOVE YOU THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS 🥺❤
Thank you for providing this value 🥇
Such an insightful video on managing overstimulation! Your practical tips and strategies are incredibly valuable for regaining control and finding balance in today's fast-paced world. Thank you for sharing this important message! 🧘♂️
Great video, Leon... the fight is real. We're simply not equipped to handle this crazy-ass world, and so much around is literally designed to have us become addicted to it. Tough, almost impossible to master. But messages like this matter because it (hopefully) helps some question "it".
I've always said it's important to "choose your addictions wisely" in life. Because if you're going through a really awful period, you are going to get addicted to something, and that's okay, just pick something not too harmful before you get addicted to it (TV's one of the better ones I think, but depends on the person), and balance that with healing and therapy and mindfulness, as you say at the end. It's important not to view wanting a distraction as a personal failure, or to be really hard on yourself for this sort of thing ❤
Great video Leon! I imagine your a Millennial like myself. I find it is this instant gratification culture we grew up in but it has gotten worse with the social media age. Looking at past achievements and watching Ali Abdaal has helped with his wisdom and book recommendations lol.
Thank you Leon this video comes at the Perfect time
For the emotional health I’d recommend reading “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents” by Lindsay C Gibson for those that don’t know about the link between childhood experiences and the need to escape, anxiety, depression and social issues.
“Scattered Minds” by Gabor Mate compliments it pretty well by expanding on what’s mentioned in the book and providing the link to ADD, trauma and societal issues
I shed a small tear at the end 🥲
This is my all time new favorite channel on youtube. Keep up the good work. PS: have you considered going on a meditation retreat?
I interpret this as a self-worth issue at a fundamental level. I feel like I have to commit to myself and my purpose more defiantly than the world will generally accept me for in order to achieve the consistency that comes from discipline. I stopped trying to discipline myself when I learned that it was actually the result of committing myself to joy, peace and fulfilment. Then I use the resulting discipline to develop consistency and through that I can strive for excellence. The hardest part is actually commitment because you have to believe things about yourself that people and the world as it is don’t affirm about you just to get started and it’s an internal battle we all have to fight.
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Thank you so much for this. I appreciate you so much
Love the chess analogy through out this man, everything you just covered is exactly what I’ve been grappling with - thanks for sharing 💪
Always felt chess was a great analogy for this sort of stuff. Glad you made this comment brother! Its cool to see how many ppl enjoy this kind of content. Inspires me to keep making my own!
A big THANK YOU for an amazing video!
Beautiful video, very well made. Resonated really well with it.
This is exactrly what I needed, thank you.
Thank you for grounding me back.
The video we all needed
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 🌍 Overabundance crisis: Modern society offers an overwhelming array of distractions and temptations.
02:48 🛡️ Establish barriers: Remove temptations and create obstacles to prevent impulsive behaviors.
04:55 🤝 Accountability group: Engage with a supportive community to reinforce positive behaviors.
09:23 🧠 Impulse control: Strengthen the ability to resist temptations through repetitive training.
12:43 ❤️ Emotional health: Address underlying emotional pain and create a fulfilling life to reduce the need for escapism.
Is the app they use as obstacle for instagram ‘Calm’?
bro is hustling but you have to work harder .. stop being so slow
I feel it so much! Thank you
It is always a good day when Leon uploads.
WWWWOOOOOOWWWW WHAT AN EDIT BRO!!!!!! KEEP IT UP !! A RAISE TO THE EDITOR
Thanks Leon🔥🔥🙏
I am 1:30 into the video, and cant help myself but to thank you already. I was subconsciously begging for someone to make a video on this topic and save me out of Instagram and youtube rut
Amazing video, deep thanks!
I absolutely loved this intro Leon especially with the the falling Astronaut and I loved it so much in fact I would’ve liked to stay in it a bit longer lol 👌👌 (feel free to let moments like that roll for like 4-8 seconds I feel like that would be dope and keep it up your changing lives apparently 👍:)
“I ate all of them, in one sitting, until I felt sick.” 🤣🤣🤣 I laughed so hard!
Need that podcast with Niklas (great video btw)
I relate to this so much. I think the main thing is accountability / removing temptations
i needed that so much
This is life changing stuff!
This was needed.
Thanks for your content Leon. Men in these times need to figure out how to get their loves together at allll costs. All the forces are against us.
Pray brother God will make a way.
Thanks Leon
Wow, I watched this video, thank you for it!
really creative way of story telling. kepp up!!
The intro was very personal like I felt that
Yeah Sara, I feel you. I loved the intro. Guy keeps giving me inspo to keep creating the type of content that gets these kind of comments.
Thanks for commenting and reminding me why we all do this
Thank you!
Good channel! Thanks for this content
This is actually a really great video.
Finally a new Video!
Thank you so much for such a great video! Sooo relatable
Dude, I was about to comment almost exactly what you did, then I saw yours and was like, yup.... haha. Awesome comment
Thank you so much for mentioning emotional health.