How overstimulation is ruining your life
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- Опубліковано 14 лип 2020
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This is a video about overstimulation, dopamine, social media addiction, internet addiction, and a bunch of other things. It's also about self improvement, productivity, and things like that. My name is Joey Schweitzer and this is my channel. I have no clue if any of this helps the algorithm, but I'm doing it anyways for good luck. Better Ideas is also a thing.
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I can’t even watch a youtube video without reading the comments at the same time
Damn same
Same
Same here
I feel attacked. You literally caught me not even 2 minutes in to the video.
Lol same
The phone has pretty much singlehandedly destroyed my appreciation for books. And I used to read all the time.
I loved books too, but I love my phone more. A month ago I bought my first book on Kindle. It changed everything. My brain thinks I'm on my phone, but I'm actually reading at midnight under the blankets. It's really great!
i just bought 2 books in tangible, paper format so i can do it away from my phone. my thoughts are too scattered
Same and it’s depressing. My memory used to be amazing too
I always had an apreciation for books for some reason, i like going to my school library and read.
Same, now it's difficult for me to even read a page
I really notice this effect when I attend LARP events where we would live like people from the Middle Ages for several days. I would turn off my phone entirely, not even look at the time etc. So we would tend to the fire, cook stew in a cauldron, talk to people, knit and sew, wander around etc all day long. One night at such an event a friend told me that the priestess was going to stop by our camp to tell some stories by the fire. I was ridiculously excited and couldn't wait. After she had finished telling the first story we begged her to tell another one and another one. I was so amazed how hearing some stories by the fire could suddenly be the highlight of my day simply because there was no constant overstimulation.
This made me cry
The amount of wholesome nerdiness in this comment was amazing. I think I want some of that.
I think on a spiritual level people were a lot more happy and harmonic in for example the Middle Ages. I can only imagine the sense of community that would exist in a rural pre-industrial village.
Omg where do I go and who do I talk to to attend these events? This sounds amazing
@Andres You seem to have life in the Middle Ages confused with some kind of Hollywood image.
Phone addiction is like sugar, digital sugar
More like crack
@@TyroneBiggums789 not even a joke dude that's right on
@@itsreach3537 oh I know, I’m addicted as fuck and have been logged out of all accounts except for 1 hour allowed on UA-cam at night, started a few days ago and I feel like I’m going through withdrawals with anxiety and panic
Sugar Phone!
@@dakz9296gummy phone
Even the simple activity of sitting down in a quiet room and reading a book for 30 minutes and focusing on nothing except the book entirely changes my mood. It's nice and calming.
YES, IT IS! 😍🥰❤️
Yup, I've started reading books again and I can approve. Aside from factual texts I had never really liked reading fiction, or at least I thought that... But I bought the Martian and finished in 4 days last week (which in my case is a personal record). I really tried to give it my undivided atttention. It was hard at first but I threw my dumb phone away and continued with reading and after each session my mind felt really refreshed. Something I hadn't felt for a good while.
I love Adderall and I love ripping ass. Those are my two loves in my life
But that’s also a dopamine production activity ain’t it?
@@Bennettone there is nothing wrong with dopamine. It's not the chemical that's the issue, it's the misuse of it. As was explained in the video, we can receive hits of dopamine from anything that we think will reward us. So why not retrain that mechanism to benefit us more. Instead of being slaves to self-esteem shredders like social media, we can start learning a skill. That's a positive shift in the application of the dopamine chemical. We can finish a book or create something. That is so much more healthy of a dopamine hit. Dopamine is not a dirty word, and it is totally misunderstood
I remember being a kid before the smartphone revolution. There was nothing more exciting than going in the woods or teaming up on friends with air soft guns.
That's actually sounds fun
Those were the days
I agree. I grew up and lived my life before the big smartphone boom. I always went outside and did stuff
I had a very strict mom so I wasnt allowed to play outside. Such a waste
Yep I completely agree miss those days
I never had social media till i went to college, I studied well and had a great work ethic. But once I joined college, got my own phone and social media, things started going down and i have become addicted. I was constantly opening twitter reading hot takes, people ratioing each other, etc. I have enjoyed it , learnt a lot became that "cool" person but I was miserably addicted. My grades were bad, and self control was very difficult.
that’s why it is ruining our attention spans and making us lose focus ness in being more attentive instead of disorientated in concentrating on subjects that matter.
You wonder why the statistics and diagnoses for increase of ADHD diagnoses are increasing by 25% and it’s very scary whilst sounding like a dystopian fictional novel.
too much distraction that’s why I barely watch tv or use anymore. And goes for social media they are all distractions in my life and aren’t helping me focus and do what I need to get done and completed.
Dude my story is exactly the same, how did you overcome it ? Please I need guidance to quit my addiction of phone
@@akashnd5293 delete your accounts - not just the apps, the accounts!! I have NO social media, except UA-cam kind of and I don't have this problem anymore. I used to look at Reddit all the time and I just had to full on delete it. I don't miss it at all.
I read several books a month, my house is very clean, my dogs and family get lots of attention. I also typically exercise every day. You don't immediately have to jump into anything or prove anything to anyone but to get that monkey off your back, you need to delete your accounts AND apps. Nothing on there is worth your misery.
If you have to touch your phone, get a NYT or Atlantic subscription. You read tons of interested news and can come and go as needed. At least you'll learn a lot. Best of luck, you got this!
Do you think social media was the reason you got bad grades?
That's my case right now, I'm still in high school, but ever since I got a phone, everything has just been going downhill
It’s a real issue with people with ADHD like myself. I already have a hard time focusing on menial tasks let alone concentrate on anything. Now this world has so much stimulation I find myself having over-stimulation paralysis where I disconnect myself from everything because of how overwhelming it feels
Even worse is the fact that unhealthy overstimulating activities are far more addictive for us ADHD people.
I'm at a point now where I'm going to have severely limit my time online in order to catch up on everything else in my life....after just one more video....
Yes I understand. I don't have ADHD but I have phases where everything is just "too loud" and I feel lost then. Then I need some absolutely quiet time. No people, no radio, nothing. And then it feels so liberating to just be in the moment
"Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation."
--Oscar Wilde
Ironic. You quoted oscar wilde
The irony of this comment.
so true
Most of what we are is an inheritance anyway....even the language you are using, you did not originate, so no need to judge.
Most people who talk about "most people" are just like them.
This video is too stimulating. Now I’ll never be able to focus again.
U are a gamer
No need to focus 😂😒
@@ahmedsherif286 hah
But good gamer also focusing (for what is different question). It's like Joey's video about types of watching movies
He’s too distracting 😏🤤
Dang, I remember when you first started your channel for mineplex 😐
😭💀😂
It is definitely something I've noticed. Simply forcing yourself to start doing something that you know is good for you is a big step in the right direction. I want to get to the point where making conscious decision to stop doing super stimulating stuff is natural, easy to convince yourself through logic. The same way I know that I can jump into a colder body of water and feel comfortable in it after a minute.
I’m here a year later but I’m glad to see this video. I made a decision to be ‘present’ in the world and more absent in the Internet world. It’s so much more satisfying. Swimming, exercising, going to concerts, doing crafts with my grandkids, learning to play ukulele. Handwriting letters. Handwriting in my journal. Reading actual books. This has made my life completely different. My life is so much better.
I’ve told my friends for years, our brains were not made for the technology we have. We abuse the amount of stimulation we get. I try to get them to stop the mindless scrolling. No, we probably can’t avoid social media completely, but we can look only when we have a purpose.
Been telling my friends for a while now that "we're basically still apes, just with fancy new toys".
Yes exactly, thats why social media has caused alot of people mental health issues, because this type of entertainment isnt natural and its actually damaging
I only use UA-cam and I stay with my old iPhone because it does fast,so if I start mindlessly scrolling it dies and I can go read.
💯
I agree
Turning off your phone and leaving it at home makes a huge difference too
These things are like crack man
That's deep man but I hope y'all r having good health out doors fun life's because crack ain't a good thing🤣
You are right. Too right.
@@micker9830 before smartphones, I remember I used to be terribly bored. I always carried a book or a notepad to scratch doodles
well phones are good for emergencies or essential communications. Just learn to moderate it.
@@Allenzo04 ill just die thanks
I’ve been in a funk with my motivation lately. This icky feeling is almost always either created or fuelled by the desire for instant gratification- whether it’s using my phone constantly and always having something playing, or buying prepared food vs cooking, skipping my workout etc. It’s a wormhole honestly. I came back to this video as a reminder before I delete my unwanted social media apps and turn off notifications.
How’d it go ?
@@user-gd4xc2sl5oit went well for a bit, but being consistent definitely is hard. I’m back to wanting to limit it again.
It's really sad that the problem is our experiences are TOO good. Like the message is to make your life less interesting and stimulating so you can enjoy other stimulation. That really blows.
i wouldn’t say that. i mean, do you really think mindlessly scrolling is more interesting than being with friends, for example? it’s not that it’s actually more interesting and a better experience, but that it’s designed to make our brains think it is so that we’re unable to fully enjoy what we actually want to enjoy.
think about it this way, the enjoyment you get out of dopamine and any other chemical doesn't make you feel better the more you have in your system, its a bell curve. if you dont have enough dopamine, you'll feel awful, but if you have too much dopamine you'll feel just as bad if not worse. the key is to find where the peak of the bell curve is and do things that bring you to the peak, and by having meaningful experiences and being present in the moment you will never exceed its threshold.
"All man's miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone."
- Blaise Pascal
One of the greatest quotes of all time and absolutely true
To just exist
Ironic that sitting quietly in a room alone is basically all we do now, and we've never been more miserable lol
@@charlesrebbel6580 Exactly -- this is a time where we would be BEST served being able to to quietly sit alone, but our inability to do so compounds the misery
Well
I was born in 2001. I remember from the 1st half of my childhood when none of us had smartphones, game consoles, ipads, netflix, or just anything that would keep us inside. Everyday I would be outside with my friends/neighbors playing soccer, tag, exploring, or just being kids, without the mental "burden" of having to constantly refresh your feed. Man I miss those days; I feel like I was actually living and being a social human during that time.
I was born in that year too, and I did get to experience a taste of that. Simpler times they were. Much simpler. Small things seemed exciting
I was born in 2002 and i feel this way as well. I want to just get a flip phone at this point. The technological revolution is a disaster
It’s a trip to think about. After hundreds of thousands of years of human existence, our age group will be the very last to remember a time without this technology. Unless the world destroys itself or something.
@@LatestSquash fingers crossed
I remember this, it was a time where social media wasn’t as prevalent. I remember my older sister playing the games on Facebook. FarmVille. WolfQuest was another favorite of hers. I played Scribblenauts, Webkinz, Clubpenguin, NeedforSpeed, MarioKart, etc. I can’t say any of it was bad for me other than having a lack of sleep, but I’ve always stayed up late, no matter what there was to stimulate me. I miss having a small backyard and living in a close community. Having neighborhood friends and finding shenanigans to do with them is more enjoyable than anything. I moved out West in the state later in my childhood and it just caused me to be more reclusive. The atmosphere was slow and the ways of life seemed to have aged.
After watching this, i had a think about the relevance of what you were saying, to my life…then I went and did the best workout I’ve done in months. I would usually take a break in between to check Facebook and such, but after watching this, I decided against it. Felt the best I’ve felt in a long time.
I now realise how dumb I’ve been that something that simple could affect my workout and overall mood. I also started to realise how my depression most likely partially stemmed and continues to partially stem from the easy reward system, because of the lack of satisfaction I have in my real life.
Thank you for this video.
I don't know why, but i keep coming back to this video whenever i feel stressed. The way you describe how dopamine works, or what reactions are ocurring in our brain, helps me to better understand that this is part of the natural process.
"You're waiting to be entertained."
Woah.
This is basically how I became such a passive person
I remember being younger and thinking "why I am always waiting for things to go the way I want it to be, to please or entertain me?"
Still got a lot of progress to do to be more proactive
4it4k “Youre waiting to *woah* “
dopamine (poem): ua-cam.com/video/cMsZtx77G44/v-deo.html
ARE YOU NOT ENTERTAINED
@@younggrasshopper3531 bahaha
There’s been 1 year and a half since I uninstalled facebook and instagram and it’s incredible how my life changed. It seems like I live in a different world than most people. I don’t know and don’t care about what’s happening in other people’s lives, which gives me more time to think about mine, and I study a lot and still have time to read even though I’m in med school. I recommend (honestly I urge) people to reduce drastically their online time and start living the real life again. It pays off!
Thanks Milena I will have to try this!
Same! What's funny is people almost get angry when you tell them you don't have these things anymore and they just don't get it!
I need to do this
I’ve done this. People don’t understand why, maybe one day they will. People are so ignorant that it makes me sad for them. This is how people live and it’s horseshit. I hope one day they will find themselves.
i so wish i could do this, but i’m part of a national society that has so many people I’d like to keep track of all over the country. I want to know what everyone is up too since i don’t see them often 🤧
I really needed this. I've been a slave to the internet and have had trouble doing my summer projects for my AP classes that require reading books, analyzing, and in general things that require me to apply myself. Thank you for making this video!
I can't thank you enough for this video, especially for citing scientific papers. Most of the self improvement videos do not rely on this, and that makes me unwilling to accept what they say. I thought I was going to lose my mind before I found out this video; I cannot concentrate on the basic tasks like studying or even taking care of myself. I needed this so much, again, thank you. I took notes of everything and I'll do the exercise for me not to fall again on this vicious and torturous circle of scrolling, searching irrelevant stuff and watching 'naughty' things, as you said.
i’ve seriously lost any existing attention span i had. i will be sitting on my phone with nothing to do, just switching between apps, hoping something will pop up. i can’t even watch youtube anymore because i’m so used to watching 10 second tiktoks, not even a 5 minute video can keep my attention.
same for me. it's terrifying
I'm really struggling to watch this video haha I've paused it several times
Sameeeee
I personally look at comments in the same time in order to stay on a video
TikTok really fucked my attention span
"Feel physical pain to do the hard things again." - 100% felt that
yaa bro. I almost convinced myself that maybe am feeling pain on hard things because I should not do that as a human anymore
I feel the same way too. I cant even get started on anything. Just sooo painful
the only way to get things done if u dont want to is forcing yourself.
Definitely. I think I'm just like this all the time. I've been thinking about downgrading from Smartphone.
Damn I need to go to the gym.
..... And this is the perfect video to cut myself off of UA-cam.
I found and subscribed to your channel tonight.
I've been going through the roughest chapter in my 38 years of life. Feeling stuck would be an understatement, but you're really making sense to me right now. Thank you 🙏
Hey man, I'm 30 and in the same boat as you. Hope you're doing better now. This video helped me too, getting off UA-cam now to finish some laundry and cook myself dinner
I totally agree with what you're saying here! I got hooked on social media during a very difficult time in my life. I guess it helped when I needed the distraction but now I'm having a hard time putting it away!
Finally someone courageous enough to talk about this. Overstimulation is sadly ruining the life of so many people, robbing them from the true joy they are seeking for, and the worst part is they don't even realize it...
100% especially porn
I'd like to see more people talking about UA-cam addiction. It's a serious source of overstimulation, masked as knowledge. Basically the new TV.
read the book Essentialism. This video is a summary of that book. tons of amazing content in that book.
Preach
How is it courageous?
I'll take this potato chip, AND EAT IT
😂😂😂
☠📓 that show was so good it needs more seasons
Excellent reference sir
Im so happy Joe knows this reference
And 69th like? This comment is now very special to me
YAGAMIIII
I really like your way of describing this. There is something calming in hearing about relatable experiences even though they're bad. I hope this will get more attention in the future, as I think it really tears us down as humans in the long run.
Hundreds of ads and UA-cam videos have shown me skillshare, yet yours is the only one that makes me feel like it's a worthy purchase. UA-cam always seemed like it was enough for me, but you are the first I noticed mentioning skillshares "classes". Perhaps I'm used to ignoring these segways, but I'll be checking it out because of you. Thank you.
Walking in the forest by yourself and listening sounds of nature is extremely relaxing and therapeutic. People living in major cities probably don't experience this very often. Being in an artificial park in the middle of a city just doesn't do the trick.
They just built a park close to downtown L.A. I gotta say it’s more exciting than regular parks. Something about parks near the big city is pretty calming.
You can usually find nature in the city too. Watch birds, ants, grass pushing up through cracks in the sidewalk, spiders, clouds. Look and you will find.
I literally live in a forest and I barely do this, instead most of the time staying in the house on my phone. I really need to get out more and collect my thoughts alone... and possibly collect medicinal/nutritious plants
@@suen5006 It's because they don't see birds and insects the same way they see the other uncommon animals.
Not really. Only pedophiles hang around in woods by themselves
This is one of the reasons why I want to get rid of my smartphone. As I've gotten older, I've gotten glued to my phone more and more, to the point where I spend at least 24 hours, if not more, a week staring at a screen. I seriously am so ready to downgrade back to the phones we had back in the early 2010s/late 2000s.
Well, why would you want to get rid of smartphones? They're too useful
@@BuickGeek24 I’m too addicted to it. It’s useful, but not necessary. It’s too easy to get sucked in when it’s right there. That’s not to say I want to get rid of smartphones as whole, just mine. I think I’d be in a better place mentally without it. That’s just me though. Others may find smartphones beneficial to their life. I just feel it’s done more harm than good to mine. Does that make sense?
Why don’t you try massively scaling back the apps you have installed? Uninstall all social media apps, including UA-cam, and instead only have the fundamentals - messaging, maps, music, etc.
I’ve found a lot of what I sink wasted time into on the phone are algorithmic platforms like Instagram or UA-cam. Ones designed, engineered even, to keep me tapping, scrolling and watching.
@@Brootnoodle I literally destroyed both of my I-Phones with zero regret(s).
@@BuickGeek24 Useful can lead to your demise if they are used against you.
Thank you for this video. I've been getting severely depressed because I've felt exactly what you said you did when going through the pandemic. I find it hard to do the things I used to love to do.
Tasks seem difficult when you're only looking for how they help your personal goals and ambitions.
Getting through "mundane" tasks is easier when you focus on how to be loving to others with your work, and take very good care of yourself in the process! Something that helps me is - when something frustrating or unpleasant confronts me, I silently remind myself "I'm only here to love", and my perspective shifts.
By "love" I just mean being good to others, prioritizing their well-being, and taking care of myself in the process. For example, if I'm screwing bolts onto a car in a production line, focusing on how to better people's lives (in this case, realizing how securing the bolts safely will protect children's lives, etc.) rather than thinking about how bored I am or what I'm missing out on.
Easier said than done, I know. Shitty bosses, inflexible and painful work, living paycheck to paycheck, etc. Life is hard, but everything we do has an impact, and if we make life better for others and take care of ourselves, we can have a better impact in this life.
I can’t believe how much this man, who I’ve never met, has helped my life in a matter of weeks.
Well he is no man. but yes
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My PhD dissertation was on dopamine signaling in the brain. This is really well done. Importantly, one of the key things you said was dopamine is released when you "might" get a reward. The key word here is might. The uncertainty about getting something rewarding is what keeps you doing that "thing". E.g scrolling endlessly through your phone in the hope you'll see something cool
Can you tell us please in what field your phd is?
The fact that a might is more rewarding than certainty of that reward is funny to me😂
id like to read it
i would love to read it! i’m a first year psychology major :)
Is it also relatable to anxiety?
Liked. Commented.and subscribed. Feeling lucky that I bumped into this. Not that I didn’t know, but it’s a great reminder to not to blast our brain with super stimuli to stay motivated on boring things that are critical: Workout, expanding work network, work on the next exams you’ve been procrastinating for a year but could give you a promo at work…
I really miss my connection with music production and being creative. The rewards are immense. Something especially I remember as a kid. Today, and for the last several years. My addiction with playing on my phone seems to get worse. To add insult to injury, the more I realize my problem, it sometimes drives me even further into the ground.. on the same note however, It’s making me start to seek help through videos and articles online.
Same here. Get back to music is the answer - before it's too late!
Yea man like the other guy said go back to music, sometimes its best to do things u liked doin as a kid/younger , it brings u back to ur roots where u feel comfortable
Anyone feeling like they’re addicted to their phones...
Download Focus me... But well my laptop...
Yes, I made phone detox
Nope... but I'm definitely addicted to coffee 😂
Na, only addicted to UA-cam, which I consume on my computer most of the time.
Yes 😭😭
I studied this over the quarantine, and came to a conclusion:
1. Find a good level of stimulation (physically, socially, mentally) daily
2. Going too low or too high on the stimulation meter will put you off balance, and create negative momentum making you feel worse in the long run
3. Allow room for pleasure and high stimulating experiences or life will become dull and your drive will diminish quickly
4. Dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin and endorphins are your pleasure chemicals, be conscious of these when your feeling average
Homeostasis of the mind, just like the body.
That was really good! Thanks
Thank you for writing this. I think our behavior should be a more alarming concern for us... during quarantine, I actually wrote a poem: Dopamine (on my channel) that is similar to what your thread is saying. If you want to check it out! -- Take care :)
That poem was great! Highly recommend watching Kristian Flores’s video!
@@kristianxventura The poem was amazing...well done bud
This has opened up my mind a bit more, today I was even asking myself why am I like this. I have an excuse of being tired from working outside on the job and coming home all I wanna do is de-stress and lay down and watch a movie or play video games. Motivation is the real key! I know that when I wanna do something my mind just thinks about the whole step by step plan and then if it’s too much i end up not doing it, there are times when I tell myself it’s too much but once I start doing it I end up enjoying it or feeling good about it and I don’t get a lot of those these days but yes I need to find more motivation in my life and thanks for bringing this video up
Thank you for the reminder! I had figured this out awhile ago and was pretty successful at trimming my stimulation and getting into a good place mentally. But then things happened college and work, I got distracted and lost focus on it and slowly added back everything I let go of and more. I had completely forgotten that this was a problem at all. Thank you so much.
He is so minimal, even the amount of hair in his body is at minimum.
Hahahaha maybe i did not get the enough amount of dopamine today but actually this comment make me laugh so hard xd
operating at maximum efficiency
I bet the other areas of his body has his hair maximum
a e r o d y n a m i c
Its not minimal bro, its completely gone
UA-cam really is my kryptonite. I love learning and I am interested in everything. Sounds amanzing but I am getting no work done man. UA-cam's got me in its grip.
All about balance
same here… i’m starting to freak out. not getting into uni if i don’t start studying instead of consuming hours and hours of yt.
Same bro youtube is one of those things were you think, “ah it’s not that bad, it’s not like other social media and it’s educational” but the problem is 80% of the shit you learn on youtube ends up being useless knowledge that you forget, you don’t get shit done that you’re actually meant to do and unlike other social media, you’re not socializing with other people AT ALL
@@dsrtsnw I'm warning you now, that will not stop just because you get a job. I'm proof. We need to fight
i miss the old youtube where you had to think of something to search for in order to watch something there was no home page or explore tab that pushes a specific list of videos to keep us watching as long as possible
Very well put......thanks for pointing this out. It is so simple, but sometimes we need someone to just put it out there...
man if you ever feel down, just know that you made a great change in my life. keep up the work, just know that you helped one person. I hope this makes you sleep well at night.
Doing things you don't want to do:
If you wake up and go on your phone or your computer for an hour, going on a walk isn't going to be fun at all
If you wake up and stare at the wall for an hour, going on a walk is going to sound pretty good compared to what you're doing
Cellphones are the new smoking. They have replaced cigarettes in everyday life. Just look around at people throughout the day. Every break, any time someone is waiting for something, any time people would have had a cigarette when smoking was more prevalent they now go for their phone.
and it would be interesting to consider if the negative impact on health is even higher than that of smoking.
nico freiler i smoke bunch while browsing social media
It’s probably the case for a lot of people, but there are so many productive things we can do with phones if we use the more valuable apps. It just depends how people use it.
Thank you for writing this, Mike. You know, our behavior should be a more alarming concern for us... during quarantine, I wrote a poem: Dopamine (on my channel) that has everything to do with what this thread is saying. If you want to check it out, mate! -- Take care :)
Got u. Will smash my phone, probably
You are really spot on with explaining dopamine and how external things affect you.
great explaination! I got rid of my smartphone and switched to a lightphone and its one of the best decisions ive made in the last decade. working on reducing laptop time now. thanks for this
What is lightphone?
@@supremeleader5516 what’s google
@@supremeleader5516 it’s a dumb phone alternative
Anyone else feel like they're addicted to staying in bed so you don't have to bother with existing outside of your head?
more like outside the screen lol
try meditation and then say that staying inside your head is easy
Probably depression and anxiety
@@michaeld4861 agreed if you stay inbed you should meditation to help relax the nervous system
What you wrote Is sometimes true. Nevertheless I believe in you! Take care man!
Depends what I'm dreaming about 😜
Pretty rewarding to watch this after a hard day of work.
@@brandoncbh yes.
@Vela S gotta love the internet judges.
Hey. Back to work. 😉
@@ace3998 I feel you!!! I work two jobs but quit the one where things like you described are happening. Now I’m slowly going to use that time to build my own small business! It’s tough because of the dopamine distractions, but I’m learning to have discipline which is rewarding! I’m far from perfect or ‘normal’ by others standards but I’m happy I have something to work towards. Hopefully you can find a dream, big or small that you can maybe work for. Then you will be less tired!
fucking mood
This topic is an important one for me for a long time. I see this as the root cause of many issues of modern society. You put it well together, thank you for that!
I think that this should be much more taught at schools, since it basically decides over if you will become a permanent addict, a slave to drugs, or a strong, self-deciding individual.
I've told this in the comments of another video before but it fits so well under this one...
One year ago I went on holidays with family and family-friends to a cottage (or cabin? idk) in the Austrian alps... There was no data/internet connection at the place we stayed (on the mountaintops on the other hand it was perfect - we sent messages there sometimes) so all of our phones were pretty much unusable for a whole week. We went hiking, played games, cooked and had a lot of fun together. Or just read a book alone outside with the noises of the nearby well and cow- bells in the background.
I remember that week as the most peaceful, grounded and happy I've felt in a long time (or even ever), I can't even explain it lol... That just really shows the effect you discribed in the video that the constant overstimulation had on my mindset and how this 'forced' phone detox helped my brain to be stimulated enough by normal human stuff so that that made me incredibly happy.
After we returned back home to our normal daily lives I didn't feel the need or any urge to returm to the internet for a few days but unfortunately the daily routine kicked in quickly and I went back to the pre holiday mindset.
Anyways, if you have the chance to do something similar to that I can 100% recommend as this holiday really stood out as one of my favorite ones!
Basically limit all dopamine inducing activities like:
Video Games
Social Media
Drugs
P0rn
Junk Food
Netflix
Even some types of fiction books.
If you don’t sacrifice for the things that you want the things that you want becomes the sacrifice.
You got this guys!
What the fuck should I so all day without These Things?🤣 What’s the alternatives ?? I like Watching Movies 2-3 per Week. Playin Video games with my Friends 2-3 per week. Im addicted to fast Food and porn ??
I gotta cut out every pleasure possible? Nah bro, that it ain’t it. Moderation is key
"pu$$y & religion is all i need"
@@Razor837 Yea you definitely can be addicted to fast food and porn. I recommend trying to see if you can easily stop using porn. If you find it difficult, you're an addict.
Honestly I feel like there's a gray area with gaming, but that's a debate for another day.
uhhhhh what else to live for friend
Who else is procrastinating by watching a video about why we procrastinate
I am. And I will stop from now on.
@@7thsky585 lol
me 🥲
Me!
Wow! This totally changed my perspective and explains so much
The making a list thing you mentioned near the end is something i also came up with recently and found it very useful. Lately i’ve found a lot of enjoyment in studying my passions. I didn’t used to enjoy studying, i just wanted to play video games.
I like to think of it as "downshifting" my brain. When I'm chasing stimulation, social media food, etc., it feels like my brain is in a higher gear, and if I try to slow down and do something valuable but less stimulating like writing, it just kills the engine. But if I avoid the mindless scrolling and eating for a while, and only do those things mindfully, with a purpose, my brain downshifts, and I can find pleasure in what's important to me. The ways we have to hack our brains now.
How long have you noticed it takes to downshift?
@@patrickcops5549 For me, a few days to a week. But making it an actual part of my lifestyle has been a longer change over years.
I like that….being mindful and downshifting. I have to do more of this. Well said!
That's actually very helpful, my neurodivergent brain functions on analogies
Wow, what an awesome way to think about it. Thank your for writing this
A notification to make me ashamed of feeling good about getting notifications...
That's some meta stuff right there
Lol same
😭👍
I just don't have notifications on for any channels. When it's time to watch youtube(after work and a walk with my dog) I just check my subscription box what is new. I don't watch videos randomly during the day even if I got notified, but then again I'm never in the early "notification squad" getting likes on my comments. But I still enjoy the vids.
@@ninjal7588 The whole 'notification squad' thing is cringe even to most people who click on notifications as soon as they appear to be fair
I used to get shit done. But lately, I’ve been overwhelmed by social media, YT and the barrage of notifications 🔔 Deleting TikTok helped but clearly I need to do more. It’s time to get back to what really matters… my health, my wife & kids, my career and doing the things I really enjoyed when I was younger.
I might not going to be back anytime soon as UA-cam is one of my doomscrolling destinations. But I wanted to thank you for creating this video. After quite a long time wondering whats wrong, hearing you call this internet addiction made me realize, it is an addiction and has more weight than my initial thought. Not only that, your advice to create a list really clicked on me and helped me found a solution that I have been looking for quite some time. Once again, thanks 👍
The thing is being aware of it. I quit social media, my smart phone is only with me twice a day, and I spend my time doing things I love and not caring if anyone knows (socials). It's been liberating and the inner growth has been a godsend. Awareness is key.
@TK W do you have any tips or a summary of how you accomplished kicking the habit?!
@@noedoublell I think it's like cold turkey is for drugs. I admit having a computer inches away to distract is habit and we have to be willing to stop our own need for escapism.....so how do we do that?
If you meditate with high self - that helps.
But just very simply admit you want to escape, ask yourself why, and then choose different. Over & over & over until THAT is the habit.
There has been many a time where I wished I had the distraction but went to that 5 sense grounding exercise instead.
I think to stop is to be mindful that you want to. 🙏❤️
Same. People don't realize what a time suck it is. I go off social for months at a time even though I'm nowhere near as addicted to it as most people, I just see it for what it, irrelevant to my joy and success in life. I bake and cook new recipes, workout, run, hike, bike, read take a walk, talk to my family, meditate, organize, clean, listen and dance and sing to music. I mean there's sooo much one can do without a damn screen!
@@Darima2 that sounds so boring, to be honest. It sounds like your life is from some movie. The things you said aren't THAT interesting. They could entertain for maybe a couple days and the I would be bored again
@@Darima2 That sounds awesome, you've got it worked out
Honestly though, attacking an antelope with the squad still sounds really exciting
Except I wouldn't kill it. I'd make it a nice pet.
About 2 weeks ago, I was walking in a woodland area in northern England and I saw a deer, it was a beautiful creature. We looked at each other for a while, I wondered if it was suspicious of me. I was a bit worried it would try and attack me, but I just walked on and it left. That was an interesting experience.
It really is! Even popping some bushytails can be exciting
That's how it feels like when folks get together in a game to go kill a superboss.
me kill the horn creature, tribe have food. Me feel strong emotion👍
This was a great video and I appreciate the content and understanding you shared!!
I subscribed. For the notification of when you upload. So stimulating!
Getting rid of the smart phone and down grading to a flip phone was the best choice I've ever made. It's like with the smart phone you are a digital zombie passively watching life. Or other people's lives. And you are a slave to checking your device hundreds of times a day.
Once I down graded I finally felt like I was an active participant in life again. My quality of life went up and my overall happiness skyrocketed. I was finally free to live again.
May I ask if the smart phone was your primary problem? I'm using an acient Galaxy S4, which can do everything I need it to do and little more and I'm reluctand to upgrade because I know, with 8 times the storage capacity and other advancements, I'd use my phone a whole lot more than I do now (I really only use it for messaging and music).
However, I'm absolutely sucked in by my computer, so I think I'll need to approach the problem there.
@@jayhill2193 yup,I use mine for music and occasionally look up videos on life advice like this one.
I used to joke about the zombie apocalypse and then you look around and realize its already here, in the form of a smartphone.
I'm seriously considering this, specially because it reminds me of Star Trek. Does whatsapp works on flip phones? That's really the only concern I have since I'm bound to it for work and university stuff.
@@thenot-so-smartfox4145 honestly, deleting social media apps helps immensely (not including whatsapp in this). I still have a smartphone but removed Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, and Twitter. Smartphones are useful for things like having tickets readily available, a decent camera, mobile banking, etc. I have a couple simple games like Solitaire for when I want a distraction, like waiting in line in the bathroom avoiding eye contact lol.
Ahh Mark Zuckerberg’s twin trying to convince us he’s human. Cute
This comment needs more likes
Retarded comment
this guy is awesome and u r an idiot
Notice how he didn’t like your comment either .. Hmm suspicious
"And I was a human.. I..I am a human"
I can't even watch a whole UA-cam Video anymore without doing something beside that, like reading the comments. Social Media is ruining society. Hope I will break this addiction. Good luck to everyone who tries...
Totally. Thanks.
Incredible video. Thank you for this.
Gosh deactivating facebook was one of the best things I ever did by my own accord
I took a long break from social media and I haven’t really had the desire to go back. Life is just better without it.
@Randy Lahey photonic probably means social networking
I got rid of all my social media except Signal as a means of communication. Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat gone in a week. It feels great to have so much time
@@photoniccannon2117 Same, I had to turn on Facebook again because there are some groups there I need for college, but it doesn't pull me any more even as a distraction. Same with LinkedIn and Twitter and Instagram. I tried not commenting a lot on you tube except under specific channels, so there's not much of social interaction there as well. It really helps to have a clearer mind.
@@But_WhatIf how much time were you spending on them lol? I wasn't even spending that mcuh time on Facebook, I just found it exhausting to interact with content or messages
When I see my mother reading books, not very interesting ones too, for a long period of time, that's another hint for the same process.
She wasn't raised with my level of dopamine stimulation. She is used to being bored. So she can handle boring tasks much better and do more useful stuff.
Yes but I don’t think she’s bored when reading for a long period of time. I think we don’t have the same perspective and definition of being bored than our parent’s generation
Being bored is a mind killer so having moderative bad habits like Gaming are nothing wrong with it but just try to enter flow state(creative mode dancing and drawing etc) now and then it's fine :).
Reading has more to do with attention span. If you can't sit still long enough to read/concentrate, then you probably have a learning disability(ADHD, ADD). It has nothing to do with "being used to doing boring things."
@@pinkbouquet1955 adhd and blablabla is bs... things created to make us take medicine we dont need. If im reading something that isnt me i wont focus. If im reading something i love i will focus. Its that easy, but we are so trapped on our minds that we dont even know what we love.
Am I the only one who actually *enjoys* reading?
I have learned a lot from your videos, and my life is starting to slowly go in the way I want it to. I have had more self-discipline and self-respect than ever before because I have gotten rid of most of "candy" and doing more healthy things like reading every day and exercising and drinking more water and so on. Something that is a big thing for me is doing something I am not really in the mood to do because one I know that it's going to help me in the long run and two that once I start doing it, I will begin to have fun with it and it will make me feel better about myself afterward and help me with some other things later on.
Great video. As someone who has been active in the gym for a few years now, I would say reminding myself this is actually beneficial has helped a lot. While i didn’t want to go some days, knowing that ultimately this is something i want was beneficial. Now jus applying that elsewhere in my life
This is true. I’ve intentionally been reducing self gratifying activities and the difference in clarity of mind is remarkable
I know what you mean. I'm a huge gamer, to the point where it gets in the way of doing important things. In the past, I've taken breaks from gaming (a few days to a couple weeks), and my mind feels SO much better. My attention span increases tenfold, my productivity quadruples, and I feel more relaxed and less pushed for time.
Guys will give you my two cents based on true story: I’ve been sick last summer, had to spent 15 days in the hospital without being able to eat, to sleep well, to do anything except for laying down on a bed.
When I start recovering I remember I was hungry for knowledge: i started reading and have been reading 3 books in 6 days. The thing is that if you are bored anything seems interesting
how are u now are u still into reading?
@@LawAbidingSociopath69 I’m a lot better right now, but went back to work, I’m consultant and work life balance is pretty aufull. Can say I never experienced that kind of feeling. I want to try again to fast and avoid phone/social/etc. because the sensation you have when reading books is amazing. Is literally like your brain is eating knowledge because he want to use it to rule the world. Time is an immense asset.
I remember i red somewhere that Ancient Greek philosophers used fasting as a tool to stimulate brain. I think it’s a nature tool: if you cannot satisfy your need you’ll be hungry for tools to use for your goals.
@@parlocosizarathustra so fasting like no eating food help brains also?
@@LawAbidingSociopath69 yes it does
@@AdrianDanielGuard what to do if we feel hungry?
I thank you for this video, this cleared my goal to look into something more worth doing.
I really do.
Needed this. Thank you my friend
Dude how do you make videos on the exact area of my life I'm struggling with? This has been literally me the last few months, overstimulating, refreshing social media, waiting for something to happen. Thanks man this is why my notifications are on.
P.S Please never change your calm mannerism & voice, I can't stand those improvement channels that YELL LIKE I'M ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE HOUSE
Pff same man. Working on a busines and instead of creating content I keep checking the likes of my social media posts....this video really helped. I also like the calm voice he has! also One of the reasons why i don't watch motivational videos because the voice is just too in my face
Really enjoyed the natural background, it was refreshing.
Great vid! I'm currently on a Alcohol detox and takeaway detox. I'm in week 2!! Lol planning on going until 20/10/22. Really want to do some exercise as well but I have colitis so flare ups are preventing me atm. But one step at a time! Cheers for the vid. 🙏❤️
Probably one of the few good things about being autistic is that there is a natural aversion to being overstimulated, so I have largely lived a life free of most of these problems. Unfortunately, it has also made it hard for me to realize why it might be such a problem for others. Thanks for shining light on this topic, man.
I experience the problem for others part on a daily, wish you well :)
I 100% agree. I’m not necessarily diagnosed with autism, but I have been with ADD. There’s countless amounts of times where I have to just sit in silence, let my senses rest. I’m also a hippie, so I absolutely adore the natural landscape of the world
You lucked out to have not experienced those things - I have one autistic friend who’s absolutely obsessed with games and computers because he says the world rejects him. I wish I could get him to stop, but we are adults now and I really don’t know what to tell him :(
@@Anna-po1sb Well, if i felt like the world rejected me, thatd be my way of telling someone "i dont feel accepted and im happy doing this thing i love!". I play fames like 8 hours a day and i dont even mean to because its my safe space, im 23 and completely functional in public i think! Sometimes it might be more about perspective. Maybe they might even wanna spend that time with you but is too afraid to ask, ya never know. Hopefully he finds his comfort elsewhere as well and you get a happy ending with your friend :)
@@notbryun I wish we could - young adult life is very busy and we live far away from each other :( I saw him recently and he got into cooking which I think is a great thing
I'm definitely overestimated and it's exhausting. I'm utterly antisocial and simply want calm again, like I was before the internet. Thanks for this!
You mean over-stimulated?
@@lilypad2 She spelled it wrong because she's far too overstimulated. Lol
This comment is underestimated.
Hey Christopher! Have you changed something since our commented here?
I think you’re overestimating Christopher..😅
Amazing. My first thought, as an avid You-tube scroller was (forgive me) "Duh, if I didn't scroll for that next stimulating vid, I wouldn't be watching this bald headed guy who has all the answers to life" then, I kept listening, and it profoundly began to make sense. In turn, I have now liked, and subscribed. I appreciate what you do. This was just what I needed. Thank you, take care.
This video has been out for years but I always seem to come back to it, and it helps.
I was actually thinking this at this exact moment. ; )
It's like he knows. 👀
Social distancing
Me too
Yeah same and I honestly think a lot of people are coming to this conclusion in parallel. Fingers crossed we all snap out of it.
Me too
I’ve been so addicted to my phone
Just deleted my social media . Staying on UA-cam for educational purposes.
Sure you are, we all say that, youtube is the devil
I got off of social media roughly 3 years ago and it was simply the best thing ive ever done. I dont miss anything about it. It took my wife a number of months to finally stop asking me "have you seen this... or have you heard about so and so" ect ect. My guilty pleasure is youtube and some video games here and there but mostly i read books or study the stock market or look into home improvement projects and wood working. I would give anything for everyone to get off the curse that is social media.
@@jamesbondage03 same, except I quit videogames too. Also I quit talking shit online years ago. I watch motivational videos like Goggins everyday too.
Yeah and u use ignocito lmao
get the chrome extension distraction free youtube, you can block things like recommended videos, subscriptions and comments so you aren't just watching videos for the sake of it
thanks, i took this video as inspiration for a speech im doing in a speech and debate club. this is something you made me very passionate about and i thank you for that!
Definitely appreciate your content, I am a new subscriber and hust recently found your channel and still dont know how to describe your content. Very Digestible but you keeo reminding me to stop consuming in general and even encourage me to stop eatching your video at the moment to go and actually do the thing. Thank you and keeo getting after it , Great work.
Honestly man, I just started watching your videos & Im already feeling a shift in my mindset. You really put things in perspective & your editing skills are amazing. Thank you bro 🙏
me too..and I'm 68
deleted all my social media apps two weeks ago and started reading a book thanks to your video's! thanks, i'm a rough reader and i've only done like 80 pages so far, but i'm starting to enjoy it
Yea keep telling yourself that.While you are at it go buy yourself a cave to live in.
@@lazarusblackwell6988 say your addicted to procastination and go
I am struggling with this addicted to internet and struggling to get back into reading a good book and reading really slow and sometimes I get really frustrated and bored as I am turning the pages and reading can't relax enough to enjoy the process of reading
reading online has improved my already good ability to read books somehow. i realized that i read a sentence in a frame or two somehow
@@dino4812 why do u measure time as frames
I really needed this, it explains why after Covid, everything became boring and I no longer want to do anything. Not even the things I use to enjoy.
Thankyou so much for making this video
Friend: wow you’re talking to me a lot lately what’s up Me: you’re the less stimulating/ interesting alternative.
This comment is so stimulating
Omg lolll
Hahaha so good yet sooo bad
As an alcoholic in recovery, I realized about this on my first days of sobriety after starting to become obsessive with other things in life that would provide me "immediate pleasure" (like in the video says: scroll down on social media waiting for something interesting to happen, and suddenly, I realized I spent hours to actually find just maybe 5 minutes of something actually interesting). Later on thanks to therapy, I finally understood the difference between serotonin (happiness) and dopamine (the hype of about to get rewarded).
It has been a very interesting adventure since I started this process of recovery from alcoholism. I have managed to realize about a lot of things in myself that aren't very healthy. In my personal case, it is necessary to keep going on in this adventure inside my own psyche, because it could mean a relapse on drinking again and hence: Lose my life.
Amazing video. Subscribed. Looking forward to watch more.
I always try to remind myself how uncomfortable I could be or how much I really do depend on finer things that I don't really need right now. But damn I'm grateful
@@mattl6492 Solid advice
I'm an opiate addict in recovery & I have been running into the same issues. I had to slowly replace bad habits with good ones. I started taking a martial arts class & got into yoga. Something healthy you can physically get into & focus on is helpful. It's not easy navigating this world sober. Once we get rid of the drug we have to face all the bad habits we got into while using the drug.
Congrats on your sobriety!!!
Hey, how've you been holding up?
Hope all is well!!
🔥💚🔥
Yeah alcoholism and internet addiction, or all addictions really kind of work the same i think . Tryin to fight it
This video was exactly what I needed. Thank you.
Excellent video, helpful and insightful, and great energy! Thank you!