This Is How A Man Acts When He TRULY Likes And Values A Woman (Controversial). No More Confusion

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  • @Lisa-th9dg
    @Lisa-th9dg 3 роки тому +193

    If you're in any confusion then its time to let go, if a guy truly likes you, you won't be feeling confused.

    • @idlexxx1868
      @idlexxx1868 3 роки тому +10

      He may like you but liking you and wanting a relationship are two different things

    • @guitargilda
      @guitargilda 3 роки тому +17

      @@idlexxx1868 If a man “truly liked you”, like you were the awesomest girl in the world, he wouldn’t give up an opportunity to be in a relationship with you!

    • @idlexxx1868
      @idlexxx1868 3 роки тому +22

      @@guitargilda not in all cases. Men who are freshly single (after years of being in a relationship), men with avoidant attachment style, men who were deeply hurt in the past etc. they may truly like you yet have a problem to commit. Please don't say " if he doesn't want to commit then he doesn't like you" life is not just black or white.

    • @guitargilda
      @guitargilda 3 роки тому +12

      @@idlexxx1868 Maybe if a guy has a legitimate excuse, needing time or getting help, is one thing, but people generally don’t let something that’s priceless in their eyes just slip away...

    • @idlexxx1868
      @idlexxx1868 3 роки тому +8

      @@guitargilda even if he commits because he doesn't want to lose you, it doesn't mean he is ready for it and you will see consequences of it later on. I gave one guy (who was one year after a divorce) an ultimatum and he committed to me. He was an amazing guy who took care of me like no one before but at the end of the day I felt he was a bit distant, didn't really want to talk about his feelings. Some people are just not ready.

  • @angelabvlogs5490
    @angelabvlogs5490 3 роки тому +126

    “A man who truly loves a woman wouldn’t put himself in a position to lose her”. A.K.A. He wouldn’t cheat on you IF he loves you!

    • @ktkalicka
      @ktkalicka 3 роки тому +4

      No, a man cheats because he likes being around women. Just like you might like another guy you have chemistry with. He doesn't count on the woman finding out, which makes him lose her. The guy is not intentionally acting to lose you, like when he is GHOSTING YOU or TELLING YOU he doesn't want a relationship, THAT's intentional.

    • @angelabvlogs5490
      @angelabvlogs5490 3 роки тому +5

      @@ktkalicka You’re really delusional. When you truly value something you love you don’t put yourself in a position to lose it. Period.

    • @Scorpio12348
      @Scorpio12348 3 роки тому +1

      So that’s why married men cheat.

    • @angelabvlogs5490
      @angelabvlogs5490 3 роки тому +2

      @@Scorpio12348 girl why the hell u fucking with married men for😂

    • @XYZ-ln2qk
      @XYZ-ln2qk 2 роки тому

      MEN CHEAT AS THEY KNOW THE BLIND AT HOME DOESNT SEE AND WAITS FOR HIM.OBEDIENTLY.

  • @owlq3574
    @owlq3574 3 роки тому +60

    I let my ex go because he would not show effort so now I'm relieved to be by myself until the right one comes.

  • @AnnaNovak
    @AnnaNovak 3 роки тому +93

    If they care, you'll just know. If you're confused, that means they gave you mixed signals.

  • @Amateur_Pianist_472
    @Amateur_Pianist_472 3 роки тому +120

    Men do want a relationship, they just don’t want it with you. That’s the hard pill to swallow.

    • @DanaRaquel
      @DanaRaquel 3 роки тому +2

      Painful

    • @DatDyme980
      @DatDyme980 3 роки тому

      Repeat a lie and people start believing it.

  • @rebeccajones8628
    @rebeccajones8628 3 роки тому +76

    If he is hot and cold and pulling away: he doesn't like you. Move on! So true. I did and I should have done it sooner.

    • @tfh5575
      @tfh5575 3 роки тому +6

      i do hot and cold and periodically pull away with the people i really really like because i want to keep their attention. when you show how much you want someone they get bored. some of us are emotionally damaged, but we still like the person :/ now when i DON'T like the person for anything long term, i'm flirty and overly confident and then it drops off after a short period.

    • @KiKi-te9yd
      @KiKi-te9yd 3 роки тому +5

      @@tfh5575 agree. Doesn't mean he doesn't like you, it often means he likes you but can't handle being close enough for a decent relationship (because of his own connection issues)

    • @DatDyme980
      @DatDyme980 3 роки тому +2

      @@KiKi-te9yd Exactly. The reason why I don't allow people to judge my situation by THEIR experiences, even coaches! Besides, listen long enough and all coaches contradict themselves AND other coaches.

    • @lihong9389
      @lihong9389 2 роки тому

      @@tfh5575 I agree

  • @sherryj738
    @sherryj738 3 роки тому +30

    I went out to dinner tonight and my man held my hands across the table, touched my face softly, talked to me and had tears in his eyes and when we left, he kissed me lightly and soft....nothing better!

    • @akuasalaam490
      @akuasalaam490 2 роки тому +1

      That is so beautiful...

    • @amaragrace94
      @amaragrace94 2 роки тому +2

      I love a man that loves to give physical touch. It makes me feel safe and like he adores me...not just lusts after me. Caress my face and give me a kiss on the cheek if you want to have me in the palm of your hand lol🥺😄.

  • @tonitaquetaparks3304
    @tonitaquetaparks3304 3 роки тому +38

    Acting out isnt going to get him to want you. Just have to take it as a lose.

  • @Rhugheswiesel
    @Rhugheswiesel 3 роки тому +41

    So over being caught up in the “ grey area”.

  • @Raynecolwell
    @Raynecolwell 3 роки тому +22

    Can you please talk about unrequited love?? Maybe you have already but I found myself in this situation and didn't know how I had gotten there and didn't know how to get out of it. I became obsessed with this guy. I had just started listening to you and realized where I went wrong but it wasn't helping me get over this guy....yet. One day I decided to look up the definition of unrequited love and it said the obvious AND it said that it usually happens when there is mixed messages. That last part blew my mind!! It was the key that helped me understand how I got there. There was definitely mixed messages....i wasn't suffering from mental illness. Lol. I will never let someone run that game on me again. I broke loose from the attachment and now have applied your advice with ease. Ty you so much...you have helped me tremendously!! If that little key can help someone else, please let them know.

  • @goodfortune5480
    @goodfortune5480 3 роки тому +16

    The 3 P's he will provide for her, proclaim her, he will protect her. If his friends/family say something bad about you and you're not there to defend yourself, if he doesn't defend you either it means he doesn't value you.

  • @olivia4788
    @olivia4788 3 роки тому +4

    Can I simply say your concrete understanding of what a man bring to the table and what a woman brings to the table is refreshing. It’s not degrading to understand that a man values services nor is gold digging to understand that women values resources.

  • @kimt8162
    @kimt8162 3 роки тому +11

    I agree with this example and his theory; I won't name any names because she's pretty well known. She's with a guy, he knows the family; they end up setting up shop; live together. He's great, he's funny. Everybody likes him. A year later, don't you want to get married? No. Another year later, No. She's confused. She talks to the brothers thinking they have an answer; none of them are married so no. She's scared, breaks up with him. ONE year later, she's at an event. Meets a guy randomly and BOOM! She comes out almost immediately with what she wants; and to her surprise he's so THERE. Wanting to do for her. She's in disbelief because of the last guy. This guy is not only there, he's like wanting to impress her left and right. They are now engaged and BOOM!; got married even under covid restrictions; had a wedding and she's married and pregnant. And this new guy is acting like she's the best thing that's ever happened to him. BOOM! Just like that.

    • @georginabrigs1891
      @georginabrigs1891 3 роки тому +1

      I hope the guy that i am dating right now will also be my last😅 im somehow on the same situation

  • @kugelblitz65
    @kugelblitz65 3 роки тому +13

    I wish everyone a happy new year 😊🎉✨

  • @Strawberryfaerie
    @Strawberryfaerie 3 роки тому +32

    Hi Elliot! It makes sense a man that truly cares for you wouldn’t pull away, logically speaking because he wouldn’t put himself in a position to lose you. However, John Grey talks about a man pulling away before deciding to go deeper with commitment, and that uncertainty is normal. Controlling dudes that don’t love you and don’t know how to love a woman also don’t want to lose a woman. Doesn’t mean he really loves her. So do you think you could do a video on what pulling away actually is? Do you mean if he’s gone for a few days when you normally talk every day, do you mean a month.... do you think there is different levels of pulling away? Like one kind is normal and apart of gaining certainty about a woman, while another kind is clear indicator he doesn’t truly love or value you? And how long in the dating phase do you think it takes a man to think he might love you, does the 6-8 dates apply to this as well? I think men pull away because they are deciding if they are truly ready for a relationship in the beginning. Does this mean he doesn’t actually like me enough if he pulls away at all?

    • @ashton1952
      @ashton1952 3 роки тому +13

      I agree, there's different contexts of pulling away. Sometimes the guy just has a highly stressful work situation and family issues etc. at the same time. But if he likes you he'll explain what happened. A lot is about the attitude...

    • @lizb4156
      @lizb4156 3 роки тому +11

      If he likes you he won't pull away. I'm sick of hearing this shit. I finally have a man that truly likes me and he doesn't pull away or not answer texts or not turn up. He can use a phone to ring me and answer calls too...coz he truly likes me.

    • @ashton1952
      @ashton1952 3 роки тому +4

      @@lizb4156 And if a girl likes a guy she won't break up with him either? Well that's what Greg's friends told him after I broke up with him. I didn't want to break up with him (we'd been in a serious relationship for a month) but I had this storm going on in my head after being date raped like three months before. I couldn't tell him about what had happened because I still blamed myself and didn't know what he would say, maybe think me a slut, don't know. So anyway Greg just said that he had been traumatized by the whole breakup thing and that it made no sense that I had rejected him and after a long time following of cat-and-mouse games I realized that he would never ever trust me again. I had broken up with someone that I'd been in love with and maybe always will love, and yeah, it made no sense. Sometimes people can't handle their stuff too well. Every person is different. He got too much into his own head and decided that I couldn't possibly love him because I had rejected him, instead of realizing that I must have some problem that I wasn't mentioning. But you get to decide if you're gonna forgive and trust or write someone off as 'emotionally unavailable' and tell yourself they don't like you and don't ever give another chance, even when they came back and tried. Human beings can be complicated and there's no real 'one size fits all' rule. Although I agree with Elliot, and it's good general advice, there is also context to consider.

    • @Strawberryfaerie
      @Strawberryfaerie 3 роки тому

      @@lizb4156 good to hear! How long have you both been dating?

    • @Strawberryfaerie
      @Strawberryfaerie 3 роки тому +3

      @@ashton1952 totally, but sometimes I think they are trying to sound legit when really they let the ball drop and are coming up with excuses.

  • @shoshonamuller2652
    @shoshonamuller2652 3 роки тому +3

    Absolutely true!!! Don’t waist your time ladies. Thank you for sharing this!

  • @skytyler3997
    @skytyler3997 3 роки тому +2

    I partially agree with you Elliot, because if the woman is making it hard, confusing, ignoring, etc., a guy should have some self respect and walk away.

  • @MsProudcherokee
    @MsProudcherokee 3 роки тому +14

    Happy New Year Elliot!! Thank you for looking out and giving such valuable advice! You are THE BEST Dating Coach 🎉🥂😘

  • @MalenaLuna444
    @MalenaLuna444 3 роки тому +3

    I understand Elliot. Us woman are natural nurturers. We give. It’s in our nature.

  • @sherryj738
    @sherryj738 3 роки тому +4

    I am 62 years old and I have never felt this before

  • @LR-hu2pj
    @LR-hu2pj 3 роки тому +1

    Been listening to your advice for 2 years now. Thanks for so much insight. Really learning to value myself because of you.

  • @nessava4965
    @nessava4965 3 роки тому +10

    The term “resources” and “services” are the same thing but the terms have been gendered to undermine and demean women. Both men and women have “resources”. Both provide “services.” Just take out the toxic gender language for behaviours.

  • @delphinenyirahabimanam.d.8510
    @delphinenyirahabimanam.d.8510 3 роки тому +2

    You spoke the truth, and I listened!

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften 3 роки тому +5

    But the older men are saying there is no need to provide as we/they are past child rearing age, and they want women working.
    Ok then...I’m single and taking care of me. It’s very sad.

    • @wolfwilson7431
      @wolfwilson7431 3 роки тому

      Am a powerful spell caster and I'll help you cast a very powerful spell that will bring your ex back to you and even make your ex start begging you forgiveness and you will see the results within 3days after am done casting the spell

  • @A__Love
    @A__Love 3 роки тому +4

    Women hunted during prehistoric times - the idea that women didn't is a myth. It was way more egalitarian back then. Whoever could hunt would hunt.
    It's like how female cats are the main hunters. Men did protect but he mostly protected the clan against other men.

  • @estoy1732
    @estoy1732 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so so so so so so so so much. I really needed this. This just opened my eyes.

  • @xxshellybelly
    @xxshellybelly 3 роки тому +3

    Preachhh :) Cheers to 2021!!

  • @JessicaRamirez91622
    @JessicaRamirez91622 3 роки тому +6

    When you said "say you and I are dating..." ok guess we in love now 😆
    Seriously tho, love your videos and your honesty.

  • @FM-zg5hz
    @FM-zg5hz 3 роки тому +6

    Elliot can you make a video on how long it’s normal for a man to pull away in the very beginning? I feel like it’s pretty normal to still be feeling it out and not being in daily contact. Doesn’t every relationship have a natural ebb and flow? Once attraction and rapport builds, then it’s okay to have more communication. But how long is normal for a man to pull away when you are first getting to know him? I don’t want to have unrealistic expectations and come across as clingy/needy if a man pulls away and comes back and I show that I’m emotionally affected by it.

    • @kourtenayt1927
      @kourtenayt1927 2 роки тому

      I struggle with this too. I think a good man will always want quite a lot of contact with you - if you are being receptive. They don't want another man to have a chance to get in there. I think its best to trust your intuition but i think a good man won't make anything confusing.

  • @honeybunn_deluxxe
    @honeybunn_deluxxe 3 роки тому +6

    You and Alex are the best

    • @nessava4965
      @nessava4965 3 роки тому +2

      Agree. My two favourites as well.

  • @jojotd5398
    @jojotd5398 3 роки тому

    Thank you!! It's so clear looking back after listening to your video!! 👌🙏

  • @FM-zg5hz
    @FM-zg5hz 3 роки тому +8

    Elliot don’t be out here in the panny! Happy New Year. We love you, you deserve more subscribers 🥂

    • @lizb4156
      @lizb4156 3 роки тому +1

      There is no pandemic, stop with the stupid narrative.

    • @FM-zg5hz
      @FM-zg5hz 3 роки тому +1

      @@lizb4156 You must be living under a rock. Bye now!

  • @xKUNAIxCHICKx
    @xKUNAIxCHICKx 3 роки тому +4

    What does it meant then when he was ticking all of the boxes that he was really in it for years and then switches completely?

  • @Bella-Mae0422
    @Bella-Mae0422 3 роки тому +3

    Happy almost 2021 Elliot! 🖤 Go have some fun yourself. 🙂

  • @user-ud8mt6fj1m
    @user-ud8mt6fj1m 3 роки тому +3

    I’m hot and cold and pull away only when I like a guy

  • @brookestarr6124
    @brookestarr6124 3 роки тому +5

    I’m sorry Mrs Jackson I am for real

  • @dioneja8
    @dioneja8 3 роки тому

    So simple but true

  • @thealmighty0071
    @thealmighty0071 2 роки тому

    Ellioooootttt, you're adorable!!! thanks for this video. You look handsome with your glasses.

  • @AngieParfaite
    @AngieParfaite 3 роки тому +2

    Love you Elliot Scott my favourite dating coach 😘 🔔 ✔️ now ❤️ me 4️⃣ ever! 😘

  • @lindavo6173
    @lindavo6173 2 роки тому

    I agree with u Elliot

  • @jusjewels7230
    @jusjewels7230 3 роки тому +1

    I definitely agree

  • @Leilynx
    @Leilynx 3 роки тому +1

    I was wondering if you can touch of the topic of how to be supportive of a masculine/alpha partner who is going through bereavement/grief of a loved one. My boyfriend lost his grandfather who was his hero and has completely shut down. He isn’t expressive or vulnerable overall so this is just hard to deal with and I’m lost

  • @viennala2528
    @viennala2528 3 роки тому +5

    Elliot I have a question. I was talking to this guy and everything was fine until he asked me do I like something sexual and than mentioned what his ex likes (it was about toys). Then I asked and he said that he is still friends with her(he was sleeping with her for 3 years). Obviously we havent met, cause corona. Should I even consider meeting with him?? Or should I just ghost him. Or say to him that I dont want a guy who is in contact with girl he was sleeping with. What the most hurt me is he comparing me to her, do I like the same sexual things. Like wtf. Can I say to him I dont want waste more time cause hes friends with his ex. We were talking for two months

    • @oliviadawn9002
      @oliviadawn9002 3 роки тому +5

      Not a coach, but I just wanted to say I would ditch... doesn’t sound like a good situation if he’s still talking to her..

    • @FlordosAçores
      @FlordosAçores 3 роки тому +3

      RUN!! Immediately!
      He’s probably still in contact with her, & definitely still emotionally attached to her. You don’t want that pain, nor to look the desperate girl. Let him work on him, & Let them settle themselves. Plus he’s vulnerable & you don’t want to appear you are manipulative.
      This stuff happens , on both sides.
      We all make mistakes
      How a Woman handles this situation, shows her true character as a Real, Strong, Female.
      I’m sure he’s not a bad guy,
      But!
      You are worth more! Be kind to yourself, amiga!

    • @tannd8476
      @tannd8476 3 роки тому

      Please run, no high value woman deserves a jerk like this. Sorry to come across so harsh but he’s looking for one thing and probably with a number of women. Once you find a man that treats you the right way you will never put up with anything else.

    • @Khadijah_respectfully
      @Khadijah_respectfully 2 роки тому

      Let him go

  • @Leilynx
    @Leilynx 3 роки тому +2

    I was wondering if you can touch of the topic of how to be supportive of a masculine/alpha partner who is going through bereavement/grief of a loved one. My boyfriend lost his grandfather who was his hero and has completely shut down. He isn’t expressive or vulnerable overall so this is just hard to deal with and I’m lost. This is also the first death he has dealt with. I know I can’t help him deal but I want to know how to be supportive and know he’s loved, that life isn’t pointless. Nobody touches on this subject with this age demographic and it being more of a dominant male who doesn’t show his feelings

    • @ashton1952
      @ashton1952 3 роки тому +1

      Grieving is a process and people deal with it differently; some people stay to themselves and can't give. So long as he knows you're there for him. Love is a healing force; and with time, the pain gets less.

  • @ChristinaOstil115
    @ChristinaOstil115 2 роки тому

    But I am still going to get my BA degree and it is hard for men to notice me. I was just dating for fun. I was not sure about him.

  • @carolinenorman6141
    @carolinenorman6141 3 роки тому

    Love your talks 🆒

  • @Wheresmywolf91
    @Wheresmywolf91 2 роки тому

    Not able to vs. not allowed to.

  • @minty782
    @minty782 3 роки тому +1

    Foreva?, foreva eva, foreva eva😲 Haha, ms jackson:D

  • @emmaa4595
    @emmaa4595 2 роки тому

    Think of the material thing he values most i.e. car, phone, watch, house, money. Think of how he would act at the loss or potential to lose those. Does he act in the same way over you or does he put himself in that position? You have your answer.

  • @spacepod100
    @spacepod100 3 роки тому +2

    this all so counter intuitive, if you go onto mens advice channels they all suggest pulling away to grow attraction. Is this why dating is so difficult/

    • @Amateur_Pianist_472
      @Amateur_Pianist_472 3 роки тому +2

      Pull away only if the other pulls away. There’s no point if they’re really into you.

  • @tessafinotti893
    @tessafinotti893 3 роки тому

    How do you get man to chase you after talking a few months to see his intentions? Been on a few dates and talk everyday.

  • @michelinelanglais8786
    @michelinelanglais8786 3 роки тому

    thank you

  • @christinamason3297
    @christinamason3297 3 роки тому

    Great Video! “Services” terrible word :)

  • @blueblaze9862
    @blueblaze9862 3 роки тому

    Happy ny elliot

  • @meemeethecat7391
    @meemeethecat7391 2 роки тому

    I'm sub for a couple of days. But I haven't received anything .

  • @sophiejensen3484
    @sophiejensen3484 3 роки тому +1

    Why can’t men prove that all today ... too many options I guess 😐

  • @carrom1920
    @carrom1920 3 роки тому

    Basically we don’t have free will

  • @ilenek.5428
    @ilenek.5428 3 роки тому

    What if this world has him stressed... from working hard & paying bills?

    • @MoonFoxASMR
      @MoonFoxASMR 3 роки тому +4

      Everyone has life stress. Don't make excuses for his behavior towards you.

    • @ilenek.5428
      @ilenek.5428 3 роки тому

      @@MoonFoxASMR Thank u!

  • @goddessglow6996
    @goddessglow6996 2 роки тому

    Ébat kind of resources? Buy you a house!?!

  • @MySideHustleStash
    @MySideHustleStash 3 роки тому +2

    That's actually in the Bible 🤷🏽‍♀️
    He brings the food home (resource)
    I clean it and cook it (service)

  • @mariageorghiades9420
    @mariageorghiades9420 3 роки тому +3

    Elliot. What about if it was the woman who pulled away n the guy keeps coming back every few months n he tries to get with her again. Without any real effort without apologies or making any changes. Why does he come back

    • @littlelily4
      @littlelily4 3 роки тому +6

      He likes access to you, you deserve better girl run !!

    • @blackjag121
      @blackjag121 3 роки тому +5

      He wants to waste your time until someone he think is better than you comes along!!! Run girl quick and block him before he wastes more of your time!!!!

    • @donna2693
      @donna2693 3 роки тому +4

      Because you keep letting him...you are a convience and ego trip for him, that's it...xo

  • @h.y1778
    @h.y1778 3 роки тому +1

    🤙

  • @beatrizfonseca6059
    @beatrizfonseca6059 3 роки тому

    What If your ex bf is ignoring you? Can you make a vídeo about that? Also a vídeo about mixed signals

  • @LR-hu2pj
    @LR-hu2pj 3 роки тому

    Question for you! Watched the video, but is it mandatory for women to be as nurturing and motherly even if they never want children? I am a woman who will never have kids but I am very nurturing to a man - love to cook for him and see him happy. Is it a fault if I don't want to be a mom? Will he prefer someone who wants to be a mom, even if he doesn't want kids either, just the thought of a woman wanting kids makes her superior?

    • @lisamecham5712
      @lisamecham5712 3 роки тому +2

      If a man thinks that one woman is superior to another ONLY because one wants kids and the other one doesn't, let me clue you in on something - he isn't a man.

    • @lisamecham5712
      @lisamecham5712 3 роки тому +1

      P/S -
      If the man doesn't want kids, it's irrelevant if the woman wants kids or doesn't want kids - because kids won't be in the picture.

    • @fatoumfatoumeh
      @fatoumfatoumeh 3 роки тому +1

      I’m slightly older (36) so I don’t know if I will be capable of having a baby by the time I settle down, and that is a huge con to most men...most of them want kids. And even the ones who say they don’t want kids...they would still like to have that option available incase they change their mind. If you really don’t want kids, try dating men who already have kids of their own, they are probably a safer bet for long term relationships and you won’t feel like you’re depriving them of fatherhood, they won’t be pestering you to change your mind.

  • @champagnegold8614
    @champagnegold8614 2 роки тому

    It’s sad and annoying that he has to waste 50% of this video explaining to “certain” women the historical differences between men and women. People are too petty and sensitive these days. Even women have such fragile egos nowadays.

  • @rachelbailey52
    @rachelbailey52 2 роки тому +1

    It's a man's place to chase a woman. I see too many young women today chasing men. These women would get so much more from a guy if she played it right. It's not natural for women to take on the man's role. To hell with modern attitudes. The blokes the hunter and the woman's the prey..

  • @Aliceinchains606
    @Aliceinchains606 Рік тому

    You are cute

  • @julifunnygirl71
    @julifunnygirl71 3 роки тому

    He doesn't like me 😔

  • @quintinmaximilian1170
    @quintinmaximilian1170 3 роки тому +1

    Hi Boys 😍💋 💝💖♥️❤️

  • @shirleycisneros6813
    @shirleycisneros6813 3 роки тому

    I agree with you.