That's why I'm never gonna sleep with my best friend, we like each other physically but it would destroy our relationship, and we wouldn't be a good match as a couple
That’s not funny or cute and you shouldn’t humor men when they use words that are degrading. Like the P word and bitch the way those are used a lot, there’s others too but you should call them out on it, I don’t care how innocent, cute, funny subtle it is or sounds, that still sounds objectifying and if women are ever gonna get equality in this world it starts with language
Some people say it doesnt matter if u give it up right away, but I swear like 70% of the time it did not work out for me within the first 3 dates. Elliot tellin it how it is 👍
One time I gave it up right away because people said they have and are now in a relationship/married I’m never doing that again the guy I was seeing 2 years ago I already knew him for like 3 years before us even dating so it wasn’t a stranger
Victoria Love right!!! These couples I went to church with slept with each other on the first date and been married over 25 years( still married) but for me it didn’t work at all ( I only did it one time never again) shit my friend even had sex with her boyfriend before they even dated and he still asked her to be his girlfriend after 2 months
That's so easy, women hold all the power. You wait until he invests a lot. Players usually don't want to do that, go on a date or few, if she doesn't give it up - they ignore, trying to make her feel insecure and then a naive young woman feels pressured into giving him sex expecting him to give her attention, it always backfires. If he doesn't text you in a week - just block, if he only texts you "how are you" and it doesn't go anywhere, shows low effort tell him that you don't think it's gonna work and move on. If he really likes you, he will put you maybe if not in the first place but at least in the 3rd and will give you more attention and time. There were guys that texted me last year and came back now, I don't even remember them. Don't entertain that. And get the title first.
Thank you. Very good advice. I have made all those mistakes. Next time I will follow the 5 ways to build value and not be taken for granted. I finally ended a 7 year relationship of purely being used. I love your straight talk. You are so helpful and appreciated.
I suffer from the nice girl disease : treat everyone like you want to be treated. What a shame that it simply does not work in dating and I had to learn it the hard way! Like your no-bs-approach so much! 🙂
Elliot, I know there are probably alot of people, both men and women who might watch your videos and flat out disagree with you JUST because they hate the truth. Because the truth hurts. You're a raw person. I know not all "men are dogs" But that became a common saying BECAUSE the majority have traits like that. And you address that to women. And they really need to here it like it is. You make great and valid points. Thanks for making these videos. You're one of my favorite Dating Coaches. 🙂
The more bullet points you in include in descriptions, the better. Many of us are visual learners and that’s how the materials sticks in our minds. Thank you again!
I literally came to the comments to say that this is one of my favorite videos and I can see that other people said that too you are definitely the Goat 🐐 Elliott.
Please make a whole video about pacing. How can we stop it or push him away without hurting his ego? Because its often so difficult to stop them because they manipulate women. Either they set you under pressure with words or gestures or they pretend to be devaluated and hurted.
Postpone (Reject) their sexual advances with warmth. Let them know how attracted you are to them and how much you like them (Affirm). Then let them know you’re not comfortable at this point (Set boundaries)
So informative I wish i had this knowledge 8 months ago. I was out of the dating world for 17 years so rusty on the red flags but knowledge is power and the eyes are wide open. Trust your intuition ladies it won’t fail you
Late post, but why is it being advised for women to hook up without requiring a relationship first? That situation is only beneficial for the man. Makes no sense for a woman to hook up, then request a relationship afterward.
Your content is always solid, meaningful and informative. Love how you deliver in a systematic manner, whether it's through in-person presentation or powerpoint. :)
Men are stupid and soulless...that's my conclusion after years of dating. They only like you when you reject them and you don't care. Never happened to me that I liked someone, treated them fairly, and they liked me back. On the other hard, if I don't bother texting, meeting, investing, he loves me like crazy. Elliot, it's always like that. And even you, one day you'll meet a woman who will not love you back, and that's the one you'll pursue and marry in the end.
Please make a video on budding relationships! Lots of your content lately is on how to get him back. What if you have him and things are just starting. How do you play your cards the best to develop a wonderful romance and relationship? ❤
Xx xX With great power comes great responsibility lol I like assuming the greater responsibility, it gives us women more control. Use that to your advantage😘💕💕💕💕
Joselyn Diaz - that’s not how that works. It means men get away with abusive and coercive behaviors because the girl “allowed” it. It means women are fully responsible or their own safety while men are allowed and get away with predatory behavior. You might be to defend yourself from predatory men, but they can probably sense that and they don’t target you.. men target women who don’t have the skills to defend themselves, so they don’t have the skills to be responsible for their own safety. It logically doesn’t make any sense. And men get away with destroying so many women’s lives, women who didn’t know any better.
@@XxxX-wx3er exactly that's why it's our job to teach them their behavior is unacceptable so that they don't do it to the next let's say younger and more naive girl
When I slowed down he started playing games on me, trying to make me chase him, pretending hard to get. I said it didn't work for me. So we have been in no contact for over a half a year now, I know he's not contacting me because of his ego 🤷
I was talking to a guy who is 45 and never been married. So hearing you say that made me laugh, because it was so specific to what is happening in my life🤣
Straight forward and to the point helps for the ones ego that don't want to learn this stuff i.e. my "S.O." them seeing the words listed above makes or feel like school. Which is an immediate shut down. They hear more based on the presentation and today's was perfect and I thank you sir
Oh & im 47 & hav never married - I dont believe that a ceremony & party for every1 elses benefit, piece of paper & a ring has anything to do with how much u love sum1. 'If' I ever did get married I would want to do it elope style
Mr. Scott, you can say slay the kitty all you want, as long as you call me Sugar Titt's. Also, I'm looking for my personal "slay master" to slay my kitty. It's looking a little weak around here. But, I will continue with my search. Keep up the awesome work.
i like these kind of videos and for the live streams i like when they are around 1 or 2 pm for you it is 12pm or 1pm and this was interesting to learn about Elliot
He is doing all of these. We lived together for 3 years. Now we don't. Only we are staying abstinent after a 3 year realationship with sex. We are not official or unofficial. But neither of us talks to anyone else. We talk everyday all day. We confess our love morning an night. We are both discovering a mature an healthy life. My malfunction is I don't want to wait any longer. But also don't know if giving him that power over me is right just yet. 🙄🐑🎶❤
I like both types of videos. I prefer seeing you talking like a teacher does to his class. Maybe you can combine both kinds of videos. Also at night after 5 or 6 pm would be great, after work. That all lol. Thank you Elliot 😊
It's ironic that the guy goes very fast and then acts as if the woman is needy for moving at the same speed. Lol I learned from the past to slow it down. Also, it's interesting to see a man's point of view on what sex represents. For me, as a woman, sex represents love.
Elliot, from all the videos you made, this one is my favorite. No powerpoint presentation needed, you made it very clear how sick the human male brain works😝thanks
Ok, if we were to flip what you said about pacing and "how fast they're going, " then the woman can also assume "they like you, otherwise, why are they going that fast?" Women could also likely feel/say the same about a guy!
@@ElliotScottDating yep, esp when they push for intimacy (not just physical), sharing hopes, dreams, fears, deep dark secrets, love bomb you and future fake, falsify singular affections for you. Not just omitting, but outright lying about talking to/hitting on/pursuing/sleeping with other girls isn't just misleading, it is outright deceitful and manipulative. You should do a video about the differences between being "misleading" and being deceitful and manipulative. Also, let's discuss what a "relationship" is. When you're intimate w/ someone, spend time together, contact them daily, introduce them to your family and friends (or they know about you), help with their business and life? Oh wait, what does a BF/GF do again? What's the difference again? Because if people are going to use semantics and technicalities, then even WITH a "title," one could just as likely turn around and say, "well, you're my girlfriend/ boyfriend, but your idea of BF/GF is different from my idea" (and they go cheat without calling it cheating). If one has to use "technicalities" to excuse their behavior then 1. They're already wrong, 2. They intentionally and strategically worded and/or did it on purpose to deceive and manipulate you. Cheating by any other name is still a BETRAYAL! Esp if your partner feels betrayed and cheated.
He ended a relationship maybe 6 months ago and we have been talking for 5 months every day, i think we have an emotional connection, but he isn't ready for a relationship. How long would it be for him to be ready. I told him i don't want to be friends with benefits and looking for something more serious, but he said he doesn't want to "lose me" so he said lets stay friends
You're not his first choice, you're just one of his many other options. Sorry sweety. Move on. I've been there. He NEVER came back unless he just wanted to use me some more. He kept me on the back burner to stroke his ego here and there while he was out sleeping with other girls. Your guy isn't any different. It'll never work. And he only came back once he saw that i moved on. Guys love the chase more than anything. Once he has access to you without needing to be with you he'll always find an excuse as to why you guys can't bd together. It's simple bc he doesn't wanna be with you. Move on and find someone who you're really mean't to be with.
@@user-xi9hd1zw7v thank you, i am not. I have actually distracted myself, stayed "friendly" but have leaned back. I reply at the end of the day or when i can, but definitely not my priority.
the guy I wrote about b4 who ghosted me all the time was 48 & his longest relationship was 11 months & he freely admitted that was bcoz he got her pregnant 1st time they had sex, he left wen his son was only weeks old & never bothered to see him - 1st 3 red flags ignored.🤡🙈 His son was oxygen starved at birth so had some learning difficulties, but when he was 21 he decided he wanted 2 meet his dad, & bcoz he wanted something different from wot his dad wanted to get him his dad doesnt like him coz he is ungrateful... 4th red flag. Anyway these red flags kept on coming & we hav now split up. I feel much better & hav bn able to do a lot of research into his behaviours & Im convinced he has NPD. I hav also done a lot of work on myself. The rsn i stayed wi this dude at all was bcoz I was on the rebound & insecure... my partner of 18yrs had died 7 months previous.
There is nothing wrong with being 45 and never married . I'm 47 never married, by choice. There is nothing wrong with me I've turned down 5 proposals just wasn't ready to get married in my 20s and 30s. But now I am. Just thought I'd correct you on that point, but good video though.
Men hold the cards for marriage. Most men who get to that age and aren’t married have something wrong with them. The truth hurts, but it is what it is.
@@smiles9599 My dude's on month three (quarantine lasted the 1st month and a half), on the 6th date (drives half an hour each way for me). Didn't even kiss till the 3rd date (he's 22, I'm 19 - so dynamics are a little different). Men like this exist, he wanted sex the weekend after 1st date but it's about letting them know sexual attraction is there and building... just slowing it. Best of luck! xx
How much time should you give a guy before an ultimatum if it's a long distance and meeting is not possible? If it's an old old friend you once met at a trek and reconnected now and you haven't met in years and zero dates.
@@SK-ip2yp what?! Then why the hell you asking me about an ultimatum? You don't make that call. he already did. You ain't getting a relationship out of this :( im sorry
@@ElliotScottDating I did not want to waste more time considering he instable behaviour previously inbetween w couple of times. Infact when I put across behaviour indicating that I want a commitment ele I'd cut off he always somehow starts being more consistent etc. This time he expressed a d hence I directly asked. But thanks for being blunt! I needed that. Hurts! I'll be okay!
I fell deeply with someone who wants more but I’m not ready due to circumstances (ie; job loss and poor health ) . I don’t want to lose them , how can I make them understand that I need some time without having them walk away ?
make a video about liking a guy so much but not knowing why... Also is it possible for a guy to do all these things but still feel real feelings for you?
But what if I just want to have sex with him ? 🤷🏾♀️ and what if I ghost his ass afterwards? I’ve done that and it’s went both ways. They either chased me or dropped off when I pulled back
Elliot do you have any videos on how to help a guy moneywise? My guy is living paycheck to paycheck and he proposed and I said yes but he's poor as shit and I am to. I want to not judge someone based on how much money they make but there is definantly a diffrent mindset between poor and not so poor. The guy acts diffrent.
@@ElliotScottDating He treats me right in every way though, and he's got ambition. He also wants the same things I want. Said it before I mentioned it.
@@laurajoy1180 Tell him you'll only marry when financially stable... if it's so important to you. Not as an ultimatum, but as a standard (eg. "I wouldn't feel comfortable marrying before buying a house/having $____k shared income.")
Everything in life is about sex, except sex, sex is about power. - Oscar Wilde
That is very true haha
Life is not sex
@@user-xi9hd1zw7v I would have said the same in my 20s. At 40 I see it.
Friends with benefits always ends up with you losing a friend. Sex changes everything!
Not always. My ex-FWB and I are still good friends.
Well, one of my fwb’s and I ended up in a long-term relationship where we lived together, and he proposed, but I left.
That's why I'm never gonna sleep with my best friend, we like each other physically but it would destroy our relationship, and we wouldn't be a good match as a couple
Slay the kitty 🐱 I’m dead 😂😂😂😂😂
Yeahh I thought the same thing.
Elliot, power points are cute, but videos are better for me❤
That’s not funny or cute and you shouldn’t humor men when they use words that are degrading. Like the P word and bitch the way those are used a lot, there’s others too but you should call them out on it, I don’t care how innocent, cute, funny subtle it is or sounds, that still sounds objectifying and if women are ever gonna get equality in this world it starts with language
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Same lol
he loves me
Elliott : NO HE DOSNT IF HE DID HED BE WITH YOU
Some people say it doesnt matter if u give it up right away, but I swear like 70% of the time it did not work out for me within the first 3 dates. Elliot tellin it how it is 👍
One time I gave it up right away because people said they have and are now in a relationship/married I’m never doing that again the guy I was seeing 2 years ago I already knew him for like 3 years before us even dating so it wasn’t a stranger
I just don't get it honestly how for some 1st date sex and they are in love and for others it doesnt work
Victoria Love right!!! These couples I went to church with slept with each other on the first date and been married over 25 years( still married) but for me it didn’t work at all ( I only did it one time never again) shit my friend even had sex with her boyfriend before they even dated and he still asked her to be his girlfriend after 2 months
This is so true
That's so easy, women hold all the power. You wait until he invests a lot. Players usually don't want to do that, go on a date or few, if she doesn't give it up - they ignore, trying to make her feel insecure and then a naive young woman feels pressured into giving him sex expecting him to give her attention, it always backfires. If he doesn't text you in a week - just block, if he only texts you "how are you" and it doesn't go anywhere, shows low effort tell him that you don't think it's gonna work and move on. If he really likes you, he will put you maybe if not in the first place but at least in the 3rd and will give you more attention and time. There were guys that texted me last year and came back now, I don't even remember them. Don't entertain that. And get the title first.
You are so smart thank you fpr explaning the process.
Really good statement you made. "Don't entertain that".
Awesome!! thnx❤️
This is one of my favorite videos! I needed this advice 20 years ago! Yes, I've learned the hard way. Elliott is spot on!
Sameeeee
I really appreciate your no bullshit, get straight to the point videos. You say it how it really is, no fluff, no sugar coating. I’m a big fan. :)
Thank you. Very good advice. I have made all those mistakes. Next time I will follow the 5 ways to build value and not be taken for granted. I finally ended a 7 year relationship of purely being used. I love your straight talk. You are so helpful and appreciated.
I suffer from the nice girl disease : treat everyone like you want to be treated. What a shame that it simply does not work in dating and I had to learn it the hard way! Like your no-bs-approach so much! 🙂
Elliot, I know there are probably alot of people, both men and women who might watch your videos and flat out disagree with you JUST because they hate the truth. Because the truth hurts. You're a raw person. I know not all "men are dogs" But that became a common saying BECAUSE the majority have traits like that. And you address that to women. And they really need to here it like it is. You make great and valid points. Thanks for making these videos. You're one of my favorite Dating Coaches. 🙂
The more bullet points you in include in descriptions, the better. Many of us are visual learners and that’s how the materials sticks in our minds. Thank you again!
I literally came to the comments to say that this is one of my favorite videos and I can see that other people said that too you are definitely the Goat 🐐 Elliott.
Please make a whole video about pacing. How can we stop it or push him away without hurting his ego? Because its often so difficult to stop them because they manipulate women. Either they set you under pressure with words or gestures or they pretend to be devaluated and hurted.
Postpone (Reject) their sexual advances with warmth. Let them know how attracted you are to them and how much you like them (Affirm). Then let them know you’re not comfortable at this point (Set boundaries)
So informative I wish i had this knowledge 8 months ago. I was out of the dating world for 17 years so rusty on the red flags but knowledge is power and the eyes are wide open.
Trust your intuition ladies it won’t fail you
Late post, but why is it being advised for women to hook up without requiring a relationship first? That situation is only beneficial for the man. Makes no sense for a woman to hook up, then request a relationship afterward.
I like THESE types of videos where you're actually in them. Happy 4th, E!
I will start making more then
@@ElliotScottDating yes, I like them , too
I'd watch you and take your advice any day over Matthew Hussey! Your advice is genuine, real and no bs! You get straight to the point! So thank you 😊
Your content is always solid, meaningful and informative. Love how you deliver in a systematic manner, whether it's through in-person presentation or powerpoint. :)
You get better with your knowledge and caring for how woman feel!! Your so sincere and understanding too!! God bless..thank you!!
thank you and happy 4th!
@@ElliotScottDating Same to you Elliot!
Men are stupid and soulless...that's my conclusion after years of dating. They only like you when you reject them and you don't care. Never happened to me that I liked someone, treated them fairly, and they liked me back. On the other hard, if I don't bother texting, meeting, investing, he loves me like crazy. Elliot, it's always like that. And even you, one day you'll meet a woman who will not love you back, and that's the one you'll pursue and marry in the end.
Slay the kitty! Omg! Hilarious!
Please make a video on budding relationships! Lots of your content lately is on how to get him back. What if you have him and things are just starting. How do you play your cards the best to develop a wonderful romance and relationship? ❤
Elliot I’m surprised you didn’t say “sugar walls”
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So many double standards .. all responsibility placed on women
Xx xX With great power comes great responsibility lol I like assuming the greater responsibility, it gives us women more control. Use that to your advantage😘💕💕💕💕
Joselyn Diaz - that’s not how that works. It means men get away with abusive and coercive behaviors because the girl “allowed” it. It means women are fully responsible or their own safety while men are allowed and get away with predatory behavior. You might be to defend yourself from predatory men, but they can probably sense that and they don’t target you.. men target women who don’t have the skills to defend themselves, so they don’t have the skills to be responsible for their own safety. It logically doesn’t make any sense. And men get away with destroying so many women’s lives, women who didn’t know any better.
@@XxxX-wx3er exactly that's why it's our job to teach them their behavior is unacceptable so that they don't do it to the next let's say younger and more naive girl
@@XxxX-wx3er i agree it’s ridiculous
@@littlelily4 nailed it!
No kitty before marriage....
Maybe not the kitty but the th....
Not everyone thinks that way.
Shin yup personally I’m waiting till I’m in a relationship for at least 4-6 months
Not before an engagement ring at least
If you this better be messing with a church goer lol
When I slowed down he started playing games on me, trying to make me chase him, pretending hard to get. I said it didn't work for me. So we have been in no contact for over a half a year now, I know he's not contacting me because of his ego 🤷
Or he just wasn’t that into you and doesn’t care. When a guy is really into a woman he will eventually cower and pursue.
I was talking to a guy who is 45 and never been married. So hearing you say that made me laugh, because it was so specific to what is happening in my life🤣
That was the best explanation of these points yet. Good job.
I love his sincerity. Thank you so much
Not Slay the kitty 😂😂😂😂 that’s so cute and funny
It’s useless. I can never do it right. I give boundaries, he runs, give him attention, he runs. They always find a reason to run.
Sex is a power game. Profound awakening right there !! Also paying attention to the details I think. Things he says n does Thank you Elliot. 😘😘😘
Straight forward and to the point helps for the ones ego that don't want to learn this stuff i.e. my "S.O." them seeing the words listed above makes or feel like school. Which is an immediate shut down. They hear more based on the presentation and today's was perfect and I thank you sir
Nice video 😊 I like it without the white board. Just you talking works for me ☺️
Love this quick to the point great content reminder! Thank you 😊
This style of video is better but if you put up the 5 points at the end as closing reminder...And live streams after 4pm your time
Good idea! Or at least put them in the video somewhere
Elliot is watching a lot of the hodgetwins me thinks ☺
lol I def picked up on that
Yep ;)
I appreciate the conciseness of the video and this topic is so important. Cuts through all the BS. Thank you
Happy new year Elliott, our favourite dating coach !!! 🍾💫
I think this video has a lot of good advice. Thanks : )
Unless you're using him as a rebound to to play a game with another guy. That's an exception as well but it happens.
Hodge Twins intro haha ;)
"sugar walls" lmao🤣
Sending love from New Orleans
Oh & im 47 & hav never married - I dont believe that a ceremony & party for every1 elses benefit, piece of paper & a ring has anything to do with how much u love sum1.
'If' I ever did get married I would want to do it elope style
Elliot keep going live and doing pre recorded I like the variety!
Mr. Scott, you can say slay the kitty all you want, as long as you call me Sugar Titt's. Also, I'm looking for my personal "slay master" to slay my kitty. It's looking a little weak around here. But, I will continue with my search. Keep up the awesome work.
i like these kind of videos and for the live streams i like when they are around 1 or 2 pm for you it is 12pm or 1pm and this was interesting to learn about Elliot
If you put on the annotations every time Elliot says ultimatum it says- 😂😭😭 it says OLD TOMATO 🍅 😭😭😭
He is doing all of these. We lived together for 3 years. Now we don't. Only we are staying abstinent after a 3 year realationship with sex. We are not official or unofficial. But neither of us talks to anyone else. We talk everyday all day. We confess our love morning an night. We are both discovering a mature an healthy life. My malfunction is I don't want to wait any longer. But also don't know if giving him that power over me is right just yet. 🙄🐑🎶❤
Love this video straight forward to the point!!!
I like both types of videos. I prefer seeing you talking like a teacher does to his class. Maybe you can combine both kinds of videos. Also at night after 5 or 6 pm would be great, after work. That all lol. Thank you Elliot 😊
45 and up and never married ..good luck with that one ladies !
Luv the vid n like the live members but times r sometimes difficult with different time zones.
It's ironic that the guy goes very fast and then acts as if the woman is needy for moving at the same speed. Lol
I learned from the past to slow it down.
Also, it's interesting to see a man's point of view on what sex represents. For me, as a woman, sex represents love.
Elliot, from all the videos you made, this one is my favorite. No powerpoint presentation needed, you made it very clear how sick the human male brain works😝thanks
Thank you! :)
Hey love all the videos... This one disturbs me because the lights reflect on your glasses and make you look like a funny old man when it happens 😂😂😂
How do you I pace it down? My problem is I get really excited & I go with their speed.
Ok, if we were to flip what you said about pacing and "how fast they're going, " then the woman can also assume "they like you, otherwise, why are they going that fast?" Women could also likely feel/say the same about a guy!
Just be weary of men who move fast
@@ElliotScottDating yep, esp when they push for intimacy (not just physical), sharing hopes, dreams, fears, deep dark secrets, love bomb you and future fake, falsify singular affections for you.
Not just omitting, but outright lying about talking to/hitting on/pursuing/sleeping with other girls isn't just misleading, it is outright deceitful and manipulative.
You should do a video about the differences between being "misleading" and being deceitful and manipulative.
Also, let's discuss what a "relationship" is.
When you're intimate w/ someone, spend time together, contact them daily, introduce them to your family and friends (or they know about you), help with their business and life? Oh wait, what does a BF/GF do again? What's the difference again?
Because if people are going to use semantics and technicalities, then even WITH a "title," one could just as likely turn around and say, "well, you're my girlfriend/ boyfriend, but your idea of BF/GF is different from my idea" (and they go cheat without calling it cheating).
If one has to use "technicalities" to excuse their behavior then 1. They're already wrong, 2. They intentionally and strategically worded and/or did it on purpose to deceive and manipulate you.
Cheating by any other name is still a BETRAYAL! Esp if your partner feels betrayed and cheated.
@@ElliotScottDating I am weary of those men, also wary
The reflection on your glasses is killing me...lol
Yea I gotta work on switching the light or taking off the glasses
@@ElliotScottDating it's all good. Quite entertaining really. Love your videos.
You make me laugh so much 😂😂😂 awesome videos!!
I was just scrolling YT and saw "Slay the kitty"😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I liked the video before even watching it based on the title 😂💕😂💕
He ended a relationship maybe 6 months ago and we have been talking for 5 months every day, i think we have an emotional connection, but he isn't ready for a relationship. How long would it be for him to be ready. I told him i don't want to be friends with benefits and looking for something more serious, but he said he doesn't want to "lose me" so he said lets stay friends
You're not his first choice, you're just one of his many other options. Sorry sweety. Move on. I've been there. He NEVER came back unless he just wanted to use me some more. He kept me on the back burner to stroke his ego here and there while he was out sleeping with other girls. Your guy isn't any different. It'll never work. And he only came back once he saw that i moved on. Guys love the chase more than anything. Once he has access to you without needing to be with you he'll always find an excuse as to why you guys can't bd together. It's simple bc he doesn't wanna be with you. Move on and find someone who you're really mean't to be with.
Don't have sex. He dont want you, than he dont need that.
@@user-xi9hd1zw7v thank you, i am not. I have actually distracted myself, stayed "friendly" but have leaned back. I reply at the end of the day or when i can, but definitely not my priority.
@@keniajc93able i say just ignore his ass and watch how quick he comes begging. Walking away works wonders.
Finally! The face! 😂❤
I’m liking “sugar walls”.....can’t wait to use it well the term lol
I like these new videos let's keep up 👌🏻
First of all it’s not a kitty which is another name for the P word and I hate that too. And I’m not letting no man slay nothing, I do the slaying
🤣🤣🤣 I clicked on this just because of the title… 😂😂
the guy I wrote about b4 who ghosted me all the time was 48 & his longest relationship was 11 months & he freely admitted that was bcoz he got her pregnant 1st time they had sex, he left wen his son was only weeks old & never bothered to see him - 1st 3 red flags ignored.🤡🙈 His son was oxygen starved at birth so had some learning difficulties, but when he was 21 he decided he wanted 2 meet his dad, & bcoz he wanted something different from wot his dad wanted to get him his dad doesnt like him coz he is ungrateful... 4th red flag. Anyway these red flags kept on coming & we hav now split up. I feel much better & hav bn able to do a lot of research into his behaviours & Im convinced he has NPD. I hav also done a lot of work on myself.
The rsn i stayed wi this dude at all was bcoz I was on the rebound & insecure... my partner of 18yrs had died 7 months previous.
I like this kind of videos you're always the best😍❤️
Thank you for the feed back :)
Elliott do you like black women?
There is nothing wrong with being 45 and never married . I'm 47 never married, by choice. There is nothing wrong with me I've turned down 5 proposals just wasn't ready to get married in my 20s and 30s. But now I am. Just thought I'd correct you on that point, but good video though.
Men hold the cards for marriage. Most men who get to that age and aren’t married have something wrong with them. The truth hurts, but it is what it is.
Good luck trying to get married at 47 being a woman.
Men and women are very different. It's a huge sign that he is not a relationship guy. He just does flings and runs away..
So why was I ghosted after 3 months?
Slay the kitty made me click on this video 😩😂
The "the kitty"
This came just at the right time! I like someone who is 46! Never married. "Slay the kitty"... LMAO 😂.
Great video
Lmao I just found your channel and I’m so glad I did.
Lmao the way he quietly said sugar walls
I like when you write all the points on the whiteboard. Thank you for the truth. It's always refreshing to listen to you. Blessings!
Lollzzz this video is getting a like from the title and intro grunt alone 😂😂😂
Elliot is funny😹😹😹 slay those kitties y’all 😂
I’ve lost a lot of dates and men when I insinuate or try and get past the third date before having sex with them.
I don't think there's any men who would wait past the third date nowadays.
Oh, well. Guess they weren't right for you. Keep those standards. :)
@@melissalastname Yeah I don't proceed any further if they don't comply lol
@@smiles9599 My dude's on month three (quarantine lasted the 1st month and a half), on the 6th date (drives half an hour each way for me). Didn't even kiss till the 3rd date (he's 22, I'm 19 - so dynamics are a little different). Men like this exist, he wanted sex the weekend after 1st date but it's about letting them know sexual attraction is there and building... just slowing it. Best of luck! xx
Not true... 3rd date is essentially two weeks in. Insane....
How much time should you give a guy before an ultimatum if it's a long distance and meeting is not possible? If it's an old old friend you once met at a trek and reconnected now and you haven't met in years and zero dates.
I'm i that shituation....lol...
4 visits
@@SK-ip2yp what?! Then why the hell you asking me about an ultimatum? You don't make that call. he already did. You ain't getting a relationship out of this :( im sorry
@@ElliotScottDating I did not want to waste more time considering he instable behaviour previously inbetween w couple of times. Infact when I put across behaviour indicating that I want a commitment ele I'd cut off he always somehow starts being more consistent etc. This time he expressed a d hence I directly asked. But thanks for being blunt! I needed that. Hurts! I'll be okay!
@@ElliotScottDating thank you soooooo much! 😇
😂 😂 😂 The Hello Kitty. 😂😂
Best time : evening . No powerpoint please ;-)
Love these videos. Miss the white board.
I love the way you explain things! You're amazing 😍!
Lolz @ slay the kitty !! 😆
Yes haha
I fell deeply with someone who wants more but I’m not ready due to circumstances (ie; job loss and poor health ) . I don’t want to lose them , how can I make them understand that I need some time without having them walk away ?
How did this pan out?
make a video about liking a guy so much but not knowing why... Also is it possible for a guy to do all these things but still feel real feelings for you?
I like the term sleighing and a kitty. Lol
It happened to me. It sucks
Lmao slay the kitty 😂
I like both styles of vid
“Slay the kitty!” 😂🤣
I like this video type. Live ones are too long. Don't need all the writing. Just give me the facts jack. Peace ✌
Lol....the kittly. Cute.
But what if I just want to have sex with him ? 🤷🏾♀️ and what if I ghost his ass afterwards? I’ve done that and it’s went both ways. They either chased me or dropped off when I pulled back
then go ahead lol. nothing wrong with that
@@ElliotScottDating 😂😂😂😂😂 you are the G.O.A.T 🐐 🐐🐐🐐
Elliot do you have any videos on how to help a guy moneywise?
My guy is living paycheck to paycheck and he proposed and I said yes but he's poor as shit and I am to. I want to not judge someone based on how much money they make but there is definantly a diffrent mindset between poor and not so poor. The guy acts diffrent.
I wouldn't have said yes lol.
@@ElliotScottDating He treats me right in every way though, and he's got ambition. He also wants the same things I want. Said it before I mentioned it.
@@laurajoy1180 Tell him you'll only marry when financially stable... if it's so important to you. Not as an ultimatum, but as a standard (eg. "I wouldn't feel comfortable marrying before buying a house/having $____k shared income.")
Thanks Elliot Happy 4th of July!!!! 🎉
When poor comes in the door... love goes out the window 💀