I just feel like everyone's all super awkward towards each other at first, once you get to know the person you'll eventually get comfortable around them, trust me I still feel hella awkward towards my best friend idk I just feel like he feels forced to hang out with me because I don't talk with anyone, we've been through elementary-highschool, but its just something that I try to keep out of my brain loop I guess Edit: there's assholes out there trust me, my best advice is to worry about yourself, better yourself, you came into this world alone, you've made it this far, whats another 19 years right? GO GET THAT BAG MY ENWARD OMM
@@JazzSingh many psychiatrists don't have any positive regard. They are in it for money quite often and don't care about their patients. Also, you don't have to have completely calm demeanor to present unconditional positive regard.
Look at it this way. The reason for memtal health resulting im violence is a.stigma is because moat of the time, people view things in a wromg/negative way. Why can we view.things in a positive way, instead of always being negative?
And the fact that you so vaguely agree with his vague statement shows that you don't hold much water in your knowledge of mental illness, as he doesn't. People who are mentally ill do understand that there's something wrong with them, and it has a huge impact on how they see themselves and the world in general. If that's not the definition of "defining" then I'm not sure what is.
Girl Interrupted (both the movie and book) was so important to me when I got diagnosed with BPD. It showed me that, no matter how bad I felt at the time, I had a chance to live a normal life again.
As someone diagnosed with dysthymic disorder (long-term low mood….like Eeyore) I felt that movie on such a deep level. To this day, one of my favorite movies! 🥰
I've only seen the film and once when I was sent to a clinic for reasons no one really remembers (I was misdiagnosed with BPD, I struggle with depression, PTSD, GAD and panic attacks), all I could think about was that film and I was terrified. Fortunately I was able to convince my family to get me my own room. At first I avoided everyone until I couldn't anymore. Then it was like being with co workers.
This man is SO COOL. The way he speaks is so powerful. He doesn’t definitively say something if he is unsure of it and he thoroughly explains everything in a way that everyone can understand. I hope that more people in mental health can be as educated as him
This guy is promoting ABA as a “treatment” for autism, which in the autistic community is seen as being abusive and causing trauma. Please do research on these things before just taking everything he says as fact. Just because someone has studied psychology doesn’t mean they’ll be correct about everything, and can even be discriminatory towards people with certain disorders or neurodivergencies.
part of that might be because the mom has had a history of depression, but considering the theme of the movie i think sadness being the lead shows that she is deeply empathetic as well. sadness = understanding a person's pain enough to be there and help them get through it
He was so right about teenagers opening up more with no direct eyecontact. All the deep and meaningful conversations I have with my parents happen in the car or walking where were not making constant eye contact.
I feel like Joker definitely has some symptoms of psychosis-- just not in this scene. But throughout the movie, he has these relationship building scenes with his neighbor, where he believes he's spending time with her. But at the end of the movie we see those scenes again, and see that she was never there with him.
The film had a funny way of over exagerating his toughts as mental ilness.If he had a normal paying job in a normal functioning city, where criminals didnt parede around, Wane enterprize.HE would not have any actuall problem in life.
"Mental illness is a part of who they are, it doesn't define them." It is so refreshing to hear that. Not everything with mental illness is crazy and non functional or on a ton of meds. Loved these breakdowns!
I absolutely love how passionate he is when he talks about how people correlate violence and mental health issues. My brother is schizophrenic, and while I understand why people associate that with dangerous behavior, it still saddens me greatly.
I have a brother who is diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and he definitly was dangerous. He tried to kil my mum several times, attacked my dad , set fire to their car, attacked several women, trowed bricks through al my windows , etc. He is 57 years old now and the last 10 years he is much more calm and a lot less aggresive. But i have a friend who has 2 sisters with the same diagnosis who are not aggresive at all.
My mother has it, it's not easy growing up with a parent who other people consider a dangerous nutjob. My mother is the literal sweetest person in the entire universe.
Fun fact, girl interrupted was written originally based on the writers real life experiences with bpd.. the movie was an adaptation of the book and may be why it depicts bpd pretty accurately unlike some other Holly wood produced movies
If you've read the book she says at the end she doesn't think she had bpd and that normal issues that others don't understand are grouped in with mental illness (eg her not going to college is Not really an indication of lack of direction and mental illness). It is very interesting.
I remember someone commented on Inside out that each parents central emotion might show what kind of thing they're dealing with. like with the dad for example anger rules and he might have anger issues or with the mom sadness rules which might show that she's depressed in a way
Not necessarily. The whole point of the movie is to show that having negative emotions is OK. These may just be their primary responses. It just the way that they deal with things. It doesn't necessarily mean that they have a neurochemical imbalance like in the issues that you mention.
Year late but I remember seeing a theory that the parents central emotion is a deeper symbol for a matured emotion like protective being anger for the dad and compassion as sadness for the mom, I think this would make sense as emotions are subjective but I don’t get the mom one
It's the driver's seat. Riley is "piloted" by joy; she pursues joy when she can and values joy as her objective. Showing joy is what makes her parents share that joy. Her mom is run by sadness, which here means empathy. She can see sadness, struggle, in others first and acts on it, trying to help. Their dad runs on anger, though that may be an unexplored, evolved version, such as assertiveness, protectiveness, or riotousness. The point is, the middle seat is the *driver* seat. The one who's "in charge".
"Let me get this straight, you want this random dude to be your therapist?" Literally this entire comment section: "I do, and I'm tired of pretending that I don't."
"when am i gonna see a depiction of someone with mental illness that's not going to make me feel like im gonna turn into a serial killer?" THAT part. That's the shift we need to do with mental health in the film industry.
While attending Med School, my Psychiatry professor always linked the topics we were seeing with some pop culture reference. By doing so he made sure we truly understood how people do act and also don't act while having any mental illness. This guy also does a terrific job on calling out all the depiction mistakes of mental illnesses
Yikes these UA-cam comments are enlightening lol. People hearing someone else say common sense and they come away thinking oooooo genius sooo profound. Nah lol
@@TonyDanza4Lyfe not completely sure what ur talking about tbh, but i disagree with him on the 'joker is overplaying the idea that mental illness and violence are linked' thing, being a violent, mental psychopath who just wants chaos and violence is literally his entire character
I wish there was a movie about bpd that portrayed the “less severe” side of things where the patient even doubts that their diagnosis is valid because their episodes are “not as bad” as those portrayed in Hollywood.
@@marlow4388 I promise it does!! The character’s mental illness doesn’t have to be the main plot. As in real life, there’s a lot more to someone than their illness! I’m a film student so you could be seeing that movie in 10 years 🙇🏽♀️
"it's a medication issue" really helps me personally, if i miss my meds and feel dangerously sad but i realize it's because of the medication, I feel better because I know it will pass. What sucks is when the sadness isn't a medication issue :(
I’ve personally found therapy/counseling helpful on sadness that isn’t “cured” by medicine. If you haven’t considered it or are currently in, then I recommend maybe just looking into it. :)
As someone who has dealt with PMDD levels of sadness, I hear you. Even if we feel it in the moment, intensely, just knowing "Ok, there's a physical reason for this and it'll eventually pass like clockwork" makes it bearable, even while finding things like coping. Sending hugs!
I used to drink a lot and get really loud and embarrassing at parties before I realized I had intense social anxiety. People didn't believe me because I seemed like a party animal, but I was really just manic and got drunk to cope
I love his point made on the Joker movie with how violence and mental health should not be connected. My best friend and I watched the Joker (and loved it) but she kept telling me afterwards that society has this misconception of mental health illness being associated with being violent. Thank you Eric.
I think the misconception lies more on what defines mental illness and normal person to begin with. What exactly makes someone violent if it's not because they're ill in some way? What makes someone violent to a point that isn't what a normal person would do and why is that not mentally ill? When you think about it, it doesn't really help or even make sense.
@@xXJLNINJAXx (Quote): "What makes someone violent to a point that isn't what a normal person would do and why is that not mentally ill? " Mental illness isn't a choice. Being violent is a choice. That's the distinguishing factor. Mental illness is a pervasive behavioral or mental pattern that causes significant distress or impairment of personal functioning.
I think the most important thing that Lars represents is the importance of community-based therapy. The doctor is bringing together a very broad web of care and support which is crucial for any social deficiency.
@@levianleviathan9244 Tiktok can be very toxic. Ive seen "people" brag about pushing multiple people to suicide... Someone was proud because they did that to 3 or 4 kids who were furries...
BoJack Horseman is literally my comfort show because of how well it portrays trauma, mental illness, and the journey to wellness. I turn to it on days where I just can't seem to find happiness in anything, and it's really helpful.
I’m not 100% sure if I fit into all these categories and tbh I don’t care, although when I am not doing the things I need to do to keep my body healthy I can get very depressed and anxious/unconfident avoid all social situations/interactions. To me this comes down to cause and effect and these symptoms are an individual umbrella effect that I’m sure is very similar and can vary slightly depending on the person. I really hope the comments and people I’ve seen that turn this darkness in life into a social fad or group to be amongst aren’t actually what they say or want to think they are because watching shows or eating things to “bandaid” problems are the exact thinking they led to your physical body crying out for help. Anyone hope I didn’t offend anyone just feel for the people that may actually want to get out of this funk of a spot after a few years it will start to feel “normal” and listening to your local pharmaceutical dealer can really make people think they are imbalanced and drugs is the correct way instead of going for a run everyday.
I never realized how they depicted how the adults were emotionally mature. Even though Anger was the dads captain and Sadness was the moms they all sat at the table as equals and worked together as a team instead of one conpletely taking over the controls like in the teenager.
Therapy is always the most healthy choice if you feel like you have a mental illness like anxiety or your going through something really hard and need someone to help you. You just need to research a few sites and therapists to find out which one is qualified and which ones are faking (trust me, there are tons of awful therapists out there that can make your anxiety or illness worse). But if you ever feel like your having trouble with your life, maybe going through something crappy, a therapist is the most healthy option instead of suffering. Therapy doesint have to be scary as long as your careful, trust me, there really nice and there here to listen, so your don’t think your annoying them! :)
You just need the right therapist. I was lucky enough to get a good therapist, but unfortunately many other people in my life that I care for don't have access to actually *good* therapists.
THANK YOU SO MUCH for posting this video. Having a wife with several of these disorders, it's so important to be reminded sometimes, what it must be like to be ill. And the way you led us gently to understanding that coping and medical treatment need to go hand in hand, that's so very very important to always remember.
I had a question though I've heard some mental health workers say that psychopaths dont actually exist and it is the wrong word for ANOTHER personality disorder. Is this true?
This guy is actually amazing. I wish more people addressed issues like he does. He is that rare breed that combines actual empathy and a real knack for psychology. Some people just go to school to make money.
I really liked that this expert pointed out what a true psycho path is not a person with anger and rage those are normal emotions but someone who lacks empathy or feelings and can't deal with their emotions properly
I'm 36 and have had it since I can remember. Also anxiety and c-ptsd. I think we're drawn to these kinds of videos and it's refreshing to see other people with mental health issues in the comments. Makes you feel less alone in the battle ❤
Bojack Horseman - 0:31 Joker - 4:05 Rain Man - 8:53 The Undoing - 13:45 As Good as it Gets - 17:21 Girl, Interrupted 21:27 Inside Out 26:09 Lars and the Real Girl 29:51 Silver Linings Playbook - 34:00 A Beautiful Mind - 37:30
for a cartoon, Bojack depicts quite accurately a lot of the state of mind of maladaptive behaviours common in people with varying degrees of mental health issues
I mostly agree with the borderline diagnosis, but there's so much that was left out, I think sometimes how intensely someone feels is insane ...I get so happy I have to take anxiety meds to calm down, and that's something that only a few understand.
I have this too! Sometimes I’ll be excited about something and get too amped up. It turns into anxiety to the point I don’t even want to do the thing anymore.
This pops up on my feed: "This could be interesting, but there's no way I could watch the full 41 minutes of it" 41 minutes and 21 seconds later: "Why is this video only 41 minutes long? I want more!" :D
If we think of autism as a "sensory processing" disorder instead of a "developmental" disorder, it helps explain the need for routine and consistency. If I constantly felt like how I feel when I'm at an international airport during the holiday season, I'd lose my mind whenever one little thing was out of place too.
It is not a sensory processing disorder though, it is literally a developmental disorder ( neuro diverse). The sensory processing is part of the neuro diversity
Sensory processing is absolutely part of Autism. But that's not.. "what it is". That's kind of like saying.. let's not think of a car as a car. But, let's of of it as just the seat. Like yeah, absolutely all cars have seats. But if it's just a seat, it's not a car. Autism is a Neurodevelopmental disability. Part of it is SPD. But it's all the mix of things that makes it autism. And not just spd. Not a huge fan of them having used rainman to represent autism here. They chose of the one in a million type representations. *sigh* And, many autistic people are VERY empathetic. So empathetic that it can be painful. Which is why we try to avoid it sometimes. We shouldn't just be looking for empathy to diagnose autism. Especially in girls
Neurodevelopmental disorder makes sense. Our sensory perceptions are due to neural processing. Neurodivergent people have literally had their neurological structures built and grown differently. This leads to differences in sensory experiences, executive functioning, language and communication, etc. It is very common for many neurodivergent folks to have sensory processing differences whether it’s sound, receptive language, tactile. While there are a lot of overlapping behaviors, experienced, symptoms, it’s different for everyone.
I’m 35 and was diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum a couple of years ago after always knowing something was wrong. I’ve been really struggling to come to terms with it so hearing it put logically without any judgement was what I needed
I know the feel. Been there. What really helped me come to terms with it was finding out how invisible and common autism can be. As I met several people who had it as well, but you'd never guess it. That, and how common mental health issues are in general. My mom's saying of "Every house has it's cross" (every family has their own struggles) really applies. You'd be amazed how many people are in the same boat, but you'll only ever hear of it once the topic comes up in a way that makes them feel safe to share their stories.
I hope one day i will be diagnosted well and know what's exactelly my illeness i really feel something wrong with me but not really significant in my case and after watching this video i feel like i have many illness combined a little influence of autistic syndrome ,pdp,and a major depression i try to figure out what's the main illness that causes the others i hope someday i will find the answer.
ugh this is sooo good. he explained things so clearly and also pointed out a lot of misconceptions people have about many mental disorders. as a psychology grad i loved this
As a very excellent critic of UA-cam commentary, with an unrelated doctorate, of course, I think that qualifying your comment by saying you are a psychology graduate says something about your own personality traits.
@Aurele Tobelem of course but I just meant it’s rare to see someone do this with so much consideration. you’d be surprised how many “experts” on UA-cam and honestly real life just lack this type of understanding. I wish I’d met a psychiatrist like this when I was struggling with my own mental illnesses
Timestamps: 00:31 Bojack Horseman (2019) 04:05 Joker (2019) 08:52 Rain Man (1988) 13:44 The Undoing (2020) 17:21 As Good As It Gets (1997) 21:27 Girl, Interrupted (1999) 26:09 Inside Out (2015) 29:51 Lars And The Real Girl (2007) 34:00 Silver Linings Playbook (2012) 37:29 A Beautiful Mind (2001)
I have ocd and its extremely inconvenient to deal with the overpowering anxiety that something bad will happen if you don't do the thing your brain is telling you to do, the mental exhaustion if you mess up and have to start over... it sucks
I knew a person with bipolar disorder who went in to the deep depression state, and she just... Isolated her self to the point of not letting anybody in to her house for months. And if you tried to reach out, she wouldn't let anyone help her, not ever for food. In consequence, she died (we never found out the cause of her death) and found her several days after. It was very sad, bacause when she was kind of "OK", she was very sweet and caring of the people she loved.
@@suktadas9737 In my experience, if someone really doesn’t want anyone to help them, they won’t even let those they care about in. They will shut everyone out just so they don’t have to have others worry about them. Or so they think nobody will worry about them.
The Joker was really disturbing to me, but not for the reasons I thought it would be. It was incredibly sad that any happy moments or memories that he had were delusions. You could just see his character disintegrating.
Just to add my own little addition to what he said about routines being a comfort to people with autism: These routines can be so important because they help people on the spectrum to feel more in control of what is happening in a world that is hard to control and also allows them to have a better idea of what to expect which can help to ease anxiety as they can try to make plans for how to deal with things that may be required e.g. conversations, actions needed etc. Ps. Getting frustrated is natural but it doesn't help anyone. The autistic person is not doing it on purpose to annoy you.
Also, it’s highly important to note that the traits for ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) in the DSM-V were written in the context of how Autistic people (and, for awhile long time, young white boys who were studied the most) behave if they’re overwhelmed, over stimulated, and trying to deal with people who misunderstand different behavior and communication styles and navigating a world not designed for ASD people in mind…
I ran across your channel and I'm so fascinated by the movie references to mental health diagnosis, I myself was diagnosed bipolar depression and adhd at 25, I had so many emotional issues that I didn't understand why I was so different and seemingly difficult to deal with until I seen a psychiatrist.
That was for us. We realised she wasn’t his girlfriend. It was a delusion. She wasn’t following him around giving him advice. It’s called an unreliable narrator... He doesn’t leave the asylum and he isn’t the joker. Spoilers
@@McSnezzly what is your issue with person first language? A lot of people on the spectrum use it to describe themselves and dislike being seen for their disorder first .
Bojack horseman is so underrated. People downplay it because of being a cartoon but it's possibly the most accurate series about mental illness and reality....ironic
so social anxiety disorder has caused me to not talk to anyone besides the people i live with for the past three years. ive lost all my friends. i rely on substances to keep me grounded. it is not fun. but having this dude talk about it with so much understanding was very comforting.
@@horsegirlb7120 therapy is expensive here too, and i can barely keep up with bills as it is. but as soon as im able, im hoping to find a therapist that would give me that same feeling of understanding, yeah
Seriously thank you Dr. for specifying that it “used to be called Aspergers” because ppl don’t realize how important that is and why we don’t call it that anymore
I *have* it and I sometimes call it that as shorthand, because people understand it more easily. I don't mind the term, even though I know it's no longer a technical one.
@@neighandwhinnymchorse2100 my cousin has been diagnosed that at 5 and it explains a lot. I think it was cool to have a classification for people with autistic traits but without the heaviness of the fonctionning impairment, but I understand what they're trying to do with having it as a broad spectrum too.
i gotta be honest ive seen alot of these break down videos and this expert is easily one of the best, explains things so well and really does break things down.
on the topic of autism, a lot of autistic kids and even adults are often abused by parents or caretakers because what seems like not a big deal to them, is a big deal to the autistic person, and that can lead to emotional needs being neglected
@@kajielin4354 This is the comment I came here for. I wish more medical professionals would really look into the neuro-affirming approach and listen to Autistic Adults...
Gosh. This reminds me of when I was literally 10 and my mum told me that I was too sensitive and that I'll never make it in the world, instead of actually trying to help me become better. Seriously, knowing others went through the same thing makes me feel a bit comforted, but also a bit sad that they all dealt my pain, if not worse.
When I saw Inside Out I was sobbing by the end because of how much it resonated with my own struggle with depression especially when I was a teenager because my symptoms were at their worst and the part where she finally admits whats wrong to her parents was really cathartic
That time when I was convincing myself that I was not depressed was one of my lowest points ever. This movie brought light to that state of denial. The fact that it's the only movie where every emotional scene got my chest aching was proof enough and the final scene where Riley was hugging her parents broke me. I barely had that type of connection with anybody at the time because they all saw me as a serious, lone-wolf type of person, so seeing that scene made me realize how absolutely distant I am with everyone that were around me.
12:28 I am a member of the autistic community. Specifically, I have been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. Something people should know is that ABA is HIGHLY controversial within the autistic community. Historically, ABA involved electric shocks and other negative stimuli to force autistic people to stop performing behaviors considered to be abnormal. Many autistic activists argue that ABA is very psychologically harmful to autistic people. It has been compared to conversion therapy and "torturing the autism" out of someone. Of course, if an autistic person is harming themselves or others, they should be helped to stop that. But not all atypical behaviors that Autistic people do is wrong. Stimming is perfectly fine. We shouldn't be focusing on making autistic people "normal". We should focus on improving their quality of life and accommodating their disability. Harming a blind person won't make them see, harming a deaf person won't make them hear and harming autistic people won't "cure" their autism.
ABA isn’t about making people “normal”. It’s about helping autistic people learn life skills. An ABA therapist isn’t going to make a client stop stimming, they’re going to teach them to navigate social situations. Stop trying to scare people out of helping their kids live full lives.
@Cyrus McWind I can't speak for others, but I for one try to keep my illnesses to myself IRL unless I'm way too overwhelmed by them or it's inevitable to talk about them... If the people you know keep bringing their mental issues time and time again, perhaps it's their way to ask for help or assistance - very few of the mentally ill do that just to play the victim, although there are some disorders that have this as a symptom. Either way, I think it's worth looking into why people around you do X or Y.
You were spot on about social anxiety. My 36 year old son has it and almost had an anxiety attack at his own birthday party. He had invited them all but froze when asked to interact with them. I helped him through the parts that involved everyone watching him like cutting the cake or starting the buffet line. He has Asperger syndrome and it can be quite challenging for him at times.
@@furrybproductions Then it's a very good thing you're no longer with them. You never deserve to be shamed for symptoms of an illness you did not choose.
there’s quite a famous man in japan who has legally married a fictional character who helped him cope with the trauma of being treated poorly by people all his life.he gets so much attention for the eccentricity of it but i truly hope he can be helped out of that mindset that other humans are so untrustworthy and only someone fictional could love him. truthfully not too long ago it became extremely difficult for me to trust happiness but i guess i haven’t given up completely even if i’m extremely lonely.
My cousin is a savant and he also has autism. You can tell him your name, birthday and your favorite song and he will remember it all 10 years later, even if he hadn't seen you in the 10 years. He can listen to a song once and memorize all the lyrics. He is so funny too, cause if he wants to take a picture of you, he will hold up his phone to take the picture, tell you to straighten your head, look straight at the camera, and smile, but don't show teeth 😂🤷♀️ gotta love him ❤️ He is the sweetest man I have known. When I was a teenager, we just sat in my dad's truck and listened to one of his rock cds and we both were just singing along to it and head banging lol He lives in another state so I don't get to see him much 😢
Interesting. I think it's also worth noting that people's savant syndrome are not always "positive" aspects of their life. I read an article at the end of 2019 around people with super memory and how daunting it is. One such example was knowing every detail of every moment they've ever lived, but if someone asked them a date like January 4th, they go through a catalog of their mind to every moment of every January 4th they've lived. I guess a similar example would be if your cousin has to recall every John he's ever met and think about their faces and their lives every time he hears the name for John. We look at their lives and think how cool that must be, but it's important to remember that the nature of their experience isn't always on the superficial surface level that we're observing.
So your assessment of people on the autism spectrum is very much based on male patients. I'm a female on the spectrum and no one can tell that I have autism because women tend to mask their social anxieties and mimic social behaviors more efficiently. I wish there'd be more awareness around this as many women are diagnosed at a late age (as was I) and fly under the radar, getting diagnosed with anxiety or depression way before anyone realizes that beneath the supposed social mask lies incredible effort to read and mimic others in social situations. Most people think I make eye contact for example, but I usually am looking between the eyes or at the mouth. People think I'm talkative but I rehearse scripts in my head days before meetings so I know what to say and how to respond. So just because someone seems to not be autistic doesn't mean they aren't. So many of us become depressed and suicide rates are high due to not being helped in time. Edit: wow I've never had so many likes. Thank you. Just a few notes: 1. Didn't mean to step on anyone's's toes with regard to their form of autism and relating to his description. I understand it's a spectrum. 2. Didn't mean to make this about gender per say, perhaps "high functioning" would've been a better term to use v.s. women 3. I get that he didn't have the time. I do want to bring awareness to this phenomenon though. Lots of us end our lives because of these issues never being recognized so spreading awareness is the least I feel I can do. Wasn't meant to be criticism on him I found his explanations interesting and insightful. 4. I'm still learning what ASD means too. I get that the masking is an issue for others as well. Not blaming anyone for not seeing through it. Can hardly blame anyone if even I had no idea.
I saw a girl on tik tok who explained having autism as a female, and the sad part is you're right they only studied males when they were making breakthroughs. Mental health in general didn't get the notice it deserves until recently so I'm only hoping a wider range of studies can be performed, statistics alone of people who don't get the help they need really needs to decline. Anyways just remember that you're not alone, there will always be somebody who cares. May you give yourself the life you want and always keep the positives in mind, take care and stay safe
I was searching the comment section for this necessary explanation. Thanks. But it's not only women's problem tho. There are also many men out there who misdiagnosed because of the exact same reasons.
That's exactly right! I never got diagnosed until I was 31 after having a mental breakdown. It's because of how bad everything was while still trying to mask, keep working and dealing with stress and other mental health problems (anxiety and depression). There are a lot of women 30+ getting a late diagnosis because all the research was male based. It wasn't picked up on in schools for us because "girls don't have autism" (when really we just express/cope with things differently). The weird thing is that I was mostly non verbal as a kid - 'selective' mutism and it still wasn't picked up. Thankfully things are changing.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my UA-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
also we dont fake anything for attention some people might, but if you see me seriously struggling with anxiety and always talking about how i want to unalive myself, theres probably something more serious going on than "wanting attention"
I literally cried my eyes out to my mom and asked her to get me therapy and she just told me depression doesn’t exist at all and then went on to make fun of me to my dad like...wtf 😃
I should say this to my “grandma” but her existence annoys me a lot, sorry but it’s true she’s the outcast of the family, and I literally can’t forget when she said I’m not allowed to be depressed because I’m young, she’s old, I have friends, her friends are decreasing, like wtf? I just literally had a reliving talk with my parents at 1 AM and you’re gonna ruin that for me cause you want attention? I mean you could just talk things out with us and not be aggressive about it, like seriously, it’s annoying, you’re making us all depressed.
I should say this to my “grandma” but her existence annoys me a lot, sorry but it’s true she’s the outcast of the family, and I literally can’t forget when she said I’m not allowed to be depressed because I’m young, she’s old, I have friends, her friends are decreasing, like wtf? I just literally had a reliving talk with my parents at 1 AM and you’re gonna ruin that for me cause you want attention? I mean you could just talk things out with us and not be aggressive about it, like seriously, it’s annoying, you’re making us all depressed.
The Joker actually did deal with psychotic issues, the scenes where he’s with the “love of his life” were just fragments of his imagination. In the end it was revealed to the audience that it was all just in his head.
I think this guy, and many people in the comments, mistook the Joker having a mental illness, with his mental illness being the root of everything evil he does.
Watched the movie a while ago but wasn't his relationship with the mother and son who lived across the hall a delusion too? I think there was a scene where he confronted her and she seemed like she only knew him as the guy next door and nothing else. The scene might have played differently idk but I could have sworn that relationship was part of a delusion too.
@@Sarablueunicorn the love affair was never real. In one scene near the last half of the movie, Arthur enters his supposed fiancé's apartment, only for her to be shocked about him intruding.
I don't think Joker was saying all mental illness people get violent. It's this man, who has been abused, pushed aside, ignored, and has just had enough and snapped. And we do know why, the movie literally shows us why.
@@hcf4kd1992 the majority don't, but some still do. Almost all serial killers have mental illnesses and some degree of abuse/trauma in their background. Joker going through what he did and snapping isn't unrealistic, its just uncommon. The issue is that there aren't many 'happy' movies about mental illness that show someone actually living with it successfully, because thats unfortunately just less of an interesting story.
I never cried at funerals or when someone close to me died. 5 so far in my 15 years? My dad when I was 7. But that didn’t mean I didn’t care for them, I still missed them, and grieved in my own way... I still felt the empty feeling I can only call loss.
@@bourne8636 same even though i managed to get super emotional while watching a show (without the sobbing of course) a few months ago. I also tried to cry while listening to a song that makes me feel emotional but having watery eyes was the best i could do.
One of the best things my husband has ever done for me was to ask what it's like living with depression, and then listen attentively to the answer. It was so affirming, so honouring. It was a useful reminder as well, that some people never experience mental illness so they need to have it communicated to them as well in a way that is respectful and non-judgemental. I think I assumed because mental illness is so common & was so normal for me that everyone knew how it feels. But they don't; not everyone knows. So it is worth it for the person with the illness to be gentle and patient about explaining it too.
I just learned how to potentially calm down someone who’s having a panic attack. FTW! Makes sense, too. Focus on the fear, you’ll be afraid. Focus on other things, you probably won’t be as afraid.
Social anxiety is so bad because it's self fulfilling. You're so worried, you become the person you're afraid of being
Yeah😞
Stay strong my friend, I know the feeling. But the fact of being worried is a good sign that you will not.
This is a very true way to say that. I couldn’t had said it better myself! I send my love to you
And usually there is a lot of people to make things worse and adding fuel to the fire
I just feel like everyone's all super awkward towards each other at first, once you get to know the person you'll eventually get comfortable around them, trust me I still feel hella awkward towards my best friend idk I just feel like he feels forced to hang out with me because I don't talk with anyone, we've been through elementary-highschool, but its just something that I try to keep out of my brain loop I guess
Edit: there's assholes out there trust me, my best advice is to worry about yourself, better yourself, you came into this world alone, you've made it this far, whats another 19 years right? GO GET THAT BAG MY ENWARD OMM
He's so gentle and kind in his words but also himself and professional at the same time. I bet he does a really good job treating people.
Yeah that's why he's a psychiatrist
Being a psychiatrist requires an individual to have a sense of unconditional positive regard for their client, which is why he sounds so calm
On his linked in it says he was named one of the bay areas best doctors in San Francisco.
@@JazzSingh many psychiatrists don't have any positive regard. They are in it for money quite often and don't care about their patients. Also, you don't have to have completely calm demeanor to present unconditional positive regard.
Considering that he's trained as a psychiatrist but brands himself as a therapist seems pretty telling.
Man he’s really a child, an adolescent, an adult, and a forensic psychiatrist? His parents must be proud.
Ah yes the four stages of life: child, adolescent, adult, forensic psychiatrist
His kids must be too, I hope also his grandchildren as well.
I have been a child, an adolescent, and am now an adult. Three out of four ain't bad, but my parents aren't all that proud of me :(
Hahaha love this comment 🤣
@@Soph149 thank you, thank you
The association with violence is exactly what gives mental health its stigma.
Look at it this way. The reason for memtal health resulting im violence is a.stigma is because moat of the time, people view things in a wromg/negative way. Why can we view.things in a positive way, instead of always being negative?
And that it is a "weakness"
@@nicholascrow8133 yup definitely
Exactly. While it can definitely lead to violence, that's often not the case.
this exactly
“I’m a child, adolescent, adult, and forensic psychologist.”
First Clip: *HORSEMAN*
LMAO
😅🤣
Our do the assburgs system.
Isn't he a psychiatrist? 🤔
@@stephanyflores506 ah you’re right I fudged the quote up. Joke still stands tho.
"For many people, mental illness is a part of who they are. It doesn't define them." This is a very simple statement yet holds so much power.
Mental illness is a term invented to label individual traits of people, who are not functioning the way the system wants them to.
person-first perspective let's gooo
And the fact that you so vaguely agree with his vague statement shows that you don't hold much water in your knowledge of mental illness, as he doesn't. People who are mentally ill do understand that there's something wrong with them, and it has a huge impact on how they see themselves and the world in general. If that's not the definition of "defining" then I'm not sure what is.
TumblR was full of 'em
For some people, it does define them and they get completely lost.
Bojack Horseman is a mental health masterpiece that dives within the human brain so well it required animals to release tension
yeah definitely bc if it was human it will be really bothersome and harder to watch
yeah exactly, imagine how much more depressing and saddening it would be for some people to watch
A+ show
Fact.
@Sam Glueck no it was fine just the party anxiety scene
Girl Interrupted (both the movie and book) was so important to me when I got diagnosed with BPD. It showed me that, no matter how bad I felt at the time, I had a chance to live a normal life again.
That makes me happy to know 😁
As someone diagnosed with dysthymic disorder (long-term low mood….like Eeyore) I felt that movie on such a deep level. To this day, one of my favorite movies! 🥰
🤤
I've only seen the film and once when I was sent to a clinic for reasons no one really remembers (I was misdiagnosed with BPD, I struggle with depression, PTSD, GAD and panic attacks), all I could think about was that film and I was terrified. Fortunately I was able to convince my family to get me my own room. At first I avoided everyone until I couldn't anymore. Then it was like being with co workers.
This man is SO COOL. The way he speaks is so powerful. He doesn’t definitively say something if he is unsure of it and he thoroughly explains everything in a way that everyone can understand. I hope that more people in mental health can be as educated as him
Agreed
he inspired me so much
He also has massive hands, witch I think is pretty gosh darn kool
@@ab0lishp0liticians67 weak bait
This guy is promoting ABA as a “treatment” for autism, which in the autistic community is seen as being abusive and causing trauma. Please do research on these things before just taking everything he says as fact. Just because someone has studied psychology doesn’t mean they’ll be correct about everything, and can even be discriminatory towards people with certain disorders or neurodivergencies.
One thing that always bummed me out about the movie inside out is that sadness is the one leading in the mother's head :
Yep, but was perfect to explain some heavy family history to my kids.
Anger leads in the father's head so I think the "putting the foot down" scene being quick was his anger issues showing a bit
بس دراد
part of that might be because the mom has had a history of depression, but considering the theme of the movie i think sadness being the lead shows that she is deeply empathetic as well. sadness = understanding a person's pain enough to be there and help them get through it
Something is telling me the psychiatrist works out. 🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐
He was so right about teenagers opening up more with no direct eyecontact. All the deep and meaningful conversations I have with my parents happen in the car or walking where were not making constant eye contact.
So true, me too
Yeah me too
my parents sit me down and expect me to spill everything but i tell everything to my friends out of nowhere
I could connect with my brother when we were driving and that was something I never expected to happen before! Totally agree with you here.
Relatable
I feel like Joker definitely has some symptoms of psychosis-- just not in this scene. But throughout the movie, he has these relationship building scenes with his neighbor, where he believes he's spending time with her. But at the end of the movie we see those scenes again, and see that she was never there with him.
his description of narcissistic personality disorder fits the behavior of POTUS #45 like a glove...
Yes! And his delusions of being on TV before going on TV
He obviously didn’t watch the full movie
@@wilson2455 Why do you feel a compulsive need to bring your politics into everything? Do you need psycological help?
The film had a funny way of over exagerating his toughts as mental ilness.If he had a normal paying job in a normal functioning city, where criminals didnt parede around, Wane enterprize.HE would not have any actuall problem in life.
"Mental illness is a part of who they are, it doesn't define them." It is so refreshing to hear that. Not everything with mental illness is crazy and non functional or on a ton of meds. Loved these breakdowns!
Erm, The Joker does not correctly illustrate true mental illness...
But some of us are... and that’s okay
whats wrong with being non functional????
edit: thats literally what my disorder causes those with it to be
Accept most people seem to choose to define themselves according to their mental disorders
There's one flaw to that statement
Pretty sure a psychopath is both who they are and it defines who they are
I love how delicately he talks about Borderline Personality Disorder. It's refreshing.
Ikr! ☺️
Agreed
Agree.
Yes!
Ugh same 🥲🥺
I absolutely love how passionate he is when he talks about how people correlate violence and mental health issues. My brother is schizophrenic, and while I understand why people associate that with dangerous behavior, it still saddens me greatly.
I guess it is because you cannot evaluate a person who shows unusual behaviour. It would trigger your fear to get hurt.
I have a brother who is diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and he definitly was dangerous. He tried to kil my mum several times, attacked my dad , set fire to their car, attacked several women, trowed bricks through al my windows , etc.
He is 57 years old now and the last 10 years he is much more calm and a lot less aggresive. But i have a friend who has 2 sisters with the same diagnosis who are not aggresive at all.
My mother has it, it's not easy growing up with a parent who other people consider a dangerous nutjob. My mother is the literal sweetest person in the entire universe.
That's the hard thing about mental illness is that its different in every person.
@@gazepskotzs4 He was paranoid. That's why it's known as paranoid schizophrenia.
I could listen to him talk about these topics all day.
I need a therapy session with this guy. He’s so calming.
Ok
Thats the point
It is his job after all
I need one with him, to help understand myself better.
That will be 4000 per session lmao
We just all got a free session with a legit psychiatrist. I learned so much!
I also love better call saul
hard to take u seriously with that pfp
Don't know about the other disorders but what he talked about mine, Bipolar disorder, is very accurate. It's not all but it is a good depiction.
And some of those lessons, especially about autistic people, are wrong. And I know as I am autistic.
@@JeshuaSquirrel he did say that the autistic spectrum is quite diverse.
Fun fact, girl interrupted was written originally based on the writers real life experiences with bpd.. the movie was an adaptation of the book and may be why it depicts bpd pretty accurately unlike some other Holly wood produced movies
favorite thing about girl interrupted is that i've been in the same institution the writer was and boy has it not gotten any better!
Oh I didn’t know that! I have bpd and would be interesting to watch this movie!
@@Thegreenpig22 i definitely recommend it really opens your perspective on bpd
Yeah I read the book first. It's great
If you've read the book she says at the end she doesn't think she had bpd and that normal issues that others don't understand are grouped in with mental illness (eg her not going to college is Not really an indication of lack of direction and mental illness). It is very interesting.
I remember someone commented on Inside out that each parents central emotion might show what kind of thing they're dealing with. like with the dad for example anger rules and he might have anger issues or with the mom sadness rules which might show that she's depressed in a way
Led me to think
Not necessarily. The whole point of the movie is to show that having negative emotions is OK. These may just be their primary responses. It just the way that they deal with things.
It doesn't necessarily mean that they have a neurochemical imbalance like in the issues that you mention.
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Year late but I remember seeing a theory that the parents central emotion is a deeper symbol for a matured emotion like protective being anger for the dad and compassion as sadness for the mom, I think this would make sense as emotions are subjective but I don’t get the mom one
It's the driver's seat.
Riley is "piloted" by joy; she pursues joy when she can and values joy as her objective. Showing joy is what makes her parents share that joy.
Her mom is run by sadness, which here means empathy. She can see sadness, struggle, in others first and acts on it, trying to help.
Their dad runs on anger, though that may be an unexplored, evolved version, such as assertiveness, protectiveness, or riotousness.
The point is, the middle seat is the *driver* seat. The one who's "in charge".
"Let me get this straight, you want this random dude to be your therapist?"
Literally this entire comment section: "I do, and I'm tired of pretending that I don't."
I'm in this group lol
yes yes yes yes pls
I feel called out
Im in this picture and i dont like it
I am your 666 like
"when am i gonna see a depiction of someone with mental illness that's not going to make me feel like im gonna turn into a serial killer?" THAT part. That's the shift we need to do with mental health in the film industry.
Would anybody watch a film about a mildly depressed person with anger problems who never does anything dramatic though lol?
@@yehldyehld yes actually people will watch just about anything as long as the story is interesting.
@@yehldyehld as long as there are people that can relate there are people who will watch
@Man with hair I don’t get it, why would I make it?
@Man with hair I didn’t say that lol
If this dude was my teacher I’d never miss his class, he talks with passion and seems very keen on giving the right information out.
While attending Med School, my Psychiatry professor always linked the topics we were seeing with some pop culture reference. By doing so he made sure we truly understood how people do act and also don't act while having any mental illness. This guy also does a terrific job on calling out all the depiction mistakes of mental illnesses
Most doctors are directors, they will always be exact on the data they give out because that’s their professional is to lead.
@@Pinkgurdsson are you matched to a residency yet? Would be fascinating how concise you are when you lead.
you would still miss his class who are you trying to fool
@@ThatGmoney No, I'm still to enter a residency, although I'm certain it'll be in Psychiatry :)
When Jack Nicholson walked in to the therapist's office and just went "hi. HAAALP!!" is probably the most relatable moment of my adult life
He emphasizing that mental health issues aren’t violent is so so important. And I love it. I cannot express enough how much I appreciate this man.
The Joker isn't supposed to represent all forms of mental health issues. The same as Hannibal Lectre. But they are both valid examples.
I just think he misunderstood the movie
Yikes these UA-cam comments are enlightening lol. People hearing someone else say common sense and they come away thinking oooooo genius sooo profound. Nah lol
@@TonyDanza4Lyfe Fun Fact: Just because you know something doesn’t mean others do
@@TonyDanza4Lyfe not completely sure what ur talking about tbh, but i disagree with him on the 'joker is overplaying the idea that mental illness and violence are linked' thing, being a violent, mental psychopath who just wants chaos and violence is literally his entire character
I wish there was a movie about bpd that portrayed the “less severe” side of things where the patient even doubts that their diagnosis is valid because their episodes are “not as bad” as those portrayed in Hollywood.
I get the sentiment but that... really doesn't sound like it has a lot of plot potential
I agree! I think people always go to the extreme because it sells but I think it'd be comforting for people who can relate.
@@marlow4388 I promise it does!! The character’s mental illness doesn’t have to be the main plot. As in real life, there’s a lot more to someone than their illness! I’m a film student so you could be seeing that movie in 10 years 🙇🏽♀️
this but with schizophrenia
@@aresuwu6793 YES!!! I totally agree. There’s no representation whatsoever of moderate schizophrenia in films that I know of.
This dude looks like a superheros secret identity
Except he's not a superhero, he's a real-life hero!
@@avalonjustin fair
Clark Kent lmao
Hahahahaha nice
@@edward9628 was thinking exactly the same thing lmao
"it's a medication issue" really helps me personally, if i miss my meds and feel dangerously sad but i realize it's because of the medication, I feel better because I know it will pass. What sucks is when the sadness isn't a medication issue :(
I’ve personally found therapy/counseling helpful on sadness that isn’t “cured” by medicine. If you haven’t considered it or are currently in, then I recommend maybe just looking into it. :)
yh sometimes it reminds u that ur not the problem
As someone who has dealt with PMDD levels of sadness, I hear you. Even if we feel it in the moment, intensely, just knowing "Ok, there's a physical reason for this and it'll eventually pass like clockwork" makes it bearable, even while finding things like coping.
Sending hugs!
I have told myself that too.
I used to drink a lot and get really loud and embarrassing at parties before I realized I had intense social anxiety. People didn't believe me because I seemed like a party animal, but I was really just manic and got drunk to cope
Bro... did you just describe me 💀💀 I'm shook
my life
In social situations I either dissociate or get super manic and talk and move around wayyy too much
Yea me too social anxiety disorder
Yeah and then you end up puking everytime trying to numb yourself so you aren't so anxious
5% of the comments: *something something mental health*
95% of the comments: This guy is ripped wtf
yeah, as a guy with Asperger's I was completely insulted by a lot of what this muscle brain said.
@@tyrant-den884 Nice bait.
@@snkybrki don't belittle me.
@@tyrant-den884 Not belittling you, just calling out your attempt at messing with people. Hence, bait.
@@snkybrki i hate how everything is just too much sometimes
I love his point made on the Joker movie with how violence and mental health should not be connected. My best friend and I watched the Joker (and loved it) but she kept telling me afterwards that society has this misconception of mental health illness being associated with being violent. Thank you Eric.
Studies show that mentally ill people aren't any more violent than the average person but has a higher chance of being the victim of a crime.
I think the misconception lies more on what defines mental illness and normal person to begin with. What exactly makes someone violent if it's not because they're ill in some way? What makes someone violent to a point that isn't what a normal person would do and why is that not mentally ill?
When you think about it, it doesn't really help or even make sense.
@@xXJLNINJAXx (Quote): "What makes someone violent to a point that isn't what a normal person would do and why is that not mentally ill? "
Mental illness isn't a choice. Being violent is a choice. That's the distinguishing factor. Mental illness is a pervasive behavioral or mental pattern that causes significant distress or impairment of personal functioning.
@@lameduck3105 so you're saying ocpd as described in the video is not illness but choice?
@@xXJLNINJAXx the previous comment wasn’t meant for you, sorry.
I think the most important thing that Lars represents is the importance of community-based therapy. The doctor is bringing together a very broad web of care and support which is crucial for any social deficiency.
No one is talking about how the acronym for Social Anxiety Disorder is literally SAD
and Seasonal Affective Disorder
@@joclark4619 which is funny cause this guy looks like Neil Cicierega, who wrote a song called SAD about his Seasonal Affective Disorder
Reading this in my psychology freshman year did make me chuckle a bit...
SAD(Social Anxiety Disorder), the big SAD
separation anxiety disorder.
“lemme get this straight, so you think that killing those guys is funny? i do...and im tired of pretending its not.” just gave me flashbacks to tiktok
My exact thoughts!!!
Wait can I get clarification?
@@levianleviathan9244 Tiktok can be very toxic. Ive seen "people" brag about pushing multiple people to suicide... Someone was proud because they did that to 3 or 4 kids who were furries...
SAME
@@levianleviathan9244 it’s a trend where people say something they have laughed at or done without remorse
BoJack Horseman is literally my comfort show because of how well it portrays trauma, mental illness, and the journey to wellness. I turn to it on days where I just can't seem to find happiness in anything, and it's really helpful.
Okay I'll give it a watch....n if I find it a waste of time it's on you☝️- depressed creature
I’m dealing with chronic depression. I’ll give it a watch.
i wholeheartedly suggest everyone watch BH, especially if they have any sort of mental illness
I’m not 100% sure if I fit into all these categories and tbh I don’t care, although when I am not doing the things I need to do to keep my body healthy I can get very depressed and anxious/unconfident avoid all social situations/interactions. To me this comes down to cause and effect and these symptoms are an individual umbrella effect that I’m sure is very similar and can vary slightly depending on the person. I really hope the comments and people I’ve seen that turn this darkness in life into a social fad or group to be amongst aren’t actually what they say or want to think they are because watching shows or eating things to “bandaid” problems are the exact thinking they led to your physical body crying out for help. Anyone hope I didn’t offend anyone just feel for the people that may actually want to get out of this funk of a spot after a few years it will start to feel “normal” and listening to your local pharmaceutical dealer can really make people think they are imbalanced and drugs is the correct way instead of going for a run everyday.
I will give it a try too, thanks.
I never realized how they depicted how the adults were emotionally mature. Even though Anger was the dads captain and Sadness was the moms they all sat at the table as equals and worked together as a team instead of one conpletely taking over the controls like in the teenager.
“Psychosis does NOT equal psychopath”...
I couldn’t clap f**king loud enough
JOKER SPOILERS
in the end it did show that most of the stuff that happened were hallucinations tho.
@@DevilsSpawn3 wait fr? Like what part? I didn't catch that when I watched
@@crustbucket2725 watch the film theory vid on it it’s great
Me: * a kid with psychopathic thoughts and the fear of becoming psychotic * Jajajaja 😅
Dude....... I need serious help. Plz help me :'(
@Bookniffler Thanks for the really obvious advice I guess.... Anyways I'm already going to the doctor because of my epilepsia.
I'm scared of therapy, but this guy seems entirely comfortable to talk with
Therapy is always the most healthy choice if you feel like you have a mental illness like anxiety or your going through something really hard and need someone to help you. You just need to research a few sites and therapists to find out which one is qualified and which ones are faking (trust me, there are tons of awful therapists out there that can make your anxiety or illness worse). But if you ever feel like your having trouble with your life, maybe going through something crappy, a therapist is the most healthy option instead of suffering. Therapy doesint have to be scary as long as your careful, trust me, there really nice and there here to listen, so your don’t think your annoying them! :)
You just need the right therapist. I was lucky enough to get a good therapist, but unfortunately many other people in my life that I care for don't have access to actually *good* therapists.
dont bre, go there if u need help. i wish i could go
that's the point. These people are well educated. Their whole job is taking to people, listening, and helping them.
@@peoplelegend8476 It really (can't understate this) depends on which country or region you live. That alone makes a huge difference.
He spent his youth getting a degree in psychology so he could spend his golden years being a hero
Actually he spent his years getting a undergrad degree, went to med school, and then did psych residency.
@@sandrameesala6804 youre fun at parties
@@ghazala2088 ....the original comment was a joke abt him looking like superman, are you guys dumb?
@@memali2939 they didnt get the joke
he's actually got a medical degree, then specialised in psychiatry. psychology degrees don't let you prescribe medication to patients.
THANK YOU SO MUCH for posting this video. Having a wife with several of these disorders, it's so important to be reminded sometimes, what it must be like to be ill. And the way you led us gently to understanding that coping and medical treatment need to go hand in hand, that's so very very important to always remember.
As a mental health occupational therapist, can I count this as professional development hours?? Cause this was SO GOOD
No one asked that you are a doctor
@@exsasstone4095 wtf let her speak?
I had a question though I've heard some mental health workers say that psychopaths dont actually exist and it is the wrong word for ANOTHER personality disorder. Is this true?
Lol I was thinking the exact same!! Honestly going to show it to a few of my colleagues
@@exsasstone4095 a therapist is not a doctor.
This guy is actually amazing. I wish more people addressed issues like he does. He is that rare breed that combines actual empathy and a real knack for psychology. Some people just go to school to make money.
Yes. He has knowledge and concern.
do remember that empathy=/=sympathy and people with low or no empathy can still be sympathetic and kind human beings
Meeee
Since when do psychiatrists make a lot of money? I wish we'd do
@@extrm161 advertising your band is not a real response
Is it just me or do others feel like they could listen to this guy for hours and not get bored?
Agreed. I love how he breaks everything down and makes it easier to understand mental health and mental disorders.
You're not alone in this.
I really liked that this expert pointed out what a true psycho path is not a person with anger and rage those are normal emotions but someone who lacks empathy or feelings and can't deal with their emotions properly
Can we please have another one?! With films and shows like Shutter Island, Manic, Split and Words on Bathroom Walls.
Eternal Sunshine, Maniac, American Psycho
OMG, Yessss
And shows like The Good Doctor and Bates Motel
Yes and what’s eating Gilbert grape
Memento,mentalist
Fight club too
This guy The guy that does accents
🤝 for WIRED
AND they're both called Eric!!
I was just thinking about this
Dialect Daddy & Psychiatry Stud
Fine Fine, like really.
YASSS WE NEED TO SEE THEM TOGETHER LOL
He look like Dr Who’s Harvard grad brother, Dr Why
This comment needs more likes 😂😂 Pure comedy!
Bahahahahaha
You should meet their Architect brother, Dr. How
How is this not the top liked comment?
Now I know what he reminded me of
Thank you so much for talking about depression. I have had it since I was 15/16 years old , now I'm 32 .
Do you got severe depression?
I'm 36 and have had it since I can remember. Also anxiety and c-ptsd. I think we're drawn to these kinds of videos and it's refreshing to see other people with mental health issues in the comments. Makes you feel less alone in the battle ❤
Clark Kent you ain’t foolin me just cause you went back to school and changed your major
This comment is underrated
🤣🤣😂😂😂
Lol
😂😂😂 my god this is everything
KEKW
Bojack Horseman - 0:31
Joker - 4:05
Rain Man - 8:53
The Undoing - 13:45
As Good as it Gets - 17:21
Girl, Interrupted 21:27
Inside Out 26:09
Lars and the Real Girl 29:51
Silver Linings Playbook - 34:00
A Beautiful Mind - 37:30
thank you for the time stamps 🙂
Thank you
Thank you!
Thanks men
Hero.
Never thought I’d see a Psychiatrist breakdown the mental health of a fictional cartoon character that’s a horse....
bojack horseman is one of the best tv series of all time, go watch it, its incredible
A cartoon I had never seen or heard of.
It was a great thing though!
for a cartoon, Bojack depicts quite accurately a lot of the state of mind of maladaptive behaviours common in people with varying degrees of mental health issues
What a time we live in
I mostly agree with the borderline diagnosis, but there's so much that was left out, I think sometimes how intensely someone feels is insane ...I get so happy I have to take anxiety meds to calm down, and that's something that only a few understand.
I have this too! Sometimes I’ll be excited about something and get too amped up. It turns into anxiety to the point I don’t even want to do the thing anymore.
Same, i feel euphoric, and i get a burning feeling in my chest
it's a short video why do you expect a whole break down of every mental condition?
This pops up on my feed: "This could be interesting, but there's no way I could watch the full 41 minutes of it"
41 minutes and 21 seconds later: "Why is this video only 41 minutes long? I want more!" :D
I agree
They got ya 🤣🤣🤣
I wish he talked about Jolie's character too. We could learn about sociopathy a bit..
IT WAS HOW LONG!!!
So accurate, the way he speak and elaborate things is soooooo interesting
this guy looks like that old man on film 'up' but younger version
WAIT A MINUTE
He kinda looks like neil cicierega
@@snazztacular HE DOES LOOK LIKE NEIL CICIEREAGA
*This the most accurate so far 💀
Looks like a middle aged Tom Holland
Everyone in the comments can’t decide if this guy is Tom Holland, Matt Smith or Clark Kent
@Brittany I thought he looked like a buff glasses version of Tom Holland when I clicked.
This
@Brittany his eyes
Can't he be all of them?
He looks like the future older version of Tom Hollad 👀
If we think of autism as a "sensory processing" disorder instead of a "developmental" disorder, it helps explain the need for routine and consistency. If I constantly felt like how I feel when I'm at an international airport during the holiday season, I'd lose my mind whenever one little thing was out of place too.
It is not a sensory processing disorder though, it is literally a developmental disorder ( neuro diverse). The sensory processing is part of the neuro diversity
@@daisybelle1025 Diversity and developmental disorder are not synonyms, wdym.
Sensory processing is absolutely part of Autism. But that's not.. "what it is". That's kind of like saying.. let's not think of a car as a car. But, let's of of it as just the seat. Like yeah, absolutely all cars have seats. But if it's just a seat, it's not a car.
Autism is a Neurodevelopmental disability. Part of it is SPD. But it's all the mix of things that makes it autism. And not just spd.
Not a huge fan of them having used rainman to represent autism here. They chose of the one in a million type representations. *sigh*
And, many autistic people are VERY empathetic. So empathetic that it can be painful. Which is why we try to avoid it sometimes. We shouldn't just be looking for empathy to diagnose autism. Especially in girls
Neurodevelopmental disorder makes sense. Our sensory perceptions are due to neural processing. Neurodivergent people have literally had their neurological structures built and grown differently. This leads to differences in sensory experiences, executive functioning, language and communication, etc. It is very common for many neurodivergent folks to have sensory processing differences whether it’s sound, receptive language, tactile. While there are a lot of overlapping behaviors, experienced, symptoms, it’s different for everyone.
Yeah I found this guy’s take on autism really ableist and outdated, ngl :(
Hurtful as an autistic person myself
I’m 35 and was diagnosed as being on the autistic spectrum a couple of years ago after always knowing something was wrong. I’ve been really struggling to come to terms with it so hearing it put logically without any judgement was what I needed
I know the feel. Been there. What really helped me come to terms with it was finding out how invisible and common autism can be. As I met several people who had it as well, but you'd never guess it. That, and how common mental health issues are in general. My mom's saying of "Every house has it's cross" (every family has their own struggles) really applies. You'd be amazed how many people are in the same boat, but you'll only ever hear of it once the topic comes up in a way that makes them feel safe to share their stories.
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I don’t get why they call it “spectrum” now, like it was some kind of prism of colors.
@@stephenpowstinger733 because that’s pretty much exactly what it is
I hope one day i will be diagnosted well and know what's exactelly my illeness i really feel something wrong with me but not really significant in my case and after watching this video i feel like i have many illness combined a little influence of autistic syndrome ,pdp,and a major depression i try to figure out what's the main illness that causes the others i hope someday i will find the answer.
ugh this is sooo good. he explained things so clearly and also pointed out a lot of misconceptions people have about many mental disorders. as a psychology grad i loved this
As a very excellent critic of UA-cam commentary, with an unrelated doctorate, of course, I think that qualifying your comment by saying you are a psychology graduate says something about your own personality traits.
@Aurele Tobelem of course but I just meant it’s rare to see someone do this with so much consideration. you’d be surprised how many “experts” on UA-cam and honestly real life just lack this type of understanding. I wish I’d met a psychiatrist like this when I was struggling with my own mental illnesses
Timestamps:
00:31 Bojack Horseman (2019)
04:05 Joker (2019)
08:52 Rain Man (1988)
13:44 The Undoing (2020)
17:21 As Good As It Gets (1997)
21:27 Girl, Interrupted (1999)
26:09 Inside Out (2015)
29:51 Lars And The Real Girl (2007)
34:00 Silver Linings Playbook (2012)
37:29 A Beautiful Mind (2001)
Tysm you’re a hero
thanks!
Thank you so much!
@@shashank.kaushik
No problem
Thanks❤️
I have ocd and its extremely inconvenient to deal with
the overpowering anxiety that something bad will happen if you don't do the thing your brain is telling you to do, the mental exhaustion if you mess up and have to start over... it sucks
Why is superman reacting on Joker's psychology
That's Man Hunter
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol
Antisocial Personality Disorder ua-cam.com/video/zoETiceo4U8/v-deo.html
🤣🤣🤣
I knew a person with bipolar disorder who went in to the deep depression state, and she just... Isolated her self to the point of not letting anybody in to her house for months. And if you tried to reach out, she wouldn't let anyone help her, not ever for food. In consequence, she died (we never found out the cause of her death) and found her several days after. It was very sad, bacause when she was kind of "OK", she was very sweet and caring of the people she loved.
Scary. I have bipolar disorder and agoraphobia. I don't have any friends and I never leave my house.
I'm really sorry for your loss. Seeking help helps a lot in everyway. I really hope things get better for you and the ones affected
@@suktadas9737 In my experience, if someone really doesn’t want anyone to help them, they won’t even let those they care about in. They will shut everyone out just so they don’t have to have others worry about them. Or so they think nobody will worry about them.
I knew someone like this and she is still alive.
@@JessicabelliciMa1 Good to hear.
The Joker was really disturbing to me, but not for the reasons I thought it would be. It was incredibly sad that any happy moments or memories that he had were delusions. You could just see his character disintegrating.
Think twice ua-cam.com/video/PTc1YRqs160/v-deo.html
That movie was crap
@@apotbos I disagree.
@@apotbos I disagree.
@@apotbos I disagree.
Just to add my own little addition to what he said about routines being a comfort to people with autism: These routines can be so important because they help people on the spectrum to feel more in control of what is happening in a world that is hard to control and also allows them to have a better idea of what to expect which can help to ease anxiety as they can try to make plans for how to deal with things that may be required e.g. conversations, actions needed etc.
Ps. Getting frustrated is natural but it doesn't help anyone. The autistic person is not doing it on purpose to annoy you.
Also, it’s highly important to note that the traits for ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) in the DSM-V were written in the context of how Autistic people (and, for awhile long time, young white boys who were studied the most) behave if they’re overwhelmed, over stimulated, and trying to deal with people who misunderstand different behavior and communication styles and navigating a world not designed for ASD people in mind…
This man taught me more in 40 minutes than school could ever do
Then you're in trouble
@@lupicalx6169 lmao some people are just potatoes 🥔 I know what you mean
@@lupicalx6169 it's old, unoriginal and stopped being funny a long time ago.
@@leobe2104 okay
It so true tho
I really like the aesthetic of this guy. He's very charismatic
His charisma stat does seem high
And handsome
I am in love with his outfit and those glasses!!!
He supports aba and was sympathetic to the mistreatment of autistic people. Idc how charismatic he is. This is disgusting.
@@10101funday how
The issues in Bojackman Horseman are so well written! Mental health, addiction, sexuality, trauma, abuse all dealt with so well!
I watched two episodes and it 100% triggered anxiety. Brilliantly well written show I will never watch.
@@HireMichaelEverson I cant tell if you hate the show or like it lol
I ran across your channel and I'm so fascinated by the movie references to mental health diagnosis, I myself was diagnosed bipolar depression and adhd at 25, I had so many emotional issues that I didn't understand why I was so different and seemingly difficult to deal with until I seen a psychiatrist.
The Joker does see things tho, he imagined an entire romance that didn’t exist.
I was about to say the same thing he must not of seen the whole movie because it very clearly showed a bunch of hallucinations
I think his point was that Arthur wasn’t having a psychotic delusion when he was on the Murray show. Not that he doesn’t ever have them.
he also hallucinated doing that great stand up when in fact he couldn't get a single sentence out of his mouth.
That was for us. We realised she wasn’t his girlfriend. It was a delusion. She wasn’t following him around giving him advice.
It’s called an unreliable narrator...
He doesn’t leave the asylum and he isn’t the joker.
Spoilers
I always thought he imagined it not that he hallucinated it
I’m a mental health provider and I’ve seen a lot of these videos- this doctor is legit and spot on.
I do hope you don’t use person first language or ABA for autistic people
@@McSnezzly You must of had a bad Experience with ABA there are several different types and not at all abusive.
@@McSnezzly what is your issue with person first language? A lot of people on the spectrum use it to describe themselves and dislike being seen for their disorder first .
Thank you for this information
He doesn’t look like Clark Kent, or Tom Holland. He looks like Matt Smith who also portrayed a different kind of doctor.
Dr Who and Owen Wilson’s lovechild
he looks like a buff neil ciciriga
Thank you!
Finally, someone who noticed that.
i was just thinking that!
Bojack horseman is so underrated. People downplay it because of being a cartoon but it's possibly the most accurate series about mental illness and reality....ironic
so social anxiety disorder has caused me to not talk to anyone besides the people i live with for the past three years. ive lost all my friends. i rely on substances to keep me grounded. it is not fun. but having this dude talk about it with so much understanding was very comforting.
Same here buddy... Do u also indulge in weed to keep u grounded..
@@mikestan1000 yes i do, for so long now ive become reliant. im sorry you're experiencing this as well friend
Could you find access to your own therapist for more of the same understanding & comforting effect?
@@horsegirlb7120 therapy is very expensive man atleast where I live..
@@horsegirlb7120 therapy is expensive here too, and i can barely keep up with bills as it is. but as soon as im able, im hoping to find a therapist that would give me that same feeling of understanding, yeah
This guy looks like he's actually gonna be on the cover of GQ
bro💕
Or on the cover of a magic magazine
He looks like Clark Kent
Lol right between this guy and Erik singer I’m beginning to think they choose gigachads on purpose
@@dardoura Yesssss!! 🥰 I was hoping someone would make this exact comment!!🤓
Seriously thank you Dr. for specifying that it “used to be called Aspergers” because ppl don’t realize how important that is and why we don’t call it that anymore
I *have* it and I sometimes call it that as shorthand, because people understand it more easily. I don't mind the term, even though I know it's no longer a technical one.
@@neighandwhinnymchorse2100 my cousin has been diagnosed that at 5 and it explains a lot. I think it was cool to have a classification for people with autistic traits but without the heaviness of the fonctionning impairment, but I understand what they're trying to do with having it as a broad spectrum too.
What is it called now?
@@user-sd9qj8rp1m ASD- Autism Spectrum Disorder ♥️
@@Historia_Strange (forgive me if im mistaken) but i was under the impression that using disorder to refer to it was incorrect? :0
i gotta be honest ive seen alot of these break down videos and this expert is easily one of the best, explains things so well and really does break things down.
"I'm sorry Mr Kent, all the journalism classes are filled. However we have an opening in our psychiatry course...."
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Read my mind
YES, thank you! Very apt. :D
on the topic of autism, a lot of autistic kids and even adults are often abused by parents or caretakers because what seems like not a big deal to them, is a big deal to the autistic person, and that can lead to emotional needs being neglected
There are also a lot of issues especially within ABA, it's concerning that this is what he mentioned as THE thing to go to
@@kajielin4354 This is the comment I came here for. I wish more medical professionals would really look into the neuro-affirming approach and listen to Autistic Adults...
What does "caretakers" mean exactly?
@@iwantedtobethatanomaly2270 if someone has a form of autism that makes it difficult to care for themself you can get a caretaker
Gosh. This reminds me of when I was literally 10 and my mum told me that I was too sensitive and that I'll never make it in the world, instead of actually trying to help me become better. Seriously, knowing others went through the same thing makes me feel a bit comforted, but also a bit sad that they all dealt my pain, if not worse.
When I saw Inside Out I was sobbing by the end because of how much it resonated with my own struggle with depression especially when I was a teenager because my symptoms were at their worst and the part where she finally admits whats wrong to her parents was really cathartic
@QueenMushu Same. It's interesting that a cartoon movie offers the most accurate depiction of what goes on in my brain 🧠
That time when I was convincing myself that I was not depressed was one of my lowest points ever. This movie brought light to that state of denial. The fact that it's the only movie where every emotional scene got my chest aching was proof enough and the final scene where Riley was hugging her parents broke me. I barely had that type of connection with anybody at the time because they all saw me as a serious, lone-wolf type of person, so seeing that scene made me realize how absolutely distant I am with everyone that were around me.
Honestly, same. Afterwards i tried to get my parents to watch that movie with me but they said "its boring" so i just gave up
Same.
@@kanishka0717 do not talk to your parents forever.
12:28 I am a member of the autistic community. Specifically, I have been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD. Something people should know is that ABA is HIGHLY controversial within the autistic community. Historically, ABA involved electric shocks and other negative stimuli to force autistic people to stop performing behaviors considered to be abnormal. Many autistic activists argue that ABA is very psychologically harmful to autistic people. It has been compared to conversion therapy and "torturing the autism" out of someone. Of course, if an autistic person is harming themselves or others, they should be helped to stop that. But not all atypical behaviors that Autistic people do is wrong. Stimming is perfectly fine. We shouldn't be focusing on making autistic people "normal". We should focus on improving their quality of life and accommodating their disability. Harming a blind person won't make them see, harming a deaf person won't make them hear and harming autistic people won't "cure" their autism.
ABA isn’t about making people “normal”. It’s about helping autistic people learn life skills. An ABA therapist isn’t going to make a client stop stimming, they’re going to teach them to navigate social situations. Stop trying to scare people out of helping their kids live full lives.
This dude knows his business. I like him A LOT!!
Right !
Of course he does, he’s a time lord
Yeah i "like" him too ;)
You like him😏
@@dormammu217 Why would you say that?
The fact this guy doesn't have a British accent oddly upsets me
I feel that too haha
He legit lools like Matt Smith
I feel that too
I wanted him to sound like Clark Kent
i wanted him to sound like giles
"For many people, mental illness is a part of who they are - it doesn't define them".
I couldn't have said it better, this was SPOT ON!!!
@Cyrus McWind I can't speak for others, but I for one try to keep my illnesses to myself IRL unless I'm way too overwhelmed by them or it's inevitable to talk about them... If the people you know keep bringing their mental issues time and time again, perhaps it's their way to ask for help or assistance - very few of the mentally ill do that just to play the victim, although there are some disorders that have this as a symptom. Either way, I think it's worth looking into why people around you do X or Y.
SO glad you got into the differences between OCD and OCPD.
You were spot on about social anxiety. My 36 year old son has it and almost had an anxiety attack at his own birthday party. He had invited them all but froze when asked to interact with them. I helped him through the parts that involved everyone watching him like cutting the cake or starting the buffet line. He has Asperger syndrome and it can be quite challenging for him at times.
Think twice ua-cam.com/video/PTc1YRqs160/v-deo.html
That’s definitely me: I never liked people staring at me, and I don’t like to have a big gathering of people; because I just feel very uncomfortable.
youre a great parent for doing that, genuinely.
My last partner would just shame me for this.
@@furrybproductions Then it's a very good thing you're no longer with them. You never deserve to be shamed for symptoms of an illness you did not choose.
Everybody's saying he looks like superman but for me he's the pychiatrist version of Tom Holland
AHHAHAHAHHAH YES!
Thats what I was thinking
He looks like Matt Smith to me.
I can see that
@@jquiznos2283 I just searched him up, and he does!!!
This guy is a doctor and he looks like THE DOCTOR.
Who?!?!
@@komodomp3 Ba-dum-dum-tchhhh
@@komodomp3 Doctor Who
Thank you. I was think he looked like Mat smith
Man looks like what if Superman was a psychologist
there’s quite a famous man in japan who has legally married a fictional character who helped him cope with the trauma of being treated poorly by people all his life.he gets so much attention for the eccentricity of it but i truly hope he can be helped out of that mindset that other humans are so untrustworthy and only someone fictional could love him. truthfully not too long ago it became extremely difficult for me to trust happiness but i guess i haven’t given up completely even if i’m extremely lonely.
My cousin is a savant and he also has autism. You can tell him your name, birthday and your favorite song and he will remember it all 10 years later, even if he hadn't seen you in the 10 years. He can listen to a song once and memorize all the lyrics. He is so funny too, cause if he wants to take a picture of you, he will hold up his phone to take the picture, tell you to straighten your head, look straight at the camera, and smile, but don't show teeth 😂🤷♀️ gotta love him ❤️ He is the sweetest man I have known. When I was a teenager, we just sat in my dad's truck and listened to one of his rock cds and we both were just singing along to it and head banging lol He lives in another state so I don't get to see him much 😢
He sounds like a really nice person :)
Text him a letter! Remind him he’s a gem 💎
That's so wholesome
Interesting. I think it's also worth noting that people's savant syndrome are not always "positive" aspects of their life. I read an article at the end of 2019 around people with super memory and how daunting it is. One such example was knowing every detail of every moment they've ever lived, but if someone asked them a date like January 4th, they go through a catalog of their mind to every moment of every January 4th they've lived. I guess a similar example would be if your cousin has to recall every John he's ever met and think about their faces and their lives every time he hears the name for John.
We look at their lives and think how cool that must be, but it's important to remember that the nature of their experience isn't always on the superficial surface level that we're observing.
Wish i was a savant, i have the opposite, since i can't remember unless it is repeated. If im only told once, i forget in few seconds or minutes.
I feel like I just watched a masterclass on psychiatry and psychology
That's basically because you just did.
well, a master class in not doing your homework anyway lol
@@LunarSolBand maybe I already did my homework before watching what I want on UA-cam "lol"
He explain it thoroughly, not just briefly like most channel does
ADHD is fake
ua-cam.com/video/-Nd40Uy6tbQ/v-deo.html
So your assessment of people on the autism spectrum is very much based on male patients. I'm a female on the spectrum and no one can tell that I have autism because women tend to mask their social anxieties and mimic social behaviors more efficiently. I wish there'd be more awareness around this as many women are diagnosed at a late age (as was I) and fly under the radar, getting diagnosed with anxiety or depression way before anyone realizes that beneath the supposed social mask lies incredible effort to read and mimic others in social situations.
Most people think I make eye contact for example, but I usually am looking between the eyes or at the mouth.
People think I'm talkative but I rehearse scripts in my head days before meetings so I know what to say and how to respond.
So just because someone seems to not be autistic doesn't mean they aren't. So many of us become depressed and suicide rates are high due to not being helped in time.
Edit: wow I've never had so many likes. Thank you. Just a few notes:
1. Didn't mean to step on anyone's's toes with regard to their form of autism and relating to his description. I understand it's a spectrum.
2. Didn't mean to make this about gender per say, perhaps "high functioning" would've been a better term to use v.s. women
3. I get that he didn't have the time. I do want to bring awareness to this phenomenon though. Lots of us end our lives because of these issues never being recognized so spreading awareness is the least I feel I can do. Wasn't meant to be criticism on him I found his explanations interesting and insightful.
4. I'm still learning what ASD means too. I get that the masking is an issue for others as well. Not blaming anyone for not seeing through it. Can hardly blame anyone if even I had no idea.
I saw a girl on tik tok who explained having autism as a female, and the sad part is you're right they only studied males when they were making breakthroughs. Mental health in general didn't get the notice it deserves until recently so I'm only hoping a wider range of studies can be performed, statistics alone of people who don't get the help they need really needs to decline. Anyways just remember that you're not alone, there will always be somebody who cares. May you give yourself the life you want and always keep the positives in mind, take care and stay safe
I was searching the comment section for this necessary explanation. Thanks. But it's not only women's problem tho. There are also many men out there who misdiagnosed because of the exact same reasons.
To be fair he did state there is a wide spectrum.
Well he did make sure to point out that there is a spectrum, it’s a few minutes piece he really can’t go that deep.
That's exactly right! I never got diagnosed until I was 31 after having a mental breakdown. It's because of how bad everything was while still trying to mask, keep working and dealing with stress and other mental health problems (anxiety and depression).
There are a lot of women 30+ getting a late diagnosis because all the research was male based. It wasn't picked up on in schools for us because "girls don't have autism" (when really we just express/cope with things differently). The weird thing is that I was mostly non verbal as a kid - 'selective' mutism and it still wasn't picked up.
Thankfully things are changing.
I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my UA-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤
Next time: serial killer breaks down death scenes in movies.
omg yes
Serial killer is a bit vague. I'd prefer a specific killer known for their sadism.
"Thats not very accurate, when your breaking in the house you should always wear gloves."
@@Oneday-bw8gu depends on the type of gloves, but I have already said too much
Serial Killer breaks down crying
What should parents understand is that teenagers are not “too young for depression” like wtf that doesnt make any sense.
also we dont fake anything for attention
some people might, but if you see me seriously struggling with anxiety and always talking about how i want to unalive myself, theres probably something more serious going on than "wanting attention"
@@mossie_witch8220 agreed. even those who ‘fake it for attention’ also have issues that make them feel the need to do stuff like that for attention
I literally cried my eyes out to my mom and asked her to get me therapy and she just told me depression doesn’t exist at all and then went on to make fun of me to my dad like...wtf 😃
I should say this to my “grandma” but her existence annoys me a lot, sorry but it’s true she’s the outcast of the family, and I literally can’t forget when she said I’m not allowed to be depressed because I’m young, she’s old, I have friends, her friends are decreasing, like wtf? I just literally had a reliving talk with my parents at 1 AM and you’re gonna ruin that for me cause you want attention? I mean you could just talk things out with us and not be aggressive about it, like seriously, it’s annoying, you’re making us all depressed.
I should say this to my “grandma” but her existence annoys me a lot, sorry but it’s true she’s the outcast of the family, and I literally can’t forget when she said I’m not allowed to be depressed because I’m young, she’s old, I have friends, her friends are decreasing, like wtf? I just literally had a reliving talk with my parents at 1 AM and you’re gonna ruin that for me cause you want attention? I mean you could just talk things out with us and not be aggressive about it, like seriously, it’s annoying, you’re making us all depressed.
The Joker actually did deal with psychotic issues, the scenes where he’s with the “love of his life” were just fragments of his imagination. In the end it was revealed to the audience that it was all just in his head.
I think this guy, and many people in the comments, mistook the Joker having a mental illness, with his mental illness being the root of everything evil he does.
@@gabrielmeth4844 Well did he actually believe in that fantasy or it was just his platonic love affair.
Watched the movie a while ago but wasn't his relationship with the mother and son who lived across the hall a delusion too? I think there was a scene where he confronted her and she seemed like she only knew him as the guy next door and nothing else. The scene might have played differently idk but I could have sworn that relationship was part of a delusion too.
@@Sarablueunicorn the love affair was never real. In one scene near the last half of the movie, Arthur enters his supposed fiancé's apartment, only for her to be shocked about him intruding.
@@KashNoK Thanks, I've never watched the movie
I don't think Joker was saying all mental illness people get violent. It's this man, who has been abused, pushed aside, ignored, and has just had enough and snapped. And we do know why, the movie literally shows us why.
Reminds me of Elephant’s Memory (Criminal Minds). That episode nails it on the head really
I think he was saying that It's the only type that Hollywood makes movies about, and therefore, people get the impression that it's the norm.
But most mentally and chronically physically ill people have that experience... and don't snap. That's why the problem with the Joker thesis
Say youre a reddit user without saying you’re a reddit user
@@hcf4kd1992 the majority don't, but some still do. Almost all serial killers have mental illnesses and some degree of abuse/trauma in their background. Joker going through what he did and snapping isn't unrealistic, its just uncommon. The issue is that there aren't many 'happy' movies about mental illness that show someone actually living with it successfully, because thats unfortunately just less of an interesting story.
I never cried at funerals or when someone close to me died. 5 so far in my 15 years? My dad when I was 7.
But that didn’t mean I didn’t care for them, I still missed them, and grieved in my own way... I still felt the empty feeling I can only call loss.
Every word you say is true i have it too like when someone close to me pass away in like 3 or 4 years i will start to breakdown very bad
I never cry. Crying is for poor people who have pet flies and smell like cilantro.
Only 3 people close to me have died, if any of my siblings die I will go insane.
@@carlitosway1330 Bruh I literally can’t cry like sometimes I try but I just can’t
@@bourne8636 same even though i managed to get super emotional while watching a show (without the sobbing of course) a few months ago. I also tried to cry while listening to a song that makes me feel emotional but having watery eyes was the best i could do.
One of the best things my husband has ever done for me was to ask what it's like living with depression, and then listen attentively to the answer.
It was so affirming, so honouring.
It was a useful reminder as well, that some people never experience mental illness so they need to have it communicated to them as well in a way that is respectful and non-judgemental. I think I assumed because mental illness is so common & was so normal for me that everyone knew how it feels. But they don't; not everyone knows. So it is worth it for the person with the illness to be gentle and patient about explaining it too.
I just learned how to potentially calm down someone who’s having a panic attack. FTW!
Makes sense, too. Focus on the fear, you’ll be afraid. Focus on other things, you probably won’t be as afraid.
I love that he thoroughly explains everything. He really does “break it down” in a way that the lay person can understand.