He kinda looks like he could split logs with his bare hands but he also seems like a very understanding and gentle individual who can brew various types of tea
Now that you mention it, he looks like a much, much better Clark Kent disguise than actual Clark Kent. With the (not 100% fitting? not sure myself) vest and the tie and the glasses ... but now that you put the thought in my head: that's some set of shoulders. Dang it. Totally here to learn something about psychology, and then youtube steers my thoughts into the gutter once again.
i’m so happy he spoke about how serious sleep-deprivation is . i struggled w severe insomnia for 2 years & it absolutely annihilated my mental state . & as someone who has BPD- in my youth i would also sleep-deprive myself as a method of self sabotage . i think the damage done by lack of sleep is heavily underrated in the general public . everyone knows you should get 8/9 hrs but no one takes it seriously . just getting enough sleep can vastly improve your mood even if you struggle w chronic disorders . it’s a shame it’s so overlooked
I'm struggling with insomnia right now and I'm on my 4th script. I'm also on the spectrum, and I'm really starting to feel like I'm losing my grip. I'm hoping I can get a handle on this before I have an episode this severe. I know it's just a movie but if you read actual accounts of what people have done in an insomnia induced psychosis, it's not helping.
@@PandaMonium92827 i hope you find something that works for you soon ! one thing i noted in my own experience is that panicking makes things worse ! the more you focus on the damage you fear your insomnia may cause then the more likely you are to suffer those damages . be gentle with yourself as much as you can :)) !
I didn't have this for more than a week but at its peek my heart had serios struggles to function properly. I can't even begin to understand how you would handle that in years
Same, I've always struggled with sleep, but then severe depression and anxiety made me self sabotage myself until I wasn't sleeping for 24, 36, sometimes 48 hours at a time, which only made the depression and anxiety worse, a terrible cycle. I honestly don't remember much of those 2 years before I went to get help, memory issues caused by sleep deprivation and all that. But after getting help I still have a lot of trouble with sleep but my mood and everything else is so much better in comparison. The days where I get enough sleep to not develop that sleep deprivation headache are some of the best days lol
I really appreciate how Doctor Bender repeatedly states in every video that people with mental health issues are not more likely to be violent or dangerous. Thank you, Doctor, for helping to fight the narrative that we should be afraid of people with certain diagnoses.
How can a person that doesn't fully comprehend reality not be dangerous? Mental health patient can just as easily pick a hammer thinking it's a flower and bash you on the head thinking he is giving you something nice. There is no violence or ill intent, just a person that does not understand what they are holding and how it can affect (damage) other things (people). It's unpredictability and lack of self control/awareness that makes mentally ill people dangerous (same goes for drug users, since they can have the same problem during a bad trip). I do not wish ill on anyone and I hope that any and all people with mental illness will be cured, but I don't believe that a mentally ill patients are not more dangerous than regular people.
@@ScarlettM When have you ever thought, "wow, what a pretty flower im going to pick it up and hit people with it as a way of doing something nice" in your narrative the person who picks up the hammer would just give it to the other person they want to show appreciation to while thinking it's a flower. Also, you're pretty much just making sweeping generalizations, one after another. You have such little knowledge of mental illness, please educate yourself properly. (and no politicians and political pundits don't count)
@@ScarlettM because that’s not how mental illness works. At all. You just made up an entire scenario of a mental illness that, if even possible, is so ridiculously rare it’s not even worth paying any attention to. Just because someone is mentally ill, doesn’t mean they’re more likely to be dangerous and all of the empirical data suggests that. In reality, regular healthy humans tend to be more inclined to violence
I really appreciate that Dr. Bender makes a point of frequently highlighting that mental illness does not necessitate violence. Especially right now, the way mental illness is villainized in our society is greatly driven by media presentation of MI. It’s just really nice to have this point reiterated so clearly and unambiguously.
I appreciate him normalizing crying and calling it cathartic. I just recently had a discussion with my 7 year old about sometimes everyone needing a good cry. I think alot of us (especially us older people) were raised with the shame of crying and to suck it up. When crying can actually be such a great release of excess emotion.
Yeah I always felt ashamed when I cried because I always heard "Men don't cry" so I always bottle up everything and try not to cry, it's probably why I love sad movies and songs and stuff because it gives me an excuse to cry.
@@Beautiful_Sound_1995 I get you. I have something weird, were I have never ever cried naturally. As in I am really good at controling my emotions and they do not get a hold of me, not even anger at the most stressful situations. I feel it, it is just that I can control them. That being said, I thought it was an strenght, for me to say I had never cried. Until one day heard something similar, to the comment you responded to. And told myself I should try it, and I did. It was indeed cathartic, it was ironic, because so many years I have been avoiding it as if it was an strength. And now, I force myself to cry every now and then, to remind me to allow myself to feel. Not because I am emotional, but because I am not. Every now and then, I watch something sad, and when I want to get teary, I think of all things in my life which are sad and let myself cry. Best therapy ever. Even tho, I do not really need to, I still think it is one of the best decissions I have ever made.
I wish they'd dedicate an entire episode of him debunking every movie/show they can find about Disassociative Identity Disorder. They're all terrible and as someone with DID, the way he humanizes us brought to me tears. We are not just goofy characters or serial killers. We are people who have suffered an immense amount of trauma that the average person can't even comprehend.
My heart goes out to you, truly it does. A good friend of mine also has DD, and the trouble she's given by people who don't take the time to get pas the old stereotypes is heartbreaking. Thankfully her family's been so very good to her, and her husband has always done all he can to support her. His own sister had it. Sadly, she died in a car accident when she was in her mid-twenties, but it's because of his experiences with his sister that he's been able to be there for my friend in the best way possible. I know that he has a difficult time of it, mainly because of some of her alters making it hard for him, but he''s sticking with her through thick and thin. I do hope that you have a great support system in your own life, @NEllis
Do you know any shows or movies that accurately portray DID, I’m curious to see if anyone has ever portrayed right and not just dramatize this disorder
DID is extremely rare and many psychiatrists argue that even the majority of current cases are not true DID, but rather some iteration of factitious disorder. It isn't just the movies that get DID wrong. There's a real lack of agreement and clarity in psychiatry about just what DID in a clinical situation really looks like. There are even psychiatrists who do not think DID is a real diagnosis - a controversial view, but a controversy that has had legs for decades now. That said, we can all agree that there are movie scripts that don't even understand that DID is supposed to be a dissociative disorder - not a psychotic disorder, not psychopathy, not bipolar, and certainly not demonic posession.
I love that Dr. Bender’s videos seem to be becoming an ongoing series because he is extremely thoughtful and quite good at explaining himself. I will always show up to watch these :)
He's definitely one of the better ones among these expert videos. If he was on WIRED, he'd probably even give dialect coach Erik Singer a run for his money.
Absolutely. Never stop stop doing these vids. Always come back for more. And as a 4th year psych student, this really helps me gain a more realistic understanding of mental health and the job of a psychiatrist or therapist.
I like how all of a sudden his energy got tender, safe, careful when talking about integrating the different personalities by helping process the trauma.
He talks so eloquently, calmly, and with such compassion you know he truly feels for everyone with mental illnesses. You can hear that there is no judgment in his speech at all and to his core he wants to help.
As a narcoleptic, the topic of sleep deprivation was interesting. I wish the government would listen to doctors that narcolepsy is a disability. It used to be but we all got bumped off about 5 years ago. I got a letter stating that they see no reason why I couldn’t have a full time job with narcolepsy. My sleep specialist was horrified.
I'm horrified for you. That is unacceptable. My shrink asks me about my sleep patterns everytime I have a session. One cannot function without proper sleep. It messes with our circadian rhythm as well as affecting our mood and brain activity.
I had a teacher with narcolepsy. Oddly he was an English teacher at a school for "Wayward girls" we loved him we would just wait he always picked up where he left off but we could tell he was exhausted by the end of the day.
The reveal of Shutter Island is one of the most difficult, gut-wrenching scenes I’ve watched in a movie. Such an impossibly horrific situation. It makes Leo’s psychosis seem understandable.
But if I recall it wasn’t definitive that that’s what happened. It was left open for interpretation, either you believe he really was already on the island OR the people there tricked him… we will never know.
I had to watch that movie twice because even I was caught up in it. I couldn't quite understand how he was ill In the first place totally freaked me out.
I am waiting for “Dr. Eric Bender reads thirst tweets” because I know doc’s been getting it and then some. Haha all jokes aside, I think his series is one of the most entertaining, informative, and adheres to sensitivities people often neglect to discuss (fighting the narrative of mental health = violence). Love this. It’s like watching mythbusters.
My mom was a psychiatric nurse for 40 years. Worked at a forensic hospital. She hates how mental health is portrayed in media. Says it’s always inaccurate. I remember when she saw Shutter Island she said that would never happen. No psychiatric hospital would ever let a patient live out their delusions.
Considering that Quaker oats and a fancy American college (I think it was Harvard but it might have been Yale) fed orphaned children radioactive oats to see what would happen I don't believe you can say definitively no to any evil scenario in a American mental hospital. Maybe not now but only bc it wouldn't be profitable .... I'm sure they'll be bringing back lobotomies any day now......
The Dr made the biggest and most important statement of being a Psychiatrist which is being compassionate and empathetic towards patients and see them with endearing respect. He understood everything about life.
now that he’s reviewed “Split” it would be really interesting to see him take a look at “Moon Knight” especially since it shows how Marc formed his alter, Steven, because of severe trauma and abuse.
I was pretty surprised at that because it would make more sense to me for Marc to be created off of Steven,cas this brave character who can deal with the abuse in place of Steven who can hide at the time. Why would Marc create an alter to have all the nice moments? Unless Steven was originally created as a protector too, to pretend that nothing's wrong in front of their mother - but there is no reason for him to not remember how he was called Marc by his mother (or other adults around); he would be used to pretending to be Marc. Long-time primary host (which Steven seems to be) without knowledge about the system (which Steven is at the beginning) usually would identify with the name of the body, even if they split off much later.
i thought the show would have been more interesting if SPOILER SPOILER SPOILER he was psychotic and the ethan hawke doctor was correct, in the vein of shutter island. the stuff in the psychiatric hospital when he doesn't know whats real and we as an audience don't either was more interesting to me
@@tymondabrowski12 Marc created Jake to be the protective alter. Steven is a stand-in for Marc’s pre-abuse self and possibly also his little brother: someone to protect and cherish and love.
Last month I got sleep deprived, having to stay awake for 36 hours because of a business trip and yes, I started to have sort of "flashing" hallucinations at the edges of my field of view during the last 3-6 hours before I finally could go to sleep. Actually quite similiar to how those quick flashes of Tyler Durden look during the first act of Fight Club.
I've had extreme insomnia for YEARS. It was actually greatly reduced by having my first baby, and also meant I was way more prepared to deal with the hugely reduced sleep deprivation that comes with newborns. But none of the mental health support I had before my kids EVER attempted to tackle my very serious delusions or hallucinations I had constantly before the pregnancies. Ever. Like, didn't even touch on it. So thanks for the explanation on sleep deprivation, I have so much more of an understanding as to what was going on to me back then.
Regarding Shutter Island, I'm pretty sure that he was never actually charged with murder in the first place. The entire exercise was the end of a long line of attempts by his old partner and boss to get him to acknowledge what happened but he was knowingly happier in his delusion of what happened, which is why at the end he basically demands to be lobotomized rather than continually be forced to face reality.
Black Swan was a really good depiction of someone in a psychotic break. The best scene that comes to mind for me is when she’s looking at her mom’s paintings
As someone who has had a psychotic break…I can confirm I’ve had hallucinations in mirrors before. I can’t watch movies like Black Swan because it can be triggering for me.
Incredibly informative and as someone who has mental health issues it was nice to see something as laid out properly as this ( myself having very poor experiences with therapist and psychologists)
A Beautiful Mind had an insane depiction of schizophrenia. It's a miracle how John Nash was able to mentally battle it out without medication, and even win a Nobel prize for his groundbreaking research. Mad respect.
He's so non-judgmental but also clearly empathetic to the way people with mental health issues are perceived and portrayed. Some of his breakdowns of movie scenes nearly made me cry. Will definitely watch all of his videos.
I've always thought that the 'club' in 'Fight Club' is an actual self-harm group for people that essentially hate themselves. Because of the sleep deprivation comes the depression, and with the depression, comes the anxiety. With the two combined, the self-doubts arrive, with the self-doubts comes the self-hate, and with the self-hate comes the urge of punishing yourself for not doing what you're supposed to.
I think it’s also about men in a society where they feel emasculated. They feel no sense of purpose anymore, they are no longer hunters, protectors, heroes. They are just purposeless consumers and slaves to the system. I think Fight Club is about creating purpose, creating real men and beheading the system that has emotionally castrated them. It’s certainly about toxic masculinity, with a character hallucinating his perfect male alter-ego (Tyler Durden) to finally achieve dominance, but ultimately ending up hand in hand with his female alter ego (Martha). It’s definitely a movie you could analyze for ages.
I always interpreted it as a means of risk taking. definitely associated with self harm. I wonder if the adrenaline can become habit forming once the people involved lose outside hobbies/friends. Tyler's group was very culty in their isolation and uniformity. I imagine that all the beatings/praise helped to remove those individual needs and transform into a shared group experience.
Kinda funny too , I completely lost it! when he was describing Scarface, saying he was so high he didn't even know people were breaking into his house lmao! idk? why? but that 1 got me.
I appreciate how he emphasizes the unfortunate way movies stigmatize mental illness. Of course mental illness is a great narrative tool but you just need to be really careful
It's unrealistic and reduces mental illness to ridiculous cliches. It felt like the purpose of the movie was the director of photography felt like doing an experimental piece to win an award at an arts festival.
My friend has DID and they speak differently sometimes depending on which “personality” is present. They have a little girl personality and act whiney and needy and talk in a little kid voice. It’s very jarring at first when you realize what’s happening, but they never scare me. I just react differently depending on which identity I’m speaking to. I’m more soft and caring and parental when this ID is present. My cousin also has schizophrenia and I’ve seen her in her psychotic episodes. It is scary, but not because they’re threatening or violent. You just want to make sure they’re ok because they’re in a vulnerable place mentally. I love how much Dr. Bender attempts to destigmatize mental health. This is how we should be treating it. ❤️
Given how rare DID, I am always surprised by the number of people who show up online claiming to have it - or know someone who does. Some portion of those claims must be people who are lying or who have factitious disorder. (People faking DID is something that has shown up a lot ever since it was first described and diagnosed. There are some famous cases.) Schizophrenia, on the other hand, is depressingly common. It can be so dehabilitating and the treatments are only just now starting to get better. I've always hated how people stigmatize schizophrenia. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
I've watched Fight Club with new appreciation recently- during my pregnancy I had terrible insomnia. At its worst I went 8 days without a single minute of sleep (unless you add up the microsleeps, I guess) and it was genuine torture. I had visual hallucinations, including stuff very similar to the mirror scene in Black Swan where I perceived my reflection moving with a lag and barely recognized my own face. The auditory hallucinations were the v worst though. It sounded like unspecific but very angry yelling and growling right behind me. I was constantly bursting into tears, curling into the fetal position, and begging for relief. Wouldn't wish that level of sleep deprivation on my worst enemy.
I only ever have had insomnia when pregnant. Not like your experience, but I now appreciate what my husband is talking about when he says he can't think because of the insomnia
Guess you should finally come to terms with your lycantropy then, duh But seriously, friends (who are parents) also told us about hallucinations during pregnancy, but your story is terrifying. Hope you are better now
my friend stayed up for just about 2 nights, and she heard a halucination of a man saying "GO TO SLEEP". Very scary, and insomnia is an underrated scary thing.
I love the videos with him. He’s so intelligent, and you can also see that he empathizes with mental health patients. Additionally, I imagine he is what Superman would look like.
I always think it's so funny when people, or I guess women specifically, pile on the non looks specific compliments and then slip in something about looks at the end 😂 never fails to make me laugh
I’ve had auditory hallucinations due to severe postpartum sleep deprivation. It really is torture. The hallucinations were sudden and quick. Like the sound of a rushing train, etc. I was fully aware of what it was and why it was happening. Finally getting some sleep took care of it.
I have been sleep deprived for 48 to 72 hours many times on jobs. Same mild auditory and visual hallucinations each time. Somebody far away calling my name and something darting by in my periphial vision. Exhausted but still realize the cause of it. Thanks for posting. Interesting video.
i rarely get enough sleep & always feel a bit floaty but last month i didn't sleep for 80 hours or so & was in the hospital (i wasn't sleeping bc i was in pain) & towards the end of a very excruciating day in the ER, i had a bout of psychosis & thought the nurses were part of a cult with guns & coming to get me. i ended up ripping my iv out 3 times before they sedated me. blood everywhere. i don't remember hardly any of it but it felt so real, it was horrifying.
I love him talking about all mental illnesses without this 'excitement' we often see as if people are diggining into this mystical topic and those with mental illnesses are deeply interesting circus acts.
I agree with you, however as someone mentally ill, has experienced a form of psychosis, a n d wants to be a psychologist, I would say that when a psychologist is excited it is not because they are viewing someone mentally ill as a circus attraction, it is because they are passionate about the science and helping. They are, if anything, the most desensitized.
Last year I was working three jobs for a while, and for a few weeks I worked 7 days a week for more than 15 hours a day. at one point I felt like I was so sleep deprived I was feeling weird. I saw things without necessarily seeing it, it was more in a sense of feeling something was there. a really trippy feeling that i dont wanna experience again
With the sleep deprivation: I used to stay up for 30-72 hours at a time. There was a point once when I was writing a paper, and even though my hands were moving and I was writing just fine, I was hallucinating waves and scenes on the paper and hearing voices. Essentially, I was dreaming with my eyes open, while still conscious. One of the strangest experiences of my life, but when you haven’t had sleep you don’t really get surprised or weirded out so I kinda just went with it.
It feels very calming how a professional psychiatrist doesn't just rule this or that, but explain that there's almost unlimited reasons for what's happening and that there's just not enough information, that it would require further inspection to decide on anything. I'd feel good being diagnosed and helped by him for sure. Just with this review he makes it feel very safe and not the least bit judgmental. Other than the fact that he reminds me of the scarecrow. Which is fancy but concerning.
@Perregrine Perch there are plenty of people in the psych field who don’t even believe dissociative identity disorder really exists. It could be an artifact of misinterpretation of episodes of dissociation, which we’ve all experienced to some degree. One thing that becomes very clear is that the DSM-5 criteria for almost every psychiatric diagnosis leaves more to be desired and are imperfect due to their amount of overlap
At that time, I couldn't stop laughing, it was just too much. '' Well of course it is! If I grabbed a grenade launcher, It would be a great sign that I had suddenly gotten'myself ten times more violent! ''
It'd be great if he could cover the cases shown in shows like Criminal Minds and Law & Order; also I really like how much he stresses that people with mental disabilities are not inherently violent/bad
As a psychologist myself, this was a very good explanation. Thank you for representing and qualifying the different manifestations of mental illness - very well. ❤️
The black swan mirror thing is what I'm experiencing when I dissociate. I can make whatever faces in front of a mirror, but my reflection is just staring at me with a hint of anger. I know that it's not the case, but my brain pushes this image in front of the actual image I'm seeing. That's why I actively avoid any reflecting surfaces when I'm in an episode.
@@ArgyleDinosaur it was the first thing I noticed and after watching the video I feel very bad about it because he's clearly very good at his profession but I couldn't help noticing.
Really great to see Dr. Bender show up again! He's great at articulating what he's saying in a way the public can understand easily and he's also got a voice that's calming to listen to. I hope he comes on more!
As somebody who has experienced extreme sleep deprivation for training purposes in the military, I can attest to the hallucinations. I can easily see if being used as a form of torture.
Problem with the Shutter Island analysis, is that when he goes into a dissociative state makes knowing that he was aware of his actions at the time of killing his wife impossible to know. Its not like there is a witness to what happened, and if his state is completely unaware of the crime there is no way to come to that conclusion.
I'm confused by this comment as it is very clearly shown and stated in the movie that he knew what he was doing when he killed her. That's really not a point of contention in the movie.
@@TheHeadincharge They're referring to the idea that in character they might not be able to reasonably come to the conclusion that he was aware. If he really did have a complete dissociative episode and was just not *there* afterward when the police arrived, it's totally understandable that they (The Police and courts) might come to that conclusion that he wasn't aware because, as far as they could tell, he wasn't. It wouldn't have been until he came back to himself that the truth would've come out. At which point... he probably would've been sent to a more typical prison, or the case re-evaluated entirely with the new information.
I definitely would love to have you do an in depth explanation of D.I.D. You explain things pretty dang well and you touched on that a lot here in this video.
I have been mentally ill a long time but it was an intense bout of chronic insomnia where I didn’t sleep for a week and then was hospitalized that got me a proper diagnose. I have DID and CPTSD
Dr Bender, you are the best guest on the breakdown and I'm glad they keep getting you in. I very much hope that they keep getting you back in for more movies and perhaps some games as well!
As someone living with chronic pain I can attest it can and most likely will affect cognitive and emotional skill in long term, there was a period I was set in my mind that ending my own life was the only solution. I methodically started planning the different methods that was least damaging to my body as I still wanted to donate my organs etc, I informed my loved ones and family in a very emotionally deprived and logical way of my decision to give them time to say their good byes etc. Looking back at it I realize how frightening it really was, at that time I already felt dead inside and it was only my physical flesh remaining, I've gone to therapy and rehabilitation and found a way of not living with my pain yet but at least surviving. At that time I wasn't medicated so I could hardly sleep because of nerve pain, my view of the world became distorted due to me alienating myself because I believed no one wanted to help me. Please know how devestating it can be, but with the right medications and physical therapy life can seem livable again, mental health issues doesn't just happen to certain people it can and most likely will happen to many in different variations and caused by different things.
Sleep deprivation was the biggest trip I’ve ever had. Not LSD, shrooms, powder, etc. One and-a-half week without sleep or food made me trip harder than I ever experienced. Complete out-of-body.
I have insomnia and after 4-5 days without sleep, I have to take a decent amount of medication because if I don't, I know what will happen and it's terrifying. I too experienced with theses drugs and it's nothing like sleep deprivation. I don't take anything to help me sleep after only 2-3 days even if I'm tired because I don't like the side effects but after 4 days I definitely have to.
Doc straight up dropped a Chappelle’s Show reference without missing a beat. And used ‘malingering’ enough that I felt like I was back at boot camp 😂 Well played, sir
It would be really cool to see him take a look and hear his insights towards some David Lynch films, namely Mulholland Drive or Lost Highway. Also, the villainous characters in Michael Haneke's Funny Games, the original rather than the remake.
When I moved out with my son on my own for the first time, I was working so much just to cover child care and rent, that I was lacking sleep for around a week and a half. Like falling asleep standing up, tired. I went to the kitchen and put the dishes in the dishwasher, and went to try and sleep while my parents had my son for a couple hours, and I smelled something on fire, I had hallucinated putting dishes in the dishwasher and I had actually put them in the oven. My parents ended up taking a lot of the child care hours until I got one good job instead of 2 crappy ones.. That was 5 years ago, and my son and I just moved into a bigger 3 bedroom, and I've since taken a promotion. But I've never let that day escape my mind, I could have burned the entire building down.
Thank youuuuuuu for mention the over-emphasis on violence and mental illness. It's so frustrating that people seem to think mental illness = violent criminal
Awesome video! Love the breakdown of the scenes. A good case of DID is present in the Moon Knight comics along with the TV Series. Oscar Isaac did an amazing job portraying this illness.
When I was about 20 I did an experiment of my own with sleep deprivation. I went 72 hours without sleep. I worked a night shift cleaning a children's fun center at the time so I could easily conduct this experiment. At 72 hours without sleep I began to have the auditory and visual hallucinations. For me, it was a growling, teeth-bared with spittle pouring, Doberman Pincher that would appear out of the corner of my vision. Obviously this would cause my head to snap around to look at this threat, and of course when I did the doberman would disappear. That was the close of the experiment for me - just wanted to see what would happen. Information received. Thanks - no need to repeat.
Gotta say, the distortion in the mirror could also be caused in real life if someone just focuses intensely in their own stare in a mirror -- I forgot the specifics, but apparently it's near-impossible for your eyes to truly focus correctly while staring in a mirror, it needs a spot it can focus on so that your vision doesn't become corrupted (same reason why when you look your vision droops down slowly-- your eye has to have some motion or else it can't perceive light, you'd be blind. Back when I was 19 I had this tall mirror in my apartment and one day I decided to sit and stare into it and not blink at all. y'know that scene in that hannibal tv show where that dude sees himself in a mirror and it's all twisted and scary? It was kinda like that. I vividly remember my left eye that was now on my neck, and my lips in the reflection suddenly moving on their own despite me not saying anything, and then I saw my eyes blinked and I freaked out and snapped out of it. No wonder there's so many myths and superstitions about mirrors.
As a mentally I’ll person who is very frustrated with how my diagnosis is depicted in film watching you break these down and explain the parts they got right as well as the parts that aren’t so accurate I just feel so seen I just finished the video where you talked about silver linings playbook and what a manic espouse looks like as well as how they feel I feel very seen and very much less of a freak I have really severe bipolar symptoms and my mania last long periods and I don’t sleep for days at a time and I’m like physically exhausted but I have this compulsion to keep going keep moving keep doing whatever my current obsession is and it’s frustrating then I sleep for days when I come down and it’s ruined my career I can’t even get jobs I’m qualified for anymore and medicine isn’t terribly helpful for me I’m going in for ECT therapy soon so I’m hoping it provides some relief
I'd love to see this guy analyze The Ward (2010) and its take on DID, seeing as it's secretly about therapy forcing someone to create one last alter to aid in integrating the personalities and bring back the "ghost" of the original host personality, one that had been buried under the other alters for years due to trauma.
I clicked on this video because I have experienced psychosis in the past. I thought it might be triggering, but his clinical analysis of these scenes actually made me understand my own psychosis better. I have never been violent during a psychotic episode, and I love that he puts such an emphasis on the fact that psychotic people are not violent by nature. My episodes were often delusions of grandeur, which frightened me. When you think the universe is speaking to you through overheard conversations, it’s scary. Psychotic people are often *scared,* not violent.
Sleep deprivation is no joke! My second year of college I was working two jobs and going to school full time and I was lucky if I got 5 hours sleep a night and I had no emotional regulation for about 3 months until I got "used to it" 😓
Fightclub is one of my favorite movies so learning the mental ideology behind fightclub and how it’s pretty accurate with the realities of sleep deprivation is amazing 💜
Back when I used to have Insomnia and would be awake for several days and there were a few times where I'd see things usually bugs crawling on me that weren't really there. It freaked me out a lot because it was so sudden.
I've been in therapy for 2 years now and I have the feeling I've spent at least half of it talking about my sleep quality and trying to find out solutions and balance to it with my psychiatrist. And I can see now that most people I know are dealing with sleeping issues.
I thought the acting by James McAvoy was stunningly brilliant and, although obviously highly dramatized, made the movie believable and let the audience stay connected instead of just seeing it as an absurd Hollywood plot.
I appreciate that this guy has actually seen these movies before doing the breakdown. Sometimes during these breakdowns they're watching a scene for the first time.
I've had Schizophrenia since childhood and it's really annoying how movies make us seem like we're just some bloodthirsty monsters who roam around and kill people. Edit: Turns out that I was misdiagnosed all those years but I still believe that it's a misunderstood disorder.
Reminded me of talking to this man with schizophrenia whome the entire neighborhood used to avoid. He was such a sweet man and I felt extremely sorry for how people viewed him. We became friends but I moved out after a while and couldnt find him anymore😢
@@justkamola awwww this is truly sad! Well, can't say that ppl weren't afraid of me too.. it's quite sad bc most of these stereotypes about us were made by the filming industry for the funs and chills and then we pay the price of having this illness. You truly are a good person! I may not be that man but still ty
Yeah seriously. And they also misunderstand how our psychosis works. Have you planned Hellblade:Senua’s sacrifice? It’s a very extreme depiction of physchosis, but the auditory hallucinations are really well designed imho.
@@bwal9374 Oh yeah. They think that psychosis = not having a mind anymore when in reality your sense of reality would be highly impaired but is still there. They put a person in an extremely wierd costume and tell them to repeat the same phrases over and over and voila! You got yourself the schizophrenic character, that's when they choose to make it seem not so violent and let's not even talk about the "violent schizophrenic" in every horror movie here lol xD And yeah I played it since I'm a gamer and I think that they did really well when it came to the auditory hallucinations. I liked how they did some research about this disorder instead of brainstorming the character.
One of my worst fears is developing a dissociative state where I couldn't be sure which of my memories are actually real or how I got into some situation.
this guy is the most psychiatrist looking psychiatrist i've ever seen... I love it
🤣 yes your so right
He probably dressed for the part. :-D
The psychiatrist looks insane - that eraser head hairdo makes it hard to take this seriously…
Nah, not enough tweed
1000% accurate
He kinda looks like he could split logs with his bare hands but he also seems like a very understanding and gentle individual who can brew various types of tea
He looks like an Elf so this is fitting
@@vis1990 his earss
I read it as split legs. Help I'm not ok
gotta' love how specific this is
Now that you mention it, he looks like a much, much better Clark Kent disguise than actual Clark Kent. With the (not 100% fitting? not sure myself) vest and the tie and the glasses ... but now that you put the thought in my head: that's some set of shoulders.
Dang it. Totally here to learn something about psychology, and then youtube steers my thoughts into the gutter once again.
i’m so happy he spoke about how serious sleep-deprivation is . i struggled w severe insomnia for 2 years & it absolutely annihilated my mental state . & as someone who has BPD- in my youth i would also sleep-deprive myself as a method of self sabotage . i think the damage done by lack of sleep is heavily underrated in the general public . everyone knows you should get 8/9 hrs but no one takes it seriously . just getting enough sleep can vastly improve your mood even if you struggle w chronic disorders . it’s a shame it’s so overlooked
I'm struggling with insomnia right now and I'm on my 4th script. I'm also on the spectrum, and I'm really starting to feel like I'm losing my grip. I'm hoping I can get a handle on this before I have an episode this severe. I know it's just a movie but if you read actual accounts of what people have done in an insomnia induced psychosis, it's not helping.
@@PandaMonium92827 i hope you find something that works for you soon ! one thing i noted in my own experience is that panicking makes things worse ! the more you focus on the damage you fear your insomnia may cause then the more likely you are to suffer those damages . be gentle with yourself as much as you can :)) !
I didn't have this for more than a week but at its peek my heart had serios struggles to function properly. I can't even begin to understand how you would handle that in years
That doctor looks like a prison system shill. So no one in these films actually insane they all belong to prison. What an idiot
Same, I've always struggled with sleep, but then severe depression and anxiety made me self sabotage myself until I wasn't sleeping for 24, 36, sometimes 48 hours at a time, which only made the depression and anxiety worse, a terrible cycle. I honestly don't remember much of those 2 years before I went to get help, memory issues caused by sleep deprivation and all that. But after getting help I still have a lot of trouble with sleep but my mood and everything else is so much better in comparison. The days where I get enough sleep to not develop that sleep deprivation headache are some of the best days lol
I really appreciate how Doctor Bender repeatedly states in every video that people with mental health issues are not more likely to be violent or dangerous. Thank you, Doctor, for helping to fight the narrative that we should be afraid of people with certain diagnoses.
How can a person that doesn't fully comprehend reality not be dangerous? Mental health patient can just as easily pick a hammer thinking it's a flower and bash you on the head thinking he is giving you something nice. There is no violence or ill intent, just a person that does not understand what they are holding and how it can affect (damage) other things (people). It's unpredictability and lack of self control/awareness that makes mentally ill people dangerous (same goes for drug users, since they can have the same problem during a bad trip). I do not wish ill on anyone and I hope that any and all people with mental illness will be cured, but I don't believe that a mentally ill patients are not more dangerous than regular people.
@@ScarlettM When have you ever thought, "wow, what a pretty flower im going to pick it up and hit people with it as a way of doing something nice" in your narrative the person who picks up the hammer would just give it to the other person they want to show appreciation to while thinking it's a flower. Also, you're pretty much just making sweeping generalizations, one after another. You have such little knowledge of mental illness, please educate yourself properly. (and no politicians and political pundits don't count)
@@ScarlettM because that’s not how mental illness works. At all. You just made up an entire scenario of a mental illness that, if even possible, is so ridiculously rare it’s not even worth paying any attention to. Just because someone is mentally ill, doesn’t mean they’re more likely to be dangerous and all of the empirical data suggests that. In reality, regular healthy humans tend to be more inclined to violence
Weird how most violent/dangerous people are people with mental health issues. Weird, right?
@@ScarlettM Because people who do are just as likely to be dangerous. Come on, keep up.
I like that the Dr is not only skilled in his profession, but also seems to have a good understanding of cinema and filmmaking.
Maybe he has dissociative identity disorder.
He was rejected in the movie school, that is why he had to become a psychiatrist.
@@geckoo9190 Awesome backstory.
And information about what coke does to your meat😭👍
Dr who?
I really appreciate that Dr. Bender makes a point of frequently highlighting that mental illness does not necessitate violence. Especially right now, the way mental illness is villainized in our society is greatly driven by media presentation of MI. It’s just really nice to have this point reiterated so clearly and unambiguously.
Indubitably.
The mentally ill are more often victims *of* crime rather perpetrating it.
I love how nonjudgmental he is and how he so clearly explains that mental illness does not equal violence.
BECAUSE these are ONLY MOVIES !!!!!
@@KAdams-dr4pc He is talking about real life as well, there are many individuals with mental illness that do not going around causing violence
Although statistically speaking it does equal an increase.
@@Urbanconservative depending on the context and situation at hand.
Colorado *
I appreciate him normalizing crying and calling it cathartic. I just recently had a discussion with my 7 year old about sometimes everyone needing a good cry. I think alot of us (especially us older people) were raised with the shame of crying and to suck it up. When crying can actually be such a great release of excess emotion.
I fully agree with you!
Yeah I always felt ashamed when I cried because I always heard "Men don't cry" so I always bottle up everything and try not to cry, it's probably why I love sad movies and songs and stuff because it gives me an excuse to cry.
I dunno. I haven't cried since i was a kid. It just doesn't feel like something i would do.
@@Beautiful_Sound_1995 I get you. I have something weird, were I have never ever cried naturally. As in I am really good at controling my emotions and they do not get a hold of me, not even anger at the most stressful situations. I feel it, it is just that I can control them.
That being said, I thought it was an strenght, for me to say I had never cried. Until one day heard something similar, to the comment you responded to. And told myself I should try it, and I did.
It was indeed cathartic, it was ironic, because so many years I have been avoiding it as if it was an strength. And now, I force myself to cry every now and then, to remind me to allow myself to feel. Not because I am emotional, but because I am not. Every now and then, I watch something sad, and when I want to get teary, I think of all things in my life which are sad and let myself cry. Best therapy ever. Even tho, I do not really need to, I still think it is one of the best decissions I have ever made.
hard to cry more than 3 tears since the past few years. it just cuts off so quick
I wish they'd dedicate an entire episode of him debunking every movie/show they can find about Disassociative Identity Disorder. They're all terrible and as someone with DID, the way he humanizes us brought to me tears. We are not just goofy characters or serial killers. We are people who have suffered an immense amount of trauma that the average person can't even comprehend.
My heart goes out to you, truly it does. A good friend of mine also has DD, and the trouble she's given by people who don't take the time to get pas the old stereotypes is heartbreaking. Thankfully her family's been so very good to her, and her husband has always done all he can to support her. His own sister had it. Sadly, she died in a car accident when she was in her mid-twenties, but it's because of his experiences with his sister that he's been able to be there for my friend in the best way possible. I know that he has a difficult time of it, mainly because of some of her alters making it hard for him, but he''s sticking with her through thick and thin.
I do hope that you have a great support system in your own life, @NEllis
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Do you know any shows or movies that accurately portray DID, I’m curious to see if anyone has ever portrayed right and not just dramatize this disorder
who's him?
DID is extremely rare and many psychiatrists argue that even the majority of current cases are not true DID, but rather some iteration of factitious disorder.
It isn't just the movies that get DID wrong. There's a real lack of agreement and clarity in psychiatry about just what DID in a clinical situation really looks like. There are even psychiatrists who do not think DID is a real diagnosis - a controversial view, but a controversy that has had legs for decades now.
That said, we can all agree that there are movie scripts that don't even understand that DID is supposed to be a dissociative disorder - not a psychotic disorder, not psychopathy, not bipolar, and certainly not demonic posession.
I love that Dr. Bender’s videos seem to be becoming an ongoing series because he is extremely thoughtful and quite good at explaining himself. I will always show up to watch these :)
He's definitely one of the better ones among these expert videos. If he was on WIRED, he'd probably even give dialect coach Erik Singer a run for his money.
Yessss
@@cmilla111 I'm thirsty for him just like with Mr. Sweeney.
@@cmilla111 you just made me realize I’m now watching wired haha
Absolutely. Never stop stop doing these vids. Always come back for more. And as a 4th year psych student, this really helps me gain a more realistic understanding of mental health and the job of a psychiatrist or therapist.
He's dressed like any movie Psychiatrist that turns out to be the bad guy.
Its the hair
@@glebrao It's the money
😂
Don't hate on the folded sleeves
He's got drip though lool
I like how all of a sudden his energy got tender, safe, careful when talking about integrating the different personalities by helping process the trauma.
You can tell he wanted anyone who was watching and could relate would feel … seen? Understood, maybe? Or at least not misunderstood.
❤
He talks so eloquently, calmly, and with such compassion you know he truly feels for everyone with mental illnesses. You can hear that there is no judgment in his speech at all and to his core he wants to help.
@Freddie Krueger yeah but there are a lot of people with his job who are not like that 🤷🏼♀️
As someone with bipolar disorder - thank you for constantly reiterating that mental illness does not equate violence.
I’m so happy he’s destroying falsehoods & stereotypes about mental illness.
As a narcoleptic, the topic of sleep deprivation was interesting. I wish the government would listen to doctors that narcolepsy is a disability. It used to be but we all got bumped off about 5 years ago. I got a letter stating that they see no reason why I couldn’t have a full time job with narcolepsy. My sleep specialist was horrified.
I have insomnia, and I agree. Anything regarding messed up sleep should be.
I'm horrified for you. That is unacceptable. My shrink asks me about my sleep patterns everytime I have a session. One cannot function without proper sleep. It messes with our circadian rhythm as well as affecting our mood and brain activity.
I had a teacher with narcolepsy. Oddly he was an English teacher at a school for "Wayward girls" we loved him we would just wait he always picked up where he left off but we could tell he was exhausted by the end of the day.
I’m sorry
Have you tried CBD, Delta8, Valerian Root, or combing benadryl with Ashwagandha?
Eric should definitely come back. He and the mortition are my favorite experts that have been on GQ
Both of them together would be so good!
I’d sign up for their podcast.
Mortitian was on Wired, not GQ?
@@fxrdo The amount of time it took you to reply was not worth looking like a child. Chillax bruh.
*mortician
He's the kind of person you know is really good at what he does and that he treats his patients with real kindness and compassion.
The reveal of Shutter Island is one of the most difficult, gut-wrenching scenes I’ve watched in a movie. Such an impossibly horrific situation. It makes Leo’s psychosis seem understandable.
The fact that they left it open ended makes it all the more mind fucky
Yeah as the audience, we were really rooting for him as a character and it’s heartbreaking when you realize the truth.
right?! i was actually really sad after watching it
But if I recall it wasn’t definitive that that’s what happened. It was left open for interpretation, either you believe he really was already on the island OR the people there tricked him… we will never know.
I had to watch that movie twice because even I was caught up in it. I couldn't quite understand how he was ill In the first place totally freaked me out.
I am waiting for “Dr. Eric Bender reads thirst tweets” because I know doc’s been getting it and then some. Haha all jokes aside, I think his series is one of the most entertaining, informative, and adheres to sensitivities people often neglect to discuss (fighting the narrative of mental health = violence). Love this. It’s like watching mythbusters.
He has 3 other videos on this channel! And WIRED's 'Technique Critique' series has a bunch of similar content as well.
*Dr. Eric Bender Reads Thirst Tweets* needs to happen, GQ. They know what they're doing with him dressed so sleek & handsome
@@SiSi-xg1hk absolutely agree!
honestly, a hot psychiatrist is my worst nightmare 😅 but he's always a very fun watch, and not for that reason lol.
😅😆😆
My mom was a psychiatric nurse for 40 years. Worked at a forensic hospital. She hates how mental health is portrayed in media. Says it’s always inaccurate.
I remember when she saw Shutter Island she said that would never happen. No psychiatric hospital would ever let a patient live out their delusions.
I mean this was 70 years ago🤣
@@dddffr4392 are you a time traveler?
@@oddy_ordo_salutisI think they meant that it’s not so far fetched considering some of the wild psychiatric measures 70 years ago.
Considering that Quaker oats and a fancy American college (I think it was Harvard but it might have been Yale) fed orphaned children radioactive oats to see what would happen I don't believe you can say definitively no to any evil scenario in a American mental hospital. Maybe not now but only bc it wouldn't be profitable .... I'm sure they'll be bringing back lobotomies any day now......
Movies are not real life. Incredible that people dont get that.
The Dr made the biggest and most important statement of being a Psychiatrist which is being compassionate and empathetic towards patients and see them with endearing respect. He understood everything about life.
now that he’s reviewed “Split” it would be really interesting to see him take a look at “Moon Knight” especially since it shows how Marc formed his alter, Steven, because of severe trauma and abuse.
I was pretty surprised at that because it would make more sense to me for Marc to be created off of Steven,cas this brave character who can deal with the abuse in place of Steven who can hide at the time. Why would Marc create an alter to have all the nice moments? Unless Steven was originally created as a protector too, to pretend that nothing's wrong in front of their mother - but there is no reason for him to not remember how he was called Marc by his mother (or other adults around); he would be used to pretending to be Marc. Long-time primary host (which Steven seems to be) without knowledge about the system (which Steven is at the beginning) usually would identify with the name of the body, even if they split off much later.
i thought the show would have been more interesting if SPOILER SPOILER SPOILER he was psychotic and the ethan hawke doctor was correct, in the vein of shutter island. the stuff in the psychiatric hospital when he doesn't know whats real and we as an audience don't either was more interesting to me
We would love that
If you're still interested he already did a review for Moon knight in one of his other videos
@@tymondabrowski12 Marc created Jake to be the protective alter. Steven is a stand-in for Marc’s pre-abuse self and possibly also his little brother: someone to protect and cherish and love.
Last month I got sleep deprived, having to stay awake for 36 hours because of a business trip and yes, I started to have sort of "flashing" hallucinations at the edges of my field of view during the last 3-6 hours before I finally could go to sleep. Actually quite similiar to how those quick flashes of Tyler Durden look during the first act of Fight Club.
This guy is easily one of the best for the breakdowns
He really breaks down the break downs.
He doesn't ruin the movies. Good movie awareness.
Ya he got sloppy.
Fight club too
@@jj-if6it how else is he going to talk about them then?
@@jj-if6it The movies were released a long time ago, it's on you if you haven't watched it yet.
@@hornyboii9200 I was just replying to Tyler who said he doesn't ruin the movies. I've seen them all...
I've had extreme insomnia for YEARS. It was actually greatly reduced by having my first baby, and also meant I was way more prepared to deal with the hugely reduced sleep deprivation that comes with newborns. But none of the mental health support I had before my kids EVER attempted to tackle my very serious delusions or hallucinations I had constantly before the pregnancies. Ever. Like, didn't even touch on it. So thanks for the explanation on sleep deprivation, I have so much more of an understanding as to what was going on to me back then.
Regarding Shutter Island, I'm pretty sure that he was never actually charged with murder in the first place. The entire exercise was the end of a long line of attempts by his old partner and boss to get him to acknowledge what happened but he was knowingly happier in his delusion of what happened, which is why at the end he basically demands to be lobotomized rather than continually be forced to face reality.
Yeah, the book made that more clear. Plus book Andrew was huge and a much bigger threat to others.
I thought that was a given? What did people think otherwise?
o.o
@@carlathedestructor2454 who is Andrew in the movie
You mean attempts by his psychiatrist and the head of the mental institution.
Black Swan was a really good depiction of someone in a psychotic break. The best scene that comes to mind for me is when she’s looking at her mom’s paintings
Yes! Great movie and depiction of mental illness. Only issue....that's not Nina. That's Natalie Portman.
@@krystalpollard1238 wasn't Nina the name of the character she was playing though?
As someone who has had a psychotic break…I can confirm I’ve had hallucinations in mirrors before. I can’t watch movies like Black Swan because it can be triggering for me.
@@Bubblies005 eisoptrophobia?
@@goldenhorde6944 It’s not that. Imagine seeing a hallucination in a mirror of something that doesn’t exist. For me it was shadow people.
Incredibly informative and as someone who has mental health issues it was nice to see something as laid out properly as this ( myself having very poor experiences with therapist and psychologists)
A Beautiful Mind had an insane depiction of schizophrenia. It's a miracle how John Nash was able to mentally battle it out without medication, and even win a Nobel prize for his groundbreaking research. Mad respect.
One of the reasons could be that the intensity of symptoms of Schizophrenia flatten with age
@@ziaekaf3504 what do you mean by flatten? Like plateau and get no worse?
Terrible, stupid movie
He's so non-judgmental but also clearly empathetic to the way people with mental health issues are perceived and portrayed. Some of his breakdowns of movie scenes nearly made me cry. Will definitely watch all of his videos.
I've always thought that the 'club' in 'Fight Club' is an actual self-harm group for people that essentially hate themselves. Because of the sleep deprivation comes the depression, and with the depression, comes the anxiety. With the two combined, the self-doubts arrive, with the self-doubts comes the self-hate, and with the self-hate comes the urge of punishing yourself for not doing what you're supposed to.
I think it’s also about men in a society where they feel emasculated. They feel no sense of purpose anymore, they are no longer hunters, protectors, heroes. They are just purposeless consumers and slaves to the system. I think Fight Club is about creating purpose, creating real men and beheading the system that has emotionally castrated them. It’s certainly about toxic masculinity, with a character hallucinating his perfect male alter-ego (Tyler Durden) to finally achieve dominance, but ultimately ending up hand in hand with his female alter ego (Martha). It’s definitely a movie you could analyze for ages.
I always interpreted it as a means of risk taking. definitely associated with self harm. I wonder if the adrenaline can become habit forming once the people involved lose outside hobbies/friends. Tyler's group was very culty in their isolation and uniformity. I imagine that all the beatings/praise helped to remove those individual needs and transform into a shared group experience.
I just thought it was extremely primal individuals craving the fight or flight response who didn't have careers in combat sports.
This guy is a master at his craft, he's also a good presenter and a good explainer. Please, bring him more times to the show!
Kinda funny too , I completely lost it! when he was describing Scarface, saying he was so high he didn't even know people were breaking into his house lmao! idk? why? but that 1 got me.
Why is this psychiarist built like a Greek God while speaking mental issues and movie analysis????? Man's a whole package 😭
The real superman
Right!?!
I'm like 🥵🥵😍😍
🥺🥺🥺
Total female gaze!! 🤤
I think this doctor is amazing...I love how he explains everything... and honestly, he most definitely is not bad on the eyes!!!
I appreciate how he emphasizes the unfortunate way movies stigmatize mental illness. Of course mental illness is a great narrative tool but you just need to be really careful
Eek
Oh,my
Shutter Island is such a criminally underrated movie.
Agreed! Look at the rating on Rotten Tomatoes. Far too low
I was on board until the mental illness twist. For me it felt like a pretty tropey/campy conclusion
When I was in Boston, going to Salem, on the boat we went past the island where it was filmed. Pretty cool.
It's unrealistic and reduces mental illness to ridiculous cliches. It felt like the purpose of the movie was the director of photography felt like doing an experimental piece to win an award at an arts festival.
@@autumnatic I felt the same way.
My friend has DID and they speak differently sometimes depending on which “personality” is present. They have a little girl personality and act whiney and needy and talk in a little kid voice. It’s very jarring at first when you realize what’s happening, but they never scare me. I just react differently depending on which identity I’m speaking to. I’m more soft and caring and parental when this ID is present. My cousin also has schizophrenia and I’ve seen her in her psychotic episodes. It is scary, but not because they’re threatening or violent. You just want to make sure they’re ok because they’re in a vulnerable place mentally. I love how much Dr. Bender attempts to destigmatize mental health. This is how we should be treating it. ❤️
Given how rare DID, I am always surprised by the number of people who show up online claiming to have it - or know someone who does. Some portion of those claims must be people who are lying or who have factitious disorder. (People faking DID is something that has shown up a lot ever since it was first described and diagnosed. There are some famous cases.)
Schizophrenia, on the other hand, is depressingly common. It can be so dehabilitating and the treatments are only just now starting to get better. I've always hated how people stigmatize schizophrenia. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
I've watched Fight Club with new appreciation recently- during my pregnancy I had terrible insomnia. At its worst I went 8 days without a single minute of sleep (unless you add up the microsleeps, I guess) and it was genuine torture. I had visual hallucinations, including stuff very similar to the mirror scene in Black Swan where I perceived my reflection moving with a lag and barely recognized my own face. The auditory hallucinations were the v worst though. It sounded like unspecific but very angry yelling and growling right behind me. I was constantly bursting into tears, curling into the fetal position, and begging for relief. Wouldn't wish that level of sleep deprivation on my worst enemy.
Sheesh, sounds horrible. Hope you never have to live through that again!
I only ever have had insomnia when pregnant. Not like your experience, but I now appreciate what my husband is talking about when he says he can't think because of the insomnia
Guess you should finally come to terms with your lycantropy then, duh
But seriously, friends (who are parents) also told us about hallucinations during pregnancy, but your story is terrifying. Hope you are better now
i just hear more and more things that make me never want to be pregnant
my friend stayed up for just about 2 nights, and she heard a halucination of a man saying "GO TO SLEEP". Very scary, and insomnia is an underrated scary thing.
I love the videos with him. He’s so intelligent, and you can also see that he empathizes with mental health patients. Additionally, I imagine he is what Superman would look like.
My bother kept sying he plis dressed and looks like Clark Kent, down to the glasses.
I always think it's so funny when people, or I guess women specifically, pile on the non looks specific compliments and then slip in something about looks at the end 😂 never fails to make me laugh
I’ve had auditory hallucinations due to severe postpartum sleep deprivation. It really is torture. The hallucinations were sudden and quick. Like the sound of a rushing train, etc. I was fully aware of what it was and why it was happening. Finally getting some sleep took care of it.
I have been sleep deprived for 48 to 72 hours many times on jobs. Same mild auditory and visual hallucinations each time. Somebody far away calling my name and something darting by in my periphial vision. Exhausted but still realize the cause of it. Thanks for posting. Interesting video.
i have the same experience. i hear whispering and get visual distortions in my peripheral
i rarely get enough sleep & always feel a bit floaty but last month i didn't sleep for 80 hours or so & was in the hospital (i wasn't sleeping bc i was in pain) & towards the end of a very excruciating day in the ER, i had a bout of psychosis & thought the nurses were part of a cult with guns & coming to get me. i ended up ripping my iv out 3 times before they sedated me. blood everywhere. i don't remember hardly any of it but it felt so real, it was horrifying.
the correct term for that is hallucinosis! its when you see/hear/feel/smell things that you know aren't there and know aren't real.
Ive had that happen to me 2 days ago. But the thing though is i've had problems with things like this ever since i was 7.
I love him talking about all mental illnesses without this 'excitement' we often see as if people are diggining into this mystical topic and those with mental illnesses are deeply interesting circus acts.
Superb observation.
I agree with you, however as someone mentally ill, has experienced a form of psychosis, a n d wants to be a psychologist, I would say that when a psychologist is excited it is not because they are viewing someone mentally ill as a circus attraction, it is because they are passionate about the science and helping. They are, if anything, the most desensitized.
Or... it's not actually about you and the "excitement" that the person talking shows is simply their passion for learning and the topic itself.
Is TikTok, on TikTok and even youtube some people get obsessive to point out mental illness on others orn even themselves.
Last year I was working three jobs for a while, and for a few weeks I worked 7 days a week for more than 15 hours a day. at one point I felt like I was so sleep deprived I was feeling weird. I saw things without necessarily seeing it, it was more in a sense of feeling something was there. a really trippy feeling that i dont wanna experience again
That's why meth heads act so insane. They are so sleep deprived that reality just doesn't really factor in anymore
He's like a mix between Matt Smith and Henry Cavill!
Holy crap you’re SO right!! Now I’ll never be able to unsee it 😂
I think he looks like a more grown up version of Tom Holland plus a bit of Matt Smith!
He is painfully hot!
Right... So handsome
More like if Squidward was daddy.
"They're not gonna gather captives for another one of the personalities." That line had me in tears! 😂
Yeah, you kinda don't see that until he says it. He's interesting.
@@nobodysbaby5048 He sure is, I like him a lot.
Btw, I can't believe Me Myself and Irene isn't in the video. lol
With the sleep deprivation: I used to stay up for 30-72 hours at a time. There was a point once when I was writing a paper, and even though my hands were moving and I was writing just fine, I was hallucinating waves and scenes on the paper and hearing voices. Essentially, I was dreaming with my eyes open, while still conscious. One of the strangest experiences of my life, but when you haven’t had sleep you don’t really get surprised or weirded out so I kinda just went with it.
It feels very calming how a professional psychiatrist doesn't just rule this or that, but explain that there's almost unlimited reasons for what's happening and that there's just not enough information, that it would require further inspection to decide on anything. I'd feel good being diagnosed and helped by him for sure. Just with this review he makes it feel very safe and not the least bit judgmental. Other than the fact that he reminds me of the scarecrow. Which is fancy but concerning.
The "looks like scarecrow which is fancy but concerning" made me snort tea out my nose...🤣
Matt Smith's really took his doctor who role very seriously by getting a degree
hahaha
I knew I wasn’t the only one who thought about the Doctor
☺️😅
I honestly think Dr. Bender is hotter than Matt Smith.
He seems to have put on just a tiny bit more muscle too 😂
Love the new glasses Dr. Bender! Excellent analysis of these movies. Makes me want to rewatch them
As someone who’s in his psych rotation in med school, Dr. Bender has been immensely educational and insightful
@Perregrine Perch there are plenty of people in the psych field who don’t even believe dissociative identity disorder really exists. It could be an artifact of misinterpretation of episodes of dissociation, which we’ve all experienced to some degree. One thing that becomes very clear is that the DSM-5 criteria for almost every psychiatric diagnosis leaves more to be desired and are imperfect due to their amount of overlap
"Grabbing a grenade launcher is definitely a sign of aggression"
Well thank you GQ for getting the professional to clear that up for me!
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At that time, I couldn't stop laughing, it was just too much.
'' Well of course it is! If I grabbed a grenade launcher, It would be a great sign that I had suddenly gotten'myself ten times more violent! ''
Glad to see him back, he’s good at explaining stuff
It'd be great if he could cover the cases shown in shows like Criminal Minds and Law & Order; also I really like how much he stresses that people with mental disabilities are not inherently violent/bad
As a psychologist myself, this was a very good explanation. Thank you for representing and qualifying the different manifestations of mental illness - very well. ❤️
The black swan mirror thing is what I'm experiencing when I dissociate. I can make whatever faces in front of a mirror, but my reflection is just staring at me with a hint of anger. I know that it's not the case, but my brain pushes this image in front of the actual image I'm seeing. That's why I actively avoid any reflecting surfaces when I'm in an episode.
Sounds like you’re hallucinating
He is a great doctor and he even looks like The Doctor. The 11th one, to be precise. Thanks for sharing your expertise, Doctor!
He kinda does look a little like Matt Smith, yeah.
@@ArgyleDinosaur it was the first thing I noticed and after watching the video I feel very bad about it because he's clearly very good at his profession but I couldn't help noticing.
@@JKPippa was gonna say the same. he's probably heard it before
YESSS, I was waiting for someone to point it out!
Omg haha can’t unsee it now!
Really great to see Dr. Bender show up again! He's great at articulating what he's saying in a way the public can understand easily and he's also got a voice that's calming to listen to. I hope he comes on more!
As somebody who has experienced extreme sleep deprivation for training purposes in the military, I can attest to the hallucinations.
I can easily see if being used as a form of torture.
He is so charismatic.
He reminds me a little bit of scarecrow in batman begins. But without the insanity
Problem with the Shutter Island analysis, is that when he goes into a dissociative state makes knowing that he was aware of his actions at the time of killing his wife impossible to know. Its not like there is a witness to what happened, and if his state is completely unaware of the crime there is no way to come to that conclusion.
They did say in the movie they had a breakthrough with him 9 months prior so maybe then he told them
@@milan2499 no psychiatrist would be able to truly confirm what was the truth and what he believed to be the truth was though.
@@imconfuseded Forensic science and a good detective can. If you are alluding he killed his kids and wife I think you need to rewatch the movie again.
I'm confused by this comment as it is very clearly shown and stated in the movie that he knew what he was doing when he killed her. That's really not a point of contention in the movie.
@@TheHeadincharge They're referring to the idea that in character they might not be able to reasonably come to the conclusion that he was aware. If he really did have a complete dissociative episode and was just not *there* afterward when the police arrived, it's totally understandable that they (The Police and courts) might come to that conclusion that he wasn't aware because, as far as they could tell, he wasn't.
It wouldn't have been until he came back to himself that the truth would've come out. At which point... he probably would've been sent to a more typical prison, or the case re-evaluated entirely with the new information.
I definitely would love to have you do an in depth explanation of D.I.D. You explain things pretty dang well and you touched on that a lot here in this video.
4:55 He was actually snorting powdered milk on set. He’s said his nose has never been the same ever since. Lesson: Don’t snort anything.
You can numb it with cocaine and ketamine
@@dareal5401 lmao i applause
Everything in moderation.
especially cocaine, because it causes erectile dysfunction
Man I wish I had a psychiatrist like this, just understanding and nonjudgmental and compassionate and informed.
I have been mentally ill a long time but it was an intense bout of chronic insomnia where I didn’t sleep for a week and then was hospitalized that got me a proper diagnose. I have DID and CPTSD
Dr Bender, you are the best guest on the breakdown and I'm glad they keep getting you in. I very much hope that they keep getting you back in for more movies and perhaps some games as well!
This is incredibly interesting! I could watch this man talk about movies and mental illnesses for hours
As someone living with chronic pain I can attest it can and most likely will affect cognitive and emotional skill in long term, there was a period I was set in my mind that ending my own life was the only solution. I methodically started planning the different methods that was least damaging to my body as I still wanted to donate my organs etc, I informed my loved ones and family in a very emotionally deprived and logical way of my decision to give them time to say their good byes etc.
Looking back at it I realize how frightening it really was, at that time I already felt dead inside and it was only my physical flesh remaining, I've gone to therapy and rehabilitation and found a way of not living with my pain yet but at least surviving.
At that time I wasn't medicated so I could hardly sleep because of nerve pain, my view of the world became distorted due to me alienating myself because I believed no one wanted to help me.
Please know how devestating it can be, but with the right medications and physical therapy life can seem livable again, mental health issues doesn't just happen to certain people it can and most likely will happen to many in different variations and caused by different things.
Sleep deprivation was the biggest trip I’ve ever had. Not LSD, shrooms, powder, etc. One and-a-half week without sleep or food made me trip harder than I ever experienced. Complete out-of-body.
Same.
Our souls travel during sleep
I have insomnia and after 4-5 days without sleep, I have to take a decent amount of medication because if I don't, I know what will happen and it's terrifying. I too experienced with theses drugs and it's nothing like sleep deprivation. I don't take anything to help me sleep after only 2-3 days even if I'm tired because I don't like the side effects but after 4 days I definitely have to.
When ancient shamans would do vision quests they would often use sleep depravation to get into the right mental state
I admire Dr Bender for not only making these videos somewhat entertaining but also very educational yet not over complicated. Great job.
Doc straight up dropped a Chappelle’s Show reference without missing a beat. And used ‘malingering’ enough that I felt like I was back at boot camp 😂 Well played, sir
“Grabbing a grenade launcher is a sign of aggression” I concur Dr.
It would be really cool to see him take a look and hear his insights towards some David Lynch films, namely Mulholland Drive or Lost Highway. Also, the villainous characters in Michael Haneke's Funny Games, the original rather than the remake.
Didn’t know Matt Smith’s version the doctor was a psychiatrist. I guess it makes some sense.
Exactly what i was thinking!!!
When I moved out with my son on my own for the first time, I was working so much just to cover child care and rent, that I was lacking sleep for around a week and a half. Like falling asleep standing up, tired. I went to the kitchen and put the dishes in the dishwasher, and went to try and sleep while my parents had my son for a couple hours, and I smelled something on fire, I had hallucinated putting dishes in the dishwasher and I had actually put them in the oven. My parents ended up taking a lot of the child care hours until I got one good job instead of 2 crappy ones.. That was 5 years ago, and my son and I just moved into a bigger 3 bedroom, and I've since taken a promotion. But I've never let that day escape my mind, I could have burned the entire building down.
I think the black swan scene signifies depersonalization or dissociation she sees herself outside of herself, outside of her body.
Thank youuuuuuu for mention the over-emphasis on violence and mental illness. It's so frustrating that people seem to think mental illness = violent criminal
really happy the psychiatrist was asked about Oldboy, that film is such a gem
Watched every one of this guys breakdowns. More content like this please.
Awesome video! Love the breakdown of the scenes. A good case of DID is present in the Moon Knight comics along with the TV Series. Oscar Isaac did an amazing job portraying this illness.
Him and the hot mortician guy need to do collab together on youtube. I can listen and watch them talk about that kind of stuff forever
When I was about 20 I did an experiment of my own with sleep deprivation. I went 72 hours without sleep. I worked a night shift cleaning a children's fun center at the time so I could easily conduct this experiment. At 72 hours without sleep I began to have the auditory and visual hallucinations. For me, it was a growling, teeth-bared with spittle pouring, Doberman Pincher that would appear out of the corner of my vision. Obviously this would cause my head to snap around to look at this threat, and of course when I did the doberman would disappear. That was the close of the experiment for me - just wanted to see what would happen. Information received. Thanks - no need to repeat.
Gotta say, the distortion in the mirror could also be caused in real life if someone just focuses intensely in their own stare in a mirror -- I forgot the specifics, but apparently it's near-impossible for your eyes to truly focus correctly while staring in a mirror, it needs a spot it can focus on so that your vision doesn't become corrupted (same reason why when you look your vision droops down slowly-- your eye has to have some motion or else it can't perceive light, you'd be blind.
Back when I was 19 I had this tall mirror in my apartment and one day I decided to sit and stare into it and not blink at all.
y'know that scene in that hannibal tv show where that dude sees himself in a mirror and it's all twisted and scary? It was kinda like that. I vividly remember my left eye that was now on my neck, and my lips in the reflection suddenly moving on their own despite me not saying anything, and then I saw my eyes blinked and I freaked out and snapped out of it. No wonder there's so many myths and superstitions about mirrors.
Dr. Bender is rocking those hexagon glasses..
As a mentally I’ll person who is very frustrated with how my diagnosis is depicted in film watching you break these down and explain the parts they got right as well as the parts that aren’t so accurate I just feel so seen I just finished the video where you talked about silver linings playbook and what a manic espouse looks like as well as how they feel I feel very seen and very much less of a freak I have really severe bipolar symptoms and my mania last long periods and I don’t sleep for days at a time and I’m like physically exhausted but I have this compulsion to keep going keep moving keep doing whatever my current obsession is and it’s frustrating then I sleep for days when I come down and it’s ruined my career I can’t even get jobs I’m qualified for anymore and medicine isn’t terribly helpful for me I’m going in for ECT therapy soon so I’m hoping it provides some relief
I hope you find some answers and relief soon. I'm rooting for you ♥
That voice is so calming and re-assuring I might actually begin to love myself if that was my therapist.
I'd love to see this guy analyze The Ward (2010) and its take on DID, seeing as it's secretly about therapy forcing someone to create one last alter to aid in integrating the personalities and bring back the "ghost" of the original host personality, one that had been buried under the other alters for years due to trauma.
The show Mr. Robot (2015-19) is the most compassionate and nuanced depiction of DID in media I’ve ever seen. My favorite show of all time.
I clicked on this video because I have experienced psychosis in the past. I thought it might be triggering, but his clinical analysis of these scenes actually made me understand my own psychosis better.
I have never been violent during a psychotic episode, and I love that he puts such an emphasis on the fact that psychotic people are not violent by nature. My episodes were often delusions of grandeur, which frightened me. When you think the universe is speaking to you through overheard conversations, it’s scary. Psychotic people are often *scared,* not violent.
Sleep deprivation is no joke! My second year of college I was working two jobs and going to school full time and I was lucky if I got 5 hours sleep a night and I had no emotional regulation for about 3 months until I got "used to it" 😓
Fightclub is one of my favorite movies so learning the mental ideology behind fightclub and how it’s pretty accurate with the realities of sleep deprivation is amazing 💜
Hey lol
Back when I used to have Insomnia and would be awake for several days and there were a few times where I'd see things usually bugs crawling on me that weren't really there. It freaked me out a lot because it was so sudden.
@@Werewolf914 How did you cure Insomnia? Most people have it for decades.
That was very informative in an easy-to-understand format. Thank you.
Love when you have Dr. Bender here for breakdowns!!!
Drunk 🤖?
Please GQ, please keep bringing him back!
I've been in therapy for 2 years now and I have the feeling I've spent at least half of it talking about my sleep quality and trying to find out solutions and balance to it with my psychiatrist.
And I can see now that most people I know are dealing with sleeping issues.
I thought the acting by James McAvoy was stunningly brilliant and, although obviously highly dramatized, made the movie believable and let the audience stay connected instead of just seeing it as an absurd Hollywood plot.
Same even if it’s not accurate for DID I thought his acting was absolutely brilliant
Now, if only the script had been a more realistic one...
He really nails the „hey, did you know I‘m a psychiatrist?“ look with those glasses
I appreciate that this guy has actually seen these movies before doing the breakdown. Sometimes during these breakdowns they're watching a scene for the first time.
I've had Schizophrenia since childhood and it's really annoying how movies make us seem like we're just some bloodthirsty monsters who roam around and kill people.
Edit: Turns out that I was misdiagnosed all those years but I still believe that it's a misunderstood disorder.
Reminded me of talking to this man with schizophrenia whome the entire neighborhood used to avoid. He was such a sweet man and I felt extremely sorry for how people viewed him. We became friends but I moved out after a while and couldnt find him anymore😢
@@justkamola awwww this is truly sad! Well, can't say that ppl weren't afraid of me too.. it's quite sad bc most of these stereotypes about us were made by the filming industry for the funs and chills and then we pay the price of having this illness. You truly are a good person! I may not be that man but still ty
Yeah seriously. And they also misunderstand how our psychosis works. Have you planned Hellblade:Senua’s sacrifice? It’s a very extreme depiction of physchosis, but the auditory hallucinations are really well designed imho.
Media does that because schizophrenia is a scary diagnosis, but really more for the person experiencing it
@@bwal9374 Oh yeah. They think that psychosis = not having a mind anymore when in reality your sense of reality would be highly impaired but is still there.
They put a person in an extremely wierd costume and tell them to repeat the same phrases over and over and voila! You got yourself the schizophrenic character, that's when they choose to make it seem not so violent and let's not even talk about the "violent schizophrenic" in every horror movie here lol xD
And yeah I played it since I'm a gamer and I think that they did really well when it came to the auditory hallucinations. I liked how they did some research about this disorder instead of brainstorming the character.
One of my worst fears is developing a dissociative state where I couldn't be sure which of my memories are actually real or how I got into some situation.